Stand Up For What Your Soul Knows You Need (4-Video Compilation)

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

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[@Side_EYE-n7c]

It sucks coming to this realization but some people have a boundary that they don’t actually want monogamy, they just like the outward appearance of it. My ex was that way, he verbally said one thing, but his boundary really was to be able to go off and cheat and I had to be okay with it. It’s unhealthy to try to control anyone, even if we believe we are morally in the right. It’s important to allow people their choice or else we end up becoming abusive, and I think it’s better to focus on being in relationships that bring the most healthiest parts of you forward, instead of focusing on relationships where you’re trying to bring other people’s most healthiest side forward.

[@NikkiEdmunds]

I don’t believe it but at age 48, I still can’t get clear about the exact kind of man that I want in my life I have never been involved in a healthy relationship. I’ve attracted emotionally unavailable men, those who were disrespectful, broke, etc. it’s draining. I must admit that you, Crappy Childhood Fairy has made a very significant impact on me. Your videos are so enlightening. You’re a breath of fresh air, let me tell you know that you’re making a huge impact on the Universe. Blessings.

[@lynniebabes5697]

Imagine being 64 and still confused

[@Terra4568]

@@NikkiEdmunds again, I relate to you, I'm 46 and all I want is kindness and respect but no clue about any other traits

[@JenZen4life1111]

I can relate to you too. Good luck to you, I hope we can all find a loving healthy relationship. 👍💖🙏🏼

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@naturalist369]

Ditto! Bless you sweetie, you still have time ! I'm also working on my list of what I want and working on healing in the meantime (at 61). Love and hugs to you 💜🙏🏼😇

[@NikkiEdmunds]

Getting married will not make things any better, David. If anything, it’s going to exacerbate things. If she is treating you like this now, she will treat you worse than you can ever imagine if you marry her. The mere fact that she’s not sensitive to how you feel about this male friend of hers is a bad sign. Stay if you choose to but don’t think that it’s going to be any better if you decide to marry her. Good luck dear.

[@NikkiEdmunds]

Alone or stuck in a bad relationship is my loop. I’m striving to change this but God help me. I loathe being single, yet, my relationships just suck. You’re correct. The break is an opportunity to get some self help and attract a great person. Great video.

[@Terra4568]

I'm in the same loop myself, I've been single for 3 years after leaving a toxic relationship...it never gets easier but knowing you and I are not alone helps...keep your head up beautiful woman!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

We're all rooting for you! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@yowanehakuuu]

At this point really breaking it up and starting a new one is better. No one has to live with betrayal it’s just that easy

[@lhr8833]

Who is gonna tell him??? As someone with CPTSD, I’m mortified that this woman is weaponizing childhood trauma to abuse her partner. I think at this point CPTSD is not her only diagnosis.

[@blydnhvghn]

CPTSD rarely stands alone

[@DoodleToast-c4o]

It took me a year or more of getting comfortable with the idea of attending AA meetings by listening to Anna lol. I'm so stubborn and resistant to change. Anna- thank you. I recently had to let go of a depressing meeting in AA but there are more than a dozen others in my area that are not depressing and are in fact, hopeful. I hope the letter sender tries a couple of meetings and finds a solid support group.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I''m so proud of you for persevering!

[@DoodleToast-c4o]

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you so much 💖

[@SandraT1107]

Reaching my twilight years here, so interesting to hear these videos. Life doesn't come with a manual but communication, clear boundaries and love are key, in my experience 😊

[@tamsparris-bah8283]

❤🎉 Let's celebrate and embrace being deeply loved (devotion) and wanted by others. Love is the revolution that's gonna change the 🌎 for the better

[@naturalist369]

@tamsparris-bah8283 How beautiful, thank you! You're absolutely correct that we continue to celebrate love ! Sending that out does elevate vibrational frequency to assist the world in Our Global Ascension ! Bless you sister ! Bless all here ! 🎶♥️🌟🐾🌲🙏🏼😇🌈🕊💫

[@tamsparris-bah8283]

@naturalist369 Thank you 😁🙏🏾 Elevating our vibrational frequency and energy is EXACTLY what I was trying to communicate. It's a positive action that people who never received or experienced unconditional love can manifest it in our lives 💫✨️

[@marysiawojcik]

Ok, Fairy. Your down to earth way of explaining the pain and confusion that arises from CPTSD continues to be a bright light on my path towards healing. Thank you for keeping it real and for being so warm and loving in the process. 💕

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

What a nice thing to say. Thank you. Happy New Year!

