Creating an open relationship with your partner!

[@REKEOJ]

I've been in an open relationship for 6 years about, but this advice about "do you have any fantasies you haven't fulfilled" as a first step in the convo is some of the best advice I've come across anywhere.

[@tonya8984]

Me and my wife has just started a open marriage and this last weekend my wife and I went to a club and she met a guy she was attracted to. They hit it off right away and now they have decided to start dating. He knows about me and is fine with our marriage and my wife wants a long term relationship with him. I notice a change with her as she is more happy and more sexually active. I am totally for her and this new life she is living. I accepted her new relationship with her new boyfriend so we are taking things one day at a time.

[@JP-xd6fm]

We decided to try out our fantasies and the one we want both to do is a threesome with another man, my wife found a good candidate but she wants to "try" it first alone, I understand the reasons she gave me but I dislike the idea and at the same time it turns me on. My idea was to have something to do together as a couple and not an open marriage, I feel like on an open marriage the man is always "loosing" if you see it as a competition, you know, my wife could have sex with almost everyone she wants, women have it easy to find men, so I'm like, Do I want to open?

[@ACEDshooter]

Lmfao 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Make sure you get permission from her boyfriend too to see if you can watch them.

[@malingawoo]

I m totally sure that ur name is CUCK SIMPson

[@jeffr4805]

Thank you for explaining how to have an open dialogue about sex with a partner. Often, as couples (more frequently men), we learn to be direct about our desires but may lack empathy in the process. There is a reason for pursuing intimacy, and it cannot be achieved by rushing into it. Sometimes it takes just a minute, while other times it might take an hour. Building conversations and allowing a relationship to evolve is a gradual process that ultimately benefits long-term relationships. Additionally, over time, this approach may lead to more fulfilling sexual experiences and help break taboos, whether with each other or others-ethically.

[@sydneywebbe7737]

As usual... Great topic and great conversation😁

[@allisonblair6254]

my ex husband and I are apart right now but if we get back together it wound be an open relationship, that way there's no "cheating" or sneaking around

[@alia957]

What if one partner looks at this concept as cheating but the other partner is totally into it?

[@tonya8984]

Open marriage can only begin with the understanding that both partners are on board. If one partner is against it then it should not start. Me and my wife knew fully well what it involves and I knew she would be involved with another guy. Right now my wife has a boyfriend and we both are happy.

[@malingawoo]

​@@tonya8984who proposed the concept of opening.. U or the wife?.. Ur wife has bf n how r u happy with it.. What has changed for u?

[@chrisboyd4433]

It sounds like you are assuming that anyone wanting to open their relationship is because they want some activity they can't get with their partner. Don't ask for Z until you have build up through the alphabet. What if I just want D, E, and F but with other people? It sounds like you are assuming that opening the marriage is about upping the sex game. I don't think that swinging is a next step after toys, new positions, etc. It is a separate activity in it's own right, (sex with other people). I don't think that you need to check off those other boxes before trying sex with others. For me, opening the marriage is more about the intimate and sexual relationships with OTHER people. It's about the OTHER humans, not necessarily about other fantasies, positions, toys, etc.

[@mattmurphy4687]

I agree totally, more about adding variety in experiences with other people

[@jessicabartomioli8765]

This is so interesting. Could you share your experiences with this? Is it alot of casual dates/hookups or is it deep connections? Or both? I can understand different people bringing out different things in a person. Also different people offer different types of lifestyles. To me it seems like a spectrum.. Maybe its an intense emotional connection or intense sexual connection or both and everything in between. I ask bc i so wish I could be that open. My boyfriend is way more open and comfortable with all things than I am. He's 100% confident that no matter what he'd be #1. I'm not nearly as confident I'd be. I'm working on my insecurities bc life is short and if he wants to explore I'd rather it be a conversation and be a part of it in whatever way than for him to be left to desire or cheat. I love him so deeply and we have so much fun together. I just wish I wasn't so nilla hahaha

[@chrisboyd4433]

@@jessicabartomioli8765 I'll start with a quote: “Sometimes, when we seek the gaze of another, it isn’t our partner we are turning away from, but the person we have become. We are not looking for another lover so much as another version of ourselves.” ― Esther Perel, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity This resonates with me. I have been married to my wife for over 36 years now. There are parts of my sexuality and personality that I want to explore with others, but not necessarily with her. I am not polyamorous, so no committed romantic relationships. I'm more of a close friends with benefits type. People I can hang out with, play games with, watch a movie with, etc. But also the kind of friends I can cuddle and massage, kiss and nibble, etc. with. It's more about letting the relationship go where ever it feels right for the two (or more)of us.

[@alhusaini2916]

You are very attractive lady Jackie ❤❤❤❤❤