clothes you will ALWAYS regret buying

[@christinamann3640]

One of my biggest problems with clothes shopping is buying for the life that I want rather than the life that I have

[@silvsin_66]

how poetic

[@christinamann3640]

@@silvsin_66 more like wishful thinking

[@MarlenaTheFae]

Same. But I also think balance is important. If I only shopped for the life I realistically have I'd only have loungewear and pajamas (as a chronically ill full time Mother). It would be incredibly depressing and it would make me feel like I gave up. I think *some* things for the fantasy self are okay and might even inspire us to live that life.

[@Aysha3848]

Fantasy self!

[@christinamann3640]

@@Aysha3848 but I’m a hippie forest witch on the inside 😁

[@aimeejo1366]

There is a big difference between being negative and being realistic. If you’re not going to wear it and love it, it’s not a good purchase. I love seeing so many creators lately stepping back and asking themselves questions about their shopping habits, their personal style, and what truly works for them! I’m trying to do the same in my own life.

[@ah57588]

I feel like this type of criticalness is actually pretty positive tbh. It makes wearing clothes day to day from one's own closet much easier. I'd rather open my closet to stuff that aligns with my life and makes me feel like the best version of me, than a closet that makes me think I'm not good enough to be comfy and cute for my daily life

[@sarahkinsey5434]

I want to be a person who decorates for holidays and seasons, but that's stuff in the house that has to be stored somewhere

[@clockworkshadows3226]

Just thinking out loud - I reckon an 'unworn dress party' would be a really fun occasion. You invite all your friends, have a party or picnic and everyone wears pieces in their wardrobe that need a debut. I'd love to do this myself.

[@alexasunshine83]

I love that idea!!

[@zh3294]

😂😂 ahah sounds fun

[@ST-vt4nu]

Ooh and I can totally see it that you help each other out by giving styling ideas to make it more wearable every day and you might just walk away with an dress you'll actually wear. Or maybe you end up giving it to someone else who would fs wear it.

[@kittikovacs9093]

We actually did this last year with two of my friends for New Years Eve. We just had a "party" at home; we dressed up pretty and danced to Abba. We all wore dresses we could not wear anywhere else.

[@xchanchanx]

Invite me please :)

[@TROQUE4]

The gentle cycle of the washing machine works most of the time. If my thrifted items don't survive the machine, they were not worthy

[@BooksMusicMe17]

This 100%. Trial by washing machine on whether a garments makes it into my wardrobe. Just be aware of the detergent type you're using - i.e. no bio detergent for silk or wool.

[@lishanimations9852]

​@@BooksMusicMe17what should you use instead for silk and wool?

[@BooksMusicMe17]

@@lishanimations9852 There is special "silk and wool" detergent but soap or non bio detergent could be OK in a pinch. "Biological" detergents contain enzymes that help get out tough stains like blood and food by breaking up proteins, but silk and wool are protein fibres so they can also be damaged by them.

[@lishanimations9852]

@@BooksMusicMe17 oh wow i did not know there was even specific detergent for those! I will have to try to find some! Tack!

[@strudelsstrudel]

also: I think all machines I’ve seen in my life had a handwash and/or wool cycle. These should be safe for most things when using the right detergent

[@sofiarchive]

For me, it’s pants or jackets without pockets. I always end up regretting buying them.

[@karengrohs4942]

me too - and dresses without pockets

[@le4905]

​@@karengrohs4942Do people actually put things in their pockets when wearing a dress?! I never can because it weighs down the dress and pulls. I mean, I love pockets too but never actually use them 😅

[@sofiarchive]

@@karengrohs4942 everything should have pockets tbh !!

[@Petsmenagerie]

I don’t understand women’s obsession with pockets.

[@viriatothelusitani1203]

I struggle so much with buying pants

[@lucilasandoval3084]

i think being picky is good! You don't over consume when you are picky and have clarity of what works for your life. So be picky!

[@thingamabobgk2946]

Hi Alexa! I have a lot of family and friends who work for/own dry cleaning businesses and a big thing people don’t know is that almost everything that says “dry clean only” can be washed in a washing machine. Obviously don’t throw a cherished, vintage, lace doily crafted by your grandmother in there or an intricately beaded and fringed gown, but everything else, barring leather (which should almost always go to the leather cleaners) can be washed in a washing machine on a gentle cycle if needed.

[@lilacocean4137]

that's great to know! thank you for sharing this info!!

