why it took me so long to come out, early signs I was QUEER + how to know if you're LGBTQ

[@ellstration]

"What's up with the lesbians" is the perfect title for a zine or comic about this topic Fran. 💖 And big YES to queer content, because this is also you.

[@voyance4elle]

😍yaaaas!!! 👏👏👏 That's actually a great Idea 🥰

[@ellstration]

@@voyance4elle YAAAAS hehe. 🌈✨

[@Hugbryggen]

Hehe yes we need a comic about everything in this video.

[@MovieTrollop]

I love this so much.

[@Lollopard4]

Yaaas! 🥳👏

[@MeghanCreative]

“I confused wanting to be desired by men with being attracted to men.” YES! 100% This is so helpful ❤️ thanks Fran

[@spirou55]

A huge BRAVO goes to Ed for being so supportive to you. I'm sure it was very difficult for him, but he seems so happy for you and that's amazing!

[@margherita717]

I thought the same😍

[@catinwhitetie]

As a person who realized herself being a queer in adulthood, I can say that discovering your truest sexuality is tremendous work... You basically reanalyzing your whole life lol ---Be brave Fran!

[@sarajohansson207]

As someone who is right now going through a period of questioning my sexuality, it is SO comforting hearing you talk about this!!

[@chellykins]

I totally understand and get the whole wanting men to look at me/fall in love with me thing. It's so weird that we've been conditioned to always make sure we look desirable and if men don't look at us then we're not worth anything.

[@_sumina]

Yes! I even noticed myself when in relationships with them, my mind is more focused on what they're seeing on the outside, and the way I act towards them so they can find me attractive or want me..even though I don't even like when they want me I just like to be admired or desired

[@chellykins]

@@_sumina Right? Sigh. Our poor messed up minds.

[@chellykins]

@savanna guzeler Preeaaccchhhhh 👑

[@Aaasia3]

I can SO relate to this... Always thought I was the only one. It feels (to clarify: feels, these are not my thoughts) like it's expected of me to always try to look attractive to men, but it gets so draining cause I get super self conscious about my appearance all the time.

[@chellykins]

@@Aaasia3 You're totally not alone. It really is exhausting to make sure we always look "good" especially when we don't feel like it. It takes a lot of emotional and mental effort and we do it ALL the time so it's a constant thing.

[@damonasberry288]

You’re amazing for being so candid about this, Fran! You have been my art crush (and a literal crush) for several years now, and this just makes me love you more. Honestly, I can relate to your story. I’m pretty sure that I am bisexual. I haven’t actually come out or anything but I have questioned my attraction to both men and women for years. It can be very hard to see the signs when you’re okay with both heterosexuality and homosexuality. Anyway, I applaud you for being so forthcoming with your journey.

[@tailong9548]

I think you can be both at various times throughout life. Hell, I think you can be both at the same time and it's perfectly normal. What isn't normal is our analytic mind trying to label and dissect sexuality. Forget about all of it and focus more on understanding your own energy. Our sexuality is the majority of what we are. This physical vessel is comprised of 85% h2O, right? The energy body must be close to that with our sexuality being comprised of most of the components of our being, many of which reside in our subconscious. Sexual energy is pure creative life force, it founts from the source of creation, of imagination and ingenuity. You could say it's the core of humanity. Once you realize this, you can start to understand why certain groups would be interested in manipulating people's sexual identities. Get people confused about their sexual identity and you can watch their lives implode. Yet, understanding our sexual nature (at least on a very basic, personal level) is necessary for us to feel secure as individuals. So go with your gut (subconscious). Analyzing sexuality with the scientific method yields very inaccurate results. Go with the flow, focus more on your reasons why you're you and who you is and what you need to do for you to feel at ease, safe and ready to flourish. The rest will come.

