Coping with grief - Baby loss series

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[@temalangenidlamini1641]

Lost my baby at 5 months. Its been 11 years now. Cant stop thinking my baby would be 11 years this year. 😢

[@mwenyasampa]

I will never be the same again. It really hurts. I have no interest in my career or doing any other thing. Am so angry. I don't even know where to direct my anger 💔💔💔💔💔. It's been a month. I don't know what to do with my life anymore.

[@Tommys-together-for-every-baby]

We are so sorry for your loss.💔 Are you a member of our Facebook Groups for peer support? Tommy’s Midwives are also here for you on 0800 014 7800 or [e-mail]. Love Tommy’s xx

[@heistruth2865]

I'm part of the online community and have been immensely comforted. I'm so sorry 😞 ❤

[@michd5471]

What you feel is valid, beloved. I pray you fully grieve your sweet baby, and get a therapist or someone to walk this journey WITH you. I felt similarly when my baby died. I took time away from working and processed my pain. 24 years later, something triggered this pain again. You will see light again.

[@michd5471]

​@@Tommys-together-for-every-baby thank you

[@afrnshk4760]

I lost my 10 day old beautiful healthy baby girl.. it's been 9 days since she is gone. The pain cannot be explained.. and everytime someone visits makes me go through the agonizing series of events over and over again... I don't know how me and my husband will get over the loss. We were blessed with my angel after 4 years of trying for a baby

[@kajalpatil1526]

I lost my son in my womb at the week of 37 .... I miss him he was so beautiful cute .....

[@nicolem1909]

I just lost my babygirl in December in the womb as well , I was 37weeks along, I’m so sorry for your loss know that I’m thinking of you ❤

[@laginarichardson8183]

I lost my son at 23 days old. What would have been his 15th birthday is in 25 minutes and it still feels like yesterday.

[@GwynethValle]

I lost my twins at 12 weeks pregnant. Trying to understand why this has to happen to me when I’ve done everything right in my life, some women who neglect their kids get to be mothers. Life doesn’t make sense.

[@LovelyAlpineSkiing-mj6fs]

Me too

[@destiny1177]

I just lost my 15 week son the grief is making me so depressed I don’t know what to do anymore I wanna give up but it’s hard i wanna get pregnant with another little baby boy but I feel like I don’t want anymore kids after what happened to me I just wanna live longer and hope god blesses me one day with my rainbow baby boy again 😩😭🙏🏽💙

[@Tommys-together-for-every-baby]

Hi Destiny, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through right now, and it's completely understandable that you're feeling anxious about the idea of trying for another baby. Please know that there is support out there for you, including lots of information on our website: www.tommys.org/baby-loss-support. You can also join our Facebook Baby Loss Support Group, which is a safe space for parents to speak openly about their experiences of loss and offer each other informal advice and support. Here's the link: facebook.com/groups/Tommysblsupport. You just need to answer 'Yes' to all 3 questions to be approved as a member. Sending you our love - Kate at Tommy's x

[@cheybloom9936]

I had 2 m/c. I found it hard when people texted asking how I felt. Being asked to continually put into words the utter devastation I felt was hard. Messages from friends simply saying they were thinking of me or sending me a hug helped. I admired the honesty of those who admitted they had no idea what to say. And those who were pregnant or had children who told me they were worried about making me more upset. Some friends would moan about their pregnancy ailments and their crying babies in front of me, without appreciating I would have given everything to be in their position. I was thankful to those who acknowledged my husband's feelings too. Partners often get forgotten about.

[@afrnshk4760]

I am so sorry for your loss.. whether its loosing a baby in infancy or miscarriage the pain is unbearable to any mom. Sometimes you just want to shut your self rather than meeting people. I Pray that we couples who had to go through these difficult times find peace and happiness soon.

[@LemmyLemajic]

I lost my firstborn son at 30 weeks pregnant a month ago. His heart stopped. My life stopped. I believe a huge part of me died with him. I'm an emotional wreck.

[@ShwethaShetty-fj3kg]

I lost my baby boy at 35weeks and he was damn cute.... Can't control my tears.....,. we are family of four me, his dad, two sisters were eagerly waiting for him....... 😢

[@thislys]

Our micro preemie twins passed two weeks ago. They were born 03/26/22 and both survived birth but my son passed after 24 minutes of life and my daughter passed the next day. It is so hard to fall so in love with your baby and lose them so quickly, but we are truly grateful to know a parents love because of them- for it is deep and eternal. We love you our Varry and our Vaeli, so so very much. We are so proud of you our little loves. We will see you again one day 🦋🤍

[@chillieboi2145]

I lost my baby at 22 weeks gestation, he was born sleeping. It was 19 years ago I neber got over it even though I went on to have another child 3 years later but that won't take away what I've lost . The anniversary is coming up the 17th of this month and today it feels like yesterday. I am having a really bad day today crying and screaming wishing he was here with me now

[@cleaerasmus9308]

Hey love im so sorry for your lost and you would have been the perfect mom

[@yuniusdjaro8780]

Oh my God

[@ashthrasher5175]

Thank you..❤

[@Secretlysecret-d9v]

I recently lost my unborn baby, i have never in my life have experience pain like this before. i have taken it far too hard. Sadly i also lost the love of my life during the process too and i miss him so much and regret everything leading up too it. sadly i dont have anyone to lean on him when we both should have been there for each other.