[@MLiesel]

There’s a really cool book that, among other things, addresses how to wash “dry clean only” and “hand wash”items in the washing machine. It’s called Laundry Love, by Patric Richardson, and I’m glad I read it because it allows me to keep and wear items I love without them piling up and waiting for ages for me to get around to cleaning them according to the tag instructions!

[@DANIxDANGER]

Yup! I just commented that i wash a lot of my dry clean items 😅 wool i just handwash/delicate cycle wash and towel dry/roll out the excess water and reshape. Super easy to learn which items can be washed by the content of the material on the tag

[@alexkass5548]

Except cashmere the washer will ruin that completely. Only have to learn that lesson once.

[@caitlinhutcheon4213]

@@MLieselyes came here to say that!! Love that book

[@littlecenoura]

I live in Brazil but I love dark academia, leather, wool, turtle neck, long sleeved dark clothing…but now I’ve figured out that this is not possible 99% of the time where I live and I stopped buying it, it’s a waste of money and space even when it’s thrifted

[@amandabbentes]

sinto sua dor kkk

[@joybartleyy]

I’m Panamanian and it’s the same for me, I used to buy clothes that were more for fall and cold weather, and here in Panama we don’t even have fall, we live in an endless summer.

[@Fachhhi]

Girl, Argentine neighbour here and i FEEL you

[@kaatyblue]

é foda kkkk

[@freiheitanne]

Eu tenho um sobretudo a uns 7 anos que eu nunca usei, já me conformei que só vou usar quando for viajar para o exterior

[@StephanieCeleste]

For me, it’s pieces I can only imagine styling 1 way! My fatal flaw is hating being an outfit repeater (bc I love to be creative & try to wear my pieces in diff ways) so, if I can only see 1 potential outfit for it, it’s a no-go!

[@hollyblair5778]

yes! I've made a rule for myself that I have to be able to pair something I want to buy with minimum three things in my wardrobe already.

[@kirbthebean]

@@hollyblair5778 Same! If I can only wear something one way with very few creative options, I usually put it back and try to find something I really LOVE that could be paired with a variety of styles

[@melodymay4888]

even as someone who loves wearing the same outfits over and over again, if i can only find one way to style a piece or only with one other item in my closet then it’s a no go.

[@ester1382]

Aso sometimes the outfit you imagined doesn't turn out like you wanted

[@kirbthebean]

@@ester1382 that’s the worst! When you imagine something super cute and it doesn’t execute as nicely

[@ritalynb7070]

For "dryclean only" I get the Woolite drycleaning sheets. For hand wash, I put in a fabric bag and wash on delicate. I then reshape and lay flat to dry. I've never ruined an item this way.

[@genetem]

Yes, this is the way to go

[@sapphire.skeletons5016]

i succumb a lot to buying clothes for the style i wish i had instead of the style i have. like i love frilly cottagecore dresses and skirts but i never wear those so i stopped buying them. being honest to yourself helps your closet and your wallet!

[@dragoncat3499]

This is so relatable, because I love goth fashion and darker styles, but half the time I don't have the energy to put on all of those layers and do my makeup in that elaborate style. I can't wear half of it anyways because my job has a strict dress code.

[@PuripuriDrawings]

Some days ago I read a cool tip for those situations: have you tried making a progressive change of style, instead of "from A to B"? If you love frills and skirts but in reality you just wear (for example) t-shirts and jeans, maybe it could work if you start dressing cottage-ish t-shirts, then adding denim or casual skirts, and so on until the final goal 😊

[@denb7150]

With dry clean/hand wash only items that aren’t rayon or leather I just put them in a washing bag and wash on gentle. I’ve never had any issues because the washing bag prevents it from creating too much friction. Don’t put them in the dryer though.

[@ritalynb7070]

Exactly what I do.....

[@karengrohs4942]

me too

[@veronicasmith2612]

3rded! I do this with wool, cashmere and silk and it works great. Then lay flat to dry

[@math1937]

⁠@@veronicasmith2612wait that works with wool?? I’ve got two wool turtlenecks I’ve been avoiding wearing because I don’t want to deal with handwashing them, but if I can just throw them in a bag in the washer then this is a game changer

[@veronicasmith2612]

@@math1937 Yes! I'd try washing one inside out in cold water in a fabric bag to start. If you put it in the dryer with heat it will shrink. After washing, I always lay flat to dry and stretch gently as needed to preserve the shape of the sweater, then flip after a few hours to dry both sides.

