Exactly. They don't teach us about life at school . With this kind of info it could have meant avoiding allot of faulty thinking and self doubt
@UniqueGeekFreak Жыл бұрын
They cant control us or make money from free minds. They do this to conform us into the hive mind and for us to be in survival mode...this makes ppl sick so that they can profit from our misery
@alimay967 Жыл бұрын
They give us negative beliefs in primary school! It’s naive to expect the system to give you what they are actually there to destroy.
@phabebarcelona863 Жыл бұрын
Yep sure shoud of
@AmanyElmasry Жыл бұрын
Education systems are failing
@naturallybecoming83110 ай бұрын
Wow when I read I don’t deserve to live I felt emotional I didn’t realize I still had that one within me til it was verbalized. This is part of why I’m afraid to be happy and create the life I want. It’s why I’ve struggled to even want to pursue anything in life. I’m definitely gonna rewatch this
@zainabwaheed9042 Жыл бұрын
I am confident, kind and helpful. The world is unpredictable. Some people are selfish and some are kind and loving.
@kgg12212 жыл бұрын
One of my core beliefs is that I'm unlovable. Another is that I'm a failure. Another is that I'm toxic. As someone with CPTSD, I find it tough to accept that although initial negative experiences were not my fault, their effects have made me act in a way that seems to perpetuate these core beliefs. It's a painful, exhausting cycle but I know that there are tools to stop the cycle in the moment, and that moments of peace add up. Thank you for this channel!
@winspiff Жыл бұрын
A child is NEVER at fault or accountable for the actions of an adult. There’s is never a healthy justification for physical or mentally harming ANYONE who is not threatening your life. Any adult who does so is deeply disturbed. It is not your fault. It was never your fault. You are enough just as you are.
@gingerindian1141 Жыл бұрын
a childs brain - up to about 12 or 13 will accept judgements about them as accurate or real life feedback - without challenging, or disupting them - or have alternative options to consider. These can become reference points that are reinforced each time these are used to refer to yourself as unloveable/toxic/failure. It is a childs perspective. Another way to think of it is - would you trust your 11 year old self to write a shopping list, and pick healthy foods, or budget foods, then drive to that supermarket, collect them, and come home? Probably not. That is the age you are when your core beliefs are forming - and clearly - limited and not too adult like. Comparing Health Adult - mindset/values with Vulnerable Child values/mental skills - when refering to Core beliefs - first bite of the cherry is that vulnerable child - but what does the Healthy Adult think when triggered? a 2nd bite of the cherry is a) not automatic like the first bite is (reflex), and b) it is a slower system and takes a few moments to disupte first bite/evaluate how accurate and to what extent it is useful, or not. Then the 2nd bite/Healthy Adult - has to develop a more current and helpful perspective on the triggering situation - aiming for good consequences, minmise negative ones, with the best of intentions for self and for others.
@rebeccas3876 Жыл бұрын
@@winspiffsadly the adult has likely also been damaged by adults when they were a child, but don’t know their own CBs, rules and assumptions
@elizabethCorkins83 Жыл бұрын
This should be taught at schools. (I've probably learned more on KZbin than I did at school lol).
@Aumnimist2 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@nicholas8479 Жыл бұрын
I'm so glad the CBT triangle in your other video included a fourth dimension..."bodily sensations". That led me to choose your video over the many others and now I can watch your other excellent videos.
@SelfHelpToons Жыл бұрын
Thanks for bringing up this point. I do have a whole video about body sensations, but it is something that I don't talk about much in a many of my videos on CBT, so I'll try to emphasize that more in the future.
@ShruthiLakshminarayana3 жыл бұрын
I identified one of my core belief , that I’m always wrong and others are always right! Thank you & thank you .. will try to do more of identifying my core beliefs!
@opencoursesnepal3 жыл бұрын
helli i have identified my four main core beliefs . what to do now ? they are i can't be sucessful and earn no girl will like me , i cant impress beautiful girls i have no fun life. I cant be cool like other boys I am coward and lack courage to tackle powerful people and boys. what should I do now?
@wanderingnomad12 жыл бұрын
My problem as well, I always think I’m wrong
@sm.safiulabid81302 жыл бұрын
You know hindi or Bangla??? I am From Bangladesh. My English
@djimiwreybigsby52632 жыл бұрын
We don't trust our own judgement
@MalitubeeАй бұрын
Oh my god , this is something I’ve struggled with immensely
@vipermad3583 жыл бұрын
Being different from other people is a plus.
