Criticise POLITELY without being RUDE | Polite English Criticism Phrases

[@EnglishwithLucy]

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Are you married ? I like blonds and wanna marry with you if you and your parents are ready then ask me my cell number ... thanks

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@WORST CHANNEL EVER its just for fun lol

[@hellybelle5]

I think any sentence with but in it negates everything before it. Like when people say "I love you, but..."

[@lindsaylimes3362]

Thank you lovely lady. Here in South Africa we say I am gonna be honest with you I don't like the way you behave yesterday. Love your videos wish there was one on how to speak Afrikaans better.

[@madae.2183]

My problem is: I know all of them, I've heard them, I've read them.. But, when I speak, they never come to mind. It's frustrating 😅

[@naweedahamdi4087]

So you're like me....😂😅

[@yaqeen713]

+1

[@neelamshravani7625]

Am not alone😅

[@user.netizen11]

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[@smirglvojtechskovajsa2787]

Just try to think of some past (or even upcoming) situations you could use the expressions in. Then, mentally (or even vocally), make some sentences about the situations using those expressions. ;-) For your brain it will be like as if you have used them and next time they might pop up when you need them.

[@EnglishwithLucy]

FIRST!

[@EnglishwithLucy]

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[@samruddhiballewad3904]

That's so unfair I'm 1st 😄😄😯😯😯😯

[@leonardodavid6748]

Hello, I'm from Brazil and I like to watch your videos to improve my listen.

[@ThiagoGReis-bb9ro]

@@leonardodavid6748 eu também,and I love her accent

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I like her voice and accent so much that I never skip this audible recommendation repeated in 90% of her videos

[@DoraTheRoasta]

Her accent is just music to my ears!! 👂🥰

[@chitung2277]

Sorry, mentioning of what ?!? I think I miss it.

[@queennadya1937]

Also lingoda and italki 😂

[@satyapriyabarik5771]

Camila C Bah

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[@ColinMill1]

Two possibilities to add to the list:- "Have you considered..." "Here's a mad idea: what if..." Of course these can sound sarcastic under some circumstances, such as: "Have you considered turning up to work on time?" or "Here's a mad idea: what if you stopped being unfaithful to your wife?"

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[@ok_star81]

@Mark Jones What's going on here?

[@ok_star81]

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[@ok_star81]

@Mark Jones Vous êtes une bête en tout ce qui me concerne !! La façon dont vous vous adressez aux personnes est bizarre. Avec tous vos jargons et vulgarité à ma personne, j'ai pu constaté que vous appartenez à une classe très basse et impolie de votre société. Franchement, je vous prie de vous occupez de vos oignons. Bête.....

[@Magpieme98]

I use “have you considered” with my children!

[@simply_marko]

Lucy, you remind me so much of my English teacher in elementary. She was pretty close to me, felt like she was my aunt. You have the same voice, laugh the same, same body language while explaining, hell even very similar makeup. I find your videos delightful and this little nostalgia trip brought me back to those simpler days, thank you!

[@AjayKumar-wm7qx]

How to criticise politely 1. With respect / with all due respect 2. I'm going to be very honest with you / I'm gonna be honest with you... 3. Let's be frank... 4. I'm not going to lie / I'm not gonna lie 5. I don't mean to offend you but... 6. Don't get me wrong 7. I've noticed that... 8. There's room for improvement 9. If I were you, I would... 10. Could I offer you a bit of constructive criticism? 11. ...to say the least / to put it mildly

[@sergiovazquez8599]

If there’s one thing I love from this channel is that Lucy teaches us how to behave or to confront in a polite way without relying on rudeness and unnecessary offence.

[@nomadsinn2826]

Polite roasting season starts now. Thank you Lucy😁

[@druscanam]

Caution: British people may still get offended, even when using these special techniques.

[@muhammadahsan4959]

They get angry TOO fast PS. No hate NO OFFENSE!!!!

