Are you Self Sabotaging a Clean Home? | Clutterbug Podcast # 185

Confession time, I am sabotaging moving into my new home for the weirdest reason ever, and you may be self-sabotaging in your life too.
Can you imagine yourself living in a clean, tidy and organized home? Do you truly believe that it's possible for you? Do you KNOW that you deserve a home you can be proud of? If this feels unrealistic or impossible, I can help you tear down your roadblocks once and for all.
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[@aprilpacholski3012]

My boss one told me (after I said something negative about myself) don't talk about my friend like that! So I'll say to you, don't talk about my friend like that! You deserve all the things, you deserve the closet and the home you have waited so long for, and you WILL enjoy it 😂

[@ellie448]

This don’t talk about my friend like that!

[@MrsTigerbalm]

Love this! Gonna steal it - for a friend who does this all the time! Thank you!

[@aprilpacholski3012]

@@MrsTigerbalm 💞

[@erikapeterson2723]

I say this to my kids when they get down in themselves. "Hey, dont talk about my kid like that"

[@marylut6077]

Why would you volunteer something negative about yourself to your boss of all people?

[@karenrich9092]

I am seeing a therapist. Her name is Cass, and it's called the Clutterbug Podcast. Thank you for doing this for me and all your listeners.

[@bellaluce7088]

GREAT comment! 😄 Totally agree!

[@mindsjanne]

I totally agree. This has blown my mind

[@-Mieke]

😊

[@charlottegalbreath7626]

I love your videos and podcasts. They've been Lifesavers for me. I was wondering if you could either talk louder or increase the volume on your end. Sometimes it sounds to my 67 year old ears as if you are speaking very low. I can't increase the volume on my end. I don't want to miss a single word.

[@cherylds]

Truth, I too feel our house is too fancy for us @Clutterbug, but then I was told the first week I moved in that I couldn't keep it clean by, my mother, her sisters, and finally my mother-in-law. They were all invited, behind my back as a SURPRISE by my mother, to come and help clean it before we moved in since it was only new to us but had already been lived in for 10 years by the original owners. The all came the day, I had invited my mother-in-law to come help move all my perennials and raspberry and blueberry bushes. Needless to say I didn't have the fun time to move into the first home we have ever owned, I never got to take any of the perenials from our rented place we had lived in for 8 years, which was a well kept home other than the several floods we lived through, all of a sudden I couldn't maintain my home, my chores, my job, my kids, my health even went so far in the dumps that I ended up disabled. I have the piles to prove we have lived here for 15 years while I drowned and my husband became my caretaker instead of my husband. You are the light that shines through our darkness, we are now working through the shame and self-hatred we have lived with all our lives.

[@robinmunoz7078]

Cass, in all the All Day Declutters on TYHB, you end up crying, telling us we deserve this. You have changed so many lives, including mine. YOU DESERVE THIS! Enjoy your new house. ❤

[@user-lz2nr8qw4z]

All of this resonates with me.

[@ellie448]

When your packing say “I deserve this” out loud to yourself. When you get to the new house say “I deserve this, my family deserves this.” When unpacking in your new home “I deserves this my family deserves this” you have to say it out loud so your body registers it and changes your thinking. Keep doing that. New clothing any brand “I deserve this”, new shoes “I deserve this” etc

[@rock_8]

0l9

[@trishb6895]

Yes remember that whole state thing you were on a roll about a while ago. I don’t remember the other thing that went with it but change your state!

[@alittlefield-kl5ib]

I really like this, and will use it, even for the little things as well as the hard work I need to put onto a project. Thank you. It really us the little things that makes a huge difference.

[@DoingMyBest18]

No one”deserves this”, but instead how about “I am grateful for this”, “my family is is grateful for this.”

[@mollyreid9109]

I spent my whole lifetime downplaying everything that I accomplished and everything I had because my sister was jealous. She couldn’t have these things and I didn’t want to upset her. DON’T DO IT! Enjoy your new house, make it the home you love. You have worked hard for this and you deserve it.

[@debfrysinger]

I am 66 years old, but I totally understand and relate to how you are feeling about the new house. But please, “don’t do as I do, do as I say” - Please accept and enjoy your new house.

[@marylut6077]

Are you saying you don’t feel worthy of something nice you have worked for? If yes, then why work towards anything?

