Create Boundaries + Unlock Peace Using The Let Them Theory (This Will Change Your Life!) Mel Robbins

[@lewishowes]

Thanks to Mel for sharing her wisdom with us! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again KZbin.com/lewishowes

[@Eve144M]

Yes❤

[@l.a.p.159]

YES!

[@dove-qs5or]

Yes 🎀

[@Guddilove801]

It's great Mel is sharing her story. But if she could only allow Lewis to finish what's he is saying. Please slow down your speech a little Mel. Will be more enjoyable 🙏

[@danigrigorescu8157]

Yes!! Absolutely!

[@jamee_maree]

I love that Lewis takes notes during his shows!!! It’s such a beautiful reflection of his passion to grow and learn, but also teach and influence. It’s admirable!!

[@lewishowes]

Always looking to learn

[@zhiloblnd3805]

This woman is a gift. “let people have negative thoughts about you “. So powerful

[@Gemmarose9012]

It’s not all that powerful when you consider it’s basic common sense. Whether you “let them” or not they’ll do whatever the hell they want. Just like you will. 😂

[@dhirandhakal4623]

The biggest takeaway I get from this podcast is about let them do in their own way and let me take responsibility about my values and decisions.

[@marilynoverton8142]

Thank you both so much! My biggest takeaway is the power and gift of allowing people to be who they are while deciding how we want to proceed, given our values. This is gold!

[@shenaypretty]

Enjoyed this conversation and like you said it came at the perfect time. I wanted to control the situation of a family member addicted to alcohol. When the negativity reeled me in I have to take a step back. I cannot make their battle my battle. I'm not responsible for their choices. I have to let them go through whatever it is they need to go through. I chose to Let Them and now I'm on to Let Me. 🙏🏾💚

[@jenniferwalker2304]

Such Good advice! Gonna try this❤

[@kenbrown9316]

Got married at 26 and been married 20 years and with her for 22 years. We’ve had such an amazing marriage and life 😊 - wasn’t always easy but gets stronger every year we are together.

[@cindyspiess9963]

Fabulous ! 🎉

[@elizabethb988]

Thank you Mel for sharing your wisdom👏❤. My take away ... don't force or try to change others- Let them! Let Me- Choose what I deserve from each relationship, focus on what I can control and act on it with good intentions 👍🤔

[@XQRobertz]

Focus on what you can control fellas !!!! Edit:- thanks for the likes 🙏🏾 1. Focusing on what we can't control like the News instead of "You" 2. Focusing on things you don't have like that Bugatti instead of on things you do have...Gratitude, loved ones etc 3. Focusing on the Past(it's already history) & the Future(a mystery) instead of the Now, the Present moment(a joyful gift😇). All creations happens Now...

[@carol0055]

❤

[@MbH-ej4bq]

Yes

[@DominionAnako-bb7ry]

For sure! Unlocking freedom and peace often starts with self-discovery. It could be about finding activities that make you happy, surrounding yourself with positive people, or even practicing mindfulness.

[@dlynnleonard]

This is exactly the message I needed to push myself out of relationships and connect closer with people that share my values.Thank you @Mel Robbins & @Lewis Howes for all that you do!

[@csjbackups]

This is my 3rd time listening to The 5 second Rule. I Love Mel and her ways of getting through! 🙏🏼🍃

[@lewishowes]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Dawn-lu6wv]

Same here and I think I discovered Mel through Lewis many years ago.

[@olesenna8547]

So true. Not changing the situation means you are affirming it being a part of your experience.

[@thenewworldlead]

My biggest take away from this conversation and “the let them theory” = Let them = I believe in you (I love you just the way you are. I might love you from a distance. And everything is just as it should be, because it IS). Thank you ❤

[@donnacusano6933]

Thank you Lewis and Mel. I watch Mel's podcast often and this is the third iteration of interviews I have watched about the "Let Them Theory" book. I also watched Oprah's interview. I very much appreciate not only the basic premise of the theory (let go of control of others) but also the "Let Me" portion, which offers us all the opportunity to take back our power and agency, once we realize that we always have choices in our lives. I had forgotten this lately, especially concerning a particular work relationship. I was acting out in resentment and anger and did not understand why. Through research and prayer, I now understand how I had abandoned myself by believing the story in my head that I had no power within the relationship, other than to act out in anger to get my needs met. My acting out has caused many problems and, of course, that behavior did not get my needs met. I will now "let them" be who they are, knowing that I also have agency. Such a powerful shift and message!