[@druscanam]

@@muhammadahsan4959 One technique you can use to help communicate your objections to someone who takes criticism poorly is to use the "sandwich feedback method." It's where you praise, encourage or complement the person with positive feedback then after, you inject your criticism, dislike or disapproval followed by re-enforcing your positive feedback. Like a sandwich, this takes the hard meaty criticism and covers it both ends with something light and fluffy to make your central point much easier to swallow. This way, the person is more likely to take your criticism in a much more positive light. Also, if your really want to get the most out of this technique, avoid word "but" or "however" when leading into your criticism. Instead, say "my only criticism" or "my only concern would be..." although absolutely do use "but" and "however" when leading back into positive feedback for sure 😁

[@normakassim8688]

No school will teach what you teach Lucy.!!!!

[@muhammadahsan4959]

@@druscanam OK thanks for the feedback bro

[@merlin3037]

Yes absolutely..!!

[@tevege7627]

l am Chinese senior high school student. most of chinese school teaches American accent English. Lucy let me fall in love with British English. the British English sounds like a gentleman. l don't mean American accent is bad , l just prefer British English. hope one day l can go to UK

[@tevege7627]

🙂

[@leonidasse]

I’m not British so I’LL BE HONEST WITH YOU: there should be a visit to a scaffold coming in package for using “there’s room for improvement” and all the other corporate/office b*t. People start to communicate like this in everyday life as a result! Lucy - I absolutely adore your accent and videos🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@bassem008]

I like this expression : " I beg your pardon !" For some reason I find it sarcastic and funny

[@zacharythegod3281]

I never use it. It sounds too old-fashioned

[@DoraTheRoasta]

@@zacharythegod3281 yeah sounds like old English. Outdated

[@milisharma110]

Me too

[@DatingCoachElla]

The way the lesson delivered was so pleasing, clear and informative. Super helpful to use for constructing opinions and criticisms in a considerate manner. Thank you, Lucy!

[@samayahone3497]

You know, as a brit myself i still find these videos really entertaining - they often point out things i do that i don't even notice

[@parasite674]

Another way of using "If I were you..." is when giving advice, especially if the person sounds like he made up his mind to do something unwise. e.g. "If I were you, I would apologize to her now. Don't wait until tomorrow like you want."

[@vipadakrom6477]

Hi..Beautiful Lucy I'm retired now, so I've practiced English for fun. I love British English because of 'Harry Potter'. I'm a woman, so it's not impolite to say 'Beautiful Lucy'. I watched many native speakers teaching English here, but I watched you most because I like you. I practiced writing before pronunciation. Sometimes, I used written English in speaking, can you believe it ? Besides practiced writing first, I also studied 'English for Lawyers' because I graduated master degree in law.

[@williamanderson1880]

Lucy: "We like to avoid confrontation." House of Commons : "Hold my cup of tea..."

[@PallabDutt]

I believe in every democratic country, lower house or house of common behaves like unruly teenagers.

[@peterlbaldwin511]

As a native "English" speaker, I do find that just one word to me is a "warning bell" which makes me subconsciously a little wary. It is the word "But" as in.. "You know how much I value our friendship, but....!!" or "Well we can do as you suggest, but...!". One just knows that something probably negative is coming

[@davidjamesshaver]

However, works as well and is less abrupt sounding.

[@reynosoroberto3180]

Thanks a lot Miss Lucy. In wich video I've learned a lot about it. At the moment I'm working at Minnesota but I am from Guatemala. Cheers!

[@kanahuanai4059]

Not gonna lie is what I hear very often in many KZbin videos and I didn’t quite understand what it meant. Now I totally understand it. It was a very helpful video!!

[@sergeipetrov5572]

Hello Lucy! It was nice to see you! Thank you so much for the lesson on how to avoid being rude! Nevertheless, I've noticed that people sometimes need to be slightly rude to be fair.

[@maryammehr3823]

Hi, I thought when we say ‘ There is room for improvement ‘ means you are doing %90 right and only little left to fill the gap. While Lucy said we use this phrase if someone has lots of mistakes !! 😰 I used this phrase on my performance review about myself 😰

[@kolli7150]

This video is going to change my live... XD It's like understanding English speakers for the first time... (in my country we are very frank, honest and direct... now I understand why English speakers are so sensitive every time)

[@AllGoodThanks]

Super helpful video, now, got to work on remembering and using them. thank you:)

[@zTJq40sl]

No. 7 (6:52) also has the variations "I can't help but notice (that) ..." and "I couldn't help but notice (that) ...", which seems to kinda imply that even if you hadn't watched / observed them, you would have noticed, because they do the wrong or bad thing so often or in a so obvious manner, that you'd eventually become aware of it even without wanting to.