[@ArtichokeHunter]

That's funny, linen is one of my favorite fabrics. Ruling out linen does seem like it would make it a lot harder to avoid synthetics too. Linen is so comfy and breathable.

[@cassandrak9890]

Looooveeeee linen

[@dmreddragon6]

As a linen lover, do you do anything to help it not get the creases, or wrinkles? I love the comfort/breathability factor, but not how it looks after wearing it a few minutes.

[@ArtichokeHunter]

@@dmreddragon6 honestly I've rarely noticed, I can't see it once i leave the house and no one acts like anything is wrong. You can prob hang and steam out creases

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

If your thighs chafe linen is not the way to go! Shirts are are ok though

[@ArtichokeHunter]

@@Acehigh-Jenkins I do have mostly shirts and dresses but some linen cotton blend pants, loose fit, never uncomfortable with chafing imo (I think I've had pure linen too but all secondhand so maybe you need to wear them in?)

[@jessv4300]

Fabric composition is my biggest one!! All I wear in winter is big sweaters so I’m always searching for more, but even “nicer” brands have stopped making 100% cotton knits🥲 if it’s any other material I just know it’s going to get crazy pilly after a couple of washes. I DID score the other day at a yard sale which happened to be a reseller trying to clear stock, so I got 3 incredible baggy cotton sweaters for $15- I honestly wish I got a few more!

[@kirbthebean]

That sounds wonderful! We have harsh winters where I live and I love my warm sweaters. Yard sales are great places to find treasures!

[@PoisonPearHFX]

Grab a fabric depiller, it'll shave them off

[@elizabethharalson7903]

I'll only buy % cotton sweaters and most other garments.

[@kakis3637]

Yes, its so hard to find sweaters that are not blended with plastic or altogether plastic, hate it, no to mention the quality is rly bad for some of them

[@char1211]

I would really recommend buying woolen sweaters as well! In my experience they're easier to find and unless they get actual stains you don't need to (and shouldn't really) wash them with water, just aired out. If you can, look for merino wool! It's super fine and soft so it might feel more similar to cotton if that's what you like and that specific type of wool is even more resistant to bacteria and therefore smells. I haven't bought any sweaters in ages but when knitting I usually go for 70% wool at the lowest, if it's lower than that I don't think you get to truly reap the benifits of it

[@shellbell8062]

The amount of times I have bought something where the label has said "dry clean only" or "hand wash" and I have ignored it and put it on a delicate cycle in a wash bag - and so far it's never failed.

[@bun__]

honestly ever since I decided to be a picky shopper of clothes I've made zero purchase regrets since then and I think so many people that are consistently online and on social media will benefit being picky in shopping cause it's just a time where being influenced is so impactful to our consumer habits

[@mariasophiafranco9747]

Actually linen blends don't crease as much as 100% linen, a 30% to 70% linen still gives you the natural look with less crease

[@danio.1279]

Maybe you could try to dye the skirt using a light red or a pink,, the gingham won't have white anymore but pink instead and it could be cute! It'd just be a red and pink gingham

[@carissa4551]

i had this same thought!! i dye my clothes sometimes when they’re not the right color

[@Jerry_attrick]

My general rule is looking at the color, pattern, fit, and style. If I don't LOVE every single part of a garment I know I won't pick it over other things in my wardrobe.

[@catis4]

I have 2 vintage coats that are dry clean only and I never dry cleaned them. One is wool and cashmere and I wash it in the washing machine in a gentle cycle, no spin, with cold water and wool detergent, let it air dry and I had no problems with it. Another is a pigskin leather coat and I just cleaned it with a slightly damp cloth with a little bit of detergent and let it air dry and it got cleaned and it doesn't smell or anything. Also I let them air from time to time, so they don't get smelly and I am careful to not get them dirty. Also I wash my handwashing clothing in a gentle cycle with cold water and no spin.

[@eliseg0001]

Omg I need to look into wool detergent! Would love to clean my coats at home

[@closetwitch4723]

cosigning this, and re: gentle cycle--delicates bags keep sweaters from tangling with eachother and stretching out. highly recommend!

[@ivanova1996]

It's so good to try to be more restrictive with what you buy so you don't regret getting something after a short while. I am trying to find my own style and need to be better at being more selective too. There's so much joy in clothes and beautiful patterns, styles and colors, to find them and to wear and style them. Love your videos, hope you're having a super sunny day! :)

[@thevoidfish]

I agree with the one about still having the hole in your heart when you get similar pieces, but I do slightly question the idea that you should get the thing you want all the time. It’s also ok to decide “I love this piece, but I already have enough stuff that I love”. I’m not good at this but trying to learn it!

