The Aftermath of Kalvin Garrah

[@CopsHateMoe]

Hey everyone! Thanks for all the support! Feel free to subscribe :))

[@wickedAberration]

Moe I swear you look a lot like the Doctor from Doctor Who a few seasons ago with that coat!

[@sadi9816]

@@wickedAberration omg i see that

[@myrskykytola1626]

Moe I think you're very cool

[@gawd-zila]

0:59 was really relatable

[@shagverywell8611]

Already done! ;P And already liked before I watch, cuz you always put QUALITY out there! Luv u keep u the good work xox

[@seacucumber679]

"they are in a wheelchair but can walk" well then, i guess if you can breath you don't have asthma.

[@CopsHateMoe]

exactly! I have asthma and I in fact can't breathe at all, ever.

[@redactedredacted6656]

If you only need glasses to read you have perfect eyesight

[@LiminalDoll]

This was perfect oh my -

[@seacucumber679]

@@redactedredacted6656 I need glasses but i'll just throw them out now since i'm not blind.

[@trashrabbit69]

I have scoliosis, so I should be a limbo champion in no time.

[@alexander_avila]

Thank you for not quitting, Moe 🙂!

[@CopsHateMoe]

Ahh thank you for sticking around !! (btw Merlin has been one of my hyperfixations since I was literally 11,, your video on it has a special place in my heart sjdhdjdhd)

[@lr6740]

@@CopsHateMoe the fact that you like merlin just makes me even more obsessed with you!

[@jenniemikasa576]

🙂

[@frozenyogurth]

@@CopsHateMoe I have watched Merlin like 3 months ago, and I can relate to the obsession lmao

[@blinkfilms1]

The crossover event of the century

[@Wolfgang8-Y]

It's not a coincidence that he "quit youtube" and rebranded at the same time he was applying for jobs and internships. Googling an applicant's name is a part of the process and most employers and advisors will bring up what they find in the interview. He's scrubbing his socials for law school.

[@realemmcee]

He didn’t do a very good job though bc his videos are still up

[@Wolfgang8-Y]

@@realemmcee The real damning stuff is in other people's videos and he can't just delete those. If he deletes his own videos, it looks like an acknowledgment of serious wrong doing. Instead he's building up his podcast and trying to build up views on his "apology" that downplays the situation so those show up on google before anyone else's videos. In a couple of years when he's applying for law school he'll look like "Kalvin the pre-law who made some mistakes as kid" instead of "Kalvin the walking harassment lawsuit who stalked and suicide baited multiple people".

[@ddjsoyenby]

yeah especially a law firm worth their salt.

[@witchstitch]

kalvin garrah isnt his real name so idk about this

[@grmpEqweer]

Face recognition software might mean he'd be better off deleting as much as possible.

[@odin4306]

Kalvin's ableism is dangerous. Feeding into the idea that disabled people are "faking" it leads to disabled people being targeted and harassed. Part of me wishes people never learned about chronic illness. We can't just exist without speculation because of the ideology he has participated in. He's shameful.

[@aintgotnoname6548]

It's not that hard though people can generally tell who is faking it and who isn't, and who wants to be oppressed or get victim points and who genuinely has a problem. It's not evil to call out lies.

[@odin4306]

@@aintgotnoname6548 You're incorrect. Oftentimes, disability is invisible. Disability is complex. People who believe they can spot "fakers" are full of shit. I've seen plenty of pages made solely to harass disabled people with complex conditions. People with your mindset tend to jump to conclusions when they can't wrap their heads around chronic illnesses. Assumptions that are typically wrong. There are a plethora of issues that can effect your daily functioning. Ambulatory wheelchair users exist and they need their wheelchairs. Harassing disabled people under the guise of caring about them is despicable, and too many do it. Almost no one is going around faking disability. Unless you are someone's doctor, you cannot tell, no matter how much you convince yourself you can. Disabled people are regularly targeted and this delusional belief doesn't help. You're the one that said evil, not me.

[@Tijggie82]

Immediately even. Since Lars got IMMEDIATELY targeted and harassed...

[@Pandurz]

@@aintgotnoname6548 it is wrong because you cannot possibly have a way of knowing by speculation. There have been several instances like this one, can't recall the name but one guy who got kicked off the face of the internet during the infancy of cancel culture because he stood up on stream, but it turned out he hadn't lost *all* mobility and was progressing in his recovery. He wasn't faking it but everyone believed he did, terrible. There's no justifying it and it needs to stop.

[@charcoal8]

This is such an important point. I've had people look at my shoes to check for wear on them when I was an ambulatory wheelchair user, presumably cause of some badly written day time TV crime drama. Despite the fact I had shoes before needing the chair and it was a rapid decline. I don't need to show strangers on the street, my medical history to be legitimately disabled. People should respect others privacy and mind their own business.

[@fr0ggisoup]

i'm three minutes in and -- as a disabled person -- hearing him say "I don't know why you'd want to flex being in a wheelchair" is absolutely aggravating . i loved my wheelchair when i was in need of what and i decorated the fuck out of it , it was sick ! flex your necessities , they're a part of you !

[@itsafish3235]

Is it P I N K ?????? Or G L I T T E R Y ???

[@fr0ggisoup]

@@ur73mom YOU’RE DAMN RIGHT IT WAS

[@itsafish3235]

@@fr0ggisoup HECK YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

[@ur73mom]

@@fr0ggisoup INCREDIBLE

[@siginotmylastname3969]

Lmao my cane has gold sparrows on it and when we stub our toes on it it feels like this shouldn't happen, it's like tripping over my foot!

[@sophitiaofhyrule]

"Elon Musk is such an unproblematic person" is quite the way to start the video

[@steamboatwill3.367]

Was it supposed to be sarcastic or not?

[@trol_8889]

@Talal Many things

[@morgan9660]

@Talal ableism and general dumbassery

[@ava_marie_v]

@Talal Autistic people can absolutely be ableist. Frankly, the fact that he used the label "Asbergers" when that's no longer a diagnosis wasn't great. Coupled with the fact that he's said in the past he will look for a cure for autism (by "stimulating our brains" no less, which is incredibly insulting), something that the vast majority of autistic people do not want, he appears to be very ableist. Also, he claimed to be the first openly autistic person to host SNL, which is blatantly untrue. Erasing other autistic people is definitely ableist.

[@ava_marie_v]

@Talal As far as other reasons why he's terrible, he's very anti union. Also, he had several very transphobic tweets where he mocked non binary pronouns.

[@Angelica_Rodriguez39]

"we never put abusers over victims." SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

[@puptrick]

the outfit makes me feel like you’re a cool teacher that everyone likes to listen to because they’re actually passionate about the subject they’re teaching

[@CopsHateMoe]

Awhh heck yeah! I actually want to be an art teacher!

[@basicallyperidot5299]

@@CopsHateMoe omg, same!!!

[@MOTHHMAN]

@@CopsHateMoe yooo you'd be an amazing art teacher :0

[@soyboy6953]

@@CopsHateMoe you’d make an absolutely amazing art teacher-

[@unwrittenbook]

Now that you said it…I cannot unsee it! XD As a teacher I approve!

[@TheArtsyEldar]

That "you don't have dysphoria, you just don't like your body because you're fat" argument is exactly what my mother used when I was 14 years old and confessing to her under tears that I was trans. She forced me to go back in the closet and relive all the denial, guilt and self loathing again. It is absolutely damaging. A person being plus sized has nothing to do with them experiencing gender dysphoria, in my case that made it even worse for me because it reinforced my loathing of my body on multiple levels, so when I wasn't in bed sobbing about how much I hated being a woman I was instead in bed sobbing about how fat and disgusting I felt. Thanks mom.

[@misty8915]

that's so messed up, I'm so sorry that happened to you

[@TheArtsyEldar]

@@kauradam I wasn't throwing hate at anyone, simply recounting a personal experience of mine that has left emotional scars, if you can't understand why your own mother disregarding your feelings completely to your face might hurt you I encourage you to seek therapy

[@TheArtsyEldar]

@@kauradam you misunderstood me again. I'm not blaming a KZbinr for my problems I'm blaming him for continuing to push the kind of narrative that hurt me. I don't think my mom even knows who Kalvin is, but he says the same things as her and people take them fully at face value and then use them to hurt other people. It's a cycle of shame and guilt and perpetuating it helps nobody except those who seek to oppress others for who they are. Kalvin is as much a trans man as me, and I have compassion for him, but that doesn't mean I have to like him or agree with him.

