Cut off for being gay

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[@vialogan]

Moral: Never spill secrets before the check is cashed!

[@forpetessake3532]

moral - God made woman for man

[@dutchik5107]

​@@forpetessake3532 so your child suddenly is not your child anymore because she is not a servant to a man? eventho you have them it when they were single. I don't see how it is different. being with a woman or being single for that perspective.

[@maggiereeves2534]

​@@dutchik5107 your comment is just simply full of ridiculousness. Servant of man my ass..Women are so against men these days it's pathetic. If a man goes into a relationship with that thought, You need to be honest and say, I'm needing a servant, not a wife.

[@ibamuad]

​@@forpetessake3532 wrong place buddy

[@Oliviaandtrina]

​@@forpetessake3532 find a different place to spew hate speech. Think you found the wrong page, maybe you thought this page is about how good the church is 😅😅😅

[@moeball740]

My wife is a youth chaplain at a church. One of the teens in the youth group came out to parents as gay. The good Christian evangelical parents decided the appropriate response was to kick the child out and put them on the street. They completely disowned the kid. After the teen spent a couple days in a shelter my wife intervened and got temporary custody from the parents so the youth could come live with us. We have now been the unofficial foster parents for this youth for 2 years. Yes, there is sometimes the typical teen angst and drama (school issues, breakups, makeups, etc.) but for the most part this is a good kid. We've been very happy to provide a stable home for this teen. Soon they will turn 18 and move on to the next chapter of their life whether that be college or whatever. Life is strange sometimes and things happen that you never anticipated.

[@patman9419]

When religion teaches you to hate, find a different religion.

[@heyyou-]

I think that this was more of the parents point of view. In the church we are taught to love everyone, no matter who they are or who they love. We do not preach being part of the LGBTQ community, but we are taught to love the individuals. One quote that I like to think of is "love the sinner not the sin" No matter how you present yourself or who you love, I would ALWAYS support and love you. As for the temple recommend question is says something along the lines of: do you support any organizations or groups that teach topics counter to the gospel (that's not the exact wording but its the general idea). I think that in the parents case they saw the fact that she was dating a girl and got nervous. They could have sat down with her and talked about her feelings and such. Once she explained it to them they could caution her that that was not what they felt was right, but they could have continued to love and accept her. Not all members of the Church of Jesus Christ would act that way. We all are humans and we make mistakes. Please keep that in mind as we all try to be our best, and love everyone.

[@thesc0tsm4n9]

or better yet, just leave religion.

[@mrsandmom5947]

Throwing the hate word around makes you feel superior. The parents don’t hate her. They disapprove of her lesbian lifestyle. They have a right to do so. I’m sure you disapprove of the parents lifestyle… but I’m also sure you hate their beliefs

[@thesc0tsm4n9]

@@mrsandmom5947 don't be disingenuous

[@moconnorduber1787]

The Bible does not teach hate.

[@lamoskgr]

They decided to have her. They agreed to love her unconditionally but because she didn't turn out the way they expected, they went back on that promise.

[@elgusano5785]

Loving her unconditionally means looking out for her well-being, and her eternal salvation. If you love your kids you wouldn't support them eating candy all day when they're kids would you??? They want to do it but you don't allow it so are you being unsupportive???

[@kimjones2056]

She never said they didn’t love her they said they didn’t support her live style. She is grown and responsible for her own bills

[@ghostcasper3185]

​@@LongJourneys that's your believe.

[@Lucifersfursona]

@@highball7347 why was sam young excommunicated? Mhm

[@peteraschaffenburg1]

@@elgusano5785ridiculous comparing being gay to eating candy all day. There is nothing wrong with being gay and anyone who thinks differently is a moron, excuse me, Mormon.

[@monicabroussard840]

My baby sister is gay and my parents didn't hesitate to accept her and her lifestyle. She is 40 and lives with them. I am a recovering addict and my parents never gave up on me even after me being addicted for 25 years. They put me in multiple rehabs and mental hospitals. But they never lost hope. I am just happy that i have been clean for 8 years. Its nice to give them the gift of sobriety to my parents. I dont know what i would do without them. No parent should ever treat their child this way

[@Wistful77]

👍🏻💗

[@vanderumd11]

Your parents sound like pushovers. Lucky for their crazy kids.

[@rainydaylady6596]

Your parents are incredible. How great to know they are there for you and your sister. Best wishes on your sobriety. 🤗🖖💕

[@markharrisllb]

I had a beautiful 17 year old daughter who let me know very early on that she was gay. Before she let me know I loved her unconditionally and was very proud of her. After she told me things changed. I loved her unconditionally, I was very proud of her… I was also proud that I’d got something right in my parenting and she trusted me.

[@princessbuttercup8954]

Knowing your kids trust you enough to come and talk to you about the toughest things is the ultimate reward as a parent. I remember when my 16 year old told me she thought she might be bisexual. I still get emotional thinking about just how nonchalant the conversation was. We might as well have been talking about apples. It was just normal. Makes me feel even worse for those in the LGBTQ community who are terrified to come out to the people that are suppose to love them unconditionally. My daughter has always known that I've got her back and no matter what she knows I'm gonna be her biggest fan, her proudest supporter and her loudest cheerleader. I'll never understand a parent that can turn their back on their child. Glad your daughter has a great mom that has her back.💜💜

[@mn-gg2sm]

That's sad. At 17 she told you she was homosexual. Would she be raising a child with the partner? Hope not we do not need more confusion for our children. Nothing to be proud of haveing a homosexual child. I would be devastated. Love can be tough. It's not all pride and glory.