@UncleBoobieCosmicOverlord3 жыл бұрын
Just the prospect of being able to "unpack" the subconscious instigators of my day to day struggles is made me feel better. Since quitting drugs I've been at the mercy of my own thoughts without an off switch. I'm very much looking forward to starting my CBT. Thanks for the explanation.
@Mk04672 жыл бұрын
That’s so amazing I’m so proud you quit drugs hopefully you get better day by day ❤️
@rhetoricalsystem Жыл бұрын
Hi there Paul, I hope your recovery journey is going well. I was in a similar situation about 10 years ago, unfortunately I'm only now starting my CBT journey, but one thing I found to slow down my thoughts since then, is jigsaw puzzles. I know that it's a strange thing, but putting the peices of your life together is daunting, and looking at all the peices of a jigsaw puzzle can be daunting as well. Concentrating on putting the peices together one at a time can slow my thoughts down enough to really get through some hard times. Like I said, I hope your journey has been successful so far, remember that failure is not a mistake, or relapse. You can only fail when you give up. I'm proud of you.
@pamarnold118 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations Paul, that's a huge step. Sitting with your thoughts and discovering yourself is tough. Sometimes, which is my case, we don't like what we uncover or discover, but the good news is we can learn ways of improving ourselves. The big one for me is "I'm unlikable" "I'm unloveable" or "as soon as someone really knows me they won't like me" I've tried to learn communication tools to help make friends. I'm still struggling with making "REAL" friends or in person friends but I feel ok now.
@philipholding4 ай бұрын
As a retired NHS therapist, you will probably find that your core beliefs are not subconscious. But, just habituated so much that the cause , and the assumptions from that cause, has been forgotten
@Kimberly345842 жыл бұрын
“If they cared about me, then they’d ask how I am doing” that really hit hard because I didn’t realize how wild this assumption is. Assuming that the only way someone can care for you is by asking you how you are doing
@АняДенисенко-г4ш Жыл бұрын
meanwhile british people : hiya how are you (0.00001s later) see ya
@Julesyoutoo11 ай бұрын
@@АняДенисенко-г4ш 70 million people, in four different countries, say exactly the same thing according to you. 😊
@oraora332 жыл бұрын
This was really good! I work with CBT, and this has probably been the best vid I've ever seen about core beliefs ever. Grats. 🙌
@SelfHelpToons Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@lm.74442 жыл бұрын
You sound like my prime minister ❤️. I love it. Thank you for providing these free videos!
@sanaamoledina5669 Жыл бұрын
I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR THIS. I am a psychiatry dr. in training and what you have taught in 15 minutes is far more practical and applicable than the 150 hours of lectures I have received on this topic.
@SelfHelpToons Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much, that's great to hear.
@av-sp1wo Жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this, Ive been searching for so long on how to identify my core beliefs but no one had a conherent and concrete way to do it. This helps out so much, now I can finally start tackling my issues at last. Im scared but at the same time Im also fed up with living in pain and hurt, I also want to experience joy in life even if its just a for a bit.
@SelfHelpToons Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@dr_ailton_psicologo3 жыл бұрын
Hi there! I'm doctor psychologist Ailton from Brazil. I really enjoyed the video. Very well explained. Very good work!
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Thanks, I appreciate it!
@marvinasimswewinqueendom2543 Жыл бұрын
This channel is truly a blessing! I‘ve been wondering what I needed to work on more. This is definitely my answer! Thank you for living your faith.❤You deserve all the coffees you desire and I will do my part to help make that happen for 😊
@MaryWalsh-b4m8 ай бұрын
Genius, absolute genius! Beautifully explained and depicted. Thank you!
@signer502 жыл бұрын
Thanks very much indeed...this is just the information I'm looking for.
@chaitanyadeshmane82432 жыл бұрын
Sir , this is really a masterpiece work by you. Thank you from India.
@barzanalvandi96172 ай бұрын
One of the most intresting videos I've ever watched ! it helped me with problems nobody ever talked about and everybody should watch this vid at least once,thank you❤
@stepin2theblue3 жыл бұрын
This is an EXCELLENT video. I learned a lot. Thank you.
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad you enjoyed it!
@hollyhobbles479010 ай бұрын
I've been looking for a channel like yours for years. Practical and informative. Skills I want to learn. Thank you so much ❤️
@ShruthiLakshminarayana3 жыл бұрын
Wow, understood how to recognize core belief, I’ll try out to identify some of my core beliefs😊.. Thank you❣️
@sevenswordsx72 жыл бұрын
An excellent exercise in self examination sir! There was a rock band in the late 60's named Uriah Heep. They put out an album named "Look at Yourself". Something we should all do. Thanks for the help!
