Culture Shocks From Dating in Argentina? (Buenos Aires)

We interview foreigners on the streets of Buenos Aires about their experiences with dating in Argentina. What is it like approaching Argentinian women? How do Argentinian men typically approach? What to know if you want to date an Argentinian as a foreigner?
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0:00 Intro
0:50 What is it like to date an Argentinian woman?
2:05 Have people approached you?
2:52 How is the approach different here and your country?
4:18 Culture shock while dating?
6:01 First dates in Argentina?
7:15 What are chongos/chongas?
7:42 How is dating here different than your country?
10:25 German-Argentinian relationship
Filmed in:
Buenos Aires, Argentina

[@jsrod88]

4:42 The real problem, in fact, is that a guy tries to date a Spanish-speaking girl in a Spanish-speaking country and thinks that she is the one with the problem. I just can´t believe it.

[@user-xu3bg7zh9c]

Yeah but she was texting to him in english using a translator, if she was planning to meet him in person she should have mention that she didnt speak a word of english.

[@jsrod88]

Of course not. But if u are a estadounidense won't understand the point. So ok. 👍

[@adrian-4767]

​@@jsrod88los mexicanos también son "estadounidenses". Hubiera sido mejor que digas "USA citizen"

[@jsrod88]

@@adrian-4767 los mexicanos son mexicanos. Nadie piensa en México cuando se dice "estadounidense" desde latinoamerica. Más allá que tengas razón en eso.

[@user-xu3bg7zh9c]

@@jsrod88 soy Argentino amigo jajaja, la mina estuvo mal.

[@monero892]

Russian "they don't know the borders" 😂

[@modernmating]

www.youtube.com/@modernmating

[@PabloPucciOK]

sutil

[@canchero724]

She's very attractive, not surprised to see Argentinian men trying to get with her as quickly as they could.😂

[@numbersix8919]

As opposed to, say, the US.

[@BlackRedneck1]

@@PabloPucciOKsubtle 🫡

[@kbdc]

lmaoo i always find it funny when it comes to Americans in these types of videos where the tell their state & city and not just their country like the rest of the interviewees

[@alfredolarsi5600]

True, but that is because there's a "country of difference" between a person from Alabama and one from Massachusetts, for example. Even at a city level, one from Seattle will be very different than another from Little Rock, or a New Yorker and a Wichitan (not sure if that's how they are called).

[@kbdc]

@@alfredolarsi5600 well yeah but you can virtually say that for any country (mainly the large ones) to an extent. I'm from the Philippines but live in Canada. Huge differences in lifestyle depending on which region you come from or grew up with back home. Whenever I meet new ppl and they ask me where I'm from, I just say the "Philippines." Guess it's just easier for Americans to say LA or NY since they're internationally recognized

[@cassandro9445]

​@@alfredolarsi5600hum pero es que así funciona en todos lados. No es lo mismo Buenos Aires que Misiones o Córdoba, y dentro de Buenos Aires no es lo mismo Recoleta que Morón, o el AMBA que Cañuelas... Etc. 🤷

[@marianoyalour]

@@cassandro9445 Sí, pero esas diferencias son conocidas para los locales. Si te vas a Bulgaria y te preguntan de dónde sos, no aclarás provincia y localidad/partido/departamento. Los únicos que especifican así son l os estadounidenses porque asumen que todo el mundo conocee las diferencias entre crecer en Boston y haber nacido en Florida pero haberse criado en Iowa.

[@Sunnako]

Btw, the sign at 3:23 says "beer colder than the heart of your ex" 😂

[@veevv]

yessss 😂

[@jonathanvanrijn837]

This is funny to watch after having dated an Argentine and currently being in a relationship with another, there are definitely those women that enjoy "The game" more than getting into a relationship, but there are also a couple that just want a healthy relationship, those ones are the most passionate ones out there. I got mine and I ain't letting her go (I'm Dutch btw.)

[@cheesecake4648]

ok, so let go the other one if you want to be steady with that one.

[@kem1233]

U guys got a sexual fetish for these women

[@cassandro9445]

Lovely story, thanks for sharing ❤

[@kem1233]

@@cassandro9445 these guys got a fetish for latinas

[@cassandro9445]

So wholesome. Thanks to all of them. Aguante Argentina!

[@facundosoler2200]

The girl from Jamaica saying she found conversations to be 'superficial' it's probably because most Argentinians have a basic level of English (or even not knowing a word). IF the person speaks English reasonably well they'll stop asking those basic questions. This applies to every country and every language in the world.

