Mid Life Crisis (How to live now)

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This video is about mid life crisis

[@alexanderlyon]

I just saw this on LI and it is outstanding (I shared it, of course!0. I'm really impressed. I went from just enjoying to almost immediately seeing connections to my own life at 49 years old. The Warren Buffet story is wonderful. Thanks for making this, Conor.

[@giaafshar8419]

im 39 and realized im probably going through a midlife crises. the drawing was really helpful thanks.

[@ConorNeill]

It means a lot that this video resonates

[@nottsfinn4547]

I’m a 35 year old male constantly panicking about my life and how it’s going to pan out after watching this video wow this has gave me guidance and hope I thank you so much.✌️amazing 😁

[@rangerwhite5165]

At 50, having lost quite a few friends to accident/illness, you become acutely aware of your own mortality at this age. You do realise at this age, there is nothing in life that was ever worth a second of you worrying about it. Memento Mori. Great presentation.

[@ConorNeill]

Crisis can help focus the mind 🔮🙏

[@youtubebrowse3522]

I'm 28 and after listening to your views on how should ONE take decisions in his life, I'm gonna call to my beloved father who is 64 to get his perspective and to learn from his life experiences.

[@dandan0618]

This is hands down the best video I have seen for years. There are many youngsters that talks about their choice of a 9-5 job vs freelance/travel etc., but i believe people their 35-55 has a much harder decision to make. We usually have way more backages and any change is almost impossible compared to when you were 20s. Yet, you realized you have made a mistake in your life's path and desperately looking for a way out. We need more guidance like this one.

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@elisimo91]

That’s probably the best video I’ve seen on the past 3 years ! Thanks Connor you’re awesome , I’m a big fan from Brazil 🇧🇷👏🏼

[@MrPelikan500]

that bell curve with line of sight & backpack concept ... is probably the BEST go-to visual aid I have ever seen! .. and which I will always use from now on! ... it gives SOOO much PERSPECTIVE on Every Piece of Wisdom that Any Person will come across ... cos its Value & Implementation will be relative to where we are on that bell curve.. thank you Conor ! 💓 😊

[@visvanathann9835]

One of the best views on mid life perspectives.

[@iamedis]

This is best explanation i have ever seen, so visual and clear and everyone can relate this in his own life! Especially us, that are next to the peak point.. this is a wisdom of the ages! I am so happy that I found your channel Conor, you are the best mentor! Thank you for sharing this with us!

[@ricardoafonso7884]

One of your best videos, if not the best one. Well done Conor, thanks for making this and sharing your wisdom

[@CliffordStarks1]

How much we learn through the journey. Great stuff Conor!👍

[@jw112mail]

I've watched a bunch of vids on this topic and this is the only one I found of value. Thank you

[@ConorNeill]

Thanks 🙏

[@laterlivingbetter]

Amazing perspective. I recently turned 50 and I did feel that there was shift in my perspective. This post has put things into clearer focus.

[@jennd5515]

I haven't even finished watching this video and the message is ABSOLUTELY brilliant. I had a meltdown at age 36 and I am 39 now and I have been searching for anything to help me understand what happened to me. Thank you so much for this video.

[@forzasiraj9998]

Great man. Keep on reinventing yourself, brother. Same here, 39 years old and in the same tunnel !

[@v.pintilie6691]

Hi! Would you mind sharing more? For me I think it was this year (I am 36) and had a meltdown with panic attacks, depression and stomach problems. I realized that I had to do what I enjoy and that this is a sacred Truth. It feels very good when I see other reaching similar conclusions, this is why I asked you to share your experience, should you find the time to write it.

[@BillTreasurer]

Excellent video. And it mirror's my own journey. I traveled with confidence (and arrogance) during the first-half. Then a life decimation happened. My actions had caused a karmic boomerang, smashing my ego into pieces on the ground. That was a critically important moment in that it led to positive changes thereafter. Humiliation is often the path to the acquisition of humility. Like Jung said, "There is no coming into consciousness without pain." Today? Life is grand!

