Coming Out To Immigrant Parents

“This part of me is different…and what if it changes the way they see me…?”
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[@jarjardaze2485]

If you can't accept your childs sexuality than don't have kids.

[@kungensfru826]

Umm there should be a limit.. What if ur son is saying he is a Paedophile. U can't accept all sexualities ..

[@Timtier]

+Sara Grgić Well there's a difference between being a pedophile and being pedosexual. Some people are born pedosexual and as long as they don't abuse anyone or anything for their urges I'm not one to judge.

[@sammontgomery5800]

+bahram khan I think they meant being a pedophile is a crime :)

[@jarjardaze2485]

+Kalikidan Assefa yeah but your childs is supposed to be the most important thing to you. A good parent would be ready to give up on a religion for its own child. Being gay is not against religion. Plus would you rather have a depressed child who is forced to love someone that he doesn't like but be considered respectful to a religion or would you rather have a child who is the happiest person on earth but be considered disrespectful to your religion by society (not God). Your child's happiness should be way more important than your own happiness.

[@rakarachmanda2712]

Here in Indonesia, some politicans said that they would "unchild" their gay kids.

[@Megan_Jennifer]

I hate how people have to 'come out' ! I want my children to come home one day with their girlfriend or boyfriend and say, hey this is my girlfriend/boyfriend. I will not be shocked or annoyed at what the gender is!!

[@samwolf8978]

Lmao, yeah. If someone came out to me I'd be like "ok, cool..."

[@fankjkxx]

same

[@boogersarethebreakfastofch3668]

Yes. Couldn't have said it better myself.

[@iemand2612]

If my children Will do that. I would be so proud of them.😊 (sorry for bad grammar)

[@Broccoliclown]

That what i told my mom i fall in love with a person not with a gender (i am 14 and just call myself bi even tho i might be straight)

[@SylvainCosmos]

If my child came out, it would probably go something like this. Child: Mom, I have something to say that might bother you. Me: Okay? Child: I'm gay/bi. Me: ... Child: M-Mom? Me: When are you gonna get to the part that's gonna bother me?

[@seungiemyeon]

I would love you as a parent, even if i am straight.

[@micaelvertureoay6955]

TheSarahkitten42 Sorry, kinda choked on my cereal at that last part... In my case, I would be... "I read fanfiction off Tumblr. One-one."

[@MSorge13]

TheSarahkitten42 I wish all the parents in the world could be the same way as you. :)

[@hyateus]

TheSarahkitten42 thesarahkitten42 lmfaaaaaaoooooooooo

[@ergolineL]

That guy is not really vegan gains... Just a troll

[@awesome736]

If you're not willing to accept your child wholeheartedly for who they are then you should not be a parent.

[@scp049hasbreachedcontianme9]

Preach!

[@cookiebot7539]

True dou...

[@MaggieMangleWright]

I agree. My parents have been supportive

[@janekoziel6216]

I agree fully

[@em-zt9vl]

+Maggie Wright I'm happy for you!

[@katie-oy7wn]

When ever my dad uses gay as an insult it breaks my heart

[@kikifeell]

I'm sorry.

[@RAGNAR-3-3]

Katie L People gonna do that, You can't change freedom of speech

[@javierdiaz8817]

asunaa u say that but it still hurts

[@maksdavid6495]

same...

[@RAGNAR-3-3]

asunaa if they're saying what they like it technically is

[@ToriBlueBird]

I remember I went to my mom, and said "mom, im gay." She turned me and said. "Okay" and went back to reading her book. When I went to my dad and confessed he just hugged me and then walked off. They took it really well

[@lucymay3394]

Good :)

[@makeupjunkiexo1]

This is how it was with my parents! Its great that you're accepted :)

[@gamingsqaud22]

You don't understand how lucky you are. I no longer have a brother and a father because of my sexuality.

[@egg2504]

Sorry if this offends you but you moms seems like she doesn't give a shit

[@kyliep.5132]

Jordan Kan Why should she give a shit? It's just their sexuality. I feel like that's one of the best ways for parents to take it, is to just accept it and not make a big deal about it. Because really, it shouldn't be a big deal.

[@Honeygirlhaylee]

"Mom, Dad.... I'm white." "Yea. That's obvious." "Well what if I don't want to be white?" "That's not something you can change. God made you that way." "Exactly. So leave my sister alone for being lesbian. That's not something you can change. God made her that way." *Silence* "Also.... I'm lesbian too..."

[@weiwen]

gotem

[@brontewinchester3413]

Hey Hay YESS GIRL 😂

[@ivanafonkwo2857]

Straight up the best sister in the world

[@beeparadise9631]

@@ivanafonkwo2857 [coughs ^gay up^]

[@shilohramirez8291]

loved that ending

[@MarcusMeyerTricks]

My hart aches for him 2:37

[@sejdanurcapa7516]

My heart is broken 💔

[@seiarasuiters5391]

IK!!!

[@GangstaGirl1225]

💔💔💔💔💔💔☹😭😢

[@weeannie6781]

💔💔💔💔😭😭😭 I'm actually crying right now 😭😭

[@freezeblizz]

If I can give them all a hug, I will :'( , my best friend is also a gay and hasn't come out to his parents yet & He has religious parents too :( ..

[@tammy62]

I've talked to my parents about just being gay even though I'm straight, and I am disappointed in them, firstly they're racist, sexist..and now they're homophobic? I couldn't believe it.

[@TofuChan25]

why would you pick someone over their genitals rather than true feelings? tell that to your parents.

[@tammy62]

SplendidinRed 555 I don't know. They really suck.

[@TofuChan25]

Tammy Tong you should. It is a convincing argument.

[@tammy62]

SplendidinRed 555 Its worthless to even try.

[@TofuChan25]

Tammy Tong You never know until you try. Be optimistic about life.

[@RavensSarora]

The mom saying he was a bad person was so upsetting =( You don't get to love your children with terms and conditions.

[@aejlindvall]

Yeah, I felt so sorry for him.

[@elijahlumpkin250]

ExtraSprinklez ok no. it might not affect you as much but to others haing the person that's supposed to love you unconditionally say you're a bad persom. Well it fucking hurts

[@RavensSarora]

ExtraSprinklez When you are expressing something deeply personal to her, and its the person that you are, which you can do nothing to change which makes her think you are a bad person? GTFO

[@rachelgonzales5956]

It does suck but some people come from different places and families. Its hard to understand. Remember people are afraid of things that they don't understand. Its confusing and hard to accept to them. Its not like one day someone will come to you and say "well you have to accept this and it goes against your whole beliefs and what you were raised into" and I'm not trying to say that not accepting homosexuality is good I'm just saying that people need to stop calling parents "assholes, cunts,bitches" ya know? It might not be their fault. Maybe they were just raised into it. In the end its just my opinion not a fact.

[@RavensSarora]

Rachel gonzales Why I understand your point, I don't think that's a valid excuse for parents to use, They may have grown up a certain way but they have known their child their whole life. They should know nothing about their child has changed, they are still the same kid they raised, still they same person they were before, except now parents know something extra about them. It doesn't mean they weren't that way before you told them, it's just you are finding out now. If you change how you feel about the child you loved and raised over all those years, just because you were brought up some way or the other then personally I think that is just an excuse to hide intolerance behind.

