communication processes

[@levid.2592]

Anyone else LOVE how nonchalantly Brian turns to the kids and says "Mommy and I are divorced now, get in the car." He was done with her crap!

[@benhislop1458]

I would have jumped in the car and helped dad research divorce lawyers

[@rosalyngascon1611]

The main thing that I get from this video is the Sara wants Katie to survive through her battle, but everyone else wants Katie to LIVE. They all k ow that she’s dying, but the lack of that perspective on the moms part is what’s making this journey so much harder, Sara hardly talks to her son throughout the movie, she always disowns the dads opinions, and she only sees Anna as a way to save Katie. She makes everything so much harder on her family because she is so wrapped up in her emotions that she doesn’t see how she is damaging everyone else around her.

[@micahfranklin4560]

Exactly and it caused a lot of tension between Sarah and Anna

[@David-lb5py]

Exactly everybody knows that Katie is dying and she just wants to enjoy what little time she has left on this earth

[@Keith-es2xf]

Because she doesn't want to face reality because the very second you have to face reality everything around becomes real nad u have to accept the rules of life and rule #1 is no whatever everyone eventually dies and rule #2 is u can't do a thing about rule #1

[@ladyfire44]

Kate

[@haven_lady675]

"I don't want to survive! I want to live!" -The Captain from Walle

[@rampageclover9788]

The mom is not only thinking of herself in that situation but obviously didn't listen to the doctor who suggested that the girl go to the beach.

[@ladyfire44]

I know. I'm sure Sara in the novel would never have behaved liked this. I say this because while she wants to keep Kate alive, Sara would rather let her spend the last days letting her live her life. This one completely overreacted, in denial of respecting Kate's wishes and turned her family against her.

[@raet9974]

Well she wasn’t at the hospital to hear the doctor. Her husband just showed up with Kate and no explanation.

[@yogalover2753]

@@ladyfire44 Well yeah she was selfish but at the same time the way she reacted was understandable because she's about to lose her child and thought any moment she has outside the hospital was gonna kill her. Yes she did overeact here but at the same time it's understandable.

[@emers0n507]

this is something you can’t really speak on till you loose a child or someone so close to cancer. it unfair all she wanted was time with her daughter and it was taken

[@harrybankston358]

She is only thinking of herself. People want to make excuses but the reality is Kate told her everyday how miserable she was. Sara's anger and desperation stem from her thoughts on what she would lose, not anything else. She put both her daughters through hell for her own feelings. I know it's tough to lose a child but she caused more harm than good because she wouldn't recognize her own trauma.

[@jordancumming2066]

I absolutely love that the father put his foot down here for the sake of his daughter. Nothing meant more to him than taking her out while he still could.

[@nightvisions8]

The part where she wraps her arms around him and he spins around and she falls off gets me every time! 😂

[@benlong4277]

Princess Of Darkness only one winner there

[@sissysovereign1294]

She had it coming honestly

[@HarryPotter87]

She deserved it. She was abusing her children.

[@p.s.csdeaky8530]

That's is so wrong not that it was on porpoise on his part but I feel terrible it remind me from family fights, but I get you.

[@saylergirl23]

Me too

[@SplendidSuperman122]

I think they wanted to make Sara sympathetic but I hated her with a burning passion. She completely disregarded Brian’s opinions on what should be done. She hardly talked to her son Jesse who had dyslexia pretty much forgetting he existed. She kept Kate in the hospital constantly despite the fact she wanted to leave just for a bit. And she didn’t treat Anna like her daughter and more like a bin of spare parts for Kate. I get Kate is sick. BUT YOU HAVE TWO OTHER KIDS WHO NEED LOVE AND ANNA IS NOT JUST SPARE PARTS FOR YOUR OTHER KID!

[@wavyremix]

I know. Remember the flashback scene when they're showing him brochures to the new special school/camp he's going to have to attend? My heart broke for that kid.

[@officiallyjess5291]

When u have a sick child it’s hard to remember on focus on anyone or anything but that child.. I agree she came across as a bad person but she loves them all but just focused on Katie cus she wanted her to pull through

[@EclecticallyEccentric]

​@@officiallyjess5291 She certainly doesn't love them all equally. She sees Anna as a donor first and a daughter second.