[@Cubsbane]

Sometimes you just want one specific item, and trying to get "close" just costs you more money and grief. And potentially closet space. Luckily I figured that out with my latest dream piece; it's expensive, but I'd much rather save and get the 1 perfect thing than spend the same amount trying and failing to replicate it. It's "dry clean only" but it'll for sure survive a hand wash, and I don't mind doing that for this one. If you go to the store page every day for over a month to make sure it hasn't sold out, it's true love, I think.

[@bubblebrainbow]

You look incredible in this video, especially your hair! And ignore the comments about being too negative. It's a good thing to understand what doesn't work for you so you have more space for what brings you joy.

[@loriubaterrifictomes218]

Two things that I thought of while watching this video that may help you. I got a cheap handheld steamer on amazon. No longer do I even think about wrinkly materials. It literally takes seconds to make the material look good again. And, secondly Dryel dryer at home dry cleaning bags are amazing. Kits have stuff that works on stains and totally take away and smells and if you hang the items right away no ironing is needed. Just a thought that could help you out. If not, I get it.

[@duchessedeberne3909]

It‘s a good tip to think about the realistic lifestyle everyone has before buying.

[@kikiTHEalien]

11:02 What?! 😮 This yellow skirt must be the most iconic piece in your wardrobe. I literary imagine you wear it in all your videos where we only see your top- it goes so perfect with your style and the colour is absolutely immaculate on you.

[@BrokenDarkFire]

My friend told me “if you don’t 100% love in the store, you’re not gonna love it at home,” and it’s so true! For me, my biggest purchase regrets are the clothes I can’t wear to work - I work in an inside /outside environment, it’s frequently very hot, there is sometimes sweaty manual labor involved, and because of said manual labor, I can’t wear anything too short. And I dress different on the weekends, yes, but not THAT differently, not enough that I need an entirely new wardrobe.

[@tori-pl7jf]

I agree. Reflecting on purchasing and thinking about regretful buys/ shopping habits is important bc we live in such a mindless consumer world. Taking the time to actually think about your regret in hopes not to repeat it is not being picky or negative… I appreciate you talking about this

[@oliviavickers6515]

Alexa!! We recently learned in one of my fashion classes that a lot of times companies put dry clean only because they are lazy and don’t want to actually test if it is safe for machine wash, obviously use discretion (like your example with the leather jacket) but just keep that in mind! ❤

[@ilovenycsomuch]

Good to know, do you think that applies to “hand wash only” too?

[@oliviavickers6515]

@@ilovenycsomuch yes it does lol!

[@roguetaco5487]

I totally agree with your list! Shoes are one thing I don't thrift. Like you said they are hard to buy without trying on. The only thing I'd add (for me) are clothes that are difficult to wear a bra in. I've tried strapless bras and such just to get annoyed and not wear the item. Over the years I'm able to stop a top or dress where I'm like " hmm the girls are going to be poppin out of that" lol and just don't bother with it.

[@abigailconway5635]

same! anything that is backless or needs strapless bras, I'm like nope not happening, its not worth the pain or frustration

[@sunflower9460]

​@@abigailconway5635 yeah I completely agree, I have no idea how people wear backless things tbh, all of the tapes/fancy bras never seem to work very well and are too much effort. I was the same with strapless bras until I found one that fits right and is comfy and I wear it so often (I recommend sizing down+the jump test to make sure it won't fall down)

[@veronicasmemories]

That's so weird someone said that you were being negative? I thought you were being super niche and specific which is awesome to know and look out for when you're out shopping.

[@DebDebbiesWorld]

my rules (that I sometimes forget to follow LOL): no to: itchy/scratchy things, 3/4 length sleeves (I HAVE gotten better about that but sometimes one slips through because I dont notice!), tops with metallic threads (falls into itchy category- they ALWAYS scratch me!), anything close up to my neck, geometric prints (i guess there COULD be exceptions to that, but I have yet to buy one that I actually wore!), a crop style top that I cant try on first (im picky about exactly where it hangs), cheap material (especially things from shein/temu/ no name brands), tops/dresses with metal 'chains' for straps.

[@katiebj180]

With my "hand wash" items, I found this stuff called Soak. It's amazing! You just just soak the item in water with the soap and you don't have to rinse- just squeeze out the water and let it hang dry! It has eliminated the worry for me of ruining something in the wash.

