Core Beliefs, Rules and Assumptions in CBT

[@eileenstack3027]

Should have learned all this in primary school

[@larrylazza3157]

Exactly. They don't teach us about life at school . With this kind of info it could have meant avoiding allot of faulty thinking and self doubt

[@UniqueGeekFreak]

They cant control us or make money from free minds. They do this to conform us into the hive mind and for us to be in survival mode...this makes ppl sick so that they can profit from our misery

[@alimay967]

They give us negative beliefs in primary school! It’s naive to expect the system to give you what they are actually there to destroy.

[@phabebarcelona863]

Yep sure shoud of

[@AmanyElmasry]

Education systems are failing

[@elizabethCorkins83]

This should be taught at schools. (I've probably learned more on KZbin than I did at school lol).

[@Kimberly34584]

“If they cared about me, then they’d ask how I am doing” that really hit hard because I didn’t realize how wild this assumption is. Assuming that the only way someone can care for you is by asking you how you are doing

[@АняДенисенко-г4ш]

meanwhile british people : hiya how are you (0.00001s later) see ya

[@rainbowjules]

@@АняДенисенко-г4ш 70 million people, in four different countries, say exactly the same thing according to you. 😊

[@naturallybecoming831]

Wow when I read I don’t deserve to live I felt emotional I didn’t realize I still had that one within me til it was verbalized. This is part of why I’m afraid to be happy and create the life I want. It’s why I’ve struggled to even want to pursue anything in life. I’m definitely gonna rewatch this

[@zainabwaheed9042]

I am confident, kind and helpful. The world is unpredictable. Some people are selfish and some are kind and loving.

[@ShruthiLakshminarayana]

I identified one of my core belief , that I’m always wrong and others are always right! Thank you & thank you .. will try to do more of identifying my core beliefs!

[@opencoursesnepal]

helli i have identified my four main core beliefs . what to do now ? they are i can't be sucessful and earn no girl will like me , i cant impress beautiful girls i have no fun life. I cant be cool like other boys I am coward and lack courage to tackle powerful people and boys. what should I do now?

[@wanderingnomad1]

My problem as well, I always think I’m wrong

[@sm.safiulabid8130]

You know hindi or Bangla??? I am From Bangladesh. My English

[@djimiwreybigsby5263]

We don't trust our own judgement

[@UncleBoobieCosmicOverlord]

Just the prospect of being able to "unpack" the subconscious instigators of my day to day struggles is made me feel better. Since quitting drugs I've been at the mercy of my own thoughts without an off switch. I'm very much looking forward to starting my CBT. Thanks for the explanation.

[@Mk0467]

That’s so amazing I’m so proud you quit drugs hopefully you get better day by day ❤️

[@rhetoricalsystem]

Hi there Paul, I hope your recovery journey is going well. I was in a similar situation about 10 years ago, unfortunately I'm only now starting my CBT journey, but one thing I found to slow down my thoughts since then, is jigsaw puzzles. I know that it's a strange thing, but putting the peices of your life together is daunting, and looking at all the peices of a jigsaw puzzle can be daunting as well. Concentrating on putting the peices together one at a time can slow my thoughts down enough to really get through some hard times. Like I said, I hope your journey has been successful so far, remember that failure is not a mistake, or relapse. You can only fail when you give up. I'm proud of you.

[@pamarnold118]

Congratulations Paul, that's a huge step. Sitting with your thoughts and discovering yourself is tough. Sometimes, which is my case, we don't like what we uncover or discover, but the good news is we can learn ways of improving ourselves. The big one for me is "I'm unlikable" "I'm unloveable" or "as soon as someone really knows me they won't like me" I've tried to learn communication tools to help make friends. I'm still struggling with making "REAL" friends or in person friends but I feel ok now.

[@philipholding]

As a retired NHS therapist, you will probably find that your core beliefs are not subconscious. But, just habituated so much that the cause , and the assumptions from that cause, has been forgotten

[@oraora33]

This was really good! I work with CBT, and this has probably been the best vid I've ever seen about core beliefs ever. Grats. 🙌

[@SelfHelpToons]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@nicholas8479]

I'm so glad the CBT triangle in your other video included a fourth dimension..."bodily sensations". That led me to choose your video over the many others and now I can watch your other excellent videos.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks for bringing up this point. I do have a whole video about body sensations, but it is something that I don't talk about much in a many of my videos on CBT, so I'll try to emphasize that more in the future.

