Life Lessons I Learned

[@hol8642]

You know that feeling when you’re facing immense personal struggle but you gotta keep showing up to the office? When all you want is for everyone to leave you alone to get the job done? This is Jenn’s full-time job. The most supportive thing you can do if you think she’s going through something is to give her space to do what she needs to do to pay the bills and trust that she’ll bounce back with support, space and time. If you choose to engage in someone’s real life you can’t expect to tune in each week like it’s a soap opera.

You couldn't have said it any better

[@hol8642]

@ 🥺 wow small world, I love your channel! Been watching for years!

[@user-qu8zs7vs1x]

I mean she's deleting any and all comments asking where the husband she regularly featured in her videos is. She focused so much on their relationship on her channel and now y'all are asking for privacy? people are free to ask her where he's at and why she's doing all these solo trips without her kid and husband

[@stien8810]

@@user-qu8zs7vs1x ppl are free to do that, but its just called basic decency to be thoughtful and caring...if you really want to fight that. you should take inventory of why ud rather put more energy into creating more potential for hurt than care for others.

[@diamcole]

@@user-qu8zs7vs1x You're technically free to do whatever you'd like but honestly, tact and grace never hurt - especially if suspicions prove to be correct. It's tacky to poke at someone.

[@leilanimegumi]

Imagine if she is going through a separation or divorce, imagining being hounded to talk about it while you emotionally are dealing with it. But also Jenn is so thoughtful and mindful that I would think she’s hesitant to post anything about it because one day Lennon could see these videos. That’s not healthy for him to be online all the time and to have the deepest potentially painful moments online forever to be talked about. Talk with grace, no matter how long of a subscriber or follower will you ever have ownership to know anything about her life.

[@tiffanysokica4438]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤

[@madisontylerthomas]

The amount of imagined entitlement people think they have on social media figures is mind blowing. This weirdly territorial energy is so sad. Live and let live!!

[@Piggypigg]

It’s weird how people of the public eye address these matters. Isn’t honesty so much easier? Not needing a whole tea spill asap now run down, but like viewers are humans too, that spend their time consuming your content. It’s seems no one has any regards for people anymore especially on the internet. It’s a weird weird time we live in

[@LifebyJazzieey]

I was so unaware that she was even getting divorced… I wish nothing but the best for Jenn 🩷💕

[@BigbangVenezuela2]

Wait is this true?

[@jewels5614]

I don’t normally comment on videos but I’ve been watching your videos since high school. I’m now turning 27 this year and I can’t help but think that I’ve grown up with you as well. Now that I think about it I think your videos also inspired me to move to LA when I did in the pandemic. Have been acquiring and learning skills watching your videos ever since HS. You should consider starting a podcast! Feels like we all evolve together 🤜🤛🩵

[@MsZhanny]

I think you should do a podcast… I love the videos where you just share your thoughts and experiences… you are so good at it!!! You don’t even have to be extra and create super fancy videos.

[@amyalphonse1404]

+1 to this I would 100% listen to a Jenn Im podcast !!!

[@lilsoupangel]

I agree, jen also asks great questions so I think she'd be lovely talking with guests on the podcast

[@jewels5614]

Exactly!!

[@sulovesbooks]

I'd totally listen to Jenn's podcast too.

[@마둘수녀]

I agree to that!! She should do podcast❤❤ It would be sooooo nice:)

[@tsuchiryu9566]

We grew up with Jenn. Please remember to treat her with kindness and respect the way she always has treated us. ❤ Thx for always helping us be better people, Jenn. 😊

[@kaitnica]

I had one of those days where it felt like everything went wrong (ending with me getting locked out of an airbnb with a dead phone) and it felt like all of my emotions collapsed onto me, and I felt absolutely incompetent. I watched this while I made myself something nice to eat, and immediately resonated with you putting space between states and traits. I feel so much better and am actively making plans for how I'm going to cheer myself up tn. Thanks for this Jenn

[@buicamtu4]

I always love these sit down videos. Having self reflections throughout our life helps us grow and find peace. Definitely feel this now that I have 2 under 2 and am working full time

[@jubiterr]

These comments… reminder to my aspirational content creators like myself: people feel very entitled to your life once you share things/people with them. Be intentional with your boundaries from jump. Thanks for the tips Jenn ❤️

[@carolbenson8963]

Thank you Jenn, I love your transparency here- lots of self reflection. There’s tons of speculations going viral online about your life and relationship, and I just wanted to say when you are ready to open up we’re here. Your videos with your spouse were beautiful and so respectful, I only hope you both are happy and prioritizing yourselves.