@SelfHelpToons2 жыл бұрын
Thanks! I know some Uriah Heep songs but don't recognize that one, but I grew up listening to classic rock stations so I must have heard it a bunch back then.
@hanaamr36852 жыл бұрын
So grateful for you and everything you shared. Lots of love and gratitude and prayers from Egypt
@SelfHelpToons2 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@bigunhettiarachchi8532 жыл бұрын
I like your videos. They help me with my Therapy Thanks
@themadmeatball11 ай бұрын
Amazing content, thank you.
@1m8ni Жыл бұрын
Keep up the good work man !! I’m about to watch your next video and I just wanna thank you so much , this really helped me !! ❤️
@happychristina31623 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much... Those are all true about my personality... I want to change for a better me.
@rosarioesteban4792 Жыл бұрын
I love this channel, it's so informative! I would love to do Spanish subtitles for your content! If that's something you'd be interested in, please let me know. I think your videos can help so many people out there, and it can also help to break the stigma and the assumptions about mental health problems.
@SelfHelpToons Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for the generous offer, but in the past when I've had someone offer to help with something like this it hasn't been very productive, so I'm not collaborating with people anymore.
@ria2917 Жыл бұрын
@@SelfHelpToons That sounds like a limiting core belief and assumption :/
@jonasbenyahia29193 жыл бұрын
brooo this was one of the most fantastic explanations, thank u for ur efforts
@fikamonster2564 Жыл бұрын
Very valuable, ive been going to CBT but avoiding trying to figure out my core beliefs for a long time
@AwestaKhalid2 жыл бұрын
wow, this makes my mental health issues so scientific and hence, easier to overcome.. well done. Im excited to click on the next video.
@SelfHelpToons2 жыл бұрын
That's nice to hear. Thanks for letting me know!
@TheJimbala Жыл бұрын
I’m familiar with other self-inquiry modalities, useful in their own right, yet I sensed they always fell short when bringing up core belief such as just giving a few examples before moving onto other topics. Thankfully, I found this video thorough and clear.
@AF-qg1zu3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video , for real.
@ايمنعبدالعزيز-س6م3 жыл бұрын
Excellent video. Thank you so much. Very helpful and informative. Thank you for your efforts.
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad it was helpful!
@chenchennu72992 ай бұрын
Thank you so much afer long depression life, i found the real solution of dealing this.
@indrakamalyadav29212 жыл бұрын
Thank you sir
@LalchhanhimaRalte3 жыл бұрын
Excellent presentation, thank you so much. I hope the next video would be on "How to address/deal with negative core beliefs?"
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Thanks!. I'll have a video about that soon.
@tictoc54432 жыл бұрын
Just a thought Negative core beliefs can be in our interest to have if we are to maintain a realistic worldview For example sometimes our world is a dangerous place or sometimes people are selfish
@SelfHelpToons2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, if what we mean by, the world is dangerous, is that the world can sometimes be dangerous so sometimes we need to be careful in order to protect ourselves, then that's not a negative core belief, that's a realistic core belief that's helpful. The world is dangerous is a negative core belief if we mean we feel we need to protect ourselves at all costs, always need to make sure we're safe, can't allow ourselves to get outside of our comfort zones, can't trust anyone, and so on. That's not helpful and has a negative impact on our qualities of life. And if we have a negative core belief like this, then we would want to try to change it to something more accurate and realistic like, the world is sometimes a dangerous place, or the world can be dangerous.
@tictoc54432 жыл бұрын
@@SelfHelpToons thanks for taking the time to reply and explain Great work you do btw👍
@nareshgurung15482 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much sir! you made me crystal clear that my teacher couldnt do in whole year 🥲💌💌
@Anita.lalaland2 жыл бұрын
thank you, Looking forward to watch changing core values
@aparnapip37393 жыл бұрын
It really gives idea .. about cognitive therapy workings
@chaitanyadeshmane82433 жыл бұрын
Thank you sir . Plz tell me a comprehensive book on CBT.
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Depends what type of book you're looking for. There are lots of self-help CBT books but I don't really know any of them so can't recommend one, but if you want something about the theory and practice of CBT, I'd suggest Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond, by Judith S. Beck
@meme-uo5yu Жыл бұрын
very helpful. i have worksheets that talk about core beliefs but i could never understand them. seeing a video helps to get a better idea
@dariomargeli3 ай бұрын
Very well done video. However, sometimes we may find ourselves with a negative emotion, and we want to know from what inner child thought it is coming from. I have not been able to find material unline on how to get the inner child say, what the thought is that is causing its rage or tantrum. Do you have a video on getting the inner child talk?
