CRITICISM (How To Give and Take Feedback) - Teal Swan -

Negative criticism, which is what we will be focusing on in this episode, is when we critique something and disapprove of it based on the faults or mistakes that we perceive in it. But we need feedback. Our growth and awareness is dependent on it. So it is best to think of feedback as belonging to two distinct camps. The first is criticism. The second is sharing your individual and honest perspective or experience. In this episode, Teal explains criticism in depth as well as why people criticize one another and then, she explains how to give feedback in a healthy way and also what to do in order to stop criticizing.
The collective consciousness of mankind has been evolving in it’s own right over the course of history. We have seen many dark ages and many awakenings. And today, we are in the middle of the Emotional Dark Age. Most people on earth do not understand emotions; they are not terribly conscious of them, they do not know what function they serve, they do not know what to do with them. This is a serious problem considering that emotions are the very basis of every person’s life experience. Part of this emotional ignorance is a thing called emotional neglect. It is so widespread that it is literally the great epidemic within society today. In this episode, Teal discusses emotional neglect as well as what to do if you have suffered from this epidemic yourself.
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[@jodicharlieway1023]

Thank you. My 4 year old decided she was tired of her name and wants to be called "Snowflake" - I have been telling her that her feelings are important and always right. I agreed to call her "Snowflake" because when I was her age I wanted to change my name and nobody took me seriously, and I knew how that felt. I wanted her to learn something from this...and I ended up learning something too. I was in a room full of ADULTS telling a 4 year old is NOT a real name. ADULTS trying to make a 4 year old validate THEIR reality and give up her's, saying, "That's just silly, it's not a real name" - but I used it as a lesson to teach her that they are just insecure and don't know how to ask her if they can just call her by her birth name instead because they won't remember, or whatever the deal was. Sometimes kids just want to play and have make believe but adults can be so rigid and criticize over the smallest things instead of just entertaining kids once and a while. But then they want kids to believe in Santa Clause at Christmas time... they want to control a child's make believe and belief

[@alisonperry1786]

Wen my 5 year old found out he wasnt the only james on the planet he was shocked and disapointed... then he decided to drop the s.... there was a little confusion some thinking his name was jane..... but I called him JAME for a while and . then it just faded away..... i sometimes still do because we both belive it was valid to like your own name.

[@angelsrosena]

Let her know that she chose everything for her life, including the name she says she dislikes. Much better than make all her wishes...

[@brittniebelcher3341]

I love that you did this for your daughter ❤️ that’s awesome!

[@chrysichrysi7889]

It's a perspective I guess. At home she can still be called Snowflake though, right? That's all that matters. She's your little snowflake, that should be enough for a 4 yr old. I think most families have nicknames or completely different names for each family member. We do too, but we say it amongst ourselves and we know who we mean and why we call them that name.

[@JohnLannholm]

All names are make-believe, man those "adults" are funny....

[@matthewalexanderlemma8000]

Man, this woman's soul must be 30,000 years old!

[@loveinfinity8884]

or a new soul that come to shift the planet 😉

[@corsicanlulu]

she is a reincarnation of a wise person, or maybe her great suffering gave her wisdom

[@jordynhalliwell9678]

if we're all from the same source though are we then the same age though idk what do you think

[@CthulusFavoriteTreat]

Interesting that we call someone with really good people skills and spiritual AF, an old soul.

[@sirigirl16]

Lu

[@natushkhan]

1:45 Criticisms can literally feel like a threat to your survival 4:03, 6:50 criticism vibration chokehold, 8:47, 9:24, 10:23 softer delivery 14:37 Techniques 15:00 & sandwich appraisal, end on a positive note 16:26 try it out on you self 16:43 is your mind friend or foe? 17:32 recognize receptivity and invitation from others 18:50 if it is sharing a negative one- seek to understand than to assert your corrective opinion 19:45 criticism dripping in projection. 20:09 sharing a perspective can be the thing that imprisons or frees

[@Casey97531]

wow, this was uploaded the day after my boss made me cry through her criticism synchronicity amirite!?

[@mommakat7361]

A lot of Teal's videos upload within a day of something happening to me that eerily pertains to the video. Sorry that happened to you. Hope all turns out well.

[@InvertedSeal]

mike litoris You sure are right, and best of luck with dealing with your boss!

[@DeathFromAboveGames]

mike litoris Criticism is such a banal and mundane thing that happens everyday, it isn't that surprising at all. Even if you were criticized by your boss a month ago, you would just say, "Oh gee, I've been thinking about how my boss criticized me a while ago and now you have a video about it, synchronicity win!" It's like teal swan coming out with a video of taking a poop and people in the comments saying, "Gee, I just did that, teal and I are connected somehow." Derpaderpaderpaderpityderp.