[@MayCR07]

wait, I'm just hearing this for the first time. What speculations are floating around?

[@ceceria860]

@@MayCR07 There is a rumor going around about them being separated and another crazy rumor of her being with another man because someone saw her??? I do understand why people think they're separated because usually at least once a month you will see a post of them together or a video of them together in one of their channels. She kept saying she missed her kid and wished her kid was with her in her last solo vacay video but never mentioned Ben. She could've also mentioned Ben and there's nothing wrong about the way she expressed and said her kid first because you know, moms miss their babies. I guess some people got a different energy or vibe from her last video and something seemed off. Just because people saw that she has not posted about him in months, people are speculating that they're separated. Ben hasn't posted nothing at all except for her but only her and her kid. Hopefully everything is going well between them.

[@windyks]

​@@ceceria860omg i would be devastated if they separated tho.. I mean, I've been following Jenn (although not regularly) since I was in high school in 2018, till now :/

[@CalvinCheung11]

You all needa stop bugging them whether they are together or not! It’s their life, so please give them their privacy.

[@raniamohammed1437]

They broke up or something? I was busy and didn’t watch her for a while now all the comments talk about this

[@jubileerenee]

Jenn, this was my lil work break watch and I am so glad I spent this break watching you! This was so informative and right on time for me. Thank you for doing the self work and then sharing it with us! You're a gift!

[@Feng-JungFan]

This video just came in the right moment for me. I'm getting layoff this week, not sure about how the process go, what kind of benefits or severance package I'm getting. Since all the words were delivered by my superior, I immediately question if she is hiding something from me. Believing people are already doing their best to help and the job they're doing have changed my whole mood:) Thank you Jenn!

[@renatojo5148]

Regarding the body state check-list 6:52 !! I also believe that as girls and women what we need to take in consideration as well is our periods. I mean literally, the way we feel (both physically and mentally wise) is to some extent subject to the day of the cycle. There are so so many other factors that influence the way we and our bodies feel BUT sometimes we are more tired or irritated than usual NOT BECAUSE WE ARE BAD MOTHERS/FRIENDS/WORKERS but because our body is about to bleed for 5 days or so. I think it's just so important to remember about this, keep track of the period and know there are those times when we need to be a little less harsh on ourselves

[@estrelaconfusa]

Friendly reminder that Better Help sells their users' data. I know that not all creators care about the sponsors they partner with but it's important to inform people of what they are getting into.

[@Ripplethewatergirl]

I love these sit down videos from you Jenn! You have such interesting insights about life and human behaviour! Definitely going to be hitting the pause button more often this year!

[@ayushipatni2502]

Ugh! Another sponsor video, using mental health to sponsor better help, which is horrible btw. Don’t recommend using it.

[@kessalmarion7698]

I've been following you since 2017, time flies, your videos still inspire me, I started following you to learn English because I'm French. And seeing your evolution gives me the strength and esteem I need to continue moving forward joyfully in life! Love you Jenn, you are the best ✨❤️

[@icequeen7025]

Thank you!! Struggling with my career choice and not choosing my ‘dream’. I feel so lost n unmotivated to do anything these days

[@ClaraCrittenden]

I have been struggling a lot lately mentally, and woke up this morning needing something exactly like this to come to terms with my feelings to watch with my breakfast, thank you Jenn

[@valerierespectmyprivacy1583]

These introspective videos I love the most. Sad to hear you'll switch to 'short form' -but understand. Thank you for continously coming back to the the knitty gritty. Hope you'll have time for this in the future! 💛

[@stephh1228]

I really hope you’re ok Jenn. Even though you’re being sponsored by BetterHelp, I would think you’re prioritizing your mental health, so please make sure to take care of yourself.