[@lewishowes]

Glad it supported and you got to this conclusion for yourself in your work!

[@annamanna3]

I loved the interview, thank you. So many takeaways like operating from a space where im proud of myself, reminder that I hold the power and to allow people to be who they are. One of my favourite parts was towards the end, where Mel spoke of being present for this part of her life❤ thank you both

[@juliej1375]

I’m loving the Let Them book. Wow, this is so simple and effective (not always easy but simple)! Biggest take away for me: a relationship requires mutual admiration and consideration Thanks Mel and Lewis

[@paulasweeney7713]

Great. !!!! Mel is. “Downtown earth”. YES. Lewis. Bring her back. .. Thank. You. Her book. Is a “wake-up call” !!! Thank you. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@ESORE706]

focusing on what you can control put you in control of things that matters.

[@melissasadler2094]

❤

[@jamiesaari]

This episode spoke to me powerfully and I am eternally grateful for her message. Thank you 🙏

[@PaulineA2205]

Book ordered. I do an annual 5 day fast in January. Im now also planning to switch off my phone for the 7 days to regroup and take back my power. I’m so much better at prioritising myself and “letting them” but Xmas time is harder. More wins than losses so I accept “let me” for a short time too. ❤

[@lewishowes]

Love that!

[@judenagarza3501]

My Take-away is: 'Control' is no longer a 'bad' word.. I completely enjoyed this conversation between Louis and Mel; I was reminded of skills/tools that I had forgotten that I can use to move forward in situations and I certainly learned some brand new ones. Many Thanks ❤❤

[@wanderingouterspace]

Everyone needs to hear from Mel, and the world is gonna be a much much better place.

[@mafaldavaldez603]

This is so true about boundaries and external energy from others...

[@janetwhite6929]

What a piece of wisdom. Life changing. I was not taught emotional boundaries. I understand that the problem is me!!!!! Ty Ty Ty. Now I can hopefully practice the abc. Theory help me

[@valariebock4437]

Hey Mel, congratulations in advance. The road I have traveled and still on would have been so much easier if this was released so much earlier. We all go through things at different times. You can only speak of these things because you experienced them. Our situations are definitely different but the impact and additional trauma we have put ourselves through by trying to be that good person and taking control or trying to change others because we see the good in them has taken away from our light. Your work is inspiational and uplifting. It teaches and doesn't force. I pre-ordered the book and watched this podcast because I wanted to. I shared it with family and friends because its a way for me to share the peace I want them to feel without telling them about themselves and they need to change. Maybe they are happy. Maybe not. I will always care about others but it's about damn time we all put ourselves first and care how we see ourselves. I can hope people change because I empathize with the hurt they feel and I see what they need to do to change their situation. I'm thankful I made it to the point where I realize, that is not my job. If you ever start a course, retreat, book club please advertise it like crazy. If I see it, I'll be a part of it. Thank you for this

[@Algoritual]

Thanks!

[@patrickbinford590]

My biggest takeaway on this wonderful interview was the idea that: "letting them" (for me) gives ME the freedom to do my OWN thing. Peace ❤

[@colleenpienciak]

Ordered my copy a few days ago and came across this interview…thank you both for your words of wisdom!

