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Shadé Zahrai

Shadé Zahrai

Күн бұрын

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@BillehBong123
@BillehBong123 Жыл бұрын
Question: in the example that you just gave, aren't you just giving implicit agreement of someone's idea when you don't infact agree with it? It's great to make people feel validated but it shouldn't come at the expense of going along with whatever they're saying.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the question. I'll give you 2 examples of replies in the context of how to substitute 'but' with 'and' in the context of collaborating with someone that's disagreeable and has equal or more power - without having to agree. USING BUT "We could re-hire contractor X because they're familiar with our site protocols BUT they're expensive and a little slow. I think we can find better deals." USING AND "We could look at rehiring contractor X since they're already familiar with our work-site, AND just to make sure we're getting good value with timely delivery, let's get a couple of other quotes from reputable contractors who are also familiar with our type of worksites." Hope this helps!
@PapaRora
@PapaRora Жыл бұрын
How are you so amazing! Where were you in my 20s?!! Better late than never!
@honzareality
@honzareality Жыл бұрын
@@ShadeZahrai I learn this in Never split the difference :-) And I use it ever since.
@KeshavBhola1008
@KeshavBhola1008 Жыл бұрын
👁️
@UnknownUser.ar1
@UnknownUser.ar1 Жыл бұрын
I prefer to use less words and be straight to the point. People need be less sensitive I will say it in a polite and soft voice tho. - Khaled alharbi 25 Jeddah, ksa
@fixinfkinsandwiches6183
@fixinfkinsandwiches6183 6 ай бұрын
Her voice is so perfect.
@eng-ishow
@eng-ishow 6 ай бұрын
Bro this is made by ai
@notperfect005
@notperfect005 4 ай бұрын
Yeah "voice"
@Brandon-kp5to
@Brandon-kp5to 3 ай бұрын
@@fixinfkinsandwiches6183 bonk
@benli3278
@benli3278 2 ай бұрын
@@eng-ishow really?
@muaviyakmr29
@muaviyakmr29 2 ай бұрын
@@benli3278 yup,.luk at her other vdeos
@aritrasur2682
@aritrasur2682 3 жыл бұрын
Honesty and clarity of communication is much more important than making someone feel good all the time
@sunofpeter2
@sunofpeter2 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah is that you tried making everyone feel better all the time? Then it fell apart before your progress was made? Good thing you found this gem of a communicator as she shows a better way. Good luck chum hope you figure out where you went wrong.
@JeEL2610
@JeEL2610 Жыл бұрын
indeed
@sstein4777
@sstein4777 Жыл бұрын
Agreed. Especially using such long sentences that unveil how hard you are trying and make you look fake in the end
@alfacentauri3686
@alfacentauri3686 Жыл бұрын
"Yes, if ..." would be a better answer. You don't create an obstacle with a "but", you just set a criteria for the idea to be accepted.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai Жыл бұрын
If your only aim is to make the person happy by telling them what they want to hear then it's not collaboration and it's disingenuous. Only through the clash of ideas can you have the sparks of truth. Note - not the clash of people. Depersonalize the ideas. In a situation when you need the person to collaborate - leading them to open their mind to new possibilities (not necessarily agreeing) instead of dismissing their perspective can be more influential. You can (and should) absolutely be honest and clear.
@ujjwalrocks
@ujjwalrocks 6 ай бұрын
You are so articulate. I am hooked on hearing you talk
@curlsbyalexa
@curlsbyalexa 9 ай бұрын
These very very small details are everything. The world would be a better place if people placed importance on choosing how to think and communicate for the betterment of others and themselves
@SpiritXd5
@SpiritXd5 2 жыл бұрын
We need more people like you on this planet earth...
@fabricciodominic7473
@fabricciodominic7473 Жыл бұрын
with good fronts?
@HighonInternet
@HighonInternet Жыл бұрын
​@@fabricciodominic7473 😂
@jonathand.terrell3419
@jonathand.terrell3419 10 ай бұрын
This lady is exceptional in communication skills. Love her channel!!