[@PokeFanShiro9553]

That's terrible I'm so sorry

[@mossdarragh]

i relate a lot to this, though it was not my mother but my psychiatrist while i was inpatient at a mental hospital that told me this same thing. telling me i wasn't having gender dysphoria at all... i am nonbinary, forever wishing i looked masculine so i could wear dresses and makeup and not be mistaken as cis, but i spent years trying to figure out my gender because i thought being fat made me hate my body for that reason instead of having "real" body dysphoria. turns out it's both... anyway, this comment made me feel a little less alone. thanks for sharing ♡

[@marinao4412]

what gets me about his whole "t-slur voice thing" is that it is literally just recycled homophobia. breaking news, masc straight guy doesn't like the somewhat high-ish voices that some gender nonconforming men and transmasc nonbinary people have, we've never heard this one before. honestly that attempt at rationalizing his knee jerk bigotry is a fairly good microcosm for his whole thing.

[@foodham3277]

It's especially ironic cuz he legit has a high male voice himself. Than again that doesn't supirse me since, he only attacks AFAB trans/non-binary people so a lot of his transphobic content scream "I'm insecure but at least I'm not like that, right 😰?" to me.

[@willeliot7090]

One of the biggest transmed lies is "we support trans gays and lesbians as long as they have dysphoria and don't spout tucute rhetoric." Actually, they despise you if you aren't 100% straight-acting. They want to go back to the '70s, when you had to be straight or willing and able to fake it to access trans healthcare.

[@eldritchtourist]

@@foodham3277 Yeah, big time guy living in a glass house throwing rocks energy with this one.

[@isazarts3159]

OMG the "t-slur voice" gave me literally war flashbacks when my 14-ish self was watching him. It literally took years to deconstruct the toxic behavours and to finally love myself. I hope future trans kids don't have to go through this self hate/doubt caused by transmedicalists.

[@teetee996112]

it screams internalized bigotry to me, something tells me Kalvin is insecure about having to be passing so he's lashing out at people who are comfortable not fitting that mold.

[@ava_marie_v]

God, I hate the video Kalvin did on Lars so much. I mean, I hate all of them, but the fact that Kalvin (wrongly) decided he was knowledgeable enough to gatekeep wheelchair users pisses me off so much.

[@brennenbeckwith]

You're so well spoken, I'm always amazed at how well you approach these topics... I'd also like to throw in that Riley was doing all of that commentary without having watched your whole video or any of my series.

[@CopsHateMoe]

THANKS BRENNO

[@faeriegraver]

I do find it upsetting, and concerning how Xan and Riley were talking about this. Finding out Riley hadn't even watched the relevant videos on the topic gives me similar feelings. I don't understand how anybody could show a lack of empathy towards the victims, and not seem to be grasping the seriousness of the situation. I did find it funny the hypothetical abuser was called Steven, as that is the name of my abusive ex. I had to pause the video to laugh. Lots of love to people. Take care of yourselves.

[@screaminmeani]

😍Tansi Brennan. Happy Pride month!

[@jazz4271]

Sending you tons of hugs Brennan ❤️

[@dont_harsh_my_mellow]

Well, that's just what all of us need right now: ill-informed people publicly voicing their opinions on a matter that doesn't even have much to do with them in the first place. Wonderful. /s

[@debibrown9328]

My dear Moe..I'm a 59 yr old grandma, asexual, who totally adores you!!! Im so sorry you've been so depressed, I understand. I wish I could give you a huge hug, but I'm extremely proud you didn't quit. I truly think you're awesome!!!

[@CopsHateMoe]

Thank you ! 🥺

[@TheSlipperyNUwUdle]

Asexual grandma??? That’s so cool. I bet you’re a really great grandma.

[@debibrown9328]

Hey slippery, I do try..my grandson is 12 and is my sparkle, rainbow prince!! 🌈 Hes been going to pride since he was 3, and we adore him!! Wish I could hug and care for everyone who is in a bad situation... Snuggles and grandma hugs to everybody!!

[@bee-zz6bf]

@@debibrown9328 59 and a grandma? was there a teenage pregnancy or?

[@morgoth_bauglir]

Oh God i wish I could hug you, you sound like an amazing grandma!

[@burgerpowder8]

*"why do you have to flex being in a wheelchair?"* lmao he sounds like that one kid in school who was jealous of the girl who got hurt because she got more attention than him

[@heatherlee2967]

That quote makes me just so sad. It’s…. So bad

[@gcasey662]

Did you mean Greg Heffley?

[@Sarah-yd9ml]

I love that existing on the internet in a wheelchair is a fLeX.

[@benedictdwyer2608]

Lmao fr

[@rikkirikki4892]

I DON'T CARE THAT U BROKE UR ELBOW

[@babyqeels]

Plenty of suicidal people go to the internet as a last resort/call for help. When people are doing that, they probably feel very alone in their real life and are regardless in a very dark place. There’s never a reason to assume people are “attention-seeking”. Not only does that make you a gross person, but someone can be seeking attention BECAUSE they are in a dark place. Edit for clarification: My comment is regarding Kalvin’s response to people he’s hurt feeling suicidal

[@dasani.like.the.water.]

I would rather try and help someone who was only “attention-seeking” than ignore/hurt someone that genuinely needed help.

[@Natalia-bl7ni]

When you said 'dépression', we all felt that

[@spookysomeone]

déprecionne

[@swannbenziane7880]

It would be dépressif but it's cool dépression is depression

[@ellmcel7313]

depresso espresso babey

[@meghannpalmer7417]

Yes, they shouldn’t be too hard on themselves about taking a gap year because of depression. Mental illness is damn hard. I’d rather have a physical illness (which I do) than mental illness (which I also do). However, I’d rather my physical health be crap than my mental

[@p0tat0s0up]

“there’s a big difference between criticism and harassment or bullying.” *say it louder for the ones in the back!*

[@awesomeohm]

The “you can’t be disabled” really hit me like all the “you aren’t autistic.” Or “you don’t look autistic.” Comments I’ve got in my life

[@jackriver8385]

Same. Some of my special interests are psychology and language, so I can talk well. Doesn't make me any less autistic..

[@princessmanitari4993]

@@jackriver8385 honestly, there are people (like my roommate) who have a mental disorder which makes it so they will forget things regularly and literally can't do certain things, but they as sure can cook, clean whatsoever, my roommate makes amazing food, just forgets stuff regularly but is verbally insanely strong! (Note i'm autistic myself.)

[@marisu9765]

As a physically disabled (and also autistic) person, this is something I've heard my entire life. (Nearly) Every. Single. Day. They are similar situations, but depending on the disability, the harassment and abuse can be _significantly_ variable in extremism. If you have a well-known disability, people are much more accepting of it. I have relatively uncommon and unheard of physical disabilities and that's what causes the harassment I receive on a daily basis. People think it's my job to prove to them that it's possible for me to exist with the disabilities I have before they'll respect my existence. By default, they believe I must be lying if they've never educated themselves, and if I don't educate them and convince them of my reality, then I'm a liar. My life is no random person's business. Just respect that I exist as I say I am and move on with your life. It's absolutely exhausting.

[@baozibang_TaliKpopAddict]

I was forced to retire by my disability. Which happens to be a really bad anxiety disorder + Agoraphobia & Borderline. Which don't show if you talk to me Normally most of the time?!

[@motorcitymangababe]

Same tbh. I gave me flashbacks to "you cant have adhd youre too smart"

[@gulagbean289]

I don’t get how he said he “legally” didn’t do anything wrong, he’s studying law, honey, you falsely accused someone of faking their disability, bullied several people one to the point of attempting suicide. Pretty sure you were treading on thin ice with the law there.

