Dad Attacked Me For Now Allowing His Mistress To Hide With Us In Our Family Home &Now He's In Hiding

[@marydewitt9623]

My sympathy for the mom ended where she victimized her own son and kept the daughter in an untenable living situation. The son is best with his uncle. The sister needs saving if possible.

[@Animeaddiction]

Some mothers don't realize just how bad their lives are because they've never known any other kind of life. I'm thinking that Mom doesn't know how to get a job and earn her own money, thereby being over-reliant on her spouse for support, regardless of how abusive he was.

[@robingibson6561]

OP, don't listen to those saying that you ruined ANYTHING. Those people are probably abusers themselves and hate that that type of behavior is being called out. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, remember that. Go live a calm, comfortable, stress free life with your mother's people and leave all that chaos behind.

[@stephaniehoyland4901]

If anything I'm worried about that commenters family is that how he's treating his own family?

[@robertx8020]

@@stephaniehoyland4901 Like OP's dad or worse ...

[@anggamaulana3498]

Thankfully OP still have his grandpa, uncle and other relative who care about him, now he can live a better life and a better future. There're many people like OP's mom who got so used of being abuse that they think that is normal, sadly she also drag her daughter into that abusive life.

[@stephaniehoyland4901]

@@anggamaulana3498 yeah that's the saddist thing, because the sister may grow up to think that normal

[@MiraTheWarlock]

Honestly at this point I think once OP is out and safe, let the dad come back home. Let him be with his doormat wife and whiny daughter since they 'miss him so much' I feel for abuse victims, I really do, but getting beaten that night, OP became a victim too, and mommy dearest picked the abuser over him She made a choice, let her live with it

[@sandrapersaud3105]

All the commenters who said OP is to be blamed for getting his father thrown in jail are really delusional 😒.

[@maryannburnett5255]

Yup that's so true

[@BIGBLOCK5022006]

Hell, if I was OP, I would've told the folks saying that they're the AH for calling the cops that going that route is way better than a Justifiable Homicide charge.

[@vikingreflections2824]

Honestly don't think its true. Just to stupid

[@bernicecooper9608]

As long as the body is inside the house 😂

[@veldasnyder2144]

Well said!

[@oldwoman5942]

In the US and Canada the wife doesn’t have to press charges and the police will do it.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Exactly, and op was a separate victim as well.

[@robertx8020]

Even w/o proof? Remember that the mother didn't want to tell what happened and he didn't show the recording either

[@_Hollie_]

@@robertx8020the recording got sent, it was completely out of his hands after it was sent in

[@Rhaenarys]

Thats how i know its fake. Especially when it comes to abuse of kids. It wouldnt even matter if mom pressed charges or not, the fact they already saw OP was bruised and bloody and as a minor, plus already hearing them confess to the fight, but mom claiming it was her fault, means charges wouldve already been pressed. And mom couldve been arrested as well if she didnt cooperate. Tbh, it sounds like they did already press charges on their side anyways.

[@robertx8020]

@@Rhaenarys You seem, to think 1 ) that life is like a movie and everyone always does the right thing 2) every story is in the US 3) There are no bad cops ...dream on!

[@cheekysaver]

I swear abusers love commenting when you are reading them. I love it when they said... yeah your dad looked after you and you sent him to prison? Scuse me? His dad was out messing around, being abusive and didn't give the mom emough money to have food in the house so OP a 15 year old had to slide his mom some cash to eat. THAT is NOT taking care of your family. That being said... there are 2 rolls between his parents... the abuser and the abused. If either one stops playing their roll... the show is over. Staying is a choice, for both of them. That does not take away from a parent's responsiblity to keep their kids safe... and that is something they are not doing as a team. Both the parents are wrong... and I know here... that is what CPS standard is. Who knows where they live tho.