[@TeqhZem]

I came out to my parents at nine. This is how it went Me: Mom! come here a sec! She's in my room now Mom: I hope this is important, Me: It is, Extremely important Mom: Well what is it... Me: Well, I feel like I don't like... Well I am not attracted to girls Mom: ...What do you mean? Me: I think Im attracted to guys. Mom: Dylan, you are very young, how would you know? Me: I just feel that way. I hope your not mad. I'm starting to tear up Mom: oh honey. don't cry. its okay, Really it is Me: Thank you ( hugs her aton) thanks for reading

[@KeySepa]

:)

[@hannahgilmore5668]

Xoxoxo

[@Nnn-oc1vl]

*Throws hearts*

[@TeqhZem]

+Kevin Milla Man, internet trolls, You need help.

[@EuLucio]

+Dylanpatrick Thistlee lol n00b its ok to feel like that. in my case ive never felt atraccted to men (im a male aswell) but i can sort of see what it feels like. dude dont feel bad about your case and reading this just makes me sad... this is your personal opinion. Your Personal Thought. But i still have 1 question.... do you still feel that way?

[@kissmewhenidiee]

My mom is really religious. One day I asked her, "what would you do if my brother or I turned out to be Gay?" I was surprised that her response was "I'll love you two no matter what. You both are my children."

[@imjustasadtwigoflemonmyrtl9043]

Vibess_ I wish my mother would be like that... I feel she'll treat me differently... Not love me.

[@KimKim-bb5hm]

Vibess_ that what my mom literally said when i came out to her

[@Domovoi5241]

Wow...

[@grrrfield5660]

I feel like if you're a parent who can't accept the fact that your child loves someone same genders then 1 that's pretty much abusing your child because you pledged to raise and love them but as soon as they have different views you disown them. And 2 that you shouldn't have became a parent, you knew these kind of things could happen.

[@leedaniels617]

Your statements are very true!.

[@MissSushi123]

Some cultures believe very different things. Chinese culture for example is reaaally strict on it and it's not their fault for believing this, they've pree much been unexposed to it and want to keep things pure and 'traditional'. Of course it is arguable that lgbt's are pure but a boy and a girl consummate to have children and they want it to transcend throughout generations, because they don't want anything that is like 'this lesbian couple is going to get someone else's sperm to have children' because biologically it won't be the couple's child but a child from someone else that they probably don't know. That's their definition of pure. IMO I believe this, but I also am aware that there are other sexualities out there and I respect a person's decision to come out as another sexuality, but yeah, I wouldn't be upset if my parents didnt support it because that's what they were brought up to be. I would be upset though, if it was another invalid reason and they knew the other possibilities and were more exposed to them.

[@grrrfield5660]

MissSushi123 Yes, cultures may not support t, but still love your child and protect them and act as a good parent and not disown them :)

[@leedaniels617]

***** You mean kinda like your picture here, that's gay, and girly like?.

[@grrrfield5660]

Guys calm down

[@laurelcook9078]

I cried for the people who didn't have their family's support

[@stasyrine7537]

It's so hard for me coming out to my parents as a bisexual cause i know they won't accept me like ever..

[@thotpretty3406]

Sta Syrine Are you okay? 🥺🥺

[@laurenokeefe7798]

I came out to my parents about two months ago. It was totally unplanned. I was talking to my mom about my two of my friends who had just started dating (they're lesbian) and she asked me if I was bisexual or lesbian. I hesitated and finally told her, I'm bisexual. I just broke down and she came and hugged me and told me she loved me for who I am.

[@laurenokeefe7798]

I am 15 years old

[@ashleeainsley944]

So happy for you !

[@ameliacallahan38]

You are so strong and I wish I could do that I am 12 and I identify as bisexual and I never told anyone this before. I want to but I am so afraid and it feels so good to tell someone even though I don't know you. If I do come out I feel as if I will be told I am to young and it is just a phase.

[@theoracleofdelfi1098]

+Amelia Beauty hey i'm sorry to tell you because I know it sucks but I've seen it, and at the age of 12 people will think it's a phase or you're confused because i'm 15 and bisexual and people still thinks it's confusion. I don't think it is at all but that's how people will probably react if you come out now. Good luck though

[@mayatarud4272]

+Amelia Beauty same but I am 11

[@snarkygrin4132]

2:50 I just want to hug him.

[@LennyTheHopeless]

My sister: "What's with all these shows about gay people?" Me: "What's with all these shows about straight people?" Silence. Yeah, bitch, thought so. XD

[@WonderingTree]

Hahaha!!😂😂

[@LogarAcc]

Lenny The Hopeless Trying to validate your sexuality through sexism, is worse than your sister's homophobia.

[@IaMSpeaks]

Msl LogYt What are you talking about. There was nothing sexist in that statement.

[@IaMSpeaks]

Lenny The Hopeless LMAO.

[@LennyTheHopeless]

Msl LogYt First of all, I'm not gay or lesbian or bi. I'm straight. Secondly, I wasn't trying to "validate my sexuality". Third, saying "bitch" has nothing to do with sexism. It's how my family gets along. So go ahead and try again.

[@scottn322]

My son is 3 years old right now. I swear, everytime I look into his eyes I feel like I could never hate him, never push him away, never try and make him feel ashamed or bad about who or what he is or will become. I fall in love with him more and more the more time I spend with him, and all we do is play and learn and explore. He's easily the coolest person I have ever had the pleasure to know, and I am incredibly lucky to be his father. I will never tell him he's wrong for being himself. I have no idea who he will become, who he will love or find attractive, who he will take to prom or if he even goes to prom. I don't know who that man is, but I'm excited to meet him, and it is incredibly heartbreaking to think of parents who reject the adults their children grow into on the basis of sexual attraction. Love your damn kids people.

[@Ninja4editS]

Scott N You.. I like you. You seem like a great father and i wish you the best in the future!

[@devonaleice2395]

You're a beautiful person

[@scottn322]

***** Thank you. I look forward to the day when someone says "I'll love my kids no matter what," and people reply with "You're a regular person." That'd be nice. ***** I appreciate that :) My goal is to be a good example, so that if my son decides someday to be a parent himself, he'll hopefully be an even better one for his own kids.

[@brianmoralesmadrid3206]

You must be one of the best fathers I have ever heard of. I hope there is more people like you.

[@ipodtouch7848]

You're an amazing father and your son is very lucky to have you😊❤️

[@avasanders3354]

my grandma told me that I was just going through a phase. I was so upset, I told her that I KNOW what I'm feeling. she told me that I was going to Hell. I broke down and cried right there. we haven't talked since. its been...awful...not having her. but I know that one day, when I send her a wedding invitation, my grandpa will make her go.

[@anushkapai6876]

That's horrible😢

[@genas6703]

+Ava Sanders lol

[@thatrllybuttersmyeggroll5128]

+Genevieve St.Denis what is wrong with you?

[@bellaaa7456]

my dad said the same thing..

[@mikelfranklin2111]

+bellaaa that's why I'm not going to come out until I'm at least 15or I go on a first date I'm still 11 but I have a crush on a girl in my class all. My friends know I'm bi but no one in my family knows

[@SupDoyle]

Child: Mom..I have something to tell you.. Me: Yeah? Child: *Sign* im..gay/bi/pan/trans/poly. Me: *Pulls up laptop* Okay so this is tumblr...

[@SupDoyle]

Sup' Doyle Spread this like wildfire

[@mar-go2cl]

+Sup' Doyle did you just reply to your own comment

[@SupDoyle]

Jaiden Martinez no

[@macpollen]

I’m pansexual and pre-t.

