Curing Approval Addiction - with JP Sears

Curing Approval Addiction - with JP Sears
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What to do when your life is run by your addiction to other people's approval? This is an addiction that I struggle with in my life, accordingly I share my perspectives on how to minimize your need to disgrace yourself by giving yourself away in order to gain approval and maximize your ability to honor yourself.
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[@paulcasserly8918]

Dude, that was so satisfying that I can't put my feelings into words. And that's ok because I no longer need validation from others.

[@paulcasserly8918]

... in explaining it.

[@kvhowells]

yep..i have been honoring myself by not people pleasing ......i must remember .......i am not responsible for everyones happiness...

[@Colorlocoyarte]

Thank you for sharing. Learning to be OK with not being ok is the ultimate answer to overcoming automatisms, be as it may, approval addiction or any other pattern driving us away from our true , authentic self. Big approval and thumbs up JP! :)

[@matthewherzog6155]

I'm lying here in the gutter with an approval syringe sticking out of my arm.

[@AwakenWithJP]

+Matthew Herzog One day at a time.

[@chenghuapang7504]

OMG. I came from the meat eater video but this is a great advice that can possibly save my life.

[@GeneBurnett]

"I'm JP Sears and I approve this message."

[@OutdoorAdventurecraft]

Just wanted to tell you this video came at just the right moment for me the other day. Thank you and great job! Your channel is intelligent and funny. Keep it up

[@AwakenWithJP]

+Outdoor Adventurecraft Thank you for watching at just the right moment!

[@ladyk5000]

JP Sears, I'm a recent fan. Both your authentic and comedic insights are what our world needs. What a gorgeous, clever spirit you are. I approve!💛

[@AwakenWithJP]

+LadyK Your approval quenches my codependent thirst :-) I really appreciate your kind words!

[@dolcedolente]

Great video, JP! Thank you for your insight! If I may be so bold as to offer, these are the steps that I have taken that have helped me break AA - at least, for most of the time: 1) Take long walks alone, consciously noticing the continuous singularity in all things. "That butterfly, dandelion, oak tree, other human being, Dalmatian, etc right there shares some of the very same DNA code that reside in the nuclei of my autosomatic cells." And the correlate: "I - the ego 'I' - am but only a slight variant of the universal 'I' that surrounds me, that makes up the particles on Mars, that lives in the supernovas of Alpha Centuri, etc. I don't need the approval of 'others;' I am 'the others.'" Sounds cheesy maybe, but can be powerful in perception alteration. 2) Begin everyday with three pages of stream-of-conscious writing. No judgements, no editing - this is for your eyes only. (e.g. "Morning Pages" as explained in Julia Cameron's fantastic Artist's Way book). Nothing is too trivial; just write without stopping. I find this aids in the connection of the synapses, which allows for easier communication of internal messages to others. Then, go talk to the faces you see in real life at your school, local café, grocery store, bank, etc. 3) YMMV, but for extreme cases like mine, get off social media. Seriously and permanently. I'm not kidding. Delete your Facebook, erase your Instagram, cancel your Twitter, etc. - anything that encourages "like-hunting." This may prove difficult at first, not only because of the social need that has built a reliance upon the drug of superficial online relationships, but also because so many peripheral items like political events, news stories, social collaboration groups, fan circles, restaurant and store coupons now resort to things like Facebook for promotion. The trade-off is now I have to dig to stay on top of current events. I have to call, email, and text friends and family. I have to visit webpages of activism groups to which I belong or product lines whose new releases I want to keep an eye on. I can't save some Android game progresses (wahhh boo-hoo). And, I don't save that $2 in the Facebook exclusive coupon for Jimmy John's or whatever. Which I guess can sound like a lot of cost. But, here on the flip-side of my decision, what I have gained back in lost self-reliance, face-to-face relations, and available free time has more than paid for itself in Facebook promotional benefits. Sorry for my novella. Hope it can help somebody else out there. Best to you and your viewers /endbabbling

[@AwakenWithJP]

For sure, thank you for offering your insightful steps my friend!