[@cheekysaver]

BTW MrR, good job reading... you got me cheesed off at OP's family good! Hahahaha

[@kathleenhuff3059]

Actually no it's not always "a choice" for the victim..look up Stockholm Syndrome.. also look at the TOTAL FEAR in the victim..I am grateful for my mom choosing to protect me by standing up to my dad...the only reason she stuck his shotgun up his nose is because he tried to kill me before I was born...he knocked my mom across the room when she was barely 7months pregnant with me..I was born within just.under 24 hrs after that!...my mom said I was so tiny I fit in the palm of her hand and wore baby doll clothes as back then preemies didn't usually live..1965..and yea my dad was a heavy drinker and was cheating on my mom at the time... they're divorce was final a yr and a half later..and my dad married his mistress..the comical part is he tried to treat his mistress the same way "beat his woman into compliance" but she whooped his🤣🤣🤣 he was never violent after that‼️

[@frankamcneil8150]

⁠​⁠@@kathleenhuff3059your sperm donor could bully and beat up your mother and obviously thought he could dominate and treat all women the same way. He certainly got a very rude awakening when he did that to his mistress/second wife. He realised that not all women would stand for it. The bully got his comeuppance. Serves him right. I hope he was always frightened afterwards that she would whup his behind😂😂

[@kathleenhuff3059]

@@frankamcneil8150 just so you know...he did straighten up ..and tried to right his wrongs..after I was grown...sure he had to be shown 1st hand that his behavior was wrong...but later in life he was quite a good grandpa... he's gone now...but stepmom is still the same..

[@geurgecrawford8844]

some times this only ends when someone dies

[@lynnechapman6204]

The father did deserve to be reported and had no right to hit his mom no matter what. That poster is wrong. I'm so glad that you are with family now. How is OP responsible for sending his father to jail. OP is not the one who hit the cop.

[@sarahhapka3647]

Everyone in OP's family sounds delusional and downright crazy. You absolutely did the right thing by involving the cops. And I'm glad you finally got out of that toxic and abusive environment.

[@onepieceisking5493]

Am I the only one disgusted with comment 2? For op's mom to be at fault for telling sperm donor no and blame op for recording him? The person is either delusional or just like the sperm donor or it is the sperm donor.

[@aminahal-zarqah9269]

Most abused spouses act this way.(I say spouses and not wives because there are abusive females also) Please understand that people who abuse have a stange power over the victims, the process of turning a spouse or child is not a one time incident it is subtle, long time process. Usually starting with deciding the victims from outside sources if help. By poisoning the victims mind towards people outside the household. They usually do not start out with depriving the victims of friends and family connections. Telling them that they are the only person loves them. And what about the fact that her access to household funds was limited by the abuser? These are subtle things that most other people do not notice. I know one person who was a victim along with their 3 boys. When he left to go to work or leave the house, he would lock them Ina walk in closet until he got home with a bucket for waste and a gallon of water to drink. One day he did not come home due to an accident while driving. When the police went to the home to notify the family. The did not get a response. The returned a couple days later and decide to enter the home to check on the family after a neighbor told them that he knew there was a woman and children who also lived there. Thank God that all three were alive and after being rescued they were taken to the hospital given fluids and her parents were contacted. These things really happen so wake up and watch for the signs of abuse.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

OP did say it best, theyre just like his father And of course his mom just wants to keep up her martyr act

[@tiffanysandmeier4753]

It may be odd to mention a horror movie related to this, but the group therapy sessions in Renfield are very interesting about codependent relationships.

[@indigowulf]

This is classic Stockholm syndrome. Victims get used to how life is with their captor (yes, these abusive men are absolutely captors; they isolate their victims from friends and family, control their money, etc). Victims are afraid they won't be able to pay rent or buy food without the abuser. They have nobody to fall back on because they've been isolated from them. They also believe the lies their captor tells them, things like 'you are ugly, nobody other than ME will ever love you'. I witnessed this firsthand with my mom and her 2nd husband.

[@deingirl1183]

Who like me thinks that the person who told OP that he was wrong and Grandpa putting him in jail was one of those guys with either a crappie life or just want to spew hate, or did the same thing and their life is ruined because of their actions.🙄🤔🧐

[@user-hr5pc3rt2n]

Where I live all DV calls are investigated at the scene and changes are laid despite the wishes of the victim. They had become fed up with being called multiple times to the same address only to have no charges laid. So the law was changed. Thanks heaven. The responsibility is no longer on the victim to lay charges.

[@jodygaines7691]

Having lived in an abusive Relationship for 20 years, OP, I can tell you what others were saying about your Mom's attitude is right on. She may never change but don't give up, Good luck in your new Life. Also, your Sister may still have a chance too.