[@FrancescaCorno2]

Omg Fran. I am on minute 14:40 and I have to stop and writing this. I turned 30 a couple of weeks ago and in June I came out as bi - even to my boyfriend of 2.5 years. And on Friday (today is Sunday in Italy), I told my therapist "I think all the mid-long relationships I had with men weren't really 'love', but attraction to their lifestyle, their possibility, their carrier". Yes: as a shy, bullied, introverted human being, I looked at the white male model as a thing I couldn't have but that I could live vicariously through them. Maybe Chile and Italy differ on a lot of other things, but their idea of both women and "right" relationships are really, eerily similar. Hugs from Italy, from a fellow Fran(cesca) ;)

[@ShadeLeeds]

"I looked at the white male model as a thing I couldn't have but that I could live vicariously through them." This is so interesting! I feel like I agree. My parents weren't terribly supportive growing up so I think I got into these back-to-back long-term relationships with men because it was nice to think I would have someone who could support me, care for me, and take the lead. Even though I didn't realize it at the time, I wasn't thinking "I'm so in love!", I was thinking "I'm so comfortable!" Being with a woman would mean I have to stand taller on my own because we'd both have the short end of the stick in society. Of course that's because of misogyny and its worth it to follow your heart.

[@NicollesDreamsShop]

Thank you for such a candid video, I am so glad that you were finally able to learn more about yourself

[@bunnybaker2289]

Omg! Ily! I didn’t expect to see your channel here💕 love your stuff🥰

[@Beaut_Beau]

As a straight man, i love seeing you discover and accept your sexuality. I have never had to experience it myself and i am happy you managed to eventually escape the religious judgement and come out as you truly are!

[@Cafeinacoli]

love you Fran! "sexuality is fluid" is a keeper 🤍🌿✨🦋🌾🌈

[@cmmndrblu]

Sexuality being fluid is more of a reality for bisexuals than it is for the average gay or straight person- and that's absolutely ok

[@AudraAuclair]

Thank you so much for this Fran, it was super relatable and helps me on my own journey. Best of luck on your new journey. 💕

[@_foxpuppet]

I've had a few realisations about sexuality and gender throughout my life and it's always scary and liberating and frustrating and such a relief to sort through it all. What I've found is the good always seems to outweigh the bad because feeling like yourself is a comfort that outlasts anyone else's disapproval. Keep being yourself and loving it!

[@llamabean529]

I always appreciate how you make your experiences educational/ bonding with your community outside of art or business stuff.

[@orange17apple]

"i was solving the wrong puzzle" daaaaang. love u fran! thank you for candidly sharing, always, and for being out and brave! 💖

[@zlsdwyys]

As someone who is somewhere in the asexual spectrum, i can relate to being mindblown to the idea that there are different types of attractions too. It really helps me to map how i feel toward the people around me and what kind of attitude i need to work on.

[@mayaathena3917]

fran, thank you for sharing such a vulnerable part of yourself - i cant express how much this means to me personally, and how much i know itll mean to so many other queer folk, especially those struggling with their identity. thank you for being candid, for being honest, and for sharing yourself. sending so much love your way fran - and pride as well !!

[@stephanieweinger9378]

Fran, thanks for your bravery and honesty. I think you have created an amazing resource for people who are not only questioning their sexuality, but people who are going through any type of self discovery. Proving how important it is to slow down, and find the emotional space to discover and explore your own believes, influences, tendencies and actions. Its very inspirational to hear. I wish you the best of luck on your journey and hope you find comfort, confidence and happiness! Looking forward to more videos!

[@RonjaRdatter]

I resonate so, so much with this. I was a very late bloomer, I wasn't really that interested in boyfriends and my parents actually questioned me several times about whether I was gay. I grew up to think I was bisexual, never realising that what I had mistaken for desire for men was actually wanting to be desired, and that while I was romantically attracted to men, I wasn't sexually attracted to them. First time I was with a woman things clicked into place, but it was really, really hard for me to accept as it alsi meant leaving the man I was building a life with, and what if I was wrong. I was in my mid-thirties, and I just could not comprehend how I hadn't known. I felt so stupid and scared. Compulsive heterosexuality is so pervasive. So yeah. I'm so relived, somehow, when I hear other people also went through this, though I wish we'd been allowed/able to figure this out much sooner..

[@hdubbs9174]

Me a straight: Omg, but women are prettier than men tho. Fran’s Friend: Lol no. Men are hotter. Me a “straight”: 👁👄👁

[@mdust8409]

Bruh xD, literally me. Although i dont have my sexuallity defined i've always think this and i always thought this was the rule xD.

