Why the Argentinian Approach is so Different

Argentinians are known to be some of the biggest smooth-talkers in the world! We interview Argentinians in Buenos Aires to get their thoughts on the approach. What is a chamuyero and are Argentinians chamuyeros? How do women like to be approached? How do men typically approach? What not to do if you want to date in Argentina?
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0:00 Intro
0:50 How do you approach in Argentina?
1:57 Women's perspective on the approach
2:47 What is a chamuyero?
3:47 Do you consider yourself a chamuyero/a?
5:11 When was the last time someone tried to pick you up?
6:50 What is a good approach?
7:40 Do women approach in Argentina?
8:45 Are Argentinian women difficult to approach?
9:54 What is your best "chamuyo"?
11:20 How are Argentinians different?
BUENOS AIRES CREW:
Camila Salazar (host): / camilalalaa
Lau Castro (videography): / laucastrofoto
Filmed in:
Buenos Aires, Argentina

[@JorgeCastilloArg]

"Don't ask a girl to go on a coffee date" , "don't approach a girl at the club with a magic trick"... Do it, if that's what feels more natural to you, there will be girls that like it and others that won't.

[@Nerivean]

Going to a coffee date and then have a walk it's very common. Just some people thinking they have the better answer or the absolute truth don't listen to them. As you said do what feels natural.

[@fashionspy96]

A magic trick would be funny

[@mma1211]

True Jorge Castilo, that is true

[@CTYPCL]

absolutely

[@lucasmorinigo80]

I love Argentines, they are definitely the best!!! Greetings from Argentina.

[@tamisandoval]

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[@user-is5bs8qb4y]

Como eu gosto desse país! A Argentina é encantadora, seu povo, sua cultura, sua comida, suas paisagens, suas festas. Um forte abraço de um hermano brasileiro!

[@fefebeltrangarcia2824]

Y a la mayoría de los Argentinos nos gusta Brasil!

[@migueltavernise5620]

Obrigado irmao ,

[@claudinsky611]

Yo particularmente,amo a Brasil y su gente ❤🇦🇷🇧🇷

[@chrisim15]

O brasil tmb po! eu até aprendi portugues, voces sao gente boa pra caramba

[@lucasgattesco3148]

🇦🇷♥️🇧🇷 amigos

[@flowershower6857]

Argentine men are handsome and charming, i hate to admit that as brazilian woman

[@lucasgattesco3148]

That's one of the most common matches, an Argentinian man and a Brazilian woman

[@manueljonathancaceres1265]

Muito obrigado menina!!

[@myginger]

People of Argentina are basically Spanish and italians

[@manueljonathancaceres1265]

@@myginger Just the 30%. The rest are mixed.

[@angelesduciel]

men of all countries are handsome

[@user-ht1ft3dy3s]

as an argentinian woman, this whole flirting game is so exhausting. As you grow older you appreciate honesty and being direct. I don't have time to play those games

[@RatonDelibreria]

El problema es que cuando sos joven y directo no te entienden y te rechazan

[@vdavila77]

@@RatonDelibreria cuando sos joven es difícil por joven y cuando sos mayor es difícil por mayor. Tener agallas siempre es difícil para el que no quiere o no está preparado para el avance... (me refiero al receptor /a del avance corajudo y directo)

[@RatonDelibreria]

@@vdavila77 si lo se bien me paso

[@LuxieDamned]

Totally agree, and also, we know all the tricks, don't come to me with those cheesy phrases and jokes, please

[@bondarem]

Totally agree. Games are for children.

[@guillervz]

Soy argentino. En Argentina soy relativamente normal a nivel chamuyo, pero viví el mundo de citas por muchos años en otros países y no te explico el éxito que tuve. Lo mejor es simplemente divertirse y saber coquetear haciendo chistes.