[@uyenie12]

Love hearing you talk. As a mom, I feel like your topics are so relatable.

[@ALintBunny]

I think we all need to calm down. This channel is titled Jenn Im for a reason. Its about her, as an individual human being, her life and her sponsorships for income. At one point she chose to share her life, of Ben and Lennon with us, but her son is now older and she chose to no longer show that side, UNTIL he decides that he wants to be on camera. Ben is also a human being and has a right to his privacy. He will pop up whenever he sees fit. And it doesnt have to be about what everyone is speculating. All of this was addressed. Just because someone takes time off social media doesnt mean we should become suspicious. all these KZbinrs have done so much content throughout the years, that really the only thing they're allowed to post is sponsorships. Especially if they want to keep their lavish life. It's sad and it sucks.

[@khloe9025]

It’s my first time commenting on KZbin and i am so glad that i watched this video. I started to follow Jenn before my uni and now i graduated from my master degree. I am right now at a crossroad of my life and i feel like i have so many choices to make, which country/city should i live in in the future, what career should i pursue, what future life do i desire, should i choose for myself or for my family, will i regret in the future…. honestly i don’t know what to do and i don’t have any answer for these questions. It hit me when you mentioned the quote from Bobby Hundreds. Yes we can make the best of the choices that we make Thank you Jenn!!

[@maia-roll]

Always love these vulnerable and reflective videos. It’s so intriguing to hear what you’ve learned over the years. Always love hearing your insights! Wishing you all the best! ❤

[@zomgeleana]

Jenn 🥹🥹🥹🥹 I really needed this video right now. I am starting a new job and doubting my power and overall self. It’s so comforting to hear a person that I admire speaking to me the way you did. 💙💙💙

[@CookieFridays]

I agree Jenn, I think I tend to identify with you in a lot of ways, like the anxious, overthinking, wanting to be perfect way of being. I really need to learn not to be in such a rush for life, feeling like it’s passing me by. Just have to continue working toward what I want. And also realizing that we have no idea what’s around the corner, literally no idea. We could get the best news or worst news of our lives, so it’s better to learn to control our emotions in the moments when things feel “blah”, because life is still good right now even if I want more out of it.

[@neritan764]

Oh Jenn you just have this way of articulating things so well - thanks for sharing these valuable insights/reflections. Also on a sidenote, would be SO incredible if you started a podcast! your voice is just so calming and you're such a great speaker/storyteller!

[@rparkxoxo]

I would 100% listen to her podcast!

[@homemadefood3785]

I'm 25 and I've never learnt as much as I have and still am learning, when KZbinrs are also transparent it helps us and the community you have. I thrive on learning from other peoples perspectives and opinions to see how they differ from mine or can change the way I see situations / outcomes. Thank you for this video Jenn! I love the genre you post since having Lennon ᵕ̈

[@Alyssa-z7f]

Totally agree with you! Jenn is like my sister, and she teaches me sooo much about life or others.

[@MissMommaM]

I loooooooved this video! You're always so honest and insightful. I def took some notes and really appreciate you having these 1:1 talks with us. Love hearing all your momma-hood stories. Lenon is so cute! I have a 2 year old too and boy I feel you girl. Keep on, keepin on momma. You're looking fabulous!

[@fortune_roses]

A friend (new mom) admitted that she sometimes dislikes being a mother & feels anger. She loves her child very much, but I think it made her feel better to let it out. Instead of feeling guilty or repressing it

[@Kareragirl]

Some people have easy-going children and some more difficult ones. You can never anticipate how demanding raising children will be and it should be normalized that parents aren't always happy having to take care of someone else 24/7.

[@xinyilu-vi5jm]

Jenn you are the best!! You are always so inspiring and giving good advice. Entering into 30s and having kids, I feel like I'm facing a lot of problems of life and You will always give advice and share experience to us just the right time. Thank you so much!!