@sailboatlighthouse
@sailboatlighthouse 3 жыл бұрын
In my age and not shy from learning the wisdom of this young lady, great job and keep it up
@akhytea8345
@akhytea8345 7 күн бұрын
its up alright
@utkarshaggarwal1631
@utkarshaggarwal1631 3 жыл бұрын
You completely changed the answer from not accepting their suggestion to accepting it. It's better to be assertive than just agreeing with everything
@gurindersingh8109
@gurindersingh8109 3 жыл бұрын
You are wrong. When someone say something how can you instantly conclude about its true impact? A professional would try gather more facts about an argument before taking a decision. Decision is expensive, you can't deliver it like an instant coffee. Therefore encourage and applaud every bit of info when you hear it first. Think
@utkarshaggarwal1631
@utkarshaggarwal1631 3 жыл бұрын
@@gurindersingh8109 what if that opinion has already been tried just like the answer she gave herself in the video suggesting that it didn't work ....I agree with the "thinking" and making a decision part. But you need not think if the idea is repeated for a similar situation in the past where it didn't work.
@kartikpanjabi6801
@kartikpanjabi6801 3 жыл бұрын
@@utkarshaggarwal1631 yeah that's true but here she is more tallking about conversation skills that we are used a lot without any conscious thinking. You know like after every yes and but people don't like to hear rest of the things
@aunkanmandal360
@aunkanmandal360 Жыл бұрын
Just say yes instead of no ,super simple. Everyone will like you.
@sonalshukla9447
@sonalshukla9447 3 жыл бұрын
I feel the vibe from the book: Win friends and Influence People
@kathypear2540
@kathypear2540 Ай бұрын
@@sonalshukla9447 Ty for give Dale his credit 👏
@Kurt-t9h
@Kurt-t9h 4 ай бұрын
I’m in love with her voice
@mayurvakare5930
@mayurvakare5930 8 ай бұрын
Honestly, You just talk with my heart💖 Loved your communication skill✨
@stevenbest6470
@stevenbest6470 3 жыл бұрын
This lady is brilliant. Thanks much for words of wisdom. Best wishes.
@Adeosisamson-ci3pt
@Adeosisamson-ci3pt Жыл бұрын
Shade, you're the best. Love your input, always.
@rajneeshpant5284
@rajneeshpant5284 3 жыл бұрын
Shade I must say you really understand communication so well .. really inspiring ideas & modifications..
@fabricciodominic7473
@fabricciodominic7473 Жыл бұрын
haha
@teminoah2960
@teminoah2960 Жыл бұрын
Super correct. Constructive criticism fosters team spirit, collaboration which inturn increase performance and productivity
@saianihami
@saianihami Жыл бұрын
But to and- negative to positive plus acknowledge their ideas. 👏
@vanzylw1
@vanzylw1 3 жыл бұрын
This woman is a champion ! Imagine spending 3 months with her, gaining momentum and developing yourself, to position yourself as new CEO
@SRSGAMER07
@SRSGAMER07 3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@SRSGAMER07
@SRSGAMER07 3 жыл бұрын
but true
@quasiosa
@quasiosa 3 жыл бұрын
Only your mind will change to be CEO not position actually, but you may become that soon, based on your current position if you continue the mindset.
@manjeetmondal220
@manjeetmondal220 5 ай бұрын
new ceo in dream world😂😂😂
@eugenek777
@eugenek777 2 ай бұрын
I'm ready to feel myself as a CEO by spending a night with her
@larrybird3729
@larrybird3729 3 жыл бұрын
loving these shorts🎉🎉🎉
@rohitjagtap14
@rohitjagtap14 Жыл бұрын
I am excessively impressed by your delivery, the way you talk and all your mannerism is something that I admire a lot. Including all the little things you do, like you have a content smile while you talk, and all the hand gestures. Your face radiates positivity and your enthusiasm. That is something I'll like to add in my personality. And, your immense knowledge about the topic, its like icing on the cake.
