Community discussion (Part IV): responding to your questions

[@psychacks]

**Apologies for the audio near the end of the stream. Thanks for listening!** There's been a number of new developments in recent weeks, including the launch of my new member community, The Captains' Quarters. Let's get together to discuss purpose, fulfillment, and self-development. Join my community: the-captains-quarters.mn.co Buy my book, "The Value of Others" Ebook: amzn.to/460uGrA Audiobook: amzn.to/3YfFwbx Paperback: amzn.to/3xQuIFK Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consulta... Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media TikTok: / oriontaraban Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=1... LinkedIn: / orion-taraban-070b45168 Instagram: / psyc.hacks Twitter: / oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: • Enrico Deiana - Orion's Theme (Origin... Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: / @grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: / @psychacks Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #selfimprovement #success

[@warrenholt]

Orion, I'm a psychoanalyst in New York in full-time practice. I'm always looking to integrate new models into how I conceptualize human relationships and enjoy taking in your perspectives. I just saw this discussion posted after its conclusion. I found The Value of Others quite provocative and compelling as to how to approach the economics of sexual relationships. Of the many questions your book inspired, I would like to start with this one: If 18 year-old women and 50-year old men are at their peak values in the marketplace, all other things equal, why don't you see more relationship pairings between individuals of these ages, or at least more, say 25 year-old women with 45 year-old men?

[@blinsmaslom3263]

Societal taboos. Just look at the reactions to Leonardo DiCaprio dating under 25 year old models and the answer becomes obvious.

[@Nids-se7vx]

I'd venture you choose a partner more based on your stage of life and someone plus or minus a few years usually fits that description better. My theory is we choose more for "relevance" than anything else.

[@croissants1280]

Because all other things are never equal.

[@jackdeniston6150]

Becaue Men have been taught this is a bad thing. I have walked away from younger v interested women because of this. Know better now.

[@blinsmaslom3263]

@@Nids-se7vx Young and attractive women will never lose their relevance to me.

[@jackdeniston6150]

Sir, your actual examples are superb.

[@タロットティアラの霊視タロットチャン]

Welcome to Japan!!! I hope you enjoy your stay.

[@thabangmohomane648]

I know ur a busy man Dr orion but could u consider looking into how men and women form relationships based on mutual interest or affection and how not to be taken advantage of🙏

[@mik7062]

Bummer about the sound. Keep making these. They’re great

[@walterwilkinson1499]

If you like Japan, you should also visit Taiwan. There's a lot of Japanese influence, but Taiwanese are more welcoming to outsiders, and more English is spoken. As a single, long term expat, the women in both countries are stunningly beautful, but Taiwanese woman are much more interested in meeting people outside of their culture.

[@johnvienna3422]

I know both countries well. I love Japan and many characteristics of Japanese people. However, I agree 100% with the comment here. Taiwan is the friendliest place I've ever been. As for the women... yeah 😊

[@Easup1]

I’m 5”4 and have never had any issues with getting women

[@donthatetheflayerhatethega4170]

I don’t believe you

[@Easup1]

I understand

[@sequocean]

Thanks, doc!

[@BoostedPastime]

Thank you!

[@kimlawson9869]

Orion: On your thoughts about men vetting women, I think a good video you could do is on how men need to truly process past trauma whether with a woman or prior to selecting one. I will leave it to you to define what that looks like and how to best accomplish this. It has been my experience that many good men are not processing this to their own detriment.

[@carmelobasco3369]

TIA. Thanks in Advance.

[@valdius85]

Unfortunately, I agree with Orion in the adored/adorer dynamics.

[@jencooper8497]

TIA = Thanks in advance 😊

[@duynguyen-k1t]

First time see you without makeup:)

[@aaronpeterson7318]

TIA = Thanks In Advance

[@inf-jayne]

i don't want someone outside of 5 or so years my age (although i tend to date older than myself) as we would very likely have different cultural references, and imbalances due to walking the earth at very different lengths. half of the men i've been in relationship with have been shorter than me. ok, i probably wouldn't want to be with someone who's 5'5" - i'm about 5'10". although height feels somewhat vain, there's something about size and feeling 'contained'. them being 'bigger' (healthily) even if not tall helps. and confidence. and i don't need someone more successful- just someone who can journey with me while maintaining their life and paying half the bills / doing half the housework or some sort of energy balance in those areas. i want someone who could take care of me at times, but won't need to. ♥️

[@valdius85]

Having a family can absolutely be compared to having a small business together. For men who want to be father, I would suggest to value virtues that make it easier to have a successful family. You can have lots of interesting friends, but you’re f with a woman who cannot run a household.

[@inf-jayne]

why not can two people be both the adorer and the adored? if they fit together like puzzle pieces, then they see qualities in the other that they value, and they in turn feel valued.

[@Tom-bm7mm]

I lived in Tokyo for 30 years. IMHO Japanese women are far easier to deal with than American women, less BS and fewer hang ups.

[@frankbarenbach6044]

Question: how to deal with female superiors? By default, I'm below her, but I still like to see her respect. Next questions: how to initiate a relationship with her?