[@lm.7444]

You sound like my prime minister ❤️. I love it. Thank you for providing these free videos!

[@marvinasimswewinqueendom2543]

This channel is truly a blessing! I‘ve been wondering what I needed to work on more. This is definitely my answer! Thank you for living your faith.❤You deserve all the coffees you desire and I will do my part to help make that happen for 😊

[@sevenswordsx7]

An excellent exercise in self examination sir! There was a rock band in the late 60's named Uriah Heep. They put out an album named "Look at Yourself". Something we should all do. Thanks for the help!

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks! I know some Uriah Heep songs but don't recognize that one, but I grew up listening to classic rock stations so I must have heard it a bunch back then.

[@ShruthiLakshminarayana]

Wow, understood how to recognize core belief, I’ll try out to identify some of my core beliefs😊.. Thank you❣️

[@chaitanyadeshmane8243]

Sir , this is really a masterpiece work by you. Thank you from India.

[@av-sp1wo]

Thank you for making this, Ive been searching for so long on how to identify my core beliefs but no one had a conherent and concrete way to do it. This helps out so much, now I can finally start tackling my issues at last. Im scared but at the same time Im also fed up with living in pain and hurt, I also want to experience joy in life even if its just a for a bit.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Glad it was helpful!

[@dr_ailton_psicologo]

Hi there! I'm doctor psychologist Ailton from Brazil. I really enjoyed the video. Very well explained. Very good work!

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks, I appreciate it!

[@stepin2theblue]

This is an EXCELLENT video. I learned a lot. Thank you.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks, glad you enjoyed it!

[@philipholding]

As a retired therapist myself. I have seen many videos that say that cbt doesn’t work with the client's past. Yes, we do. It's called negative core beliefs.

[@DianyKHI]

do you give online sessions

[@micktmusic]

Maybe some theoretical perspectives suggest this, however, looking at modern day formulations and using the 5 P model, it definitely does and it’s so refreshing to see this being used and actually designed to help people challenge their core beliefs. This is a great video ❤

[@sanaamoledina5669]

I CANNOT THANK YOU ENOUGH FOR THIS. I am a psychiatry dr. in training and what you have taught in 15 minutes is far more practical and applicable than the 150 hours of lectures I have received on this topic.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks so much, that's great to hear.

[@signer50]

Thanks very much indeed...this is just the information I'm looking for.

[@LalchhanhimaRalte]

Excellent presentation, thank you so much. I hope the next video would be on "How to address/deal with negative core beliefs?"

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks!. I'll have a video about that soon.

[@AwestaKhalid]

wow, this makes my mental health issues so scientific and hence, easier to overcome.. well done. Im excited to click on the next video.

[@SelfHelpToons]

That's nice to hear. Thanks for letting me know!

[@Aumnimist]

Thanks!

[@jonasbenyahia2919]

brooo this was one of the most fantastic explanations, thank u for ur efforts

[@hanaamr3685]

So grateful for you and everything you shared. Lots of love and gratitude and prayers from Egypt

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks so much!

[@bigunhettiarachchi853]

I like your videos. They help me with my Therapy Thanks

[@indrakamalyadav2921]

Thank you sir

[@aparnapip3739]

It really gives idea .. about cognitive therapy workings

[@rosarioesteban4792]

I love this channel, it's so informative! I would love to do Spanish subtitles for your content! If that's something you'd be interested in, please let me know. I think your videos can help so many people out there, and it can also help to break the stigma and the assumptions about mental health problems.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks so much for the generous offer, but in the past when I've had someone offer to help with something like this it hasn't been very productive, so I'm not collaborating with people anymore.

[@ria2917]

@@SelfHelpToons That sounds like a limiting core belief and assumption :/

[@Anitalaland]

thank you, Looking forward to watch changing core values

[@nareshgurung1548]

Thank you so much sir! you made me crystal clear that my teacher couldnt do in whole year 🥲💌💌

[@markcandsan2804]

Thanks for this good and concise lecture.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@theAnalogManifesto]

Amazing content, thank you.

[@MaryWalsh-b4m]

Genius, absolute genius! Beautifully explained and depicted. Thank you!

[@happychristina3162]

Thank you so much... Those are all true about my personality... I want to change for a better me.

[@AF-qg1zu]

Thank you so much for this video , for real.