[@zeoinfinitneospace2134]

It's very sad to me that Op mom is still loyal to that abusive husband and he keeps cheating on her with his mistress. I really don't understand how the mom kick his own son out. Don't know why his mom is protecting an abusive man but I will say i hope we'll find a new family and I hope in the future he can see his sister again and the mom is going to regret this for the rest of her life. If there's one thing that taught us is that you should never ever give any chances with somebody if they keep betraying you it's going to hurt you even more

[@robertx8020]

This is how most abuse victims think! If the abuser doesn;t hit them for one day or less hard as the last time, they see it as a sign that the abuser is getting better and loves them! It's screwed up but that is how it works

[@carls1959]

For the life of me I can not understand those who said that OP was wrong and his dad was only keeping his family in line. Those must be men similar to his dad and I hope they also get some prison time, if they decide that's the way to treat their families. Kudos to OP for doing the right thing. That situation could very well have led to his mother's death, either at his father's hands, or by suicide. The only time it is acceptable to hit a woman is in self defense of yourself, or children. And with those examples, it would be better if she could be blocked until you get away, or restrained until authorities could get there. I've met some nasty women in my day, but I've never hit one of them. I have been hit, but only blocked and walked away, instead of hitting one. I did have one woman's brother start harassing me about getting slapped by his sister, so I beat him up instead. Felt good and of course, she bitched about it. I told her that I would never hit her, but every time she decided to hit me, I'd do likewise to her brother, cousin, even father. She left me alone after that.

[@TinaMoore-uj5nj]

Right!!! Like wtf

[@cooler1339]

They were obvious trolls lmao.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

Because they are exactly like OPs father, they dont want their victims to learn they can actually call them out

[@MiraTheWarlock]

Because they are exactly like OPs father, they dont want their victims to learn they can actually call them out

[@Doggypaddle8]

Either are like the OP's dad or they are the incel type, who wish they could be like the dad. Gross either way.

[@marvissmith4588]

The mother didn't even have a problem knowing that her mother died, and because her husband isolated her from her family, she didn't know. Definitely a victim mentality.

[@AgnesC1111]

Maybe grandma was a narcissistic bully, so mom had no self-esteem to begin with. Went from one to another.

[@rebeccajohnson8579]

I CANNOT IMAGINE being in love with ANY MAN like this, unless he is the OPPOSITE of OP's father! How sad a story! Thank god OP, found a way out of that toxic horrible home! THANKS, GRANDPA, for saving your grandson!

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

I wanted to jump through the screen and pounce on commentor 2 after the original story, and commentor2 after the final update. They are probably both abusers, which is why they wrote what they did. But, at 0:22 OP said he was 17. Then at 14:39 he says was 15. Which is it?

[@juliemcgugan1244]

Commenter2 is giving off incel vibes!

[@tracygardner6318]

Me too

[@strawberrysangria1474]

Poor OP, both of his parents are abusers in different ways. Father is physically abusive, mother is neglectful, and both are cruel manipulators. Parents are supposed to protect their children, not yell at them for getting help because other parent is beating the whole family to death.I hope OP and his sister can find safety regardless of their awful parents. Glad he can still rely on his grandpa and uncle.

[@daishawilliams8301]

I understand your mother was being abused but that's not an excuse for her to turn your back on you when you're trying to help her out and and then wonder why no one will help her when she wants help or any woman in general who's suffering them DV.

[@robertx8020]

It not an excuse ..it's one of the side effects of being a victim to abuse! But don't take my word on it, ask your psychiatrist! You don't have one? You should get one!

[@maltemejlstrup4746]

@@robertx8020 That is still not an excuse. It really is best for OP to ignore her if she ever comes crawling asking for help. At most he should help his sister if possible. It's harsh yes but OP doesn't need to be dragged back into the abuse.

[@robertx8020]

@@maltemejlstrup4746 Where did I write that is was an excuse? It's just a plain fact!

[@beatricereadel645]

You are underestimating the power of long term abuse.

[@Ax2-81]

So look at the worst case scenario OP ignores the abuse etc and few years down the line it gets fatal his mother passes on due to the years of abuse etc but he knew it all but didn’t say anything out of respect for his mother now he’s going to regret for the rest of his life that he didn’t say or do something that would have saved his mother etc. to say he’s wrong is just plain stupid. The mother needs to be locked up in a psychiatric facility for a bit cis clearly the abuse has done it’s job with her mind being messed with so bad that she cannot see her son saved her life etc. if anything it’s an ungrateful mother.