[@LifeinRussiawithDanandTim]

Thanks for the lesson which is very helpful to avoid misunderstanding with somebody.

[@airyygrandee5637]

Okey..Let's be frank, we all love this lesson :)

[@MrThomashorst]

Thats quite frankly, quite frankly :)

[@helenhello2375]

Yes, we do!

[@hellotherehi2826]

I love her she so amazing. We could ask her to get drunk and give lessons?

[@iulianapopescu459]

You meant: Let's be frank, we all needed this lesson.

[@jgr7487]

"let's be frank..." "darling, could we just be Joe?"

[@sampinkflor]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@rossanalopes3114]

We have the same thing about wedding dresses 😂😂😂

[@EnglishwithLucy]

terrible, isn't it!?

[@himalipatel4915]

@@quora_quest5121 in my country too..we dont wear white dress in a wedding

[@himalipatel4915]

@@quora_quest5121 yeah...how did you got to know, by the way?

[@bhagyashrijoshi9537]

@@quora_quest5121 no actually she's on another level of dumness 😅but she cute

[@DHARMA_ALONE_MATTERS]

@@himalipatel4915 sai baba is Muslim

[@simonpnsubuga5684]

"With all due respect," is my opening statement when I'm about to respectfully disrespect someone.

[@KathrynLiz1]

Another good one is "not to put too fine a point on it"..... very useful.

[@vishallohar9478]

Following since 1M subscribers. 😍😍😍. Congratulation for 3Millions of subscribers 🤘🏼🤘🏼🤘🏼🤘🏼

[@manuelleon7664]

I love your videos, thank you Lucy and regards from Mexico ✌️

[@chitung2277]

Love it! But could you do a video of phrases which are the most direct in being offensive. I must admit, there seems to be many good teachers around me as many people from my culture seems to think it's an excellent trait to be direct and honest, but I think they got it mixed up with being offensive and untacticful. Only if more people can learn to speak and behave the way Lucy is showing us, the world would go around a little bit more smoothly even if no one really agrees on the same things.

[@mihailsbalodis794]

i m in a good way jealous of your pluck and tenacity to make your lessons over and over without repeating .its worth it

[@niharikasikka3200]

It's both ways in India. The couple is usually dressed in festive colours like red. It is considered offensive if one wears a red lehenga to a wedding, but no prob if it's a red skirt or if it's a child. One doesn't really wear white to a wedding, bcoz that is worn on funerals. However, it isn't offensive if it has a few other shades, even if it's a creme shade.

[@dhrubkumar450]

With all due respect I don't understand why some people dislike this beautiful video. 🤔

[@elienahal3618]

When i was in the UK every time i said”I’m gonna” do something my teacher would yell at me and say “come on mate! How many times do i need to tell you to stop using this provocative and irritating word , please stop using it and say it in a proper way “ 😂😀

[@Ceerads]

Very useful for even native English speakers! Thank you! And I love your humor. Obviously, I’m here in the States.

[@syedmansoorraza4989]

Very good presentation and given examples. Great Miss.Lucy

[@Jule-mm4dr]

Is there a more offensive phrase than 'no offence'? Haha, gotta love Lucy. ❤️

[@moussabahsine9034]

a good and lovely teacher with sense of humour

[@Mathiasigba4]

Admirable accent, eloquence & concision, you got them. I love Lucy.

[@TS_145]

😏😏😏

[@14onyx]

I think you could also use Come to one's attention similarly as noticing something

[@emil_yo]

I love your videos! :D I am learning English and your videos are really helping!

[@mividabellanagari8196]

frankly speaking, i love lucys channel

[@shouqalharthi5287]

Hi hear i'm Shouq from Saudi Arabia, I already majored in "english language and literature" in collage but I really love watching your videos it's really made a big improvements for me! Lots of love💕💕💕

[@shouqalharthi5287]

And to add, sure my name is kinda odd for you it means "the feeling of missing someone in Arabic" I just felt I want to explain it I don't know why 😂💛

[@anjalibala176]

Thank you Lucy 💕

[@msmadness1226]

Criticising politely or confronting someone - both are better than being nosy and rude which happens in Bangladeshi village areas.