[@Rosa-kf6yy]

I had the same upbringing and I rebelled against tidy homes. My condescending mantra about tidy homes was "It looks like no one lives here". "I" now have a tidy home (thanks to you, Dawn and Dana). It took 3 years (which included a move), but now it's a lifestyle. Even THAT was a surprise. I told myself NEVER AGAIN, and while that is true, things really do come back in. Gifts and material things are a part of life. De-cluttering HAS to be a lifestyle. Cass, please enjoy your WALK IN CLOSET for all of us who would love to have that and do not (for whatever reason). I think that is every woman's dream closet. 🤤

[@BruceDavis-cq6nw]

One more thing, Cass, I have recently realized a new mindset regarding clutter cleaning etc. I have many friends who have hobbies ie painting, sewing, arts and crafts. I don’t do any of that! But I told my daughter recently that decluttering is my new hobby! And as I repeated this to my husband Bruce I was saying a hobby is something to be enjoyed! He asked do you enjoy decluttering and like a light 💡 bulb 💡 moment, I said YES!! It charges me up to do more!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and helping us out here get to a more simple and clutter free life!! ❤Barb

[@emilysragz]

It's hard to be resilient sometimes. This was a good convo. It's almost like you're having low-key "survivors guilt," but no one died in this case. You just want to be relatable, and upgrading your house probably feels like you're leaving your relatability behind, so you're dragging your heels and self-sabatoging your move because you probably deep down don't want to feel like you deserve something so nice. Yes, there are a ton of people who don't have a way to get nicer stuff like this, and they also deserve it. It's next to impossible to feel like we CAN get anywhere and have nice things, especially these days when things are ridiculously expensive and out of reach for so many of us. If you can afford to live more comfortably, bonus! Though, I totally get feeling guilt and shame with feeling comfortable when so many people aren't all that fortunate. A lot of hard working people still can't afford a walk-in closet. A lot of people with money are stereotypically snobby, arrogant, jerks and unrelateable. I was lucky enough to know a rich family growing up that if you didn't know their story, you'd never know they were rich. They didn't dress fancy, and they were all smart, curious, down-to-earth people who never turned their nose up at others because of what they had. They were still relateable. You can still be rich and be the same person you were before you had possessions. You're still relateable and humble and do a great job of connecting with your audience. You do deserve this! Thanks again for sharing your feelings and being vulnerable, I know it's hard to do.

[@jennifermccraw7687]

Yes! This! I do this too and I get it. It's a mind game. Battlefield of the Mind.

[@trishb6895]

Love that survivors guilt does really relate in this case. Survived not being able to have nice stuff. You hopefully will get ok with it in time. Love that you share this. I think a lot of us have this to some degree its not that unheard of. Thank you for sharing. We need to talk these thing out.

[@emilysragz]

@trishb6895 Yes! I was also thinking of surviving during hard times and thriving over others. When you know you work hard and so do others, but, you have the thing over others and you feel a bit of guilt and shame for having so much and some people don't have the same thing. You just want everyone to have equal amounts of stuff.

[@katekalista2574]

Kas, you deserve all the good things in your life. The work you do has set so many people free from guilt or clutter to allow them to manage their homes in a style that works for him, that work allowed you to afford to buy a new house with things you've always dreamed of having. So go dance in you walk in closet

[@haidagirl626]

Yes, think of it as us paying it forward. It's a gift from all your faithful fans for all you've done to help us! 😆 🤣 😂 😹

[@claireb3578]

I want to jump on a plane from the UK right now to come help you pack Cass! A light bulb moment for me in the past was that accepting help was not a weakness and that it was actually a gift to those around me who wanted to help and feel useful. I hope you get lots of offers for a packing party Cass 😊 or that you reach out to ask for help so you get to move into your beautiful new home that you deserve feeling loved and worthy and not too frazzled! ❤

[@Naanii77]

I listened to you Cass as I walked my 30 mins which is how long this vid was. Such great wisdom and you deserve your new house and then some!!

[@brendahollandsworth7565]

You deserve everything you have. Our words have a lot of power and you deserve to speak positive things about yourself

[@Heather.C.ButterflySage]

We’re all on a healing journey. You bring so much encouragement, inspiration, and value to your audience. Thanks Cass! 🕊🌿🌷✨💕

[@liap1293]

Thank you for putting all these feelings into words with examples.

[@mizzezjones]

You’re such a beautiful person. Remember your viewers aren’t living stagnant lives either. We’re either moving forward or backwards. Show us how to handle the forward transitions.

