Confusion in a narcissistic relationship?? | HOW THEY MESS WITH YOUR HEAD!

[@rocheller750]

When I first met him, I saw so many red flags. But then he began to love bomb and mirror me and I thought, wow, I really misjudged him, he’s not what I thought he was at all! Fast forward two years, he is exactly what I thought he was in the beginning, but I didn’t listen to my own intuition. Now I’m trying to extricate myself from this relationship and these videos are so, so helpful. It’s very confusing but I’ve learned a lot about myself through this relationship though, so I’m grateful for that.

[@damienwelch9067]

Good for you 👍 👏

[@ficharagu9725]

This is my story, I was soo blindsided, pretended to be something else and loving what I love and thats the person i fell for only until the mask fell off, used the things I was vulnerable and open about against me and now its really got me trauma bonded,it's the worst but eventually we will heal atleast now I see through him and what he really is.

[@vilandriamartinez1592]

Same thing happened to me. I’ll never not listen to my intuition ever again.

[@bettyboothe2523]

My story exactly

[@Oklahomagirl49]

I don’t know if love-bombing and money-bombing are kind of the same thing but yes, I get what happened to you. Happened to me too.

[@emanspi]

The amount of confusion she caused me was insane. Always in circles.

[@Twinmama143]

Same.. he’s always talking in circles nothing gets resolved

[@christophermwren2691]

I feel you Bro, same life boat with you now....

[@emanspi]

@@christophermwren2691 trust me and hang in there. It gets better in time my friend.

[@BrianHornak]

I'm so sorry..I can relate

[@elainebines6803]

Fortunately I've always been confident about myself, despite the abuse. My mistake was thinking I could change them 😕

[@ronnie-lynn]

He left me so broke I couldn’t leave. At 34 years old I had to move back home to my parents to try and re build everything I lost. 2 years later and in still in therapy, taking mental health medications. I’m still paying off the debt and buying back furniture and things one needs to furnish a place. All replaceable things. Thank the lord I was able to leave with the most important thing…. My life! ❤

[@Twinmama143]

I’m back at my parents too 😩😭

[@Twinmama143]

With my two kids

[@ronnie-lynn]

@@Twinmama143 it’s okay! We will get back on our feet. One day at a time! The most important thing is we made it out to safety!

[@damienwelch9067]

Keep praying 🙏

[@GoogleUser-pc6tu]

They always want you to move in with them quickly

[@mayrawalters8876]

Quitting drinking, getting some therapy, and learning about emotional abuse so far have been the best things I have done so far. I finally got back my self esteem and my confidence and this feeling is priceless.

[@violetj09]

@Myra wow, that is a great receipie! Why do you thinknquitting drinking was helpful? I did same!

[@johnpinheiro6211]

I feel you, love from Portugal 🇵🇹👍

[@anneaires3984]

Congratulations Mayra! I wish you the best of luck. Quitting drinking will totally help anyone dealing with trauma. Where there's a clear head, the path to self help/self love will be so much more attainable! May peace and lots of happiness be yours!!!!!! 😊💪✌️💐🌞❤️

[@christophermwren2691]

Well done, one day at a time!! I gave up the BIG 4, Drinking, Weed, Cigarettes & Gambling.... 4 and half years now! I thought our marriage would get better, but NO the opposite, we've been separated for 2 years now but off and on, off and on, push and pull, so finally 2 weeks ago, I've said NO CONTACT!!

[@susancrowther6617]

You’ve got it! I admit I gave my power away to my husband - being disrespected, controlled and manipulated and being jibed at for so long and then I got the light bulb moment (dealing with a Jekyll and Hyde character) - after 50 years I am now divorcing! Getting my power back and learning who the real me is!

[@lucianas4919]

💛💛

[@stylist1262]

Same here in a relationship 32 years married 28 years going through a divorce Experience a cycle of love and hate I have learned so much about narcissism healing and discovering my power❤️

[@mariariley3894]

I'm going through the same thing right now.

[@mariariley3894]

Yes. Dr Jekyll and Hyde is how I feel about him. Really trapped in the marriage

[@maryisbell6421]

50 years? Wow I thought I have dealt with this the longest at 46 years....thank you sister you give me hope

[@iamgoddessoflove]

Don't make up excuses to stay with a narcissist because you have children with them, due to financial matters, or because you're afraid to leave. Get some help right away! You deserve so much better! 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@jodizellmer994]

I totally agree. Also, just because you got pregnant that doesn't necessarily mean you have to marry the father either.