[@charlessands6933]

I did that last year with Dracula, listened to the audio while following along with the book. It made reading it faster too.

[@achinthaperera936]

Hi.i really love your accent and the way you explain everything. Now I can speak British accent very well though I'm a srilankan.

[@thepurplesmurf]

In a non-formal conversation i sometimes give critical feedback in form of a counterquestion without saying much. Q: 'how do you like my new haircut?' A: 'do you want my opinion or my honest opinion?'. No idea if this is considered offensive or not. But then again, i'm from Switzerland and can use this as excuse. 😉

[@esreftas3945]

English has been spoken very well by Lucy.

[@zhangcw160]

This is most beautiful English teacher.

[@brendaelainewaddell1682]

Brilliant. I've also heard, "this is not easy for me to say but ..."

[@jwb52z9]

Here's a little, possibly interesting, tidbit that is sort of related to this in American English. American Southerners have developed a few phrases over the last century or so that sound lovely, but, in most cases, they are indicative of an insult. They are "God love ya", "Bless your heart", and "I'll pray for you". There are others, but these really are what I'd call the "main three". They can be said genuinely by friends or family at times, but not even always in those cases. They're usually used in a genuinely nice way in a pitiable situation. Other times, it's commonly referred to as "nice meanness". It's almost an artform in the American South to sound nice at all times while basically tearing someone to shreds. Some people, and I like this phrase, call phrases like these "a verbal stiletto". It's also a way to, sort of, say something without the consequences of being rude have an affect on the person saying them because they sound so much better than they are once you know the meanings and uses. Sometimes, they are said with sympathy as the idea of "You're really awful/dumb in this case, but I like you anyway".

[@bargainbassist]

Jwb52z My father - who was from a middle-class southern (U.S.) family - had two ways of acknowledging my mother’s cooking (they were married in the 1950’s): If he enjoyed what she had cooked, he would say, “This is good. I could eat this everyday.” If it was something he did not like, his response was, “This is good, but I wouldn’t want to have it everyday.” My mother was amused by this bit of quaint and genteel evasiveness by my father. Her own family background - although British-Canadian and also middle-class - may have been a bit more rough-and-tumble than my father’s, and so my mother was amused when recalling this peculiarity by my father many years later. I feel that their interaction was influenced more by the traditional male/female interactions common in the U.S. South than by any perceived “passive-aggressive” quality that someone might quickly conclude my father had. In fact, he was a rather virile and adventuring person, whose life seemed Hemingway-esque. My father’s southern genteelness would have contrasted, however, with Ernest Hemingway’s mostly boorish dealings with women.

[@amer_ab8924]

I struggled for over a year to understand this concept about the British culture regarding criticism. Finally a Brit is confirming my conclusion. 🤩

[@jaymzonion]

"I'm going to be candid..." which allows that I'm risking causing offense by cutting to the core of the matter because of the closeness of our relationship or the importance of the issue about to be discussed.

[@mnu5898]

Very informative. Lucy - it would be great if you can do a video on communicating with peers or managers (one level up) about difficult situations, politely in a office setting

[@jahangiralam1552]

Thankq ma'am ❤️ from India 🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳

[@claudiagramajo4671]

I love it! I love this video, becose this is not only learning English but also improving our communication. Thank you Lucy

[@Baban1974]

Thank you Lucy for your videos, really helpful all of them.

[@avinashbhogun]

A former senior manager I reported to once requested that I make her a tea, but milk first. As you normally do in office culture, offer to make a beverage for the team. Very important! I smiled and nodded, despite my internal panicking as I have never made a tea this way. In true British culture I made said beverage much to the recipient's delight. In any other aspects of life I would have referred to this person as a complete weirdo. Never make assumptions!

[@ashikihsan1946]

Hi Lucy, Thank you for your audible book and I like your teaching of Polite Criticism sentences. I love then

[@sohaltsoso2742]

and i'm gonna tell you directly! 😁 i enjoy watching your entertaining lessons! thank you! 😊😊😊

[@kjierstenbartlett4866]

Another good one the runs along with "I've been noticing..." would be "... You've been observed a some others ..." My Da used to say that frequently even though there' my not have been any "observations." per se. Kjiersten

[@JesusLovesYouPerfectly]

it is important to have a healthy balance of truth & grace. either one without the other can be taken to the extreme and cause a lot of problems.