[@wowieitssam9457]

I will continuously buy pastel/white/beige sweaters and t-shirts since they look so cute! I then continuously never wear them since light colors (especially cool-toned ones) absolutely wash me out lol!

[@allison8250]

0:48 yes. This made perfect sense

[@sofiannahounti463]

Actually it didn't

[@bonniewu3437]

Same here! One bad review ruins hundreds of good reviews for me😂 And even for those with all good reviews, sometimes I worry if they just delete all bad reviews 😂

[@lilacunderground]

if you're into diy and want a piece in a darker color, you could dye it yourself with rit dye! it would definitely work for the mary janes

[@ccw2613]

I use dryel the dry clean at home cleaner. It works great. I use it all the time and nothing's been ruined. For hand wash I use the hand wash setting on my washer and Woolite or Dreft detergent. Wash on cold and air dry and it's never ruined any of handwash clothes. Just some options.

[@rattasticDon]

The lifestyle point hurts the most! I'm medium height and I bike almost everyday. I love wearing cargo style pants, but any wide pants get stuck in my bicycle wheels. And they are usually too long for me to wear them with flat shoes, but 8cm high platforms are not exactly best choice for biking!

[@yellowzora]

I wear flared jeans exclusively unless I'm wearing a flared skirt, and I just roll something around my trouser leg to keep them from getting stuck in the chain when cycling. I also cycle daily. But it does depend on your bike and how wide your legs really are, but even with long skirts I've been doing really well (unless they get wet or it's too windy, then they get stuck). It is possible, keep experimenting :)

[@clairemacphee4273]

not me biking in flares and platforms every day lmao

[@RhianArmstrong]

I always put a loose hair tie around my ankle to keep the trousers in while im cycling then take it off when i arrive

[@EllieSmellyIsSmelly]

12:11 you could totally dye them girl, cuz they and white and cotton they would take dye really well!

[@sandral8318]

YES on the linen pieces. I love how they look ironed but they end up in the back of my wardrobe because I’m too lazy to iron them. It’s annoying when you do iron them and two seconds later they’re wrinkled

[@juliab7178]

So I’m realizing that my summer style is very different from my fall/winter/spring. It’s just so hot in the summer that I’m not really concerned about creativity and details. I just want something simple that looks nice and requires little thought because I am hot! 🥵 TLDR. I’m no longer buying summer pieces that are complicated to style

[@madhu7983]

Hahaha I am one of the white linen pant lovers! I mostly sew my clothes and pretty much only get cotton and linen in the summer (I avoid synthetics except for the occasional workout wear). It wrinkles in an instant and I do have to iron everything but it's so breathable and comfy, I don't care if it wrinkles while I'm wearing it.

[@sophiec1348]

Super important video. In the age of fast fashion, people are so quick to buy cheap, low quality, poorly constructed pieces that they’re only going to get a few good wears out of at most. I’ve gotten to the point where I won’t buy anything I don’t know for certain that the quality top notch. Sure, you’ll pay a little (or a lot) more up front but it slows the impulse to just buy without really thinking about it. You’ll get so much more use out of it and love it. Plus, when you’re done with it, it’ll still have decent resell value because it is a good piece that holds up. I’m a Poshmark consignment reseller and I always dread getting a batch of inventory that’s all forever 21 and the like. It’s not worth the effort to sell nor the price on the buyers end because it’s a disposable item not worth owning at all.

[@Verena2022]

BIG hair envy from me today queen!!!! Idk what you changed in your hair routine, but it is WORKING!!!! Also haters are a sign of gaining success 💁‍♀️

[@paulat5921]

I agree with your "must try on shoe before buy".

[@sofiannahounti463]

Nope

[@rebeccacrash9272]

Just came here to say how much you have inspired me to start shopping secondhand online. I used to be an avid thrifter many years ago, but unfortunately where I live now only has one tiny thrift store. I started shopping on Poshmark, Depop, ThredUp and eBay and have gotten some really great deals! My secondhand no no is pants/jeans. I have to be able to try them on.

[@Greta7]

It feels like you took this video out of my own brain!!!! After 10+ years of thrifting, I have begun to realize all these rules to make for myself which seem obvious but really don’t feel like it!!! Probably the biggest one for me is buying something that is ALMOST like the thing I want, but isn’t, because I will still continue to look for the actual thing I want 🤧

[@wisteriadream477]

the hair is so perfect!! 🤍🤍

[@hannekekoolen8243]

For me it's: shoes that aren't comfortabele when I try them on in store (no, I will Not wear them in. That has been an illusion for 30 years). And: pastels, top that are too tight, tops that are too fitted under the arms, synthetic fibre anything.