[@karan8743]

mike litoris same here. bosses r jackass. they dnt understand anything or it just so seems

[@phyllysanantonio]

mike litoris Don't ever cry in front of your boss. A effective supervisor should be intelligent enough to know how not to make an employee break down. Start looking for another job and shore yourself up. Be positive and strong, do not fall into her trap again. Good luck.

[@EricJohnsa]

I really like Teal. She's sharp. This really makes a lot of sense.

[@trudystroudshines-morgan4677]

I was thinking the same thing she is so precise with her words and insights- love love

[@Lameesha20]

Ms Teal- you have helped me alot- I often come to times where I just don't want to take anything in or emotionally evolve so I take a break and always end up coming back to your videos.

[@PA-tu1jg]

attitude of curiosity instead of certainty.. there was so much good information in this video but this sentence hit me the most. Thank you Teal ❤

[@chrysichrysi7889]

This is soooo incredibly helpful. That was a judgement I just made. AS was pointing out that "that was a judgement", was as well, another judgement. And now I can recognize the difference much better😂 and to not limit this video's potential, I'll add that I hope future listeners can take from it what THEY deem as valuable for themselves.

[@1Earthboundmother]

Quick suggestion; links to all the other suggested relative topic videos would be an amazing, wonderful addendum to have at the ready. I habitually hunt back through videos for those but the thought of a little list of links in the description box just makes me happy. Thanx.

[@kristawalsh154]

Girl, You give me paths to follow, to continue my practice. My favorite part, the divine timing associated with when I receive your message. Tons of gratitude heading your way!

[@anthonypenzarella4747]

Teal, I just asked this question yesterday and is a great challenge for me! Can't wait to watch.

[@elizebethjames]

Your poise is enchanting Teal. Much love and thank you for another amazing episode...timely for me too. Many incredible points in this video, I'm processing it right now and watching it for the 3rd time. Thank you again. x

[@pupreagan8650]

Hi Teal. Just a note to say thank-you for time you took to share. Your direct concise and patient approach makes your point very easy to accept and apply on a personal level. Have a good week, as well.

[@Fstop313]

I just love how practical Teal's advice is.

[@hansweitbrecht1957]

we all judge, even to NOT judge is a judgement in itself. But we do not need to get attached to judgements. And by doing so, we are not ruled by past judgements.

[@GodHelpMe369]

Beloved child, I see the pain and the hurt that you carry within your heart. I see the tears that you have shed, and I am moved with compassion for you. I want to heal your broken heart and to bind up all your wounds. I want to restore the joy of your salvation and to give you a garment of praise, instead of a spirit of despair. I want to comfort you and bring you peace in the midst of your storms. I understand the struggles and the challenges that you face in this life. I know the temptations and the trials that you endure. I will never leave you nor forsake you. I am your refuge and your strength, an ever-present help in times of trouble. I want you to know that I have great plans for your life. I want to use you to touch the lives of others, to bring healing and hope to the brokenhearted, and to set the captives free. I want to use you to bring light into the darkness, and to be a beacon of hope to a lost and dying world. My child, I want you to know that My love for you is unconditional and unchanging. I want you to know that you are My beloved child, and that I delight in you. I want you to know that you are precious in My sight, and that you are more valuable to Me than the finest gold and the most precious jewels... I want you to know that I rejoice over you with singing. I want you to know that I am always with you, and that I will never leave you nor forsake you. I want you to know that I am your constant companion, and that I will guide you and direct your steps. I want you to know that I will give you the wisdom and the understanding that you need to navigate the challenges of this life. I want you to know that I am the God of all comfort, and that I will comfort you in all your troubles. I want you to know that I am the God who heals you, who binds up your wounds, and who sets you free from the bondage of sin and its consequences. I want you to know that I am the God who restores you when you have gone astray, and who brings you back into the fold of My love. I want you to know that I am the God who gives you the desires of your heart when they are in alignment with My will and My purposes. I want you to know that I am the God who blesses you abundantly, and that I am a God of more than enough. My child, I want you to trust in Me with all your heart, and to lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Me, and I will make your paths straight. I will guide you with My eye, and I will lead you to the place I have prepared for you... I will never leave you nor forsake you. With all My love, God.

[@jennybthick]

I had a friend tell me that she could criticize me without judging me and that she’s just trying to help... being that it was constructive. While I don’t mind her opinion, I think it clears up the question I had about whether or not that was possible. This video was right on time!! Per usual!!