@poorvachauhan
@poorvachauhan Жыл бұрын
I saw you and instantly felt connection ❤
@MuscleMeetsMind
@MuscleMeetsMind 10 ай бұрын
Nice! Dale Carnegie taught me this as well
@samuel12345678922
@samuel12345678922 3 жыл бұрын
Where were you 10 years ago... All these teaching are beneficial , God bless you kind heart 💓
@nourhanmegahedmahmoud4252
@nourhanmegahedmahmoud4252 10 ай бұрын
I discovered that i do this unintentionally since last year since i started thinking positively about stuff and it really does work magic in perspective not just for people who are around u but for u as well
@inuwabajoga4376
@inuwabajoga4376 Жыл бұрын
Communication is the best way to understand people
@commuicatewithpallavii
@commuicatewithpallavii 12 күн бұрын
Well explained! This simple change can completely change the tonality of the sentence! By being more solution oriented, the conversation will be more inclusive and engaging!
@gladstoneb879
@gladstoneb879 9 ай бұрын
Yes..communication is key.😊
@ohanthemoneydoctor
@ohanthemoneydoctor 6 ай бұрын
From negative to positive 💯
@TV-pe9lk
@TV-pe9lk 4 ай бұрын
and you can also do that to yourself to learn from mistakes. Genius ! Thank you!
@kittik493
@kittik493 4 ай бұрын
Right, Thanks Shade
@oluwasegunphilip5467
@oluwasegunphilip5467 3 ай бұрын
Definitely learned from this🙏🏾 Thank you Ma'am
@rahul-yr
@rahul-yr 3 жыл бұрын
I am just watching your videos, just because of your facial expressions 😃
@shivafoods007
@shivafoods007 Жыл бұрын
I believe in straight forward communication
@nayeemakhtar2332
@nayeemakhtar2332 Жыл бұрын
Yes I agree, and make sure you are learning to make good videos that didn't work last time ❣️
@alex-ander-13
@alex-ander-13 Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this insight!
@techturnerco
@techturnerco Жыл бұрын
Amazing Audio Output!
@BeeDingaling
@BeeDingaling 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you...just little tips like this can totally change the tone of delivery
@stevenreynolds6697
@stevenreynolds6697 11 ай бұрын
So working together we all win-win
@Aashumal_16
@Aashumal_16 Ай бұрын
❤Nice explanation mam❤
@theamplifiedbustle4251
@theamplifiedbustle4251 Жыл бұрын
I am from India. I have learned alot to this channel.
@micha8255
@micha8255 3 жыл бұрын
I clicked her video once, now I'm seeing suggestions from her all the time "and" I'm not regretting that. Such a nice change after all those almost naked girls from tick tock. Prove that besides having a good look you can also share something useful with people to be noticed 😘
@souhityogupta7704
@souhityogupta7704 Жыл бұрын
Your contents are literally transforming people ... Love and respect to you Ma'am from India
@piyaliwalia2154
@piyaliwalia2154 3 жыл бұрын
U R Awesome and M really appreciate ur suggestions
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 3 жыл бұрын
So nice of you. Thank you 😊
@RAHULSINGH-rk8nq
@RAHULSINGH-rk8nq 11 ай бұрын
Wow Shade, keep sharing it..
@Yogeshjain84
@Yogeshjain84 3 жыл бұрын
Ur voice is very nice, so soothing..
@pawanbains4787
@pawanbains4787 Жыл бұрын
That is very good way to exchange words
@daviddr2d2
@daviddr2d2 Ай бұрын
Good point, will do that, thank you.
@BearerOfLightSonOfGod
@BearerOfLightSonOfGod Жыл бұрын
For some bizarre reason I like the way she talks not sure why but I can understand her more that other people.
@stevensvideosonyoutube
@stevensvideosonyoutube Ай бұрын
It's going in the right direction
@vivekanandan1882
@vivekanandan1882 Жыл бұрын
Yes, this is what my friends have to see before talking to me.