[@germanmorganti9686]

Great video Lucy! I loved number 11 for being so cynical! Thanks a lot!!

[@davidjamesshaver]

Lucy is so classy :) The UK must be very proud :)

[@mbolatiana7032]

Hello, I've been following you for awhile, I've watched all your videos, I've always clicked the like button BUT I've never left a comment because of my English!! But after thinking about it and my teacher recommendation ( writing is one of the active way to pratice a language)! My biggest problem is that when it comes to speak, It's like a big blank space like if I've never learned anything!!! 😣😣😘

[@OceanGal33]

I had this issue this morning at breakfast. I voiced my opinion about something I didn't like and it came out as insulting/ridiculing. I am not happy I did that. I apologize to anyone that I ever gossiped about, talked about behind their backs, made fun of and for anything else.

[@bonnyguillen1424]

Is interesting how to use this expressions to reduce your criticism and trying to be nice even though you want to let the person know what you want. Thank you Lucy and let me tell you that I love your english accent.

[@mizrakercan]

Thank you so much. I like your all videos.

[@shamimakhter4139]

English is a beautiful language as much as you

[@BlackAdder665]

Oh, Lucy, Lucy, Lucy, Lucy! I hope Will knows what a gem he has in you! :-) There are not many videos (other than yours) I've enjoyed as much as this one. You have such a loveable sense of humour, I chuckled the whole time. And, of course, as always, I learned a lot.

[@misamisa8576]

I love your accent, it’s very pretty.

[@TrevorNgombe]

Good teacher 🎉

[@TatoAcostaRomero]

Greetings from Colombia south America, Miss Lucy.

[@Chongchuchu]

Miss Lucy,if someone keep disturbing me,how can I tell him or her not to do that politely?

[@tdengtuoch115]

You are a good Teacher

[@anonymous22014]

That's perfect! Lucy, would you please explain in your next videos the difference between criticism and critique? Thank you very much in advance

[@MNROSE-sd3oq]

I. Loooove your politeness, Lucy💕

[@Jule-mm4dr]

8:51 LOL 😂😂😂 By the way, you can use 'I regret to tell you....'

[@thegreenmanofnorwich]

I quite like using "that's not quite right, so I just want to go in to a little bit of detail"; what I mean is "you're completely wrong, I'm cutting you off here to walk you through all the basics"

[@harryvirdi4095]

Black and Red combination is so deadly. ❤️🖤🌹

[@soaressouza2132]

she sounds an angel. 😊😊😊😊

[@rafiqenglishspeaking6580]

Nice expression lucy.

[@Agent-o99]

Thank you my best teacher .❤️🌹❤️🇬🇧

[@pfk6372]

Thank you so much!! You are so British! Damn, I love that kind of lesson.

[@shielatubber]

In the US "I could get used to this" is used ironically & positively, a bit like saying "You're spoiling me" ... This thing is not in my normal experience-- say, a lobster dinner or a fancy hotel-- and now that I have had a chance to experience it, i might become too used to i

[@nailsaggitarius4212]

Good one. Thank you Lucy.

[@fabian78]

You are the best teacher!

[@normakassim8688]

You're a great British teacher, thank you.

[@cumarcabdulle7621]

I appreciate the work you are doing for us.

[@patrick_jane]

3:00 I spilled my drink

[@jgw5491]

I don't if people use the phrase this way in the UK, but people in the US sometimes use "I'm not gonna lie..." to say something self-deprecating about themselves. "I'm not gonna lie, I didn't expect to mess up so badly."

[@coskuntoktamis3469]

GREAT LESSON.

[@michaelbutler3552]

Lucy, we (I) need a winter tour of London. Twilight merging into evening, all those magical Christmas sights. Your previous London video was perfect but way too short. And I always love your refined sense of humour.

[@marsyu5816]

I can always remember one of my tutors said “I hate to say this but can you please face us while doing the presentation?” 😂