[@QS-si3cq]

*mirrors. No apostrophe unless the word is expressing possession of the thing that comes after. Pluralization or using as an adjective does not use an apostrophe.

[@elixirix]

what happened man?

[@chetanamin9404]

It’s so beautiful and so well explained. Thank you professor Cornor Neil.

[@AB-ps2rf]

One of the best perspective...he surprises every time with his approach and depth of knowledge

[@ConorNeill]

Kind words, thank you 🙏

[@mhaji-cf4hz]

Wooowww. Thanks man. That was mind blowing. I am 40 and just reach to the top of my life journey as you said and now it is time to think and seeking other experience.

[@ConorNeill]

Fantastic!

[@gokhanaltun6192]

I’m 47 years old and trying to make a choice (not decision, as you mentioned other video) for my new career for next 5-10 years , too hard in order to eliminate my parents, society’s expectations, so getting professional help. During this journey, your videos are very helpful and thank you very much… I watched this video a few times, also others.

[@antoniomolina3867]

Insightful, clean, sharp, intelligent, as always, Conor. Thanks.

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@michaellally9516]

ONE OF CONOR'S BEST ........ THANK YOU CONOR!

[@bridgettewilson9389]

Thank you Conor - very insightful. Greetings from New Zealand.

[@Mohajerhub]

Hey Conor, I'm at 39 and not long ago I realized that I had my midlife crisis. I've started reading more and more about how to navigate through this period, listening to other people's experiences and thoughts. I'd say your talk especially the first six minutes shed light on the different aspects of this challenging time. Thank you!

[@Dalshad]

Really nice to watch this. Thank you Conor for sharing.

[@jjmccloud]

At 39yrs old, (40 this feb) this was spot on for me all the way to the top, very helpful information

[@bob6168able]

Conor,, you always inspire me. Thank you !

[@GenjiSleepsowo]

Did the list exercise. That is too true. It made me realize I need to do something in my life I wasn't sure of doing. Thanks.

[@ConorNeill]

well done 👍🏻

[@bouchtaab8281]

Priceless... Thank you indeed

[@jarvegerleandesalesdeassis8550]

Great Explanation! It has helped me so much! Thank you!

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@fojanhadjiabbasi193]

I agree! Do not seek advice! Everyone is different

[@virenderrawat8124]

Wonderful thoughts and something that really resonates with in my very own true self. Wondered why the topic is "Mid life Crisis"....as that's the point on timeline where it hits and whisper lightly HELLO!! I am sure someone's inner self radio is SET on the same wavelength and would relate as I did whilst writing this comment. Peace be to all

[@tamirleibovich]

This video hit me hard 🤍 beautiful , love your perspective

[@ConorNeill]

🙏

[@someoneontheinternet3090]

I really wish some grown up had told me this was coming before it hit me during a pandemic right after getting divorced.

[@victorvarnak1645]

O how lucky I am for placing my trust in Lord Jesus Christ. On every stage of life I’m more then winner 😀 Thank you for this video.

[@QS-si3cq]

So, unsubstantiated fairy tales then? Sounds like a sound plan 🤣

[@victorvarnak1645]

Sean Roche I hope your response is Evidence Based. I mean you have a strong evidence to share with me that I’m wrong and to show me that you not just get overwhelmed like me here? 😀

[@AmrEdTech]

Great advice 🏆 , actually It's a piece of wisdom , thanks for sharing, Stay safe .

[@OxygenAdvantage]

Excellent video Conor.

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@Nickelodeon81]

Such a fantastic perspective.

[@karenstanly4928]

Thanks Conor for this wonderful insight

[@ConorNeill]

Kind words, thank you

[@abolama444]

Beautiful. Your mentor is so wise. In Islam we knew that and a lot more about one's journey before creation, when it's created, blew life inside the flesh tender body, delivered, first years in parent's care, growing up to the highest peak of strength and wisdom in life then the fast downward curve of life, strength, mindset and knowledge. While our hopefulness aims far away of our lives times.