[@marianosiro9765]

No

[@cesjavi]

the cat is under the table

[@diosito9161]

But the jamaican girl has been living in Rosario for eleven years, I’d assume she speaks Spanish by now right?

[@facundosoler2200]

@@diosito9161 Doesn't seem like it to me if she's saying her entire conversations consist in basic questions like that.

[@romi-ok4ts]

she speaks spanish. it's probably because she's black and argentineans are very racist. the black guy can still get girls because white women are curious about their size down there.

[@Natsukashigame]

The last words from the american guy were so nice, people here prioritazise the person in front pf them rather than the mobile texting

[@delroywilson9588]

Very sweet that you ended this with a happy couple.

[@nahueel6637]

4:49 aprendé vos españól. vos estás de visitante

[@user-is5bs8qb4y]

100% - asi son los yankes, piensan que el mundo debe rotacionar al su centro

[@slimshady19]

First of all: Argentina is such a beautiful country, the best. Second: France Greetings from Argentina.

[@darkkforest]

4:55 See she made an effort to put you at ease in your own language, but you found out she doesn't actually speak English, and for you this is a bummer, while you even said it was the most beautiful AR person you've met. I think it you were really interested in knowing HER you could've formulated that better in this interview.

[@JesseGarciaGomez1979]

Is so easy he is in Argentina and they speak Spanish so it can be the same way why he doesn't try to speak Spanish...

[@franciscovilcheavila960]

Yeah , those yankees are weird. Is like the ones in Mèxico who complain about the fact that people speak spanish IN MÈXICO. Or the ones who moved out to a turistic area and complain about the people/the sound/the music/the street vendors when those yankees decided to move in a very crowded area.

[@alexarihani2902]

Yes he’s in a Spanish speaking country, learn Spanish

[@modernmating]

www.youtube.com/@modernmating

[@Belorofontt]

​@@JesseGarciaGomez1979 Not all the people are the same, but not a few quantity of anglosaxons refuse to learn spanish if they are living in a speaking spanish country. In Spain they were criticised for this attitude. And many are having the same attitude in Argentina.

[@Y2uM1U0bLdIT]

Very interesting! I felt a bit sorry for the Jamaican lady when she said she wasn't really approached on the street. I began to wonder if there is a similar racial bias / preference as in other Western countries where Black women find it harder to date non-Black men. But then when she spoke about how men approach women in Jamaica, I also wondered whether she is the rare person to come to Argentina from a country where the men are EVEN MORE forward than Argentine men! And I have experienced travel in Argentina whilst not speaking Spanish so I understand the American with the language barrier - hopefully he was inspired to start learning Spanish!

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Yeah I find experience is so much about comparison. If she had come from say, Sweden, she would have been so taken back by the forwardness but she comes from Jamaica which is super forward. And it might be about her being black unfortunately as Argentina is a predominantly white country. Such a shame because she is a really sweet girl.

[@veritorossi]

Well...we don't have a many Black people in this country.

[@berrymckockiner5883]

Why is it ashame, people are allowed to have preferences without being labelled the r word

[@carosc5368]

​@@berrymckockiner5883 Yo soy de argentina y la verdad con los dedos de una mano puedo contar las veces que me levantaron en la calle, es un gesto muy atrevido y la verdad es que no está bien visto. Cada vez pasa menos.

[@vickycc5020]

Además acá como bien dicen muchos extranjeros hay mucho "juego". Los hombres tampoco son de venirte a decir "sos linda, salgamos" sino que se la rebuscan para invitarte a hacer algo de forma que no parezca una cita formal. A menos que sea una app de citas o un boliche. En la vida cotidiana hay más chamuyo indirecto.

[@eneacreativedesign]

Great video, keep it up! Me gusta mucho!

[@johngonzalez4298]

This was great to listen to

[@cheesecake4648]

They say "argentinos" but in fact, they are "porteños", people born in Capital Federal, Buenos Aires. You don't get that friendly disposition in the interior.

[@AzereusMantor]

I would totally invite the jamaican out, seems to have the most humour.. Bur i am in Entre Rios and not BS AS...

[@killasavage308]

Jamaicanos are the best for any country 🇯🇲

[@modernmating]

www.youtube.com/@modernmating

[@x2y3a1j5]

Try your luck anyway, you never know. Maybe she'll come on holidays with some of her girl friends.Or maybe one day you'll have to do some errands in Baires.

[@vickycc5020]

The most interesting about dating in Argentina experiences is that people don't decide whether this is a feminist or sexist country. My bet? Theres a huge difference between +40 and -40 years old people. Also women tend to be more feminist than men, so we offer to pay and stuff but men still approach you in uncomfortable ways. Just look at the fact that our feminist movements is one of the biggest in the world but also Javier Milei got elected. Argentina, no lo entenderías.