[@ronibrooks6794]

Interesting...I've been single for 28 years. Initially I was desperate and now I don't even look. I'm 57...pretty sure my life is over as far as finding love...I get it now and I've released all hope. Now, I'm just trying to find small joys in my days. My youngest son is having medical issues and I have dogs.

[@birthinfluenceembrace]

Such priceless insight ❤ everything here is useful. I have cptsd and continue to heal and your channel is such a help!!! 😊

[@Susan-p9b1u]

Love looks at a persons childhood and yes it does matter

[@yowanehakuuu]

At this point really breaking it up and starting a new one is better. No one has to live with betrayal it’s just that easy. I have trauma too and if my husband did this I would be done forever. He is quilt tripping trying to find more people on his side. It’s already done he couldn’t ever hold it private. I don’t want my reputation to be dragged just because I’m obviously dealing with something mentally. I don’t think she is right tho but he is a choker

[@dc9511]

I love you Anna 🎉

[@Terra4568]

I have a close friend who is an alcoholic, I have cptsd and cognitive brain damage from it, and when he talks about his meetings and sponsors/sponsee's I feel happy for him that he has all that support but there is almost zero support groups for people who struggle with trauma and I feel very jealous and frustrated for myself. My friend talks to me and listens and best as he can, but he just can't relate, I do appreciate him though..ugh why can't society take care of it's mentality I'll??

[@lhr8833]

There is a group for codependency, just like AA, but for family members and people that have trauma from holding in not good environment. CoDA check if there is one close to you.

[@annmarielepore5031]

try a 12 step CODA meeting, helped me big time- tons of support !!!!!!

[@Terra4568]

@@lhr8833 thank you!

[@Terra4568]

@@annmarielepore5031 thank you!

[@Terra4568]

I did find a CoDA group in my town, I was surprised cause it's a small town, but it's Mondays so I'm going to check it out...thanks again for the tip everyone 🧡😊

[@naturalist369]

So much learning here Anna. I am still fully realizing the full extent of the emotional neglect I experienced in childhood and throughout my entire life, apparently. Much Gratitude, as it's really helping me sort things out 💜💛💚

[@Thewildwell]

The making him feel self conscious about his size is such a red flag. My bff is a big guy and 6’8. The gentlest and least aggressive man you can imagine. He dated multiple unhealthy and/ or BPD chicks in his 20s and they’d all at some point come at him at some point with some nonsense about how they “didn’t feel safe” because of his size (as if he can change that.) I think it’s a major manipulation tactic some really unhealthy women use against men knowing the “I’m a woman and I don’t feel safe” is a trump card that’s very hard to call out without looking like a jerk / seeming sexist. I think this guy should run. He’s working way too hard to please someone (to the extent of changing things about his physical appearance) who is treating him as an afterthought.

[@MissSothePeacefulObserver]

I think limerence over a "father figure" is very common for a lot of us. We tend to be attracted to certain qualities that remind us of one, or both parents. It's very subconscious and we don't even realize it's happening. If we had a good relationship with that parent, it can be a good thing. But if we had trauma with that parent, then the connection we're feeling may be dysfunctional. But the limerence attachment can feel so powerful, as if we've found a soulmate. That's the frustrating part, since we can't always tell the difference. All of these videos just make me realize how much more work I need to do, and stayng single is my only option for now. Not everything about my father was bad. He had a sharp sense of humor which I am drawn to in others. But the negative stuff was really bad, so that's the pattern I need to avoid.

[@naturalist369]

Larissa listen to Anna because the alcohol really does need to go. You are so accomplished, I'm proud of you also. You can do this with a 12 step program and likely make a good friend or two ! Bless you ! We are routing for you, sending Love and Light ! ♥️🌟🎶🙏🏼😇🌈🕊💫

[@lisamoss3975]

thank you, Anna I appreciate, you so much :)

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

We're all rooting for you! -Calista@TeamFairy

[@elvan5922]

She might be in Love with that older guy and the guy does not want a full relationship with her .