[@Domovoi5241]

What?

[@brainfreeze7549]

a little tip from me ... don't come out until you live alone and you earn your own money

[@user-tk4gr9zo7t]

truth. I had to I've in a shelter for a year. it sucked

[@JacksiThePlayer]

Best tip ever

[@brainfreeze7549]

well i came out and my mother and she didn't accept it ... she made me "promise" her that i will change and now i am just waiting until i live alone and be myself

[@JacksiThePlayer]

brain frez It's never a good idea to come out in adolescent years.

[@3798penisholder]

Sadly that is the truth

[@kleverklogs]

I'd come out the closet, but I'd probably break the door.

[@austinnephew1550]

This made my day!!

[@miapeter9925]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@makeupdiva9713]

That's just wrong

[@stayhydrated2371]

Me af

[@Domovoi5241]

😂Man, that is hilarious!

[@averyhentzel9380]

I'm not crying you're crying. Somebody put tears in my pillow!

[@muffcz]

It's the onion ninjas TTwTT

[@blumdvil]

Avery Hentzel I FEEL ATTACKED

[@KimTaehyung-fc8gk]

yeah that isn't happening not even in a million years. not everyone has a happy ending and I know mine won't

[@mdog4909]

Wait till ur independant, or at least have a place to live, then you might cry but at least you'll cry in a bed

[@squishypolymerclay5148]

Maybe you should somehow bring that topic into the convo and see what they think of that topic :) I'm doing that and coming out. :) good luck babes

[@fuzzyfuzzyhippos7392]

Hey fellow army. Don't worry. It's will work.

[@user-lo9vu8ok1m]

Kim Taehyung Same.

[@ilovecats8855]

Kim Taehyung me too as a bisexual we get hate from the straight community as having no commitment or being confused my mom called me a lesbian whor

[@stelton25]

Next, make a video of people talking about telling their immigrant parents that they do not want to get an arranged marriage, but to marry someone of a different culture and/or religion. My parents are immigrants and they want to give me an arranged marriage to someone of the same religion and culture, whereas I just want to marry someone who I love, no matter of culture.

[@stelton25]

***** I'm sorry to hear that :( My mom always throws hints at me reminding me not to get a girlfriend or do anything like that. And I have listened not wanting to disappoint her or just overall cause drama :/

[@KaleidoscopeEffect]

if you find someone you love, go for it! your parents will get over it eventually :) It's not the end of the world, I would be worst to live with someone you don't love for the rest of your life :P

[@hikarunnn]

stelton25 Then do cause drama. You can't live a lie your whole life. If you don't want to have an arranged marriage and want to have a gf you chose, then tell her now. I know it is easier to say than to do, but you'd better do it now before it's too late. Hope every thing will get better for you! Also, I'm really sorry to read what happened to your frien, ***** . :(

[@mikeetoo96]

I want to make a family with an arabian women but im not an arab and I'm not muslim, I just hope I will found one that her family is going to be okay with it.

[@everlast19]

Nice topic for those who suffer this kind of treatment from stupid racist parents ...

[@CupcakesAreYummy667]

I really want to come out to my parents. I told her that my friend came out as bi-sexual and she said, "She's too young to make big decisions like that, it's probably just a phase." Now I can't come out because she'll say the same thing to me..

[@theoracleofdelfi1098]

I'm sorry to hear that. How old are you?

[@CupcakesAreYummy667]

Delfina Garcia Like 13, I know I can't be sure, So I'll just wait a few more years to know for sure.

[@theoracleofdelfi1098]

+CupcakesAreYummy667 hey, i know i'm bi since i'm 14 so i don't think you're confused or something, but i think people will so yeah, you should wait a little. Though, if you are feeling completely sure about your feelings don't hesitate. Good luck

[@CupcakesAreYummy667]

Delfina Garcia Thank you for your support

[@theoracleofdelfi1098]

You're welcome. We are all in the same boat. And you may have helped me because now I'm thinking about coming out haha

[@illusory7862]

Coming out to religious parents... That will be a sad thing to watch.

[@alice-ux2nr]

Not always. For example, I grew up in a Christian family and sure, the Bible doesn't speak well of marriage/love between two people of the same gender but I know a lot of Religious families that would accept and support someone who's gay etc. But your statement is true in many ways, it's sad that some people don't accept it.

[@beepboop5103]

I told my religious mom I was gay, She said she knew all along.. The problem is with my Nana, She's sickened by gays... and she hates me.. so.. I guess everyone knows, but my Nana.. Even my Papa knows!

[@alice-ux2nr]

+Leaf Glow Well good on you for being brave and telling most of your family! A lot of parents were raised in a very strict environment and sometimes are very stubborn in changing their mindsets. I hope everything goes well for you!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@brendonurie6415]

Gerard !!!! Also Ikr it's so sad how humans hate on people just because they found love

[@doggopuppernutherdoggo4216]

if by religious you mean homophobic... yes that would be scary. but i think you should stop calling all religious people homophobic! i am religious and bisexual. i am christian.

[@choridionp5173]

I don't understand, some people are like 'You're too young to know you're gay/bi/pan/whatever you are, it's just a phase!'. So... Does that mean I have to be straight until I'm 'old enough' to identify as a panromantic Agender person?

[@xydonix3293]

AMEN LMAO

[@summerl4884]

Omg thank u! My mom said it's a phase and I'm like "no I like what I like cry me a river to swim in if u hate it"

[@ttundras]

I identify as the same thing and holy god yes I relate so muchhh

[@eddieb2332]

Ikr I'm bi and when people say that it's just a phase, I just die inside.

[@choridionp5173]

Wizard Ed I feel you ;-;

[@MareikeBeilschmidt]

My parents aren't religious, but when I came out to them about me being Bisexual, my mom exploded. She said she had me for grandchildren and I broke down, right then and there. My brothers were supportive, my friends were supportive. Hell, even people who didn't know me were supportive. So why couldn't my parents accept me? I'm still being suppressed in my own home. If I even mention it, I get made fun of. It's like it's a joke to them

[@maylightbewithyou]

Mareike Beilschmidt * hugs *

[@MareikeBeilschmidt]

Thank you

[@jambamenome8481]

Mareike Beilschmidt maylightbewithyou Hey, wait for me! *hugs you both*

[@MareikeBeilschmidt]

**Hugs back**

[@newcyberia]

you can kik me if you need to talk @ gerardfob

[@jarneil11]

This made me cry. Still in the closet and scared to come out to my parents.

[@snakelemon]

If you need someone to talk to. Someone anonymous or an outsider who might help you by looking at your situation from a different perpective, just send me a message.

[@jesusp6832]

Hey hun i wanna give you some advice so listen up. Don't be afraid to come out to anyone because when you come out so many doors open for you including finally feeling free in life i hid for so long and it took its toll on me last year on jan. 8th i came out thinking my family would hate me and kick me out because they were homophobic but to my surprise they accepted me and i even celebrated my anniversary on thursday if you dont believe me i have a video on my youtube you can watch but remember if someone can't accept you for who you are then maybe they shouldnt be in your life society shouldnt tell you who family is you tell yourself who family is because family is people who accept you no matter what not people who judge you for what your not.

[@JacksiThePlayer]

Don't come out until you have a place to live and good income.