[@YoureRightIThink]

Los argentinos en otros países estamos al nivel de Ryan Reynolds con el chamullo

[@julianluk]

Love argentine women, most beautiful and smart in the world 💕 Greetings from Lomas de Zamora, Argentina 🇦🇷

[@Ryderk2.0453]

Y a mí megustan las Norte Americanas sobre todo a Taylor Swift

[@ggl2947]

Muy 2015 tu comentario

[@marianomartinez3008]

Aguante zona sur

[@santiagolerin]

De Lomas al mundo pa

[@lucianoschuller7141]

no se cansan de hacer el mismo chiste?

[@andrescoria4431]

Los 3 pibes son unos capos

[@josehijar2432]

Estoy sorprendido con el alto nivel de inglés que manejan los entrevistados no me lo esperaba

[@stlmo974]

pero esa chica seguro vivio en estados unidos, se nota por su acento

[@pay2000]

Where do I know you from? Ah- from my dreams. I'm Argentinean. You are welcome.

[@rayme5632]

damn...the way argentinians speak spanish is very attractive

[@carlosdcardona5676]

As a fellow Argentinian all i can say is! Chamuyero is someone that has game and is willing to take risks!!! In the U.S. I think the closest thing to a chamuyero is what you guys call a baller!!! Either way the video was funny and cool poeple !!! Especially the tall girl with long hair she's gorgeous!! Como Argentino es una re bombona!!!!

[@mharg6408]

Esta re buena, la unica linda del video !! !! !

[@tasospat4919]

The same girl that says a coffee date is too high pressure, then says about not being afraid to escalate otherwise you'll get friendzoned. Fuck logic

[@JayFocused]

Welcome to Argentina

[@victoriachavez3958]

I think she means having intimacy, but I might get it wrong

[@alanpecce4658]

Actually it made sense to me. coffee dates are a 1v1 but going out with friends and then escalating when no one is looking is way easier for a girl to loosen up.

[@ashresearcher]

I wouldn’t ask her out. She comes off as too self-centered, entitled and high maintenance

[@sheMessages]

As an argentinian, coffee would be great for me

[@infinitypc_]

Camuyero: Versero, mete-fruta, bolasero, guitarrero, vende-humo... Sin duda los Argentinos somos los más lindos.

[@KAfNGET]

being argentinian.. your already a natural pick up artist

[@rageoftheredphoenix]

I am an Argentine American 🇺🇸 and I have bad luck with women. I attract the women whom i don’t find attractive. Too old. Or too young. Overweight. And sometimes Nubian and overweight. I am not overweight nor I am a Nubian. I pretty much look like the guy from wolverine movies. A young Arnie Schwarzenegger. Or a cross between a young Johnny depp and little jean Claude clvan damme. Very rarely like Henry cavill. I want to attract slender Caucasian women and had no luck 🍀.

[@lulylucero]

We argentinian are witty and understand sarcastic humor. Also, another slang for “chamuyero “ is “hacer el verso” (getting creative).

[@RC94332]

5:47 dude is a real G

[@milksmoothie]

I love your videos and this one is made so good! I appreciate a lot your work and wonderful content❤

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Thank you!

[@roc11412]

YOU GUYS NEED TO HIRE THAT LONG HAIRED MODEL YOU WERE INTERVIEWING...SHE IS VERY SMART, WELL SPOKEN AND HAS A VERY PLEASANT DOWN TO EARTH WAY OF EXPALINING THE GAME...VERY INSIGHTFUL

[@mharg6408]

She is extremely hot as fuck

[@akhimakhi93]

calm down bro

[@DjUnknow808]

Calm down… wtf?

[@somewhereatvinland]

what a simp

[@RomanticPopPunk]

Nah, she’s your regular “I’m a queen. Entertain me!”. This kind of women will suck the happiness out of you.

[@manueljonathancaceres1265]

Chamuyar is a natural skill of the argentinians...

[@tobiojo6469]

Awesome video

[@seanmikhael1767]

Had to pause 10 times a second to keep up with the captions. Just throw the whole paragraph up there. Especially when you've got Ashtón Kutchez talkin 90 miles a minute.