[@maelgwni]

This is great, as always. Thank you so much Teal

[@annegocht8042]

WOW!!! This video is gold, so so true - will send it over to share with my people I care about to seek a culture of honest and mindful feedback and open communication

[@rubychannelingmusic6001]

This one is hard, it's gonna take a little work but it's so fundamental. Thank you Teal, Love ya ! 💫💜🍀

[@mewwymew1469]

Such a cozy background--love it!

[@arishbilal9589]

Great video I feel it all boils down to one principle whatever you resist persist. Thanks teal

[@stevenpates3791]

I absolutely love you n ya videos Teal and ya honest, blunt, quirky personality and smile too 💚

[@TheMillyVanilly]

I needed this. Thank you♡

[@divineradiacewisdom1020]

Excellent talk Teal!

[@lillymarkova]

this was so very helpful, thank you so much!

[@carlosnicolas8688]

You probably will never read this but I just want to say you have helped me so much. I will thank you forever! really, I will recommend your videos. I want everyone to be as lucky as I feel when I watch your videos

[@mnikolaeva6562]

Teal

[@jessicahubbard4634]

This is really interesting. I use "positive criticism" or "positive feedback" - whatever you want to call it - the way she describes the motivations behind offering "criticism". I'm usually trying to achieve a desired outcome. Not sure what that means.

[@roostergentry]

I think I love you Teal Swan.

[@phillyfan-182]

Teal is so nurturing and loving

[@darcy.4739]

Me2

[@VenusVoice]

This came up in my last night's meditation, cool.

[@kritisabharwal7138]

Teal, you are a sheer blessing...

[@maiegoselfuu8265]

thank you for that video. it has been very helpful!

[@jessicac9067]

Very thorough, thank you. Love.

[@AgentAlisha]

She is an abuse survivor who is unlicensed. I understand where she is coming from, but she has been deceived. Tread carefully, Ladies. There are therapists who can help you w spirituality while helping you to safely process your pain. Thank you, Swan 💜. The weeks of a menstrual cycle video resonated with me and helped me out. You had a hand in inspiring me at the Beginning of my journey. Your vibrational dissonance tipped me off, and THEN I did my homework. hope you will be able to turn back to the Light. You are most definitely gifted. Peace ☮️✌🏻🕊

[@PeteLogan101]

Your channel is amazing, as are you and your incredibly calming voice! Subbed :]]

[@irmina777]

Thank you.... you help me to put things I know/sense in order

[@HI-pz8yg]

who needs thousand dollar courses to become a better leader when you have Teal.

[@luticia]

Your videos, your wisdom are always the highlight in my week. The light in my sad struggeling life. Thank you.

[@moulee7448]

You help so many people.. Idk why many people are against you! Like seriously!

[@katrinhodgins3717]

I have a major problem being critical. Thank you for this. 🙏🤍

[@abderrahmaneelmanjra1516]

Thank you for your insightful and healing videos, they spread a positivity, in a period of fruitess, provoking and obscene contents

[@sedaisin]

Very enlightening! Thanks

[@berlinetta____2680]

Thank you Teal.

[@joshuawilson6340]

Awesome video Teal much love from Delaware..

[@danielarredondo5771]

Yes and thank you 🙏🏽

[@comotuabogada]

This is so on point

[@lizzyh2080]

As always perfect topic. Thank you so very much. I will be watching this one several times.

[@deh9219]

Very insightful thank you!

[@tiaho-whetuford5338]

Thank you so much, AGAIN teal Swan😼👑⚡️

[@LoyRodzILOVEYOU]

So true, choke hold and the law of attraction! evolving by the judgement... that i don't do, because i have not retaliated and know that one may need help to re-leave their pains...and...searching for acceptance, attention or love. All in all, maybe I was the only one that saw one spiraling downwards and offered my concern to one that may need to seek help elsewhere. My deliverance of retaliation will be in the way of the soft sandwich approach to a mass of people that had joined with the judgement and criticism approach in a public forum... Regardless...one should be powerful enough to keep love and not hate in your hearts based on criticism. GOOD ONE!...hit right on the nose.

[@user-sm4sf4ff2i]

Cheer~~~the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes.😊

[@fekete-kiss-sandor]

Golden thoughts

[@CosmikAstrology]

I had a revelation on this few weeks ago with my criticism of a friend. Fortunately we are both very close. He was hosting a paid for healing workshop that I was participating in. What I realised was that I felt my needs were important and so I suggested that what was doing should consider the needs of 'other' and myself. Afterwards though, when I thought about it. I became guilty of pushing my own needs too much into the situation instead of trying to understand why those things were necessary for the event. Even though I still prefer to have my needs met, I can get deeper into why I want those and why they aren't provided for the event. So, it's important to share your opinion if it helps, especially if you feel you have a need. However most crucial is it to admit that it's a personal preference to both yourself and the receiver as this will free up any confusion and or negative feelings around the situation.