@mn91202 ай бұрын
Thank you. This was very helpful. 💯🙏👌👍
@jackbenimblejack12 жыл бұрын
Thank for these videos and your work...
@lotus2093 жыл бұрын
thank you bro it do helps to learn about the topic u are doing great work keep it up. Thank you
@markcandsan28043 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this good and concise lecture.
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@TinaSotis2 жыл бұрын
This is such a clear explanation+ so helpful and more importantly, something I can actually use to help myself. Thank you!
@janicevitale780918 күн бұрын
Excellent video!
@christinebona_2 жыл бұрын
Wow thanks for this info
@santsipahicentralfloridanews Жыл бұрын
I believe in my own eventual competency, that if i venture to be successful, even during struggles and strife, i wont lett myself down. There are people who depend on me, and i cant and wont let them down either
@_linlin_2 жыл бұрын
My core beliefs are - I am weak - mentally and physically, that's the core core belief. That others shouldn't see my vulnerabilities and that I should always be perfect. From my mother I learned - that the world shouldn't know my vulnerabilities or that people will use them against me, from my father I learned that my emotions shouldn't be expressed with words until they build up in the form of anger. From both I learned that I am From other people I learned that my true self isn't worth enough and should show an image until I eventually get pissed and stop putting the facade The way finding my core beliefs was just someone asking me, I guess I subconsciously did the job.
@jennirmz2381 Жыл бұрын
This was a very helpful video. thank you putting this together and going step by step.
@Lina-cr3cv3 жыл бұрын
You are simply amazing!
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@patrickhiggins42822 жыл бұрын
Fantastic video, it helped a lot.
@SelfHelpToons2 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear it!
@Megan-v2i Жыл бұрын
Great video. thanks for making such important information accessible
@elizabethCorkins83 Жыл бұрын
4:25 I do that a lot "What if..."
@SAM-vw2bt11 ай бұрын
Great job Sir Gary❤
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Download the core beliefs worksheet at www.selfhelptoons.com/core-beliefs-in-cbt/ The ABCs of CBT kzbin.info/www/bejne/iaXaaoNpbcqDjKs CBT playlist kzbin.info/aero/PL4Qw4-tlRJe-sZ_U4Fzi66UXMGvkPTf7P
@Leariccardi3 жыл бұрын
The link for the worksheet leads to an error page, could you please list another source?
@jamieobrien5300 Жыл бұрын
These videos are excellent!!
@debdeb30275 ай бұрын
Thank u so much ❤️❤️❤️
@3goldenhairs Жыл бұрын
Thank you - a very clear guide
@philipholding4 ай бұрын
As a retired therapist myself. I have seen many videos that say that cbt doesn’t work with the client's past. Yes, we do. It's called negative core beliefs.
@DianyKHI4 ай бұрын
do you give online sessions
@micktmusic4 ай бұрын
Maybe some theoretical perspectives suggest this, however, looking at modern day formulations and using the 5 P model, it definitely does and it’s so refreshing to see this being used and actually designed to help people challenge their core beliefs. This is a great video ❤
@AbdurRahim-kz1oj2 ай бұрын
Tnx from Bangladesh,Dear Sir.
@Bluevioletbell Жыл бұрын
This is fantastic, thank you for sharing x
@ash_luscious2 жыл бұрын
I am deserving I am worthy I am scared I am amazing I am a little weird I am different I am unacceptable The world is judgy mean and shallow The world needs to be a more nicer and welcoming place The world is mean harsh and scary The world is disgusting Others are selfish mean Others are closeminded and dumb Others are shallow Others think they're better than sme ppl Others are narcissistic I should always think highly defend and love myself I should not hate or be against myself I must always be my advocate and love myself I must not let other ppl affect me If I love myself then I won't feel hurt If someone is mean to me then I will defend myself If their is a problem then it's my responsibility to solve it Ppl are mean can't be trusted will betray you and don't care about you Ppl are not understanding I am weak I am different I am unlovable I'm unlikable
@brightinspirationallifetim83472 жыл бұрын
Prayers for you in GOD LORD JESUS CHRIST NAME!
@elizabethCorkins83 Жыл бұрын
HUGZ
@denitatodd79622 жыл бұрын
Thank you, great information!