[@jelkafabianova2801]

@@mdust8409 i am an ace but i notice pretty people all the time and well... 9 out of 10 times it's a girl

[@mdust8409]

@@jelkafabianova2801 HAHAHAH i know what you mean xD . I think I'm ace or demi but one thing I'm sure about is when I like someone in an aesthetic way it happens more with women .

[@ENFPSIS]

​@@mdust8409 LMFAOO REALL I always have though women are prettier and better looking than men..

[@martinamendezfernandez]

Yo me di cuenta de que era muy altamente probable que mi persona fuese bisexual a los 26 años. Básicamente este año. Hacia principios. Estoy en una relación con un hombre y, dado que también me gustan los hombres, esto es fantástico para mi; pero quiero que sepas que darse cuenta "tarde" es perfectamente normal. No es algo que todo el mundo se plantee en la adolescencia o que "les llegue de forma natural". Estoy muy orgullosa de lo que estás haciendo, Fran. Todo mi ánimo y amor.

[@aderita209]

Totalmente a mi me paso lo mismo. Yo tengo 34 y recién en el 2018 me di cuenta de que me también me gustan las mujeres y los hombres y que soy bisexual. Y en verdad como dice Fran, todos los ingredientes de no tener representación y que tu familia no acepta hace que te des cuenta más tarde. Ahora que tenemos tanta representación especialmente en cosas importantes como Loki o Brooklyn 99. Y so también anima mucho a salir ☺️

[@JaniceRafael]

You are amazing Fran. You have been through so much and still turned into such a brave, outspoken, smart, beautiful woman who is now speaking to over a quarter of a million people. Way to go. ❤️

[@gigigifts1792]

A lot of people are scared to have these discussions. Thank you for making this video.

[@debbiedrawsfunny]

Sending hugs and love and high fives, Fran! I’m so happy for you that you can be your true self no matter how long it took to figure out- most of us spend our whole lives just stumbling around trying figure out who we are at our core. And you’re getting there and that’s a beautiful thing🌈✨

[@voyance4elle]

💛🧡❤️💜💙💚 We are here for you and this new exciting chapter of your life 💗 I wish you the best adventure of being yourself and exploring what that means 🙏

[@RarePeach]

This video is so heartwarming, i can't. Fran, you are wonderful!

[@BrenzerM]

You are completely relaxed! You can see it a mile off with your body movements, expressions etc, you are naturally flowing. Amazing!

[@kaylinrogers9916]

Thank you for making this and sharing your story! I had a similar experience (grew up in a very religious community where it wasn't accepted to be gay) and not even realizing I was gay until I moved away in my mid twenties. Congrats on learning more about yourself and I hope it only gets better from here! :)

[@anayansi_iris]

I'm definitely straight, but I think girls are hands down prettier than men. 🤭 Also, this isn't * now * a queer artsy channel. It's been. We just didn't know lol I'm happy you're able to live more truthfully to yourself, Fran. ❤️

[@explicitlyme7497]

I agree lol. I'm very confident in my sexuality as a straight person, and women are aesthetically pleasing I just don't feel the need to kiss or sleep with them or even date them.

[@angelavanart7138]

Same. I’m straight and find women are so pretty to look at. I did question it at one point but I don’t see them in sexual way.

[@rickslick1943]

I think you're a bit in denial. If you think objectively that women are more attractive than men, that's definitely not straight.

[@angelavanart7138]

rickslick19 there’s nothing wrong with admiring a woman’s beauty. You can still be secure about your sexuality and still think they are pretty. If you think it’s gay to think that maybe you’re the insecure one.

[@rickslick1943]

@@angelavanart7138 Oh, the old reverse psychology trick I see. I just want you to try and apply logic to your statement. You're saying you're a straight woman. But you find yourself looking at pretty women, probably more than men. I mean honestly it was enough that it made you question yourself. Clearly this wasn't just "admiring beauty." Anyone can look at Chris Hemsworth and notice he's attractive. But if I found myself constantly "admiring the beauty" of other men I'd be questioning myself too. Maybe you should question this admiration a bit more?