[@lizzieg4535]

About the handwashing only- most washing machines have a ‘hand wash’ cycle or a gentle cycle at least that works well!

[@sabineweber5092]

I’m absolutely LOVING this hair on you!!!😍 color, cut, bangs, styling, ALL of it!!!

[@jennysegal1211]

would love to see a closet cleanout following these new guidelines!! :)

[@madmouseille]

In regards to shoes you can't try, it helps to ask for the insole size. My feet can fit a wide variety of shoe sizes but their length in cm will always stay the same

[@karengrohs4942]

There is nothing wrong with being picky! I can relate to all of these reasons. I find myself not wearing things that need ironing, even though I love the piece (and it's hard sometimes because I much prefer natural fabrics). I do wash "hand wash only" sweaters in cold and delicate in the machine (lay flat to dry), and they are fine. My biggest regret though was a pair of riding boots. I saw so many pictures of people wearing them and looking fantastic. But I wore them exactly twice. Boots just don't really fit into my life or the climate I live in. I almost bought a pair of booties last year, and I'm glad I didn't now. You hang in there and keep being picky.

[@sarbearr4]

YESS ANYTHING UNCOMFORTABLE IS A NO FOR ME. I have a problem with tight sleeves causing pain in my arm so I will not buy anything on that I cannot move in that I can’t feel comfortable in. I had to put back a really beautiful coat that fit nice because the sleeve was slightly too tight so I left it.

[@virginiakrueger4780]

My biggest regrets are trying to make blazers and and white button down shirts work. I like the look on other people. I hate the look on me. I'm a flowy clothing person, not a structured clothing person. I also regret when I buy something that is borderline to my colors, but isn't really a good color for me. I go to get dressed , put the item on, and take it off again. At this point I know my style, I know my colors, and i like clothes that are fuss free when I wear them.

[@Yurppppppppp]

I own a lot of “hand wash only” pieces and I wash them in the washer with cold water on a gentle cycle in a bag and they are holding up just fine. I do let them air dry though.

[@chicade5449]

I've found that the most common item I regret are items that make me go "I don't know what event I will wear this to but I'll have to make one!" bc the event never arises. I used to have a weak spot for fancy thrifted dresses but I found myself feeling ovedressed and self-concious any time I wore them even to formal-ish events like dinner dates. I'd rather have versitile pieces that can be styled for different occasions rather than ones that I can only wear to a specific event unless I know that I have an event coming up. Being realistic about fit is also important. I recently thrifted a skirt from the kids section that fit fine in the waist but is WAY too short in the back and a pair of pants that feel fine while on but I have to jump to get into ( a problem I don't have with any of my other pants) and I regret both of them.

[@ThuTran-el4hv]

Great vid! Btw, you can totally machine wash dry-clean clothes. I've thrifted a lot of silk and wool, and other dry-clean and hand wash stuffs. I machine wash them all on cold gentle cycle. Especially for the first wash, they usually stink quite a bit and my hand washing just doesn't cut it.

[@catherineveilleux959]

As an avid thrifter myself, YES to everything you said !!! the struggle is real !! Side note, your hair is absolutely gorgeous

[@becca3051]

DRY CLEANING ugh, I am so good about checking the care instructions tags now when thrifting. Also, one of my favorite jokes ever is Mitch Hedberg, "This shirt is dry clean only, which means its dirty." Hahahahah

[@amydelong7972]

I needed this video! I relate to so much. Also, as a Fluevog fan, their sizing is all over the place. Always best to try on first or order from the store so you can return if necessary.

[@liz9657]

I’ve been recently interested in shopping vintage stores where they’ve already curated the offering a lot. I’m happy to pay more than what I’d pay at goodwill in that case because the quality of the garments has been verified and it feels as upscale as shopping at a high end department store, if that makes sense. Looking up fabric composition is huge as well as measurements of garments

[@lemongreed7916]

Linen is one of my favourite material but it's so wrinkly I cry every time I want to wear my linen skirt or pants :( And you can't iron it, wear one day and put on the next day, you need to iron it again because from just one wear it looks bad

[@Lauren_aida]

For me, I have to stop myself from buying clothing for trips that I haven't actually planned. A top that would be perfect for a Maasai Mara safari, a dress that would be perfect for the Amalfi coast, all places that I certainly would love to go but in reality will not be going any time soon 😅

[@thescenesociety]

I learned to say that I’m “particular” in what I choose because that’s what it is in the true essence ✨🥰

[@ritalynb7070]

I find that, for clothes & shoes, I Have to be able to try them on before buying because no size fits me consistently - even within the same label. So I never buy clothes or shoes online .....