[@dont_harsh_my_mellow]

People who bring up the legality of their actions piss me off. They know they are doing bad things, but just because their behaviors aren't legally prosecutable, they feel justified. Bullying someone is not a legal offense, and yet it's _still_ wrong. It's like Onision with the same excuse of legality. So what? You're doing MORALLY terrible things. He said he didn't but he knows he did because even in his "apology" video, he didn't talk about what exactly he did. Somewhere deep down, he knows he's wrong.

[@dont_harsh_my_mellow]

@@smellslikelayne exactly.

[@uwu1234-i6j]

And that, my friend, is slander. Which Kalvin conveniently forgot is against the law. From a not law student to a so call law student.

[@endergamer7483]

@@uwu1234-i6j If he is gonna be a lawyer, I worry for his co workers, opposite side lawyers and clients. Dude seems like the type to mess with witnesses or hide evidence from the docket (which can be illegal depending on the type of trial).

[@uwu1234-i6j]

@Chime In If Lars took saved the video, took screenshots of the harassment they received, and other documented damge, Lars can indeed sue.

[@cisrot]

Kalvins quote unquote “tr*nny voice” fucked me up a lot. I’m a transmasc dude who started testosterone late last July and as my voice has been changing, I did have quite a nasally (?) voice because... you know... my vocal cords were literally changing and I was struggling to figure out how to talk. I’m currently being diagnosed with autism and for my whole life I’ve always struggled with maintaining a consistent tone of my voice, and whilst being on T has made me a lot more confident with my voice, learning to speak in a consistent manor is really hard. Sometimes I’ll say something and someone will say that i sounded mean or pissed off when in reality I was totally neutral. It can be very hard for me to correlate my spoken tone with my emotions. The “tr*nny voice” bullshit made me feel so embarrassed of myself during a time where I should have been experiencing gender euphoria instead of the fear that I was going to get clocked as a “tr*nny” by the people around me when I do go out in public. I lost a lot of confidence because of his bullshit attitude and his holier than thou self appointed superiority over what makes a trans person valid or not. I do not, and never have looked to Kalvin for any kind of validation for my identity. In his eyes I would be a “valid” trans person because I do dress masc, I do bind my chest, I am on hormones and I am in the process of having top surgery sometime soon (hopefully!). I do experience gender dysphoria quite a bit though some of it has eased off due to my HRT. That being said, my experience is my own and I do all of these things because I want to do them, not because some square-headed asshole on the internet said that if I don’t do XYZ then I’m just a “transtrender” or whatever. Gender validity is up to you and you alone. You do not owe anyone anything when it comes to how you present and how you identify. You do not have to meet the standards of other people to be comfortable with yourself. If you don’t bind, that’s perfectly valid! If you identify as a transman and you like to dress up pretty, that’s awesome! If you don’t want to or can’t go on hormones for whatever reason, that’s perfectly acceptable to do. My doctor who oversees my testosterone and stuff has even talked to be about transmedicalism and has outright said that there is nothing medical about transmedicalism. He agreed with me and added on that basically “do what makes you happy, there is no right way to be trans”. (He’s awesome by the way, he’s autistic and is super into DND and pokemon and we have amazing talks about it and ahhhh he’s great, I’m so lucky to have him!!) Kalvin needs to grow up. He needs to stop bullying others because he’s self conscious about his own identity. He needs to take accountability with the damage he has caused not just to the people he has directly attacked, but everyone who has been emotionally damaged because of his outreach and influence over a specific part of the transgender community.

[@cisrot]

Haha I didnt expect so many people to like this comment! I basically wrote a dissertation RIP TLDR; gender identity is a personal thing. Kalvin and his friends are wrong. They aren’t just biologically wrong, but socially wrong too. What they say is purely a biased and opinion based rhetoric. You can do whatever you want as long as you aren’t hurting anyone. You do not need to conform to a specific set of rules to be a valid trans person and this goes all ways. My therapist is a trans-woman with an amazing beard. She doesn’t shave it because she loves herself and she embraces it. I agree with her, she looks absolutely gorgeous with her beard. Ultimately, it’s just body hair. We don’t call cis-women “men” if they choose not to shave their legs / arms / etc, so how is facial hair any different?

[@bunpun5135]

well said!! I'm kinda ashamed that I used to watch him a while back, and he really messed up my way of thinking when it came to trans people. Like I thought there was only one way to be a trans man- like you had to avoid looking pretty and at all costs avoid the "tr*nny voice". I also believed that being non-binary wasn't real because of his influence. the things he says are really dangerous and i'm sure I'm not the only one who had those views because of him. Luckily I have since educated myself but its still really scary😬

[@myeyebrows2849]

Im a cis ally but an autistic person and that sucks so hard that you had to experience such demeaning comments on something very difficult for you to control that attacked two parts of you that you CANT control. Ive been told i have a "gay voice" or simply been assumed to be gay plenty of times, even though im not; i have a voice regulation thing too, and him using a slur to describe that voice is disgusting. I hope youre ok and comfy w/ yourself after that 🙏

[@jeanzerwas9704]

thank you for sharing and for the insight in this comment. i started t 7 months ago and have been terrified of being clocked. you've expressed a lot of similar things to how i've felt. sending love

[@huskeater]

triggered~

[@isaak1748]

I just feel like Kalvin is desperate for cis (conservative) validation. He doesn't care if he's hurting his own community in order to feel superior to others. Very disgusting tbh.

[@greygoose8803]

Which is funny because in the end even if you kiss their ass, a bigot is still a bigot and bonding with them over shared hate isn't going to make them hate you any less.

[@isaak1748]

@@greygoose8803 Exactly, it's like that moment when Blaire white was being insulted by a far right conservative transphobe and instead of confronting her she was trying to win her sympathy. These people don't care about trans people no matter how much they try to lick their a*s they wouldn't hesitate to take away trans people's rights if they could.

[@rickmanalwayss]

I might be over-analyzing, but I remember watching a video of his a few years ago and he mentioned that his dad is a Republican. So maybe he’s trying to get some form of validation from his father/people like his father.

[@gimmeyourankles]

The same thing with Blaire White. I don't understand why they want to receive attention of people who hates them, on the end of the day. I mean, they can watch their videos, but they will still throw you under the bus if they can.

[@Crybatty]

Blaire white does the same thing and she was on a conservative podcast letting a bigot call her a pedo and everything. Ofc, she didn't even try to really defend herself or the rest of us. When will they understand bigots wont change their minds?

[@anxiouscatgod3125]

THEY'RE BACK, I REPEAT, THEY'RE BACK WITH THEIR GLORIOUS COMMENTARY.

[@CopsHateMoe]

I AM BACK

[@anxiouscatgod3125]

@@CopsHateMoe YOOOOO But also if you need to take breaks that is A-okay :) :)

[@nicodiangelo5345]

@Cuffed Jeans rainbows are always welcome

[@biggaylol5438]

@Cuffed Jeans happy gay 🏳️‍🌈⭐️🌸❤️🍬❗️❤️👄🏳️‍⚧️⚧👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩👨‍❤️‍💋‍👨🌈

[@Dil3MM4]

🌈

[@daughter_of_hades5312]

The truth is that Kalvin should be punished by the law, not internet. Period. He almost caused a death of a real breathing and living person. He destroyed someone's life. I don't think "I'm sorry" is enough.

[@ash-bob3398]

The most terrifying part is he’s training to be a lawyer...he could be in a position to hurt people even more than he is now. Holy shit. This is horrifying.

[@heatherlee2967]

THIS

[@user-xl5zd9en5p]

hurt people lmao you need to go outside for real

[@user-xl5zd9en5p]

he's doing great and gonna be a great lawyer, him protecting the trans community and laughing at people who fake having our condition has nothing to do with the law stuff lmao??

[@NightfallGemini]

@@user-xl5zd9en5p you love cops

[@garbagemanwithgarbagehands7370]

@@user-xl5zd9en5p why don’t you go eat a thing of shoe polish since you like the taste of boot so much

[@annelisevigna1829]

I can't believe this kid is trying to make a point out of the fact that nobody died over his bullying

[@6iths3nse]

Yea its like saying "I did stab them, but they survived, so that makes it okay now".

[@SugarQuartz]

Taking a gap year for your mental health is not a bad decision and will definitely bear fruit in the long run! Give yourself some credit for looking out for yourself. I appreciate you and your vids/commentary!