[@lorimoulton17]

“I love him, but he’s not good for me or my family.” Wise words! It’s easy to get caught up in feelings.

[@Thunder-lightning852]

You can’t have enough empathy for both of you. I hope it all worked out and you found yourself and you’re doing better. I’m 100 days in on a discard

[@jennifernunez220]

Current feelings. Just confused. He made me feel like I was always causing issues, when all I was asking for was Basic things, like seeing him. 😔

[@BrianHornak]

I'm so sorry

[@brianhill6842]

Same. I just wanted to spend time with him and he made it an argument.

[@panfried7566]

without vulnerability, there can be no intimacy. without intimacy, there can be no REAL love. You can fake it and she did for over 20+ years, but eventually, the ugly truth surfaces. what a shame. thanks, stephanie

[@ladiebugs]

That's perfectly put.

[@danajohnson6525]

I left my ex husband of 16 yrs to live in a shed over 6 yrs ago and I hadnt been that happy and at peace in years. I know its scary but the peace I got was worth everything. Im still in therapy years later learning how to be me but Im getting there day by day. I now have a safe place to live and my own car and and a lovely partner who helps me everyday heal from my trauma. Please leave it gets better I promise

[@lucianas4919]

💛

[@kelliebutler4662]

Thank you for these encouraging words. 🙏 I'm so happy things have worked out for you. I too want peace.

[@sanjeevbains690]

💔Owning their stuff to them means acknowledging it but taking 0% responsibility & taking no action to do inner work. 💔They are transactional & superficial with being big on words & low on consist action 💔Love feels like chemistry and it’s vague - doesn’t go past the honeymoon phase. 💔They are in and out of the relationship and you can’t trust they have your back 💔The monster begins to appear. This is them! The best of them was just 'love bombing' - they were winning you over. Little put downs by them start to chip away at your self esteem - without realizing it you gave your power away just to keep the peace and not have to deal with your unhealed abandonment wound. ❤Be gentle & kind to yourself. You did the best you could at the time, with the resources you perceived you had. Keep moving forward 💃🏽and live in THE NOW 🌺💕

[@xxHouseInMotionxx]

god... its scary!

[@mdags3202]

This is EXACTLY the relationship I was in for 5 years and the minute I started communicating what it is I wanted from her, she cheated on me and left me. I was blindsided and I’m still on the floor trying to pick up the pieces of my shattered heart. She moved on with someone at work, who looks like a supermodel, completely plastic and the complete opposite of what I am physically, which has now validated every insecurity I’ve had about my physical appearance. It is a punch in the gut. I found out about the cheating much after she officially broke up with me. But my gut knew during the breakup. My heart didn’t want to accept that she would be capable of doing it to me. I got diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes during the breakup and have always struggled with weight loss. But now on meds and on the mend and dropping weight. It has been an incredibly challenging year so far. Really trying hard to see the positives in all of this. Every day is a struggle, while she professes her love for the new supply. How do these people sleep at night?

[@mdags3202]

I guess I should have known when she used to say things like “if you dropped 50 lbs, you would be so hot.” Or “drop 50 lbs and I’ll marry you tomorrow.” I naively thought they were just jokes and never took her seriously because I truly believed she loved me the way I was. But now I know better. All good though. Lesson learned. Now that I am finally getting the medical help I needed (my metabolism was literally broken), I am dropping the weight and will be in the best shape ever.

[@Miester7]

I just had a huge epiphany. She would always ask what i loved about her, and I would nievely say adoring things. She said she loved me often, but NEVER what it was about me that she loved! It was always about how I made her feel. Damn the penny just dropped.

[@hlengiwefeliciamabuza7354]

Omg😳🥺I relate

[@cmontygman]

Same 6 years in and I've been noticing more and more narcissistic traits, recent example: Saw her old boss at church (she won't go with me except for Christmas Eve) she asked me if we talked about her saving lives and what not.

[@marshallfox1786]

Hmmm…. I remember one time she said “I love you though for always making me feel special”

[@KP-dd2ci]

100%....She would ask me the top 5 or 10 things I like about her almost daily. She puts up her hand up and count down each thing with her fingers. At first I thought it was cute, then I thought this is weird af. And ALWAYS asked me if I was using her for sex everytime we did it, even though she is the manipulative and exploitive one.