[@mag1cal_val483]

FRAAAAN 💕💕 FELICIDADES ♡♡ i also recently realized i'm not bisexual, but lesbian :D congrats, desde el fondo de mi corazón.

[@uggggggghhhhh]

This is going to get buried in the comments but I've been going through very similar struggles where I'm so confused and plagued by the same thoughts as you. I LOVE how honest you are even with things that may be a bit embarrassing or tmi which makes me feel so comfortable. I just wanted to say thank you for putting this out there, its a huge relief to know I'm not the only one and that its okay to have these thoughts! its a process. if anyone sees this, its okay, you dont have to figure it all out now and please remember that you're not alone in this.

[@gigicooper1759]

Your truth is important for all women to hear, lesbian or straight - It's like a woman cannot be whole unless a man deems it so...."I am not your EVE!" thank you for sharing

[@naranjalia17]

You are sooo amazing. My favorite person on the internet

[@Ashitathakur]

I've been watching you for years and you feel so comfortable and confident here. I mean you always had a quiet confidence to you, but here you're just radiant and I feel so proud and happy for you 😭❤️

[@womanianagrande]

very comforting to see someone ive been looking up to for a while be queer just like me. as a gay latino trans man who also grew up in queerphobic surroundings, your words make me feel so much more human. sending you lots of love

[@stephanie.kilgast]

I can't relate at all, but I'm glad you're figuring yourself out and finding who you are. You look radiant and ahem. I don't know, keep being awesome! ^^

[@the1234please]

I’ve never clicked on a video this fast. Adore you, Fran. LOVE to see you ✨THRIVING✨

[@Hugbryggen]

Hehe me too!

[@Hikariichanellu]

Me too 💕

[@gabrielbrunoa]

Fran!!! I literally had such a similar experience last month 👁👁 I got a huge crush on a lady at work then came across the comphet doc on twitter, read it through, and started crying so. Hard. And it was also the "I confuse wanting to be desired by men with being attracted to them" that got me lol but thank you so much for making this video. It was so comforting to see an artist I really look up to going through the same things I am.

[@paulaperez.ilustra]

Gracias Fran por tanto! Creo que muchos empezamos a seguirte por tu arte, pero con el tiempo, tu gran persona ha sido fundamental para aprender de tus experiencias ❤️

[@junioralejandroguardado7524]

Yo guarde un video que subió hablando de inseguridades, me ayudo mucho, lo veo siempre que me siento inseguro. La forma en que expresa sus ideas crea una conexión increíble con todos los que la seguimos. Te queremos mucho Fran

[@lusiazarate]

Fran amo la naturalidad y la gracia con las que explicas cosas que son tan traumáticas y que siguen siendo bastante tabú aún hoy en día. Te admiro mucho

[@zaviyahteague4167]

The ending is really comforting, labels are scary🥺

[@winsomewurm]

Omg the feeling in the pit of my stomach when you were talking about the fear of getting called a lesbian in school! I came out so early and I still remember the intensity of this feeling. 💚

[@cristiflorescash1962]

So so brutally honest and wonderful. This was super eye opening for me. I can’t thank you enough for the trust. We love you!

[@user-ww8xt2vg2d]

I'm so glad to find this video, even being three years late. It resonates deeply within me. Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤

[@laz6063]

Holis!. No suelo escribir ni nada, pero quería compartir esto contigo, porque aunque no me conozcas, te quiero mucho. ¿Cómo puedo agradecerte por este videos? Te sigo desde hace 5 años, desde que hiciste una ilustración de Ophilia, y lo único que pensaba era -Es tan talentosa-. Con el tiempo me enamoré también de tu brillante personalidad y de tu transparencia hacía la camara. Es algo tan lindo que compartas esto, me hace sentir incluída, porque desde temprana edad supe que era Trans y Pansexual, me encanta dibujar, entonces tú me motivaste muchísimo a publicar mis dibujos (que tienen temática trans) a penas llevo unas cuantas publicaciones, pero verte avanzar me motiva a no dejar de hacerlo, porque público la información que me hubiera gustado saber a mi. Es muy valiente de tu parte salir del closet, en especial en una plataforma tan grande como YT. No puedo dejarte de agradecer por ser fiel a ti misma y seguir inspirando a la gente. Lamento lo largo del mensaje. Espero tengas un precioso día PD: amo tu cabello