[@Georgina-lv9bt]

I think its because we are more "feminist" than most latin american countries but at the same time we are more "sexist" than some european countries or the U.S. so depending on where you are from its going to seem one way or the other

[@vickycc5020]

@@Georgina-lv9bt i think we're feminist in a different way. For example in the USA they have a stricter approach when it comes to touching and personal space, while Argentinians get closer (which sometimes can be uncomfortable). The USA has more contrasts and way more women that approach dating in a traditional way, looking for commitment and getting married before having children is more common in the USA for example. But due to Americans having more respect for personal space I think their average sexists are softer than our average sexist which is a fuckboy. Most young argentinians would agree with the 50/50 payment and women's rights but the touchy approach is still there, also this idea of kissing somebody in order to let them know you're interested sometimes put men in weird scenarios (thinking 'i have to kiss here otherwise she will think I don't like her), so men end up not understanding context.

[@facundososa4343]

Aguente mileeei

[@mharg6408]

El feminismo contemporaneo ha hecho estragos, es lo peor que nos paso. A Europa le va mal culturalmente con el, porsupuesto que no saldra en las noticias, es algo que se observa cuando se tiene la oportunidad de presenciarlo o vivirlo.

[@x2y3a1j5]

@@vickycc5020 That touching thing has NOTHING to do with feminism. We touch bc we're LATIN, Italian-descended people. Men kiss other men like we do in Italy. Anglos, Germanics, and Scandinavians don't do that bc "mY pErSoNal sPaCe". It's engrained in the respective cultures and has ZERO to do with being sexist or not. You can be a very pro-feminist man and still be touchy bc that's what got engrained in you since you were a baby, it's just a reflex.

[@tobiojo6469]

Awesome video

[@tysonlittlefield3200]

How did you find so many North Americans? For the last 3 years that my wife and I have lived here, we've never met any of them and weve always only spoken Spanish. You're missing out if you can't speak to the people here in their native tongue 😂

[@user-mn6sq3is4t]

Argentina Girls are beautiful❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@HippiePajon]

Nice video I like these

[@modernmating]

www.youtube.com/@modernmating

[@Kristbjorg-Nymann]

Had the same experience in Italy. 🤣

[@TheDarlowiak]

Anything is better outside US.

[@theinternational397]

That’s hilarious because Argentinians are absolutely positively adamant they are “Americans” and will completely flip their kids when you even hint at the fact they are Latinos.

[@GeoSocratic]

Nope... Anything outside anyone's country tends to seem better. It is a matter of assessing if such thing is really better and why. Then assessing the ups and downs of such country, before one considers moving there. This is how real adults do before leaving their countries and it takes a bit more than watching youtube videos.

[@numbersix8919]

@@GeoSocratic Having done that, it's objectively true that anything is better outside the US.

[@franciscovilcheavila960]

@@theinternational397 Amèrica is a continent,obviously we are americans. We are latinoamericans ,we are not like the stereotype USA weirdos have about us (dark brown skin, eating tacos and living in a desert)

[@theinternational397]

@@franciscovilcheavila960 When the entire world outside of South America hears the term “American” they think of people from the United States of America, not Argentinians and Chileans. If you’re from Argentina you are an Argentinian according to English language standards. You are also a Hispanic and a Latino person. You don’t even live within the same continent as the United States of America. Once again people from Argentina are Argentinians. You as an Argentinian are much closer to a taco eater than you are a real American. To the rest of the world a Mexican, Argentinian, Bolivian etc. are all Latinos. There’s nothin you can do to change that perception so you might as well use it to whatever advantage you can.

[@LeonardoFornaciari]

00:50 That might be because you are in Argentina.

[@barbiem5572]

Argie here: not true that all girls expect a kiss ir go further on the first date! Maybe the ones who just want to hook up and dont really consider dating.

[@blackmantravel6954]

That guy actually waited an hour for his date to show up. He must not respect his time.

[@x2y3a1j5]

Bro, as an Argie, we are VERY bad at anticipating and planning. We're chronically late (pun unintended). I've living out of Argentina all my life and even at official events at my Embassy, let's say the Ambassador is suposed to give his speech at 12:30 before we destroy the buffet, he'll be at least 30 minutes late IN HIS OWN HOUSE - those 30 minutes or full hour are always called "the Argentinian 15 minutes" by the officials themselves. If you're gonna date one of us, or attend to some business, or just meet the gallery owner where you want to expose, the ONLY way you can get things do is to always fix a time at least 60 minutes BEFORE the time you'd really want. Or lure us with some $$$ - "If you show up right on time, not a minute later, I'll give you this $20" - that wouldn't be lost on us.

