7 Annoying Habits Men Do That Women HATE (STOP DOING THESE!) | Courtney Ryan

[@goswald04]

1. Your words don't match your actions - 1:17 2. Lying about small stuff - 2:00 3. You don't listen - 3:17 4. You're messy - 4:17 5. Putting in 0 (zero) effort - 6:42 6. Poor communication - 8:12 7. Checking out other girls - 9:56

[@antonboludo8886]

Thank you.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Not all heroes wear capes!!

[@Takezo.D.Shinmen]

I have 3/7

[@jxggxr_dxv]

"Your words don't match your actions" this is something that I've noticed at a lot of women I've met (friends, dates etc). This made me remember that you should always watch a woman's behavior, rather than what she says.

[@mario.chichmanov]

@@jxggxr_dxv Exactly. There is a reason the saying goes ``To be a man of your word``, not a ``Woman of your word``

[@WarDamnATL]

Women have a bad habit of holding grudges. If there is something we're doing wrong, don't wait and tell us 3 months later when you build a big enough case. Those are issues that could be avoided

[@CourtneyRyan]

Agreed!

[@nicolashill8837]

Read the book the way of the superior man

[@jasonfanclub4267]

3 months? More like 7 years 🤔

[@KannyValentine]

Only because men have the annoying habit of never apologizing.

[@user-pe2lw1ze8i]

Oh yeah. Sure. When we talk to you, your man brains can’t handle it. “ too complicated “ for depth in general

[@brentwooddell4232]

One of the most unbearable things every woman I’ve been with has done: Constantly trying to change and downplay everything about you that attracted them to you in the first place because of their own insecurities and jealousy.

[@saltydog6922]

All two of them

[@PB_324]

You got that out if this?

[@marc416]

I think they see potential in you and love the challenge to change anything negative about you. Irritating.

[@toddfarkman2177]

Yeah most of this list is "things to do because women are insecure".

[@toddfarkman2177]

@@marc416 Men "I married a perfect woman I hope she never changes" Women "I married an imperfect man, I will try to change him"

[@tomistenqvist1311]

#1 annoyance with women in my life is the inability to speak their mind. Then i hear afterwards how they were bothered by something that could have been fixed right then and there if they just spoke out.

[@nathanrakhman7176]

Because men are more direct and blunt in terms of communication while women tend to hint or insinuate

[@おいしいパスター]

And then trying to pull the "because men are this but women are this" card, but never actually trying to understand men's natural tendencies back.

[@faliandra7659]

if you want a woman who speaks her mind, you gotta be comfortable with it on ALL levels. Being a woman whos very outspoken, I get a shit ton of hate from a lot of men who seem to have massive ego problems when I tell them whats on my mind. That's really the thing I don't get, all the guys around me seem to want a cutsy, little, naive, dumb girl who wont cause any trouble or speak up or have any opinions. But then I read stuff like your comments and ask myself why I'm SPECIFICALLY getting so much hate for being just that: outspoken. This obviously is not intended to be a dig at you, I'm just frustrated cos it seems like I'm not allowed to have opinions or speak my mind if I want a relationship.

[@tomistenqvist1311]

@@faliandra7659 yea no offense taken personally. I think you're going to win in the long run with that attitude maybe the men you've met are just too weak for you.Keep doing you!

[@DTraiN5795]

@@tomistenqvist1311 yeah I’d rather someone say what’s up but there’s also things that are way too picky and that stuff shouldn’t matter. It’s like literally everything bothers them and they never take a look at themselves and change where they can. Change takes time as well so if you never work on it then it never happens. Guys have more of a tendency to see all this. Yeah the weak or small minded people can’t get this. It’s definitely not related to gender bc guys are like this too.

[@prassanak3601]

This is not just relationship advice, this is good advice for life in general

[@jameslebeau7078]

Spend enough time in a relationship, and she'll be annoyed by literally everything you do.

[@GEORGIOARCADE]

Pretty much 😂 and that could her way of subtly trying to get out of the relationship. At that point, it's time fot you to walk away because that's just being nitpicky if a woman does that all the time.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Sadly I think this happens a lot of the time ☹️ not all women are like that though!!

[@brians1793]

@@GEORGIOARCADE Honestly, when that happens I think in most cases the woman would just rather be with the guy than be alone, but would rather be with someone else but they were the best they could do. A lot of guys would rather just be alone lol, so it could be to drive the guy off if there's someone else.

[@GEORGIOARCADE]

@@brians1793 Haha now that's something to think about and i believe what you said. I know i rather be alone than with a nagging nitpicky girlfriend. That sounds like hell 😂

[@mediasawdust2458]

Even if you do all the things on this list, she'll be annoyed you do everything she tells you.

[@samuelgerman3079]

Courtney you are honestly one of the most understanding, empathetic people on KZbin. I am so amazed and grateful that you take time out of your day to help us guys even though some of us are unfortunately really mean and disrespectful to women. Keep up the good work girl!

[@CourtneyRyan]

I’m so happy to do it! Thank you, my friend! ❤️

[@uwekirschner187]

I agree with you. She is amazing

[@PRdude]

I'm working from home today. I normally listen to ASMR videos or music when I work at home, but once I got the notification of this video, it was a great opportunity for me to take a break and listen to your wisdom.

