COMING OUT AT 25 - I didn't know I was gay

A Rookie's Guide to Pride - Coming Out As Bisexual
My coming out story. How I knew I was queer, my coming out journey and my advice if you are thinking about coming out to your friends and family!
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[@laurasalminen3443]

Oh my love! This made me so emotional. This video will hopefully help wo many people to both be more accepting and treat people kindly but also be more comfortable with themselves. I’m proud of you hun! X

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you so much!! ❤️

[@lestudio76]

Everyone struggling with their sexuality or identity, you’re ok. You’re loved and supported.

[@youtubewatcher830]

thank you :,)

[@alwaysamayaa]

I love to support my fellow ladies of the LGBTQ community. It was so hard coming out.

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Appreciate that! Same here ❤️🌈

[@NOCOMMENTARYGAMINGUNBOXINGS]

I subscribed because of this video. So moving and heartwarming. I always let my anxiety get the best of me. Great advice!

[@Skanzy69]

Really proud of you Soph! You're a wonderful person and I wish you all the best - Your Beard 😊 x

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Hahaha thank you! 😂

[@113nightbird]

Hi Sophie! Thanks for your video. I was questioning my sexuality for quite a while and then stopped thinking about it. I realized that the feelings I had were not going away. I still feel weird sometimes, scared, depressed, anxious, and then happy. It's like a ferris wheel of emotions like the way it was explained in the movie Love, Simon. I am also hoping to see a counselor about dealing with my feelings. Take care! :)

[@shanndebeer3736]

You had me in tears. Thank you for sharing this ❤️❤️

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you!! ♥

[@lancescreepyreading]

I was the same way realizing I was bisexual. Ironically, I also accepted that I was when I was 25 too. I came out to some friends and family. It felt very good because most were accepting.

[@TheAwesomes2104]

I was also the "straight" friend in the otherwise entirely LGBTQ+ friend group. I used to get aggravated because they were all waiting for me to come out and I had to keep trying to convince them that I was actually straight. Turns out I was really trying to convince myself more than anyone. How did they know? Can't say they were 100% on the money though, they were all thinking lesbian or trans man, but here I am, a she/they polyamorous pansexual.

[@truthsurgeon6401]

Thanks for this. When I was 17 I locked myself in my room and cried all day as I realised I had feeling for other women . I'm bi. Back in the late 70s early 80s it was the worst thing ever to be. You were treated like a disease!! Thank heavens things have changed.

[@ic3dc4st]

Because comments are good for the algorithm Much love ✌️

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Hahaha thank you 🙏🏼

[@TaneeshaMonique]

This made me emotional, but also inspired too. You seem so empowered and strong, extremely happy for you. Thank you for sharing your story 🥰❤

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Glad you could relate! Thanks for watching 😚

[@JaviNJose]

Ok off the bat I freaking LOVE your accent! Let me watch this. New subbies here.

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Javi N Jose Thank you guys!! Subbed back 😁❤️

[@ليلىمبارك-ع6ف]

I struggle sometimes from internalized homophobia. It's horrible feeling. The worst ..

[@Victori.A1]

Blame straight people for that. They brainwash everyone into thinking being gay is wrong

[@stial]

This is the best coming out, soo supportive! Thank you so much!

[@nairbvel]

I'm your typical boring cis male, but I just wanted to say your family sounds absolutely amazing. :-)

[@dot.atsauce6134]

So proud for u, I may not part of the community but I have cousins and friends who are part of it. This is an another PoV that could help others to understand them or the whole member of the LGBTQ+ community. ^^)

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Aww thanks! Happy to help 😚

[@Biggest_Luisa_Fan]

This is so so relatable!!! Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring story!!

[@loveallycastle]

Sophie!!!!!!’ Can we be friends? You’re amazing!!!! And also, I have that problem too sometimes when there’s someone mowing outside, and I’m like “oh when can I shoot?” Thank you for sharing your coming out video with us!!!! I love you with my whole heart, and know I’m your KZbin sister. If you ever come to DC, let me know. Love that your grandma just said she just waited for u to tell her. And yes, love what you said about finding your tribe. If there’s anything I can do for you, I’m here for you okay? Keep on shining sis!!!!! You’re beautiful inside and out! And God bless you!!!!!