[@DTTaTa]

In argentina you are expected to arriva a little late. Tho an hour maybe is to much

[@PedroGonzalez11111]

@@DTTaTayou were true to form at Islas Malvinas, unfortunately the british got there first and saw no one in the queue

[@augussierra]

Argentinian date culture is 10000% about the vibe and the connection ... you are getting it wrong if you think otherwise

[@Waltaere]

Beyond Bordeers 😃

[@tamics9978]

Soy argentina y no me gusta la gente impuntual. Yo no lo soy, me parece terrible que alguien te deje esperando 1 hora 😮 No somos todas iguales las mujeres argentinas. Me gustan las relaciones serias y he durado muchos años con una persona. Creo que no van a encontrar a todos iguales en este pais.

[@cheesecake4648]

ok, they said a lot of stuff that people do that i don't do or friends don't like it is a staple but it is not.

[@JW-uy2on]

8:24 That is completely false. I’m an American who regularly goes out to eat and I mostly see women paying the bill (even when the man eats 90% of the food).

[@numbersix8919]

You must live in Cougarville, USA.

[@JW-uy2on]

@@numbersix8919 Nope. All regular couples.

[@numbersix8919]

@@JW-uy2on Given that more female partners than male are paying the bill, that's an interesting assertion. The expected incidence would be 50%. Have you any explanation for this observation of yours?

[@bunnystrasse]

Interesting

[@henriquelaydner4080]

If they have experienced a cultural shock dating in Argentina, they shouldn’t (or should they?) come to Brazil. It’s Argentina times 2, if not more.

[@milksmoothie]

❤❤❤

[@Uruguay182]

The Girl from Texas 😍😍😍

[@baybergnaturals4258]

Nice! I enjoyed ❤

[@DjKickmaster]

@dilera com seus tiques na Argentina 1:07

[@Frivals]

9:54 the simp again 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[@rupammandal9943]

Great content ❤❤❤❤.

[@flowershower6857]

Argentine and brazilian men are the same then 😂 a lot in common, maybe a south american thing

[@mharg6408]

So, I couldn't have a chance with you? lol You broked my heart

[@user-is5bs8qb4y]

yeah that's why we call each other hermanos

[@DAVAMARC]

Did she really said 'honesty' like that? Whyyyyyyyy

[@nikkkysixxx2079]

There are some bias, yankees are all tall and blonde or white at least. If you are not in those standards you are invisible here most of all for brunette and further blacker skin girls. That's why she would be not so frustrated to split the bill if you are local you pay. Also because of this; proyection or long term relationship is almost impossible to talk about in a first date, but msybe for foreigner is more easy. My advice for foreigner: DO A MESS

[@randomstuff1827]

Perdón, ¿qué es un chongo? Parece sacado de una región más del norte.

[@Bucanero95]

Huesito, carozo, chongo, chonguito

[@milagroscapomasi8525]

Alguien con quien salis pero no va para que sea algo serio

[@nadiafuliaurcelay4578]

un hombre con el cual tenés relaciones pero no lo querés para una relación seria y él siempre lo sabe y está de acuerdo, si él quiere algo más que solo chonguear ahí se termina "la relación". hay gente que tiene alguna actividad extra específica con su chongo y suele ser una relación amistosa, no suele haber problemas cuando la otra persona encuentra una relación estable, se dejan de ver en buenos términos.

[@MrCapitoes]

Pone subtitulos en español si vas a hablar de argentinos.

[@sammmmmyyyyy]

JBW. So simple

[@flowershower6857]

Not in latin america. In latin america you have to be handsome and have money

[@DarivsArgentina]

JAJAJAJAJA 4:38 aterrado hubiera estado el muchacho cuando se despierte y se le haya pasado la ebriedad al lado de la dagor forma de refrigerador nevera... bendito Dios como se salvó el caballero

[@joebidet2050]

@10 seconds What breed of seeing eye dog did he have ?😂😂

[@ElCondeFrancisco]

DEBERÍAN HABER ENTREVISTADO IGUAL CANTIDAD DE HOMBRES Y MUJERES!!

[@masterprattu]

The Bri'ish dude is chunky af but he got game 💯

[@norwegianblue2017]

It sounds like women in Argentina are like American women used to be forty years ago. Normal.

[@nocapnobs7845]

It's always the men, if the men in america woke up today and decided to go super masculine lol things would shape up quick.