[@CourtneyRyan]

😎👏🏼

[@rodplays3726]

What you mean you work at home

[@Tiogar60]

For the last point, if a girl is in a relationship, she also shouldnt post any of those "thirst traps" pictures. I dont think she should in any situation, just like guys shouldnt like or comment on those at any point in their life, but especially not during a relationship

[@Ojoj-vc5sh]

To be honest, it is one of the things I screen for when talking with women. On tinder I ignore all the women that use half naked pictures on their profile and if they post hundreds of selfies on Instagram. I want to be with someone who is present in the real world with me, not living some fantasy life online. Same goes for having loads and loads of male "friends". We all know they only hang around hoping for a taste some day. If that's what she wants? She can have it without me. These days I can ignore 95% of all women on online dating. It makes me sad to see how things have changed of the past few years.

[@MrMoon-pz1lm]

Your videos are very refreshing because you’re calm in communicating your points. Other people’s videos are on dating advice are so obnoxious.

[@Cayuse2009]

I am a 65 YO male and now retired and divorced, her choice. I moved out of the master bedroom about 15 years ago, when the kids were all grown up and there were spare rooms. I couldn't stand the mess she made in all the rooms in the house that company didn't see. The master bedroom had so many of her clothes on the floor, you couldn't see the floor. Her clothes would pile up in the laundry room until they rotted or turned moldy, she just bought more clothes when her existing clothes were ruined by neglect. Needless to say, I did all my own laundry and cooked most of the meals. The master bathroom was completely ruined and had to be redone when we went through divorce. Of course I had paid all of the bills when we were married, (she couldn't keep a job longer than 6 months) and she blew her money on clothes and her time on shopping. Did I mention she is an alcoholic and drug user? Never the less, the Family court judge (a female) gave her about $350,000 that I had earned which was about 67% of my assets. I don't expect her to live that long as she will overdose at some point. The judge literally gave her a premature death sentence by giving her all that money. I've now gone MGTOW and life is good.

[@Kjertinge]

Sorry to hear that friend, I can’t relate but I sympathize. I wish you all the best on moving on with your life. Hopefully you can find someone else who brings you some happiness

[@marco13mag]

Courtney, God bless you. I truly appreciate you and your advice. I’m not gonna lie, I teared up watching this because I can seriously see the genuine love and honesty and respect you have just talking about this. I see your heart and I really appreciate you.

[@danielpfister6774]

Hi Courtney, As a fellow who is bit older, I have "finally" broken myself of most of these bad habits over the years 😄! However, if we are honest, it is ongoing work in progress for men (and women) to be the best version of ourselves 😉 If you decide to put together a similar video regarding women's habits, it would be great to include good ways for a guy to "break it easy" to the woman we love in our life (knowing that women can be quite sensitive to topics which could come across as criticism) 😊!? Again, awesome tips and keep "the conversation" flowing ... Cheers, Dan

[@IzzyBerserk17]

What annoys me about women is that their actions don't reflect their words either sometimes and that some women wait for men to make all the efforts and don't show interest or assertiveness.

[@jrmac1757]

Thanks Courtney for the video. At first my stomach sank when I saw the title of the video but luckily for me I don't really have any of these habits, not that I am necessarily relying on you for my self value but it's ways good to have reality checks. I also didn't really find many of these habits to be specific to men but I can say having lived with other young men throughout college, lack of cleanliness is a big issue with men my age (22). I also notice that my depressed/anxious/ guy friends are practically allergic to saying no and it's a major issue to the point where its straining my relationship with them even just as platonic friends. I am glad your channel exists, I feel that you are like a bigger sister that a lot of guys need to have in their life.

[@LatimusChadimus]

I would say, from experience, I always found it annoying when a girl never knew HOW or when to apologize, or even if it caused an argument for multiple days because they refused to apologize, as if they think they do no wrong, and I do want to emphasize the word "how" It's almost as if people forget other people have feelings and if they don't know what they did to cause the pain then how will they ever fix it. That is my input for you, Courtney

[@tydavid8698]

Great point you made about “it’s the little things that make the difference” details seem to mean a lot more to women than men generally speaking.

[@JoshBlandon]

You’re so awesome for being honest and still so nice 😂. You’re literally the most respectful. To answer your question, one thing I find annoying is having a billion different things on the counter because I’m more of a minimalist and have things in a Dopp kit (or different kits) and then if I use it, I put it back haha. Of course tooth brushes are different lol but yeah too many things on the counter and then someone knocks it over and it falls in the toilet or something and it sucks 😂. That’s my rant. God bless! 😂

[@Damesanglante]

You : ''You’re literally the most respectful.'' Her : ''Losers''

[@jimmyrose17]

I'm someone that can handle harsh truth pretty well. The way you expressed it respectfully but still straight to the point, is appreciated.