[@SOPHIEELORD]

AllyCat!! Thanks so much girl, really appreciate all of this. Look forward to more videos from you also 🌈

[@alyssamaze5812]

Thank you for this. I need this so much right now

[@smurf2789]

Jeeze, you can tell just how real you are in this video. You're gorgeous and an amazing presence. I couldn't stop watching. Great video and I can't wait to see what has yet to come 💜 keep it up and much love to you

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thanks so much! Keep your eyes peeled 😊❤️

[@smurf2789]

Yes ma'am 🤓 no problem there lol

[@dennicedeguzman]

Spread love!! You are loved! 💕😊 wish you all the best! Keep safe beautiful! 🤗

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you!! You too ❤️🌈

[@thedancingdweeb633]

OMG! The beginning is such truth. My dad always decides to mow the lawn when I start recording lmao. Love the video! Happy pride 🌈🌈🌈

[@SOPHIEELORD]

The Dancing Dweeb hahaha thanks so much! 🏳️‍🌈

[@thedancingdweeb633]

@@SOPHIEELORD I also spoke too soon before watched the rest of the video but... Thank you for being so REAL when talking about this and hopefully you inspire others to come out.

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Awww thanks man, I really appreciate that! 🙂

[@shifunumbertwo]

I loved it and I’m so proud of you, as always

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Love you!!

[@steevoridgeline]

i had to listen it again. so touching and reflecting of what im going tru myself. such a perfect video ☀💕 thx again Sophie

[@ItsRugile]

Wow that was so brave for you! Very proud 🥰 You are an amazing person and don’t ever be afraid to be yourself ❤️

[@ohxo9783]

Instantly subscribed! This is such a great video, congratulations for your first video and I can’t wait for more! Xxx

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you!!

[@ohxo9783]

Sophie Lord you are very welcome :) x

[@zzzzzzzzz2780]

Your story has really touched me, and hearing your voice makes me miss you loads wish we were in Cardiff eating a big pizza xxxxxx

[@SOPHIEELORD]

I would love nothing more ❤️ thank you pal xxx

[@ThisIsJessPaul]

This was so real and so beautiful. Thanks for sharing, Sophie :) Inspires me to one day record my own coming out story.

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Go for it girl!! You have my support 🌈

[@eline5093]

dude i think you're gonna be my mentor

[@SOPHIEELORD]

hahaha love that! thank you x

[@jammu157]

When my 14 year old daughter came out, it was when her special friend had many sleep overs In oure house. One day my daughter asked if we can buy a wider bed for her so her friend dont have to sleep on the floor. So we went to IKEA and while we were there I asked if this wider bed is something she wants to tell me and if so should we then buy a wider blanket for them so they can fit in together. Her smile told me everything.

[@marianelamerille8027]

You are a kind and beautiful girl inside out. Good Luck in your career and love life 😻

[@Mystaza]

your videos are really helpful.

[@drina_paris]

I love how open you are. Love the video. Grandma's always know.. same thing happen to me. New subscriber 😇

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Aww I appreciate that! Thanks so much guys 🌈

[@drina_paris]

SOPHIE LORD here’s the link to my story. Complete opposite🥺. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aGKqYXlsaZmHabc

[@xXiisii]

Hey hey! Came from the Facebook group but couldn't comment on your post any longer. So stoked to find another queer youtuber there 🦋🌈 I'm gonna leave some love on your videos as I'll be watching them all now haha :)

[@SOPHIEELORD]

A fellow queer!! Will check out your videos 🌈 Thanks for the support 🙂

[@kevinjoseph]

Thanks for sharing your personal story Sophie! I'm sure this will/has helped many people.

[@williammoses6460]

About that mower, for years whenever I asked for a moment of silence a small airplane would start circling the area. Or it was a chain saw.

[@lilxdkidz]

Thank you for opening up. Really difficult for sure. But thank you for this.

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you, I appreciate it 🌈

[@kerina6594]

Sophie, I identify as straight but your story is so beautiful! Love is love! This was very brave. At school people used to use being gay or bisexual as an insult and I just am horrified at the homophobia that you’ve revealed that LGBTQ+ people face. You shouldn’t have to be persecuted for who you love. Wishing you the best!