[@mn-gg2sm]

​@@princessbuttercup8954 you have so many issues yo do with love. You sound confusing. I love my children and would still love them even if I do not see them or agree with them. If my child thinks he is homosexual. I would make him 5hink again. If he still thinks he is I would say love you son lovely to know you go and live your best life as I'm nothing to do with it. I wouldn't be able to see him with natural children . I wouldn't want to see him. Same respect I think.

[@BluAru]

@@mn-gg2sm I meannnn, don’t gay couples adopt the kids that straight couples couldn’t or wouldn’t take care of? I grew up without even knowing gay existed, there was never any open homophobia, it was just never mentioned. I turned out gay. Proof that exposure doesn’t change someone’s sexuality. It’s kinda weird and disturbing that you’d turn your back on someone just because of who they love.

[@beaglerescue5281]

You sound more like a friend and less like a parent.

[@thesc0tsm4n9]

parents using financial control to try to manipulate their children is so incredibly abusive.

[@midoryalcantar8300]

Huuuuh

[@sheilalangston7035]

Let their girlfriend or boyfriend support them. I would have done the same thing

[@hippychick420]

​@@sheilalangston7035 don't have kids if you're not ready to love them UNCONDITIONALLY. The absolute arrogance of you to even suggest. The hypocracy is spilling out of your mouth as you speak.

[@a.r.8987]

When you state everything is abuse nothing is.

[@bernierasmusson9257]

​@@sheilalangston7035Because you're a terrible person.

[@sburker32]

I can never understand how parents turn their back that easily! I'm a Christian woman and I know that when my daughter came out to me, she wasn't even scared because she knows I love her unconditionally and will always be there for her.

[@misskj7773]

Jesus’ own words tell us otherwise: (Luke 12:51-53” Do you think that I have come to bring peace to the earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on, five in one household will be divided, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Here Jesus let’s us know that we are to love Him and His Word above ALL else….Forsaking the relationships within family, if that is what it comes to…Likewise, Apostle Paul clearly tells us that from the willfully disobedient we are to turn away and have nothing to do with them, as they chose to live and remain in their willful sin. Harsh? No, we are to be separate and apart from those who live in overt and unrepentant disobedience, willful and arrogant sin against God (2 Timothy 3:1-5). Jesus is to be our First Love, above ALL others and ALL things (Revelation 2:4-5).

[@davemacgyver573]

Not really a "christian" if you love your kids above God's righteous laws. "He who loves son or daughter or father and mother more than me, is not worthy of me" (Matthew 10:37) Anyone who claims to be a Christian (Christian followers) obey and upholds his teachings.

[@gracehall9669]

Bless you 🙏. That's what a TRUE Mother & Christian would do. I have a gay cousin & he is still 1 of MY favorite ppl. Him & his husband adopted a beautiful 🌹 boy Love THEM & am so Proud 2 have them as a member of my family. As 4 her parents SHE SHOULD DISMISS as Parents!!! They Don't Disvere the TITLE PARENTS!!!! Get a new phone plan & Don't Give them your NEW Phone Number!!!

[@zambalic1]

You are not a Christian. Read Livitcus 20:13

[@ginagianelli1385]

So u don’t believe In the Bible ?

[@conniemorgan8402]

I’m so sorry, baby girl.. As a mother, I just have no words. I wonder if turning their backs on their child weighs on their conscience? Abandoning my daughter goes against my beliefs. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@misskj7773]

Jesus’ own words tell us otherwise: (Luke 12:51-53” Do you think that I have come to bring peace to the earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on, five in one household will be divided, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Here Jesus let’s us know that we are to love Him and His Word above ALL else….Forsaking the relationships within family, if that is what it has to come to…Likewise, Apostle Paul clearly tells us that from the willfully disobedient we are to turn away and have nothing to do with them, as they chose to live and remain in their willful sin. Harsh? No, we are to be separate and apart from those who live in overt and unrepentant disobedience, willful and arrogant sin against God (2 Timothy 3:1-5). Jesus is to be our First Love, above ALL others and ALL things (Revelation 2:4-5).

[@maggiereeves2534]

​@@misskj7773 Amen and thanks. 🙏

[@BluAru]

@@misskj7773 When you only ever do good things because your afraid of eternal suffering, that’s a sign of a bad person. You’re not gonna change my mind. I used to be religious, and I respect religion immensely, but you should take care of the people you committed to taking care of. Not doing so is immoral and honestly, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

[@misskj7773]

@@BluAru I listen to God’s Word above all else. It has nothing to do with religion and everything to go with our relationship with Jesus, He is to be our First Love above all else. God bless.

[@BluAru]

@@misskj7773 I hate to break it to you, but God is religion. We can't prove if they're real or not, making them superstition. If there are a group of people who worship an effectively non-existent entity (non-existent as in you can't use any of your five senses to sense them there), that's religion. Edit: I used a instead of an somewhere.

[@rebeccabraden204]

I hate that she had to go through that. When you have a child you are supposed to love them unconditionally. If someone tells me I can't help my child for any reason the drunken sailor would come out to play

[@brasguven742]

Not trying to invalidate her experience, the “Church” would never have told them not to assist their child. They made made their own reasoning/choice. The Church would not condone someone disowning their child.