[@globalc3849]

Awesome and useful content as usual. What most guys find annoying are the following: 1. When she's always on her phone when you're spending time together. 2. When she's always asking you to take selfies of her, alone. All we think is she's using these pics to post on her IG to attract and get more attention from other men to have back up plans. Yes this is how we think and usually the truth. 3. Whenever she implements ANY double standard on you. E.g. She tries sells you on why she can hang out with her ex bf whose her good friend now but you can't hang out with other girls. 4. When she's not direct in her communication. E.g. When she asks 'are you hungry?' Rather than just saying I'm hungry can we go eat? Guys are simple and not ever good at picking up hints or subtle innuendos. Just be direct for the love of all things holy. We ain't mind readers. 5. Changing the plans or cancelling plans last minute because she doesn't FEEL like doing said thing anymore. Her feelings changed so therefore the plans changed. Plans should not be feeling based. Make a plan and stick with it. 6. Not pleasing us in bed enough. Imagine a creature that thinks of s*x 18/7 days a week. Yes our libido is much higher than yours. And if she's not willing to meet our needs what are we supposed to do?

[@CDeeez94]

This is a great list and very well thought-out. Only thing I wish was expounded on was listening because there are times when someone, man or woman is talking about something serious and worth listening to, and other times when they're talking about something trivial and not worth listening to which would really only cause unnecessary headaches. This is especially true with _dramatic_ people, people that make a big deal out of anything and everything. It's totally understandable to listen to someone when they remind you of tasks or stuff you need to get done and whatnot and how to do certain things, but it's another to have to listen to someone talk about every little inconvenience someone had to endure EVERY day. Maybe one or two things but not a whole list every single day.

[@mauriciostarosta]

"I love you, but it's annoying". Completely agree 😂😂

[@campo2309]

Thank you for the reminder! These are things that Mrs has said to me as well! It's been seven years of marriage with three daughters. Time to start addressing all these. Fortunately, I also hit the nail in various parts of your video "things that confident men do that women love".. Thank you Courtney.

[@thegray5730]

His and Hers bathrooms are, quite honestly, essential these days.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Yes! 😂

[@DTraiN5795]

I’m honestly a clean person mostly but if a woman doesn’t clean her hair up then I get annoyed quick.

[@Crybabyhere]

I been married for almost 17 years. I look at other women around my wife, I look not lock on to them like a target. I do tell my wife what I like of don’t like about them. I wouldn’t replace my wife over a females looks, I look as they are a muse. I built a lot with my wife and there I things I don’t like, but I do know she thinks a lot like me. We are workaholic’s and she has things ready when I am home 99% of the time, and I make sure things are done by end of day 99% of time. My son is nine, I had him cleaning up after himself since he was 5 years old.

[@antman9049]

Simp

[@Crybabyhere]

@@antman9049 easy to say, I travel for work 99% of the year. I don’t have time to shop at a local store or hangout to waste time. Marriage is a give and take, I buy all the online stuff for my family, call to have things fixed at my house or order things I want my wife or son to wear. My wife is my best friend, we talk for two hours everyday while I travel. My marriage is different then most here, I am not home daily not even close.

[@Marian.Guy1]

Lust is adultery at heart

[@antman9049]

Simp X2

[@Wolfking363]

@@Crybabyhere the best thing isbeing in that situation with a woman you don’t have to worry about a single moment, to me loyalty is everything

[@davidmcgrew3837]

Woman: I need a man with ambition and works hard Same Woman: He doesnt text me while he's at work Same Woman with her friends: he's never there for me when I need him

[@おいしいパスター]

Exactly. They can't make compromises nor realize that they have to.

[@Michael-jf7np]

☝️This.

[@GLarrr-dd5wf]

Lol seems like you no my ex lol

[@sammieolat]

Actually great points to take note even if you aren't dating, unfortunately some of these traits stem from childhood and they have become habits and its unfortunate many people use the excuse "im just being myself" to keep doing that.

[@khatlizou1253]

Number one thing about women that makes it hard for a man: She fails to comunicate clearly what is important to her. Courtney already mentiones it but this is really huge. Please just tell us what you want/not want. And please do it loudly and clearly. And make sure we get the information and know how important it is to you. Women have a lot of output (at least that is how I usually feel) and it is not always easy to measure the priority of every topic beeing mentioned. Please make sure to mark the important stuff. Love

[@majorspudhead5837]

Nice job. My dislikes in women behavior: In a relationship and talking or flirting with other men to hopefully monkey branch or move on to a "better" situation. Women often overvalue their future worth based on looks. Expecting men to understand how they think on an emotional level (men tend to be in a logic or factual mindframe). Women who start conflicts to try to get a desired reaction from their man... they are either boredor need some type of value conformation of the man. Expecting the man to be the dominant and provider but not be bringing peace to the relationship and submission to the man's " plan" for the relationship... being a provider and director in everything a man does can be a stressful and demanding duty, a woman should want to be a calming and greatful individual of that relationship. ... just to name the biggest

[@tommygun5038]

Exactly!! Why's the spotlight always on us?? Answer...too control us.

[@Peter_Wang]

Someone has been watching Coach Greg Adams

[@jamescider5141]

that's a good list

[@majorspudhead5837]

@@Peter_Wang I have not heard of him but I will go check Greg's content now.

[@princejiminofbusan9209]

No one asked, men always have to make it about women when the conversation is about them.

[@moosevision8113]

annoying things the women in my life do to me: 1. not exist

[@TheGiantRobot]

I hate when that happens!

[@michaeldavid6832]

Trust me, their presence usually becomes way more than annoying eventually. "Soul crushing" is the phrase that comes to mind.

[@keithscommunityanddomestic9513]

Well they wouldn't be 'in' your life then would they, so that's not valid.