[@iamaproudbookgeek6266]

Fran I just want to say THANK YOU for this video ! It helped me a lot in my own *journey* ! I have been watching your channel for many years now and two years ago when you published this video it made me feel uncomfortable and I stopped watching your videos (sorry! :( ). Few months later I had a break up with my then boyfriend (our relationship was/is very similar to the one you had/have with Ed) and your video came back to my mind. I knew something was off and that I had to watch it and start questionning myself seriously (I was 28 back then). And that was the start of a two years long journey of questionning doubting and self discovery about my sexual orientation. I now have an amazing girlfriend that I love and am out to my friends and close family -even if I'm still not sure if I'm bi or a lesbian but it actually doesn't matter that much. Your video was kind of a starting point for me and rewatching it two years later I can relate to a lot of what you're saying : no queer representation, being shy, wanting to please your family, being fem presenting, etc. This video is important and very well made. I totally agree : I think labels aren't always good because they feel so "official" and you're afraid of being "wrong". We should just follow our gutts and love who we love ! Sorry for the long message, love you and your videos !

[@daydemi]

thank you for being so open and vulnerable, sending lots of love your way! so happy you have been/are so gentle with yourself along this journey to your self. my baby gay self would have been so lucky to have stumbled upon a vid like this years ago. You communicate in a manner that is so comforting, honest, and loving 🌸❤️

[@juno4483]

I’m 20 and your journey through coming out I feel like takes awhile and I put me being queer so much in the back burner. I remember first coming out as demi sexual to friends in middle school and I got negative feedback because the people surrounding me just believed it wasn’t real and my sexuality was not real. I would just now identify as bisexual so it would be easy for everyone else but I don’t 100% believe in me being bisexual. It’s been 10 years and I’m still figuring myself out, so please don’t rush and realize your journey is your own and please don’t compare your journey through others. Thank your for being raw and open about this important of yourself it means the world, I love and support you and I hope everyone who is questioning that they find comfort that they are not alone. 💛

[@truecuckoo]

THE LIST!! 💯🤣❤️ I’m so happy for you in all of this. Looks like a big weight has been lifted off your shoulders.

[@reismaur]

thank you so much for sharing your experience with us, Fran! there's a couple things that you made me think while watching the vid, plus a bonus. first, the things you mentioned from the list that you joked about being a creepo, it was soooo refreshing to see someone talk about it! it's not creepier than anyone else, i think that everybody does that and many ppl are not aware or pretend they don't. it's a taboo, those little moments of inconsequential sexuality, bc we only recognise sexuality when it is like stamped, labeled and packed in a bikini. these little intimacies to me are much more interesting as a fellow human being than hollywood's idea of sex, you know. second, as a fellow latin-mother-language speaker, i think we have something that may either help or make it worse to grasp the concept of fluidity in sexuality, that is the difference between the two "beings" (soy/estoy). when we describe ourselves, we say "I am yaddayaddayadda", you are attaching a characteristic to yourself, but does that apply for that moment or forever? why, when we learn something about someone, we expect that that's it and that's never gonna change? there will always be closed-minded ppl that will expect you to be that person you were when they met you. but we are so multiple it's offensive to try and fit in a photographic capture of oneself. also bonus: i kept remembering sailors neptune and uranus when you mentioned your childhood haha the one good queer representation we had as kids, i think (clamp is good but also tragic)

[@nematarot7728]

I didn’t realize I’m a lesbian until I was 28, and in retrospect its so obvious. Compulsive heteronormativity baby! edit: also I got the same cocktail- homophobic catholic family, lesbian was the WORST word that no one even dared to say, and never had any representation. Its still hard to find representation 😅

[@HooliganMomma]

Truthfully Fran...you look freer!! Thank you for your Honesty and know that we all support you on your journey!!! xo

[@basicwitchstudio3598]

You seem so much happier in this video!!! Like a huge weight has been lifted, I am so happy for you.