[@sherristevens3972]

You love your children no matter what. I have a gay son who loves me and our family. I'm not gay. I'm grateful for my children and grandchildren. Amen ✝️ God bless ya'll

[@explorerx5934]

Take him to a real psychiatrist. He's sick

[@VEttariPEPC]

Wasn't it sin that sent him to thee cross which you display in your posts?

[@janinepettit2019]

So sad. A parents love should be unconditional. 😢

[@OO7sMom]

Nope, LOVE OF GOD AND HIS LAWS FIRST. SHE KNEW THEY WOULD NOT APPROVE

[@OO7sMom]

@@sworldartonline1336 You are right. At a point a child .miiust grow into adts. That includes being responsible for yourself and your actions . We love our children but responsibility is for the child to grow into adults by giving them all the love and support but ends when she chose that lifestyle she did it as an adult. SHE BLAMES THE PARENTS BUT SHE MADE THE MISTAKE !!! SHE WILL NOW BE FACED WITH LIFE DECISIONS BASED ON WHAT SHE KNOWS IS RIGHT OR WRONG. IM SURE HER PARENTS PRAY FOR HER SOUL BUT THE CHOICE IS HER OWN!! Saying it should be unconditional is an excuse she will use to further ruin her life!! Grow up !! Be what ever you want but it comes with consequences!!! She can turn her life around and be what GOD INTENDS FOR HER!! PRAY SHE SEES THE LIGHT!!

[@vickytaa1]

​@@OO7sMom you do know you cant choose to be gay right? you are born that way

[@davidmcphail7496]

I’m LDS (that’s short for Latter-day Saint) and have been involved in Church leadership enough to know that no one in Church leadership would ever disallow any parent from supporting their children. Even if they are living a gay lifestyle. And... there are no questions regarding children living a gay lifestyle and whether parents support them or not.

[@sherristevens3972]

Exactly 💯 AMEN 👍 that's what God says.. lov3 your children no matter what. He's the ultimate judge for their lives. My feelings are this. If your insecurities cause you to have a phobia of Gay people. Maybe you should rethink your own life. Don5 worry what others do that doesn't concern you. Unless they are doing criminal acts well just mind your business and stay in your lane and tak3 your hateful comments WAYYY... OVER THERE. Amen 👍 🙏 👍

[@druspringer3897]

This is true, and I have a gay daughter to prove it...

[@sherristevens3972]

@@druspringer3897 absolutely 💯. They ate still our children not to mention as a woman who carried my son. You cant hate a child you carried under your heart. Amen 👍 🙏 👍 Amen and never let anyone tell you to hate your child or children ever. They mess up their lives at times. Amen 👍 sometimes you have to be that tough love. Amen 👍 it's their lives and as they get older you have to keep your distance and let them grow. Advice if asked for and if they need help you do your best. You can't live their life. Amen 👍 watch as they bloom into adulthood and enjoy your grandchildren. They ❤️ are very important and they never do wrong 😆 🤣 good 👍 to be the Nana. We settle disputes with baking or slap jack or whatever 🤔 😆 🤣

[@glennamerrill4566]

I’m a Later Day Saint and have never been asked this question. I’m so sorry for your heartache but I think you’re not being told where the blame should be placed. Heavenly Father loves all his children . We as parents should never turn our backs against our child... Nor should we judge... Good luck to you sweetheart...

[@calamityjane4331]

I'm so sorry your parents turned away. I hope they evolve in their thinking. ❤🙏

[@satan_from_hell]

absolutely terrible. so many mormon parents really drill into your head that love is conditional and it makes you so fearful of what could happen when you inevitably don’t fit in the box they picked out for you

[@sheilalangston7035]

GOD and sin do not go together.

[@bernierasmusson9257]

​@@sheilalangston7035There is no good reason to believe in your silly god. You believe dumb things for stupid reasons.

[@Fiery154]

Rarely is love actually unconditional. Many families split up over all kids of things. My mother can’t speak to her siblings because of politics. My brother is so abusive over being an atheist, that I don’t wish to have contact. It isn’t just religious people. A-holes are everywhere. Not that I think Mormonism is good. I think it’s a cult. But withdrawing financial support of $1000 and asking your child to get their own phone plan is not abusive.

[@bernierasmusson9257]

@@Fiery154 Withholding love is.

[@heyyou-]

I think that this was more of the parents point of view. In the church we are taught to love everyone, no matter who they are or who they love. We do not preach being part of the LGBTQ community, but we are taught to love the individuals. One quote that I like to think of is "love the sinner not the sin" No matter how you present yourself or who you love, I would ALWAYS support and love you. As for the temple recommend question is says something along the lines of: do you support any organizations or groups that teach topics counter to the gospel (that's not the exact wording but its the general idea). I think that in the parents case they saw the fact that she was dating a girl and got nervous. They could have sat down with her and talked about her feelings and such. Once she explained it to them they could caution her that that was not what they felt was right, but they could have continued to love and accept her. Not all members of the Church of Jesus Christ would act that way. We all are humans and we make mistakes. Please keep that in mind as we all try to be our best, and love everyone.

[@KCsFunHouse]

You’re better off cutting toxic family out of your life. It’s really hard trust me I understand but it helps make you so much happier in the long run!