[@timetraveler7527]

Hey Conor, good food for thought. Some videos ago I noticed the Buffalo Logo. Maybe you have already explained it and I have missed it - but wanted to ask: what is it's meaning? What is the story behind it? Thanks for sharing great content, stay safe.

[@Tia0929]

Insightful!💗

[@TheEJ1408]

Absolutely brilliant.

[@ConorNeill]

You are most welcome ;-) Welcome to the Rhetorical Journey!

[@srinivasanvaradharajan2256]

Excellent presentation, Thank you.

[@ConorNeill]

Glad it was helpful!

[@pigsinpyjamas9410]

This is a really helpful useful video. But it’s difficult when life/career coaches say you can still achieve great things and have many careers!

[@ConorNeill]

Yes, you are right

[@abdurhmanalgamdi950]

Thinks for sharing the wisdom 🤟

[@fabianmery8185]

Thank you Connor for sharing it.

[@jaspajones7045]

Awesome video. Going through a mini midlife crisis now. Goes away then comes back again.

[@ConorNeill]

In the immortal words of Dr Seuss “it will be alright when it’s over; and if it’s not alright, it’s not over”

[@jaspajones7045]

@@ConorNeill I am actually using it to give me energy. Focusing on the great positive memories from past and reconnecting with old acquaintances. Also my diet and exercise / yoga.

[@creamrising]

You literally drew the roller coaster from the Famous Bill Hicks monologue about life being just a ride.

[@The_Berriest]

I guess 47 is my peak since I am sitting here watching. Good explanation, thanks.

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@kalkal6079]

wow like really wow .. thank u man for sharing this

[@prafullrathod8286]

He takes out his pen paper and starts drawing. Okay, now I'm ready for some once-in-a-lifetime lessons.

[@midlifehacks]

Hi Conor, thank you for this powerful message. So i want to ask you, what was it like at 40. What were you going through, what decisions did you take? please share your experience. Thank you

[@PADMAGEDDAM]

Wonderful

[@klee06able]

Thank you and good to know you!

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you

[@linatsang2602]

Very helpful!

[@ConorNeill]

Glad it was helpful!

[@wackyshorts4003]

Thank you I believe this is going to change my life... I just wish I saw this 3 years ago.

[@cutetwinzninit1484]

Absolutely profound 😊

[@elixirix]

really liked this your video and relaxing style. I´m 40, single, with MS.... provoking a midlife crisis.. I'm a teacher though so at least I'm sort of doing some good.

[@michaelaziz5541]

Good evening sir from Pakistan and God bless you more...

[@alv2601]

Thank You!

[@hermanngugi4848]

I am going to advice many people to watch this video.

[@wisdomok99]

Amazing channel

[@saidattif8439]

Thank you so much

[@SamsPlaceST]

Thanks so much 😊👍

[@acheenu]

mind blowing enlightenment! they should teach all this in colleges first before everything!

[@kevinclarkecoaching]

Thank you.

[@ConorNeill]

👍🏻

[@johngabor9042]

Is it possible to empty the bag before seeing the horizon? How to know that I see clearly the Horizon? And is it possible to see the Horizon earlier in Life (Late twenties) ??? What is an Alternative if We cant find a person that could share his experience ?? I would happy to hear your Perspective :)

[@MrAlamazin]

I had the same thought. At 38 I believe I see my horizon already. But if I we’re to mentor someone younger than me, say in their twenties, would it be possible to help them to understand this concept and to empty their “bag?” I feel like my younger colleagues struggle with this sometimes.

[@stevemulqueen6210]

Great video very interesting

[@teegees]

Love the metaphor. Is it 5 things because more would be too much, and less would be too little or make life too boring? What about those philosophies that say to only focus on THE #1 most important thing?

[@piotrr5439]

I need to see this again.