[@screaminmeani]

Right!! I hope Moe has a lovely gap year.

[@realemmcee]

I love the expression “bear fruit”, it just makes me think of Moe walking around holding baskets of apples and bananas

[@heatherlee2967]

+

[@ceciliap5336]

i know this is an old comment but yes totally! i took a gap year and i can not tell you how incredible it was for me + my mental health! i’m going into college now in a late fall semester and i’m actually excited and feel super good with where i’m at, thanks to my gap year!!

[@oliver1616]

NOT YOU AND KALVIN BEING BEST BUDS FOREVER I CAN'T

[@CopsHateMoe]

Our friendship is strong and everlasting 😌

[@Itri_Vega]

@@CopsHateMoe Still a better love story than twilight

[@nagisa0931]

@@Itri_Vega since when was twilight a love story? I always thought it was a subtle horror story 😂

[@lostross]

kaito pfp (:

[@oliver1616]

@@lostross GUNDHAM PFP

[@yugyeomluvbot4948]

the letters on the cupboard in the back spells moe my brain: "eom"

[@salemsmith7085]

ME 😂

[@CopsHateMoe]

Hehe it trips a lot of people up

[@chrono4998]

@@CopsHateMoe I read EMO and just about accepted that

[@fruitygarlic3601]

*googles 'which way does letter e face?'*

[@thegreatmajora5089]

I was sitting there convinced it was a 3 until I read your comment goddammit brain is smooth

[@rory2393]

Here's the difference when it comes to "redemption arcs" in my opinion: Kalvin continues to lie about his past actions, downplaying them and the ramifications they've had. His friend (or ex-friend, I'm not sure about their relationship) Ryan has made multiple videos expressing remorse for the role he played in spreading transmedicalist and hateful rhetoric.

[@angryfence3928]

The difference between them is insane now. Kalvin should look at Ryan and see how he’s apologizing and how he made his video. Ryan is doing it right.

[@timmy841212]

They're no longer friends and Ryan seems to be changing.

[@4455-d6w]

@@timmy841212 How do you know they’re no longer friends

[@timmy841212]

@@4455-d6w How you know they are?

[@4455-d6w]

@@timmy841212 I haven’t been following them. that’s why I asked

[@galaxyocicat5660]

Just the first few seconds...Elon is not a problematic guy? He would misgender you every chance he gets, Kalvin.

[@walter-vq1fw]

Kalvin is a pick me trans I'm sure he would defend Elon afterwards 🙃

[@user-ym4yt9bo2u]

I love you but please turn off ur phone or give me a dall. I cannot support hate. Please stop this. I know this isn’t your heart.

[@itchgods]

@@user-ym4yt9bo2u HAHHSJDJD BYEEE

[@asadpillay7380]

@@user-ym4yt9bo2u LMAO, GRIMES THOUGHT THEY DID SOMETHING, ONLY TO DELETE IT

[@gm6393]

@@user-ym4yt9bo2u what are you talking about???

[@aniram.6079]

Wow. My heart goes out to Lars. My fiancé has EDS as well. Of course she can walk, but walking can be a struggle for her more often than most might think. Yet, she feels reluctant, embarrassed, and guilty if she needs to park in disability or she needs a wheelchair especially at a theme park because her disability isn’t as apparent and people around her might judge her for seemingly taking advantage of the disability spot or that she’s lazy and just getting a wheelchair for fun or something like that. It’s people like Kalvin that make it hard for people with more invisible disabilities to use the resources that they need so very much without any guilt.

[@garydoq]

Not to get all trauma dump-y on ya, but the Redemption Arc Discourse section hit me hard. You can only start to redeem abusers, if they're willing to work alongside you. If they're willing to sacrifice things, to be uncomfortable, to apologize over and over, and given the chance, show that they've changed. I'm in the process of watching my abuser heal right now. It's been rough, but she wants to get better. She wants to fix our relationship, and do better by me. You never side with the abuser, never ever. Abusers and bullies and shitty people, they all have responsibilities for their actions. And they all have the responsibility to change if they want to be seen as a better person. Fuck using kid gloves on Kalvin, he does not deserve that. He's the one that hurt people, he's the one that needs to change, and he's the one that should leave.

[@rabbit-rabbit-boy]

Yeah it felt kinda. Victim blamey? Like yeah “give people space and opportunity to grow and change” is good, but then the next thing shouldn’t be “the onus is now on Every Transmasc/Non-binary Person who has Ever spoken about kalvin’s behavior to fix him and hold his hand through learning how to not be an all around shitty person”. Idk it left a real bad taste in my mouth. Maybe I’m just too much of a “retributionist” or “reactionary” but I’m sick of this dude and his excuses for why he thinks bullying is okay.

[@garydoq]

@@rabbit-rabbit-boy yup, he feels like a classic manipulator, and honestly, he's dangerous, and should be treated as such

[@fluididi1149]

AMEN! The whole discourse of “well if we’re mean to him he won’t want to be our friend 🥺” pisses me off. If he chose to put out more hateful content in response to people holding him accountable for his actions- that’s on HIM! That would be HIS choice to not take a look at what he’s done and the harm he’s caused in order to throw a hissy fit. He and his actions are NOT our responsibility and saying that “this will just continue until someone leaves the platform” is removing all responsibility for the situation out of Kalvin’s hands and treating HIM like the victim.

[@anab.5536]

@@rabbit-rabbit-boy agreed, RGR and Xanderhal handled the situation so poorly

[@gothmothgod89]

This is personal but I fuuucking hate Xanderhal so much dude, he talks about so much and yet doesn't unpack his own biases or consider how actions he recommends as if they're fact affect the oppressed or at risk groups involved in the situation.

[@quiondasjj9293]

As a trans person I feel bad that Kalvin has internalized so much transphobia but as a trans person I don't like him or tolerate his voice in any platform.

[@whatthehellisthis]

also add a sprinkle of ✨toxic masculinity✨

[@yodagaming2559]

i literally can't tolerate his voice lmao he sounds like he's constantly on helium

[@quiondasjj9293]

@@yodagaming2559 can we please not mock him? There’s people out there that can look and sound like him and I don’t think ad hominem really says anything about his character

[@realemmcee]

@@yodagaming2559 he has two voices, his usual douchebag bully voice and his Zig from Degrassi voice when he’s being called out for something

[@yodagaming2559]

@@quiondasjj9293 I don’t really care, I personally don’t like the sound of his voice If he doesn’t want to be locked he shouldn’t have mocked all of those minors, don’t dish out what you can’t take

[@NinyaBOT]

Kalvin: "they tried to commit suicide right after I posted the video so it had to of been fake" (or at least that's the vibe I got from them) Kalvin DOES know that suicide is most often an impulse thing right? Like yeah, if you see a video against you that is gonna be seen by 1000s of people right away has been put up, that's immediately, right off the bat, gonna cause you a shit ton of anxiety and that'll rapidly lead to irrational thinking and impulsive decisions.

[@pumpkinbaron9916]

'We never put abusers over victims.' After Brennen's stream, that quote hits even harder. Seeing them break down a bit as they described how Garrah has hurt them was a gut-punch. Xanderhal and Riley seem to ignore that.

[@NightfallGemini]

because 'reformed n*zis' and truscum know their own. after RGR went full truscum on DemonMama, especially.

[@Bellitchi]

How did xand ignore that?

[@Bellitchi]

@@NightfallGemini wokescold. Leftism isn’t a social club

[@theomulholland8513]

When you said "what has Kalvin done in response?" I said "Fuck all really" and then you said the exact same thing, I'm still cackling lmao

[@CopsHateMoe]

Great minds think alike !!!

[@theomulholland8513]

@@CopsHateMoe Bruh I was not expecting that notification lol. I love your channel and hope you are well, please keep up the good work. ❤❤❤

[@louloudaki_]

that’s such a mood

[@AZ-ty7ub]

What really gets me is just how... gleeful, Kalvin is in his "critique". The amount of FUN he's clearly having as he calls people terrible things is so awful, it's nothing other than bullying. His fans have to be lying to themselves if they see this as anything other than bullying. Sure, there are times when some people need to be rightfully called out (none of the victims here deserved that.) but even then, when you use that as an excuse to be that gleefully hateful, that's just wrong and weird.