[@MarthaPerez-sv4ko]

I have been struggling with letting them be some times. Thank you To both of you from the bottom of my heart ❤❤

[@sandytthomas2667]

Thank you so much Mel. Having discovered late in life that I was dyslexic and ADHD. Struggling and was able to overcome only in junior high when my mom took me to her OBGYN for weight loss and was given s (diet ) pill. Something magical happened I was able to focus I was able to to pass with flying colors extremely hard classes that my classmates hated. And lost weight. The focusability that I got from that queued me in on the subject. Something's off. And then when I did not take them I fell back to a struggling loss distracted idiot feeling person. Not knowing why I was struggling. Anyway this is a great Thank you so much for sharing. Psychology has come so far back in the day we had very few in my class that could even afford to go to the doctor. For petty things like that. Thank you so much for your help now and forever whoever watches this at any time Will gain knowledge from what you've shared with us lady I love you❤

[@AmandaHowlett-l7c]

My life hasn't turned out as I expected. Thinking about 'Let them ' and 'Let me' whilst handling the pain and the shame. Thank you x

[@venusn5810]

I tried again and again ...and this time it doesn't look like a winner. I did everything to stay and face it even against my sanity...let them will be the last result...

[@dbunnysport]

2 amazing people sharing their wisdoms with us. Thank you!!! ❤❤ Love how you guys bring it to real examples and how one might communicate the “whys” and then knowing we need to “let me-s…” Wow. Then those A, B , C s. What great insights and lessons. Thank you Mel for taking us on your journeys. ❤ I’m glad you can enjoy and be present for this moment.

[@aniabrandt7]

Thank U Mel& Lewis😊 Most powerful life lessons 🙏

[@user-gb4hl5qj2x]

I look so forward to how you will use this information further to create teachable moments Lewis. When I hear you and observe how you respond to guests and share space with guests I see you are honest and humble and kind and fair. I enjoy your intelligence and humility. Thank you. It is easy to "hear" you and "be open" to learn with and from you. That was my take away today.

[@hericsale]

Mel is amazing. It's a daily struggle for me but I keep fighting it in letting go

[@karinbasart9132]

I love it, my greatest Takeaway is the “love and let live” framing. I think the timing is perfect for this concept - on a worldwide level. Thank you, Mel & so much love Lewis! Please do more of these together!

[@lewishowes]

Appreciate your feedback, thank you so much for watching!

[@GO2GURUGIRL]

Great ideas and thoughts! I do think that it is important to "let them" but communicate what you need and ask how you can help them. That does not mean do for them, but help them to start on the path towards full personal development. Ask what others need rather than assume that others need your input! Great interview. Peace and Blessings to all present.

[@Samantha-yn9fe]

Waiting for my book to arrive, but I have already felt a huge surge of my personal power by being able to detach from a situation where I couldn't win because I was being so controlling! Thank you both

[@lundbergium2388]

Let them then let me. Grateful for this ❤

[@marilynoverton8142]

Yes, please have Mel back!

[@judenagarza3501]

Yes, invite Mel again! !!

[@THEYOGAFACE]

Sounds like the Serenity Prayer to me.

[@bbslifestylefitness5966]

And yes please bring her back ! I follow her as well and learn so much

[@Epunch]

what a brilliant woman. and thanks for your great podcast and this opportunity !

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for checking out the interview! It's much appreciated.

[@kimberlyshanks1914]

I was at Barnes & Noble, and someone was asking about Mel's new book. They were sold out, and had 60 copies on the way, that were also already sold❤

[@cindydevoss]

This video couldn't have shown up at a more perfect time for me. Thank you for this! I have been in so many situations where I feel the need to control others when I have issues with controlling my own emotions and actions. I can't wait to read the book!

[@l.a.p.159]

I have a great deal of admiration for both of you. This came at the perfect moment for me. You both are so inspiring to me and so many others. Thank you for simply being you & doing what you do!! Namaste, Lewis. Namaste, Mel. ✨🤍✌️🖤✨

[@lewishowes]

I'm so glad this resonated with you!🙏

[@juliej1375]

I’m loving the Let Them book. Wow, this is so simple and effective (not always easy but simple)! Thanks Mel and Lewis

[@ewakozak5523]

Love from Poland🤗 Thank you both for this conversation

[@tamaramarlar-morton338]

I found & have been listening to your podcast, Lewis, for several years now. Sometime later I found Mel & I’m a Launch alumni. I spend my time with you all & the other Greats. It’s been so rewarding. I’ve been learning to regulate my nervous system & I’m feeling grounded & ready to LAUNCH. Thank you for investing in me❤Merry Christmas!!!!🎄🌟

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for sharing your journey! I'm so glad you're finding peace and growth.