[@maybenotserious]

Jacksi :3 why u write this below every comment like this xD my best friend came out when he was 15 and everything was okay...i can use imperative too...don't make the ppl more scared then they allready are, thats bullshit!

[@karina236]

Just remember either way God still loves you.

[@caffeinatedhoe]

It's upsetting that society doesn't always agree with big things like this. Everyone has their own opinion. But saying it's disgraceful or freaky is wrong.

[@matthelm3249]

Say what you want about buzz feed but videos like this are why I still watch the channel

[@nudolee8618]

facebook.com/groups/243640219436937/ join my fb group LGBT ASIAN COMMUNITY & ADVENTURES for fun guys

[@DavidMayorga2020]

Wow I wish my parents were nicer. They haven't accepted me for the past 4 years. Everyday they tell me that I'm not gay and that I'm just sick or tempted. Like just 2 days ago we got into an argument and I screamed MOM I LIKE MEN! Then she said I'm disappointed at you and you bring embarrassment to this family.. Been living like that for 4 years and I have learn to ignore them because they don't know what it means to be gay. They don't know how to love a gay son... They just don't know...

[@iamlordemu7542]

Be patient just wait it'll be fine when you have you own place, your own job and hopefully a spouse

[@jesusp6832]

They are not parents they are random people people parents are people who try to take care of their kid and make them feel welcome no matter who or what they like dont let society tell you who your mom and dad is because they are not keep your head up and call the trevor project if you need help please to many LGBT+ suffer from unaccepting parents and i want you to be safe smile because i accept you and many people do to dont worry about those people love life and love it hun its the only happiness you need and maybe if you get a boyfriend you can even spite them stay strong love dont let them bring you down.

[@katiemartinez6352]

Your parents are mean I hope t he y understand u soon

[@superbeautybyida7174]

Man, that sucks. They don't deserve you as a son if they don't accept you and love you the way you are.

[@emilee22]

I hope I honestly have a gay child so they can be scared to come out and when they do I'm gonna be like awesome you dating anyone let's go get some pizza and ice cream and go to fucking Disney world. Sorry your parents are like that dude they are missing out.

[@marthaelizabeth1868]

I'm 14 and if I ever told my mom I'm bisexual she would be ashamed and disgusted. She won't care about my feelings she'll just care about what other people will see her as a "bad mother" because her child is "unholy". I believe that if God or w.e wants us to be happy he would accept us for who we are.

[@gustavomillas8635]

wow your amazing can we be friends just saying im not weird

[@WHYOSHO]

suchatrollت 14 At 14, just focus on yourself. Get through high school first...

[@femaledog9239]

Flex dont de rude idiot she can do whatever she wants and its her opionion so shut up okay

[@gracem.y1637]

I'm your age and I honestly think you need to validate yourself before you start telling people that your bi. Give yourself sometime to learn about yourself. I hope for all the best in your life.

[@RavenLovesArt]

So is she supposed to tell people she's straight if people ask? "Straight until proven gay?" Is that how it is?

[@SleebyRise]

If I had a child who was homosexual or whatever, i wouldn't care, seriously what's wrong with it at all? Oh you say the family won't continue? Who cares this family wasn't good anyway lol.

[@LuisMartinez-pc5uf]

Damn, lol...

[@jaelleouapou4578]

so true though

[@angelicasanchez4821]

I'm with you there ✋🏻

[@em-zt9vl]

And you can always adopt, too! The family isn't ending!

[@IzzySavides]

They could still get sperm donations

[@augustcopcutt]

My dad was an atheist, my mom was Christian, coming out to my dad as a bisexual and bi gender was really hard but he just said "Are you sure?" and I said "Yes" and I couldn't remember much after that. Talking to my mother about this was a different story I said with a big smile on my face "Mom I'm bisexual and bi gender" at the time I didn't live with my mother, and she was in another country so I was talking to her on skype, the look on her face just screamed disappointment all she said was "Oh.." and then changed the subject. All I wanted to do was end the call right then but then she told me a story about a girl who was a lesbian and she got married to a man. I was so confused as to why she was telling me this story that I felt so sad that she didn't want me to be who I was. She said another time "Why do you have to be to genders?!? Why can't you just be you!" and I replied with "But this is me.." and she said "No it isn't"

[@luminoushaze2667]

I'm sorry, im sure you didn't deserve that, but if its who you are then ignore them, in the end you only have yourself so you shouldn't feel bad about yourself due to other people. Im sure your a great person and go ahead and love who you love and be what you wanna be.

[@xxtriggerwarningxx3960]

My parents don't like gay people or lesbians or transgender a or anything like that and I'm bi they make fun of them and I'm scared to come out and I probably never will and I'll just have to hide it because I don't want my family to hate me and it's sad that I can't be who I really am...and I wish my parents could be more accepting of those things....

[@helmi7923]

honestly, this is you. it's a part of you. try to prepare yourself for all reactions before coming out, but i suggest that you do it. being out of the closet is better than being in it. if your parents don't accept you for it, then you need to tell them that they can't tell you which kind of people you love and want to be with. you just need to be brave but make sure to prepare yourself. you can't be stuck in the closet forever. someday coming out is the best thing to do. try to explain to them and prove your points.

[@kay_503]

i know exactly what your going through

[@monsterprincez]

They must doubly hate me, as a gay trans guy! Anyway, enough about me... if you don't think your parents will accept you for who you are, then surround yourself in your loving *chosen* family, aka your friends. Friends are even better than family in some cases.

[@domingopgarcia8391]

Life or Death i know the feeling, I have the same problem. Back when I left for college, that was when I really embraced who I am and openly came out as bisexual, but then fate forced me to move back in with my parents and I have to hide it, under fear of being thrown out to the street. It is hard to regress like that, going from acceptance to fear, at one point I hoped it just was a college phase, that I only was curious, but I am bi and have to keep that inside and it kills me a bit everyone day.

[@sarahkinsey5434]

I feel the same way

[@tregetletterwood1919]

If I came out as gay my mother will summon the Dalai Lama...

[@melodys9188]

What is that? I honestly dont know

[@wongfeihong56]

+Melody Shang Tibetan Buddhist high monk. Really no big deal Buddhism is open to gay

[@greenmatius]

Gay was never an issue in Buddhism. In fact, love, lust and sexuality was rarely discussed in the religion

[@sharkman138]

don't Buddhist except most things tho

[@erenwastaken410]

Treget Letterwood ;-;

[@bitofapill2872]

I'm 15. I was bawling when I came out to my dad as bisexual. I thought he would disown me or something, but he said it was okay and that he loved me, I'll awlways be his baby girl. I have only come out to him and my friends. I like one of my friends, whose a girl. But another friend told me the girl I like is homophobic. I really like this girl, but I know she will never like me back. Help me...

[@jessicasalinas2998]

what's ur ig

[@suzettezerkle1394]

i told my dad that I had a friend who was bisexual and that she was scared to come out to her parents and he told me that it's a shame she felt scared to tell her parents about something such as her sexual orientation, especially since it wasn't her choice. I came out to him a year later and he said that he was disappointed in me because I was following a "trend". i still don't understand what the difference is between the made up girl and me. but either way, my parents had a bad reaction and they have kind of pushed it aside and still think that I'm straight so...good coming out story, right?

[@Katie-js7cc]

my moms are lesbians so "coming out" wasnt a problem and i basically just said hey mom jen i have a gf named tru and they were like cool

[@tomiew1746]

Lucky you!