[@MG-qd6im]

Solid content. I think that a lot of this stuff applies to younger, more immature men. The funniest part of the video is when she says, "I know that I am annoying sometimes too." Haha.

[@CourtneyRyan]

For sure! Lol and just being transparent 😂

[@soerenpetersen3198]

The deal with not listening is that women are capable of talking about completely irrelevant things/gossip which naturally makes it hard for a guy to follow. If theres no substance to it, men prefer silence.

[@CDeeez94]

This is a good point that not a lot of people think about. Both men and women should be able to sort out when someone is spewing nonsense and when someone is talking about something important or at least worth listening to.

[@virtual500]

Hahahaha

[@michaeldavid6832]

Another problem is they fill every story with irrelevant cruft which makes the story tedious and more frustrating than informative or entertaining.

[@princejiminofbusan9209]

Waaah wah wahhh women this women that, women fault that my cat died

[@HalfEye79]

​@@michaeldavid6832 Even with shopping for stuff: "I have to say that." But that is total irrelevant and nobody finds it interesting.

[@Danny328DT]

Putting in effort and actions speaks louder than words are my worst enemies as someone who is single. I've been struggling to get what I want in a job and getting a good start on that as someone still young for my age. It's part of the reason I've rejected relationships because I don't want to have to depend on everyone for help.

[@dylanvaz4802]

One thing for me is that I hate when some women don’t take accountability and make you feel guilty for calling them out for something they did. With girls that I talked to most of them did this and honestly I can’t stand it. But I’ve realized what you think about yourself is what your going to attract and I’ve learned to move on from those people because they aren’t worth my time

[@SteinerSE]

Everyone have off days and circumstances can effect you temporarily (like severe pain etc), but always strive to be your best, and when it happens own your mistake and apologize.

[@CourtneyRyan]

For sure!

[@andreysharp4551]

For me lack of accountability is the most annoying thing in a woman

[@2011littlejohn1]

And that's as good as it gets.

[@Altairego]

Courtney stating that once again, wholesome values will attract wholesome people into your life. Thank you for sharing this, you have no idea on how many men you are helping better themselves to find out who they are and in turn attract the right women into their lives.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Love this comment! Thank you ❤️

[@sherwinrodrigues9157]

You are absolutely right Courtney... We need to have good habits and manners... Tq so much Courtney.. I liked this video because it's true 🙂👍

[@CourtneyRyan]

❤️

[@dimplesthebus1133]

I feel I'm the only person that keeps a clean place. Everyone I know place is a hot mess. It's not impossible to live this way, ugh. Courtney, no need to apologize, you are doing everyone a favor in pointing these things out.

[@josephstevens9888]

Courtney - you are correct, us men need to a "refresher course" on what it means to be a gentlemen; from actions, and as well as how to dress. You you a great job taking are of both. One thing I find annoying about women - when they act annoyed and/or pissed off when they don't get their way. I expect adult women to act like ladies and not like spoiled little girls.

[@Firesword534]

Probably one of the biggest thing my wife does that annoys me is at times when she's stressed out or mad about something at times she'll take it out on me. It's been something she's been working on and over the years she's gotten a lot better about it, but it's still an issue to be sure. Otherwise, happy spouse, happy house. You hit the nail on the head that a relationship needs to be a two way street. As an example, my wife and I have a general understanding that who ever cooks dinner, the other one does the dishes. There have been times when I know she's been extra stressed or tired from a day at work that I've cooked and done the dishes and I know she's appreciated it. She's done similar things for me when I've been upset, tired, or stressed.

[@wsims257]

Im glad that you mentioned this, washing the dishes with your partner is the best opportunity for play.

[@reinhardschmidt2609]

Women want men to share the housework but don't include the outside chores and maintenance as "housework". That's usually (Not always) but usually omitted.

[@eatanotherzio6811]

Play? What are you a two year old?

[@richardploeser4267]

BRAVO! Thank You! Done it all, Do it all, and the choices are sometimes the wrong decisions. She is sometimes the cause or reason to end the relationship!

[@U4ia28]

The main things that I find annoying that women do is centered around them doing anything and everything to avoid holding themselves accountable (especially when gaslighting and/or utilizing over exaggerated emotional outbursts and tears when cornered) and the expectation of me having to just know what’s wrong all the time like I’m a mind reader because she can’t be bothered to communicate. Honestly believing that “if I actually cared I’d know what’s wrong”. Side Note: in my experience most people don’t even know how to hold themselves accountable properly. If you’re wrong the only thing you have to say that’s worth listening to is “I’m sorry” “I was wrong for doing xyz” and that’s it. Stfu after that. Nothing else is worth listening to. No “buts” or “well you did this and that so you’re not too far behind” especially when it has nothing to do with the mistake that was made by said wrong party. Just apologize for whatever was done that’s wrong and stfu immediately afterwards. That’s it.

[@ifeelhalfnaked484]

Dont explain, whine and apologize - rules of life

[@eltawouscopywriter]

One of the things that annoys me in some (not all) of the women out there is their inflated egos, that turns them to selfish creatures.

[@arturocastro5849]

Great video as always, it would be interesting a video about annoying habits of women that men hate

[@CourtneyRyan]

I can do that!!