[@misscogito]

hahaah i just wrote the same :D

[@Savo04]

ese freestyle en ingles estuvo zarpado pero no apostaria que hablasen ingles kjakakjakj

[@guillervz]

By the way, Argentinian women are simply the most attractive in the whole world. By far.

[@YazminM2222]

Chico de la 🧢: chamuyero es una persona que dice falacias solo para poder conseguir lo que quiere

[@Sam-xk1et]

"falacias" le mandaba jajajaj

[@marianomartinez3008]

Cana: Chamuyero? Fácil, es el que te tira palabras lindas para poder ponertela

[@Achadhub]

Awesome

[@marcebianchi2961]

No es por nada, pero con los Argentinos/as aprendes a leer las miradas, los gestos, las palabras claves en el momento justo, es estrenamiento, un acto de sociabilización habitual en las salidas grupales acá en argentina, para con otra persona tambien releva el aprovechar el hecho de hacer reir y reirte en conjunto, eso suma mucho, aunque tambien todo en su justa medida, porque como dijo el chabon al min 8:22, eso que tambien cuesta conseguir, es ostentoso, no economicamente sino sensorialmente, es decir, saber valorarse y no regalarse aveces tambien puede ayudar, mas allá de lo estético (aunque lo estico suma bastante, porque tambien te brinda seguridad de lo que uno es y quiere mostrar), sabes que tenes a alguien en frente que vale la pena, no para un género en especial sino para ambas partes al momento de conocerse... Cuando sos Argentino/a y salis a conocer a alguien es como todo eso, todo junto en todo momento, pero depende de vos llevarlo adelante y tener tus propias instrumentos que te sirven para llevar adelante lo que se busca... Saludos desde Sta Fe. Argentina!!

[@rmv2185]

Wow, looks very difficult to flirt in Argentina

[@zelkin1852]

only if you are a shy person, otherwise you won't have much of a problem, Argentinians in general are attracted to self-confident people.

[@rageoftheredphoenix]

@@zelkin1852 Thanks 🙏 . I need this info if I am interested in an argentine young woman. I am an argentine American 🇺🇸. New York.

[@constanzalenza1765]

@@rageoftheredphoenixtmi.

[@marianohernangutierrez2525]

If You are shy, don't even bother to come. If not, bienvenido hermano

[@YoureRightIThink]

​@@rageoftheredphoenixnah you're just American

[@marianomartinez3008]

For people from USA, chamuyar it's 100000000000% more efective than rizzing

[@itooki]

This is the comment I was looking for, 100% true

[@annaelizabethvalej7132]

Qué lindos somos los argentinos ❤

[@MrAbrazildo]

0:14, as a portuguese speaker, I understand spanish naturally, but not this chamuyera word. It's probably a slang.

[@KenDaKingArrives]

Yes. Argentinian slang.

[@celesteaylen3701]

Hi,is like a fuckboy ,or a men that dating with other girls at the same time,he Say in general sweet words

[@Nerivean]

Means to "enrich" with little lies what you say to conquer the girl basically.

[@matceletti]

Chamuyar é jogar fora papo furado, enrolar, para convencer a outra pessoa a fazer algo. Que compra o q vc vende, Q aceite sair com você... Chamuyo significa "fala'. E deriva em fala ardilosa, mutreta.

[@ggl2947]

It isn't slang, it's a language called lunfardo that emerged during the big waves of migrants arriving Argentina at the beginning of the 20th century where people from all over Europe was living together and they started to mix their languages and criminals started to adopt and modify different words of different languages to create another language of the crime underworld, later it was gradually incorporated to the Argentine lexicon mainly through tango lyrics

[@user-is5bs8qb4y]

Small correction at 3:50 the best translation would be “As of now, no.” Or “currently, no”

[@headintheforest]

You re right. The guy was chamuying that he was no longer chamuying :D

[@fashionspy96]

"But you said no"😂

[@user-ht1ft3dy3s]

that's when her whole reasoning falls apart.