[@sootymammal2891]

Not a legal reason to stop a check after it's cleared.

[@theangriestoftabbies]

Yeah doesn’t make sense

[@scottdca1]

It makes perfect sense depending on the timeline. If I deposit a check under $2000 the money immediately shows up in my account whether it actually has cleared the other bank yet or not. A person can put a stop payment on a check until the time that it clears the bank the check was written from. Depends on the situation this can take several days or even close to a week.

[@NoxDolore]

This person means that it doesn't make sense for a check to be stopped because the girl is gay.

[@rebeccabaron1348]

She is exaggerating which is too too bad. She does zero justice. Once a check has been cleared a stop payment cannot be put on it.

[@rebeccabaron1348]

@@robertreichardt4509 I support people’s choices. This woman however is not doing anyone in her community any favors with her stretched truths and exaggerations.

[@JLA830]

I told all 3 of my daughters that I'll love them no matter what. I don't care who you're with. As long as you're good to each other & you're not hurting one another or anybody else, then be happy. I took my youngest to Texas, (we lived in Wisconsin) to meet her gf in person for her 17th birthday. She just turned 19 & now lives down there with her.

[@ImFundingDirect]

I’m a Mormon 100% that question does not get asked this is false information. Please don’t put false information out it’s what you assume but it’s not a question that we get asked. Maybe you need to speak to your parents and ask them why and not just assume something that is really false

[@AR-sz5lm]

"Do you support, affiliate or agree with any group or individual whose teachings or practices are contrary to or oppose those accepted by The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints?" It's the old question 7. It's been changed to be worded differently. But in a bunch of my interviews I would say that I'm not going to stop having a relationship with my siblings (who publicly oppose the Church). So that question was always one that would make me sweat a little. So, yes. Her parents could very well have thought that they would lose their recommends for supporting their daughter.

[@monongahelacats]

It is so brutal to cut off your own child! Your flesh and blood! I will never understand how parents can do this. I hate this church so much.

[@heyyou-]

I agree that is was brutal to cut your child off. But I also think that this was more of a parent point of view. In the church we are taught to love everyone, no matter who they are or who they love. We do not preach being part of the LGBTQ community, but we are taught to love the individuals. One quote that I like to think of is "love the sinner not the sin" No matter how you present yourself or who you love, I would ALWAYS support and love you. As for the temple recommend question is says something along the lines of: do you support any organizations or groups that teach topics counter to the gospel (that's not the exact wording but its the general idea). I think that in the parents case they saw the fact that she was dating a girl and got nervous. They could have sat down with her and talked about her feelings and such. Once she explained it to them they could caution her that that was not what they felt was right, but they could have continued to love and accept her. Not all members of the Church of Jesus Christ would act that way. We all are humans and we make mistakes. Please keep that in mind as we all try to be our best, and love everyone.♥️♥️

[@Foggy_Til_Noon]

I am a Christian. I believe in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. You could be a judgmental Bible-beater who instills an unhealthy sense of guilt & fear of Him by shaming those around you that don't adhere to your own beliefs. Turning them against His word. When I stand before God, He will not say be able to say "I judge you as you judged others in life, without mercy and without humility. You passed judgment on those who lives offended you when it wasn't your place to be offended or judge." The soul is all that matters. Our Lord loves a beautiful soul.

[@hbendzulla8213]

Brain washing has affected the parents thinking.

[@dennisapplegate7553]

That's ok they hate you too.

[@harrymarsee2782]

I can't understand how you can think parents OWE their grown children anything!

[@aussienic8428]

She is an adult. Her parents are entitled to their own opinions whether you agree or not. Now it's time for you to prove that you can go it alone.

[@amyhorne5572]

Once I turned 18 my parents said no more financial help or support. So, hearing people complain after the age of 18 that my parents won't give me money etc... Is so weird that they expect another adult to support them.

[@godisinmystory2596]

She is an adult! She doesn’t want to be dependent anyway! She has a right to be whoever she wants to be, so do they!

[@peteraschaffenburg1]

That’s what happens when parents love their religion more than their children.

[@sherristevens3972]

Thank God we aren't all that way. I've seen it happen and never agreed with it. It's BS.. 👍 👍 👍 👍 👍 👍 👍 👍 Amen

[@BrendaBodwin]

No, shes a grown ass adult. As an adult woman, she can finance her own lifestyle choice. They didn't say they dont love her.

[@joycebennafield]

I love God more than anything or anyone not religion but the relationship with Him

[@BrendaBodwin]

@@joycebennafield Amen! Agree.. God first and foremost. Has nothing to do with the religion. 👍

[@BluAru]

@@BrendaBodwin She was a late teenager when this happened. With probably no former work experience. Do you know how hard it is for a teenager with no financial aid to get a decent job and make enough money to live on their own, especially in the current economy?

[@jonnymakers9560]

I left the cult LDS church 4 yrs ago with my entire family. We were shocked and sickened by the lies we uncovered. We are looking to sue the shit out of this fruad cult...

[@HadassahFaith9482]

I believe that being self reliant must be learned by our generation today. After I earned my degree at 18, I felt the need to not be dependent to my parents anymore.

[@chelseamarissa382]

That's fine but her parents were willing to take care of her until they found out she is gay. They weren't teaching her self sufficiency. They were teaching her their love is conditional

[@justrachel4496]

What decade did you turn 18?