[@claudinsky611]

No

[@user-mn6sq3is4t]

🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳🇮🇳❤❤🇦🇷🇦🇷🇦🇷🇦🇷🇦🇷

[@oldmedstudent1750]

I knew the guy in the checkered white shirt was a beta, and as soon as he said he got played as some chick's side piece I laughed my ass off.

[@user-is5bs8qb4y]

amigos ojo con las russas eh, por lo general andan buscando otro pasaporte para tener una chance de escapar de su pais y ademas ven los hombres como billeteras caminantes

[@cassandro9445]

mucho milei te está haciendo mal

[@Frivals]

3:46 the simp 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

[@user-is5bs8qb4y]

Gringos are so funny hahahha

[@ezemeza1363]

Se las llevan de arriba los yanquis

[@sampahumeoli]

la rusa terrible

[@kufrehjohnson6433]

I am first

[@Waltaere]

🥇

[@numbersix8919]

You must be MIGHTY proud of yourself!

[@nueat6]

@kufrehjohnson6433 2018 is proud of you

[@kufrehjohnson6433]

Yes I am

[@chrisgiles5653]

No mention of "histericas"?

[@thebruhnetwork]

They should at least learn to speak Spanish

[@siddharth2315]

Why are thong bikinis on beaches so popular in Argentina ?..... may be more than anywhere in the world

[@numbersix8919]

Feminine beauty?

[@arielabril1981]

Because they have the body to wear it.

[@nadiafuliaurcelay4578]

maybe because we do tan, and the big white half but it's not fun to have it until next year. or myabe it's just sexism, or both.

[@aaron4848]

too much american-centric. so why half of them are americans?

[@xpmedia8660]

More Americans living in Latin America

[@theinternational397]

Makes sense especially when Argentinians constantly refer to themselves as “Americans”. Wanna see an Argentinian go batshit crazy? Remind them they’re Latinos.

[@5DollarRemakes]

It's probably 50% American expats in BA so it's pretty accurate.

[@theinternational397]

That’s ironic because Argentinians are completely, positively adamant they are “Americans”. That’s in spite of the fact that the rest of the world outside of South America refers to them as Hispanic Latinos.

[@theinternational397]

It’s ironic because Argentinians are convinced they’re ’Americans’ when in reality they’re just Hispanic Latinos more similar to Mexicans, Bolivians and Dominicans than they are to real Americans from the United States of America. Hell, Argentina isn’t even located on the same continent as the United States of America.

[@jon2813]

La negra diciendo que en 10 años nadie se la quiso levantar, que orgullo mi país 👩🏿‍🦱🚫

[@freekarg]

no vamos a joder nuestra raza....

[@alfredolarsi5600]

Pobre, detras de todo racista se esconde un ignorante temeroso.

[@WHU448]

Date your OWN, damn it! (🗣️)

[@pablovillani8160]

Quien le explica a la chica jamaiquina porque no le tiraron onda en 10 años?

[@joshuawalker301]

No seas malo che, mepa q habría que hacerse el dolobu nomás, ya le va caer la ficha.

[@Adiox47]

@@joshuawalker301 Banco esta iniciativa tal y como viene sucediendo los ultimos 10 años.

[@franciscovilcheavila960]

Soy argentino pero no entiendo *momento Paola Argento* Asi que podrian explicarme?

[@peterp7541]

@@franciscovilcheavila960 No estoy seguro, pero me atreveria a arriesgar que estan insinuando que los argentos son racistas...y por eso no le tiran onda......aunque quizas se refieren a otra cosa y yo tampoco lo entiendo....y si es lo que yo digo...me llamaria la atencion mucho....porque aunque pueda aplicarse a alguna gente, como en todos lados.....a toda la gente....es un poco demasiado....sobre todo con tanto tiempo en el pais....pero quizas estoy pifiando con mi interpretacion!

[@PabloPucciOK]

@@peterp7541 simplemente creo que la esta subestimando por ser conservadora. No hay racismo por aqui.

[@dylanimmanuel1968]

Girls in buenos aires take the first step cause they want north american or european passports 😉

[@mharg6408]

Actually, most of them could have European passports for themself without the help of a foreigner partner..so..

[@mateot215]

god as an american our people are so dummmbbbbbbbb

[@Bucanero95]

Most of Argentines descend from europeans, therefore its extremely common to have either italian, spanish or german passports, just to name a few...

[@claudinsky611]

No. We don't need that.

[@kikecabrera4751]

🇦🇷❤

[@nacholla7866]

we are not receiving the best looking foreigners...