[@nodira_precious]

Thank you all for this episode ❤

[@DebbieRossi-h4q]

I love Mel! I've been following her for a long time and am now following Louis as well. You're both great and I'm so proud of you both for searching and helping all of us that are searching as well. The Let Them Theory makes so much sense. The thing I love that Mel talked about on one of her podcasts is about looking for hearts everywhere you go and seeing life in a different way because of it. I'm now finding them everywhere and am chronicling them via photos. Thanks to you both for being lights where there can be a lot of dark!

[@robijndunker374]

You are in charge of your life and happiness and joy. Life is so much more real and enjoyable. Thank you!❤

[@debbierivera9]

Great advice. Love Mel❤

[@cherinena]

Really need to hear it ❤ wow thank you Mel and Louis

[@christybenson9319]

Excellent interview! Looking forward to getting Mel’s book. Lewis your interview view’s have been so inspiring and helpful. Thank you !

[@lewishowes]

I'm so glad to hear that! I hope you find the book as insightful as we did!

[@Joe_likesthepump]

She speaks the truth 🙌 👏 💯

[@KristinaNaranjo-k1c]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS Thank you Mel and Lewis for being you and inviting her 🥰

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@danadangelo7896]

Love this! I’m taking my power back and putting myself first without guilt💯Thank you Mel and Lewis❤

[@lewishowes]

I'm so glad it resonated with you! Keep taking that power back. 🙏

[@umeshkulkarni9687]

I wanted this affirmation to continue with what I found recently. Thanks a lot! 🙏

[@gmacksupreme8564]

Just arrived hope you have a good day I try to catch you live videos, but still listen to grow better for my children peace and Blessings

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for tuning in! Hope you find this helpful.

[@olesenna8547]

Had this conversation with my little brother for 3hours on call. He turning 25yrs old next year & m glad we ddnt hit a ceiling based on generational differences.

[@lewishowes]

So glad to hear you're having those conversations!

[@phemery1182]

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Great book, ordered mine on Amazon, cannot wait.

[@dhavalmehta3396]

Thank you Lewis for this episode and thank you Mel for this The Let them theory

[@jenniferkwok1622]

Just love this! Thank you Mel and Lewis!

[@gabrielacprado]

Two big titans of self-development chatting is amazing to see! Amazing work developed by Mel in this book, will get a copy for sure! Merry Xmas all!

[@lewishowes]

Thanks!

[@ramyasekar8804]

Really inspiring 🎉 making me feel light from inside.

[@randahakim2579]

Thank you Lewis for a great episode. I love Mel and you so much. "Let Them" is a game changer.

[@lewishowes]

So glad to hear that it resonated with you!

[@nemesisbianchie5181]

I'd like to see Mel another time speaking about her new book, pleas Lewis 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️

[@elizabethmeulenbelt2850]

This was a very timely release going into the holidays. Great conversation!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you found it helpful!

[@stephaniehoahu]

So simple but brilliant. Definitely implementing. Mahalo!

[@schoolofsurvivorneers]

Very powerful insight in this episode! Greatest takeaway: Let them leave their brush on your side of the sink, even if they have all the space they need 😀 But more seriously, giving them control doesn’t mean we have to feel out of control 😌-James

[@BorderBo1]

A resounding YES please! Thank you for such a great podcast. So many gold nugget take aways! ❤

[@nirmalajetty6426]

✅Both books! Ty Lewis & Mel!!!!!!

[@magdakidybinska6109]

thank you, great talk! a lot of takeaways, one of them : keep modelling the behaviour that is in line with your values. thanks a lot! 🥰

[@joannrector6762]

My greatest take from this is that I cannot change someone and except them as they are or leave a bad situation and just Let Them!

[@jennybuxton2790]

Brilliant ❤

[@whereswendy8544]

Teminds me of the book from the 70's called " I'm OK, You're OK".