[@bumblebee_ms]

I had to cut off everyone I know because I just couldn't stand the constant nit-picking, grinding of my sanity and just crazy-making talk. And I allowed it all to happen. I had NO boundaries, no self-love or self-control.

[@opheliedussidour4643]

This woman is by far the best coach on rebuilding after narcissistic abuse . Bravo Stephanie you really deserve to prosper .

[@meankawi]

Once the "honey moon" and "love bombing" starts fading they're done. My toxic ex had gotten bored, and the excitement wore off. She was done. Plus I figured out what she was doing. Value, devalue, and discard narcissistic stages. So you could perfect and still not be good enough for them....

[@lindavincent678]

I have way to much ch to say

[@sanjeevbains690]

Exactly. Perfection is what they want & still it’s never going to heal their deep inner wounds

[@erictruelove-so1de]

It is such a relief to see this phenomenon addressed and explained. I tried to explore this with three therapists who blew this off and told me I was choosing the wrong feelings. My feelings were spot on, their belief in being therapists was wrong.

[@valariebreann6346]

I wouldn’t say we allow it if we don’t even realize they’re doing it . Sometimes when coming from a narcissistic childhood we don’t always realize that we are being put down or chipped away at . Especially when it is covert. We just think it’s them being honest or it’s normal, not abusive or putting us down . So how can we allow what we don’t recognize or think is bad ?

[@LaurenMorgan-h3k]

I also have that problem of second guessing myself when somebody is being abusive. Still, at 32, bc of my dad's criticism

[@sanjeevbains690]

Cognitive dissonance kept me confused until I started to educate myself on this personality disorder. This channel has helped immensely

[@onlyalifetime]

Wow, amazing video! I'm currently in the middle of the deep confusion period after the break up. I'm beyond exhausted. You gave me clarity which feels like oxygen while suffocating. Please don't stop doing this! Thank you very much!

[@mayolasbones6831]

We are all broken. People look for people who are just a little less broken 💔. Yes, being real is key.

[@ravipeiris4388]

I feel that taking accountability is half the battle.

[@debradasaro2155]

Agree.

[@MEmrCLEVER]

I have been in my relationship since 2006... 4 years ago, I began a search for what was wrong with me and how ruined this relationship. I learned a lot, and I am better these days like I was before meeting her. My side of the street was a lack of understanding that when the pokes are in "a joking manner" were repetitive enough to passively brainwash me and slowly take up more room than my balanced mentality and sense of self. I was truly content with my life and self. I just laid my walls down for her... I was convinced that it was a female thing... I was so ignorant.

[@alanlawler8814]

Fantastic Steph, you seem to be on fire the last few months in particular. I agree with your comments at the end about how we are complicit in our abuse if we stay in these toxic relationships. I think there's a lot of codependency involved with being a partner to a narcissist. One thing I have been wondering is, as you bring up in your video, is just how high we should set the bar? I'm 65 and I've never met a fully healed person, and I couldn't say that I'm fully healed either. So if we set a high bar with everyone it's possible that everyone is going to get excluded. While I understand we need to fill ourselves up, parent ourselves to love ourselves, on the other hand the vast majority of people aren't doing that at all. I'm wondering what your thoughts are on The possibility of not actually finding a partner with someone because there are so very few healthy people out there?

[@JokerMojo-fe8fx]

Hi, Stephanie! I've been watching your videos and they are very informative, enlightening and have helped me tremendously. Keep doing what you're doing! The healing from being in a romantic relationship with a Narcissist is pure hell....no other way to describe it for me. I never saw it coming, never even thought she could be the monster she ended up being. I have never been so hurt, disappointed, confused, disgusted and angry in my entire life! The amount of betrayal and "being taken for granted" has been the hardest for me to deal with. Journaling while looking back at our relationship with a new set of eyes has made my jaw drop. The lies, the mirroring, the gaslighting, the vanity, the cheating. That and the fact that I'm having to come to terms with the fact I was in love with a ghost, basically. The woman of my dreams, THE ONE, the one that I was "meant to be with" never really existed...I guess. I have never experienced the amount of grief, deep mourning, just a completely shattered heart in my entire life. It has changed me, at my core. There are times when I wonder if I will ever heal from this. How can I ever trust anyone with my heart again? Can I trust myself again? To see and react to the red flags, not fall for the pretty face and love bombing, keep my boundaries up. It's been the most life changing thing I have ever gone through, and I've been through a LOT in my lifetime! Thank you for what you do! You're making a difference for me. Much love.