[@Ra-ur3gf]

This was such a great video Jenn! I love the quote, “There are choices that you make and then you make the best of them”. I have some big changes and decisions being made here in my world and this reminder is GOLDEN! So thank you

[@Eve65901]

THIS VIDEO IS GOLD. thank you for sharing, I appreciate the authenticity. I relate to it so much. Especially the culture on work and productivity in society!! We should all rest more, listen to our bodies and eventually find our identities outside of our work output. We are human beings. Not projects to constantly optimize and fix. Please share more content like this. Jenn, you are a gem and have so much depth to offer through long form content. I know you’re trying out short form, but meaningful, important ideas like these are such a scarcity nowadays. Love u and take care ❤

[@Alice-cn3sp]

i learned the type of person focused on making the optimal / right decisions is actually called a "maximizer" -- people w this personality trait can have decision FOMO and analysis paralysis. the opposite personality type is called a "satificer", someone who doesn't go seeking out more options once they've found one that's "good enough"

[@returntonormallife]

How interesting, I think I'm a mix of both depending on what it is I have to decide on

[@katerinakhabarov3156]

Thank you so much Jenn!! Listening to you talk about this stuff is always so eye opening!

[@zhazishahi7524]

This is an amazing video, Jenn! Thank you! This is exactly what I needed as a new mom, who have experienced major burnouts lately to the point of getting a divorce… Thank you for the calm and support this video gave me🙏🏻❤️

[@genyag359]

Thank you, Jenn. I have been following your channel for so many years. This video helped me a lot. I was feeling anxious and starting to feel negative and out of control, but I found peace and positive reflection. I started journaling your reflections, and it helped me to feel calm, in control, and in self-love. Sending you hugs.

[@iloverobbie9042]

9:15 Nothing that’s of this world will fix us, but only the Lord our God can fix us. Trust in Jesus our God bless everyone here and prayed for you all💝 11:50 And we must only put our trust in God

[@kirasoleil]

you’re so eloquent & educational with your words!! I absolutely love these videos when you discuss what you’ve learned in therapy & how you apply it to your life. it’s so helpful! thank youuu for doing this 💗 & btw, I hope you’re doing well, feeling peaceful & happy with life ☺️

[@ChinokoShirakura]

I know it took a lot of work to create this content. I appreciated that. Thank you Jenn! It's worth every minute

[@bernadettemary2135]

jenn, im sorry about all the negative comments. thank you for this video, it was really helpful and insightful - with so much value that i had to watch it twice to absorb everything!

[@nadzombie]

This is the most honest KZbin video, and you are the best life coach out here. I felt like I was on a heart to heart talk with a friend with this video, it feels light & it enlightened me at the same time. I am subscribed to you for YEARS, and you never fail to grow as yourself, and grow with us also. Thank you for being a genuine person. I really needed to hear everything you just said.

[@gastronomee_]

this is so incredibly thoughtful, jenn. i'm a new creator - just started less than a month ago - and your videos were always a source of inspiration for me. you've always been kind, caring, and like an older sister - rooting for you all the way!

[@lonewolf1750]

thank you so much for sharing your perspective to us jen, it really is a good reminder for us in this generation. i love youuuuuu and chef's kiss to all your videos. all of it are so substantially cool, i learned a lot❤

[@amayramlew]

wow, this was so powerful. thank you jenn❤

[@ReadingwithTatiana]

A Tuesday evening upload?! We are fortunate 🎉

[@abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz10]

Honestly, why should we even care about their relationship and if they have problems or not? These are people with their own lives. They are not obligated to share personal details to the whole world to know. We are not one of their close friends or family. People have to stop feeling like viewers/subscribers have a real connection with online figures/celebrities. It’s so unhealthy! If Jenn wants to share, she will. But don’t act like we’re entitled to it!

[@Mercedesxayala]

This is perfect Jenn! I needed this! And you posted it at a great time, thank you 🙏🏽

[@frills7026]

My feed recommended you and BOY was this all very much needed and poignant. Thank you!! ❤

[@opinte8362]

always love the way you narrated something. very thoughtful, tx Jenn!