[@TheLightletters]

Fran, I'm coming to this video super late, but as someone who didn't even think about the possibility that they might be queer until their late twenties and almost ten years into a relationship, and was femme-presenting until fairly recently because it seemed to be expected, your video and experience felt extremely relatable. I'm now fairly certain I'm on the ace-spectrum (possibly also aro and agender), and I do in fact also have a list why this should have been obvious a long time ago, but man, I grew up in the late 90s and early 2000s and even with a supportive family, representation of my experiences was almost non-existent, and compulsory heterosexuality was everywhere. Turns out defining the absence of something is super difficult (but also extremely worthwhile). Thank you so much for sharing your story! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@AshleyIsArtsy]

Never feel like you have to be chained to a label! Labels are there to help you quantify your own experiences, and to help explain them to others. The label SERVES YOU! If it doesn't any longer, off with its head! 💜 So glad you finally accepted this part of yourself, and omg the list was hilarious in hindsight 🤣

[@linzertube]

I’m sure you will help someone else who is struggling to figure out their sexual preferences. I’m happy for you having figured out this major thing in your life.💗💗🌸🌸

[@greasylee8757]

Hey girl, new fan, this video has validated a lot of feelings I’ve been working through for years as well 💕 thank you for sharing

[@jessicapootc.1172]

I admire you even more than I did before :D That was so brave. And you spoke about it so naturally. Love your drawings, your illustration style, your personality and your channel! Thank you for sharing your life :)

[@Mary-lh9bj]

thank you for this video!! i think my brain works very similarly to yours, so this video was much more helpful to me than most others

[@LennethValkyrie]

Fran, thank you so much for sharing your experience with us. I'm on a similiar boat, maybe... I'm not even sure, and it's hard to know, as you said. I'm in my thirties and ended an hetero relationship of 10 years... Lately, I have wondered about my sexuality, especially because of some points you mentioned. Like only liking famous women rather than men, finding women more attractive and I might add that I've even had fantasies with some gay women I've known... Is it crazy? Am I crazy? I don't know, I know nothing! I feel so lost, and I'd truly appreciate if you could continue sharing your pov with us! I'm so proud of you, sending you big hugs!

[@nhertanto]

Fran, I've been following you since way back when you still did HiFest, and I always use your empty calendar for yearly planning. Thank you so much for sharing all of this < 3 We love you and we're excited to support you on this new journey + adventure of discovering yourself!

[@Danari7]

I was blessed and privileged to have grown up in an open and tolerant atmosphere. I appreciate your honesty always and enjoy listening to you talking about yourself. And yes, you are free to change your mind as much as you want. Or not (-:

[@MovieTrollop]

There are so many of us going through this and it's so difficult to allow yourself to go there. This is so important. It's an important thing to talk about so we can normalize finding ways to connect to sexuality after being conditioned to ignore and/or devalue ourselves. I'm about to turn forty in a week and this last few months is the first time I've ever said any of it outside of my own head. Lots of wasted time but I'm happy to finally let myself feel okay.

[@katkatkatkat463]

you look so radiant and more confident than ever and i love it! you already seem so much more comfortable in your own skin to me and i’m sure it’s because you’re learning so much about accepting who you are regardless of any labels from society that tell us we need to tick one box forever otherwise our whole life experiences gets invalidated. it’s been beautiful to watch you grow so much in such a short time. i’m looking forward to seeing more of you being YOU queen! 💗

[@bethany.illustrations7118]

You seem so much lighter and happier, great to see you feeling more content 😊

[@FleuriAnneViolet]

I'm so happy for you that you're finding your truth and are putting yourself and discovering who you are at number 1 💕💕

[@nataliebyrne]

this list would be an amazing zine! love you so much for this! I'm bi and your honesty on your self-discovery journey hits me so much! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈💗💗💗

[@Beaut_Beau]

Fran, i am so proud of you making it through all that trauma and judgement from your family, from religion, from school and from society. It is abundantly clear you are a beautiful human being and you deserve to be at peace within yourself.

