Co-parenting Tips For Divorced Parents

1:20] We co-parent with lots of people and not just if we're single parents or married. We have to meet halfway and negotiate with the other party and focus on what we ultimately want for our kids.
3:06] Our main focus is to make these children grow up to be good and responsible citizens. So you need to coordinate and change your focus from fighting to parenting mindset.
6:43] Think about the future and that you are responsible for these kids for life. Don't let the child choose which parent he will invite to the event; instead of competing with the other party, why not just support each other for the sake of your child?
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[@reneehinkson474]

I think this is very idealistic and the people that are having a hard time with this and drawn to these videos are in situations where there's one side that understands these concepts while another side works at sabotaging it. The sabotager wants to be the childs favorite parent, or in some cases it's both trying to do that, but those aren't the people looking for these videos. There might be a minority of those people that you could get thru to, if they were looking; but the rest of those that aren't looking for help are the obstacle against those that are coming here. There are too many now that have real mental health issues that are impossible to co-parent with as they are not only uncooperative, but outright malicious. Thank you for trying to make the world a better place regardless. I do enjoy the parenting and other self-help videos by LOP.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Renee Hinkson, you hit on a good point, we can only control ourselves. We may wish another person would act in the best interest of the child, but they don't always.

[@randomarioful]

I just found out my ex specifically asked bro-in-law not to invite me to their son's farewell party because she feels "uncomfortable being around me". So bro-in-law's family, who expressed to be neutral decided not to invite me. So much for being neutral. I found out from my mom-in-law about the event and the "special request" from the ex. How do you co-parent with someone like that who knows no limits in erasing me from extended family.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

randomarioful, do you think you have any influence or control of the situation? If you do, you could try to change it, but since I understand it to be at someone else's home, you need to respect their wishes. Could you have your own celebration?

[@randomarioful]

@@LiveOnPurposeTV I don't have control over it and I don't want to try to control it. I got along very well with them and we've exchanged favors throughout the years. I felt hurt but that's the only thing I know I have control over... my feelings about the whole thing. Basically, I just have to deal with the negativity for 6 more years. I don't think the ex will ever change unless she starts to admit that she has a problem. She probably doesn't realize she's damaging our child in the process. The bad part is she has more time with her. I am starting to see a mini version of my ex in her. Right now, it feels like I am on a forced climb to the top of Mt. Everest with only a spoon and a fork. Thanks for the videos BTW.

[@randomarioful]

@Tucker,Fearn and Bentley’s Angel Forever you didn't get it. It's not her child either. It's our bro in law's. Both the ex and I are friends to this family. The ex is telling them to uninvite me.

[@donnarakitzis2719]

I learned some really helpful points. It’s always helpful though when the other parent is willing to work with you, not so much in my case

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It is easier when both parents work together. Get clear on what you control.

[@nataliekhalilrealtor]

It’s a gift to the kids to get along

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Natalie Khalil, such a huge gift, it makes all the difference.

[@Anayr19]

Unfortunately, this is not realistic to many families, especially when there is a pathology, etc.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

When there is pathology then other steps may need to be taken.

[@anxietyrecoverycom]

Hello Dr. Paul have you heard of Leila Miller and her book Primal loss? I just ordered it myself. I think you'd like to read it.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

I have not read that, thank you for the suggestion. Always looking for another good read.

[@monicamorillo7693]

At the end of the day co parenting is best way to be there for the kids. And being there for ex spouse. I know my parents have been divorced since I was 12 I wish my parents could have co parent with each other. But my dad wasn’t there for me and my brother. But at end of the day I forgave my dad for not being there for any of his kids because his 2nd marriage now he’s divorced for 3rd time. I’m glad that he is now civil and has moved forward from his divorced. Now he is co parenting with both of his ex wives. Now I’m glad that he is being a co parent. No one should be nasty to there ex wife or ex husband. They all should co parent even tho they are divorced not trying to get back together. But some people are different. Now I’m glad they can co parent.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

monica morillo, I am happy for you.

[@monicamorillo7693]

Live On Purpose TV thank you 😊 this was the best video

[@coparentingcollective]

👉Our children, regardless of their age or parent's relationship status, want the same five things we do: love, acknowledgment, inclusion, joy, & opportunities. So if you chose separation to preserve your self-worth, don't forget about theirs-nothing says "we see you" and "you're still important" the way great co-parenting can which is the best possible outcome.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

Well said. Thank you, The Co-Parenting Collective.

[@stephaniesmith282]

This idealism is not real life.

[@LiveOnPurposeTV]

It does happen, not often. Remember, we want to show the best case, that is what we are aiming for. When it happens, it is golden.