[@ZeraSilvaFenritTheOokami]

Op did the right thing why the hell did comment 2 in the last update say he did the wrong probably because they did something similar in this story there is no good reason for a man to hit or beat a female at all

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Commentator 2 is a toxic moron!

[@ScarletFever109]

Op, I hope ALicia’s husband sued your dad. He definitely deserved to go to prison. 5 to 10 years should be enough to loosen his grip on her and your sister.

[@stevetalley5800]

How TF can people blame this young man!? Sounds like abusers to me. This MF deserved to go to jail. Mom is a freakin train wreck. His sister is gonna find a guy to beat her @$$(somebody like her dad) and will be begging brother for help. They should've locked mom up for aiding and abetting! The young man just waited too long to give up the footage.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

Poor OP, soon he will realize it was the best thing to do. Moms response is essentially why I ended up hating my own mom almost more then my abusive father. It was easy for me to comprehend dad was a bad person. But, how good could mom me for allowing all of this? It’s all so heavy on the heart .

[@kathleenhuff3059]

Actually if you look deeper you'll see your dad "groomed" her to believe she deserved the bad treatment...and others believing a man has to keep his family in line is not much different than how we, as a society, treat black people...we are trained to believe they can't be trusted, so they are followed everywhere in stores, and belittled..and even lynched.. Many men are taught to be violent "to be a real man"... sadly many of those men claim to be Christian as well...

[@onepieceisking5493]

Sperm donor is clearly an abusive narcissist. Because op's mom was submissive to him he didn't expect her to say no to him. Apparently that tipped him off so much that he started to physically abuse her. To immediately leave once he heard the cops being called with his mistress tells who he loves and will protect. Also, that woman deserves to be divorced and more to be with such a horrible person. Yeah, sperm donor waited til the cops were gone then he was going back to dish out more physical abuse for denying him to have his mistress at home with him. Not surprised that he immediately ran again when he heard the cops. Oh geez, to smirk at the scene of sperm donor hitting his wife and kids for her is beyond disgusting. She definitely deserves to be with him and rot in hell. I am beyond disgusted with comment 2 and clearly that person is a narcissist just like sperm donor. Geez, to go so far as to hate and blame your son, hide the abuser, refuse to accept that he was arrested was the right thing and still disown op to please her abuser🤦. She's so far down in being a victim, naive and denial that it's NOT funny. But it's on her that her life continues being miserable while op is now happy with her family that she cut off for her abuser. Though i feel bad for the daughter as she's going to wind up like the egg donor.

[@patpaiz5693]

You're right. That little girl is being raised to be the wife of an abuser. She is being trained by her mother to believe that she doesn't deserve to be treated any better than her mother. I know because I am 68 years old and I grew up in a household much like this. My ex-husbands were not as bad as my father, but they were both abusive. And the last one I stayed with for 25 years because as unhappy as I was, I felt like because he was better than my mother had with my father I really had no right to think I deserved more.

[@tiffanysandmeier4753]

Codependency is tough.

[@joyceheadlam1909]

The person who made the second comment is an abuser, he is someone who likes to hurt his family. By the fruit you shall know them.

[@caroleharrison8884]

Why are we blaming the victim!?

[@CareyBilley]

When victims decide to go back to the victimizer over their child who was trying to help stop the abuse it brings out a lot of anger towards the victim.

[@Doggypaddle8]

It's one thing to overlook things when she's the victim. As soon as she watched her child get hurt and then blamed that child for refusing to stay a victim, is when I no longer had sympathy for that victim.

[@ma.stellatumlos8700]

This poor OP..

[@AN-nn7tc]

OP did the right thing. Your mother was lucky that she wasn't disowned and disinherited from her father seconds to you after the trial.

[@tracygardner6318]

The mother has been a victim for so long that she doesn’t know what to do. She should’ve press charges the night. The cops came over but when you were being abused, your abuser is in your head and you get worried that it might be worse. She needs therapy and lots of it, go behind her back since she is not going to take care of it herself. Good job, keeping your father out of the house he’s a monster.

[@Muney-hl9jh]

Wow, idk if OP's mom is either stupid or mentally ill, but that is ridiculous. How tf can she just push this entire incident under the bus like its no big deal and blame OP for everything? Glad OP got out of that toxic environment

[@karinasamaniego8765]

​@@HondaBrandythat is incredibly sexist. There are men that stay in abusive marriages. And not all women would or do put up with that.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

That’s how twisted your mind becomes. I grew up with a dad like this and as an adult when I found myself in a similar relationship I truly believed …well im not as weak as mom cus at least I fight back. Even though it meant nothing as he was a body builder. At some point staying in the crazy becomes the normal and any change is too much to handle.