[@mirahogwards_art]

Number 9 was crazy accurate… I never knew it was a sign

[@brianajpg]

i recently came to terms with my sexuality and came out to my parents, and the way you described your thoughts, feelings, and journey was as if you were reciting my own. so thank you for sharing this video

[@AnechkaMamushka]

¡Hermoso video! Gracias por animarte a hablar de manera tan honesta sobre las presiones que te impidieron aceptar tu propia sexualidad durante tanto tiempo. Me parece super valioso que compartas tu experiencia para ayudar a otros que se encuentren todavía en la duda. Lamento mucho las cosas tan duras por las que tuviste que pasar en tu infancia y adolescencia, y espero que este nuevo comienzo te traiga un montón de felicidad

[@TwistedMuffins]

Cuando salí del closet con mi mamá ella me respondió algo que hasta el día de hoy me hace ruido: cuando uno se enamora, se enamora del espíritu del otrx, ya que el cuerpo es simplemente un envase. También recuerdo haber escuchado por ahí que la sexualidad no es una esencia, sino un continuo que fluye. Muchas gracias por compartir una experiencia tan personal 🤓

[@WauryD]

I already knew I was asexual years before the pandemic, but lockdown gave me the opportunity to reflect on my gender, and realize I’m actually agender! I know of at least another friend who came to the same conclusion during that period. Three cheers for the opportunity to know oneself better, despite the terrible state of the world!

[@louie.lenard5795]

Exact same here! Realizing I’m asexual was so difficult and I used to think something was medically wrong with me for the longest time. So happy asexuality is starting to get more representation as well!

[@belagrolaub8746]

I realized I was ace as well in the beginning of 2021. I had been suspecting it for a while but always decided "naaah, that's bollocks". Big LOL to that :D

[@Spidercandy957]

I also came to the conclusion that I was ace/Demi during 2020. I thought everyone felt the same as I did but I guess not haha! Is being fine with never having sex not how everyone feels? 🥴 lol. It doesn’t really change how I view myself or my life but it is really nice to know there are other ace folks out there who feel the same! ❤️

[@WauryD]

@@louie.lenard5795 I'm extremely lucky to live in a really tolerant place where I never experienced aphobia, so I make a point of talking about asexuality when the opportunity presents itself. Not everyone can emotionally afford to educate, but I can. I found out about it from friends, and there's at least one of mine who realized they're demi. If I can help even just one person, it's worth it :)

[@WauryD]

@@Spidercandy957 The way allosexual people view sex was SO confusing to me. People being obsessed and having "uncontrollable" urges? What? XD It didn't change how I felt either, but yeah, it's nice to better understand oneself and know there are other people out there who relate :)

[@HibisWonderland]

Thank you so much for being so open about your sexuality and everything else. I would love to see more queer content from you if you're comfortable with it and all! I've openly identified as asexual and biromantic pretty much forever (even before I knew those terms) but I've been questioning myself lately on the bi part as well. I do think I found my answer, but its still so comforting to see other people talking about their experiences! I think we really need more and a bigger variety of representation so I'm super grateful for your videos. (God, I hope I got my thoughts across, I should absolutely be in bed rn but I couldnt wait to watch your video)

[@minnie4291]

this was soo relatable fran, i feel proud of you for being able to share this with us

[@blakxhart]

Fran, you are amazingggggg. You open up so much in this video and I feel honored to be able to share in your story and your journey! Thankyou for trusting your community

[@misswhiskeykittie]

Yay big hugs Fran! It's not easy coming out x

[@Amyduckie]

Thank you for sharing so much of yourself. I’m happy you’re learning more about yourself. Also, you calling us “my loves” makes the video feel so intimate and just lovely.

[@jackieverbitski791]

Thank you for being so brave and honest to put this all out there. I'm so happy for you! xo

[@OseaSeastar]

I absolutely love these kinds of videos. Ever since I found out that I wasn't straight I'd watch these kinds of video about people just sitting down and talking about LGBTQ+, I'll watch it while doing my makeup, before sleeping, and even while just relaxing. This video in particular was really relatable and informative 👍

[@jamatwar]

Interesting and insightful. Especially since I cannot relate but it’s nice to see you open up about it! I hope that now you can express yourself in your own authentic way! 💛 will keep coming back to the arty stuff too!