[@theresabeville4420]

"Helped to break AA" steps are pretty cool. I needed that. Approval seeking in AA (or anywhere) can cost you your soul. "Guard your soul". Getting sober is one thing and helping others is another but the gut wrenching abandonment that comes with approval seeking is soul destruction. And your soul is you. Thanks

[@chubbatheBOSS]

"I just snapped my fingers like I was gonna say something smart." You are sooo awesome JP! I can't get enough of your videos man, they're hilarious and wise- best combo ever! Your advice also integrates compassion into it instead of being too hard on oneself. I love it. (don't mistake that for approval or anything, get your own! heheh)

[@GlitterGhoul]

This is definitely one of the hardest things to keep in check with emotionally, so easy to flip flop. Thank you for the insight!

[@AwakenWithJP]

I do lots of flip flopping on this too!

[@kaylajackson3520]

I pooped today? Omg that made me laugh so hard! Thank you!

[@zaktripper4908]

I approve your screen name.

[@VladVendetta]

Approval/Disapproval comes from the "I am not enough," belief. Yes, it's imperative to become comfortable with the discomfort of such "growth zones," but this is arguably cart-before-the-horse. In my experience, it is not possible to dissolve the addiction through treating the symptoms. Symptoms are Hydra heads that just sprout more symptoms when treated. The weed must be pulled at the root and the root of approval addiction is self disapproval. You have to be the type of person that you would approve of; a person of integrity, a person who is honest a person who is giving, kind, loving and perpetually growing. The more we become, rather than pretend to be, such a person, the more the addiction dissolves, as a byproduct. Great video, as always! Thank you!

[@gaetanodragonetti3942]

Your comment hit me just in the center. It makes total sense and I can completely relate to what you described. I had been trying to fight the symptoms with "patches" or even with ways to distract myself from all that and pretending to not care, but the issue was and has always been there. When I work on my self-growth, personal goals and such, the symptoms seem to improve. I will remember your words on bad days. Thank you.

[@AwakenWithJP]

That's food for thought right there!

[@makouras]

+Vlad Vendetta You're absolutely right, but this applies only to one's inner self. There are a lot of people (myself included) who are unhappy with the way they look and therefore feel the need for approval on this aspect of their lives. Call them - and me - shallow but this is a real feeling that's really hard to keep in check.

[@VladVendetta]

+makourass As above, so below. As within, so without. Wayne Dyer said, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change..." this includes your reflection in a mirror. People win the lottery and a year later they are poor again, because despite their external situation changing for the better, they were still poor inside; the external world will always atone with your internal world... People lose weight to the point of anorexia and get addicted plastic surgery; They call it body dysmorphia, but what it really is, is an incongruity between what Is and an egoic distortion of what Is. All change starts from within. Your feelings are the seeds to what will gradually be generated in your external world. You are not shallow for feeling how you feel. Shaming yourself for how you feel/how you "should" feel is, a success barrier. One of many, I'm sure. Keep on your path and quiet the judgmental internal monologue through meditation, yoga, or whatever works for you... this is the key, first step. Get out of your own way.

[@LitoGeorge]

Good stuff Vlad. Thumbs up.

[@ReptileNexus]

"Every breath I take without your approval boosts my growing self esteem!" -Rick Sanchez, Season 4, ep 3 Rick and Morty.

[@lady1668]

Reptile Nexus yessss! ✊🏽

[@michaelsterling8065]

I never thought I would like Rick & Morty.

[@fredhubbard7210]

I disliked this video to help you feel comfortable without my approval... Is that okay?