[@sherriramsey593]

Ceilings just made me realize why my move a year ago was SO awful! In 2020 I moved 1,000 miles from a 3/2/2, hoarder- like house to a 2/2 apartment. I was so proud of how i handled it, and purged (and purged!) After 15 months, the landlord decided to raise everyone's rent by $700/ month! My apartment was fine. I'm not picky, I don't need fancy - just a decent area, comfy place. When they raised the rent, i started looking around. Apartments in my 'new' area were at the same, new rates. But: they are all so much nicer. And, valet trash, and hardwood floors, granite counter tops, vaulted ceilings - gorgeous! The apartment I was in needed serious updates and they wanted the same rent I'm paying now. Intellectually, it was a no brainer - right? I got excited and signed the lease. Fast forward to the move. It was a sh** show. Felt like everything was surreal. Felt like a stranger in my own home. Now, I live alone and this place looks like a hoarder lives here. And I realized: I've never had this before. Always struggled, now i don't. I'm 57, and it's new. Your podcast helped me see what I'm doing, and why. Im being you not to do what I did. We've worked hard to get where we are, and we've earned it. We're just not used to it because we've not been 'here' before. How do we not go from where we've always be to where we are now without changing who we are? Guess what!?! I'm still me, and I'm still thrifty. I do have better things than before - but I'm not bougie, lol. Yet, I went back to surrounding myself with piles because it's some bizarre comfort zone. I deserve a new normal, and so do you! Here's a deal: I'll get after now, if you will. You've actually helped me so much, in so many areas. You've shown me my organizing style, which I promise I do use. My clutter is all related to one tiny part of my life. Everything else is organized and put away thanks to you, for the first time in my life. Glennon Doyle is right: "we can do hard things". So let's get after this and get it done. I'm all in. Hope you are, too. Enjoy and embrace your new home and all that it represents. My lease is renewed, and I'm all in 🎈We're on this journey together.

[@dianamcmahon51510]

Aw Cass, I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Just try to remember, it's not like somebody gave you this new home, you worked for it, you earned it, and YOU DESERVE IT!

[@TheOriginalLexa]

I have cancer, and my house, over the last 8 years since diagnosis, has really gotten bad. But I am a bit more energetic, at least in fits and starts, right now, so I’ve been decluttering as I can! I appreciate your help so much and think that you’re incredibly helpful and positive. I’ve struggled with self sabotage my entire life, but somehow I end up managing to make it through every situation. It ends how it ends, but it always ends, if you know what I mean. Be kinder to yourself! You deserve it 💖🫶🏼💖🫶🏼💖🫶🏼💖🫶🏼

[@rockyandmiles9889]

Interesting… my Mom COULD NOT go to bed at night with a dish in the sink. Now I’m the opposite, dishes pile for days and days! I’m not proud of that, but it’s one of the cleaning mental blocks I constantly deal with!! Our home growing up was clean but lived in and not cluttered. I used to think perfect homes were nice but who would want that? Now I want that lol 😂 My sister says “you’re obsessive about your house these days!” Except dishes 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

[@trishb6895]

I have found something so almost comforting about simplifying and being “into” my house again. Today i cleaned my carpets and feel happier then i have in a long time. Ive been reclaiming my home and focusing on details. Things i was too busy to make room for in my head space. Being able to reset and love my home a little bit more again has given me a peace and calm Ive been craving.

[@cherylbowers4502]

You DO deserve this beautiful house! You have worked for it!

[@JasmineBrownOttawa]

Cas, I am only 9 minutes in but I can relate! While we have different life experiences, I also have felt that consumerism in many forms is bad and shameful. Same with pointing out only the bad things in a new home, never buying a new car, and avoiding "splurge" or brand name purchases. You totally should enjoy a new home that you like, that feels great, and that meets your family's needs. There is nothing wrong with that! I hope you do find joy in your new home. Thanks for your insights on this episode today ♥

[@christylizmacguire]

I didn’t enjoy my last home. It was beautiful, but I had to be taught to declutter!! Don’t waste a day enjoying your home. You have helped so many others.

[@sabrina9333]

It's 9:30pm on a Saturday night & packing & decluttering and purging my old stuff. Good news, I'm moving in 6 weeks 😊 Thanks for your encouragement tonight ❤ I really need a friend tonight.

[@debraarbuthnott3380]

I know where you are coming from. But, lets face it, you have worked hard to achieve what you have got. Its not giving in, its a reward for all your hard work and you deserve it. Embrace it and enjoy it, it proves to everyone, what you can achieve with hard work and making good choices. The stories you have told yourself in the past were coping mechanisms for that time - we move beyond those times and need to change narratives as we evolve

[@itsgoingtobeokay.]