[@hollyhobbles4790]

I've been looking for a channel like yours for years. Practical and informative. Skills I want to learn. Thank you so much ❤️

[@TheJimbala]

I’m familiar with other self-inquiry modalities, useful in their own right, yet I sensed they always fell short when bringing up core belief such as just giving a few examples before moving onto other topics. Thankfully, I found this video thorough and clear.

[@ايمنعبدالعزيز-س6م]

Excellent video. Thank you so much. Very helpful and informative. Thank you for your efforts.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks, glad it was helpful!

[@santsipahicentralfloridanews]

I believe in my own eventual competency, that if i venture to be successful, even during struggles and strife, i wont lett myself down. There are people who depend on me, and i cant and wont let them down either

[@fikamonster2564]

Very valuable, ive been going to CBT but avoiding trying to figure out my core beliefs for a long time

[@jackbenimblejack1]

Thank for these videos and your work...

[@1m8ni]

Keep up the good work man !! I’m about to watch your next video and I just wanna thank you so much , this really helped me !! ❤️

[@debdeb3027]

Thank u so much ❤️❤️❤️

[@patrickhiggins4282]

Fantastic video, it helped a lot.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Glad to hear it!

[@lotus209]

thank you bro it do helps to learn about the topic u are doing great work keep it up. Thank you

[@mamauk]

Thanks from a 59yo 2024 August 👍 Didn't think of this.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Download the core beliefs worksheet at www.selfhelptoons.com/core-beliefs-in-cbt/ The ABCs of CBT kzbin.info/www/bejne/iaXaaoNpbcqDjKs CBT playlist kzbin.info/aero/PL4Qw4-tlRJe-sZ_U4Fzi66UXMGvkPTf7P

[@Leariccardi]

The link for the worksheet leads to an error page, could you please list another source?

[@TinaSotis]

This is such a clear explanation+ so helpful and more importantly, something I can actually use to help myself. Thank you!

[@Lina-cr3cv]

You are simply amazing!

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks!

[@christinebona_]

Wow thanks for this info

[@meme-uo5yu]

very helpful. i have worksheets that talk about core beliefs but i could never understand them. seeing a video helps to get a better idea

[@_linlin_]

My core beliefs are - I am weak - mentally and physically, that's the core core belief. That others shouldn't see my vulnerabilities and that I should always be perfect. From my mother I learned - that the world shouldn't know my vulnerabilities or that people will use them against me, from my father I learned that my emotions shouldn't be expressed with words until they build up in the form of anger. From both I learned that I am From other people I learned that my true self isn't worth enough and should show an image until I eventually get pissed and stop putting the facade The way finding my core beliefs was just someone asking me, I guess I subconsciously did the job.

[@tictoc5443]

Just a thought Negative core beliefs can be in our interest to have if we are to maintain a realistic worldview For example sometimes our world is a dangerous place or sometimes people are selfish

[@SelfHelpToons]

Yeah, if what we mean by, the world is dangerous, is that the world can sometimes be dangerous so sometimes we need to be careful in order to protect ourselves, then that's not a negative core belief, that's a realistic core belief that's helpful. The world is dangerous is a negative core belief if we mean we feel we need to protect ourselves at all costs, always need to make sure we're safe, can't allow ourselves to get outside of our comfort zones, can't trust anyone, and so on. That's not helpful and has a negative impact on our qualities of life. And if we have a negative core belief like this, then we would want to try to change it to something more accurate and realistic like, the world is sometimes a dangerous place, or the world can be dangerous.

[@tictoc5443]

@@SelfHelpToons thanks for taking the time to reply and explain Great work you do btw👍

[@austinananda6697]

As a newly qualified CBT therapist, this is a brilliant concise nutshell of CBT. Found it very helpful.

[@eileenstack3027]

My doctor said I need to understand all this about CBT

[@kgg1221]

One of my core beliefs is that I'm unlovable. Another is that I'm a failure. Another is that I'm toxic. As someone with CPTSD, I find it tough to accept that although initial negative experiences were not my fault, their effects have made me act in a way that seems to perpetuate these core beliefs. It's a painful, exhausting cycle but I know that there are tools to stop the cycle in the moment, and that moments of peace add up. Thank you for this channel!

[@winspiff]

A child is NEVER at fault or accountable for the actions of an adult. There’s is never a healthy justification for physical or mentally harming ANYONE who is not threatening your life. Any adult who does so is deeply disturbed. It is not your fault. It was never your fault. You are enough just as you are.