[@dawnettaseering7674]

I left that cult years ago and last time I stepped in their church it was my grandmother's funeral 10 almost 11 years ago

[@elevatedqueen7239]

They have their beliefs , she has hers. They're not at fault

[@kathyshelton9708]

I agree. However, when u give money away, there shouldn’t be strings attached.

[@lynxblackjack2785]

I would agree but the disrespect of pulling it after you alredy gave it to them without telling them showes there lack of care for there kid that could have overdrew the account

[@nicholehunter]

Hope your kids go no contact.

[@mychemkomorebi]

Cutting out your own child???????????????? Wtf is wrong with you dude???

[@tinkrebelle]

the parents are using their religion as an excuse to hate their daughter, how are they not 100% at fault?

[@SecretSquirrelFun]

What happened to - do unto others as you would have them do unto you? What happened to - loving thy neighbour? For a parent to treat their own child in this way is shameful behaviour. But the best thing that you can do is to live your best life. If they were trying to manipulate you by doing this, that makes it so much worse. You’re going to have to just keep your head held high and keep on moving forward. You got this 🙂🐿🌈❤️ Thinking about you, big hugs and take good care of yourself.

[@misskj7773]

Jesus’ own words tell us otherwise: (Luke 12:51-53” Do you think that I have come to bring peace to the earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on, five in one household will be divided, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” Here Jesus let’s us know that we are to love Him and His Word above ALL else….Forsaking the relationships within family, if that is what it comes to…Likewise, Apostle Paul clearly tells us that from the willfully disobedient we are to turn away and have nothing to do with them, as they chose to live and remain in their willful sin. Harsh? No, we are to be separate and apart from those who live in overt and unrepentant disobedience, willful and arrogant sin against God (2 Timothy 3:1-5). Jesus is to be our First Love, above ALL others and ALL things (Revelation 2:4-5).

[@slave2apup279]

A good thought: "Be Wary of any belief or ideology that promotes division between you and your fellow human beings."

[@Lesrocheschic]

Let's get this straight.... This is not a child! People have the right to change their minds. Why didn't she go to a public hospital?

[@donaldcobb6749]

I feel for this lady. She knew how her parents are. Her parents raised her. She should not have been surprised it’s a religious thing.

[@auntdayskitchen6315]

In hospice, I took care of a woman whose parents disowned her because she didn’t know her husband was a heroin addict and gave her HIV. He left her when she found out she was pregnant, and even though her parents set her up with this man because he was a good upstanding man of the church, they said God was punishing her for a sin she must’ve committed they were also Mormon

[@tiffanyanne7342]

That's pretty crazy they can accept a grown man marrying a child.... and she is the one that's wrong.....

[@margaretkeck8287]

I have a question… How old is she? At what point is a child to be financially independent ? Still paying for her medical bills and phone plan as an adult? If they stopped supporting her financially it should be because she needs to responsible for herself.

[@kimberly2915]

It’s their right as her parents to not support her lifestyle…🤷🏻‍♀️

[@petersebastion7596]

Our parents are not obligated to support or endorse the lives we go about living.

[@kaz1388]

No. But giving, and then snatching back is disgusting and sick.

[@petersebastion7596]

@@kaz1388 it’s not sick or disgusting. It’s their money and she herself told them she would pay for it.

[@mimic7848]

Your child is your child no matter what! Love is conditional, God's live is unconditional!

[@thesc0tsm4n9]

Gods a monstrous dick frankly. he's the perfect example of a narcissistic abuser. love me or go to hell, do as I command, or go to hell. I'm saving you from what I will do to you if you don't let me save you.

[@midoryalcantar8300]

I feel like many lds people misinterpret things or take things very hardcore anyway we are not all like that/this I’ve seen situations like this be more common in English wards-I think the culture has a lot to do with it as well.

[@heyyou-]

I agree

[@SusanHSmith]

So sorry for their reaction. You are the same person you were before you told them. Stay strong.

[@mbkierqw]

If you're an adult, you should be self-sufficient. Your money, your right to choose what you want to support.

[@cherylhaskell9830]

Regardless of right and wrong, respect your parents for standing up for their beliefs

[@Bess1972]

Why should she respect her parents, when they don't respect her?

[@dianaer8489]

Their choice to cut her out was not based in teaching responsibility. It was punishment for her loving another woman. That’s a disgusting thing to do and shows your love is not unconditional. That’s not standing up for what you believe in, that’s the cowardly attitude of not wanting to upset the church that you pay tithes to

[@gewb1957]

But they have a religious belief that the Bible says is a wrong lifestyle and respect them for their belief.

[@kathyrainey6159]

It's so sad her parents are so self center. They will be the ones alone in the end.

[@veosmadr9595]

You are an adult, they should had told you about the check being stop but they absolutely have the right to disagree with your life choices

[@ironpoopie6087]

So, you can stand by your beliefs, but they can't? Sounds like a double standard.

[@proudinfidel7791]

Everyone wants to pile on this woman's parents, but I would remind you that this is still America. Barely, but still. That means they have every right to follow their religious beliefs and teachings with or without your approval. They are under no obligation to jump on the runaway train of permissiveness and societal decay alongside you. She knew her parents beliefs beforehand and what the possible consequences of her choices might be. She's a grown-up. I give her parents credit for having the courage of their convictions. Especially now when we are all expected to bow to the demands of the woke mafia and live our lives only the way that meets THEIR approval. They are hypocrites to criticize her parents for demanding conformity while simultaneously doing exactly the same thing.