[@seapr6]

+John Thomson hahahahha

[@mikeesty2513]

+John Thomson No, because disapproval is the same as approval ;)

[@hausinnermagic]

be ok with approving of yourself for not being sure if you are ok with yourself for disliking this video to help you feel comfortable without your approval

[@redmoonx]

I recomend to not seek his approval, just like or dislike the video according to what you feel. x3

[@dreamcatalyst]

I disliked this comment...don't want you to be left out of the fun John!!

[@Michelle-om2jd]

"Be ok, with not feeling ok." is such a wonderful thing, I can see where it can have usefulness in other aspects of life. For instance: those heavy times of anticipation for the future, and times when needing to bite the bullet to reach a goal.

[@dchristensen777]

Learn how to feel ok when you're not feeling ok. You hit the nail on the head!

[@Scootercus]

I've needed to hear this message for a little while now but until I heard the right words in the right order, I wasn't getting it. Thanks for helping me get the message I've been needing. And I just made them work for me. "Getting comfortable with not feeling comfortable." And allowing myself to honor my own individuality. Approving of myself first. Thanks so much for this. I know this will help me be a better role model for my kids and that means the world to me, seeing them honor themselves.

[@gyongyi85]

I really love the way you talk about things. Makes me feel like I am OK with all my stuff by showing your own vulnerability. I can specially relate to approval addiction. Loved the video!

[@365reece]

I'm definitely stuck in the zone of always wanting approval of others, I hardly ever act myself just cause I want act how I think people want me to, and what will give me the most positive attention

[@KanoWhite53]

True words JP. I (unknowingly) spent a long time seeking the approval of my peers in my art practice. Upon realising this, I put myself in a vulnerable place to do work that I am happy with and enjoy doing. This led to great changes both in concepts, techniques and mediums. The truly ironic (and surprising) result was that ever since making this move, my work has never seen so much approval financially and validation..... (Pfft, not that I care! Right?!) So the lesson from now on is to keep the need for approval in check and remain in control of one's own destiny. This video gives me approval to do this :P

[@AwakenWithJP]

You're now officially approved 😜

[@Thedirtylittletruth]

I gave a thumbs up because it is a subconscious action to help me approve of myself. Approving you means approving myself! Accept all and love all then you will accept yourself and ultimately love thyself ❣️

[@CTC1126]

Oh gosh, this is 100% my daily struggle. There are so many things I would have done differently had I not panicked and done the choices of my friends and family for their approval. Thank you for this JP!

[@RaggedyA]

wonderful descriptions. "womb of the self", "honoring the kingdom of the self", marvelous! inspiring JP. Thanky!

[@yamnehroncero4238]