I've done this so many times to myself. I've worked hard to get my house to the point I love it but old habits come out and I let it get bad again. God gave me the tools and motivation to get my reward. Enjoy your gift of a new house and start packing!

[@bsanders0727]

I’ve known this feeling. I’ve not listened to the entire podcast yet, it’s still running. So you may mention this. Its like shame but for me I felt like an imposter. I’m not ‘one of them’ who had the …whatever. I feared being called out on it. It took some work and distancing from certain friends. I learned to feel like I deserved better. Now I’m working on learning that I deserve an uncluttered home!!

[@sararush6951]

I decluttered a whole box of books while listening because I realized that keeping all of those books was my fantasy self. I haven’t read a book in over a year, time for some to go.

[@joditripp7003]

I am so happy for you! An outdoor kitchen is amazing! You are gonna have so much fun and you deserve it, YOU ARE WORTHY! And you have helped so many people. You have been the spark in so many people's lives that have allowed them to have a life that they never would have dreamed possible.

[@craftyx2diy]

You deserve to enjoy your new space! We are happy for you and can’t wait to see you make it your own

[@mjrose-r9y]

I grew up with hand me downs, I learned to make my own clothes. Even after I was married, we lived week to week. We raised 4 kids in a house that would fit in my present garage. 20 years ago after my children were grown we bought a large house. This house is nicer than anything that I have ever lived in. It has taken me 20 years to feel that this house actually belongs to me. I finally see that we have worked hard all our lives and should enjoy our retirement, including our beautiful home in the woods. It is so peaceful here.

[@vickibarana7635]

I really hope that you enjoy your new home - you shouldn't be ashamed of anything in it... be joyful - you and Joe have worked REALLY hard to get to upgrade your home. YOU DESERVE IT!! This self sabotage conversation is so on point for me lately. I'm having to fight to tidy my home and keep up with my journal. Every time I get down / discouraged at the amount of stuff I need to do, I hear you / Dawn / Christine / others pumping me up... and not because you all are perfect, but because you have done it and keep fighting thru it - I am SOOOO grateful for you. I can't wait to see you organizing / decorating your new home! I can't wait to see all the cool ideas you have for getting settled. That outdoor area is going to be fantastic for family time and decorating... can't wait to see!!! We have a beautifully concreted patio that I don't know what to do with so please share. Every space you have, whether you think you deserve it or not (and you do) is going to inspire us in so many ways. THANK YOU CASS for always being you and pushing us to be the best we can be in ourselves!!

[@melindaworkman6039]

I needed to hear this today, thank you! I have been doing this and didn’t recognize what I was doing. Time for a little self therapy and a mindshift change. I hope that you are able to overcome the self defeating thoughts and really celebrate this new time in your life. You are a hard worker and have sacrificed a lot to get what you have. We are celebrating your success with you. Sending love to you and your family! You got this girl!!!

[@normapascuales8230]

You are a lady bug and a lightening bug and you are helping all of us clutter bugs out here. May God bless you for that, and please enjoy that new home you deserve!

[@aidar4816]

Thank you Cas. This has been a truly amazing teaching. Love your transparency. I can totally identify with what you’re saying.

[@fionaschiffl8065]

You are staring into my soul with this one! I was the tidiest teen you ever saw but had kids in early 20s and married a narcissist who criticised my cleaning so I gave up being proud of my efforts. He took over most parts of the house with his hoarding. 20yrs later he worked away from home so I didn’t bother cleaning until a few days before he came home. Rural properties get extra dirt and bugs inside. Newly single I have to change my mindset and tidying schedule and own all spaces in my home which has the added angle renovating to get of rid of the bad memories here. Thank you Cass for being one of my shoulder angels.

[@andreahinkel4102]

Cas we cannot solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it. How about starting your morning by listing 3 things you like about the house and when you start thinking the negative just say to yourself that's not true, this is what I like. I know you know this. You are wonderful and amazing. You have had a wonderful influence on my life and I am so grateful

[@dawnjeffersramstad8401]

Cas, you worked hard on both your career and your marriage. You and Joe yotally deserve a walk-in closet! I am so looking forward to the video The Container Store will sponsor just to see what y'all do with it. 🎉

[@brookebales2931]

I was gonna say, you must not be super excited for the new house, else you’d be totally motivated and already be all packed!! So you just said/admitted it. And you know what, I applaud you for how you feel about materialistic stuff and staying frugal and not keeping up with the Joneses! You’re awesome! 👏 enjoy this home but stay true to yourself!! ❤ love ya lady.

