Covert Financial Abuse by the Narcissist

[@tamioconnell8976]

When he f$$$ed up HIS account, he demanded that we use mine. And that he wanted to be in charge of paying bills . This left me with a sense of never knowing what was coming or going from the account. When he began his affair, he finally got himself another account at a different bank. Yet we still had the joint one. When I filed , it was the first thing to go. Shut that account down and opened my own. Now I know what I have in the bank at any given time.

[@StaceyHeathxoxo]

My ex husband did this. Now my credit is shot and recovering.

[@ElaineShaw-g7u]

The ex put my name on a loan to buy his car for work, without even telling me. even though he was having an affair in the village and where he was working. I tore up the agreement.

[@the.toxic.phoenix]

This was my nex. When I finally kicked him out I had no idea what bills were paid to where, etc. He gave me a card, but I had no idea how much was on it, and he constantly whined about money (despite earning loads) so I was scared to go out and use it. He set up notifications and would message "what did you just spend £2.36 on ebay?" all the time. Police said it wasn't enough, some people "just did that" 😳

[@monicabennett8238]

Everything is in my name, assets I had prior to him. I will not put his name on things. He makes poor financial decisions, doesn't pay his own bills, will not help with household bills including groceries. He misses a day of work at least 1x a week. Keeps a cash job to avoid child support and taxes. I make good money but don't feel I should "share" when I work 60-90 hours a week. I feel I am financially abused by having all the responsibilities on my shoulders. Is that wrong ?

[@Tiredofbeinghere]

I need to do this and other things but have no way of anything being private.