Cognitive Distortions #4: MIND READING - Stay in Your Own Head | Dr. Rami Nader

[@lindamcd1217]

You can't know how much I needed this. I have sabotaged so many relationships because of this. And I have been SO VERY CLOSE to ending a relationship that is so precious to me because of mind reading that is influenced by my depression. Even in the darkness, this is crystal clear and logical. Thank you. Now, on to the next step!

[@DrRamiNader]

I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better!

[@diddy6823]

i noticed that i always get anxiety when i think about certain situations and especially when I’m thinking about the other person perception of the whole matter . This mind reading is something i feel that i struggle with since a young age and contributes to my social anxiety at times .

[@jyotivyas9286]

So sweetly you are explaining👍👌💐😊Mr. Dr. Shreeman. Thank you jee. Om Namah Shivay. 😊❤ॐ शांति।

[@mpgibson6342]

This is really helpful! Mind reading has caused me a lot of anxiety and I'm working on stopping that behaviour.

[@DrRamiNader]

Mind reading is very common. I wish you the best in your efforts to feel better!

[@stets1972]

I appreciate this video. The key to changing this cognitive distortion, "stay in your own head" is what I've been searching for, for myself. I had mistakenly assumed that I was personalizing but this explanation and technique is more appropriate to my needs.

[@DrRamiNader]

Glad you found it helpful.

[@neginpedersen1506]

Another amazing video, it is amazing how you find the real life problems and give solution for Them. Thank you!

[@DrRamiNader]

Thanks Negin. Glad you found it helpful.

[@MerleBeaire-bd7kh]

Thank you Dr Rami for another great video keep up the good work

[@DrRamiNader]

You're very welcome. Glad you found it helpful.

[@Agent.Wadsworth]

Just like driving, stay in your own lane (head). Sound advice Dr. Nader.

[@DrRamiNader]

That's a good way of putting it. I'll have to use that with my clients!

[@petersharp7644]

A first class video Dr. Nader, thankyou for posting. Would you consider doing one on Fortune Telling, i.e. always expecting the worst to happen in some upcoming situation? Thankyou.

[@DrRamiNader]

Hi Peter - that's coming 😀

[@jimmcgoran939]

I can't thank you enough for doing these video's, I am totally guilty of mind reading😅

[@jyotivyas9286]

😂😂

[@indrakamalyadav2921]

Thank you for your help

[@DrRamiNader]

You're very welcome

[@AmirAli-jt8bl]

Thank you sir for this help ❤❤❤ god bless you

[@DrRamiNader]

Glad it was helpful!

[@sondinh1912]

Thank you so much.... appreciate it

[@DrRamiNader]

You're very welcome. Glad you found it helpful.

[@salt_and_light03]

Great video! Very helpful thank you 🙏🏽

[@DrRamiNader]

You're welcome Dora. Glad you found it helpful.

[@salmanbatoor2153]

its nice sir.. i have mind reading issue..for example if i thought some negative about some one..or negative vibration..so my mind tell me that this thought are now recieved to thier mind.so i feel feel guilt and anxious that due to me they suffer due to my negative waves send to them

[@ProductionCowbell]

Thank you for this knowledge… 🙏🏻

[@DrRamiNader]

You're very welcome.

[@anna2belle783]

I understand the "mind reading" is a cognitive distortion in depression and such - where's the line between this and intuition e.g. in toxic relations. Some people are unfortunately very toxic and a lot of it is endorsed by society to a certain degree. The "single friend" who considered his date talking about another man as proof she liked him: I wouldn't be surprised if he actually heard this as serious advice. Frankly, I don't know which more delusional/toxic: - assuming your date is into you if/because they tell you about "your competition" and "want jealousy as proof of affection"; or - going on a romantic date with someone to talk about your romantic interest in someone else. It's one thing to turn a romantic date into a friend zone hangout, but ... There is a not-so-fine line there. And this is a pretty clean cut example, most subtle signs are subtle. I do have a genuinely hard time to find the sweet spot between giving the benefit of doubt and trusting my intuition.

[@DrRamiNader]

You make an excellent point. Non verbal communication and reading between the lines of what someone is saying can be exceptionally important. However, if a person is struggling with depression or anxiety, it's common for the mind reading to be overly negative, thereby fuelling the depression and anxiety. So there's no clear cut line for when mind reading is good and when it turns bad. The reality is, we are generally not very good at knowing what people think, yet we assume we know what people think all the time. This often gets people into a lot of trouble. So I'm not saying for people to ignore their intuition, but just be careful with it.

[@JoeJoe-vm9si]

OK I had a good laugh and I hope your very attractive still single friend is living his best life. This distortion seems to have some commonalities with filtering and catastrophizing. I'd stop mind reading but I'm really good at it, and my wife knows I'm really good at it. I can tell by her body language and the way she just nods her head sometimes. 🙂

[@devdutt106]

You told exactly what I figured out on my own... But please tell what are the cause behind it...

[@DrRamiNader]

The cause can be multifactorial and is different for different people. I'm less focused on what caused it and more focused on what's maintaining it, because that's what a person has control over.

[@Nietskii]

What about hostility attribution bias ?

[@SakshiVats-gj4xh]

How to disconnected for mind reading Brain computer interface

[@sayantanbanerjee7799]

Sir, How to stop this mind reading? This is absolute against my privacy.

[@christophercostello696]

EVERY SINGLE TIME I hear, "a couple of disclosures to go over, Im a registered psy.." my mind immediately fills that last word in and i get real uncomfortable for a sec..... love your videos, they are very helpful

[@DrRamiNader]

Glad you have found the videos helpful. I'm starting to phase out the disclaimer in my videos, as I'm including it in the video description and don't want to have filler in the videos that just takes up people's time.

[@Heyokasireniei468sxso]

everyone projects and using theory of mind with pattern recognition and body language is not a distortion unless you are doing it wrong

[@Alphacentauri819]

Can you explain more thoroughly what you mean? How is this healthy, and how does it contribute to honest communication?

[@Heyokasireniei468sxso]

@@Alphacentauri819 that was 9 months ago im not even sure what this is about i will have to look at it again but based on my answer then I must be saying mind reading isn't a bad things especially due to mirror neurons and the collective unconscious we are all tied to each other in some way what you think is your mind is most a serious of indoctrinated responses anyhow

[@lebwayway9323]

Kefeck Dr Nader how does some1 get an appointment with u

[@DrRamiNader]

I can only see people who live in BC Canada, as that is where I am registered and hold my license to practice.

[@mellissajohnson9691]

i mindread all the time to the point where i can’t even talk to my own parents:/

[@DrRamiNader]

Mindreading is one of the most common cognitive distortions, so you're not alone.

[@qwtyuitdchjfdvjudcbudvqetf-k9j]

I want to live a normal life like you all people. Someone did a magic on me through my face pic due to which that Magician allowed people to read my mind. It feels like always someone is watching and listening my thoughts. That person did that strong spell on me that due to which Whenever I think of someone for any task or work that person gets my thoughts and I can't read people mind. this all started with that magic from that person, it's all like the mental torture and Is there any way to stop this magic of mind reading so please help me with it tell me the way to stop it. I am not joking it's true. I want to my normal life again where Even if I try to people won't able to read my mind or gets my thoughts like you all people. don't ignore. please help me Or guide me