[@romangodfreyswife135]

I used to enjoy his content when I was younger and it was because I was a mean little girl his narrative to me when I was younger made the people he was bullying look like the one in the wrong idk so his fans are pretty much naive children

[@claires1063]

Idk I kind of see past that glee and interpret a really pathetic form of projection of his own self-hatred. He's still obviously a sadist, but he always looks like he's gonna fuckin cry.

[@AZ-ty7ub]

@@claires1063 I mean yea, you've gotta have some extremely distressing amount of internalized transphobia to do what Kalvin's done.

[@claires1063]

@@AZ-ty7ub He's such a coward.

[@meghannpalmer7417]

Yes, he does deserve consequences. It makes me so angry that people tried to cancel someone’s government status as a disabled person. Do people not realize how hard it is to even get that? I had to have a double lung transplant and my provincial government wouldn’t even give me disabled benefits because they claimed I didn’t qualify. And I’m Canadian errgghhhh.

[@emmettbattle5728]

in america when you apply for disability people on the phone at the social security office, people who already get benefits, and anyone with any experience in the system says "you wont get accepted the first time" because you have to do so much paperwork, wait so long, fight so hard with nothing to help you, and then need to redo it all sometimes multiple times to actually get benefits. same records, same claims, etc, just that usually they want you to give up begging for resources even if you desperately need them to live.

[@treason6661]

I had to wait 3 years to get disability in Saskatchewan. 7 s**c*de attempts in those 3 years. Getting disability anywhere is pretty much fucking impossible. My dad almost needed his both his feet amputated before he was on disability.

[@gabriellevalentine2057]

Unless people can visibly see your disability without an x-ray, you're without a doubt going to have to fight.

[@tylermesserli9713]

kalvin: 😭😭 people are criticizing me for no valid reasons 😭😭😭😭 they're just spamming me and attacking me 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 everyone who's ever been featured in one of his videos: *huh I wonder what that could feel like buddy*

[@7waterdrops_7]

His cognitive dissonance is crazyyyyy

[@takeyat8840]

“I’m not gonna watch an hour long video about how terrible I am” You sure had no problem making multiple videos talking about how “terrible” others were tho

[@heatherlee2967]

+

[@takeyat8840]

@@heatherlee2967 -

[@aphroditescomet]

Kalvin saying “hey bud” reminds me of a white fishing dad/suburban dad, sitting down to have a chat with his son😭

[@autumnbailey543]

As a nonbinary individual who really feels no urge or desire for surgery, people like Kalvin anger me SO MUCH.The simple fact of being trans or no shouldn’t be a ‘more dysphoric than thou’ competition for Pete’s sake. What happened to just supporting each other regardless of our individual paths and experiences??????

[@autumnbailey543]

Apologies for the random ‘or no’ Auto fill sometimes acts up and I have clumsy fingers.

[@makaylakraus1897]

Our experiences shouldn't be defined by our pain, nor should our validity. I am a nonbinary person who does experience some dysphoria and in no way do I think I, or any other trans person who experiences dysphoria, is in any way more valid than those who do not. If you feel more comfortable being nonbinary, or any other kind of trans, than you feel with your birth gender, be that through the removal of discomfort or the increase in comfort, you are valid. Too often is gender euphoria invalidated and looked over as a perfectly valid reason to identify as the gender you are. What harm is there in supporting people and making them feel comfortable to these people? If anything they should want to make non-dysphoric and "non"-dysphoric trans people feel valid no matter what because it would distil in them the feeling that they need to lean less into their dysphoria, making themselves feel worse, in order to justify being trans and transitioning. Minority and subjugated groups unfortunately quite commonly have people who are at the top of the ladder socially (such as transmen) punch down in order to validate themselves to the majority group (in this case cis people). Moe pointed out, quite validly, in my opinion, how he seems to be doing this to seem like "one of the normal ones" to cis people/ the general population, which only highlights Kalvin's insecurity and desperate need to feel better and higher within a society designed to keep us down, instead of seeking to change society's views itself.

[@ginaxxgodgames9573]

Like all bullies he probably couldn't handle actually being confronted by the people he bullies. He's basically a wimp.

[@mariadivencenzo633]

I really think he just has such a big ego to the point where he never expected any repercussion at all for anything he did, so he just shuts down or is just defensive

[@ddjsoyenby]

"i never expected you to defend yourselves" "what not so tough when you don't have 12 year olds back you up"

[@liahamilton8931]

Precisely

[@ddahlia3607]

i wanna say this: kalvin isnt explicitly racist However, he frequently spotlighted nonbinary poc who would talk about how race relates to gender and he would refuse to acknowledge how the concept of gender has been placed upon nonwhite countries. so he was really harmful towards poc in that way

[@zombiedude9826]

Yeah, transmedicalism is completely eurocentric with its views on gender. It wouldn’t be a stretch.

[@aintgotnoname6548]

Oh, the harm. The terrible harm of *checks notes* refusing to acknowledge nonwhite standards of gender ..

[@carb_8781]

@@aintgotnoname6548 yes?

[@irisa7747]

@@aintgotnoname6548 literally yeah...what’s your point? our current ideas of gender and gender norms are products of white supremacy...that’s pretty harmful

[@Corviidei]

@@aintgotnoname6548 you’re acting like this is a slam dunk but that’s literally just what we’re saying

[@attentivechair3248]

Holy f**k this is why I'll never shut up about the massive ableism in this community

[@RolyWestYT]

Feels a little odd to say I was excited for this video because of the topic but thanks for taking the time to make this

[@CopsHateMoe]

Ah thank you ! 🥰

[@gimmeyourankles]

Oh Roly u around here ❤❤❤

[@Bildgesmythe]

Hi Roly, love you!

[@thoraneh7365]

Roly!

[@dont_harsh_my_mellow]

And that's the Darjeeling.

[@oscara8454]

Kalvin isn't a man. He's a boy. A small insecure little boy that bullies others to feel better about himself. Reminds me a lot of my middle school bullies. You know what's the difference? They grew up.

[@ddjsoyenby]

yup it's really pathetic.

[@bitchwormpuddin1499]

femc pfp?

[@nagisa0931]

@@bitchwormpuddin1499 she’s from the persona series I believe.

[@idontknowanymore9966]

@@nagisa0931 i think they knew about it to know who femc is

[@louise6268]

Yeah I was actually shocked to learn he's an adult. I thought for sure he was 16 at best

[@PlushieMutant]

You prolly arent gonna see this moe, but hearing you talk about your mental health and your actions in regards to academia from it is really healing to me. im also taking a gap year, except from medical school, due to mental and physical health. and its so hard, especially because of lost scholarships. what you shared made me feel so much less alone, and i hope the many comments you're gonna get like this one make you feel less alone too :, )

[@CopsHateMoe]

Sending love ❤️

[@DysfunctionalCrayon]

I made it to the end my third year of nursing and then my mental health exploded. I took a gap year. Went back. Half way into my fourth year I realized it was destroying me again. So I left the program. It’s ok. Sometimes you need a break and go back. Sometimes you have to reevaluate and find another course. But whatever your future holds, you’ll be ok. And you’re not alone. 💜💜

[@evasmiljanic3529]

I'm finishing up med school this summer, had a whole ass burnout mental breakdown in the middle of it, powered through it anyways. My advice: don't do what I did. Rest. Care for yourself. Nobody is going to care if you took a year off or not in the long run.

[@heatherlee2967]

+++

[@JennySYS]

i think that it's good to make the distinction between "understand that people can change" and "let abusers be in the same spaces as victims". dont force victims to be uncomfortable in a space because someone else is in it. dont let current abusers just get away with anything because you believe "they will change". what i will say though is having spaces where people who actually are reformed are accepted is important, as long as it's a space where they can understand that their actions were wrong and they accept that they make people uncomfortable. allowing separate leftist spaces like that to exist alongside each other i think is important, as long as uplifting the victims is the priority.