@eileenstack30273 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@sarahbi79257 ай бұрын
Hi this video is absolutely fantastic. I was wondering how could I download or print this video
@patriciagerlach92583 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, the information is really helpful. New subscriber! :)
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear it was helpful and thanks for the sub!
@CharvisFouse17 күн бұрын
Very helpful
@Cbockhoff3 жыл бұрын
How often do you see the affect of conditional experiences versus core beliefs affecting people? For example I feel I am a strong confident individual with strong core beliefs, but due to a chain of events I became insecure and isolated. Which turned into anxiety and over emotions. And thank you for your videos they have been very helpful and I watch them as a reminder each day as I battle retraining my mind. Just another example of Covid life dealing with what would normally be normal things…
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
This is completely standard. We all have triggers that can lead to reactions like you've describe that aren't usually present when these triggers aren't activated.
@bvanveelen3 жыл бұрын
Helpful video. TXS for posting. Do you maybe references?
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Cognitive Therapy for Chronic and Persistent Depression by Richard G. Moore and Anne Garland has a couple of chapters on core beliefs and how to modify them that goes in to a lot of detail. Core beliefs are also covered in Mind Over Mood by Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky, and Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond by Judith Beck
@bvanveelen3 жыл бұрын
@@SelfHelpToons got it. TXS. I ordered the book by Judith Beck.
@livelife85293 жыл бұрын
Great video
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@mamauk4 ай бұрын
Thanks from a 59yo 2024 August 👍 Didn't think of this.
@johnh45632 жыл бұрын
Really helpful, thank you. 😊
@Star-dj1kw Жыл бұрын
❤ excellent video
@eileenstack30273 жыл бұрын
My doctor said I need to understand all this about CBT
@aitch3656 ай бұрын
awesome. thank you :)
@stegyjmj939611 ай бұрын
Could you make a vedio on psychosomatic disorder as well
@TristineBarry2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! 💕
@normman19942 жыл бұрын
Very helpful, thank you
@austinananda66972 жыл бұрын
As a newly qualified CBT therapist, this is a brilliant concise nutshell of CBT. Found it very helpful.
@AbdurRahim-kz1oj2 ай бұрын
Effective videos
@nicomarathon7486 ай бұрын
great videos. Need some more volume
@AbdurRahim-kz1oj2 ай бұрын
write Down few channels about CBT in depression. pls
@shelley_snail69083 жыл бұрын
Nice, thank you.
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Gad you liked it!
@monlisaembry5972 Жыл бұрын
Do you have worksheets I can download to print these off for myself to work on.
@SelfHelpToons Жыл бұрын
You can download a core beliefs worksheet at: www.selfhelptoons.com/core-beliefs-in-cbt/
@singlespursuingpurpose9573 жыл бұрын
This was really great
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@mahuachakraborty8613 жыл бұрын
Very well explained
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@cianjones38173 жыл бұрын
Could you help with panic attacks and going to the gym when I feel the lactic acid get out of breath heart racing I panic and it annoys me because I love working out and know it’ll make me feel better in the long run but I haven’t worked out in a month because of it
@SelfHelpToons3 жыл бұрын
Hi Clan, it's unethical for me to provide individual advice over the internet to people I don't know, but I have a couple of videos about panic attacks that you could check out at kzbin.info/aero/PL4Qw4-tlRJe_WDsg4dx-Ib0xgVmYobaKY
@cianjones38173 жыл бұрын
@@SelfHelpToons thank you I understand
@pufisharu76663 жыл бұрын
Assumptions of cognitive therapy and behavior therapy are same?
@shravanipatade5492 жыл бұрын
How long does it take to change core beliefs through behavior I have found out my negative core beliefs and rules and assumptions that I am having to confirm that beliefs And changing behavior is it enough to change the core beliefs
@SelfHelpToons2 жыл бұрын
If you start behaving differently and getting different results, core beliefs will start changing. But it's an ongoing process so there's no way to estimate a time-frame, and how long it takes for the change to start being noticeable and stable will depend on a variety of factors.
@snoo3332 жыл бұрын
fantastic video. thank you. do you have a video about taking things personally or taking offense. I have watched many videos on the subject. i know there must be a core belief that forces me to take things personally or get offended. thank you in advance.
@nicolegriffinhawkins8594 Жыл бұрын
Hi @snoo333 I just want to say to you thank you for your comment, for having the courage to reach out. I am the same way and can imagine how you might be feeling. I am wondering why no reply to this question, kind of ironic? @SelfHelp Toons can you help? Thank you for your videos!
@brianswathey Жыл бұрын
I am riddled with many unhelpful core beliefs. I may as well die right here, right now