[@mararamitchpeace]

Whooooo! Girl! All of this was just hitting me in the soul! Freaking amazing! 🥰

[@김도근-s7m]

I don't love him anymore. I don't miss him anymore.

[@hlengiwefeliciamabuza7354]

Me too

[@opheliedussidour4643]

Same here

[@alonzomosley7]

Playing their mind games ,one day good next day bad .Its all about them its never about you .

[@ashleyluna5444]

There were times during the relationship with my ex that I had thoughts about him being two different people, and which would I get? So much of this information hits home. I also didn’t fully realize what was happening until the discard and learning about all this. It makes so much more sense and is so validating.

[@highwaypictures1]

They attach themselves to your soul and torment you after they are gone!

[@melsteverding3117]

Thank you ✨️ I learned that I am worthy of real love. They taught me that I deserve better 🙌❤️

[@XTINCTIONation]

This info and analysis was articulated so well, so in depth and in accordance with what I’ve experienced. Thank you for this content ❤

[@LOVEtoPLAYdrums]

IMO. We can't control what Narcs do. We can control what Empaths do. So what are some of the top reasons for the Empaths "Downfall?" 1) Setting boundaries and stop trying to fix others (Stop over sharing with narcs / and practice soul distancing)(don't tell them deep info about your self) 2) Dealing with invalidating people (Learning to ignore their invalidation / talk only directly to them with no emotion connected)(keep your emotions behind your golden shield) 3) Focus on finding and helping only other Empaths / Leave Narcs in the dust (Prevention is the best method for Narc relationships)(Empaths networking with other empaths) Empaths can hold them selves accountable. So lets work on our own actions instead on trying to control the narc situation. Empaths can change and improve. Narcs can't. This is only my opinion. Others might think different. But the topic is so large we need to compress the lesson timing... After 1000 hours learning about Narcs. Learning Empath downfall I think is the best for use of time and attention span and mental bandwidth... (I have 2 very covert Narcs Doctor Parents. I wish I could have Stephanie set them straight... But its impossible. They'll never change...)(Focus on the Empath)

[@kaibri9287]

Out of all my relationships and marriage throughout my life. This relationship was by far the worse experience of my life. When I started looking up narcissism is when I put it together and realized this was who I was dealing with. I wish I had known a long time ago 6 and a half or longer actually is time you can never get back. We need to spread awareness so others we know or love will get into this nightmare of an experience. I'm talking to my children about this and educating them. Now I know the red flags. I think I'll stay single for a while I have so much to work on inside and out.

[@nicolehayes6020]

I agree that I did allow this type of behavior to continue and I think it was for 2 reasons…1) toxic person is my “mother “ and 2) at that time I didn’t know what I was dealing with. Best believe that once I got that lightbulb moment, I took my power back and started on my healing journey ❤️✌️🙏

[@Liz-wz8dh]

This was helpful. I've found that in work situations with narcissistic bosses I've had a hard time articulating why the relationship was so contentious. It's somethig I've experienced again and again and while I know that in every single case it's come down to how that narcissistic boss sees themselves, it's still been hard not to get out of these situations without feeling damaged by my interactions with them.

[@Liz-in8lu]

You were very spot on with so many of the things. Especially when you try to describe what you like about them. And all of their superficial focus, on a house on a job and a marriage on children. I told him many times I can take care of myself, but the connection is what I want.

[@lukecomins7821]

BHAM! This is spot on for me in a 'situation' I find myself in... thank you for putting it into sensible words. Healthy love rules OK!

[@timothygenaw2199]

This is the best plain-English explanation I have ever heard of understanding a relationship with a narcissistic person.

[@keshneegovender54]

I feel like you always have content that I need to hear. Thank you for your work. As soon as you post a video I can't wait to watch it. It's people like you and Dr Ramani that are helping us understand the world around us.

[@bornagain2890]

Dear Stephanie, thank you so much for this video. I was just laying here resting and was thinking of my 18-year marriage with me narcissistic trait husband, left me for a younger woman. And I reached for my phone to listen to my music to relax and this came up on my phone because I am subscribed to it. And if it didn't nail it right on the head, which I needed to hear today; and it helps me immensely! I'm going to listen to it again when I am sitting up and take notes and I am glad that I have a phone that I can keep these messages saved. Thank you again! 🙂💔❤️‍🩹❤️

[@therealone8628]

How are you coping? After he left? I'm so sorry to hear that. Hope you are well? I'm going through same currently still in the same house with him.