[@saylergirl23]

I agree

[@abrokecollegestudent3507]

Every minute she was on screen drove me up the wall

[@joewhitehead3]

Cameron Diez was definitely perfect for this role as such a relentless mother

[@abinayaelil574]

She's a really good actress

[@micahfranklin4560]

Yup

[@Mysterio1412]

​@@abinayaelil574she's one of a small pool of actors that has always been part of both box office and reviewer/critic success movies, nary a bad review or bomb in her filmography.

[@j3nxi._]

@@abinayaelil574Miss Hanagin

[@alfaecotangoromeo]

i loved her when she shaved her hair

[@Siliven]

I love this scene. It's so ridiculously realistic. The best I've seen from Cameron Diaz, and from the rest of the cast. Superb. I think EVERYONE, and I mean EVERYONE, can relate to this scene easily. Out of the entire film, this is the only scene that stayed with me. It just resonates within one too easily.

[@sbchoudhuryable]

Cameron Diaz is such a great actress, omg!! Love her!

[@SplendidSuperman122]

Honest to god seeing Sara get thrown to the floor by Brian was satisfying to watch after she’s been such a jerk to Anna.

[@analysis9479]

I wouldn’t really say HE threw her. She came at him and he braced him self and let her fall of her own accord.

[@SplendidSuperman122]

@@analysis9479 That’s a better way of putting it but to be fair his spin caused her to get flung off of him.

[@allanapereira9779]

He didn't throw her, though.

[@spectralight8412]

This scene really gets to me. Reminds me of a terrifying fight my parents had when I was around Anna's age, it also reminded me how my mom acted after my surgery when I was eight.

[@savannahmae3679]

This is the scene of a mother breaking down and not accepting reality for what it is. Her daughter's dying and the truth is she's probably not going to survive, so the rest of her family is helping her live what life she has left and her mother's forgetting that surviving is not living. It's a wonderfully well done scene, and it's very realistic. But in the end that mother is going to lose her entire family, because she can't accept that sometimes you can't fix what's wrong.

[@talmadgeholloway2734]

Honestly I kind of feel bad for her I guess she's dying but it was selfish referred to try and force her daughter to give up a kidney I think that's all about immoral dilemma and not accepting the reality that there's some things you can't change I take Kate for example she's dying and her mother is still convinced that there's someone she can do but I feel like deep down the mom knows that deep deep down somewhere in there she knows she's going to die no matter what she does and it's probably tearing her up for me inside but you just can't accept that and I feel like over the course of the movie she's slowly not immediately but it's a very slow process but slowly over time she slowly begins to accept that she's going to die

[@PennyMills-h8w]

What is movie called

[@Reviewer2016]

1-the mom is so far delusional she thinks he’s dragging Kate on something she doesn’t want to do she doesn’t realize she’s freaking Kate out not a trip to a sunny beach. 2-Givng props to the dad. His attitude and demeanor through the whole video just says he’s done letting his wife mull over the whole family. He keeps (arguably) calm through the clip while his wife thinks losing her shit will get her way. He’s not gonna let his kid rot in a hospital thinking she’ll live longer he’s spending time with her and letting her be a kid.

[@JustAnotherPerson4U]

I agree about the dad. He was calm and even when she lunged at him he didn't hit her in self defence he just fended her off and was calm about it all. He said what he wanted to say and didn't raise his voice. And once it was said he just kept moving. He didn't stay and let himself be a target or get drawn into an argument. Even when she tried to take the keys, he pushed her away firmly but not with aggression. Fathers in that situation are so frequently depicted as losing their tempers and get a bit aggressive. But he just remained in control and he didn't come across as a pushover or some sort of bully to his wife. He was firm and direct but not aggressive. That's a good father. Actor did a good job.

[@matthewallen2273]

Wonderful actors though!

[@Reviewer2016]

@@matthewallen2273 no arguments

[@codymeyers3092]

When Cameron is given some good dialogue.... girl can act her ass off. She needs more work like this.

[@ladyfire44]

I think she retired after 2014 to focus on other endeavors and raise her child.