[@rodplays3726]

Wouldnt it be hard for her to make that video considering she not a man it would be based off of assumption

[@johnokolo9977]

She can’t make that video as she’s not a man 👨 and we don’t need her assumptions lol

[@Cartier_specialist]

@@rodplays3726 Plus it would be too long nobody would watch it.

[@allanmeloam93]

Thanks for the video Courtney. I think that women are annoying when they say something is wrong and they themselves are doing the thing.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Yes! Being a hypocrite is very annoying

[@leninfranco9328]

we won't be offended when we're getting real advice from the best person on KZbin.

[@CourtneyRyan]

🥰🥰🥰

[@adityamakwana612]

i agree but the cleanliness shit is going far speacially if you are not working

[@hnguye22]

Thank you for posting. Spot on Courtney.

[@eyeonsilver8623]

Something women do that’s extremely annoying is when they act like they’re into you, they give you their number, you try to get a hold of them. You never hear from them again. Or they act like they really like you and then go out with someone else.

[@tuabuelota]

Did you ask for her number or she gave it to you? She might have had given it to you just for being nice. Also, did she really acted like she was into you or was she just nice/kind to you? Did she act like that with everyone else or just with you?

[@dattepo7534]

@@tuabuelota thank you abuela he’s 100% right also don’t be mad at females .. you probably have the same generic conversation started and you shut them down from the start

[@WheresYourToque]

ghosting

[@skinnygumbo9555]

The thing is, it could be as other commenters are suggesting...but it could just as easily be as the OP suggested!

[@leoonwuzu4522]

You are on point. Always take care of your self. And don't be a burden to your partner.

[@Cantetinza17]

PREACH! 100% Here is another one please stop comparing. Women do it too. You get into a fight and you'll say, "You're just like my Ex she did ... and you did it too so clearly I can't trust you!", or "You know my ex used to do ... for me and you never want to; do you even love me?" We have to stop doing that.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Agreed!

[@PagoAoE2]

Fantastic Vid. Keep up the great work! Your channel has been a life saver for someone like me who is often oblivious. I liked the vid, but I have been subbed for a while by now. The messiness one is interesting. I also feel like you have to know why the person is being messy. A clean freak that suddenly becomes messy all the time could be a sign of depression, whereas a person who is messy constantly could be laziness, intelligence, and/or creativeness. Many artists, writers, musicians, scientists, and engineers etc. are famous for being messy. I had constant fights with my mother as a kid over the cleanliness of my room. I have shown her articles that changed her mind however, I have gotten somewhat cleaner over the years, but it will never be enough for certain personalities. If this is you, then find a woman who feels similarly to you so there is less fighting, that's my tip. I would not say that I am messy to an extreme anymore, but it will still be too messy for many people. My therapist and I think that the clean vs messy debate that I had with my mother was a large cause of my depression of 23 years (I am 28). Also, it has been proven that most teenagers need some level of mess and/or control over their own room to feel happy and loving. Being extremely argumentative about mess can leave a man to feel like he cannot exist in his own home without something going wrong. Walking on eggshells, if you will. I remember growing up as a kid when my brother and I would play with toys, the first thing my mother would always say is "remember to put it back when you're done." Which is fine except, it was the first thing she always said, and she said it so much that I was made to feel that I should not have gotten the toy out in the first place. Why have toys as a kid if you can't use them? But I digress, my mother and I are inseparable and always were. Just one point of contention. When I would tell my parents that I needed a messy room to even begin to function, they refused to hear it because, "No two people are really THAT different. We are all basically the exact same." Basically she was saying that "My needs are everyone's needs, and if there not, then they will be when I am though with them." Part of the messiness of men is a territorial thing. They want a space of the house to call their own and they need a little pile that they can just have, that will never be touched, moved, or argued about. I hope this enlightened some readers. Here is an article that explains what I am talking about from a scientific perspective: www.indiatimes.com/health/healthyliving/neat-or-messy-both-have-their-benefits-242345.html About the communication thing, check to see if your BF or GF is Autistic, an Aspie, or has some other neurological disorder. For high functioning people who have ASD some of us (myself included) can pass as normal and so you won't think anything is up, and we don't tell people always because it can sometimes be a point of shame or embarrassment. Also, some asshats treat you VERY differently then they normally would.

[@brantmiranda1120]

Never. EVER. Laugh at a guy who’s legit not trying to be funny performing a task whether in private or ESPECIALLY in public. That is the quickest way to immaculate him and lower your value in his eyes immediately. You won’t live that one down for a very long time, if ever. Don’t talk over him. That pisses me off beyond words.

[@marksmith4892]

i'm sure that you meant emasculate not immaculate.

[@brantmiranda1120]

@@marksmith4892 yeah, auto correct is the devil. Lol

[@marcelogallomendoza]

Gracias por tus consejos Courtney (thank you so much for your advice Courtney) Saludos desde Quito-Ecuador!

[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

You pretty much summarized the problem that I have with women when you mentioned poor communication. I think it's totally messed up that as a society, we seem to have accepted that women usually mean the opposite of what they say. It's just as unacceptable as putting up with slobby men because they're inherently slobs. And yes, my goodness, stop being silent and expecting him to read your mind and getting mad when he doesn't. Also, I used to think I was the only one who ever dealt with this... But have any of you guys had your girl give you the cold shoulder because she had a dream that you did something bad? Like... In her mind while sleeping, she had a dream that you cheated, and then for most of the next day she's grumpy with you because of something she thought of all on her own? Apparently it happened to more than just me. What the hell is that all about? 😂

[@TheRealJonster]

The dream thing is much more common than you think. I think it's women's strong sense of solipsism, I'm afraid. Whatever takes place in their mind, is the objective reality. I had it happen to me too, and looking back now, I should have realised how much of a red flag it was. Never again will I put up with that kind of ridiculous BS.