@thundercascadia
@thundercascadia 26 күн бұрын
Simply, it is adding “yes, and.”
@EMPNETWORKS
@EMPNETWORKS 11 ай бұрын
that is genius! great. ya got a sub
@antararaman3879
@antararaman3879 3 жыл бұрын
Loved it! perfect use of words
@abdullahabbas975
@abdullahabbas975 3 жыл бұрын
I find your videos to be very thorough and well versed. Your videos blend human pscychology and work place code very well.
@Fairisfairhg
@Fairisfairhg Жыл бұрын
With your voice that “And” will go along way.
@stefanociamarra2505
@stefanociamarra2505 Жыл бұрын
Great tip! we all need more straight forward, more positive and less sugar-coating interactions in our lives!
@youthwave
@youthwave 2 ай бұрын
Your body language reflects color, charm, and shine. Beautiful video. Subscribed.
@محمدفارسعبدالغنيالعبادي
@محمدفارسعبدالغنيالعبادي Ай бұрын
Thank you so much for very useful video ❤
@andrewdressler6173
@andrewdressler6173 3 жыл бұрын
All this stuff sounds great until you actually get into a workplace and realize that everyone is an idiot, and you decide its easier just to join them.
@extrawhy
@extrawhy 3 жыл бұрын
To much truth for one comment.
@ankurmehrotra6506
@ankurmehrotra6506 Жыл бұрын
There is a book on communication which is called 'surrounded by idiots'
@chimmeriri
@chimmeriri Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@tessa7778
@tessa7778 Жыл бұрын
😂😂
@astronautonmars
@astronautonmars Жыл бұрын
Faxx 😂😂😂😂
@lahongwan4440
@lahongwan4440 Жыл бұрын
Yes your advice is so true and on point. Some times I fel it only me learning all the nice things from you, and others continue to invalidate me. Thank you Shade for your help thanks you again.👍👍🙏❤️
@JCBurdenLifter
@JCBurdenLifter Жыл бұрын
What an amazing piece of advice! Thank you!
@mostofakamal8981
@mostofakamal8981 3 жыл бұрын
Your way of taking is just amazing 😍
@jancsi-vera
@jancsi-vera 5 ай бұрын
Thank you. I like this idea - a subtle approach.
@everenigmatic5805
@everenigmatic5805 3 жыл бұрын
"AND will it work just like last time? AND what have we learned from it?"
@rawdatulilm
@rawdatulilm 4 ай бұрын
That's a great suggestion. ❤ Thank you
@robbynv9900
@robbynv9900 Жыл бұрын
Your advice is so awesome and on point.
@micahdooley2729
@micahdooley2729 3 ай бұрын
That’s great advice! Thank you. ❤
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai 3 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@rohitkumarjena3257
@rohitkumarjena3257 Ай бұрын
I read this in one of Tony Robbins's books. Where he was talking about how friction in conversation impacts the emotional state of the other person.
@MusicExcellence
@MusicExcellence 11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much. This is very inspiring 💛🧡💚
@Scoobie..
@Scoobie.. Жыл бұрын
Didn't Understood But Feels Good After Listening This😅
@abhishek-5221
@abhishek-5221 Жыл бұрын
after she completed me:- Oh..sorry, You're Saying Something
@Scoobie..
@Scoobie.. Жыл бұрын
@@abhishek-5221 😆😆🤝
@abhishek-5221
@abhishek-5221 Жыл бұрын
@@Scoobie.. 🤜
@PARDEEPPINTO
@PARDEEPPINTO 9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this tip
@pembanurbusherpa6179
@pembanurbusherpa6179 3 жыл бұрын
I love your voice 😍💕
@albert2090
@albert2090 3 жыл бұрын
I second that….
@mangosorbet8183
@mangosorbet8183 10 ай бұрын
Great tip. I happen to me and many people I know !! Great tip for the communication
@consciouschirag
@consciouschirag 9 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing such useful content. You add so much value & make it look so easy at the same time. We need more Women Leaders Like Yourself. Such A Role Model. 👏👏👏
@Savageclown2093
@Savageclown2093 3 ай бұрын
One of my favorite ideas out there, I learned this from a book I read in college last year called - Yes, And. This has such a positive effect..!