[@babygirllynn2264]

Although i understand why she was freaking out shes still wrong kate knows shes dying everyone in the family except the mom knows hell if i knew i was dying i wouldnt wanna spend my last days in the hospital drugs pumping in my system and needles hooked to me i love the dad he was basically like my daughter wants to go to the beach shes going to the beach and he cares about all three of his kids the mother all she cares about is kate

[@rampageclover9788]

Well she shouldn’t freak out because the doctor was the one who not only said she could do it, he actually recommended it...and the mother still denies her that much...if the dad was to file for divorce, giving him full custody would be a no brainer when theyd see how delusional, overbearing and high strung the mother is and more importantly how miserable shes making all of her kids, not just Anna....Kate aswell does not want to spend her remaining days tubed up and loathes the fact that her twin sister is being used as nothing more than a human spare parts shop...I thought Jason Patric was beautuful in this...his role is a little more restricted but he really brought to life what a real father should be...

[@JusticeFortheSilenced]

@@rampageclover9788 You must be young

[@schusterlehrling]

That's the point. Sara does not want her to die. She refuses to accept that. I would not say that is selfish, that is love, and love sometimes won't let go. And never let you go easily.

[@sherlockwatson3070]

That anger was something only a mom has. A+ Cameron Diaz

[@merlinho0t]

Cameron Diaz delivered the best performance of her career in this film. I’m not saying the mother was right in everything, because sometimes she wasn’t, but she killed every scene she was in.

[@torycatherine2044]

Sorry. But after several occasions throughout the movie, Sara's love for Kate could no longer justify her actions. She dismisses her husband, ignores her son, treats Anna like replacement parts for kate, and she doesn't even listen to KATE anymore. She's fucking insane and selfish. It was satisfying to see her not get her way this time.

[@queenesther09]

I think what she was doing wasn't love... it was selfishness. She didn't want Kate to live for Kate's sake, she wanted Kate to live for her own sake and it didn't matter to her how miserable she was living a life of constant pain and illness.

[@ladyfire44]

What's worse is how she was treating Jesse as a lost cause. Poor kid had Dyslexia and Sara never once paid attention to him. Even Anna suffered because she was only seen as spare body parts meant to be used for her own purpose to save Kate. I get Sara was scared of losing her and wanted to be like those parents whose children survived cancer against all odds. However, what she failed to understand, was that it wasn't her choice to make. It was Kate's decision to stop treatment and leave this world in peace. She told Sara countless of times that she was ready to die, but the latter refused to let her go. Eventually, Kate got fed up with her selfishness and how she was treating their family. She took a stand against Sara by convincing Anna to sue for medical emancipation, fight for her own rights to live and make her own choices. She not only sued for rights to her own body, but also Kate's wishes for death. It took the family going to court and telling Sara off what they really thought of her, for her to see how selfish she truly was. Once she heard them out, she felt guilt and remorse for what she's done. Sara realized that Anna was only fighting for her rights to live, Kate wanted to die in peace and Jesse hating her for all the neglect she put him through.

[@tonyamccuen6852]

This scene gets me every time. I live near a woman who has 5 kids and one of them was fighting a horrible disease. She never talked about any of her kids other than the sick one. Her entire life was devoted to keeping her child alive. It was so bad that her oldest child left home the day he graduated from high school because he was sick of being ignored and how everything revolved around his sibling. The child passed a couple of years ago and to this day, the only thing she ever talks about is her sick child. I dont even know the names of her three younger kids because she has never talked to about them at all.

[@Crazylove44]

It's sad honestly, we will never know until we go through it ourselves.

[@shadesofjade]

Cameron Diaz plays a very easy to hate character very well. Kudos

[@willjones455]

If you think about it, she's always been good at playing characters like that

[@rebekadoczi2136]

This scene really shows well how much pressure was put on the father too. Bless his soul, he didn't deserve so much of that turmoil and negativity. 😓✊

[@boysponge705]

Actual footage of my boss trying to get me to stay late.

[@michaelmatos]

That’s a real father right there! I know I can’t save my daughter but I can at least give her this moment.

[@kaylizzie7890]

If I was Brian I would have divorced her already. That lady is clearly not okay in the head. I know her daughter is dying and that makes people do crazy things but that doesn’t mean it’s okay for her to neglect and abuse her other children. I wonder if Brian ever found out about Sarah slapping Anna at the hospital?