[@jaytee-gl9ft]

This is SO, SO good. An organized home feels impossible, realizing I believe i cant do it. Thanks for this.

[@sierra8330]

I have never connected with someone more than you in this video! The part about the husband and being a martyr is something that has been passed down through generations, and I am purposefully working through shedding that! Thank you for this video!!!!!

[@ValerieLopez-r6u]

I’m 67 years old, and I recently joined a gym and a personal trainer. I never thought I would do it because it seemed like a luxury. I love my trainer and I tell myself that I’m doing it for my health, so I now feel comfortable with my decision.

[@veratsuber8478]

One of my new fav episodes from you to this day ❤

[@gijoyjoy]

Boy did I need this podcast! Sending you love and tons of gratitude Cass! 🤗🥰😇

[@Lport2653]

thank you for sharing. I can absolutely relate to your feeling of cognitive dissonance. I’m glad you said that we can put down the baggage, and we can do it together. Way to go! I hope you can enjoy your walk-in closet.

[@mindsjanne]

I have been self sabotaging for 7 years. I bought a house. And I have never felt truly happy in it. Even though I looked for house for years and when I saw this my gut feeling was perfect. I have been all negative about it. And never really had it all set up. I have been decluttering for years and I’m glad for the main areas. But never got one room and the basement done. Two months ago I had to decide whether to sell or redue the mortgage. I went deep thinking why I never loved the house. It’s because ‘I always loose the things I love + nothing good lasts + you end up broke and loose it anyways’. I have kept my house. Determined to love it. I’m 15 mins in the video and my face are wet from tears. You are talking directly to my soul. I really badly want to stop self sabotaging. (Perhaps I’ll stop doing it in love areas as well to then). Im read to heal. We deserve to be Happy, loved, have Nice things, live Nice and we deserve to keep it. ❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️ love from Jossefin

[@trishb6895]

I agree with that if i love it ill lose it feeling too.

[@MollyDillard-k7l]

I appreciate you! Your honesty is so refreshing and it makes me feel not so bad because I don't do like others!

[@faithisrising]

Thank you Cass! I went back to my journal and searched for self sabotage and it was a month ago that I had two entries on this for my studio. That space used to be our den before we moved my Mom in with us. She was only here for a year before the Lord called her home and then it was empty for a while. I slowly filled it up with still life props and furniture to hold those things. Things were getting out of control but I donated some stuff. Enjoyed it for a while and then filled it again. Now I have an art table in there as well as a table for still life and I’m telling myself I deserve to have that happy space just for me. My Mom would want that and my husband is all for it…I just have to tell myself that and live it out. Thank you for being vulnerable. Enjoy your beautiful home! You have worked hard for it. 💗

[@mermeow]

I'm at work with people around me. 😹 I'm 51, & probably self-sabotage myself with cleaning & tidying. My mom wasn't neurotic about cleaning in general, but she expected me to clean my room without ever actually teaching me how. She threw stuff out when I didn't tidy it up. I've been rebelling ever since, I guess.

[@andreawales1938]

I think you were probably rebelling against your mother by not tidying by her “out it goes” deadline.

[@haidagirl626]

Ha, boy, can I relate to this. My mom did the exact same thing. She's a neat freak and I've been fighting that ever since. She knows where everything is and everything is in its place. I finally was able to explain to her that while I am not as neat and tidy as her, I do know where my stuff is. I was able to explain our differences when it came to tidying and organization. That people with adhd are wired differently. I think she's starting to understand. A little. But I'm also not beating myself up anymore for having messes here and there. For not having things done just so. It's all a learning curve and Cas has taught me so much. Especially the 5 minute tidy. It's been a blessing as I have severe arthritis. I can only do things in fits and starts right now. I am not here to please my mom. 😆

[@lorig.7127]

Outstanding Podcast! Perhaps you're best, Cass! You're talking about a subject that no one ever mentions!This really resonated with me.Thank you.

[@roxanes43]

The timing of this is epic. I got an amazing job offer on the other side of the country that I don't "feel" like I deserve and digging my heels in with packing too. I have one week now to purge everything that doesn't fit in the car. Thank you for your insights and motivation to kick me into gear!

[@tobiewilliams1812]

I have LOVED sharing in your decluttering journey! Thank you for inviting us to do it with you. As I listened to this podcast, I really wrestled with the word "deserve." But I can sit with the idea that I've "earned" some of these things...in case that's helpful to anyone else.