[@normadailey7953]

You can continue with your cold, unbending institutionalized beliefs as that takes less courage and empathy. Not much different than the Puritans but don’t worry, THEY won’t take that away from you. This is still America and contrary to what you think a person can live even more freely now then they could in the past. Like the girl in this video. You can stay in your archaic world. That’s your choice and you can have it. No one is stealing it away from you. Just fewer people want it now.

[@brendashelton2542]

It always amazes me when young people take from their parents then go beyond what their parents believe and then get upset when the parents stop supporting what they consider a deviant life style. It's their choice not to accept that just like it was your choice to embrace that lifestyle...pay your own bills

[@vanessapebley1374]

Wow. You poor little thing. You have to be an adult and take care of you own bills. Never have heard of anything about the "gay" question. Ever.

[@mikekelley102]

I’m a devout LDS member (2nd gen). I see this a lot. I don’t understand it. It’s frustrating and sad. I love my family….that’s it. They have no barriers or conditions for that love. I wish I could fix this for this young lady. So sad…

[@amandagreene7481]

😥😥 I'm sorry this happened. I hope you're ok and you are so special and beautiful

[@mrs.rabbit1549]

Actively participating in a gay lifestyle is still wrong whether people accept it or not. There is no gray area here. She doesn’t answer for her parents in the presence of God, they do. They have the right to make decisions as much as she does. I may think there is a better way to go about handling the situation, but I don’t agree with bashing the parents here.

[@blessyaheart]

Why do kids feel the need to brag to parents about who they have sex with? Parents probably feel like kids are deliberately trying to hurt them.

[@teddicruise4107]

i never realized a parent had the option of returning a child just because they weren't performing according to their expectations.

[@artemisameretsu6905]

Bro that's not a stop payment, they straight up reported it as stolen. You can't stop payment on a check that's been deposited into an account that's not how that works.. Your parents could have gotten you in legal trouble by claiming the check was fraudulently cashed and that's way more messed up..

[@pampsg1]

Nothing like coming out to throw your parents under the bus, because they don’t agree with your choices. Which is their right to disagree and withdraw an offer. This gal needs stop feeling sorry for herself and publicly try to shame others. She made a choice and they countered by canceling. Her problem not theirs

[@karmabrown4635]

Agreed

[@lorenzodossantos1111]

I think homophobes are the real queer ones. I knew this guy named John, he always talked about gay folks...he thought about Gay sex all the time

[@johndowds5770]

She looks like an adult , if your parents don't want to pay it's their choice . My worry is she's airing her dirty laundry in public . The entitlement is great .

[@dianaer8489]

You don’t even know how old she was when this happened. She could’ve been barely 18, or her opportunities restricted due to the sheltered nature of the church. Life doesn’t automatically click into place at 18. Inflation and the expenses of college make working young and making enough to live on your own very hard. Even so, she was sick and needed help. Being gay shouldn’t have affected her parents desire to help their CHILD.

[@johndowds5770]

@@dianaer8489 you may be right about her , but what is it about people that they would want to put this personal info into the public domain ?

[@debbieclark9469]

I'm so sorry. You be you. Remember, you are made the way God wanted. Hold your head high. You are precious.

[@lungbustercrnvr1384]

God did NOT create her to be gay, that's Satans EVIL doin!

[@debbieclark9469]

@@lungbustercrnvr1384 Satan's evil doing is wanting us to judge and condemn her. God said judge not.

[@Mill835]

I agree with your parents, that doesn’t mean they don’t live you, must means they do not agree with your life style.

[@cpr58]

My daughter is gay. I love her as much today as the day she was born. I don't understand parents turn their backs on their children.

[@kathykowalewski9785]

That's her parent's right and belief.

[@doreenfiu7929]

It's Not about Religion God Loves Everyone but hates the Sin

[@jellowfish]

That’s genuinely terrible, The thought that people pull disgusting stunts like this is horrible. Let people be people, Who the hell cuts off their child just because they have a happy live, and a significant other. 😔

[@belogical3961]

I was always taught they will not have a happy life. It seems happy but it doesn't last forever. That will always be in the back of her head. She will always eventually doubt she's doing the right thing. I almost bet there will be times in her life where she'll feel she's finally at peace but then it will go. Honestly she can still make it to the celestial Kingdom and honestly God is going to use her love she feels for another woman to help guide her through her entire life to reach her full potential I feel I my heart That's true because she is God's child and he loves her.

[@JP-JustSayin]

​@@belogical3961but what if the life she has now ACTUALLY is happy? ... and what if nothing lasts forever, for you or anyone else?

[@belogical3961]

@@JP-JustSayin then that would be terrible But that is not my faith, I know there's a God, and if I think about doing something and feel remorse, then I don't need to do it. There's a few exceptions to that, however, even though she felt remorse, she did it anyway. You can ask how do I know she felt remorse the first time she did it and I will tell you because it goes against the eternal nature of God. I'm not wrong. It's an absolute, it's a fact, and you can't escape the remorse that you'll feel. Try it, I bet you can't. I have tried and I can't help but feel remorse when I think about doing bad things or things that go against God.