[@ladyfire44]

There was a deleted scene where he witnessed this, got angry at Sara and told her off to leave. This lead to an argument between her and Brian in regards to Anna. However, he stands his grounds and pointing out Sara is too controlling. Anna needs their support, not a mom who thinks of her only as spare body parts to Kate.

[@benhislop1458]

The second I saw that, I would have gone straight to a divorce lawyer and filed for protective custody.

[@jonathanolap7982]

Felt like crying today and looked up some scenes of My Sister's Keeper.

[@haizekhaze8868]

I do this too! I wish strength unto you my far away friend🙏 🌸🌺🌸

[@powerlinepowerlineentertai1712]

Spending the last hours in a hospital is like living in a cage. I wouldn't miss anything out in the real world. I think that's what hospital patient's feel like.

[@gatzabba3746]

The thing is, Sarah doesn't consider what Kate wants, she isnt fighting for Kate, shes fighting for herself. Because she cant bear to lose her daughter. Kate's being ignored the same as the rest of them.

[@boysponge705]

Sara: My Mom Brian: Me Kate: GW2 Car keys: My headphones Car: My PC

[@pusongmanhid]

😂

[@theblackdagger4566]

What’s crazy is that, from what I remember, Brian didn’t just do this on a whim. He conferred with the doctor who gave him the go ahead that Kate would be okay goin to the beach.

[@richwhitelivesmatterforsureduh]

Miss diaz... You never cease to amaze me. ❤️

[@braydonkanouse7235]

Cameron Diaz was perfect in this. I truly hated the woman through the whole movie. She really out did herself with this role.

[@elliewilliams8371]

The book was sad though... Kate was the one who lived and Anne she died in a car accident.

[@2jcward]

Oh wow

[@elliewilliams8371]

@@2jcward yea

[@ladyfire44]

Sara was living with insurmountable guilt over how she treated Anna and realizing her importance to the family too late.

[@darkgirl9706]

The Neighbors trying to eat dinner: 👁👄👁

[@shaneyzamora2525]

She's not upset that her father's taking her to the beach. She's upset because her mother won't let her. She just wants to live while she can. Sure she can go back to the hospital and live a little longer, but she'll be stuck to tubes and machines and taking organs from her sister when she knows she won't survive that long and her sister will suffer anyway. She might as well take some risks and actually live a little.

[@chrispinzon4752]

This actor played the insane mother roll perfectly

[@mrslasher1064]

Gigachad Brian preventing his wicked witch wife from causing anymore suffering to his family...

[@heatison11]

Fantastic scene, Cameron Diaz deserved an Oscar

[@SebastianHernandez-uo4be]

Cameron Diaz!!?? The women from Shrek films as Fiona!!!!!!!???????

[@heatison11]

@@SebastianHernandez-uo4be yes

[@j3nxi._]

@@SebastianHernandez-uo4beand miss hanagan

[@j3nxi._]

0:20-0:57

[@j3nxi._]

@@SebastianHernandez-uo4be0:34

[@calliefinck6275]

Sara you are tearing this family apart! You're killing them, especially Kate and Anna!

[@biancam1956]

I used to think the Mom was crazy ( i'm sorry). But as i grow older, i actually start to believe that i will act just like that if i were in her situation.

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

Bianca M I think we all do.

[@raet9974]

Same. I have a daughter now. I can only imagine the pain and fear I would have if she ever became severely ill. I’d probably act like Sara.

[@charlieputhfan850]

Bianca M I seriously think i would to... it scares me...

[@EclecticallyEccentric]

No, the mom is acting crazy. Understandable, but crazy and abusive.

[@shontaniecethompson5707]

@@EclecticallyEccentric which is how most of us would act

[@richiesmooth8574]

DESPERATION can cause people to make bad reckless decisions. It happens in family life, sports, finances, relationships, and a lot of other situations. You are not in control of what other people do or want. Just give your best effort think logically, and keep moving forward.

[@JonathanCline25]

0:55 you better come because if you don’t I want a divorce how’s that

[@LibraLee88]

Fave Part

[@tmntfangirl4700]

Is it wrong of me to cheer when Brian flung Sara off of him when she tried to take the keys from him? Because I loved that part.