[@gingerindian1141]

a childs brain - up to about 12 or 13 will accept judgements about them as accurate or real life feedback - without challenging, or disupting them - or have alternative options to consider. These can become reference points that are reinforced each time these are used to refer to yourself as unloveable/toxic/failure. It is a childs perspective. Another way to think of it is - would you trust your 11 year old self to write a shopping list, and pick healthy foods, or budget foods, then drive to that supermarket, collect them, and come home? Probably not. That is the age you are when your core beliefs are forming - and clearly - limited and not too adult like. Comparing Health Adult - mindset/values with Vulnerable Child values/mental skills - when refering to Core beliefs - first bite of the cherry is that vulnerable child - but what does the Healthy Adult think when triggered? a 2nd bite of the cherry is a) not automatic like the first bite is (reflex), and b) it is a slower system and takes a few moments to disupte first bite/evaluate how accurate and to what extent it is useful, or not. Then the 2nd bite/Healthy Adult - has to develop a more current and helpful perspective on the triggering situation - aiming for good consequences, minmise negative ones, with the best of intentions for self and for others.

[@rebeccas3876]

@@winspiffsadly the adult has likely also been damaged by adults when they were a child, but don’t know their own CBs, rules and assumptions

[@SAM-vw2bt]

Great job Sir Gary❤

[@livelife8529]

Great video

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks!

[@Megan-v2i]

Great video. thanks for making such important information accessible

[@jennirmz2381]

This was a very helpful video. thank you putting this together and going step by step.

[@jamieobrien5300]

These videos are excellent!!

[@patriciagerlach9258]

Thank you so much, the information is really helpful. New subscriber! :)

[@SelfHelpToons]

Glad to hear it was helpful and thanks for the sub!

[@singlespursuingpurpose957]

This was really great

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks!

[@Bluevioletbell]

This is fantastic, thank you for sharing x

[@Cbockhoff]

How often do you see the affect of conditional experiences versus core beliefs affecting people? For example I feel I am a strong confident individual with strong core beliefs, but due to a chain of events I became insecure and isolated. Which turned into anxiety and over emotions. And thank you for your videos they have been very helpful and I watch them as a reminder each day as I battle retraining my mind. Just another example of Covid life dealing with what would normally be normal things…

[@SelfHelpToons]

This is completely standard. We all have triggers that can lead to reactions like you've describe that aren't usually present when these triggers aren't activated.

[@denitatodd7962]

Thank you, great information!

[@TristineBarry]

Thank you! 💕

[@Star-dj1kw]

❤ excellent video

[@elizabethCorkins83]

4:25 I do that a lot "What if..."

[@brianswathey]

I am riddled with many unhelpful core beliefs. I may as well die right here, right now

[@aitch365]

awesome. thank you :)

[@normman1994]

Very helpful, thank you

[@dylanpringle4314]

Self help tools yes

[@nicomarathon748]

great videos. Need some more volume

[@shelley_snail6908]

Nice, thank you.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Gad you liked it!

[@mahuachakraborty861]

Very well explained

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks!

[@dariomargeli]

Very well done video. However, sometimes we may find ourselves with a negative emotion, and we want to know from what inner child thought it is coming from. I have not been able to find material unline on how to get the inner child say, what the thought is that is causing its rage or tantrum. Do you have a video on getting the inner child talk?

[@sarahbi7925]

Hi this video is absolutely fantastic. I was wondering how could I download or print this video

[@jayplays2196]

Didn't have KZbin when I was 7 but I do now.

[@362adeeburrehman6]

Damn the story of my life

[@stegyjmj9396]

Could you make a vedio on psychosomatic disorder as well

[@KKKaTTT123]

I'm strange - I'm different - I'm fat (even when/if i'm not) - I would never get that lucky - that's too good to be true. Now I need to work on the if/then assumption

[@bvanveelen]

Helpful video. TXS for posting. Do you maybe references?

[@SelfHelpToons]

Cognitive Therapy for Chronic and Persistent Depression by Richard G. Moore and Anne Garland has a couple of chapters on core beliefs and how to modify them that goes in to a lot of detail. Core beliefs are also covered in Mind Over Mood by Dennis Greenberger and Christine Padesky, and Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond by Judith Beck

[@bvanveelen]

@@SelfHelpToons got it. TXS. I ordered the book by Judith Beck.