[@belogical3961]

But you are free to feel remorse forever. And what I mean is that you will be stuck happy. You will feel no remorse because you never do anything that requires remorse when you're in heaven with God but if you want to be in heaven with some lesser laws of God then you're going to feel happy and you're going to feel remorse. What do you want?

[@belogical3961]

And yes you will be in heaven. God's not going to send you to hell because you loved another woman and you are also a woman

[@heatherjoachin554]

Lol... She has never had a temple interview.... It does not say anything about being gay. We as parent does not have to support the wrong doing of our child. They are the ones that left the path...

[@BrendaBodwin]

Okay with this. They have the right to say, this goes against my spiritual beliefs, and I will not provide financial support, to it. They didn't say, they don't love her. They said I wont help pay for any portion of the lifestyle you have chosen. Plus, this is a grown woman, she should be paying her own way anyway.

[@thomasnickel1278]

I totally agree

[@AR-sz5lm]

Completely disagree. They acted like cowards. They didn't tell them before canceling the check, so she had to also suffer whatever financial ramifications resulted from that too. It's exceptionally immature and terrible parenting to behave this way. Maybe say later that they won't give her money-- but this sneaky garbage is disgusting.

[@BrendaBodwin]

@@AR-sz5lm Oh please! She's a grown woman. Not a child! They dont owe her anything! Save that entitlement for the welfare office. She said she was going to pay it herself. If she could do that, she probably should have had that money in the bank, rather than blowing it.

[@AR-sz5lm]

@@BrendaBodwin yeah... I have a kid in their 20s and some others of varying ages. You sound super out of touch with the expenses of everything for people in their 20s. School is 300% higher than it was in 2000. The cost of living nearly everywhere has doubled or tripled since 2000. Healthcare costs are the same. Food costs are between 25% and 50% higher than they were 2 years ago. Gas is exponentially higher. The price of vehicles- also higher. Wages people make just out of college- it depends. Minimum wage/free (unpaid) internships/not liveable. You're completely out of touch and sound like a childless boomer. The "welfare queen" trope is outdated and totally not even applicable here.

[@BMtodaP]

The hospital bill is not "paying for her lifestyle". It's paying for her life. Clearly they don't value that. And you don't choose to be gay. You just are or you're not. You can deny it or hide it, but no one should have to do that.

[@lainylad]

So sorry this happened to you. May God bless you. Be happy, its sad for them that they are like this. They are missing out.

[@Coach_MarcyBob]

Ngl I love all of my children but I’m not supporting a gay lifestyle. Period. Folks think they have to love and support every decision their child makes and that’s simply not true. All my kids know… I kept it 💯 with them all. I love you but you’re not coming over here with that. Period.

[@DoubleDogDare54]

Good for the parents. They drew a moral line and would not cross it. We need more like them.

[@TheWorldIsWatching11]

Free Agency, Mormons, and the Patriarchs who support a mathematically incorrect moral line... 🤣👋🎶🏳️‍🌈🎵🏳️‍🌈🎵🏳️‍🌈🎶👋🤣

[@VEttariPEPC]

Why aren't her gay "friends" helping with the bill?????

[@makinghay]

Damn, that is just evil!

[@sheilalangston7035]

Being gay is also evil. I don't support gay either

[@makinghay]

@@sheilalangston7035 I doubt Jesus would be so cruel. I think it’s better to love people regardless of their decisions. You have no idea what they are going through. You could make the world a better place by being kind and trying to not be so judgmental. You wouldn’t even have the internet if it wasn’t for a gay man. Maybe you should stop using the internet and computers because they come from sin and evil? You should probably not touch it or it might make you gay by association.

[@yiayiaapril9151]

I left home at 18 had two jobs and great insurance! I paid rent and bought my own food and paid my own medical bills. Even if my parents would have offered I would not have cash the check. If they've done their job from birth to 18 they are no longer financially obligated . Too bad they didn't let you know before they put a stop payment on it as a courtesy so you wouldn't have insufficient funds. But adult lesson learned!

[@azredshoe1]

They are trying to save this woman's soul

[@Cameronthain]

Tanya’s soul is ugly- there I fixed your user name 🥰

[@alicecain4851]

This young lady didn't ask for help. Her parents offered. She was becoming independent and not living off of her parents. So all of these comments about her needing to get a job and pay her own bills are ridiculous.

[@gaylecrawford1739]

Everyone makes choices. We also have to deal with the consequences. The people who are perverting our children will pay an awful price.

[@arawilson]

you upset your name begins with "gay"?

[@carmensandiego7749]

You mean the Bishops asking them sexual questions? Because that's perverted big time.

[@markc6138]

Here's a novel idea be independent quit relying on others and take care of your crap yourself.then you don't have to answer to anyone

[@rosalindahenry7001]

"We are free to choose but we are not free of the consequences of our choices."

[@caroldriehorst1165]

She's not a child, she had to know the reactions of her parents would be so why did she even tell them. Old school people don't understand that this is a mental illness and even Christian parents still love their kids even though they don't approve.

[@bevmiles-johns9873]

What's a mental illness ..being gay....I'm fuvking crazy then and loving it

[@caroldriehorst1165]

@@bevmiles-johns9873 Of course you love it , it's what your body is telling you but it's not normal. I don't know exactly what goes wrong but a person should be attracted to the opposite sex. That is the plan. 💕

[@bevmiles-johns9873]

@@caroldriehorst1165 who's plan..I have my own thanks, I don't need some imaginary daiety or a story book to guide me ..