[@PADMAGEDDAM]

Very useful

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@jagannathshenoy9940]

Once again we had a great conversation on leadership beliefs today; Different perspectives and having curiosity. It's prudent to have different perspectives from those who have gone through similar crisis sometimes in the past life, how did they handled, what were those important steps they took etc may help us to deal with our current crisis. But be smart to have perspectives from those trusted mentors or your coach. We keep adding our desires, projects and dreams in to our endless list not been aware that life is finite.! Therefore, consider top 20 most important projects of which select only Five projects so as to allocate your time and resources to accomplish in a given span of time. It is worth investing time on detail planning before you start executing your long term visions/Goals. Know how to drop unimportant projects that disturbing your main tasks. Seek good conversation, dialogues with the authors rather than merely reading his book, talks are more powerful to connect and understand better. TED talks are preferred, you will ab able to align and sync with the speakers perspectives. Secondly the day you ceases your curiosity is stopping your growth journey and slowly your eroding your interest in adding value to your own life journey. Remain curious even when your are into deep crisis, do not become restless, pause, calm and have patience to take right decisions, because crucial decisions should never be taken while one is in angry mood. Thank you Prof Conor sir, you have full of energy and passion to share your wonderful thoughts and experiences help us all to learn and discover new horizons. Wish you wonderful week a head.

[@jagannathshenoy9940]

@@ConorNeill Thank you so much sir for you compliments.!

[@nomad9563]

Dr I'm 34 I've been really unhappy/frustrated since 33 I know you said it's something 35 year olds can get but is it possible for it to come earlier? I appreciate your wisdom on the subject. Also I've been trying to figure out what I really wanted. But I think a family is what I really wanted, and being able to maintain one.

[@TopGun_-]

Know that you are fortunate to be going through this your age. Many of us experience what you’re going through a bit later on (when too much time has passed by). Take this experience as energy being placed onto you so that you can better zone in on figuring out what you want. I was in your shoes at your age (wanted a wife, kids, etc) but I made the mistake of thinking that I should work on my career first, while believing that I’ll always have the tube and opportunity to get married later on. Well, later on eventually got here and my career is ok but not where I thought I’d be at my age (51) and am still not married and no kids. I’ve come to be at peace with things and conclude that if God wanted it to happen, He would’ve helped it happen. Thus, I accept things the way they turned out and approach things now as if it was the best thing for me. Therefore, if you don’t get married, know that this too will be ok for you. You will eventually turn whichever path you end up going down as the one which ultimately was your best path!

[@nomad9563]

@@TopGun_- Hey man, I appreciate your input on this I really do. I mean I'm trying to be more appealing to women just I don't want to lose myself being someone I'm not. I'm still going to work on the whole getting a family dream, and to me I appreciate your advice on this sir I really do. I am in a position where I want a family and I want commitment and having extreme difficulty in finding it. Career is going okay and the economy scares me but it should not deter me from this. I appreciate your wisdom and intelligence along with your experience. I'm sorry man, I hope things go your way soon man.

[@timswartz4520]

My curve goes up exponentially. I am beyond most or all. I will live best longest even If I am a minimalist that cares about others least yet best.

[@ConorNeill]

Great place to be

[@timswartz4520]

Personally my great Grandma when she was 100+ told me my Horizon is vertical.

[@timswartz4520]

My top 5 is Health, Move to Portugal and start a new life on the Beach, Be Meaningful and Kind, enjoy life, die happy.

[@msrkzzr5330]

God bless you

[@websurfer1585]

The mind is a torturous beast that constantly goads you to seek, be and have more, keeping you unhappy and discontent. I think we need to seek solace in quiet awareness, a position of wisdom and true intelligence, from where we can see through the illusions of the mind, and arrive at peace and self wholeness. Seeking external things in the world keeps you dissatisfied, unfulfilled, and always looking for more, in short, living this way doesn't work. We are meant to seek happiness, joy, fulfilment, peace, and self wholeness within, in the inner sanctuary referred to in scripture as the kingdom of heaven.