[@veganpowergirl]

very helpful video! thanks a lot!

[@johnanderson6898]

I have experience that kind of behaviour some time people can make u feel so bad by what comes out off their mouths but I can say things to hurt people now i know better I like how you explain it

[@genevievegodwin3551]

Such a good one

[@OnerousEthic]

Wow! Very impressive!! I like and I need!

[@Michelle-wh4vb]

Not to sound shallow.. I really am listening to the message here, but I must say.. Teal in the snow is one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever seen 😍❄️

[@frogjackethuman781]

My parents criticized me often. They were basically saying 'you're not doing what I want you to do!'

[@choice8529]

I am in awe. I appreciate how these videos bring useful ideas together in a concise and digestible way. To this one I would know to add John Gottman's work from his 30+ yrs research with couples with The Love Lab: the all-important discovery of the 5:1 ratio of "positive to negative" interactions between people for the relationship to thrive.

[@gabrielavilla7308]

This is great 🙏

[@translator544]

My friend has pretty bad breathe for YEARS I’ve never told her because I don’t want her to be mad at me

[@milena11570]

Try the sandwich method : compliment - criticism- compliment

[@thewayneschannel1]

Thank you

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

Thank You 🐇

[@MsGuitars666]

Then you think you know so much about a subject, and Teal makes another video and you think: OH! Why didn't I know this earlier.

[@ausi1189]

Much Love to you Teal

[@petrahorzelenberg5410]

Before you said "you might be rolling your eyes right now" I was laughing, of how true it was wat you just said 😇😅

[@MaKaElectric]

Thank you!

[@JasonGray71]

Thank you. Lots to think about & some suggestions for improvements for me there.

[@linuxaddict11111]

i used to call my inner critic 'abuser' ... i finally stood up to it. I first had to shut down its abusiveness, and i was merciless towards it. Not so much merciless i guess as a very firm No to it and a boundary of you will not abuse me. Now it's a lot more respectful haha. I like to take snippets of odd things it says and critically analyze them with it watching, very compassionately, like you would a child. i think that helps it to trust me.

[@maiegoselfuu8265]

that's so great : ) good luck with your integration process!

[@PeterChorao]

links in description box to recommended "Teal Swan, The Spiritual Catalyst" YTvideos Teal recommended in video would be appreciated! Good video Teal! makes sense. i love Teal of course.

[@brittniebelcher3341]

Your judgement I was rolling my eyes was limiting my potential 😂 I still love you ❤️

[@davidtomes2298]

Teal is the most fantastic, brilliant, wise, gorgeous being, that has ever existed... This is my perspective, and as such, is irrefutable...

[@nalushka]

Hi Teal, beautiful videos and awesome info. What studio are the video shots taken?

[@jessicaholt8078]

I'm always the victim of criticism no matter if it's negative or constructive criticism. I was taught to engage in _only constructive criticism while having to stomach negative criticism. It makes more sense to take orders from a drill sargent and/or join a military body. There's nothing wrong with that.

[@MrJoeMontano]

in my opinion.. the idea of the camera slowly zooming out towards the end of the video would be a nice effect as it would add a dramatic professional ending to each video. But thats just my opinion. Great advice & very smart way of explaining your ideas on this topic

[@thisisntallowed9560]

I think since I've been surround with people who don't accept criticism, when I offer my perspective now I expect a push back. So sometimes I may start my critic in a harsh tone instead of giving compassion like I used to because they just won't consider it. Then I get upset when they don't hear it. But it leads nowhere. I guess it's not my fault if there's absolutely nothing I can do to make someone understand something if they're unwilling to listen. I understand that sometimes they have their own trauma. But sometimes it just feel like they don't want to have to care. They just want to hide the fact that they don't care so they get upset at you. I really don't understand this behavior. I'm really trying to understand it because it's very rare that when I'm given a criticism that I don't consider it, it's very hard for me to find exemples in my life when I did this so I can relate. It makes me feel discouraged that so many people are like that but I'm not, it's like I'm the only good person.

[@patriciakenshima2271]

Muito Conhecimento obrigada

[@nimuyreemu3723]

teal,please do more videos on vibration,frequency and energy...and abundance blocks

[@razvanetecazacu]

Great video! Do you think you can make a video about some internal traumas and/or why people run from them, or how to identify why they are running?? I noticed lately that I have some emotional issues and that I keep on running from something in a soooo subtle way that is hard to identify and I can't wrap my head around it...I want to know more about this type of thing in order to start healing myself. Any video or help or link or site would be greatly appreciated. Thanx alot and God bless you.