[@ZomBeeQueeen]

@@HondaBrandyis that the reasoning you give yourself to why you’re alone? Or your defense when beating women when you had one?

[@katienobles4623]

commenter #2 sounds like the father, and that he probably treats his family the same way

[@sallymander7863]

I’m so impressed with OP, he had no other choice. If he hadn’t done this, his dad would’ve come back with girlfriend in tow and made OP, mum and sister’s life hell. He should be proud of himself. Mum should’ve demanded dad let her have access to the money at the start and threatened court if he didn’t. She is unbelievable, I feel sorry for her but her treatment of OP is unbelievable.

[@DJMelloSoul]

The commenter who called him a loser and said a man keeps his household I check is a punk. A man does not keep his house in check with fear. But by leading in faith by be a provider, protector and sharing their wisdom with their family and treating their wife as a part of that household. Not someone who obeys his orders and is cut off from their family. I’m glad the son stood up for his mom and hopefully one day she thanks him.

[@borgranta61103]

The police could have prosecuted the mother for illegally kicking the OP out since he was a minor which makes it child abandonment.

[@kristitovar3846]

OP I am proud of you for doing the right thing. I know that wasn’t easy, but how you became so good from such evil is heartwarming. You have done all you can and one day I know your mom will regret the way she treated you. It will take counseling on her part, but eventually after deprogramming she will find her worth. Hugs to you and I hope you have found so much happiness with your gpa and uncle.

[@kamicoker5728]

I feel so bad for those kids. The son for having to grow up so fast. And being put through so much. (The daughter too.) But because she's stuck in that situation. I wish the grandpa could call someone to remove her as well. It's so sad. 😢

[@lisabagdonjones1950]

Who is the nutcase saying that the father was doing the right thing?? OP, pay no attention to that insanity. Enjoy your new family relationships and concentrate on building your new life

[@stephanietaylor142]

I get the victim mentality but for her to turn on the child who possibly saved her life is just crap. Maybe if the kid punches her in the face she'll start talking to him again...

[@xhagast]

The sick part is that you are probably right.

[@stephanietaylor142]

@@xhagast I know it sounded mean, but seriously is how it seems

[@xhagast]

@@stephanietaylor142 The mother is such a beaten dog that she only responds to abuse. Otherwise her reaction is to abuse.

[@margaretgarlando7911]

There is no reason anyone (male or female) to use violence. In the same breath I do understand self-defense.

[@tigerqueen007]

The comments from those fools who support the abusive dad!! Are those guys stupid?! They support abuse!?!?!

[@nikig2891]

I’m concerned about the sister. She should not think that this kind of relationship is ok.

[@josephinegunua478]

Love you strong boy.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Op can press charges let mommy dearest allow herself without her kids get abused OP and sis can leave

[@fredvelasco9187]

You did the right thing. Move on and live your best life.

[@autodogdact3313]

His mom was probably also afraid of losing his dad's income.

[@Animeaddiction]

That sounds about right. I think the mother was probably forbidden by the father to not get a job and be the submissive housewife. I doubt she has been to college, nor have any skills past basic labor. She doesn't have a bank account and probably doesn't realize that she has the right to say no to her spouse's abuse.

[@guadalupemata4114]

dont give up sweetheart your so brave and your a good son

[@CareyBilley]

OP did the right thing and his mom needs serious therapy and your father's family can bite it, the apple didn't fall far from the tree on that side of the family.

[@susanmcpeak7267]

The commenter that said "it is the man's job to keep the family in line" is obviously an abuser/victim of abuse themselves OP did not make his father punch the cop. That was ALL Harry. That action alone speaks volumes. I'm glad OP has seen true love from his grandpa, uncle & cousins. He now knows what a true & loving family should be. I hope that he goes on to break the cycle in his life. I wish him the best

[@frankd5426]

hang on at the start op is 17 when he sends the videp to grandfather he says he is 15...... which is it? not to mention that he rang mothers dad. then later, rediscovers him because the family is estranged from grandparent and uncle

[@ochoulik481]

And who is he loser making comment 2 that OP is the problem betraying his dad. I suspect commentor 2 is cut from the same cloth as the Dad, thinking that being a “real” man gives you the right to cheat on your wife and beat the crap out of her when she objects. Sigh. The world is full of too many “real “ men like that!