I think approval is a big part of our social mechanism as human beings. We need the approval of others for survival. If I commit a crime, an extreme example, society won't approve or validate that behavior and lock me up. It's hardwired in our brains to seek approval and we simple CANNOT live without approval. We are social beings and nobody can do anything on their own. That's the theory lol In practice, I have always felt invalidated and unapproved of since very early childhood. I realized that last week watching a video of self-validation. Self-validation or self-approval is basically the will and the action of validating yourself. If my name is Bob, a thought or mindset or a mantra type affirmation of self-validation would be : "Bob, you did something good now" "Bob, I validate your existence, your emotions, your thoughts, etc" "Bob, I approve of you" "Bob, you did well of not calling her" "Bob, it's okay if you don't like that person or that situation" "Bob, I'm happy you're a good person" Anyways, those are just little example of the kind of self-validation thought exercises I do to nurture my self-approval skills because I really did not know how to do so and I especially always looked at others of validation of my thoughts, actions and behavior in social settings, school, work, etc. I was always a people pleaser and it made me really uncomfortable to my core to be criticized, thus unapproved of. It made me feel incredibly insecure and I took it at heart. I always have been veeeeeeeery self-concious which is a way of wanting to be approved of by not actually being sure if your very own presence is meeting other peoples expectations, or being liked or being accepted, etc. I would feel incredibly self-conscious just crossing the street... Imagine how I was when time came to ask a girl out or her number... More than that, in the last 2 years, I became addicted to the validation of my best friend whom I fell madly in love with. I gave her the power to validate me. I didn't know I did, it was an unconscious thing. I became very sensitive to her every word and behavior concerning me. I became jealous and envious and always wanted to be with her to get that fix of validation because with her... I felt completely myself and totally at peace. Being shy and ackward, with her, I could let go and goof off and be myself all the time 100%. Because I didn't know how to validate myself, I was looking for her opinions, thoughts and advice continually to make myself feel good... It made me a codependent. I learned self-love, self-belief, self-forgiveness and now, only last week did I learn self-validation, to finally be my own man and be comfortable with validation myself. Honestly, it's only the beginning, but I can already feel way better. I have more confidence and am way less insecure and people can really less affect me with their criticism because my internal well-being is no longer 100% dependent on what other people think of me. Sure, it's only the beginning, so I do slip into insecurity, but seriously, more and more, the judgement of other people just ricochets off my skin... Day by day, I'm building my bulletproof self-approving and self-validating shield to make my happiness and well-being completely be under my jurisdiction. Basically, I'm learning to say that nobody can make me feel insecure or unhappy without my consent. For someone that has always dealt with shyness, ackwardness, social anxiety in one way or another, this is a totally life changing skill. It makes me more present, focused, grounded, confident, happy, relaxed and basically enables me to surrender to what is and let go of the past. I get all that in learning and practicing to validate and approve my soul, my existence, my emotions, my thoughts, my life, my dreams, my goals, my actions, my desires, my wants and my needs. Little by little, I'm defeating this incredibly debilitating addiction... I'm not there yet, of course, two days ago I became incredibly insecure when this beautiful girl in a library looked at me expecting me to get up and talk to her. I didn't. I froze. I wanted to. I felt she was exactly the type of sweet and gentle girl I needed and for that reason, feeling the fear of failure or rejection, I didn't move. I was feeling pretty good about myself with the new found self approval, internally somewhat showing off and being cocky, so that was a kind of test by the universe I suppose, life is a bitch sometimes :p, telling me that I've still got a ways to go.... Long comment, I know, but I just wanted to share a bit of my story to say that self-validation, as self-love or self-forgiveness, can really be life-changing and it is a really important skill to teach others and develop. Thanks JP ! Love your videos

[@TakiyaToku]

I love you being serious about our struggles with too much of everything what hinders us in spiritual and self developing progress. And I truly love your "hm", which opens room to reflect your input.

[@CorvaireWind]

I was _going_ to give this a thumbs up, but thought twice because I don't want to enable you. ;O)-

[@sanssserif]

Really needed this message today. You share such meaningful work & it's very appreciated.

[@oneheckofanadventure6809]

Approval addiction (for me) has its root in abandonment. You can never be abandoned. You are worthy. Honor your inner light. You are priceless and don't have to prove your being. You can never be abandoned if you don't abandon yourself. Rise up into your highest power. Take charge. I am responsible for treating myself good - and therefore setting the example of how other people shall treat me. And not the other way around.

[@TamraOG]

Love that you're insightful but have humor videos too. I'm so happy I found you!

[@tburnette910]

Love the humor and the therapy. Thank you for the wise guidance.

[@healingbean6236]

It's about developing a relationship with yourself. Learn to make mistakes and forgive yourself. When you're the one you go to when unhappy or happy you don't need people's approval. You can still share with others what's happening to you but you're not dependent emotionally on their reaction or approval.

[@GMPspartanazo]

Your videos have helped me a lot with a difficult time in my life, you have no idea how i appreciate your videos

[@josephreynolds1220]

i like the comedy/commentary stuff, but this kinda of content is why i subscribed, JP.. Happy new year man.

[@ripsagoly]

Where have you been all my life .... you are a true gems .. an advocate of truth ... awesome message !!