[@Tommys-together-for-every-baby]

Hi there, thank you for your comment and I'm really sorry for the delay in our reply. I'm so very sorry to hear of your losses - I can't imagine what this must have been like for you, and we're sending you all of our love. There is support out there if you need it, and some of the pages on our website might be a helpful place to start: www.tommys.org/baby-loss-support. We also have a Baby Loss Support Group on Facebook which you could join, because although losing a baby can feel very lonely, you are absolutely not alone. This is the link: facebook.com/groups/Tommysblsupport. You just need to answer 'yes' to all 3 questions to be approved as a member. Sending you lots of love and strength at this difficult time - Kate at Tommy's xx

[@peterrogers6336]

We are currently 24/25 weeks in and our baby isn’t growing at the expected rate due to the placenta not giving the baby the oxygen and nutrients it needs to grow , having to go for weekly scan at the moment , we’ve been told that this may become 2/3 scans a week and aiming for 34 weeks anymore is a bonus , but it may come to a case that we have to have the baby born to give it its best chance of survival. I can’t stop thinking that she won’t make it ,

[@zahramajid3353]

Beautiful video helps woman gives courage

[@Tahaanibra]

I just can’t be the same with this much pain after rushing on bed ready for a c section to see my gal out well so sad didn’t even hear her crying thou I have a different baby’s cry i hear in my ears only after my understanding my baby was already cold Oh yarabbi Inalillah waina ileih rajioon 22nd is just like today so painful i can’t rest for better health

[@yung9801]

I think I’m having a delayed response. It’s been 6 years since it happened. :(

[@aza12345ish]

We lost our beautiful baby girl last week , it’s been so heartbreaking 💔. So hard to deal with 😢

[@anewlondon4402]

My condolences. It's going on 10 months since I loss my baby girl and I'm still processing. Yah bless🙏🏾

[@aza12345ish]

Sorry to hear that brother , it’s so tough 💔

[@emilygaines1226]

My son would have been two months old. My sister just had a baby boy today and I felt so angry with myself:/. I know I shouldn’t feel angry I should feel happy but it’s hard understand my emotions.

[@axolotepistache4847]

i lost mine me and in gilfriend i dont think i climb back the heel anymore . be free celest . mommy and daddy love even if you were at 2 week okay

[@Ausomespectrum]

Am dealing with my loss which happened on 10.10.21... I still feel some sort of void in me...and I'm very worried for my husband too...for he anticipated so much for our daughter's arrival. She arrived too soon...and didn't make it. Severe preterm baby. I don't know how long it takes to grieve or cry over the loss...but I know time heals and we're not alone.

[@Tommys-together-for-every-baby]

Hi Elvi, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. We're sending lots of love to you and your husband at this difficult time. Please know there's support out there if you need it, including information pages and stories from other parents on our website: www.tommys.org/baby-loss-support. Wishing you the best, Kate at Tommy's xx

[@nancyoyula]

Lost our 6 day old baby and God knows what a mess my mental state is 😢

[@Tommys-together-for-every-baby]

Hi Nancy, I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your baby. Please know we're thinking of you and sending you our love. We also have a Baby Loss Support Group on Facebook which you might like to join - because although losing a baby can feel very lonely, you are absolutely not alone. This is the link: facebook.com/groups/Tommysblsupport. You just need to answer 'yes' to all 3 questions to be approved as a member. Sending you lots of love and strength at such a difficult time - Kate at Tommy's xx

[@nancyoyula]

@@Tommys-together-for-every-baby Thank you. I joined the group and I hope with time the agony in me won't be too much

[@arjaydelacruz2537]

we lost 2 babies already. our firstborn in 2019 and the very recent one was last June 2022. it is really devastating. we do not have an alive baby yet..

[@rachelb3889]

I lost my son at 25 weeks is been 5 days now

[@ShandiceAnderson-y8j]

😂 baby one 😂 baby one-and-a-half one-

[@leahchalmers2211]

Well unfortunately I didn’t have the support I actually wanted from my ex partner so I have to endure all these wave of emotions by myself 😞 oh well

[@ShandiceAnderson-y8j]

Baby one 😂