[@kukala3]

THATS IT !!! I'm not listening to this anymore. The fact that they take time out of my life and read some of the most dysfunctional opinions . These people are writing because they need advice or validation. Reading the truly dysfunctional opinions does them no good. The people that request opposing opinions just because they want to hear it or be fair is just asking to spread the dysfunction ever deeper. This should not be a venue for that! Give me the choice, if I want yo hear that crazy shyte I would take the time and read it. I'm sure the OPs seeking help can certainly do without it.

[@chazagbroje986]

About these commenters in the Reddit post, they NEED to be monitored strictly - "your ruined your dad's life", so they think a GROWN man striking their son is perfectly above board. Yeah they should never be allowed to be in the general public again swear down

[@juanitathompson6837]

Always stand up for yourself and your mom, even if mom says no

[@eddiejoe3303]

Portuguese saying: "A bully's wife enjoys the beatings". No pity for them because they get off on the torture to their children also. They cant be saved, no reason to waste time on it since their objective is to get pity from others.

[@notigerbullmom7305]

Wow I can't believe the comments that where for the dad

[@lourdesveiramercado2665]

OP's family sounds like my dad's side of the family lmao thank god my mom broke out of that DV mentality

[@erikamccall6741]

You did the right thing!!! Your an amazing young man for going thru all this by yourself and taking the blame. Eventually, one day your mom will hopefully realize that. Until then hold your head up high, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! You are blessed to have a uncle, grandfather, and a huge family circle of support by your side. Love them as much as they love you, you will come out on top. I hope you do a update in a few years to let everyone know how you’re doing!!!❤❤❤

[@melodieperez9290]

The mom is sick to protect her man over her child

[@BralinciaMeadows-c1c]

Op did the right thing

[@ellaharrell7824]

It is obvious that the person who wrote the second comment is no better than your dad. Birds of a feather flock together.

[@thehigherevolutionary]

Sadly, that comment made me shake my head because it was sooo defensive and outlandish. I was like oh we know what happens in his house.

[@TinaMoore-uj5nj]

​@@thehigherevolutionaryu 2 like wtf

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

Grandfather is great person in your life

[@tracygardner6318]

Was looking after them🤬 why are people picking the abuser aside he is the one who did wrong they must be just like him are, they were a victim of abuse

[@redconvoy]

What is with those comments! They have to be from his father or people that are abusive and are sick in the head. What is wrong with people!

[@-randychasechase2660]

Once a man punched anyone he will again . Send those to the cops and d.A

[@citizenx747]

The boy did the right thing

[@beatricereadel645]

My question is, “where did the Mom learn her behavior?”. It doesn’t happen in a vacuum.

[@xhagast]

Too many women like the bad boys. And if they turn up violent, they feel it is their fault.

[@TinaW1983]

I'm so glad OP's dad was finally arrested. For the one's who said that he was in the wrong, well, they're just absolutely nuts. I don't care that it's his dad. Parents don't treat you that way, and spouses don't either. And when they do cross that line then there are consequences for that.

[@ujjuth8636]

Op u r awesome kid, I m very happy u have your grandpa to be with u and support u. Please do not listen to negative comments those people must be same to their kids and partner as your father. So these negative people taking your abusive father's side. U don't need your spineless mother and sister. U will do great in future, it takes lot of guts to face abusive and spineless parents. Do not change for anybody. U did right. Lots of love from India. Take care kido.❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@susiejones1515]

Those telling you that doing the right thing, is wrong are abusive too.

[@vesla266]

OP you are the real man in the house, you did your very best to protect your mother and sister. There's only one person responsible for bringing your father to jail/prison, and that's your father. The most important thing you can do for your mother and sister in the future is to be there for them when they need you. Best wishes for you OP and your mother and sister ❤️❤️😄

[@tracyflynn3665]

Op you done right thing it took a lot of courage to stand up to your dad.its sad that you're mum did not see that you did the right thing maybe in time she will see that you where protecting her.your uncle and grandpa seem good charters. Good luck op in your future 🎉

[@DollyDimples87]

My heart broke for OP... being in a DV relationship, I always put my kids first... I got us out and went homeless a mum does anything for their children safety OP mum needs to seek therapy and learn to be self dependent again. OP is a kind soul. I hope he has found happiness in his life.