[@Katie-js7cc]

+Kate Biersack I know

[@mariakloss395]

my father says always when a gay couple is on tv it's not natural go be gay and that it shouldn't be allowed that gay people are together. and the worse part is i'm gay and i have to hide it because my dad would freak out if he knew😢.

[@laweirdo312]

Rashmi is so pretty!!

[@rainaholland2504]

Heh ya

[@asharaholland3513]

+Raina Holland lol same. last name

[@eeki3113]

I PLAY FANTAGE TOO

[@sakurakireinagrace]

At school I'm openly pansexual and am even President of my school's Gay Straight Alliance Club. I go to GAYLA (LGBTQ+ and Ally Prom) every year. I am heavily involved in my school's policies and am even working with other teachers and peers to pass new policies that will protect all LGBTQ+ and open up new Trans bathrooms. I have even gone in front of my board of ed and advocated for my friend to be able to use the locker room of her choice.I'm out at school as pansexual however it's not the case at home. I would give anything in the world to be out to my family. I know if I do I will be rejected and lose my family and I can't risk that. But it's so hard. It kills me that I have to lie to my parents everyday. I hurts that I can't feel comfortable enough in my own home to be who I really am. My parents are very religious, strict, and spanish. They have a very traditional way of thinking especially my mother. I love them to death and it would destroy me if they ever found out. I know I will be a big disappointment and a disgrace. I will get shunned and possibly kicked out. I'll lose their love. I don't want to lose my family so I will continue to let myself suffocate in this closet that I'm trapped in. The only thing I can do is have hope that things will change. Hope that my parents will be able to be more accepting, that my mom will change her outlook on life, that I can finally bring home my partner and not have to lie about who I'm seeing. I'm sick of the lies. I'm sick of constantly lying about where I've been because they can't know I'm President of GSA. I have to hide certain parts of the permission slips so that I can go to "Gay" Prom without them drilling me with questions. I hate having to hold in my thoughts because I know if I keep talking about the girl I like they will eventually catch on. All of these lies are just accumulating at the bottom of my heart and weighing me down. It's eating me alive from the inside. Fears plague me day and night. I'm paranoid and scared and alone. I wish I had my family's support.

[@mangohija]

Grace Marie im a queer latinx as well, i dont even know who you are but im so proud of you for doing all these amazing things

[@Vickyy_]

Grace Marie just wanna say that it's awesome what you do for LGBT+. ❤

[@ayaa5630]

Grace Marie what does the Q in LGBTQ stand for?

[@Maiisevil]

my mom would disown me her christianty would tell me to go to church and therapy

[@saigautam7015]

Just wait till you moved out or something and then you could come out, so that if they disown you, you are on your own

[@daniellenielson946]

_Dratini _ exactly......

[@friendsdodumbstufftogether6083]

Thats what i thought but it went good i did a reverse coming out mom had dug through my room and found my notepad that had it all written down i was scared so I denied it and its not true but it is and she was like me and your dad love you no mater what

[@GCKMimi]

I have a dream of opening my home to people who have been turned out of their homes because they're not straight. No one should have to be ashamed of who they are.

[@GCKMimi]

*Provided it doesn't harm other people. -.-

[@GCKMimi]

Gay parents who adopt have had to fight for their child and won't take them for granted or judge them for being different. As for bullying, kids can be bullied for absolutely everything. I was bullied for being quiet, being new, being a bookworm, being... well, me. Children of a same-sex pair can always come back with "Well, I was picked. Your parents just got stuck with you."

[@Whateva20023]

+GCKMimi god bless

[@Pencilshaving]

I came out to my mom (only parent) and she just totally denied it. but it's who I am so...

[@minkyungx7243]

that's what im so scared of, my mom is the only parent i have now. and like what happens if she shuns me? like so many questions

[@itzashl3y133]

Bin Child congrats babe!❤️❤️its doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, you had the courage to come out, embrace it😊💙

[@zara.1212]

Well I'm proud of you 💕

[@Mcloven1503]

I know that mom wouldn't care but my dad I'm scared of

[@kendaru8755]

Same

[@melodys9188]

Aw good luck! It's okay! Have hope, you're worth it. 😊

[@laurentague9640]

My mom is always understanding and supports things like this, but my dad thinks it weird and he hates it.

[@radchiken4812]

me 2.

[@aria7897]

same.

[@oharuarchive]

IM pan sexual and genderfluid. I'm dating my girlfriend who I love dearly. When I came out my parents laughed and said it was just a phase. A year later I came out as pan sexual. I know they find it hard to believe so I keep my mouth shut. I'm kind of a mute at home but I feel free when I'm with my friends. I have a long distance relationship. It isn't hard but I'm never allowed to even say if I could meet her while were in her state.

[@oharuarchive]

***** We video chat. It's all good.

[@jeroenimo6902]

Why aren't you with eren?

[@ravenessie5862]

Im bi and 12 and a christian only three people knew but now the whole internet knows but the difference between me and everyone else on the internet i am smiling when i say it becuase i am not ashamed i am proud so my messgae was to be yourself and dont be sad or ashamed your gay lesbian bisexual pansexual or anything else love yourself for who u r -someone that cares

[@ravenessie5862]

Lolly.rose thx and u too

[@Bugchannel]

It's kind of hard to know your sexuality at such a young age. Usually you'd discover your sexuality around age 15. Quite honestly until you date someone you have no idea. You should give it more time. But don't worry it'll be alright. Just trust me

[@ravenessie5862]

chubbybuggy games I have known since I was six and yes I have dated boys and girls and im bi

[@ravenessie5862]

Lolly.rose that's ok u will find your confidence just imagine your crush as a normal person because that's what they r just imagine them as one of your friends stand up straight and things will get better

[@smartdevilevil]

lmao ur fkin 12 holy crap at that age i didnt even know what sexuality is... fkin kids these days

[@notsonormaloffical21]

there's nothing wrong with gay, lesbian, bi, trans etc and if your child is anyone of those things accept who they are because no matter what you do that's who they are and you can't change that. My sister is a lesbian and i love her so much and my mum accepts her for who she is. I'm bisexual and it took me a while to come to terms with my sexuality but i finally accepted it. What I'm trying to say here is you can't change people to your liking that's who they are so you should just accepted that.

[@notsonormaloffical21]

Why? They should accept who u r. X

[@notsonormaloffical21]

Ohhhhh okay

[@oxysgf]

I'm bisexual and so I told my friend, because she wanted to know who my crush was, and little did she know it was her, and I told her and she told her and so I asked her out and she said yes, so now we are a happy couple, but we haven't told our parents yet, my sister is against it and I don't rly know about my other sister, and I afraid with my parents because now everyone and all my friends think of me differently, and I am thinking that they'll hate me, and my grandma, she's very religious and, I'm just scared because I wanna wait until I'm like 13, I'm only 11... And... I'm just so scared..

[@notsonormaloffical21]

Ohhhh well the best thing to do is sit ur parents and grandma down and explain to them and try and make them understand. That's the only advice I can give u.

[@jaynachanea9968]

Literally this how the convo would go if my child came out to me Child: hey mom, I'm gay Me: that's great honey but did you do the dishes Child: no Me: your grounded Child: for what for being gay Me: I would never ground you for being yourself and being who you truly are but you didn't do the damn dishes and now I have to eat lasagna on a paper plate

[@satanisjustanemoangel6930]

I actually got grounded for three month for trying to tell my parents I was pan

[@WoahitsSitlaly]

Parents should know to love their children just the way they are, to accept them in this harsh world.