[@fashionspy96]

@@user-ht1ft3dy3s not necesarily. taking a shot doesn't means the outcome is going to be the one you want. coming from experience

[@fabianvilte3251]

The rap at the end was really cool

[@rageoftheredphoenix]

Rap music 👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻👎🏻Not for argentines. Rock and roll is more argentine. More human and human evolving.

[@urthemiel304]

​@@rageoftheredphoenix Wym not for us?

[@rageoftheredphoenix]

@@urthemiel304 Wherever rap and hip hop is played loudly and for many hours those areas have huge crime rates. I was shot at, cut and pickpocketed by fans of rap and hip hop. Recently, one of them turned around and hit me from behind. I don’t trust them. Nor like them. They are communist like. Look at Bronx, New York, east New York, the Nycha projects were I live. And Chicago. Have you heard of Ms-13, blood, cripts and Latin kings? They are heavily influenced by rap and hip hop. They believe they are always right and never wrong. Wherever these fans of hip hop rappers are they are involved in rape, robberies, holdups and. Blue collar crimes. If argentines claim they are descendants of Europeans, then rap and hip hop is not for Argentina. The leaders of rap and hip hop are Nubian. They speak for us without our permission. Many black racists are rappers and hip hopers. They always want to be right and they are never wrong. Rap and hip hop are naturally against European history and want to replace it with black history. Many Argentines whom I have talked to have been mistreated by black racists who are also fans of rap and hip hop. Those robberies I have heard in argentina are done by hip hop rappers fans. Rap and hip hop was created in the USA and there it should end. Rap and hip hop is not Argentina 🇦🇷.

[@rageoftheredphoenix]

@@urthemiel304 Wherever rap and hip hop is played loudly and for many hours those areas have huge crime rates. I was shot at, cut and pickpocketed by fans of rap and hip hop. Recently, one of them turned around and hit me from behind. I don’t trust them. Nor like them. They are communist like. Look at Bronx, New York, east New York, the Nycha projects were I live. And Chicago. Have you heard of Ms-13, blood, cripts and Latin kings? They are heavily influenced by rap and hip hop. They believe they are always right and never wrong. Wherever these fans of hip hop rappers are they are involved in rape, robberies, holdups and. Blue collar crimes. If argentines claim they are descendants of Europeans, then rap and hip hop is not for Argentina. The leaders of rap and hip hop are Nubian. They speak for us without our permission. Many black racists are rappers and hip hopers. They always want to be right and they are never wrong. Rap and hip hop are naturally against European history and want to replace it with black history. Many Argentines whom I have talked to have been mistreated by black racists who are also fans of rap and hip hop. Those robberies I have heard in argentina are done by hip hop rappers fans. Rap and hip hop was created in the USA and there it should end. Rap and hip hop is not Argentina 🇦🇷.

[@hackstergirl5644]

That guy looked more like Gary Busey than Ashton Kutcher

[@nahuelolmos2709]

Argentina, the best country in the universe

[@misscogito]

i constantly have to pause on spanish language fragments to read because they speak soooo faaaast!!! :D :D :D

[@CharlyAlemania]

hah yeah we definitely speak too fast xD

[@xtreme6554]

Fun fact: argentine accent Is one of the slowest

[@JonathanHarkerYT]

Spanish’s the second fastest spoken language after Japanese. It’s mainly because consonant-vocal, consonant-scheme. Argentine Spanish is even faster, as wε drop intermediate or final consonants. Read Wikipedia article on this (preferably Spanish version, translated into English). But better approach them in English. Easy and slow. Most girls you could be looking for (top-tier) will understand (and even like it). Best regards.