@rezaf7086
@rezaf7086 5 ай бұрын
❤that's right Doci Doci❤
@VoiceYourVision
@VoiceYourVision Ай бұрын
Great tips. Thanks for sharing
@KuldipSingh-pw4ec
@KuldipSingh-pw4ec Жыл бұрын
Great words and guidelines to succeed.
@orolimomov5866
@orolimomov5866 Жыл бұрын
My mentor used to use it all the time in the class. Even if your understanding is totally incorrect, he would start with " yes, that is right and " tell the correct answer. That makes you fell good.
@mohammadmehdi2305
@mohammadmehdi2305 3 жыл бұрын
Your conversation shows that your personality is very high. You are such a nice person.
@phillipsantana2633
@phillipsantana2633 7 ай бұрын
So true it also puts you in team mode as mentioned validate the thought but build on it by substituting and. It's much better.
@crazymaths23
@crazymaths23 Жыл бұрын
You are super simple. I like the way you put it.
@anthonyquote1593
@anthonyquote1593 Жыл бұрын
In business things are crystal clear. If someone says such a statment you say "No your idea sucks because last time it costs us a lot" This will help him restructure his thoughts and next time not say an idiot idea.
@manhnguyenthe6194
@manhnguyenthe6194 Жыл бұрын
I love so much that idea ❤❤❤
@physician4541
@physician4541 Жыл бұрын
Most amazing voice tone I’ve heard!
@BillJamesWallace
@BillJamesWallace 6 ай бұрын
Great vid! I use AND all the time! (well, maybe not ALL the time) but I do try! It totally opens up the conversation.
@ZhiznTV
@ZhiznTV Жыл бұрын
Positive attitude ❤helps more us you're right✔
@superman6262
@superman6262 Ай бұрын
Subscribed!
@samuelluz9241
@samuelluz9241 Жыл бұрын
Game changer honestly . thanks for the life hack
@marytes3758
@marytes3758 4 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@abdulrazzak3976
@abdulrazzak3976 3 жыл бұрын
@Shade Zahrai Thanks for sharing this information 👍👍👍
@ngo73221nc
@ngo73221nc 4 ай бұрын
You have excellent communication skills. My wording are terrible and I’ll use your technique
@saidfarid6382
@saidfarid6382 Жыл бұрын
Hello dear teacher What you present is really intersting and amazing. Thanks a lot
@SP-Steel
@SP-Steel Жыл бұрын
It's better to tell upfront if something is going to work or not. I don't beat around the bush, and go straight to the point. I appreciate if others do the same to me. Feeling validated is a secondary issue.
@ShadeZahrai
@ShadeZahrai Жыл бұрын
Sometimes it's also smart to be tactical to influence. Acknowledging and opinion doesn't mean agreeing to the person's opinion or not being clear. We all prefer to do it our way but that's not always effective. Different tools for different situations.
@jollyhaobijam8917
@jollyhaobijam8917 Жыл бұрын
U are super... This idea looks great!!
@popcornMD
@popcornMD Жыл бұрын
You and your voice.......ohhhhh ❤️❤️❤️
@prabhukumar356
@prabhukumar356 Жыл бұрын
❤ beautifully said
@rahulk866
@rahulk866 10 ай бұрын
Thank you 🎉🎉🎉
@DistortedShelf0
@DistortedShelf0 8 ай бұрын
Use "but", as it's a completely valid conjunction. Just swap the clauses so the nice part comes after. Also, don't be objective... share vulnerable emotions. "Well, I'm worried because it didn’t work last time... but, I like your idea. Maybe if we make some tweaks it could work really well!" People have been so afraid of saying "but" recently lmao. Smh my head fr real 🤦‍♂️💯❓️
@callousconflict
@callousconflict 2 ай бұрын
Very good skill!
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