[@mikeetoo96]

I Agree

[@Monisirfan25]

I'm in this situation... Both my parents are Muslim, and very religious. I know they would choose their religion over anything else, thy including me. Which is pretty unfortunate. I'm 17, I'm out to my friends and people around me, just not my parents. It's so difficult, not being able to be myself at home or around them. They don't accept the ideology, it hurts me so much every day.

[@suburbanhippie5464]

Good luck you'll be able to move out when you're 18 right? After that you are an adult and can choose to tell them with out facing the risks of coming out while living with them. Good for you, coming out to your friends. Stay strong & good luck.

[@hikarunnn]

I came out to my gay mother one and a half year ago (I was 21). She asked me to wait before coming out to my father, so I did, but I know he is already aware of my sexual orientation (he once casually asked my mother "Our son's gay, right?") Well, as I said, my dad has no problem with that. But my mom does. She didn't disown me or anything like that. She's just living in denial (this could be worse I guess... ) and avoiding the subject. But it was a pretty hard and long process going through before I can come out. I know what you feel. If you ever feel like you need to talk to someone who were in the same situation as you, don't hesitate to send me a message. :)

[@Monisirfan25]

Phantom Hope hikarunnn thanks guys... I'll probably come out when I'm in college or am more independent with my own living situation under control. :)

[@suburbanhippie5464]

Monis Irfan good idea. Best of luck

[@hikarunnn]

***** "As a Muslim, you should know" He never said he was. He said his parents are. Btw, your speech is dangerous. Maybe not hateful (I dunno really), but dangerous. That's exactly what my muslim mom told me. She even played CDs of Quran everyday in my room. Yet I'm still here and I'm still pretty gay. Btw, even imams do not agree about the meaning of Lut story and the views of Islam towards gay people. So, basically, your speech is biased.

[@haelz]

my family immigrated from laos. on my way to the mall, i had a talk with my mom about lgbt people. she said she doesn't care if i was gay, trans, pan, or bi. after that talk, i was smiling so hard because im bi and now that i know she'll accept me when i come out

[@sparksthedaytrader9606]

And then she flips out 😂 jk

[@xxmelaniexx101]

I am genuinely scared to come out to my parents. They are strictly catholic. The other day (TMI ALERT DO NOT READ IF YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE) I told my mother I want to wear sports bras now because I don't like regular bras and my mother straight up says "NO" and I say why? and she says "only lesbians use sports bras to make their breasts not grow". A few weeks prior, they do these things sometimes were they go out to the streets and preach/march the word of the lord and they went to a neighborhood that is highly known for LGBT... And that shocked me, it made me think that my parents are possible homophobics. At the moment I am 16 and I identify as bi-questioning, I am still figuring myself out But I love everyone basically.. I just hope one day my parents will be able to know that I will be happy if they accept everyone in this society, including me

[@-nateplayz-293]

if they are truly Catholic, they should realize that their God loves all people, and they should too. and they should definitely be able to accept their own child

[@elizabethoconcerts]

I'm a straight catholic, personally I'm not homophobic but I do get very uncomfortable. One day I'll get used to it, but it still is very awkward.

[@Shenruss]

+fueledby_fandoms Even if you can't tell your parents YET, IT'S IMPORTANT THAT YOU FIND SOMEONE YOU TRUST, BE IT A STRIGHT FRIEND, SOMEONE OLDER AND WISER IN THE lgbt COMMUNITY, A NON-JUDGEMENTAL CHURCH OFFICAL YOU CAN TRUST, a teacher, a sibling.... just don;t think you need to go through this alone.

[@amya3899]

My family and myself are practicing Catholics and to be completely honest I don't give a damn if you're gay, bisexual, lesbian, or trans. God loves everyone, regardless of sexual identification. You should talk to your parents and if they don't support you, that's just how it's gonna be because there are tons and tons of people in the world that do love you for who you are.

[@siripremfors8425]

I started crying watching this, half because of happiness and half out of sorrow for them. You have all my love ❤

[@leedaniels617]

Mine too!.

[@Julia-jw1cr]

I haven't came out to anyone that I'm bisexual yet, and that is because of the fact my family is against homosexuality. It's been hard growing up at this part of the United States (West Virginia) because everyone in my school is homophobic. I hear the words "faggot" and "gay" being thrown around all the time. No one has even came out in my school yet, it's either because no one is bisexual or they are probably too scared. My mom is very religious, I know that for a fact by one day my mom saying something insulting to the president (Obama) because he supported gay marriages. I'm too scared to come out to anyone, but I really don't know how to tell anyone. If anyone could give me some advice, it would help. I don't even know if my friends would support me, or even if they would spread rumours about me.

[@Julia-jw1cr]

***** Thank you for the advice, that sounds like a great plan for me. It would avoid me getting bullied or disrespected by my parents.

[@eileenconway2966]

Remember that you were born this way. You hold your head up high and know that you are loved, you are worthy of respect, and that you deserve to be happy.

[@maracunha1868]

Julia VanPelt If your parents really love you than they will learn to accept it. It might take a while but remember you are you and no one has the right to judge you. Dont wait to long. If people that you love cant accept you maybe they simply dont deserve your love

[@girlgamergr1640]

Julia VanPelt we are all with you so dont worry about anything :D

[@kennymccormick7354]

+Julia VanPelt I wish you could just move near me and we can be like bam! Get away from me homophobic weirdos!

[@zeldax]

I think God's pretty chill when it comes to being gay/bi/pan/everything. I feel that as long as you do good in the world, he will love you, and if you ever feel bad for doing bad in the world, he will still love you. I know this is religious talk so don't bother nagging me if I'm offending anyone non-christian, this comment goes out to everyone else, too. If we're not harming anyone, what's the big fucking deal?

[@seab6511]

zeldamore23x This ^^^^^

[@DrBitchcraft.]

+zeldamore23x I think you have the right mindset. It doesn't bother me if somebody is religious as long as they don't drag me into their business. I'm atheist but I do have times when I wonder with the thought. Have a nice day :)

[@zeldax]

NemoRosa700 i hate religious people than shun others for being different from them.. especially Christianity. I can't stand preachers next to comic con who talk about how we're all gonna die. lmao.

[@beatrizponce4972]

God gave examples of Adam and Eve soooo..... He can't be chill about it just saying 🙏🏼

[@zeldax]

tris leal i get what you're saying but.. just because he had one example of a couple doesn't mean that's the only one there can be??

[@madimurray1441]

This breaks my heart. I am not an immigrant, my parents are not immigrants, I am not gay. I plan to have children. If they came to me, and told me that they were gay, it would not change the way I feel about them. I would want them to know that I would always love them, and I would always be a safe place, and their biggest supporter. I cannot imagine how difficult it must be to not have that love and support from your own parents, because of something that is born with you.

[@biglazagna]

I'm pansexual and I was told that "It's a phase." and that it's "Against Gods' teachings." Had to play the whole thing off as a joke for my sake. Wish some people were more accepting.

[@maylightbewithyou]

Precious Durins

[@strawberrybat3281]

I DID THE EXACT SAME THING!!!!!

[@TippoTheGamer]

Precious Durins what is pansexual?