[@ananastea]

it’s just that your brain made it possible in your dream, so you wake up and start thinking about the reasons for it. did you have this fear? were there any reasons or clues really? dreams aren’t all dumb and pointless, your subconscious may be good at playing out potentially real scenarios. and people may behave in a very realistic way there… you won’t go blaming the person for what they did in your dream, but emotions are still there, some sort of a “residue”.

[@wynonasbigbrowndragon6121]

@Alexander Graves - Married Men's Coach ok well an order isn't usually worded like a question. An order is a statement.

[@AnNguyen-vn4sy]

Good stuff, Courtney. I agree with all of these. That bit about communication, is absolutely true. My ex had this problem and it stemmed from childhood trauma due to her stepfather being narcissist. She was a huge people pleaser and always agreeing with everything I say.. even when I change my mind two seconds later (was testing if what I was suspecting was true). After I brought it up to her about her childhood trauma, I was later labeled a narcissist after our break up 🙄. Still wish her the best and hope she can heal.

[@randomdude3646]

It drives me crazy when a girl is always on her phone during conversations 😩

[@SilveeYT]

No one should ever be on the phone during conversations face-to-face. That's completely unacceptable, hands down.

[@antonboludo8886]

@@SilveeYT Absolutely.

[@CourtneyRyan]

I hate that too!

[@johngonzalez4298]

I totally agree

[@98DEB]

Coping mechanism, steer clear.

[@tayloryork8185]

Thanks, Courtney. Enlightening as always.

[@coastalgrasslander4511]

re: she's gotta boyfriend. when I hit forty, and single, I noticed that very rarely over the course of my adulthood had I met a perfectly single women. I was determined not to get involved with anyone who wasn't single. but even though they said they were single, when I spent some time with them, I discovered that they all had guys who thought they were in a relationship with the women. my conclusion: attractive, hetero women under 35 are not single. and my advice is that if a man wants a serious relationship with one of those women, take it very slowly, keep your emotions in check, and let her come to you. then, her admirers will eventually get rejected as she makes time for you. only then will she have some skin in your game.

[@Cartier_specialist]

You are spot on about that. Women *always* seem to have a contingency plan which means #1, #2, #3 etc.

[@desaryll2044]

This is a great way to put it and good advice on how to deal with the situation. Same here, I heard the advice not to chase women, especially ones with a significant other. However, its not uncommon for a woman to have hangers-on or indeed simply stay with a boyfriend just to have one there, even when she has lost interest. If you're a better option than her other guy(s), she will drift towards you. Just never forget that what she did to those other guys, she can do to you too. Understand the situation and consider it carefully how much you want that woman.

[@DTraiN5795]

@@desaryll2044 exactly mr brotha spot on

[@mlggamer5296]

Oh yeah I hate this one too when the person is messy. I tell you a story I've grown up with my uncle and sister and both are messy when it comes to upkeep of the room and I remember my grandmother instilled in us that we were supposed to always keep our things tidied and spread the bed and everything. It seems like it didn't quite get through to my sis but it definitely works for me. And I remember my mom commended that of me because when I was living with her she said "that's what I like about you you keep things clean I don't worry about things looking in disarray" and it made me feel good especially as a words of affirmation type of person

[@rodrigoepaes]

I travel a lot by bicycle here in Italia and when doing so I end up going alone to eat in restaurants in very nice places that usualy have lots of couples. I have noted more and more people seat and bith of them start to spend lots of times on their phones....this is so anoing since its officially a "date" in a nicr place and yet the phones have been having more and more of a priority....what about enjoyng that 1 and half hour in that nice place, with nice food and wine with your partner? I guess phones won and there is nothing we can do about it....

[@thrusta100]

Yep, Becoz many women are in a relationship with their phones! If I'm on a date , I say put your phone away or I'm out of here! #dontputupwithit

[@tomdan7449]

Great ! Thank you specially no 7 ... I've never thought that way such as liking (thump up), loving, comments to a stranger are in a way disrespectful to your girlfriend, wife .. i have to take in account my acts on FB...

[@mred884]

What about if after a nice romantic date on the first birthday of mine we had after 2 months dating as an official couple, we part ways at the end of the night and she goes and spends the night with her ex? Im obviously single now

[@jleano609]

That’s cold. About the best I can say is it was only a couple of months wasted!

[@pedrobismark5618]

Thats what you can expect from women nowadays. Hope you stay away from that hazzle.

[@mred884]

@@jleano609 found out 4 years later -_-

[@jleano609]

@@mred884 sorry to hear that man.

[@mred884]

@@jleano609 you know, as much as it sucked at times, im gonna end up alright, which is a much better outcome that hers if she doesnt change. And honestly, I wouldn't wish what she is gonna be in an endless cycle of, on anyone.

[@nicolashromyk5397]

I always click on these expecting something that might be mind-blowing but at the end of the day it's always stuff that just... Makes sense.