[@xtreme6554]

@@JonathanHarkerYT Our battle will be legendary. Argentine accent is one of the slowest. The fastests are chilean, mexican and spaniard

[@comentarios-comentarios]

deberias escuchar a fantino relatar a boca juniors

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Is the Argentinian approach for YOU? 🇦🇷

[@megallgurl]

Awwwww

[@franingegnieri1831]

Claro ahora todos en los comentarios son dioses del chamuyo no?? 😂😂 Estamos todos dando catedra

[@supersuede91]

Hahahaha opposite of us Norwegians :D

[@mharg6408]

Lol, sorry, anyway not all Argentines act like this way, I try to be authentic. But it is truth that my country is full of this type of guys. Blessings

[@franciscovilcheavila960]

how norwegians acts?

[@tamics9978]

Hola! Como actúan los noruegos? Soy argentina y quería saber 👍🏼

[@breadloaf2163]

@@tamics9978 Timidos y medio boludongos.

[@ggl2947]

@@mharg6408 Por que pedis disculpas? Es un poco ridiculo no te parece?

[@RyanWebster7]

First!

[@javieractisperino9409]

Game people play.

[@actonman7291]

The men in Argentina are way too possesive and pretty much got good game on everall pretty smart on flirt with women however the argentine women dont go easy on foreigns unless the guy is like Michael Bubble or Matt Damon type must be white too so Mister Patel or Tyrone wont feel like they are in Colombia. get it?. My two cents here.

[@lissandrafreljord7913]

That Michael Bubble stole our Argentine Barbie Luisana. Hopefully no one will steal Valentina Zenere.

[@sebastianleloir6956]

Na. Lo de blanco no es verdad. Tenés que ser un tipo lindo, si no plus tener plata y sino plus hablar bien y estar bien vestido y si no plus lo de rubio o blanco. Si sos morocho pero buen físico y buena ropa tenés chances como cualquiera. Lo de blanco es un plus en cualquier país de Latinoamérica. Argentina lo de blanco es normal por lo que no es tan un plus. Más bien rubio ojos celestes sería un plus.

[@nathancasey7712]

Generalizations are just that. There are plenty of women in Argentina who like brown skin men.

[@actonman7291]

@@nathancasey7712 well check this out yes but only the brown mediterranean type italian spanish greek not other foreign brown ones. Generalizations are for a reason as exception to prove that.

[@franciscovilcheavila960]

@@actonman7291 but italians/spanish/greek have brown skin because THEY TAN EASILY, when the summer is over they came back to their pale skintone somebody who have natural brown skin is discriminated

[@acidokidz]

Another don't do this to add from an Argentinians perspective: don't start rapping out of nowhere at 3 am while we are enjoying a burger

[@RatonDelibreria]

Yo interesante : Soy el menos chamuyero de todos...

[@marian147258ify]

Para cuando Paraguay?

[@nicopena9639]

Chamuyo = Rizz

[@Replayff-dw8ge]

Los chamuyeros tambien tienen q hacerle reir ala mina cuando le hace rier con sus chiste pedorros ya la tenes

[@banigrisson]

Chamuyar = rizz up As simple as that

[@niclesnyc]

Ashton Kutcher???!!! Hhahahahahahahahahhahahahah.

[@DeafArch]

Interesting. If it means that they pretend to be someone else rather than be themselves, to get those women, then I am out of the game as I much rather be authentic when approaching or chatting with a woman. I also want an authentic woman as well.

[@actonman7291]

Copium.

[@garedmorort]

In the west the “art” of courting is practically dead. In most of the rest of the world is still a thing as if has been for thousands of years. It used to be like that too in the west not too long ago.

[@DeafArch]

@@garedmorort But that art you described is still alive but not as pronounced as in the past in USA where I am from. But it is good that more and more rather be themselves so they can see them as who they are like a peek into the window for the future

[@DeafArch]

@@actonman7291 Are you referring to me or the people who play the "game"?