[@venusn5810]

Another fantastic talk...let them...sounds good...i just wonder where the let them starts and where it ends as in leaving for good...a lot of info...and it feels like a new chapter in life...and very deep...Its a break through....I hope...

[@melissasadler2094]

More Mel please❤️🥰🔥

[@melb4785]

Loved this! What great reminders. Just ordered it ❤️.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you got a copy!

[@fletch4882]

This was very helpful, i bought the book before i finished watching the interview. Thank you

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@missblackman88]

2 great people know this will be good 🙌🏽

[@DoreenBailey-z7c]

Powerful conversation, lots for me to reflect on (recovering control freak!!!).

[@rebeccarogan7897]

How is the Let Them theory different from knowing what you can control and what you cannot and acting within your circle of control please Lewis ? Bless you both

[@JessicaLaurenVine]

Yes! Bring Mel back again :)

[@mefortunately4563]

@MelRobbins Author/Motivator/Speaker I would wish during your talks that you use ‘I/Me/My’ statements in the conversation - for me to wear judgement of the general statement s… Apart from that I am so proud of you and for watching your growth and yet looking like you haven’t aged any more than a few years dual of this… And I Am going to buy this book ‘Let Them’ as soon as I have my pay in! ❤❤❤🎉🎉 Congratulations Mel Robbins… Ohh no challenge…? Go have a private and beautiful adventure that’s just for You… time on a high rock, with a beautiful vista - Love

[@patty91656]

Always a great lisren wiith you 2, Thank you❤ Merry Christmas❤

[@DavidsonHangOfficial]

SOOOO GOOD!

[@lewishowes]

I hear you, thanks for the feedback!

[@galina6707]

Thanks a lot guys! Gorgeous "Let them" theory 👏👏 Thank you so much Lewis for all wonderful podcasts and people here in The School of Greatness ❤ I really appreciate all your lessons and tips🙏🙏 My best wishes for a Merry Christmas and a healthy, peaceful and prosperous New Year 2025! ✨

[@lewishowes]

Thank you for being here!

[@genesisliendo4068]

Esto llegó justo cuando más lo necesitaba !

[@ThiagoCarvalho-e2v]

In my marriage I always received disapproving looks and I let myself be carried away by these feelings. Divorced and living in a studio apartment, alone, I still talk to my ex-wife, but with a very different feeling.

[@venusn5810]

Staying is a challenge leaving is a challenge..but leaving can be so lonely ... but falling in love again thinking this time will be better and getting stuck after in another challenge I think its just part of being alive....it doesn't end...but maybe with let them it will

[@catherinevaughan7522]

Thank you, Mel, for Let Them, and thank you, Lewis, for hosting this interview. “Let them” will help IKANITAN happen. IKANITAN = developing an internal kind attention neural network to manage our internal threat alert neural network. Love trumps fear and kindness counts. Help create a culture of kindness, mindful kindness. Be the blessing, be the light. Commit to kindness, mindful kindness. Pause, breathe, choose. Choose kindness, mindful kindness.

[@Dahshon-f5p]

Y'all spittin for real. This is A1. You are absolutely amazing. Big fan. I influence someone who is not living up to their full potential, I live and lead by example. I apologize for pressuring, judging, and assuming.

[@celiaverdinho54]

"Yes" ❤

[@EmpressMMK]

Wow I loved this thank you I needed to hear this today

[@lewishowes]

So glad you found it helpful!

[@khwezi_10]

My biggest take away is to control what you can and to never try to change a person or fix their life for them ,just LET 'EM ,and to not believe what people say pay attention to their behaviors because people will always reveal themselves.

[@cathywasserman4571]

Let them is a profound intervention. Some people can be taught even repeatedly how to process their emotions but their personality structure, such as a narcissistic style makes it almost impossible for them to learn and they don't have the will too. So the issue can be more than just not learning, it can be deeper on a psychological and biological level. The Let Them theory with some as Mel alluded to is to disengage with them in a bigger way. But this can be challenging given trauma bonds.

[@yahi3595]

Wow 🤯 awesome interview and info

[@lewishowes]

I'm so glad you found it helpful!