[@orlandogarcia9040]

These tips are honestly things men should have been taught by their mother at a young age. I do all of these consistently. Pay attention to her guys

[@artaudcharles]

I hate being micromanaged. Great presentation. Thank you

[@Francisco-el5us]

Hello, as for me, my wife has a very ambiguous behaviour regarding her children. I precise they are respectively 31 and 38. She systematically put them in a pedestal, while depreciating my qualities, personality and achievements.

[@bobjazzman9038]

This is spot on. Everyone needs to follow the information given

[@northwestolympics3001]

Most guys over 30 give up dating all together. What's the point? Women change their mind. Over 6', own a ranch, debt free, disease free, no exes, child support and go on vacations all the time. Why would I give that up for a woman that statistically leave?

[@DaneWashingtonddtke]

FACTS

[@funkfarmer7125]

Can confirm, I"m 38, left the plantation 7 years ago. We aren't coming back.

[@northwestolympics3001]

@@funkfarmer7125 37

[@EJ257IHI]

Most accurate comment here, and I'm one of them. It literally becomes such a hassle, don't want anything to do with dating or women, I'd rather be alone.

[@CharlieTWilbury]

57. Best decision I ever made. Now I date with absolutely no implied future. I no longer try to figure out what she meant, because now I simply do not care. If she chooses to communicate clearly, great. If not, no problem, I want be spending anytime working on it, another will be along shortly.

[@AlexisGonzalez-hu3rx]

Dear Courtney, I watched a couple of your vids cause you comment on some other influencers I follow (nice call to get me interested). I like the fact that you gave Corey Wayne a thumbs up. Not sure how others feel, but I would watch more if I didn't have to fast forward through content. You're doing a great job, and I appreciate your efforts in educating us.

[@Inkinthegrass]

Looks like I can keep picking my nose. I was worried for a second there

[@essgee4225]

😂😂

[@CaptainObvious0000]

And eating the dug up treasure was not on the no-no list either :)

[@marc416]

Hahaha best comment so far!

[@calvinh.4682]

Great video Courtney even though I don't do 98% of the stuff you mentioned it was an excellent and thorough reminder what not to do. Keep up the great work.

[@thomashesse4446]

The two most annoying things women do: Reacting with unnecessary tv-type drama and publishing EVERY part of their lives. Like I should be able to have a private conversation with her and know that it will stay between the two of us without asking

[@DylanJo123]

To be fair, a lot of guys do that shit too lol. Mostly the younger, social media obsessed ones at least

[@michaeldavid6832]

The problem isn't that they talk to others, the problem is that they always throw shade on you when she does that by not telling them what she did that caused the issue or made it worse. It was really bad with one of my exes. She had been telling her friends that she was in an abusive relationship (with me). If I told you a sampling of what she was doing to me, and what I tolerated, then it was clear she was attempting. The abuse she was talking about was that she couldn't get any ish-test over on me. I could tell when someone's trying to game me. She knew what she was doing and she wanted me to do what I was doing. I eventually got into an argument with her because our arguments were getting worse an over the dumbest things. I asked, "Are you getting me this angry because it spices up the sex?" She admitted it outright. Tell me who's abusive there. Eventually, she had escalated me to a point where I had to break it off with her because I couldn't be the kind of man she was trying to turn me into.

[@arterisdewberry9467]

Yes! Another advice video that doesn't have to do with looks! Advice videos are way much better than looks!

[@holleringsmith3837]

If I’m at work all day and my wife is at home all day, I’m not doing SHITTTTT when I get home. She’s doing EVERYTHING or it won’t get done

[@Criz45]

My boi

[@adityamakwana612]

agreed if she likes cleanliness do it yourself dont nag others,i aint putting shit in basket

[@LatimusChadimus]

The word faithful goes along with trustworthy and being a man of your word and I was always taught to mean what you say and say what you mean

[@redpillcatholicism]

You were mentioned with some praise on Fresh and Fit Podcast a few nights ago

[@killianmccluff36]

What did they say about her

[@mikepreston2848]

Where?

[@redpillcatholicism]

@@killianmccluff36 She wasn’t mentioned by name but one the girls on the AfterHours mentioned her reacting to the one of the afterhours clips with mr organik and her talking about the OnlyFans simps epidemic video.

[@redpillcatholicism]

@@killianmccluff36 I think one of them said she liked her content and how she addressed certain things in modern dating and attraction

[@CourtneyRyan]

Aw that’s great! Thanks for sharing with me 🥰

[@Deployable-]

Jose Zuniga,Aaron,Alex Costa,David and you.Life's so much better with you guys ❤️

[@holleringsmith3837]

#1 I’m 30 years old, and I’ve NEVER met a woman/ girl that has actually done #1. Women NEVER do what they say they will. They also constantly lie to me. So there’s the first two down already.