[@erinjkrizakk]

THIS YES

[@heyitsfen]

omg the “skye isn’t a trans guy” meme gave me horrid flashbacks

[@officialslimjimguy]

Same

[@skyeaurelliah9883]

i saw that meme and realized i fit almost all of it. straight up my name is skye. did i just see that and subconsciously say "fuck you i can do what i want" or smth??? /hj

[@_gremlinboy]

I did hate it back in the day but lately it makes me a little amused because now I have a trans fem friend named Skye,,, checkmate kalvin stans

[@makaylakraus1897]

Legit propaganda that pushed me far into the closet for so long, alongside those horrid "helicopter jokes"

[@totallyoutofit6989]

Literally. When i was younger, i thought it was a bit iffy and i was so unsure about it, but people in the comments of a post were like "so true 🙄" so i just assumed it was making fun of people who fetishisize trans people. I haven't thought about it for ages, but when i saw it in this video (of course, i understand trans issues a bit more since i realised i was trans), i was horrified because, of course, it was making fun of other trans people

[@colorgobrr]

Wow... obviously this is all bad but the suicide thing where he pulled the old ”if you wanted to kys you wouldn’t seek help” :/ that’s the kind of shit that kills people

[@totallyoutofit6989]

This

[@pestilence654]

I tried to kms because I wanted help but couldn't get it/didn't receive it. I felt helpless if anything. Kalvin just fucks me up smh

[@benjizernell6]

My last suicide attempt, I reached out for help from one of my friends and was left on read. And I almost died because I...didn't receive any sort of support. Like imagine shaming people for......not wanting to die

[@khaotictrash]

That literally makes NO sense, isn't the whole point to seek help if you're suicidal?? Kalvin is so fucking stupid, I hate him.

[@Sile-na-gcioch]

The 'best bud' image omg But also wow all these edits to images are truly artwork

[@CopsHateMoe]

Haha thank you !

[@IndigoAlpha]

The fact that Kalvin thinks he's going to be a good lawyer both baffles and scares me. What if his client is suing for SSDI and they're not "disabled" enough for him? What if his client is a non-binary person that got unlawfully terminated? Kalvin is not going to be a good lawyer if he still believes the nonsense he spouted in his videos.

[@Detective_asparagus]

Wait that’s a good point actually-

[@idkjusttrash]

his internet presence is too big for the bar not to at least know of it. they check ur social media history pretty damn thoroughly, he will never become a lawyer.

[@Musicanimedork01]

I mean. Lawyers dont have great rep outside of (greatest movie OAT) Legally Blonde and copaganda shows like Law&Order. I feel like the stereotypical lawyer is slimy, duplicitous, and greedy; so hey maybe he'll make a great lawyer.

[@lifemistake8314]

Don't know if any clients want him, especially if they're non binary.

[@realemmcee]

@@Musicanimedork01 he’ll be a shit version of Lionel Hutz

[@pilferedpotatoes]

As a fellow NB with a connective tissue disability, the whole "trans-abled" comment really made me angry. Like, yes, there are some days where I can walk just fine with very minimal pain. There are other days when I require mobility aids just to get out of bed. Apparently, Kalvin's ideas of disability are entirely based on harmful stereotypes. Just because somebody looks healthy on the outside doesn't mean that they're somehow magically able-bodied now or lying about being disabled.

[@Peasham]

The worst part is, he's in bed with the "facts over feelings" crowd. Now I'm a nurse, but even before I went to med school I knew for a fact that there were illnesses like that, so not only is he not down with the facts, he didn't even do like basic research, cuz less than basic research would show this.

[@sailorchiaki]

"I'm not attacking him for anything he can't change." That's the key people tend to miss in well-constructed videos like this. You did an amazing job and I appreciate you handling this situation so well! I hope your mental health improves and that you're doing well!

[@st.beatles7283]

Kalvin Garrah is one of the reason I didn’t address the fact I was trans. I thought you needed an unbearable amount of dysphoria to be trans because of him. He also just taught me a lot of toxic ideas about what it meant to be trans.

[@officialslimjimguy]

Me too

[@felight5700]

Fellow Beatles fan passing through to say nice pfp.

[@sharktato6478]

Same. And I still get such bad imposter syndrome even now after I *have* addressed it.

[@officialslimjimguy]

@@sharktato6478 I still doubt myself sometimes too because if I don't pass I tell myself that I'm not trying hard enough and if I'm not trying hard enough I'm not really trans, which is dumb

[@alpharius7216]

i dont remember who said it first but "its not the dysphoria that matters, its the euphoria that does"

[@lifemistake8314]

You really decorated the shed nicely and you look so dapper with that jacket! I'm glad you made a comeback and i hope you get better :)

[@CopsHateMoe]

ahh thank you!!

[@jannecapelle_art]

so funny that kalvin quit twitter for a second there bc the internet "was no longer fun for him". yeah dude, i imagine it wasnt fun for the people you systematically harrassed into suicidal thoughts/attempts either, so. not that that changed kalvins thoughts in any way.

[@91Vault]

"being fat isn't a personality trait"

[@samdwimch7345]

I’m honestly glad that you talked about your time of being a transmedicalist and your transition out of it. I’m very similar, where I used to be a transmedicalist cause I watched Kalvin Garrah. I found his channel because I was unsure of my own gender, and figured I couldn’t possibly be a trans man since I don’t 100% dislike everything about my female body, and I didn’t think non-binary was real. Then during quarantine I took the time to really look inside myself and realize that my mindset was really messed up and mean. I’m still working myself out of the self loathing and transphobic mindset I had and I like to think I’ve made progress. I’m now WAY more happy in my own skin since I’ve been expressing myself more freely, and while I still have issues at least I’m happier with myself. Thanks, it’s nice to know I’m not alone :)

[@ladymoe5395]

it’s ironic that in defense of kalvin, his buddies actually are speaking over all trans men and transmasc people. like how can he not see what this has become? i am ashamed of him and i’m angry that his content has harmed me and countless others in my community. good on you for speaking out moe, i’m so grateful for what you do 💙

[@Magikalic]

Moe only you can make worth listening to clips of Kalvin Garrah worth it

[@SikanderG]

"I don't want beef either. I'm vegan." It's never too early for jokes like that.

[@truecrimelover2022]

agreed read it right when it was said in the video i love jokes like that

[@Thatgenderconfused3mo]

I sincerely died when I processed the joke. I was deceased I laughed so hard

[@SikanderG]

@@Thatgenderconfused3mo Welcome back from beyond the grave then. :P

[@anxiousanalyst]

"cuz I'm a vegetarian and I ain't fuckin scared of him" WHAT A CALLBACK TO THIS (and if not, still and incredible line)

[@motorcitymangababe]

Im not a vegan and i got a good chuckle out of it it was a good joke

[@gloookos]

I feel so lucky for having found Jammidodgers before everyone else, and I am so sorry for all the people who were exposed to trans-medicalists, especially as baby trans people

[@albatross9719]

Unfortunately, for a lot of 'baby' trans people (who discovered they were trans from around 2015-2019) the easiest trans youtubers to discover were Kalvin Garrah and Blaire White. I think the youtube space for trans people has improved a lot since then seeing as Jammi, Moe, Sam Collins and Brennen are much easier to find now, they have made a much more accepting space for young trans people online.

[@alexanderthegreat101]

@@albatross9719 I discovered him I was just figuring out I was trans and that there was a word for me, I was 14 at the time. Im 17 now and his words still affect me to this day. I have hella internalized transphobia about myself and pretty bad imposter syndrome (my gender therapists words for the most part). Im so glad for people like Moe, Sam Collins, Samantha Lux, etc who made a real safe space for me

[@BooksandBuns]

I had one of Garrah's 'exposing transtrenders' videos in my Watch Later for literal years, & I'm so fucking glad I found Jamie before I watched that video

[@5cene5pider]

@@albatross9719 yeah, I was 9 and really sheltered so that’s how I found what trans is

[@CourtneyHammett]

That moment when even Blaire looks at him like "dude you probably shouldn't say that"

[@heatherlee2967]

The moment Blaire White tries to hush you

[@6iths3nse]

I noticed that as well, she definitely wasnt happy about hearing that but couldnt say anything or I guess didnt want to.