[@monlisaembry5972]

Do you have worksheets I can download to print these off for myself to work on.

[@SelfHelpToons]

You can download a core beliefs worksheet at: www.selfhelptoons.com/core-beliefs-in-cbt/

[@user-mu8zs9jj1q]

The world isn’t fair honestly 😅

[@manishaacharya5768]

Yeah but it’s unfair to everyone and that’s kind of fair to everyone

[@shakool2kool]

they should really teach this is schools

[@snoo333]

fantastic video. thank you. do you have a video about taking things personally or taking offense. I have watched many videos on the subject. i know there must be a core belief that forces me to take things personally or get offended. thank you in advance.

[@nicolegriffinhawkins8594]

Hi @snoo333 I just want to say to you thank you for your comment, for having the courage to reach out. I am the same way and can imagine how you might be feeling. I am wondering why no reply to this question, kind of ironic? @SelfHelp Toons can you help? Thank you for your videos!

[@thanku4beingusgoodnuf616]

that was very helpful I could gain a thing or two from cbt. I'm going to deff. subscribe to learn more.

[@shravanipatade549]

How long does it take to change core beliefs through behavior I have found out my negative core beliefs and rules and assumptions that I am having to confirm that beliefs And changing behavior is it enough to change the core beliefs

[@SelfHelpToons]

If you start behaving differently and getting different results, core beliefs will start changing. But it's an ongoing process so there's no way to estimate a time-frame, and how long it takes for the change to start being noticeable and stable will depend on a variety of factors.

[@ilikerainandburger]

damn,almost commited a suicide today,i guess my core belief is in really really BAD condition...... i do need to finish watch your video soon,since they are helpful.i got to do something about my painful mind......i ll watch your video about how to change the negative core belief later,change these dirty broken core belief (which have formed for alot of years) is my goal to save my mental health.anyway thx.

[@EB-gt1pq]

Please stick around…. The world needs you❤

[@cianjones3817]

Could you help with panic attacks and going to the gym when I feel the lactic acid get out of breath heart racing I panic and it annoys me because I love working out and know it’ll make me feel better in the long run but I haven’t worked out in a month because of it

[@SelfHelpToons]

Hi Clan, it's unethical for me to provide individual advice over the internet to people I don't know, but I have a couple of videos about panic attacks that you could check out at kzbin.info/aero/PL4Qw4-tlRJe_WDsg4dx-Ib0xgVmYobaKY

[@cianjones3817]

@@SelfHelpToons thank you I understand

[@mandyporras07]

So this thinking affects our health? I have fibromyalgia. It came a year after I gave birth and my daughters father, verbally abused me. I was left alone to take care of a baby. It was hard. No hot water, no heat, no car, no phone. He couldn’t hold a job. I should have known better.

[@sanayalove9194]

These are not thoughts, it is my reality. My mother always put me second to her son/my brother, he abused me a lot but she overlooked it and never accepted that she is partial and helped him in stealing my part of inheritance of my father's property. My all relatives hate me for just existing.No one stood with me.

[@suzannemaroney4579]

If I isolate, at least I won’t be hurt, judged, or talked about..

[@danieljoesphlivelife6884]

What if people treat you bad that can reinforce the beliefs

[@pufisharu7666]

Assumptions of cognitive therapy and behavior therapy are same?

[@alexxx4434]

I do have plenty of implanted negative thoughts about myself, which are arguably incorrect. But I don't see how beliefs that the world is going to shit, and that most people are naturally selfish and only care about their own wellbeing are incorrect.

[@SelfHelpToons]

If you don't think some of your negative core beliefs are incorrect, there's no reason to change them. But If those beliefs are negatively impacting your life or mental health, you might want to "soften" them a bit. For example, "*most people* are naturally selfish" is softer than *all people.* You could try softening it a little more to "most people are naturally selfish and *primarily* care about their own wellbeing," but if your core belief isn't causing you any issues, then there's no need to try modify it.

[@alexxx4434]

@@SelfHelpToons That's a good tip about softening. After all, only Sith think in absolutes!😁

[@stephanieward9761]

Looking g for the worksheet..?

[@SelfHelpToons]

Download the core beliefs worksheet at: www.selfhelptoons.com/core-beliefs-in-cbt/

[@carlahornock9973]

I subscribed. Why can't I find my subscription?

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks for becoming a member! I think you can see your membership by going to my channel's homepage and clicking See perks.