[@ramonalofgren5552]

I wish peace for you. And just know everyday from now on (free of the emotional torture) will look a little bit better. Hugs.

[@ladiebugs]

I'm going through the same exact thing. I was married for 19 years, and my soon to be ex-husband left me for his new supply/flying monkey (she is younger than me too). He also left our children too. The way he did the discard was absolutely horrible. Take care and hang in there.♡

[@user-uh5tb9er4o]

3 minutes in and holy unexpected insight! yes! the "deal" that hooks me with the narcissistic type is the lack of vulnerability... it's like sweets after supper, i am going straight to find it so i suppose it's what keeps me invested with no satisfaction.... omg! this i really liberating bc now when i am making connections i can sense around the "vulnerability factor" and use that as a guide... dang girl, that's empowering thank you!!!

[@zartan-1975]

I “love bombed” her at all times. It was the only way she kind of felt happy and content. I received the”picking” and tried to change myself for her. At the end and still to this day, I’m so depressed that I just lay on the couch and can’t figure out how to get back to who I was before her. I raised her kids to the point that when I take my daughter shopping for clothes I automatically turn to ask her kids what they want, and they aren’t there. I get so much more depressed after that.

[@keshneegovender54]

I'm so glad you are here listening to Stephanie. You are on the road to recovery. I have also found Dr Ramani to be very helpful on the journey.

[@zartan-1975]

@@TattoosNwater no I’m not the narc. She played the damsel in distress. I did everything in my power to make her happy.

[@robynwheatcraft7947]

@@zartan-1975 I think the confusion was that you said 'you' love bombed her; and love bombing is usually what the narcissist does to us.

[@zartan-1975]

@@robynwheatcraft7947 Yes, I understand that. I should have said it differently. I apologize. I don’t know how else to say that she kind of pushed for way more from me each time she broke my heart then came back. I want to be with her so badly after all she does to me and I really don’t fully understand why. She got mad at her son and sent him to my house to live for a year. We put him at the school near my house. As opposed to the school directly across the street from her house. I know it was to push me to let her move in. The first time she moved in she was basically drunk the whole time she lived here, while drunk she would physically assault me, the next day she would have me apologize for what she did to me. I’m so lost in all of this I have forgotten how to be me without her.

[@brendacottrell9787]

It would help if you went to A Therapist,for yourself.

[@msnorway79]

I should have left the first time he betrayed my trust, but no I stayed and I let him treat me bad, not once but many times and I want to know why....

[@staceyprovias892]

Excellent information and helping me understand… Thank you so very much!! ❤️

[@colindailley5062]

After all you've just said Steph, it's not easy to say it, but you're great ~

[@nancymelloh4222]

My son is involved with a woman and recently engaged. She has turned him into someone our family does not recognize. He does not have anything to do with his adult children, siblings and parents. How can one person have that power over another? We cannot communicate with him...she knows everything he is doing....so disappointed in him..

[@nancymelloh4222]

Forgot to mention she lies all the time!!

[@TomFox1]

woah controlling women aka female narc, sorry to hear!!

[@blastprosful]

What I did wrong was I willfully ignored the red flags, believed the love bombing was teal , Gave up who I was because of desperation, wanting to be loved, and physical attraction.

[@richardhall2630]

How did it go?

[@blastprosful]

@@richardhall2630 ... she's out of my life 15 months. It gets better but fixing the damage has been a slow methodical process of rebuilding, self love and impossible forgiveness. I'm closer to God and animals then I've ever been. Being good to others is helping.

[@karenluebke1605]

Yeah. I was married to a covert narcissist for 30 years. I truly believed he loved me so much, but he couldn’t help the way he acted. I always cried for myself, but felt so sorry for him. …. Until yesterday when it finally started to sink in that maybe my life has been a lie. This is so hard to mentally process. If this is true, I gave my whole life away, so many days that maybe I could have been happy, to a person who intentionally kept me miserable. It’s a tough pill to swallow.