[@Acehigh-Jenkins]

This! Every ones on vinted or depop and I’m just like nope. Cant get a bunch of stuff I’m just gonna have to try and resell or eat the loss and donate. Physical charity (thrift) shops all the way!

[@Kornkitt3n]

Mine is polyester anything😫 I ALWAYS regret it

[@erinnadia0409]

I hate polyester too

[@caroline-gx5cs]

the aspirational picnic outfits always get me... I've found that items I've bought because I like how they look for those ideal scenarios that never happen, and I therefore never wear, stepping out of that zone of "I can only wear this for the scenarios I envisioned" and instead I get more creative with my day to day outfits to incorporate them, the more use and satisfaction I receive out of them.

[@re-wear-itboutique173]

This! Things I don’t put on and say I love this so much! Things that feel bad on, and clothes I have no occasion to wear or aren’t “me”.

[@livvylovem]

Your hair looks INCREDIBLE!!

[@RoxzRay]

Omg I feel you so much on the colour thing, sometimes I find things I would love if it was a colour I like, but it'll be navy, dark purple etc, colours that I don't like, and that don't do much for my complexion/hair etc ... but it'll be so cool that I'll get it anyway, only to never wear it and throw it in the sell pile a year later. I really try not to do this anymore.

[@coreym0]

There's a chain called the Cleaning Club and they charge $4/ per item to dry clean so that's where I take my blazers. Maybe there's one near you if you need anything dry cleaned. They also almost always have it ready the next day as well.

[@juliadastra]

the shoes point you make is SO REAL. like you, I read reviews for these DM Mary Janes and everyone said they ran small, so I bought a half size up and they were way too big for me!!! thankfully i could return them. but i've had the same thing with depop - hoping the shoes will fit, "I'll just get an insole" "I'll wear my thick socks" NO I WON'T - if it doesn't fit right, I now know I will never wear them. thank you for this reminder as I really needed to hear it!! new to your channel and love your vibe :)

[@soulsworn13]

I have to try on everything I buy. If I'm even slightly uncomfortable or unsure in the change room, then I'm for sure never going to make it out of the bedroom in it. But if i try something on and I don't want to take it off, that's always a good sign. I also have to be able to visualise at least three different outfits from stuff at home with it.

[@stylecauldron]

Giiirl, see if there is a hand wash or gentle cycle on the washer you use if you have one. Also you can dye your clothes and make use of the pieces you can’t let go of. I did this when I discovered my color season

[@memorydocumentation5942]

10:23 that is so real. i’ve done it so many times where the colour is wrong but everything else is right but i don’t wear it because of the colour ☹️

[@yellowzora]

My list looks pretty similar to yours! I have bought some clothes were I was not excited about the colour, but I either just put up with it or I have gone and dyed them, which is pretty cool. Working out rules for you own shopping habits is so amazing, because you can just refuse everything that falls outside! It's soooo freeing! Obviously harder to find something to buy, but at least we'll actually end up wearing those pieces. I buy nothing that can't be washed in a washing machine either, and with lots of stuff I just chuck it in and hope for the best. Lovely video, thanks for sharing :)

[@heididepotter8136]

It all makes perfect scence It s good to be picky/mindfull before buying. Love, always X

[@cristicruz2938]

Love this list! I'd add buying bc of a certain brand. For me specifically Madewell or Free People. I have at least 2 pieces off the top of my head that I bought bc of the tag. I was like omg I can't believe I found this, it's obviously good quality, can't wait to wear it yada yada. Not gonna wear them. I did also recently Thrift a gorgeous wrap dress even though I hate wrap dresses and don't wear them. But like you said about pinterest girlies, I want to be that person in my mind who wears the wrap dress. I'll give myself some grace and time to see if maybe I do wear it, but I'm honestly probably not that person lol.

[@le4905]

I find so many Madewell and Free People pieces at the thrift and have bought them just for the label as well 😬 I've come to realize I don't really like those brands either. Madewell isn't my style and FP runs on the bigger side so I have a bunch of clothes that don't even fit! Ridiculous.

[@faeriesmak]

Madewell, Free People, J Crew and some Anthropologie tags get me too!