[@alwaysaik]

WOW state vs. trait ... what an AHAH moment! 💡✨A great reminder to be kinder to ourselves with self-talk. Thank you so much for sharing Jen xx

[@XianWenpoops]

This video is full of wisdom and so timely!! Thank you Jenn ❤

[@katrinastacie]

Trying to encourage myself to step out of my comfort zone and leave comments on things more even though it can be so scary ahhhh Thanks for this video, Jenn - really resonated with so much of what you said and the way you described your own patterns/behaviors, esp. around overthinking, anxious thoughts, perfectionist tendencies. It's so hard! So many good reminders for all of us and you articulated it so well. I finally started going to therapy again this week after a 2 year hiatus and I'm excited for it and feel like a lot of the things you mentioned will come up in my sessions as well. I hope that you're taking care of yourself ❤

[@HimiBegum-d7y]

Whenever I'm unwell, I always turn to one of your videos and they always hit.

[@katkla]

This video was so good for me. Everything I needed to hear, I’m so happy we are all going through this journey together 👏🏼👏🏼

[@lovelynlim8879]

Jenn! These tips were so unqiue and incredibly helpful. I've binged watched so many lessons i've learnt and captured my own but these tips are so profound. I hope you start a podcast! 🥰

[@마둘수녀]

As always, this kind of video of yours means a lot to me. This video made me think about my mind and my life. I think I want to be perfect in every part of my life and that makes me exhausted. I should let that go and just accept the mystery as you said:) Thanks, Jenn. I can tell you really thought about these and told us your valuable lessons to us. Have a good one! You made my day:)

[@임수-h7t]

Just love your honesty through all your personal experiences ❤️ ✨️

[@elysium334]

Thank you for sharing these insightful wisdom with us, I'm in my early 20s and have been constantly trying to "fix" myself and always trying hard to prove that I deserve healthy relationship. Recently I came to realize that in doing this I am actually reinforcing the belief that there's something wrong with me. What you said resonates so much and is exactly what I need to hear, it helps a great deal and thank you so much for your heartfelt sharing💛💛💛

[@milikoshki]

Have to add another comment- your point about self improvement and the constant need to be better- I relate to that. In my mid-late 20s, I was SO focused on how I need to be better. The end result was just feeling kinda like shit. I never found self help or modern philosophy books very impactful, because you need to be ready, open, and willing to change for it to work. Just getting a lecture is super interesting, but it doesn't mean that will last or be a sustainable change for you in that moment. Just trying my best while being OKAY with me right now is a much more sustainable approach.

[@leamonica8393]

Thank you so much! I needed this video Jenn. I can relate.

[@Abbylo8731]

Jenn, you dont owe anyone any annoucement. Take care of yourself, your marriage, your family. And its never too late to decide to fight for your marriage.

[@miffpaayear]

Thank you Jenn! Totally agree that chasing on “productivity” and “perfection” is tiring…recently I am also allowing myself to free from those “exceptions.” Gotta love us is first❤

[@lebre.]

Yo but why is everyone talking about a divorce? What did I miss? I watch all of Jenn’s videos, I don’t understand yalls comments??? 😂

[@DinaTiffany]

Same, girl, same 😂❤

[@laceyk929]

Thank you Jenn for sharing this video and your experiences. I’ve been struggling with the topics you mentioned a lot lately.

[@WalnutBoo]

I just found your content today and I love the life advice videos so much!! I’ve been feeling stuck for quite some time and while videos are not full solutions, they are nice to get me thinking and reflecting when I often time burn time away with gaming or streams.

[@pixeleverafter]

Such an insightful vid, Jenn! I really needed this, thank you so much for sharing💟

[@pinkbubblegum6]

thanks for these life lessons jenn! they are really applicable to me and it feels good to know that i'm not the only one who feels this way

[@heatherkhoupradit8997]

Love your videos as per usual. Ty for sharing, I really loved it and learned a lot :)

[@jessicanguyen7987]

Jenn you're like my second therapist!! Always walk away with the best insight

[@darceyguana5704]

I love these videos, you feel like an older sister I never had and feel so much lighter at the end of it

[@maggiegreen5761]

if you can take a course of circle of security, it will be your parenting life so much easier!!! you are a great mom and you are good enough for your child 😘

[@laurayt3]

I read that psychologists say that mean people have no self awareness, so if someone is mean to us and we do nothing, that person will continue to have no self awareness. Honestly, I always make sure that being rude for no reason is wrong.