[@bubba283]

I wish I could be this open about being a gay guy it's depressing and embarrassing

[@kerina6594]

@@bubba283 I’m sorry that you’re feeling like this. I promise that it will get better for you ❤️ I’m an ally and trust me, most people these days are very tolerant and accepting. You’ll be okay :)

[@bubba283]

@@kerina6594 I've heard that before, I've learned there's way more gay guys than people think, I'm just glad I can watch gay guys on here when my mother's gone like now

[@landslave]

Obviously a model level beauty on the outside....but that is the "common" part of Sophie. Hands down, the beauty in this lass is on the inside. I feel lucky to have happened across her pride video. You're good people, Sophie. Be yourself and the world will be richer for having you on it.

[@ellouisebadger849]

This video was recommended to me on here and SAME. I didn't know and only came out at 25 as bisexual.

[@bubba283]

I used to think I was bi, but i later realized I'm gay, I like guys too much

[@JohnPaglinawaan]

Always hate it when random noise starts to occur everytime I start filming too.

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Every time haha!

[@avoquadofpv]

Super great video, I really enjoy your editing! Thanks for posting this and sharing your story. 😋 can’t wait to see your next videos. Happy pride month 🌈

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Appreciate that! Happy Pride Month 🌈

[@humeyrart2552]

Hats off for the grandma 😁 I’m happy for you 🤍🤍

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@holscouch]

Thanks for sharing your story! ❤️

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you for watching! 😚

[@Dipesh-ml4zi]

hiya babez your video realy helped me but its hard for me to come out to my parents as indian man. i just find it so hard and dint want to break their feelings. it took me ages acceptung im gay but thats the way life is. keep up the good positive videos xx

[@MrsMrsJones]

That’s cool that all your friends came out! That’s awesome!! 🌈🌈🌈 thanks for sharing your story and being so vulnerable 💖 my wife and I fell in love real quick and we are our first same sex relationship.

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Congrats to you both!! Appreciate yous watching 🌈

[@janinramirez7]

Thank you for sharing!

[@WELLTRIP]

Im proud of you choice for freedom, and I'm here whenever you need to talk! Beijos

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Obrigada Wesley! Beijosss x

[@ArsiekDHOL]

I totally feel you. If I will come out (or never) towards my friends and family,...my mom will be the LAST person to know, because I'm also scared as shit for coming out. I'm 30 now ...

[@悟り-d6h]

i know i'm bi since i was 13 but i don't bother about the "coming out" thing haha

[@IssyRachel]

This made me feel like crying, you are so brave for coming out! I told my parents I was bisexual about 4 years ago, my Dad was so accepting but my Mum wasn't, it was such a hard time xx

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Ahh I'm sorry to hear that!! I hope your wounds have healed a little by now. Stay strong 🌈

[@eline5093]

ohh i relate to this a lot... im 22 now, only last year i realized i was bi, now i believe i am pansexual. I am so scared to tell my (christian) parents. I think i'll tell my sisters first.

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Sometimes it takes a while to figure it out, take your time! Yeah sisters are always a safe bet. Everything will be good 🌈

[@dwhite100]

Bless you Sophie dear im now Finally Comfortable with my Sexuality and I am a Proud Homo Now and no shame either. I've waited for Your Longer than me but go you dear. Love you Aloha Derrick

[@TheInteractiveLearning]

Great episode and content Sophie!

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you!! ❤️🌈

[@TheInteractiveLearning]

SOPHIE LORD my pleasure 🏳️‍🌈

[@mtadriasangge]

I am proud of you! Be yourself. Be happy :) - your new subscriber 😊

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you!! 😙

[@MommaCaffeine]

Very relatable; thank you for making this

[@CarolineYvonneHallstrom2005]

When I first saw the thumbnail I was like "OMG my celebrity crush Saoirse Ronan? So I technically have a chance now?" since you look like her, but this was the next best thing. I didn't know I was gay until recently. In fact, when the signs appeared I was kind of in denial, although I had a glass closet like Smithers on The Simpsons did. I'm a little younger than you, I'm 18, turning 19 in October. For some time I was like "I can't be a lesbian, I have a boyfriend" despite the fact that I'm masculine for a girl to the point of being androgynous and the fact I had crushes on girls. My "girl crushes" turning out to be regular crushes and my "crushes" on guys turning out to be purely aesthetic was a surprise to no one but me. My true authentic self looks almost the complete opposite of who I was expected to be growing up. Long hair, princessy dresses, graceful proper lady all that stuff, the real me is a tomboy with short hair, loves leather, and can beat anyone at an archery contest. Thanks so much for sharing your story. This year's been quite interesting for me. Now that I return to university on Monday, I'm excited to tell my friends.