[@MsMPil]

Wonderful reflection. Thank you!

[@inkerikavantera]

Understanding in your late 30s that a) you're nobody b) you know just enough - it helps along the way. I intend to skip this crisis business altogether.

[@ConorNeill]

Fingers crossed that you figure it out. Some crisis is necessary in life... to leave behind the old and bring in the new

[@franciscareyes585]

Thank you, very interesting perspective. It makes you stop and look at your life and how much time you have left and what is that I want to do with the time left. I read in a book: Fear from Thick Nhat Hahn ... “so you don’t miss your appointment with life”. Your video is food for thought. Much appreciate it.

[@india6039]

Kick a**video Very Insightful

[@ConorNeill]

Thank you 🙏

[@DP-bo4yw]

Great content, however the multiple adverts throughout the video is very annoying. Can you remove adverts from all your videos pls ?

[@baraldanny]

Was Steve irish?

[@restoreplanetearthnow4813]

These are hard lessons to learn. I guess we are better off listening and learning the hard lessons and to take heed than learning them the hard way when it is too late to unload the pack. Bonus nugget of gold *How to connect to the experience of another human being- what happened? Why was it important to you? What did it feel like to go through?*

[@ConorNeill]

Great questions

[@sheilacoughlin8613]

I have a lot of respect for you putting yourself out there and giving so generously of your valuable knowledge and expertise to reach people with messages so important for them to learn to grow and develop which they may not have access to otherwise. Thank you Conor for your willingness to share and for braving this world to be able to get your messages out.

[@MYKEYCARD]

KZbin fork in the road with sheree Clark⛔

[@samih-dg3hu]

Can i work with you one on one

[@constructor12]

I really don't u derstad tjis shitty problems with midlifecrisis . I live like I live forever. I ignore my death completely and I feel like 28. But I'm 46.

[@words-in-context]

Conor, I found the Future Authoring program www.selfauthoring.com/future-authoring to be really helpful in this respect.

[@johnathonwhyte2826]

At 4:00 you imply that the person is feeling angry, and will continue to be angry, because they haven't unloaded their backpack. The fact is, they are angry because it is a stage of grieving. You are trying to justify the self absorbed behavior someone in a midlife crisis exhibits as their "purpose", when in fact it is a symptom of their confusion caused by trauma response of the amygdala and hypothalamus. That is unbelievably irresponsible and unhealthy on your part to direct people to abandon their lives to "feel better" when in fact that will not do anything but hurt them in those situations even more.

[@NovemberVIHR]

Good words, but i haven't heard much specific for midlife crisis in this video. Everything this guy says - setting perspective, getting advices and making decisions - applies to any stage of life. So no big revelation in this video.

[@ConorNeill]

I guess it is an "all of life crisis" but it becomes more critical when you realise that there is a finite number of hours remaining. Welcome to the Rhetorical Journey!

[@NovemberVIHR]

@@ConorNeill true. The part i liked in your video is that the crisis where you realise finitness - that's what separates it from previous finitness. Anyway, thanks for responding :)

[@dd119ful]

Dont listen to advice is bad advice. Yes we don’t always get wise mentors. It’s you’re instinct, experience and values that define you’re path. There is no true view of the terrain. Stop preaching phoney wisdom in front of a bookcase. Good luck, but I’m out.

[@midshipsport]

Why are you smiling?! It ain't cool to turn 40!

[@ConorNeill]

It’s better than the alternative

[@midshipsport]

@@ConorNeill ok. Alternative? Sorry what do is the alternative ?

[@ConorNeill]

☠️

[@midshipsport]

@@ConorNeill oh lol ok :-)

[@johnmueller9100]

LOL what a bunch of bs. Our lives are all pre-destined. Imagine people in abject poverty. After midlife you still learn everyday...good and bad.

[@hibaelhassany1583]

Wonderful