[@stellar52]

The part of "not just pointing at the other person" is something we shouldn't say to victims of Narcissistic abuse. It's wrong and makes us even more shame and blame ourselves. It never takes two to tango, in an abusive relationship

[@GodiscomingBhappy]

right on! thank you for putting into words what I was feeling.... 😓

[@annhaney8014]

Thank you for sharing this - very helpful. I have a sister that I believe is narcissistic. Very inconsistent in her behavior and I sense that she is very insincere. I don't trust her and therefore it is impossible to develop a healthy relationship with her. I have compassion for her but find that it is best for me if I have little to no contact with her.

[@kelliebutler4662]

Thank you, I am currently in this situation. Been in a relationship for 24 years have 6 children together. But I've had enough of the emotional abuse. I can resonate so much with all you said. My mum suffer physical abuse from my dad which I witnessed a lot of the time. Me and my kids dad argue a lot. But within the year I have been working on changing my mindset and have grown personally and realise that we deserve BETTER. And I want him to leave. I need to think about my children's wellbeing and he has NO awareness of how his behaviour affects us all. I'm done with it.

[@LBC22123]

I love your cardigan, I just had to say that before I watch the video 🥰

[@mayolasbones6831]

Love my peace and quiet and faith in God. Thank you 😊

[@matthewmcmacken6716]

I recall the first time the poking started. Little did I know the storm coming.

[@caurbine1228]

All of this is true. Just got done with a woman like this. At first it was really good. Good values, morals, interests. But I would see some strange behavior. (Listening to breakup songs, being distant, gettin on social media while ignoring my texts). She trained Jiu jitsu as a gym and her ex that she was with for 5 years was there too. After it go so bad and the relationship ended, 3 weeks later she’s back with her ex. The no changing, the selfishness, I was also seeing weird signs of cheating. There was even one time I went over to her house and saw urine stains on her toilet. I’m pretty clean about that stuff so I wasn’t sure if I just forgot to wipe it up last time I used it, but I always do. But couldn’t be 100%. That’s how they get you. You’ll never be 100% sure about what’s going on

[@painxxxl]

Very true. Something like this happened to me too recently. I was meeting her for 2 months. Constantly ranting about her exes, which if true, really treated her like a shit. She was complete lunatic and so was I when I thought I can help her. You can not help someone who doesn't want help at all.

[@eseniteowlcg5067]

That is me right now!!!

[@rachell4417]

Take everything they say with a pinch of "of course!"

[@Brianna-yh7iy]

Your videos are really helpful. Thanks

[@rosaliaoliver-qv3gr]

Thank you for opening our mind !

[@Truth-matters-v2z]

It’s hard to change your stuff even when you recognize it unless you have strategies and/or a coach

[@PinkJoy143]

That was heartbreakingly phenomenal, thank you wow

[@uptone12111]

I honestly (keep in mind I am no expert) am starting to believe narcissism is being loosely thrown around.I ,like many people ,are guilty of having narcissistic behavior but are there really that many completely narcissistic people out there? I have been called an EMPATH by pretty much most of the people who I come across and have never really learned how to set up boundries so yes have been taken advantage of.However, even the worst of those people had some great qualities I learned from. My Ex wife even ,in a round a bout way accused me of having narcissistic possesive qualities.Later to only be discovered was that I had anxiety in social settings and her job required it.

[@seans9203]

excruciating revelations - grateful - ty Sean

[@garettzeek1067]

its harder to date especially when you dated a narcissist in the past that loves to gossip on dating apps ....

[@takeenyagore181]

Thank you for sharing this- I should have listen to my intuition in the beginning! I tried to distance myself early on, when his lies and timing of situations wasn’t adding up and that’s when the “ love bombing” started. Fast Forward- I’m having to rebuild myself up again from being engaged to now starting all over, living with co-workers and friends. I’m thankful I have my life❤ after all the physical and emotional abuse.

[@danielraypickrel4316]

I love watching coyotes at a distance. I wish to be more agile with dancing amongst people. Thankyouthankyou for promoting me to begin writing this morning.

[@ariannasrobolxchannel]

My father … it’s not just your partner

[@philipmulvihill1455]

Sharon stone basic instinct for da folk's for da holidays 🎉🥳🙃👍

[@tadhendershot1954]

THANK YOU, Ms. Lyn!!!! I've been watching your videos and they have been SO helpful!!!

[@Malumbrus]

Whelp, I know Im not the narcissist in this dynamic! Thank you.