[@le4905]

@@faeriesmak oh yeahhhh, Anthropologie! Eep.

[@giannahayes6721]

tbh the handwashing and dry cleaning stuff i usually just put in the washer on delicate setting and then let it air dry. ive not really had issues with that usually. but i agree i tend not to buy it if i have to think about washing it specially lol.

[@DreamingOfStars02]

The point made about shoes is SO important. If you can’t return them or try them on beforehand, don’t buy them. I have narrow feet, so even if something is ‘my size’ they can feel baggy or slip off my heels when walking, id rather be pickier with shoes than get blisters from something that’s ill fitting.

[@savannahhoward6172]

Love your hair this way! Also I like your videos ranting about stuff like this! It makes all of us think about being more thoughtful shoppers!

[@carissa4551]

about color: sometimes using fabric dye can work!! i did it with a shirt and with a dress and i wear both way more now!

[@daniellekirsch5402]

Its good to be picky! Im also that friend. I come home empty handed often and, if im with someone, theyll ask "youre not buying annnything?! You made the trip here, you should make it worth while" etc, etc. I enjoy the thrill of the hunt haha. i dont have to buy something if i didnt love anything, and i dont get upset about it.

[@taewae]

so glad i found this video, i keep buying things that were a great deal but don't fit me quite the way i want... and one of my main gripes about my current closet is that a lot of my stuff isn't an ideal fit or color. it sucks cuz i want to keep thrifting and it's hard to pass up on those not-so-perfect finds cuz you think it might be your only chance to snag them lol

[@AussieERS]

I put most "hand wash" or "dry clean" only items in my washing machine on a gentle cycle and they come out perfect

[@dledee]

okay but like I used to be like that about linen and now I've discovered it's a great fabric for summer and if it's a bit thicker it will not be as shocking with the wrinkles so I'm embracing it

[@caitlinc-r2957]

A recent thing for me is having bought something online, discovering it kind of fitted and deciding it isn't worth the hassle of returning it to see if the size up/down fits better. Or, even worse, buying something that fits and then it shrinks in the first wash to its real size. I have fully wasted money keeping something that kind of fits and then months later realising that I never wear it because I don't like how it feels/ looks and just buying the same exact item in the correct size.

[@hcf4kd1992]

I've never hand washed or dry cleaned a thing that asked for it. Nothing has fallen apart on my gentle cycle

[@lisadrijver]

I always end up buying something that Almost has the correct fit, with the intention of altering it so it's perfect. The pieces that I really want are often way too expensive and the stuff I buy instead is affordable vintage with the same material, color, general vibe. It has worked out beautifully a few times, but I don't sit down to sew often enough.. I have such a huge pile 💀

[@magargz]

One thing that I have learned it's to not buy uncomfortable clothes, especially if its itchy or tight, if I can't lift my arms (I know we are not raising our arms all the time but still). I like to look cool but if I'm not comfortable I will not portray any coolness haha. One problem I tend to have is that I feel like my arms are quite long compared to my torso, many top pieces in my size tend to be short on the arms. And then the washing and ironing it's a whole thing apart, I have a linen top that wrinkles just by looking at it.

[@taylahallen8696]

That skirt colour is perfect though I’d die to find that 😭 and the flat feet is so relatable. I swear every pair of shoes I find have at least a small heel and every time I regret buying them.

[@Cerise_Reid]

Linnen does wrinkel a lot, especially if you put it in a dryer. If you hate ironing (or don't have the time) you can try line drying it, then it often has way less wrinkels, and with thicker linnen pieces sometimes even almost none.

[@maple4633]

I've found I sometimes buy pieces to 'layer' that arent necessarily great on their own... but I need to stop because I will spend way more time wearing a nice t-shirt and a well-made jacket than some crazy Pinterest fit! and I can still layer stuff that looks good on its own!

[@squattycoati931]

The similar not exact thoughts were such a good reminder! I feel like I’m always doing that at the thrift store

[@marikkelaszlo3355]

2:31 Reality check for myself, stop spending on clothes just cause you wanna look like your favorite character!! ;-; I just realized I go through so many pinterest phases, I'm primarily Blair Waldorf and Andy from the devil wears prada but I had days where I wanted to dress like Nancy from the craft and now I wanna dress like kate moss lol

[@RachelJennetti]

This year i’ve decided to only make my sweaters. Unless someone buys me a sweater i’m going to only try to make them because 1- i can and 2- they’ll be perfectly tailored to me, in the colors i want, and in higher quality materials