[@252stardust]

A family member asked my honest opinion about her situation with her husband, and i asked her if she was sure she wanted to hear it and she said she likes honesty, so i gave my opinion on how i can imagine her husband was feeling. A couple of months later she made a big life decision which she didnt really want and she got really nasty with me because she basically said i had made her feel like she had to do it after what i said. Its worked out for her in the end and shes ok with me now, but she was really nasty with me and ill never forget that. She hurt me. So from now on when someone asks me for my honest opinion i will be thinking twice before i do it.

[@windandfire22]

New book !!

[@Medietos]

Thank you Teal Swan for good content. If you Could lower the volume of the initial and finishing tunes, I should be grateful. The lodness in contrast to your thoughtful exposés work as shock on my nerves and soul, and when not listening close by the PC and volume switch, it gets stressful and horrible and destroys the listening experience and the fragile constructive mind state, which is not your intention, I know. Thanks again, I hope this will reach you well and makle you want to consider changing the volumes, or even omitting the tunes, which are not in tune with the quality of your content. With appreciation and congratulations on your own healing work.

[@RoseClimbPaintC]

I was dating a guy who had the potential to be a perfect match. But he criticised me roght out of emotional safety and quite frankly I don't think he realizes he actually doesn't even like me for who I am. His many criticisms taken as a whole make it clear I am not a good match for him. Needless to say I am no longer pursuing anything romantic with him, as the idea has become moot.

[@JackSparrow-nc7gk]

teal youre cute when you say ''DRRRIPPPING with projection '' hahah good one :D

[@MylesSpearsASMR]

💗

[@SC-vb2ui]

I feel same 💙🙏🏽💙

[@mixedraice]

What if it doesn't work when you ask kindly or respectfully?

[@user-kv6mf7qo5q]

That was really wonderful and useful for me. Teal, thank you soooooo much, for helping with this topic. This is exactly on what I am currently working :))

[@liseeulmar6967]

.... VERY Relevant to me Right Now ...... People Also become IMPATIENT because I have to Pause, and, Think FIRST before Speaking ...... >>> So it's "Damned if I Do and Damned if I Don't" >> I Naturally Do that MYself Teal :) >> In ALL Your Videos there IS Alot of Information ..... I RELATE to Literally ALL ....... Thank YOU ...... Glad that I 'found' You !!! ..... The Eye in My Storm ...... TRUTH !!!! We ARE all One and the Same ....... I Appreciate Your Videos .......... Thank You Teal Swan ........ :)

[@kassandraechebima2851]

Opinions solicited. Lol. Why the need to share this information! Light, Teal. Nice work. Now, about the Employer, is it then necessary for people to freely choose to enter a body of reality [Work] that may not be designed essentially to meet their human needs? Can they be cajoled or interest-pressed into such an environment and how do they deal with except for saying ''no'' ''that is not what we are working for''. And what of when you need appraisal and do not receive it? Like when you want to know [by instinct and feel] the value of the work that you are doing, to yourself and to human [the latter also being the reason for ''intention'', intention towards man and intention towards your fellow men who are neighbours, be they at work or at school, for these places do not exist outside the reality of existence] Good work, for self and your fellow neighbours, Teal. Impressed about the straightening of ''jargon parables'' that were oft repeated, yet we had no time to consider; and Word being the very manifestation of out inner world and the one that we are now creating; the one that you are now creating. Shalam

[@amitvedgupta]

So it is interesting- the number of times she mentions what the spiritualists say and how it cannot be true because SHE never met anyone so elevated. Does not mean it does not happen or it is not worth trying.

[@bashyre6877]

Oh you really did great job listening to her advice on how to critic.

[@TheEnaliel]

i think she is amazing

[@FadingRosesBluesTristeza]

I love you Teal

[@paperkawaii]

Argh snow and it's getting cold here in Australia ! ❄️❄️❄️ did anyone notice a weird low pitched sound that repeated over and over.. ? 😁 Very informative thank you! 💕👍

[@paperkawaii]

***** I thought it could either be a washing machine, or sound from that snow clip that is playing. I really couldn't stop trying to hear it 😓

[@haroldmann3303]

Ok, What I have learn and achieved is that Judgement is really not useful. Consider doing critiquing or evaluation based on present and know universal laws and concrete evidence, Leave emotions and motivation out of it, only concrete evidence.

[@mddermy]

How do we ask questions for potential future videos??

[@haley_144]

👏👏👏

[@dferraez3432]

Teal!! How do we address the trauma of hurt and pain directly?