[@houselemuellan8756]

Rare Blaire White W

[@toxicllama2766]

Time stamp?

[@bigburritolover]

@@toxicllama2766 4:25

[@lilangeljules8068]

cis former friends of mine forced me to watch kalvin's videos back when i was in high school to pressure me into being binary and gender conforming and it took years to undo all that shit, as a nonbinary trans dude. i'm so glad people are speaking up against him and his toxicity now. thank you for your voice

[@katyk829]

I hope you have a much better support system and love in your life. I'm glad you found your truth! 💙 Kalvin is an asshole and I'm sorry he (and those people) hurt you

[@louloudaki_]

what kind of shit people “support” their friends like this wtf?! i hope you have a much better support system now and can grow in self confidence. it’s possible, and much love to you!

[@silvrstar1074]

im so sorry u had to go through this

[@5h3nn0ng]

I may not be a trans person, but I have had similar moments in my life as I was learning that I was gay. Good for you and not sticking to transphobic people who claim to be your friends

[@wishingwell_333]

bless you

[@hq4287]

I was just waiting for your take on this. As trans woman with a fear of masculinity, your wholesome and safe content style makes me feel like I want to take care of myself. ☺️

[@CopsHateMoe]

❤️❤️

[@Johnson-br2lw]

What?

[@beth4928]

Look after yourself, you deserve love and happiness.

[@Nén42]

The universe is weird. I keep forgetting people exist (sorry if that sounds ... well). Yesterday I suddenly remembered you existed and searched for you and saw you were gone for quite a while and was worried and here you are 😅 I hope you get better soon! 🍀

[@BIONICLECLAYPOKEMON]

_same_

[@sfatlithewise1276]

2021 mood

[@mollycollins498]

Someone got mad at me because sometimes I forget other people exist for a few weeks... depression is weird.

[@user-qm6le2di3k]

as someone who is currently getting tested for adhd, i feel this so much. i literally forgot one of my friends existed for like half a year, because we live on opposite sides of the same island and mainly communicate online. that's just one example. i'm really bad with object permanence lmao

[@Nén42]

@@user-qm6le2di3k My therapist and I plan to try to get me tested this year 🙈 But now that year is already almost half over and I have other things to do, too, all the time, so ….

[@doesntreply]

The part about Twitter being a bad place because you have ADHD really spoke to me, I was diagnosed with ADHD last year and it's helped me make sense of a lot of my struggles and difficulties with social media. If I have time I can craft a good come back or debate but on Twitter or other social sites I'm impulsive and get angry or emotional quickly and my autism makes it worse because I struggle with understanding the other people's emotions or intent.

[@fluxusjpg]

Even though the racism thing isnt the main topic and theres no proof of him actually being outwardly racist…making videos with Blair White, a known racist, doesn’t make it easy for people to not assume he’s not at least tolerant of racism. Hes so un-self aware that it makes me want to cry

[@PennyLeFerret]

I love that the auto captions don’t consider transtrender a word so every time Kalvin accuses someone of being one it puts it as “[name] is a transgender”

[@louloudaki_]

this is golden, shoutout to autocaptions

[@brieg1891]

Being filmed like that in a psychiatric facility really hurts to think about. I hope Lars is doing better now

[@star-gutz9770]

God I honestly feel so bad for the kids bullied by him and his fans. I hope everyone is ok / becoming ok for all of them.

[@alexbobalix7503]

He didn't say he's never sexually assaulted anyone. He said he's never been accused of sexually assaulting anyone.

[@Psychwriteify]

Well if anything ever deserved the white guy blinking reaction gif, it was this observation.

[@shanna3148]

Thats some mighty interesting distancing language 🤔

[@moonstrifflimestone5493]

That part confused me. Maybe I'd understand in context (but I don't want to watch his video lol) but if no one accused him of it in the first place then why did he even bring it up?

[@giannistara6540]

You making this series has legit broke the chains trans med had on me and now im proudly non binary and happy for the most part

[@heatherlee2967]

+++

[@totallyoutofit6989]

happy for you, truly. have a good day!

[@Aquariusgirl212]

The fact that even Blaire White cringed when he said the r slur

[@realemmcee]

I hate how adhd peeps think they can “reclaim” that slur when it was never used to oppress them - it’s intellectually disabled people if anyone who should be reclaiming it.

[@mat-bu7ms]

@@realemmcee As somebody who has adhd... huh?? Who's saying that, plus I thought the slur was used against neurodivergent people as a whole anyways.

[@avalazazzera]

@@mat-bu7ms kalvin himself made a video about how having adhd meant it was ok for him to use the word. given that traditionally it has been used against more “obvious” neurodivergent conditions (think down syndrome, etc) i disagree that he has the right to reclaim the word especially when describing other people

[@mat-bu7ms]

@@avalazazzera Oh, thanks for telling me! I'd say that I agree, especially about the "describing other people" thing. Also, sorry if I sounded a bit rude in the last comment, I didn't mean to but reading it back again it does look like that.

[@ava_marie_v]

@@avalazazzera I mean, he's perfectly within his right to reclaim it (use it to describe himself, etc.). However, he doesn't use it to reclaim it. He uses it as a slur, which is the opposite of reclamation.

[@ava_marie_v]

Also yeah, "hey bud" is usually something said to kids, at least where I live, so it was probably passive aggressive.

[@LittleDogTobi]

im also american (new england) and i'd only say it to kids or to close friends, ironically. otherwise, it would immediately come across as condescending lol.

[@whatthehellisthis]

funny enough (i’m from the good ol’ state of california) i don’t ever see people use the term bud in any context, but i’d be surprised if that wasn’t meant to be passive aggressive

[@predictablychaotic]

Am Canadian, and 'hey bud' is used more for pets than people...

[@lillyw2695]

im from the american south, and the only person i call bud is my little brother (in a loving way). i hear bud and buddy used in positive ways mostly, but its always toward little boys, so do with that what you will

[@thesommerbummer]

This is such a good video. I was a young teen on the internet around the time all the Lars stuff happened, and fell down the ‘truscum’ pipeline bc algorithms promoted that shit, and I commented something nasty on Lars’ page bc I didn’t know any better, which I forgot about until now. I thought I was being a good trans ally, but I was just a misinformed kid who was being transphobic. Thankfully, my mom, a psychologist, talked some sense into me, and now I am an actual ally to trans individuals. This is so important for young queer folk to see because someone needs to combat the harmful content can find them.

[@basicallyperidot5299]

This! He was actually how I was introduced to the trans community and now I'm one of the ones he'd bully. Love that for me.

[@EggyDaxy]

When you said you were glad no one died I felt that. I sadly was also one of his fans, he completely warped my mind on what being trans meant and it was only after I watched contrapoints "transtrenders" video that I started accepting myself and questioning transmedicalism. And that made me think... If I was openly nonbinary during the transmedicalist era would I have been able to survive that social climate? It's a scary thought but it also gives a lot of insight to how other nb people might have felt. I'm very happy truscum and transmed are dying ideologies, I just really wish they didn't exist at all. It's thanks to people like you that transmascs can feel safe and understand themselves better, so thank you very much :]

[@mogwai247]

If I'm being honest, Xanderhal shouldn't be speaking about any influential topics period. He's so insensitive and rude to his audience and subjects. After fact checking what he was saying in the first few streams I watched of him he gave out a _lot_ of misinformation, especially on lgbtq+ issues, and yet he presents things as if he's done extensive research on what he's talking about-- but with a simple google search you can see that he hasn't... I learned very early on to take his opinions and "facts and statistics" with a grain of salt and that he was on the toxic side of streaming with the likes of Ninja and xqc. He's not worth the time with all the issues around him, much like Kalvin. Maybe that's why he fought so hard for him. He sees a little of himself in Kal.

[@izzyoranges8005]

I hope Kalvin becomes a better person at some point in the future. However as a non binary trans person I will never be able to forgive him for all the transphobia he put out into the world. I would like myself a lot more if he hadn’t made his videos. Your bit on when you used to be a transmedicalist really resonated with me even though I never used that label. Loved the way you presented everything in this video

[@elirodriguez9958]

Kalvin has no business being in the legal system with such horrendous public behavior and harassment of other individuals.