[@Marcel-qb9ge]

It is indeed frustrating, but similar to how a woman can complain that all of her exs were jerks, if you find yourself saying "Everyone" does something, maybe it's time for some introspection to see what behavior on your side may be triggering such response. For example, and this is only hypothetical; I'm in no way accusing you, if a person communicates in an overly-aggressive manner, I would sometimes be inclined to lie or leave information out to avoid confrontation

[@ananastea]

@@Marcel-qb9ge great point! i’ve noticed in the past people lied to me when I, for example, ignored their comments or brushed them off as strange. they started sharing their emotions - i’ve explicitly said they don’t have any reason to feel that way - they never shared it again but lied instead. too easy to say that it’s only them to blame in our communication issues. you need to learn how to listen too not to be lied to

[@SuperBadwilly]

Courtney you rock. Thank you and Teddy for bringing to light tips, tricks and class to gentleman and young men who may need it. 👋

[@mikewilson5338]

The most annoying thing women do is say they want a man to communicate which really means the woman just wants to do all the talking. Plus women cannot answer questions or take directions then when they get busted the firs words out of their mouth is " I thought..." The problem is they can't think.

[@sitsplatz]

Sounds a bit harsh, dude

[@james_benjamin2024]

You are a polite and positive person

[@GEORGIOARCADE]

I thought you did a video like this already Courtney? Haha 🤨😄 Well it's nice to reminded of what not to do. But I've learned that no matter what you can't do everything right with some women cuz they will just find something else to be mad at you about. So all i can tell guys is be the best version of yourself and if a girl don't accept that; just walk away.

[@pedrobismark5618]

Before a girl finds fault (which you you acknowdledge she will do),I'd rather walk away. Save myself from the misery.

[@danni10331]

"get with the program" Excellent work, carry on!

[@jasonpowderface9070]

The thing that bothers me in relationships is when women lie! And go behind your back.

[@leobardomunozjr]

Great points Courtney! Love the video. Thank you!!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you! ❤️

[@uchihadeity1158]

6/10, being honest with her is what eventually ends the relationship. It's very hard to find stable women in today's western world.

[@christophercooley7967]

I discovered your channel recently. I gave to say I have learned a lot. Thank you for helping us be better from NOLA!

[@Cartier_specialist]

Courtney, I basically agree with the things you mentioned but it sounds like you are a little OCD on cleanliness. It's okay to not be perfect. And for things that women do that drives me nuts -- plead, pester and whine about a pair of shoes or a dress or a purse and then when you finally relent and buy it for her she either wears it once and never uses it again or completely trashes it.

[@artursandwich1974]

Thank you so much for helping me to finally understand why I have been dumped so many times. Better late than never. If I ever have a chance for a meaningful relationship again I know I'll do so much better (even though I really hate putting effort into anything). Thank you again

[@armorist6570]

9:56 what about when the woman youre dating fawns over some guy on a TV show? Is it a shit test?

[@CourtneyRyan]

That’s always really odd to me. I would never do that lol I think a lot of girls do that to try and make you jealous

[@rodplays3726]

Its a shit test yes just dont seem jealous and you will win

[@leabeckman3558]

I feel more comfortable to be honest for Sure

[@trumpetplyr21]

One thing women do sometimes that I can’t stand is how indirect they can be, especially when telling a guy whether they like him or not. I’m not saying all women do this, but I’ve seen it often. At my former job in telemarketing, I remember talking with two female co-workers on a break. We were debating how a girl should tell a guy they weren’t interested in him. Their position was to be indirect and their reasoning was, “We don’t want to hurt his feelings.” I said, “A guy appreciates when a girl is straightforward. Yes, rejection stings, but we’re all adults and we’ll get over it.”

[@backyardrailroader]

I know the feeling about cleaning up after people. I constantly have to clean up after my co-workers at my shop. I know this is a little side stepping what you were talking about, but if they do not clean up after themselves at the shop, I cannot imagine what their girlfriends/wives have to deal with at home!

[@CourtneyRyan]

This is such a good point. It’s not even just at home, it’s everywhere! When I worked in an office, everyone would just leave their dishes in the sink and not clean them… it drove me nuts! 😅 totally relate to you on that one

[@ryanbarker3978]

Can't get behind #5 because it is turned into a double standard far too often. Also there is nothing wrong with scaling back in one area of your life to focus on another for a period. Life is about effective time management and balancing the important things; especially when one or more areas of your life are demanding or high stress environments.

[@geremiller5671]

There really is no such thing as “time management.” There is, however, effective activity management to fit the available time.

[@JuanRamirez-uq6nj]

Me personally me and my girlfriend don’t get annoyed with each other but it’s because we have so much healthy communication. If I’m ever having a bad with anxiety or I’m not feeling good in my head i let her know and she calms me down. Also if you’re having a bad day don’t take out on your partner there your peace. And we can all work on things to improve ourselves if it’s annoying walk away. Thanks Courtney for some things I still have to improve on such as listening and cleaning up after myself ❤️❤️❤️

[@CourtneyRyan]

That’s how it should be! Things become a lot less annoying when you can effectively communicate with eachother. Thanks for being here!

[@chinmaybhabadYT]

"Try to lessen anyone's work just by going a step further" those words are going to be end to a lot of fights😁

[@CourtneyRyan]

❤️❤️

[@petermarchi1935]

I am going to start by saying "I live by an honor code" and I believe in giving and keeping your word. "If" you can't don't make excuses but do have a justifiable reason. That being said, there are rare occasions (And I do mean rare occasions) when keeping your word to one person means breaking it to another.

[@Besotted85]

The most succesfull achievement i expierenced from women is the fact that they will give you no authority, but will give you all the responsibility...

[@pedrobismark5618]

Excelent point.