[@asiacallier1]

This is pure brilliance. Thank you so much!

[@MadameX_]

You are a rare breed JP. love your comedy and your serious videos. Both are from the mind of a highly intelligent and sensitive person. So glad my friend turned me onto you.

[@PositivevIBS]

Awesome video! Spoke to me and how I feel about posting certain content on my channel. Watching this was definitely a confidence-booster. Keep it up!

[@francoffa]

I'm sure this has been written a hundred times in a hundred different ways (this way being one of them), but your words here are so wise and I had previously never considered approval addiction or the remedy. Beautifully analyzed and so very helpful. Thank you for taking the time to discuss something that aided someone who didn't even think they needed it. ❤️

[@sombiee]

lovely video JP, thank you for sharing

[@vanderleidallagnolo]

You explain in a very clear and elegant way. Thank you.

[@TheFaro2011]

you know, I think I've got it figured. I don't care for approval or disapproval, I am happy with me.

[@TheMrJuliocesar]

One thing that helps me when I'm suffering from fear of not being approved is to remember that I'm really small in the other person's point of view. If I'm such a disturbance to him/her I must be only a small one, because I believe that everybody is so drowned in his/her emotions and thoughts as I am in mine.

[@swingkat1954]

The best honesty I've heard in a loooonnng while!

[@chickadee5566]

This is awesome

[@Br0ns0n]

I found this channel after seeing a funny video/comedy focused video a friend sent me. But many of these are pretty profound. I have gained some valuable tools here. Thank you.

[@amydodson279]

This really helped me today. It's not from me seeking approval but from doing what my internal self has felt like I should have done instead of being in a place of mild discomfort to avoid greater discomfort

[@JMMSOURCE]

Be ok with not being ok... love how you put this..thanks JP

[@cosmos7227]

Your advice is always kind and insightful and I appreciate it so much 😊

[@jimmywayne983]

Good job JP - Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

[@TheKoreanVegan]

Love this.

[@nancykisich3263]

You are the bomb dude! You totally nail it with the teal swans and company out there. Thank you!!!

[@sciencelablablab7625]

JP you make me feel uncomfortable, but I feel comfortable in that uncomfort. Thank you.

[@magnifiqella]

Thank you so much for this video. Really needed this wisdom today. Much love

[@guillaumecds5833]

Finally something that makes sense on that topic ! « Be okay with not feeling Okay and stop seeking people’s approval to temporary fix that feeling »

[@davidreagan7090]

I just stumbled upon this video while watching your comedic videos. I have gone through times where I wanted peoples approval and times when I did not care. I think a large part of it is being honest with yourself and excepting who you are, your strengths and weaknesses. Like you said, it is our imperfections that make us unique. Once people realize that there imperfections are only in the eye of the beholder, you realize that there is no such thing as an imperfection, just a subjective characteristic. Once that is done, you are free from being self conscious about that characteristic and you are free to not care about anyone's approval on that characteristic.

[@erimozata5120]

''Learn to feel ok with not feeling ok''. Yes sir!

[@LauraFigueroa]

not skipping the ads cause you're awesome dude

[@davidj4662]

This makes a lot of sense. Thanks for explaining. Very helpful.

[@benjaminhill3302]

Great video JP. Exactly what i needed to hear today, as i have been frequently wondering why i seek approval for a few weeks now. Thank you!

[@agoodlittlewitch]

Excellent advice! Thank you

[@cjwells0814]

This was soooooo helpful. Thank you so much!

[@raybjr]

Thank you for your insight! Be Well

[@dinakof]

Thank you so much! Helps a lot, especially the last part.

[@coltonbelley5213]

Thank you for the wise words, JP. ❤️

[@seapr6]

This was really great food for thought (seriously). I approve even though you don't need it!

[@mariahmorency3733]

I love your presence!

[@ianmcdonald8888]

I see you have 10% approval. So I will neither approve or not approve. I think I just validated, well done JP.