[@Joanneanne123]

Being kind to yourself is soooo important!!!!!!

[@sams41082]

you’re so well spoken i can’t believe it 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️

[@lisaviktoria9402]

Jenn i care a lot from far. It seems like you and ben have trouble. I from my experience just know how dark it can get. Please be careful to not seek outside a Solution. It is not worth it. Yes you will survive but loosing a long Relationship comes with a lot more loss and pain for you than you might know. Take care of your heart. Bless u.❤

[@helenafang3079]

Thank you Jenn for sharing your life wisdom! So many aha moments from this video that make me feel better about myself. I think we can really be critical to ourselves, which is not helpful at all.

[@keksmonster1153]

Why are people discussing private stuff when they could: I appreciate how the videos have one topic, good structure flawless editing, love the ✏️ Style. As a mom of a 11 month old baby, i was away for 1 week. I had postnatal depression for 8 months...i don't appreciate that my husband never gets questions like, where is your baby, can your baby be without the father, do you miss your baby. Folks if you haven't asked fathers befor, press your lips together when you are about to ask a mom

[@Kareragirl]

Es ist Wahnsinn, wie leicht Väter es immer noch haben. Von ihnen wird so wenig erwartet.

[@Allisllover]

omg on a tuesday!!!! this feels like a present from a close friend 🥺

[@juliannawalker]

“Assume that everyone is trying their best” needed to hear that one!! Lovely and insightful video 💕

[@cheickonate]

It’s all about being more in the present moment ! 🙂🧘🏾‍♂️✨🤍

[@minanguyen5900]

As long as you don't join a cult like Michelle Phan, you're on the right path to self-understanding and self-love!

[@elizabethw22]

You are the way that the creator of the universe has made you to be. And although you may not know or acknowledge him, he exists and cares immensely for you. We know this because Christ died for the penalty of our actions while we still rejected him.

[@StarrrStrukk13]

Jenn is definitely aware of the comments online. If they were still together she would’ve nipped this in the bud already. She’s quite direct with her audience no matter what phase of life she is in. No hate just observing

[@candaceroo]

Fs. No answer is an answer. She’s just not ready to announce it; but she inadvertently did. Either divorce, or taking a break. I do think some of it stems from her pride/ego (?) (Just observation from how hard she is on herself to maintain an image - her words from previous videos, not mine). Seeming as they are both so in tune with their emotions and communication, it would just seem like a big blow up in her face.

[@sarahjane4772]

I’m awaiting the February love q&a they do every year 🥺 but either way, just hope they’re both doing okay

[@feyfeyybts3914]

her ways of expressing words are spectacular !! even her mindser, i feel like if i imitate her words i can get 8.0 in the IELTS speaking exams ^^

[@xgunfiltered7601]

Your reflections are heart-warming and so thoughtful. 🥰

[@dmswncho]

Thank you Jenn this video is really helpful !

[@richardgraber1477]

You’re doing a great job!

[@TheSimplydar]

Wow, people really feel entitled to private information. Like who cares? Just because you've been a long time subcriber of someone doesn't mean you deserve the 411 on everything. Girl you owe us nothing. She CHOOSES what she wants to share. Leave it alone.

[@yingyin9249]

thank you jenn for acticulating what i have been thinking in my head without realizing it.

[@Viza-dy5ox]

I can relate so much with your words💕 thank you so much for sharing

[@deepalisabat]

thankyou soo much jenn.. it's always a pleasure watching you but this was an insightful one❤

[@darbyraffel9539]

Can relate to this so much. I love your content! Will definitely be saving this one to come back to

[@amorfati3559]

You are so well articulated! I had a lot of the same exact thoughts (fellow virgo woo woo) but had no idea how to put them into words ❤

[@Alexa-cr1vy]

Welcome the mystery..love this!

[@Thefitty]

Love these real talk videos like these. Can we have more videos like these? I'm all about the peptalks.

[@mrsestherkim]

love this - you are seriously my virtual unnie

[@faitavecamour-zl]

really needed to hear that thank you for your sharing ❤

[@mongoliannoodle3461]

Thank you this is so helpful for me, I feel much better after watch this.