[@biglazagna]

Tippo​ It's defined as an attraction to all genders :) If you Google it there are quite a few good sites with more in-depth explanations if you're interested uwu

[@gottacatchmall]

Hey! I'm pan too! ^~^

[@kikyouwuv]

My mom is religious and conservative. When I told her I was pansexual she asked me if I was sure I wasn't "just gay" because "I seemed really gay". I said no mom, don't be surprised if I bring a boy home. I think the hardest part to accept for her was that I wasn't gay. She was so supportive and let me know that no matter who I bring home as long as they are good people she will love them too.

[@o.steinman3855]

My mum would probably be happy overjoyed to learn of my sexuality, but my dad... I don't know. He isn't against it, he's just a bit weirded out by the whole thing, which I kinda understand.

[@boinkin3078]

When that girl said "what will the family think?" At the beginning, I started sobbing bc if I ever came out to my parents I would be disowned.

[@Thesweeteclipseyt]

Peyton Aqua me too!!! my parents HATE lgbt. they would kick me out! it's so sad cause they want us to be who THEY want not what we want.😢

[@cjishere97]

After watching this I know what I am KZbin I'm heterosexual and I'm proud

[@lucymay3394]

You are brave :)

[@pilaraba]

proud of being straight?? wow you have some low standards then

[@zdinc7268]

Don't be hetrophobic.

[@pilaraba]

How can i be heterophobic if i'm straight...???

[@zdinc7268]

It was a joke, not a very funny one but it was a joke non the less.

[@lincolnbeckett8791]

The day my mom found out was the worst day of my life, she told my sister, and brought up every Christian related thing that she could use as a reason why it was wrong, she felt like she couldn't trust me anymore, and keeped asking me how am I dealing with it, well, I have to deal with it all my life, and her finding out made it worse, and even though things have gotten better between me and her, I still think she thinks its a choice, if I love God, preyed and didn't want this side to me then how the hell is it something that I chose or can control, and then one day, long after that drama happened, she was really sad, and I wanted to know what it was, well it was a combination of a lot of things, mainly including my sexuality, which really pissed this off, and having a big dissection/argument about it, and her opionis in a nutshell was the bible says its a sin, I am giving in to temptation and the devil has me victim, and I basically told her to never talk to me about this subject again, and then after a while, she started to act like the way she normaly would with me, on the day it all started, when I also stated this whole thing drove me to almost committing suicide she said, she will always love me, but will not love that side of me. I truly love my mother though, she has always been my protector and even if its not my fault, I don't want to upset her, and we fine now, but its still the elephant it the room and whenever something gay related appears on TV, it becomes a very awkward atmosphere. Why do straight people think they have the right to pass judgment of gay or straight people when they have no idea what's its like. They no NOTHING I know God loves me because I have been to me good of a person for him to hate be and probably been you holy than most homophobic Christians, because I treat others as I want to be treat, don't judge, and try to love and not hate, which is not what homophobic do. And because I think I am Bi, she thinks that I can choose who I love, when its not the case, if people like me could choose, then no homosexual people would exist. The thing I want to know based my this statement I about to make is weather I am really Bi or just gay. I find only the top half of guys sexually attractive, more than I do with females in general, but the lower half of guys disturbs me, and the fought of gay sex completely disgust me, and when I do have sexual fantays, their only woman. I always wanted a girlfriend, but I wouldn't mind having a boyfriend but it makes me feel scared. Even when doing stupid test on the internet(which were a complete waste of time), all told me I was Bi. What do you think? and sorry for being so open, its just now that its tabuu in my house, videos like this is the only time I feel like I can seek support.

[@suburbanhippie5464]

You may be bi or gay. Its kinda confusing but sexuality is fluid. You might be sexually attracted to girls, but romantically attracted to guys and girls. You can't choose which one you are attracted to, you were born/created like that. Please don't commit suicide, even though its tough now there is hope. Once you move out or are and adult, you can choose to cut ties or interact with your mom/sister as much or as little as you want. Try checking out the Trevor Project. Com . It may help you get support and help you figure your sexuality out. Good luck

[@KaleidoscopeEffect]

sorry for your youtube name I can't tell, are you a guy? If it is of any help let me tell you this: I'm a woman and I'm hetero but I also get disturbed about seeing guy private parts if I'm not romantically involved with that guy :I also don't like fantasizing about having sex with a guy in not romantically attracted to, so maybe you should stop thinking so much about the physical or sexual attraction and focus more on the personality. If you fall for someone the attraction will come with that and you will probably understand yourself better :) this is kind of private but when I'm with someone I find myself wanting to try things I never considered doing before.

[@lincolnbeckett8791]

Phantom Hope KaleidoscopeEffect Awww, thank you both for your advice and insight, I'm still young so things will seem scary for me now, I really hope things get better.

[@KaleidoscopeEffect]

Rakeem Beckett-Scott If you are still young don't worry :) just live your life, you will find out about your sexuallity eventually. Till then just enjoy being who you are :)

[@suburbanhippie5464]

Rakeem Beckett-Scott don't worry about it, you have your entire life to live out and figure yourself out. You'll figure yourself out a little bit more each day you live. :)

[@user-gy5nj8ej5g]

I'm so scared to tell my parents that I'm bisexual. They are muslims (Im' atheist) and I think they'll hate me and stuff like that. I can't.

[@nazirkhawaja9108]

I'm Muslim,I came out to my parents,they accepted me. Good Luck and God Bless you

[@user-gy5nj8ej5g]

+Bajanfan101 HAAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA omg you made my day 😂

[@laurenperez5646]

+Bajanfan101 You smell like a troll.

[@user-gy5nj8ej5g]

***** I am a girl actually HHAAHHAAHAH

[@Fatima-tx2fd]

Omg i feel u , i'm muslim and i'm bi ! I'm so scared of coming out to my parents:(

[@kylalolly3536]

My best friend came out to me a few months ago and my reaction was "well boobs are sexy" and that is true friendship. :D

[@Dasherrrrrr]

Just call it BuzzFeedGay now my god . COME AT ME!!

[@BrickForSheep]

Piss off

[@ScaroRussell]

BuzzFeedNotClosedMinded

[@chadkingoffuckmountain970]

FuzzFeed

[@actionjacksonthe2nd668]

ScaroHawk buzzfeedrunningoutofideassocomeupwithanything

[@BefDaWizard]

I feel as if they are only doing this because of society and many people have killed themselves over not being accepted, they are making a statement in my opinion

[@lovejulieandrews]

God loves homosexual people. God does not love homosexual actions. It's a very misconstrued concept in our society. For anyone who is christian or catholic but has homosexual attractions: I want you to know that you do not have to leave the church. But to please God you have to live chastely. Having attractions to the same sex does not mean you have to act on them. Yes it is incredibly difficult, but your reward will be eternal glory. God bless :)

[@elizabethbirchfield7439]

Let me just say you are AWESOME!!!!!

[@pilaraba]

it's things like this that have put me off religion oh my god

[@kingfelix3447]

But god isn't real...

[@Skuiggly]

god bless the ones that doesnt believe in god god damn it

[@wecantstoplaughing]

How is it fair that someone can't act out love to the same sex. That's like god saying your good until you have sex ... God loves everyone he wouldn't punish a man to love another man. Why would he. Love is beautiful. Not something that should be taken away because of a gender .

[@HawaiianGoth]

I listened to Joel's and Rashmi's stories, the reactions their parents had and I just wanted to go thru my computer screen and hug them both, I always tell my son, who is now 15, that no matter what as long as he's happy I'll ALWAYS support him and ALWAYS be there for him. I Love My Son no matter!!