[@ChaoYun]

@@frankbarenbach6044 I don't think that's a good idea

[@Sentient.Legacy.2042]

I'm a long time follower, and much appreciate your work! AND Please get more precise on your language with regard to "Love." The ancient Greeks were much more precise, with regard to the different kinds of "Love." Agape, is the self-giving kind of love you often reference, and would better be called that. Then, Eros, better called that. Then Sorge, family love. Then Philia, friendship love. Then sensuous love, as in "I love chocolate ice cream." Then, Romantic love -- did the Greeks even have a term for that? Then Limerance. Anyway, I'd think it would be much clearly to distinguish these various kinds of love, and maybe other kinds, with different defined words. Your audience can handle that!

[@isabellekawaivincent4764]

Hi. I'm in Tokyo, too. I'm not trying to pick you up as I have a lovely man, but if you wish to take a break and socialize let me know.

[@sorinbalanescu6819]

TIA-> thank you in advance What is the meaning of TIA in texting? thanks in advance written abbreviation for thanks in advance: used in an email when you ask someone for information or want them to do something for you. SMART Vocabulary: related words and phrases. Internet, email and texting conventions.

[@jencooper8497]

Just woke up 😂

[@ernestocolosimo6634]

How did i miss this

[@robertohernansheridan]

Same here 😱

[@allie9462]

Women don’t like sex as a generalization though of course there are exceptions like anything

[@jonprince3237]

They do, when the sex is good, and that's the significant qualifier. It takes a lot more to stimulate sexual desire in women compared to men, and the process of reaching climax is far more complex compared to men, and I say that as someobe with experience of both. If the sex is really satisfying for a woman, believe me, most will want it more often, but it's an uphill struggle for most men to make it really good, for a whole raft of reasons.

[@debbieburrows9880]

HUH?? you are nuts. You need a good man to teach you how to have great orgasms.... oral is the best way.

[@sergio_ra]

Short guy? Move to Asia

[@jamieharknett9620]

TIA means “thanks in advance”

[@frankbarenbach6044]

I always wonder what people do with the three seconds they save with this. 🤔 Probably listening to the 5 minutes Dr. Orion spends on answering their questions.

[@steelmantv]

100% wrong on the single dad thing. Huge impact on dating.

[@DestroyerOfDoom]

Can you elaborate

[@chrisblack3952]

I found the opposite. All the women I have dated love the fact I have kids

[@zaq1337]

@@chrisblack3952 If you’re a good dad a good woman wouldn’t see it as a red flag

[@croissants1280]

Dude is a Passportbro now? Even with his KZbin channel and money still can't get what he wants in the U.S.?

[@zaq1337]

It’s all about money in the west you can have them good luck lol Passport Bros don’t settle 🤗

[@iii1938]

Uh quran thing's totally bogus my man. Other than that good video.

[@tryscience]

I can't believe how pah-sychological he is!

[@beneshkar2899]

What about women and men in the third age, over 60? All the assumptions you made regarding situations between the ages of 20 and 45 change completely because of the different economic situation and also the hormonal situation. Women and men are no longer in a hormonal situation that seeks sexual contact as the main thing. Women and men are looking for a more meaningful relationship. It's time to talk a little about these ages

[@valdius85]

As people age, they often have less to offer to one each other. He spoke about it in one of his videos.

[@debbieburrows9880]

I would also like more from him on us older folks. He might want to consult with others who work with those in our age group (I am in my late 60s). I have a wonderful man in my life. Yes, what we offer each other is different than the young looking for marriage and kids but ..... a partner who is loving, fun, intelligent..... life is still good!!

[@mstamper77]

@@valdius85actually we can have more to offer because we’ve hopefully learned most of our needs are not someone else’s problem to fill. I know for sure that I don’t need the amount of reassurance that I imagined that I did when I was younger. More time for fun now!

[@valdius85]

@@mstamper77 Honestly, I hope so. There are too many lonely people. The context I meant was as people get older they learn to be by themselves and need others less. Things are complexed so I believe there are more factor at play ;)

[@parkerstoltz8995]

Can we get a self development member community that doesn’t cost $100 a month?

[@psychacks]

Probably not, if you want personal attention from me. Lowering the price would dramatically raise the number of members, rendering that infeasible.

[@BusyKitchenStove]

Hi ! Parker just concern there's a lot of things that you can develop yourselfif in case a 100 dollars is too pricey . Me I develop my self via reading and upload a self- help Personality Development, listening to Jim Rohn, Brian Tracey, John Maxwell I read his book too, Bob Proctor, there's a lot of information is around in the internet. Captains Quarters of Dr. O is for already high achieving ppl. If anyone here who are not there yet I encourage you too to have your own community.

[@jeetsg1316]

my opinion is you have conflict of interest because your source of income depends on giving self motivation and advice for dating.....a simple advise "find a girl tell who you are the if she agree married and be Faithfull to her and marriage ..no extramarital affair ...if you find she is cheating the divorce her ...then again introspect find another girl married and be faithful.".. no casual sex , don't have multiple sextual partner " this advise help all men but you have bear the loss ...your all video regarding dating and women are not useful then.

[@lt3968]

Some of his best word of mouth referrals will come from men who have successfully paired up based on his advice. There are no shortage of single, hurt people.

[@chipsteve]

​@@lt3968well that's bravely speculative. And I doubt that "will" happen.