[@emotionalstability]

I totally feel this. I am in a good place with my declutterring experience and am really enjoying my home. Even though I haven’t spent a whole bunch on decorating it, I still feel weird about how beautiful it is!

[@glendatroutman474]

Thank you for saying this. You deserve to live in a nice place. You can afford it and you don't have to be ashamed for it.

[@kjarneson655]

Totally makes sense-insightful and vulnerable of you to process with us. What you describe goes along with a “poverty mentality”. Many of us struggle with these sort of things-thanks for sharing your perspective.

[@gretchenkring3721]

Thanks Cass for sharing your personal thoughts and struggles. I pray that you and your family are blessed in your new house and fill it with love, laughter, and happiness. You deserve the best!

[@MorganReece]

Thanks Cas! Loved this chat! You inspire me.❤

[@jeanineallard288]

I almost switched video, until I looked around and realized so many points fit me. Thanks for keeping it real.

[@christinamorgenstern66]

Be happy in the moment and the current lifestyle you have worked hard for enjoy your new home with your family.

[@natashaauton2029]

It was like you were speaking directly to me. Thank you for all you do for us. You are the encouraging friend so many of us have needed.

[@haidagirl626]

Aloha Cas, I can so relate to every single thing you were saying. It could have come from my own mouth!! I, too, don't think I deserve anything. I moved to Hawaii from Canada over 28 years ago and I still feel bad telling people I live in Hawaii!! It's ridiculous!! I've only come to be able to say I live in Hawaii because that's where my grandkids were born and I have to raise them there because of this and that. I always feel like I have to justify myself!! After listening to you, I know how ridiculous it sounds! 😆 I always say, but I live in my parents downstairs as if that will make it all better and take away my guilt. So please know how much you have helped so many, including myself and especially today and please please enjoy your move and your house and remember you are also providing a home for your children to make new memories in, you are making a space for you and your husband to thrive in and you are making space to grow your business!! We all need you to be in a productive space that works for you so we can continue to enjoy these AHA moments with you. Please 🙏 We can live vicariously through you, don't take it away from us. 😃 We are feeling so much joy for you right now. Also remember if you just say negative things about your house to people, it can sound as if you are ungrateful, not humble, and it also sets a bad example for your kids. Thrive in the moment, rejoice with your family, build up the excitement for everyone! I would also forget a vacation until you are packed. That could give you some incentive to pack quickly so you can go!!

[@carriehebbelinck8188]

CLEAN‼️toys can be all over the place BUT .. If my sheets are clean , my toilets done , floors vacuumed and washed weekly also laundry in process ( it’s never Done) then I’m good … I declutter once a week at least , my house declutter has taken 3 years .. I’m not a hoarder or anything it’s just that in the beginning you declutter differently… and present day I go at it with a vengeance ❤❤❤

[@tawniamartin5559]

I know this podcast was months ago but it just popped up on my feed. So, I’m thinking “ why not watch it?!” I’m sooo very glad I did bc it’s exactly what I needed to hear to make some sort of progress in my life. Cass…. You deserve that new house! You worked hard for it, ENJOY IT! Thank you so much for doing what you do. It enspires me!

[@j.schwartz2355]

I struggle with the same emotions that you are having about your new house… You are struggling with a feeling that you are not worthy. But you are worthy. Go back in time when you were excited about finding a new house and moving. I remember you sharing when you found a house how excited you were about the move. Try to refocus on what was the original objective! I wish you all the best in this move… And you need to allow yourself to feel worthy.

[@radnustuhab]

I very rarely comment online, but I have to on this. Your content as a whole is great; so helpful and relatable. Until now I've only seen a handful of podcasts. All with guests and all good. This one of just you is by far the best. So real. And you hit paydirt for me, too. Guilt and shame... Thank you so much! For laying it all out there and letting anyone who's willing grow with you. ❤❤❤ With huge gratitude for you, Karin Ps. You just inspired me to re-visit everything I've learned from Brenée Brown 😊 that should help, too 😊 Happy packing, happy travels and happy moving into your new home. May it give you more joy, ease and expansion than you can even imagine and confidence in knowing with every fibre of your being that it is your home because that's how it should be, for as long as nothing even more fun desires to contribute to you. 🎉 and I hope you giggle with glee every time you walk into your walk-in closet ;)

[@ms_firefly]

I'm just at the beginning and I'm loving this topic. It sounds like you're talking about imposter syndrome.. and the two are intertwined. It's always so great to have a light bulb moment. I hope you're really really, really enjoying the new place 🙂 you deserve it.