[@KellySwasing]

I would like to sign up for your journaling classes thank you

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Please go ahead! The link to the Daily Practice is here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

[@Susan-p9b1u]

Her keeping that other Guys messages is bad

[@aciddiver1978]

"We live in moder times", arent every contemporary time modern?

[@PaigeSquared]

I wonder if "David" has worked on being an emotionally available and safe person. When I was that focused on my ex husband's behavior, i hadnt reached that point yet. He managed to get me wrapped up in reactive abuse.

[@60nygal]

My biggest issue is dealing with my father. ..

[@andreabalzano7704]

Anna, those are great glasses. Can you tell what kind they are?

[@nourNOURI-p7q]

She is not an awesome person, she is a cheater. She knew the guy has a family and still slept with him and now she is in a relationship and doesn't know how to show emotions but she get depressed about not being able to be " friends " with "the married man she slept with " ??? I truly and genuinely wish that people knew that being with a cheater will bring nothing but heartaches. Stay away from these people they are nothing but Selfish and moralless and Troublesome people. Guard your heart. And look for People with integrity and dignity who can differentiate between Right and wrong And won't inflect Great Great pain and harm on other people. I genuinely wish he would break up with her and start a new page.With someone who's worthy of him 😢

[@Susan-p9b1u]

But yes it was a dysfunctional relationship with the older man and no excuse for that bullshit …. Still Tinder says. A lot

[@AndiAlexander1]

This girl is in communication with her sugar daddy. Can “David” be ok with that? If not, can he fully take care of his girlfriend so she doesn’t need what she gets from the sugar daddy?

[@sidmehere2964]

Nothing good from the Tinder crowd

[@uirwi9142]

❤

[@Susan-p9b1u]

Love is understand Don’t blame The victim

[@Susan-p9b1u]

But yes it was a dysfunctional relationship with the older man and no excuse for that bullshit …. Still Tinder says. A lot of

[@lorenzo8495]

BREAK UP WITH HER

[@lauriecrosby2906]

Alcoholic and alcoholism are no longer things. It's AUD, on a spectrum.

[@hubbadouble8025]

Open your emotions about being interested after talking three times doesn't sound wise to me. That would be more like an illusion of knowing someone. Not taking of being comepletely shut down or unavailable or in denial about feelings but about being primary rational and more like an observer rather than an impulsive participant. That would be more like a red flag for me. Someone being all in and very open about feelings would be more like a 'you don't even know me, what are you talking about?'. I would accept anyways subtle signs because that's more like respectful with other feelings, shows being more emotional regulated in my opinion. Impulsive attraction is necessary at some point but not the initial conditional. That's not what will glue your relationship, that's not what will determine a healthy relationship, and many times you need time to get in love and others it will start kinda strong and fall fast too because you didn't know that person. Being clear since the beginning is not a sin and kinda necessary but being too emotionally in too fast and more, outside your mind and telling it to the other person seems more like a red flag for me.

[@karenbennettson7234]

OK is she very pretty? Because this is all very ridiculous sounding.

[@suzanzaman7942]

When Jesus is your life partner, ONLY then you will know real love.

[@AscensionCafe1111]

Not everyone is Christian and not everyone needs to be in order to find real love

[@suzanzaman7942]

@AscensionCafe1111 God is love, without God there is no love. Love is not just a word it is force. Today people don't want real love, they want self indulgence love, that is not love. The example of love is Jesus who gave his life to save many without asking anything in return but to be loved back. Yes Jesus died for you too and yes you are loved by him also. The reason there are channels like this is the lack of love, God's love. Jesus said I am the way the truth and life. Real love, real truth real life.

[@User-r7m4c]

​@@suzanzaman7942No no way! Many great couples that go to church. Jesus is the way truth and life, not to be used for brainwashing into isolation

[@lynniebabes5697]

I'm not christian, and I'm an extreme introvert, AA is anything but comfortable

[@AscensionCafe1111]

There are other recovery methods and environments. If you need recovery you can try She Recovers online ❤