[@caroldriehorst1165]

@@bevmiles-johns9873 Where do you think you came from? Thin air? Only God could have created this vast Universe and this World and for a purpose. Even Scientists say the design of this world could not ever have started on its own and where would the matter that make up the Universe come from? It had to have been created, can't you see that? I feel sorry for you to think you are here for no purpose ,I know God exists.,he shows himself to his Children that acknowledge him and some day you will be standing in front of him telling him he doesn't exist. Sad.

[@dianaer8489]

@Bev Miles-Johns what’s sad is you don’t seem to understand being gay isn’t just about the “body” telling you things. Gay people fall in love too smh. Love is good, isn’t it? And no matter the ‘faults’ you see in your child, you should never expect them to be perfect and exactly the way you want them. You don’t return or reconsider your parental status because your child is different than you want. Any kid brought into this world, you take a chance. It’s disgusting her parents pulled out of helping her when she was sick because of who she loved. She wanted to tell them because you never want to have to keep secrets from your parents.

[@CEO786]

Well Done To Them for Holding Firm To their beliefs

[@normadailey7953]

More Like Overdone. Burnt to a crisp.

[@patriotallen9717]

Life choices have consequences. Dont be a victim. Make your own way in life and dont depend on anyone, including parents. Its called being an adult. Live your beliefs and expect others to do the same.

[@dennisapplegate7553]

Their money their choice.

[@normadailey7953]

Money. Runs their love.

[@kaz1388]

And once they gave it to her, it was no longer theirs. Yanking a person around by a string - yes we will, no we won't, is sick. You're either in it and supportive, or leave well alone. The yo-yoing is traumatic.

[@dennisapplegate7553]

@@kaz1388 Their we go with the trauma card. Look lifes tough get over it.

[@milo5021]

At the very least they should have warned her that they stopped the check. It's almost as if they wanted her to go into medical debt by not telling her

[@Chonkula]

Still makes them look like massive assholes, tho.

[@pamelalawrence9531]

Wow, crushing. Let's all pray for her parents. Just because you don't condone it doesn't mean you abandon your child.

[@stargazer6130]

I think it's ridiculous that the parents put a stop on a check they gave to their adult child. She should have know from the get go that their religious beliefs would not tolerate her choices in life. She's obviously an adult living outside of her parents home and she will need to live with the consequences of her choices

[@kimsears5265]

As will her parents when she no longer has contact with them ever.

[@amandacollins518]

I feel so bad for her. That never should have happened

[@gelarehmohebbi]

This is just the saddest thing ever.

[@jonasfullkvist9137]

Its really not. 1 world problems. You people are made of glass.

[@gelarehmohebbi]

@@jonasfullkvist9137 I'm really not, I'm made of flesh and bones and muscles and sinews and red blood cells and fascia and the list goes on and on. We're taking everything literally, right?

[@jonasfullkvist9137]

@@gelarehmohebbi glass people do indeed take everything literally.

[@gelarehmohebbi]

@@jonasfullkvist9137 literally

[@jonasfullkvist9137]

@@gelarehmohebbi don't let a little bad grammar brake you little one. its just a consequence of speaking 4 different languages.

[@hislittlemrs.9235]

You were willing to pay your own bill, so do that and be on your way. As an adult you have to make your way without your parents.

[@kaz1388]

Sounds like that's exactly what she did. Her parents insisted on giving her money, only to snatch it back. Just messing with her. That's sick.

[@graememudie7921]

Some religions are so inhumane. 😢

[@kriskaczynski3560]

Her parents are Mormon. It sucks but she can't say she didn't see any of this happening.

[@moconnorduber1787]

The Bible speaks directly to this. Man shall not lay with man,nor should woman lay with woman. Because its now socialley correct doesn't change that.

[@Nobodyhome630]

Parents are legally responsible until you’re 18… if you are of age and you want to live a life they don’t agree with, then unfortunately , yes , you have to find a way to live that life independently

[@caliconservative20]

All due respect but this happens in many families when parents do not support their children's lifestyle choices...not just Mormons and not just LGBT etc.

[@rafaela8589]

She has the right to be gay. Her parents have the right to use their money as they see fit.

[@ShaydyAF]

For a church so obsessed with family, it sure does break a lot of them apart.

[@nellybell9649]

They are allowed to have their beliefs, yours are not everyone's.

[@aquilyoung186]

Her parents are right if her parents ask her to support trump she would say the same

[@MsHrKrOMS]

My Mormon dad financially supported my gay sister until the day he died (when she was nearly 50 years old) and gave her a double inheritance because he feared she wouldn’t be able to support herself. The point is, the church does not teach or condone parents not showing charity to their children, this woman’s parents must be confused.

[@vickiwalters6924]

Your parents have the right to refuse for any reason.

[@jessegonzales3313]

The parents have religious beliefs got a respect there moral values .

[@misskj7773]

We are told in 2 Timothy 3:1-5, from such, stay away. We are to love them, but we hate the sin and are to have no interaction with those living in willful disobedience to God and His Word.

[@londonvon9281]

Well someone is going to hell…..and it’s not this girl!