[@kjfisher2004]

You’re amazing Cas ❤ 🙌🏻 You deserve your new home & all the things!!! You help others everyday! The universe is giving back to you now so Enjoy your new space with your family!! I appreciate you & all the wonderful content you share!!

[@chelseawachholz5142]

I have been struggling with this so much. This lesson opened so many new trains of thought for me.

[@cynthiabotsko2449]

Cas... You're such an inspiration! I didn't see/hear this podcast when it aired, but - today - I needed this! Thank you😊 Peace & Blessings ❤️♾️❤️

[@crimequeencreates8248]

This really resonated with me. My mother was a neat freak and so is my sister. They never took time to sit down and relax or enjoy life. I swore I wasn’t going to be like them. I was bound to be the opposite of them. I was inwardly rebeling against them.

[@nnb02]

Listening to this mix and cracking up laughing whilst cleaning the kitchen. You always give me the boost I need thank you ❤

[@marshahalper9492]

Dear Cas, thank you for this illuminating podcast; it most definitely pertains to the mindset I had... until now. The insights you share cut through the stories I've told myself. I can accept that I can create the life I deserve (though "deserve" has always been an iffy word for me - work in progress!) by letting go of self-sabotage and limiting, small thinking. All the best to you as you make your new house your new home. 💖☮🌞

[@KerindaRobb]

Thank you. This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. I am always inspired and entertained by your videos, but today, a real light bulb came on! Enjoy your new closet!

[@erindoyon]

So appreciate your honesty! So happy for you and your family to have a new home! Celebrating with you! Very relatable.

[@robinhorton4462]

YOU DESERVE THIS CAS!!! You have put in the time and the work. You have helped so many of us feel better about ourselves so PLEASE feel good about yourself and enjoy your new home. Pick 3 things you love and then three more … and in no time it is going to be the perfect home because you are there. Absolutely love you!! Sincerely from a self sabotaging Cricket!! I will get there too even if it isn’t perfect. 💜💜💜

[@kellyvarley946]

Is it possible that change is hard and it is more comfortable staying in the know than the unknown? Cas you deserve this change YOU ARE WORTHY!!!! Embrace the good ❤❤

[@luipenedou]

Oh Cass, you deserve your New house and all the blessings in the world. I hope you'll be abble to see this truth soon! My best wishes for you and your family!!

[@Stormy_Dawn]

The next time you feel a shred of guilt for that walk in closet, remind yourself that you are doing it for me. I need YOU to show me how to be excited about the things I worked for. From a cool chicken to a walk in closet, I personally need to see others excited about the wins in their lives. It's soul healing to be able to be on these journeys with you. Allow us to live in that moment ❤ show us that walk in closet girl!!! 😂... And all the other things you love about the house. 😊😊

[@lisahale6593]

Cas, this is one of my favorite podcast episodes ever. Thank you so much! I am so excited for you and your family to move into your new home. You are so honest and humble and SO deserving of the home that you have waited so long for. I’m really exceptional at negative self-talk, and I’m trying to change my thinking. Thank you for your “therapy”! You’re freaking awesome!! 🥰

[@vickiuridge3375]

Thank you Cas. You should feel so proud of everything you have achieved. I need to tell myself this too. I love everything you say and appreciate it all. ❤❤

[@TeamSophieKeefe]

I have never related to a person more in my entire life! Thank you for sharing this video! I never realized that I was self-sabotaging until I watched this video. I do the same thing when I see people exercising and I also prefer to by off-brand items so I don’t end up like the people who wear fancy clothes, or have been ashamed of my house when I have people over because it’s too nice. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You worked for this house, and after you have given so much happiness to others, you deserve some for yourself. Congrats on your new house!

[@marijkevandoorn586]

It just clicked at the end: I’m telling myself I’m not a attentive person, that I’m not good at that and I see other people and say to myself that they overdosing it, but what I really would like people say about me is that I’m caring! I can do that, I can be that person, thank you Vas!

[@melissapena5001]

Thanks for sharing your feelings on this subject. Everyone wants the American dream of having the job they want and life. You deserve a new home and not to worry that others don't. Self sabotage is definitely a problem from childhood. When we become adults it's time to let go and enjoy life because it's way too short. Enjoy that home!

[@lorikorstanje2964]

Thank you for sharing such an important and impactful message. I will be-repllaing this message again so I can make notes for myself to remind myself I am worthy of my lifestyle and I am good at……. You are awesome congratulations on your beautiful new home you deserve it!