[@ifsheisgonetowherethere6259]

this is amazing and just what I needed... now to watch it three more times to try to get myself to understand how to implement it in my life

[@LisaJShultz]

I am writing a book that my family might not approve of fully because it is about my dad's decline and death. Despite the fact that its intention is to be informative, inspiring and hopeful to the reader, my family may disapprove of me telling the story. So I am adjusting to being uncomfortable and not seeking their approval for the bigger picture of helping others.

[@brendamcfarlane9383]

This video has really helped me at work. Thank you so much!

[@ArtofFreeSpeech]

Learn, and really understand that every individual is different, values different things, has different experiences, and therefore is completely unqualified to judge you on any level. This takes learning to look at things from several angles (as many angles as you can), from several perspectives. As soon as you do that, you realize, as I said, nobody, other than yourself, is qualified to judge you about anything, and you are fine just as you are. Of course, if you're the only person qualified to judge yourself, be prepared for some pretty harsh judgement... then you have to learn to forgive yourself, and that's a whole different topic.

[@bitsinmyblood]

+Art Scott I disapprove of your use of commas. However, I think your message is spot on and I approve of it. Thank you. :)

[@ArtofFreeSpeech]

Christian Gentry In re-reading, I have to agree with you about the commas. I was... uh, a tad heavy handed with them (not that I *need* your approval ;) ). *Very* happy my message reached someone and/or could help someone.

[@karenkennedy6331]

I left a friendship that I was so desperate to have, seeking her approval and putting my own feelings on hold, because I did not want to feel uncomfortable, make waves, and go against her. It did not work and the friendship was at a not very authentic level.

[@Archnamohan]

This is an amazing video jp. Ax

[@letterhead2045]

JP I loved this especially as women especially we seek approval to the extent of even changing our bodies with liposuction, implants, botox, fillers, face lifts and so on. It is really like a chronic disease to look nice and be nice. Thank you for this.

[@lizcorbett2587]

wow you really are ultra spiritual!!! this is awesome^^

[@starw4934]

You Proved it to Me, JP.

[@carlabruni5223]

Thank you for this one.

[@keithacord3957]

Learn to feel ok for not feeling ok - wow how so profound

[@juicenozzle2575]

Thank you, JP.

[@PrydeFoltz]

Everyone sees the world through her own lens ... which means that if someone disapproves of you ... in other words judges you ... it is because this is a place within herself where she is not accepting and chances are a place where you are also judgy-judgy of yourself and others. In this world the only real foe you will meet lies within. Learn to be appreciative of yourself and others as much as possible. (A. Hicks) The more you move to appreciation, the more you will receive it from others and when you don't get it, you will have the self-love to laugh it off. And even though you will be constantly receiving approval from others, you will lose the hunger for it. You will obtain self-satiation. To being uncomfortable ... suffering ... this is a sign that your thought patterns are off ... that you are experiencing fear and/or judging. I would be wary of becoming comfortable with suffering. Long term this will lead to depression or anger. Just the way it works. Note the suffering but don't hang out there. Personally I have lost the need for approval from the world at large ... at least today;) There is no controlling the way others think. But as recently discovered I still very much seek it from those I hold a little dearer. There is no perfection and we all remain rapidly improving works-in-progress. Cut yourself and others slack. Choose compassion and love over empathy and suffering. JP, you don't need my approval but I think you rock the man-bun. Always a pleasure when I see you have released a new video.

[@BogdanEchoMilosevic]

Thanks for this, makes total sense, I guess approval in itself is to see a video which confirms there's more people feeling this way than just me for example, so thumbs up! :)

[@Smart44Lady]

If I don't dishonor myself, don't give myself away, then I get to be myself. That sounds like freedom to me :-)

[@Alikatt9]

You made some really great points. Loved it.

[@AwakenWithJP]

I appreciate that!