[@garedmorort]

@@DeafArch True, the US is an outlier (on average) as in many things and there’s a reason why. If women in a society are receptive to courting, men don’t have many options than to play the game

[@asturiana3528]

Para tener pareja en Argentina seas hombre o mujer necesitas UNA sola cosa para conquistar a una argentina/o y es el "chamuyo" pero obvio el chamuyo es solo argentino no se aprende, se nace así pa

[@seanmikhael1767]

_How to approach and flirt like an Argentinian:_ Pause at 1:15 and look to the left. *That.* 😎

[@user-xu3bg7zh9c]

no hay nada jajaja

[@FranciscoGarcia-lv7mj]

​@@user-xu3bg7zh9c1:12 quizo decir

[@MademoiselleRed1390]

Chamuyar is bullshitting your way through flirting.

[@francius3103]

👃

[@JonathanHarkerYT]

Argentine girls are overall more conservative. **BUT** IF YOU LOOK LIKE A TYPICAL AMERICAN (the Germanic looks) they could even approach you. And when being overseas our girls tend to be more relaxed. They would even go top ehemm less on Spanish/French beaches. I went to UY recently. I sometimes look like European or American. It was amazing. They could even show their 🦪 to me.

[@filmonmeshesha8]

What is Chamuyeros meaning

[@actonman7291]

Its basically "game" sweet talking you love bombing flirt innuendos

[@emilia8620]

Player

[@actonman7291]

@@emilia8620 from tons of players to a nice guy after get postwall.

[@marvinsilverman4394]

THAT SPEAKS A LOT FOR A PURPOSE

[@migueltavernise5620]

A snake charme dear friend a dandy here at leasr😊

[@leandropotroel6844]

Too much CRINGE. Greetings from Argentina

[@nicolasvega2658]

maru es linda pero infumable

[@fashionspy96]

Los que pueden, pueden. Los que no, bardean

[@nicolasvega2658]

@@fashionspy96 mi ex estaba mejor. Pero igual de infumable

[@cool_cat007smoove3]

Fantastic Video. You have to fart on those rap bars at the end. 😮😢😞🤐🤮

[@JayFocused]

hahaha

[@jon2813]

Que cringe cuando quieren hablar como yankees y empiezan a tirar el “like” cada tres palabras

[@wintercoffin]

Decir cringe te hace automáticamente un boludo.

[@user-vs2bd1ln9u]

Si están hablando en Ingles como chota queres que hablen?

[@nathancasey7712]

@@wintercoffin peor que decir "like" 😂

[@pampitam]

@@user-vs2bd1ln9u Que no hablen como unos pavos

[@constanzalenza1765]

@@pampitamque no hablen directamente jajajaja

[@acuerdox]

Dont believe these people, they dont know what they say.

[@RKELS69]

TAMBIEN POR LA MISERIA D ECONOMIA SI TIENES PLATA LAS ARGENTINAS COPEAN..❤

[@3dufo]

Attention: detected a fool

[@GabrielalejandroAreal]

Detect INDIGENA

[@gusrocci6407]

Jaaa sera en barrios bajos una porteña no lo creo

[@franciscovilcheavila960]

Si vas a un pr0stibulo y a las zonas bajas si.

[@tamics9978]

​@@franciscovilcheavila960😂😂😂

[@TheThingIs415]

9:40 this girl with white skin is a walking red flag. She expects everything and doesnt do anything. Run, guys, ruuuun!

[@user-vs2bd1ln9u]

Well, i love her anyways

[@franciscovilcheavila960]

Well she says something true: In Argentina going out with a stranger without not even know his name is a risky situation. And even theres a difference between going to a blind date with somebody from a date app than getting asking out for a stranger on the streets or in a party.

[@s3rg10arg6]

Parece estupido pero si correcto lo es. Una chica hace reportajes en Inglés a los Argentinos que también responden en inglés y los que comentan son en su mayoría Argentinos que escriben su opinión en Inglés. 👋👋🤌👋😂

[@AgustinIune]

un truco de magia?? un truco de magia ? creo que entrevistaste al chabon mas virgo de la argentina