[@InTheWestMids]

Amazing video, So heartfelt my friend. Glad you found the courage to say what you had to say!!! Don't know you but truly proud. Well done!!!

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you!! Means a lot dude 😚

[@jaggass]

I started questioning my sexuality 2 yrs ago. I've had genuine attraction to women but now only attracted to men. You could say im gay for now.

[@LifeatSycamoreRidge]

Great video and story. Really appreciate your videos.

[@ivysmith2794]

Thanks for being brave and telling you story

[@Morghena]

I had my first (and so far only) crush on a girl when I was 25... it took me until I was almost 31 this February to realise it for what it was and that I am not as straight as I though it was... And now I'm just like "???" It's been 7 months and I only managed to tell about 6 people. Mostly because I have no idea what is going on myself

[@ivysmith2794]

Lol you don't know what's going on yourself

[@Morghena]

@@ivysmith2794 Comp Het is a bitch to figure out

[@ivysmith2794]

@@Morghena pardon?

[@ThisIsJessPaul]

Oh, you just started your channel! Well, it won't be hard to watch 100% of your videos then XD

[@AA-lq5pu]

I couldn't even come out to myself because I was financially dependent on others. When I was in Grade 1 (I'm from South Africa) I was traumatised and verbally assaulted on the play ground because I was always looking at this cute girl in my class. I had no idea what it was, but I was confronted by this boy who came up to me and started to scream at me saying "you like girls" and then proceeded to tell me how horrible I was, possibly that I belonged in jail that I was the lowest of the low. I walked home that day, so scared that if my parents found out I would be homeless so I told myself over and over again that I must like boys, I must do everything that it takes and that the only way I would get away with it is if I hid it even from myself. A piece of myself died that day. I killed off some of my life force. All because I was afraid of being homeless and that my parents would no longer love me. I would be confused as a teenager for years because I could never get a certain girl out of my mind, I just couldn't understand why. I was introverted and never really socialized with woman, I spent my free time at church all into purity, I then became a Scientologist (a cult) and L Ron Hubbard would state that he found homosexuals to be the lowest of the low and that it is better to sleep with a snake then these kind of people. I then left the Church of Scientology (that church will destroy your whole life, career, money, health, mental sanity, not joking) I married a man, and fell debilitatingly ill shortly afterwards, I put off consummating the marriage to 2 months after we got married. I began to realise that what was making me feel better was looking at beautiful girls from movie scenes, it gave me hope. I was using it as motivation to help me heal. Sometimes I would get so exited when I went to the shops and there was a beautiful woman there, it would make my day and I would come home thinking about them and how beautiful they were, I genuinely thought it was admiration. Then one day, as a was complimenting this beautiful girl something happened, I started to feel hypnotized as we were looking into each others eyes, she had the same response, I felt so connected to her, I pulled out of it and thought, what on earth was that. I came home thinking about her, It was such a pure feeling of love and connection that came out of nowhere.

[@marizataghoy417]

So gorgeous and beautiful you are just follow your heart it's good to be true

[@SapphoSweethearts]

inspiring and thanks for sharing

[@racheldee7973]

this was so beautiful to watch! so so emotional but so proud of you! new subscriber here, can't wait to binge watch the rest of your videos! new subby here!🥰🥰

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Awww thank you!!! I really appreciate that 🌈

[@andrewpagonis5099]

I really enjoyed this video, thanks for speaking about this topic! I can relate - I came out in my 20s as well and I had the exact same situation with my friends. We all came out one after another once we finished high school. I think it goes to show we attract each others energy,

[@heyheyitsvey]

Thank you for sharing

[@bubba283]

I wish I could be this open about being a gay guy it's embarrassing I've always known I'm a que..

[@evelyntaylor5459]

I feel trap because I don’t wanna tell everyone that I am a lesbian but I cannot find a group or someone I can talk to… 😢 I’m 23 soon I feel loneliness and I actually just wanna have a gf❤ Thanks for sharing your story!