[@GaryMeacher]

You are just "Fran Presenting". That's all. You are just YOU.

[@Servinah]

Thank you for sharing your journey ❤️ lovely to see you excited about understanding yourself :) I'll be honest I'm worried about people bringing up "discourse" and arguing in the comments 😅 if it seems like someone's saying something in bad faith about lgbt stuff pls don't feel bad about deleting comments/not addressing them!

[@coravelasquez]

I'm glad I stumbled upon your channel Fran. I look forward to hearing more from you. 😊

[@samirathehobbit]

i loved this, thanks for sharing and i'm so happy you've gotten to know yourself better :-)

[@clammyheart3410]

fran, i've looked up to you as a fellow illustrator for a very long time now, and i can't believe how similar our situations are! i was with my male partner for 7 years, we were engaged and i thought i was bi even though i loved women so intensely. for me, there was also no one else, no other person to make us break up. when quarantine started, all of my self-reflection, plus the help of the master doc and lesbian communities on reddit made me realize i really was a lesbian. things have only gotten better for me since then but it was so very hard. thank you so much for sharing your experience and being so open 💗

[@therealdeal2278]

Hi Fran! This Video is amazing! I was a little scared to hear your “list” because I identify as bisexual and thought that this would make me question the same things you were questioning, but it actually reinforced my feelings and made me even more sure about my sexuality, so thank you so much! I’ve been watching you since you lived in Berlin, and I never thought that I could be as brave as you, living all over the world and so on. But now I live in Berlin too, an I am loving it! You are such a brave, kind soul, thank you for being here 🤍

[@samanthamallac6170]

So admire your honesty and how incredibly eloquent you are about your feelings! And English isn’t even your first language! You are amazing. So happy that you’re happy.

[@paolaantieri8286]

Being able to live more truthfully to ourselves is the biggest gift, so happy for you Fran❤️

[@yukari15788]

the "intrusive thoughts" part speaks to me more than I would like. Very happy for you that you found the courage to figure it all out ❤️

[@noorai.6766]

Your story just breaks my heart 💔😭 But I'm so glad you're here now, thanks for sharing your story so openly ❤️

I related so much to your list!! I also feel that the 'no homo' thing has made irreparable damage to my capacity to foster intimacy, even with close friends. Because I knew I was attracted to women from a very young age, I've always tried to keep a physical distance with the women in my life, to the point where it was easier for me to be physically close to men because it was just expected. I always feel that showing intimacy to women might be dangerous for me, or something offensive if unrequited. IT'S FUCKING HARD!!

[@anikashtan]

Thank you so so much for telling us about this! You can't even imagine how helpful it was for me to hear all that💖

[@ok.takecare]

im so glad you’re opening up about your sexuality with us! i’ve always identified as bi but lately i’ve been questioning if i’m actually a lesbian. thank you 💕

[@chronicfish]

I'm so happy for you. Being a gay woman myself, I've been getting all giddy since your last video, when you came out. Sorry if it sounds cheesy :P 🏳️‍🌈💜 .. ps.. I first watched She-Ra at age 6 and it was game over for me!

[@nanamsm]

I'm so happy for you! It's so heartwarming seeing how open and honest you are about your experiences; I think it's extremely important for the community, since there are many different ways of being queer and each person has their own journey figuring it out. Thank you for this video

[@jentidd1925]

FRAN, part of me knowing I am bi (maybe lesbian now you say so many of these things) is me watching your channel for the last few years, even though I have no artistic journey. I just love watching you as a woman, and even more so now for your vulnerability and openness, it has expanded your beauty ❤ I wish you every happiness. This video could have been my story, thank you

[@Fannywikstrom95]

You are so amazing. I really appreciate being able to follow your journey❤️

[@keyabhagirath]

Thank you!!! Thank you for talking about this!! I think so many of us have these realizations later in life and we feel alone….so the importance of your vulnerability is so grand. Sending so my gratitude 🥰

[@nerueru5756]

What a warm, gentle, and welcoming person you are! I am amazed by your point of emotional availability to yourself. A mustwatch video for anyone to learn emotional intelligence, for lack of a better word🥰