[@luisb126]

Thank you so much for all this information, I didn’t know at all

[@ladonnabrown7882]

Thank you. I'm struggling what is real and all the questions on how to move forward healthy

[@edgreen8140]

puella in juniang terms - the eternal child.

[@Jurg71]

I forgot about the love bombing. Saw it once, and thanks to videos like yours, the flags were coming up all over. Things have been a mess ever since, as I still have her in my life.

[@Jurg71]

This is me in some ways, too. I'm still learning about this stuff.

[@titanniki412]

Sounds like my Ex(17 mos) broke up 16 days ago. She suffers from Bi Polar, low self esteem. She wears hearing aids, has a Bad ankle She's says she needs to lose weight. I think she is Beautiful! Many x's a day I would say DO you know how BEAUTIFUL you are? she would reply Yes bcuz of you! Then she would say DO you know how Awesome you are? i learned everything I could about her illness! I treated her like a Queen!!!

[@Diana-wt4ny]

This was a well done video. It help me understand a little bit better about what I know and don’t know, or understand about narcissism. Thank you! ❤

[@queenslander954]

He becomes a President & he’s so much of a narcissistic he refuses to go when voted out.

[@seahorse6284]

So well explained. Thank you ❤

[@Sophia-vx8gj]

Thank you so much for this ❤

[@penkapetkova428]

Your video's are great. After I watched this video many things became clear to me.

[@michaelknapp8961]

My wife and I were at the grocery store last night. We are going down the isle with our cart and there’s this guy yelling at his wife. He got so mad at her that he raised his hand like he was going to hit her. Just looking at him and reading his tough guy body language tells me he’s into power and controlling his wife. I bet he’s abusive mentally and probably physically if he’s acting like that in public. He’s definitely a narcissistic personality. His wife looked scared of him. We felt really bad for her.

[@scotttabak6755]

Jesus he’s messed up

[@vitkomusic6624]

Yes this video cleared my head

[@kaibri9287]

More like left with PTSD with my ex fiance and loss of self after 6 and a half years of mostly hell. Trying now to get me back but I don't think it's possible. I was 37 free spirited, happy positive person, energetic, very easy to talk to. Very attractive and full of life. I'm left unattractive with low self esteem, broken beyond repair. 💔

[@BrianHornak]

I'm so sorry and can relate..

[@johnjohnstone9805]

I Suffer From This Chronic Sense Of Powerlessness In Relationships A Sense Of Having No Power To Affect The Other. Which Has Create Some Bad Effects In My Relationships. The Worst Is Lack Of Initiative I Just Don't See Any Point In Trying. And The Other Is No Comprehension Of Any Effects I Might Of Had On Others. Good Or Bad Both Confound Me. I Don't Have A Clue How To Recover. Usually Others Put Up With Me Till They Can't Then They Go Nuclear. And I Got Buckley's Of Sorting Anything Out Then. So My Relationship History Is One Blow Up After The Other And I'm None The Wiser Still. Some Places Are Offering High Level Relationship Skills But I Just Need Some Basics.

[@cassandrahenry]

Sounds like you just need some confidence and learn to love yourself more than you love others. Put yourself first and don’t be scared to lose some if you are a relationship with them

[@terriwhalen3618]

Thanks Stephanie. This is a or was a bizarre so called friendship. And I feel that something may have been on the demonic because of her delusions. I blocked her and I may never know foe sure, but this did seem to have a strange effect on my mind. Listening to her on phone with the hatred, delusions, paranoid delusions, gossiping, trying to belittle me which I didn't allow, sending me groceries ect. while I am recovering eye surgery which I appreciate, but felt uncomfortable with. The whole 5 weeks was crazy and I thank you for your videos and listening. God Bless!

[@nicselectronics81]

He took my soul and identity then tossed in the trash 🗑️ I forgive his psycho self 😅

[@lblifetips1539]

It started good, but a real relationship has ups and downs. And poking on your partner will happen because you are not dating your twin. Both feel and think differently and yes learning from the relationship is good but expecting a serious relationship to be stress free or 100% vulnerability is not realistic. If our partner is always Narcissistic, it will be difficult to make it work, but if they just have trouble opening up, we must be patient and understanding. Just wanted to point this for viewers who might get confused.

[@martyedwards1531]

So typically, how long before the Narc lets thier guard down with the new supply and their true Narc traits start to show?

