Coming Out As Bisexual and the Importance of self-acceptance

[@NH-ub4ub]

Thank you for this thoughtful and insightful video. So much resonated with me. I found it interesting how you asked what it is like to be in a monogamous relationship and have a part of your sexuality unlived. It made me think about Bi-invisability as being Bi is not visible by your partner. However, as you acknowledge, a person's sexuality is not just about who they have romantic or sexual feelings for. It covers so many parts. Friendships and being in a community with other people who understand or identify as Bi can be a way to connect to your Bi identity.❤

[@JohnPaulDaviesTTP]

Thanks for what say, I really appreciate it, it’s a comment like this that makes me carry on producing videos. I’m glad so much resonated with you and yes, I think it’s so important that that part, along with any part of us, isn’t left alone. As to what happens to the romantic/sexual part in a monogamous ‘straight’ relationship, well, I’d love to hear people’s experiences, it’s an interesting one. Thanks again for your comments and if you’d like me to record a video on anything else on the subject, just let me know 😊

[@tuckabird]

Hi John-Paul - in regard to your question about being in a long term monogamous relationship, I think what I am discovering is that I best love my straight partner through the fullness of my bisexual identity. I'm learning that bisexuality is a gift.

[@JohnPaulDaviesTTP]

Hi there, thanks for your comment, I really appreciate you taking the time and what you say. It’s great to hear that you see your bisexual identity as an asset. If you ever feel like saying some more about that here, then please do, because I think it’ll be so valuable for people to read. Thanks again

[@tuckabird]

@@JohnPaulDaviesTTP I can relate to a lot of David's experience (Video 3) as we cover a similar time frame - As a young person I just suppressed the queer part of me, even though my closest relationships were men who later came out as gay. When I first accepted my queerness, I had typical "bi-cycle" feelings and swung between seeing myself as gay or straight. It took a long time to accept my bisexuality / queerness as a single integrated thing - IFS therapy helped to understand how to create internal harmony, and the experience of other bi men helped validate I was not alone.

[@JohnPaulDaviesTTP]

@@tuckabird it’s great to hear that you’ve navigated what can be such a challenging journey, I’m sure it’s been difficult at times, but so glad for you for the place it sounds like you’ve reached. Also pleased that you mention IFS as a way of integrating all the different, sometimes conflicting, parts, it’s a great suggestion for people looking to process all of this in therapy. Thanks again 😊

[@user-vr3uh4xu6w]

This is so helpful because there is not enough information out there about these issues. Thank you 😊

[@JohnPaulDaviesTTP]

Thanks so much for saying, really glad to hear it was helpful. As you say, not as much as I think there should be out there on this subject

[@johnmoseley6618]

Thank you for this helpful video.

[@JohnPaulDaviesTTP]

You really welcome John, I’m glad it was helpful. Thanks for saying too, I appreciate it