[@sixarmedpsycho_9]

When the father knows better...

[@LibraLee88]

U SEE HOW UPSET SHE IS Like girl it's u You're the Problem Lol

[@peterortega9837]

Best scene in the movie !

[@haydenellis3803]

That’s a good dad.

[@bellalee-ball.6527]

Cameron Diaz’s acting in this film is so fucking good, I feel every word she is saying holy shit.

[@galaxiesplantcorner9328]

Its actually very sad because when the mom finally let her go. She felt regret for not going

[@WolfModig]

Favorite scene in the movie, Cameron's character was just wrong on every level

[@emilypetsche1]

1:03 Why did she start yelling at Anna at that point??

[@alicedelgado955]

Because she was blowing everything out of proportion and was only thinking of getting Kate back to the hospital and keeping her alive

[@benhislop1458]

In her hysteria, she probably thought Anna would back her up

[@zombiewolf9649]

Princess Fiona says the F word

[@anar8343]

Hahaha

[@AceOfSpades9939]

"You see how upset she is?" Because of YOU!!!!!!!

[@GIJesse-xo1vl]

She still would not have listened even though the doctor recommended it.

[@ceciliaeklund3604]

Cameron Diaz does her best performance ever, if good acting means awakens feeling among the audience! You literally hates Sarah Fitzgerald!

[@scottiegirl2041]

Who else thought the mother completely over-reacted?

[@princessmai4522]

ScottieGirl20 yes and no. Her daughter is very sick and as a mother she just wants to protect her daughter only she forgot to let her live a little.

[@rampageclover9788]

And forget about the other daughter

[@WildWildWest30000]

That reaction was a mother's denial of accepting her own daughter's fate.

[@tomashudibe]

you obviously have no children

[@annietribble3062]

She did over-react but then again her daughter is very sick and wants her to live. She feared that the beach would have too many germs and kill her. I do not know what it is like to have a sick child but she probably was not thinking clearly. The only thing she thinks about is keeping Kate alive.

[@LukeWeldon-hi1pc]

I love that spin he did with the mom

[@christawicklulnd3018]

wow that's How I Feel I Love Going To the Beach When I Was Little. I Still Do My Siblings Don't Apparated Me that Much

[@hartzaire]

This was very selfish of her mom to not allow her to just have a minute of peace without it being in a hospital

[@aranzadelgado6241]

This movie great it’s sad but great

[@mekhiaross2711]

Bryan was me his whole mood

[@tonyajones1463]

So sad when a mother is fucking crazy. Just accept your child wants to live before dying is that fucking hard to let someone go for God sakes.

[@anissacolin1571]

She didnt even listen to her kid, yes its hard, yes shes dying, that wont change with more drugs coursing through her making her miserable. Let her have one goddamn day.

[@freighttrain4379]

1:13 does she say "Youre gonna regret this bitch!"?

[@boysponge705]

I say the exact same thing when I get killed in PUBG.

[@bradboisvert4892]

Good on Daddy O

[@deathchronicles6960]

In this situation the word divorce doesnt get that hard to temtep according to relentless scene.

[@rannenw6207]

I saw through the comments saying the father didn't tell her the doctor said to take her but at about 31 seconds in the video you can hear her say I don't give a shit who you talked to. That alone shows how little she cared of what others including her husband had to say.

[@Awolkmedia1990]

Sara wanted to kate to live so bad she forgot to let kate go out and live

[@Mehp2]

Well maybe if she had let Kate have fun and relax every once and a while, she would’ve been morally ready to beat the cancer instead of being stuck in a depressing hospital room all the time.