[@amberlemadden]

Thank you Jp!

[@InconsistentContent]

Awesome video!

[@jackiefruhwirth]

We all have never-ending limitless love and grace from God, which is better than approval.

[@Apostate_ofmind]

came here for humor anf wit, found sound advice. thumbs up

[@romeyburgin7221]

Good job JP, that was a good talk. (Approval fix)

[@kingofbleh]

This is actually really good.

[@deanlangley9078]

What I find really helps, because I would seek approval chronically, is to say "I approve of myself" repeatedly until the need to get approval from the other person goes away, which usually isn't long!

[@malinagruen7523]

Thank you, very useful thoughts. I'm handling my need for approval by seeking it in a relaxed way whenever possible. Actually, I found that I get much more approval from others when I don't try to force it. And I will also feel much more self respect, than if I run after it in a very needy way. So I try to keep an attitude of: If I get approval for something I do that's good, if I don't, I don't care to much. But of course that's only possible when I'm already feeling mostly good about myself. During less balanced phases of my life it's much harder/impossible not to feel disappointed.

[@karenkennedy6331]

Learning so much!

[@mikeesty2513]

Damn. Thought provoking. Approval Addiction is something that I suspected of myself, but lurking in the depths. I always thought of myself as independent of others' approval, but it simply isn't true. I will try to implement the strategies in the video to my own life.

[@Jessicaunarex]

Love your channel. I'm a new fan. :)

[@suchandradasi]

Thank you for tolerating mosquitoes and bugs etc, to get these beautifully done videos with gorgeous organic backgrounds. I did it a few times for singing a song and it's not as easy as it looks...but it looks so good. :-) Gorgeous like a work of art..

[@SoulDelSol]

being outside is hard?

[@Babu-kr3cr]

+Dan Sullivan Mosquitoes and disapproval are the bane of the young these days. No discomfort is tolerated.

[@GrowWithSupreet]

Love love love what you said JP! Your advice can be applied to other addictions too. If I can be okay to not feel okay, I will not reach for sugar/chocolate etc. to make myself feel better.

[@praiselove8471]

I hate making other people feel uncomfortable I don't know why I try to make other people happy so much!

[@ditty88]

Praise Love, if you're being your awesome-est, then making them uncomfortable may be a good thing for them, I think because it makes them think and feel in the moment. let your loveliness shine! :) (I have this issue, too :) )

[@Garganzuul]

Subscribed! And since I'm awesome, obviously you are awesome too! :D Self-approval should be bounded and unlimited. Bounded in that you set the 'rules' which you live by, and unlimited in that when you do everything according to your own rules you get to feel as self-satisfied as you possibly can. - Then the normal faults of being human; forgetfulness, lassitude, and fickleness can and will bring you safely back to earth. - Humans are such perverted creatures that we can learn our own faults and engineer them into an advantage, such as setting up your action-reward system based on addiction and enlightened self-interest. It is important to feel good about yourself. So important in fact that logic, reason, and social expectations take a back seat to this feeling. The reason for this is that without feeling good about yourself you won't maintain the energy to participate in and contribute to society. It's a double-whammy, and this is why the opposite, depression, is such a terrifying, debilitating disease. If you can not self-approve, and still need approval so that your basic ability to learn still functions, then seeking the approval of perhaps a teacher or a parent becomes one of your very few options. These people however are fallible human beings, and they might fail to teach you in the long-term to self-approve. Observe, that this is leading up to the conclusion that your self-approval does not need to be justified. You make your own rules. You do not need a reason to live. To be alive is enough. In this state of mind, find bliss in simply breathing! Let I AM I become I AM!

[@trnsl8or847]

I approve! 😋 Thanks for the video and talking about this subject.

[@AwakenWithJP]

Thank you for the approval! It's chicken soup for my codependent soul 😜

[@Naima1071]

Make more videos on this subject please jp we love you 😘