[@hrishikeshsen1141]

+Victor Aina I wish there were more parents like you.

[@HawaiianGoth]

Thank You Hrishikesh Sen. ^_^

[@HopeAcedia]

+Victor Aina Just don't rush it. Sometimes they have to come to terms with it themselves before they can tell you. At least it's that case for me. I kind of know my family probably won't act in the worst way, especially because my 3 sisters are older than I am and they even tried to hint at me not being 100% cis straight and not in a negative way, but I just want to take my time and feel 100% comfortable myself before I tell everybody.

[@yacineaouimeur]

do "coming out to preservative MUSLIM parents." no offence!! I'm muslim and just curious to know.

[@ahlaam7590]

Bruh. My mom would cry and then get furious. My dad well...I would probably never hear of him again.

[@yacineaouimeur]

+Spongebob Squarepants unfortunately :c

[@soxo-ow9mi]

+Spongebob Squarepants omg spongebob r u with patrick?

[@imstandingrightbehindyou.6987]

yacine aouimeur.....I live in a muslim country but i seriously think they will throw me out and shun me from their for ever.

[@yacineaouimeur]

+Ali Shah where are yoi from?

[@liz3th13]

I WANT TO HUG JOEL

[@zan3663]

Hugs

[@Oldmenomas]

As a parent, the idea of my daughter not being able to tell me something so big about herself makes my heart hurt! I hate thinking about the stock people put into reputation overshadowing their support and love for their child. I am so sorry to those who have had to deal with that. Hopefully as the next generation of parents, we can change this for our future generations. Xoxoxoxoxoxo

[@blueberiiilu3808]

This made me cry so much! So much emotion, so relatable, and truly beautiful

[@shoshandmer]

Such moving stories! I'm glad you included stories of parents who accepted it immediately as well as those who found it much harder to understand and deal with. What one lady in this video says is very powerful, "it's a growing and learning process for both the parents and the person who is coming out." I'm a fourth generation immigrant and was still nervous of coming out! Luckily it all worked out in the end. :-)

[@josepalacios2633]

my family doesnt accept me cus im bi .... everyday i struggle everyday im alone....

[@peanutslolzz]

hang in there for US

[@sarahheidotting6169]

you can always talk to me if you want . I know you don't know me but I love helping people.

[@josepalacios2633]

+Sarah Heidotting do you have fb

[@josepalacios2633]

+Sarah Heidotting can we talk??

[@babiiTiGGer09]

+Jose Palacios I know exactly how u feel. Please be strong let's be strong together.!

[@alicesmithy6391]

I have a really good gay friend and she is like a sister to me so I have dinner at her house a lot and she never came out as gay she just said one day to her parents "mum, dad, can I bring my new girlfriend to dinner?" and they said yes, she turned up with her gf (I was there as well, dinner was great) and no one batted a eye it was great. ive talked to her about it and she just said "my brother didn't have to announce he is straight why do I have to just cause im gay?" loves ya tam :)

[@lovelylady0200]

I am not gay, but you guys are making me cry with your touching and emotional stories.

[@regulusarcturusblack4439]

omg i adore the mum in the white cardigan! she seems just so sweet and loving and the way she talks so soft and quiet...i wish you the best (all of you by the way) you've made my outcoming a lot easier!

[@panneler0san]

When I told my sister I was bisexual, the first thing she said was basically, "Oh, I thought you were a lesbian." O.o I explained that no, I like my men just as much as my ladies. She then said that she thought I had been lying about finding men attractive all those years. I said that wasn't the case, then we hugged and got pretzel bites for lunch. It was fucking awesome. Wouldn't have had it go any other way.

[@yoonsic3668]

Lost it at the guy who had his mom tell him he's a bad person :(((

[@Natashawallace95]

I expected the story of the guy getting blocked in his house and being disallowed from leaving his home to go a completely different way. I'm so glad it didn't go the way I expected.

[@_alios_4398]

Thank u so much for making this...... I started crying so much...... And it gives me so much hope that my parents might still accept me for who and what I am...... Thank you....

[@rosemaryshadowlps5894]

My parents kept telling me that I don't know about myself yet, then they keep forgetting. My mom says sometimes "isn't he cute?" I get really uncomfortable and just shrug. "Do you like any boys?" She asked. "WHAT ABOUT GIRLS." I blurt out, my face became red. "Wait you like girls?" The same cycle over and over again

[@bennyindrasmoro]

Im a bisexual from muslim family. No one know my orientation. Im still in closet. Im scared as hell to tell my parents. Thanks buzzfeed for this video. Even thou sometimes it hurt to read the homophobic comments. P.s there are gays everywhere.. Get over it people

[@suburbanhippie5464]

Good luck hun. I'm from a majority Indian and conservative Christian area and I know it can be scary as hell to come out. Try to ignore the homophobic comments & best of luck with coming out, whenever you decide to do it.

[@hikarunnn]

I am gay and have a muslim family. I came out last year. If you ever feel you need to talk to someone who know what you are currently going through, just message me. :)

[@hikarunnn]

***** Read it. It did not answer a single question of mine. So I decided to go deeper and looked for the imam's opinion of its meaning. And I found out even imams do not agree on that. Some says Lut is about homosexuality, some other about male prostitution, other also says it's about sodomy, and so on. So, yeah, basically, this is what the Quran says about gay people : And that's it.

[@mikeetoo96]

good luck man! I hope that your coming out will go well! ps maybe you should go live in Montreal because people are really open minded. but still of course theres still some homophobic ignorants

[@charlesengster]

I honestly feel so bad for Joel like I would love to give him a huge hug through my screens I can see him feeling so heart broken when he said his mum called him a bad person. Made my heart broken

[@AvaDp]

I don't even know why I'm crying rn...this is just so so great... And I'm giving all my love to Rashmi, you deserve love, you're beautiful

[@jobomclo]

I just literally cried at 4 buzz feed vids in a row 😂❤️

[@eviejo9013]

i told my mom, but i can't tell my dad. he'll support me but i just can't, i don't know.

[@donmcneil4679]

"WOW" I could feel Your Pain. It's very Sad to see Good People having to go through the ridicule from others and most of all their Families. Love is Love and Hate never wins. Be Well Friends.

[@nanarodriguez818]

As a mom of three, I love my children NO MATTER WHAT! They're my kids....my signature on the world.

[@kkajsabergqvist1]

if youre not prepared to raise a gay child, or a bi child, or a trans child or a pan child, if youre not prepared to love and support your child unconditionally for who they are, do not have a child. simple as that.

[@ratattack8901]

That's so so sad what some people have to go through.

[@rjackson5610]

This is such a hopeful video for me. This helped me accept myself. thank you

[@frederikkekjrulff5698]

0:31 aw he's such a sweetheart! I just want to give him a hug so bad

[@manasafromhogwarts6812]

what's sad is that hinduism accepts lgbt but very few people who are hindus are aware about it .

[@angelabermudez4566]

I am bisexual and I'm proud of it.🏳🌈

[@Shamiaephills]

Angela Bermudez 🏳️‍🌈🌈

[@weirdduck88]

I just wanted to hold Joel close, especially when he was close to tears. He's just adorable.

[@gypsy8429]

Buzzfeed, I can totally relate to this and it means so such to hear the stories of people who can empathise. Thank you for making these controversial videos and always pushing bounds. It means so much more than any outsider knows.