[@ellemoo44]

I don't see how there is another person who put up with less than I did! I really don't. I gave the clothes off my back for nothing in return. Absolutely no return. Not yet anyway.... Because I was picked because I had cptsd from deep trauma involving the kidnapping of my children and a huge heart and energy, something I had never dealt with because I wasn't even aware of why I should and that I just had to accept how it was, the end! Now, due to the most sickening narcissistic abuse that also involved my children, I have been forced to begin healing and learn about trauma and what has been happening to my body. The fact he came to destroy me and my entire life, is the fuel I needed to actually reinvest myself piece by piece. Every relationship has changed, because most of them were just using me, I am learning to defend myself again. I am learning to not abandon myself. I am learning how to develop myself. I am learning about myself. Once I found out what my ex NPD is, I gave him money to leave my home since he deliberately made himself financially dependent upon me and then told everybody I had made it this way and been depriving him of money. He refused to work or even get social security payments because he said he didn't care for money and shamed me for being money orientated if I dared to say anything about it. He strolled around my home like a hotel guest, played dumb and outraged when he was asked to contribute to household chores, it was a daily fight. On top of all my other commitments and trauma. The public Smear campaign actually was his down fall because he had been projecting the illusion of adoration and love of me and happiness for such a long time on social media for his previous supplies benefit, unbeknownst to me, that people found it slightly odd how quickly he became so happy when we broke up, this is why he had to portray me as an abuser and told everybody what he had done to me, I had done to him! I actually think it's more sociopathy. I found his notebook where he had been targeting me and others online before the relationship began. Once I sae that I knew 100% he was a predator, goodbye, thanks for forcing me to deal with myself!

[@tineshacprivate1928]

Hello Tinesha Please make advice about Narcissistic Abusers my exs men was Narcissistics and they are still abusive Narcissistics and disrespectful.

[@jamartinez5708]

Here after my Sister in-law driving my Brother crazy with confusion 😠🙄😫

[@HannahMickunas]

Relate to this 100% except I’m wondering if it’s possible I’m with a narcissist if he never ever communicates any put-downs and never criticizes me. The way I experience the confusion is that he doesn’t show interest in me romantically or sexually. He likes having me around, but after four years of living with him, and after wanting to be married and him, not wanting to be married, but finally saying, OK someday, he introduces our relationship to someone in public the other day as “we live together”. Totally confused. Does every narc put you down? Because if so, then, I guess he’s not narcissistic

[@christinavolpe879]

Mine would apologize while still lying about the facts about it and make me feel guilty for not being better for him and then do it all over again while hiding behind past trauma and multiple addictions. My past was just as traumatic and yet I evolved and was/am a good person giving my all in the relationship. Should have left in the beginning but didn’t know what I know now.

[@misskhoury1765]

What if you never saw the monster?? What if he hid it and then discarded at the end over a text bc I bombarded him with texts when he ignored me for four days? I sent a text standing up for myself in a kind way telling him it was unattractive and disrespectful not responding to me. He ended it and told me to stop contacting him and I’m starting to harass him. I never said anything disrespectful and he now won’t respond . He just ghosted me and we never fought. He went from being perfect and scared I would leave to him dropping me so fast and not caring to speak to me in a respectful way.

[@callonthemidwife1874]

Thank you.

[@benjaminewering5329]

The only way my ex controlled me was with making me feel guilty. I felt guilty for things I have done or things I havent done. It doesnt matter. I even felt truly guilty for leaving and not coming back.

[@christophermwren2691]

Wow, I've been NO CONTACT last 2 weeks, now I'm the selfish one, simply for setting a boundary to avoid further mental & emotional abuse.... My wife should be a history teacher, because she seems to bring up things 5, 10, 15 even 20 years ago....we've been separated for 2 years but on and off because we have 5 children, man she even tells my children to block me.... I learnt about going No Contact from 2 close friend's and a therapist. I should've listened 8 months ago when this was suggested by my 2 friends, who are actually on the outside looking in and seeing what this woman is doing to me, i thought nah I'm going to try help her, bad mistake, not until my therapist suggested, I listened, long road ahead.... May I add, love bombing, gas lighting and you guessed it all out smear campaign....

[@Babette70]

What do you do when someone spreads around that they are injured. And you start to see this as manipulation. They gaslight and try to weasel their way into parts of my life where they don't belong. Try to run my life. Tell my story. Fed up is all I can say. I'm I the only one who sees how toxic this person is ?