[@Victori.A1]

1:35 I assure you, it wouldn't have been easier. It would've been 10x harder. Idk if you're aware but hiding who you are from everyone in your life isn't fun!

[@williemccord7842]

I think I was 18 when I came out now I'm 31 still like girls🙂by tabby

[@emilechang5882]

Thank you! You are beautiful.

[@sakuramunch2940]

I have a friend who is a bi ( a guy ) but he hasnt come out yet to his family or he isnt really planning to :( he’s the only son

[@stuff1784]

I’m 25 and barely figuring it out, too 🙈

[@mariagordillo]

Wow I'm so proud of you this video is amazing and you are amazing. Don't ever forget that you are such a wonderful person and I admire you for that your careg is asome don't ever stop smiling ok you have my friendship for ever 🏳️‍🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈😀😄♥️❤️❣️

[@steevoridgeline]

Thank you so much ...

[@elsfml7008]

❤️❤️❤️

[@SOPHIEELORD]

😚😚😚

[@dwhite100]

Same here i was in Same situation.

[@raschidmalik464]

Are you more attracted to women, or to men?

[@Victori.A1]

Women obviously! Any sensible human would be attracted to women more!

[@raschidmalik464]

@@Victori.A1 Men are just as attracted to men. Heterosexuality is a personality disorder and leads to toxic masculinity. We are not born hetero. Homosexuality is the right sexuality.

[@dcxxxx]

@@raschidmalik464 You're out of your mind.

[@raschidmalik464]

@@dcxxxx No, I haven't lost my mind. We weren't born heterosexual, and neither were you. Why don't you try it out? What are you afraid of?

[@dcxxxx]

@@raschidmalik464 Your reply has confirmed your unfortunate illness...mental of course. 🙄

[@joeinnc4539]

Congrats that you came out! But its long winded, could you just say, I'm gay, the end?

[@jade1057]

How do I no I am gay

[@minerva7699]

Ohh my God. Anyway saying hello and greetings. I always have respect to LGBT group 'in fact they're loveliest and most respectful & also soft on earth. Godbless!

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Hello! Thank you for your kind words 🌈

[@minerva7699]

@@SOPHIEELORD ofcourse.

[@balticstain7150]

Well done it's a very difficult decision but good on you hugs..💕

[@aliceswonderland3974]

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you!

[@Mirgatsu]

@SOPHIE LORD Hi! Thx for sharing with us your story. Can I ask you about smthing that can help me? Cus I'm very very lost about my sexuality and have got so many question marks. One of them is as bisex is it "normal" or common to feels romantic and sexual attraction toward one gender and only sexual attraction (pure physical way) to another? Or most common/ "normal" is feeling both romantic and sexual attraction toward both genders but in different level?

[@evarenteria7617]

❤❤❤

[@mcwisdomofficial6013]

Impressive radio my name is M wisdom I'm New Here showing support

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Thank you ❤️

[@mcwisdomofficial6013]

@@SOPHIEELORD you are welcome dear are you on what's app I want us to chat

[@harrybullen3058]

❤

[@SOPHIEELORD]

😚

[@mei9242]

I'm sure there's a lot of women who's late bloomer too

[@angelwin1243]

Nice

[@skipandskip]

❤💙💚💛🧡💜

[@ErDaddy_T]

u are gay right? but why in the other video u are bi?

[@SOPHIEELORD]

Gay can be used as an umbrella term for anyone gay, lesbian, bi, pan etc :) same as queer!

[@resumefacts]

lesbian is better

[@noelliebtsie]

@@SOPHIEELORD I wish bi folks wouldn't use "gay." I saw "gay" in the title and was excited to see a homosexual perspective. Bi is not the same. In a lot of modern crowds you're actually a "vanilla" weirdo nerd if you're not bi. Like, all the women are just expected to be bi.

[@ciobalina7445]

I think you need to change the title to say that you are bisexual. It's for your own good though because in the future you don't know what you may end up doing. If you break up, you may decide to date men again and you will probably want to take these videos down, which is a shame. If you keep them in the spirit of the truth, this won't be a problem.

[@ArsiekDHOL]

LOL I wished I had so many guy friends 🤣

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

😎😃😊😜😍😘💖

[@silverlink81]

Helo sweetie 😊🥰😘

[@mlshowtv2330]

Sophie

[@giuseppinariva9294]

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