[@HazimAlkhulud]

Its easy to hate the mom "Sara" but my mother said if you had your first child and you automatically bond with that child especially if the child is sick your instinct to protect and nurture will kick off like steroids, that's why the dad need to be there to balance the mother natural instinct of constant protection, nurture untill disregard her daughter livelihood

[@sarahedwards]

Brian: Get your stuff. March in, march out. One minute. Sara: Hey. What's going on? Brian: We're going to the beach. Sara: You're going to the beach? Brian: Get your bikini. Sara: Kate? Kate, what are you doing...? KATE: Mama, please. Don't... Sara: Wait a second, what is she doing out of the hospital? Brian! Brian! It'll kill her! Give me the keys, I'm taking her back to the hospital. Give me the keys, Brian! Let... Give me! Are you insane? You trying to kill her? Brian: I talked to chance. Sara: I don't give a shit who you talked to! You are killing her! You understand? Take her to the beach, you kill her! Come on. Kate: No, please. Sara: Come on, sweetie. It's okay. Kate: No, please, please! Brian: Don't do this. Sara: See how upset she is? See what you're doing? I'll call cops. Brian: Do what you gotta do. Last 14 years I've let you have it your way. Sara: Last 14 years have been about saving her! Brian: Today is not about you. Sara: You want to undermine that? Brian: It's about Kate. Sara: It is. Brian: She wants to go to the beach. Lf you'd like... Sara: She's gonna die! Brian: Better come, if you don't, I want a divorce. Sara: A divorce? Great! Brian: Good. Sara: You got a fucking divorce! Brian: We're divorced, Mommy and me are divorced. Sit in the car. In the car. Sara: No. Anna! Brian: In the car! Sara: Brian. Give me the keys! This is ridiculous! Brian: STOP. Sarah: You're gonna regret this, Brian. You understand? You're gonna regret this! Brian! Katie, sweetie, you gotta go back to the hospital!

[@Nova-c5k]

Mama Tiger!!!!! 🐅❤😢

[@isaacmadali792]

I didn’t like how the mom treated Anna

[@ReginoRonquilloAquinoJr]

Yes, Brian (Jason Patric) tells Sara (Cameron Diaz) wants to divorce family.

[@jaachiaaron2929]

This is pure chaos between me and her I'm glad I enjoyed it by getting divorced again. 😁

[@jaclynschilt4699]

Why would he threaten divorce?

[@JalisaHapp2000]

Jaclyn Schilt I think he’s just so emotionally overwhelmed. He just wants some kind of happiness for them, something liberating. Everyone here was acting out fear, frustration and love

[@DigiDestined13]

Basically, he's 110% done with her attitude. By this point, she's stopped caring about anything except what she wants.

[@ladyfire44]

He was basically fed up with Sara's behavior in how she treated their family. Brian couldn't take any more of it.

[@Sailorcathy]

He also needed her to support the decision to make the quality of their daughter life better at that moment. And if she didn’t go then there would be nothing left for them in their marriage.

[@boysponge705]

Sara made an account and disliked this video.

[@jacobthompson6265]

Title should be communication in marriage.

[@notyrparty]

Thanks for the suggestion, and that definitely applies! This was posted for a Social Work project in one of my classes specifically relating to communication processes in a family.

[@traceyherard]

0:55

[@Jaachi_Aaron-CJ041]

Cameron Diaz is desperate to be be an actress that I am glad to see the look on her face as I couldn’t get out of? 🤣

[@angelacosta5457]

Everybody hates and talks shit about sarah (my self included) But what kind of parent are you if you dont turn into crazy mode to save your kids life?

[@Wheelermayfield27]

Kate was past saving at this point. Her dad was trying to give her a happy Memory before she went

[@supernaturalawesome1]

Took him 14 years but finally...he found his balls 🥲

[@CountryCowboy008]

I know this is a drama but the dad is fucking hot especially while at the beach.

[@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160]

Talk about obsessed with your child

[@Vaekyri]

Brianna - Renee Jordan you obviously don’t know what its like to have a sick child then. she was scared that she was going to lose her daughter because kate’s immune system was low because of the cancer and the treatment and the beach is full of germs. She clearly states several times “you’ll kill her if you take her” and “we’ve spent 14 years saving her and today you’ll undermine all that” . She was scared, not obsessed. Not the film for you clearly if you can’t understand it

[@jakegreen1217]

Sara is a mean lady

[@raymondeppich4988]

Hide Kate your mom 0:11

[@kuraito1346]

This not about you lady. Kate wants to have fun not staying in the hospital all day. Letter be a kid for once.

[@1992balto]

I say im with dad that mom is just selfish

[@LibraLee88]

We're Divorce Now Mommy and I are Divorced I'm on his side 100%