[@tiffanysdesignernails29]

Thank you! Hindsight is 20/20. I have self sabotaged a couple things lately.

[@willajeancoates105]

Wow!!!! I do this all the time! My brother tells me that the struggle is between the ears!! Yes!

[@gsthompson4592]

Thank you Cass. I need to listen to this over & over. This is what I need Now! Fake It Til I Make It! ... Glenda

[@nancycerreta5629]

Oh man, are you ever talking to me. For awhile I'm putting this podcast on a loop! Love you!

[@TheGenflute]

You deserve the WORLD 🌎 Cas! And I know you'll continue to share tour home w friends and family, which brings joy to them too. Your home can be for everyone you invite in! Also...I know I couldn't afford whatever y'all bought, but I'm not mad about it, I'm happy for you! ❤ When I struggled with fertility and others I knew were having kids, I wasn't mad or jealous...90% of the time...I mostly was just so happy for them! And their kids are amazing! Good talk about changing the narrative. I totally get that, and I can't wait to see a house tour!!❤🎉❤🎉

[@Amordulcehogar]

I'm loving your podcast episodes! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your truth, it helps a lot to put things in perspective. Much love from Uruguay!

[@annbraden6628]

Thank you for sharing Cass. You can do this. We can do this. I needed to hear this message today. 💕 💕

[@thestrugglingperfectionist]

Cass!!! You’re one of the very first people that I began watching when I stumbled upon this amazing app called KZbin 😊. You are amazing and awesome and hilarious and beautiful. I can only hope that in all my time watching this channel and the TYHB course that you’ve profited from me and I’m Thrilled to support You! You and your family deserve all these wonderful things you’ve worked so hard for! We’re all so excited for you and can’t wait to see what you’ll allow us to see of your moving/settling in journey! ❤🎉

[@nancykraus5127]

I got my bed made, laundry started and dishes washed. I feel so much better now and am tackling listing things on eBay.

[@lizprazeres]

Big fan and have been for awhile now... This has to be one of my favorite episodes ever, thank you for sharing with us so honestly and helping us "tell a new story" ❤

[@amandasfreshstart534]

Negative Self Talk, it can be a curse. 💛 I do feel the EXACT SAME WAY though about having “nice things”.

[@kakylong2]

Cass, Wow! This was an awesome podcast. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I do this in every area you talked about. It's reverse for my house because it's so small (768 sq ft) so I feel like we can't entertain since we can only have over like 2 or 3 extra people due to little seating. Plus, I feel like we have stuff to the ceiling & need to get back to decluttering. Thank you, Cass, for this. I desperately needed it. Enjoy your new home. I'm looking forward to seeing it & enjoying it with you. 😊

[@marshamccallum4448]

I was guilty just like you when I first moved into a larger home than my family members had, but a wise friend of my mothers said"you two have worked hard for what you've got, enjoy it." so we did,not by amassing more and more things but by showing hospitality to others and sharing our joy. I learned to garden and make things pleasant for ourselves and others. I think when we never expected to have those things it makes us wary but like all life's challenges it make us grow. Think about what you really like and put it into your home. Your old enough now to understand yourself better and define yourself better, so enjoy and share just like you do with your channel and podcast. I've learned much from you, I do quick decluttering things all the time. I was never a slob but i could hold on to things for sentimental reasons, now I take a picture and let go. Go buy a personal item full price thats a reminder that you belong in this stage of life, (mine was gold hoops), its for you and you alone. Enjoy your new home, embrace it, it's your Home, not just a house.

[@xochilguevara3429]

Very relatable. Thanx for this. It really helps. I feel like this when it comes to taking care of myself.

[@avagorelick7408]

Totally get what you are saying, especially about your mother. But I realized when I bought my apartment that I deserved it - all of it. Thank you for your podcasts!

[@lindamcdermott9980]

I really hope you have a wonderful, rejuvenating, relaxing vacation. YOU DESERVE IT! You also deserve a WALK IN CLOSET! You also deserve to be PROUD of your new home! I would like to see you put in big letters, on your Vision Board: “I DESERVE THIS”,…..”I AM PROUD OF MYSELF AND MY HOME”. Cas, you have helped so many, including me. You have accomplished so much….. YOU DESERVE ALL THAT YOU HAVE WORKED SO HARD FOR!…… Now go into that walk in closet and be happy, because YOU DESERVE IT! ❤