[@lydiaj7492]

In fairness, he's so entitled, cruel, and amoral, that I think he will fit in perfectly with a certain type of lawyer (I do know that many lawyers are wonderful, empathetic, and work hard for justice).

[@NightfallGemini]

he's absolutely going to aim for a prosecutor job tbh. kid's got massive cop energy.

[@annkathleen8374]

Maybe he graduated from Trump University with a degree in how to brutally bully people and yet be the victim...one who has integrity though. It does appear he’s throwing words out to see if they stick with his audience and when it does, he strikes and gets praise for it. What a sickening sight

[@kpopstan9899]

He is studying to be a lawyer and has this pre-law podcast about criminal cases kzbin.info/www/bejne/earccoqLrLCjg7M

[@audri1273]

I just want to say thank you. I'm not trans but I thought some horrible things about trans people bc of Calvin and blaire before I started watching your videos.

[@chatnoir9038]

Me too... Then again I was full blown alt right at some point... It was not a good time.

[@whatthehellisthis]

i wouldn’t have even had the perception of most trans people being sjws if it weren’t for them

[@screaminmeani]

How? Watch things from both sides of things, sometimes, geez.

[@audri1273]

@@screaminmeani sorry? I'm not sure what you mean

[@audri1273]

@@screaminmeani if you are talking abt truscum ideology.... I literally believed all nonbinary people were trenders

[@crem4tion]

When i was a transmed, something that came up quite a bit was "dysphoria dysphoria", and I knew many people that had it. It was this sort of dysphoria of not having ENOUGH dysphoria, and believing you weren't "trans enough". Thats so sad to think about looking back. Transmedicalism is so destroying to young trans men specifically and I think kalvin can be directly brought back to most of it. its amazing how much pain he's caused, even "indirectly"

[@JayBird-Depressed-Dreamer]

God, during the recap when Kalvin said the r slur, you could even see Blaire White cringe at that. Not that I like Blaire or anything, I just find it hilarious that even she cringed at his usage of that word.

[@sofia-jf8xm]

I don’t know what it is about you but you’re such a comforting person🤨💞

[@CopsHateMoe]

awh thank you !!

[@Marie-si9xn]

i think it’s their accent

[@Afatratnamedpat]

No, but that tweet you made about fish is just facts.

[@CopsHateMoe]

I KNOW RIGHT !!!

[@kae41]

f ish,,,

[@crazycai9171]

As funny as this sounds, I think when I realized that Kalvin was doing more harm than good, and was kinda a bigot, was when me and another trans friend were watching one of his videos. He called being trans a disease and my friend started laughing. I asked them what was funny and they started quoting the anti-gay Ugandan video that you might know as "Eat the poopoo", they specifically shouted the part where the guy goes, "ITS A SICKNESS YOU SEE!" We laughed about that for a few minutes, and when I finished, I realized that both of those videos had the same sentiment; hatred.

[@tomwilliam3297]

29:37 I used to be a neo-nazi, and I think your take is spot on. I’m aware that my ideology was destructive and painful and dangerous to other people in ways I cannot imagine. Expecting people within marginalized groups to just forgive or accept me or giving them the responsibility to help or educate who I was is not a good idea, at all.

[@annenonimus6709]

May I ask...why? Why are you like that?

[@tomwilliam3297]

@@annenonimus6709 do you mean why WAS I like that?

[@annenonimus6709]

@@tomwilliam3297 Yeah, sorry, english is not my first language.

[@tomwilliam3297]

@@annenonimus6709 it’s chill, sorry if I sounded rude in any way I didn’t mean it to come off like that. There’s a lot of reasons I can think of and no one single one really makes any sense, and there’s probably a lot I don’t understand yet. I was 15, I was dealing with undiagnosed depression and anxiety and I was angry all the time, far-right ideology creates targets of that rage. That’s one I think of but again, I’m unsatisfied with it. Another is similarly I just felt the world was wrong in a lot of ways, things were happening, bad things and I couldn’t understand why. The far-right offers easy answers, “it’s the (insert demonized minority here) that made it this way.” I also just like went on Ifunny and there’s so much propaganda there, and starting down the alt-right pipeline can go much faster in a place like that, I was that standard white boy who made racist jokes and then they stopped being jokes at some point. There’s a lot of reasons but I’m not sure if I can ever say exactly WHY I became that way. It just happened before I realized it. I don’t know if I’ll ever understand what it was. That’s probably disappointing as an answer but it’s the only one I’ve got.

[@annenonimus6709]

@@tomwilliam3297 It is not dissapointing. Neo nazis are like a cult, and cults predate on vulnerable people. I am glad you are better.

[@freudiannipslip]

GOD HE'S A PSYCH STUDENT ACCORDING TO HIS TWITTER BIO his professors are probably weeping rn jesus christ. Thank you for this video Moe!

[@fakeemmcee]

Shhhh .. he thinks he is. He’s really a test subject, but don’t blow our cover 😉

[@freudiannipslip]

@@fakeemmcee i_want_to_believe.png lmao. It would honestly make me feel so much better

[@zalovoid]

ngl thats a very nice looking shed

[@lokalcrow1470]

I used to follow Kalvin when I was 15 because as a cis person I was trying to educate myself, but I failed to see how, even though he was trans, he was also a right-winger, and probably didn't have the best opinions. I ended up gatekeeping other people's identities... as a cis person. Because he convinced me that there were "good" and "bad" trans people. I eventually found other more progressive people to learn about gender and transgender identities, and I even found out that nonbinary is the label I'm more comfortable with :) Thanks for this video, I hope people don't have the same experience as me in the future if more people denounce him.

[@georgia3792]

I actually feel disgusted that I used to be a fan of his, I was so blind until I realised how bad of a person he was being.

[@sninckashley9514]

"I don't understand fat people who think being fat is a personality trait." I don't understand people who think being a prick is a personality trait, and yet here you are, Kalvin.

[@screenwatcher949]

Xanderhal is really... really weird. He's former alt-right, like I am, but he gives me horrible vibes of the person I used to be.

[@Romanticoutlaw]

I keep wanting to like him and then he keeps serving up bad takes every couple months

[@livmad4547]

cant stand him. he blocked me on twitter because i said that he had a lot of internalized racism that he had to work through before he can be concerned something like about making the left more welcoming to former nazis. hes also had some really bad takes about non binary people

[@screenwatcher949]

@@livmad4547 How embarrassing. He's so big on welcoming reformed people but won't actually put in the work 💀

[@Bellitchi]

No one here ever seems to have any nuance lol

[@maxxiemaria466]

You remind me of the actor who played Merlin and I think this is amazing

[@CopsHateMoe]

Omg Merlin has literally been my hyperfixation since I was 11 skdhdjdhdjfh

[@prinxejeanne4286]

I thought I was the only one who noticed that, I-

[@spiceupyourafterlife]

“I get a lot of comments telling me I’ll never be successful, but it’s okay ‘cause I’m succeeding already.” Good for you, Kalvin, but could you make that sound a little less condescending? ‘Cause it actually sounds less like you’re taking accountability for your actions and more like you’re rubbing your success in your critics’ faces like it somehow makes you the better person.

[@that_one_ghost]

As someone who is disabled and should be using a wheelchair(I have a bone deformity in both of my legs, I can walk but for long distance or standing for to long hurts quite a bit, i also have generalized anxiety disorder and am trying to get a service dog but we won't get into that)it hurts hearing someone tell other people if they are or aren't disabled. Disabilities don't look one way, some people can walk and look "normal" some days and other days they'll use assistance aids like a wheelchair, walker, etc. Please don't harass disabled people simply because they have a disability(s), we're just trying to live our lives and vibe, and most of us(can't speak for everyone)are nice and wouldn't mind educate/talk about our Disabilities

[@spooniejusticewarrior]

I have fibromyalgia and use a cane part-time. Ableism is one of the hardest forms of discrimination I've had to deal with yet. Disabled people are also the largest minority in the world.

[@lucasr3548]

i have real respect for ryan, he seems genuinely sorry about the harm he caused, im proud of him for speaking out and apologizing