[@rainewock2227]

If he had to sneak around and find his grandparents info because he had no contact with them before the comments suggested it, how did he have their number to call them to get advice on sending the video before

[@sme.am.I]

I'm so confused. OP said he called his grandparents, and they said to send the video. It would take 2 days to get to him. He couldn't trust his paternal family. Later, He says he didn't know his mum's grandparent's phone number and looked it up in his mother's address book. Grandma was dead but Grandpa was close. Which is it?

[@amberleeannalee1999]

When ops mom and sis end up in the hospital or even worse who’s fault will that be ? EFF anyone that defends the abuser

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

Your the blessing for you and your mom

[@kathleenpoole1372]

Wait, didn’t he already call the grandfather in the beginning and sent him the video?? So why didn’t he know the grandfathers number at the end and said he hadn’t talked to them in 10 years?? Am I missing something?? Even with the discrepancy I am glad he is now with the safe relatives!

[@mindygarza199]

And the grandmother was there in that first phone call. I wondered about that as well. 😜

[@maryarmour5912]

OP the right thing ..he tried to protect his family ..his mother has typical victim mentality

[@dianafrazier2830]

Maybe Mom will finally realize what's going on when good old Dad starts beating the little sister. Also some of the last comments must have been written by Dad. Didn't know he could reply from prison. 😻😁😻

[@margaretgarlando7911]

yes prisoners can now access the internet even those that have had crimes using the internet, are allowed access to email. in the states anyway

[@pbiffy1535]

He did the right thing ! Don’t listen to those people defending your dad. It never would have blown over. Stop letting your family be your dad’s punching bag .

[@dorothylloyd1804]

Thanks again

[@jinnieharrison9686]

Commenter 2: Has never seen or had the same thing happen to them.

[@darlamercer4078]

Having come from an abusive marriage whoever commented if she were a better wife he would not have hit is stupid! It doesn't matter what you do, they will find a way to blame the abuse on you. Abuse is wrong!

[@kristitovar3846]

I’m so sorry you were treated that way. It sounds like you are out of that nightmare and I pray you are doing well.

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

That's so funny and glad for you 😀😃😍🤩👍🤭😂😄😅🥰🤠

[@billijomaynard8924]

Seriously, how many incels and misogynists are on reddit? Sheesh, some of those comments have me absolutely furious.

[@DivineRenegadeDeanna]

Mom is just as guilty of child abuse and domestic violence as the dad and the extended family are. They're all Abusers. Mom has.givern consent to her husband to beat her AND the children WITHOUT the consent of the children. The child says "No, don't abuse me" and both parents abuse him more to shut up his "no" and remove ALL power and consent for their lives and deny ALL autonomy. These children are better off with the maternal grandparents and both parents can pay support and Alicia can pay the children damages. It's likely better for the entire family. No more scapegoats, be Self-Accountable. Dumkoofs!

[@tracyrieonhall7434]

Nope have him arrested for assaulting your mother and yourself and have your mother sue him for divorce and get everything you can since he's a cheater. Your mother deserves better take that video to the police, hell post it online but get that proof out there for the world to see

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

Send it to the police

[@Zeikul]

OP's mom and dad are both trash. I get people that are abused may want to stay with the abuser. I don't understand how you can watch your spouse abuse your child and side with the abuser. Also, both comment 2's in the video are disgusting.

[@anrexfk]

Tbh if your mother does not want to press charges against your dad? Then that means she has chosen your dad and his issues over you and your sister. She does because of that not deserve your sympathy. I hate women like that. By choosing your dad over you and your sister ... she does not deserve any help and is equally at fault as your dad. Perfect example of the mother why the mom is equally to blame ... she blames her own son for standing up to her, her sister is turning in to her mother ... by also blaming her brother for everything. Why do I hate mother like her? My mother was exactly the same and by fact worse ... his mother only got a small slap ... but still being passive is exactly the same as being the actual abuser.

[@kassijayne2519]

It feels to me as the ones commenting hate full comments are his dads family.

[@tracygardner6318]

OP’s mom is delusional

[@joshuasmith1906]

The second commenter when you ever get a wife that cheated on you remember what you said

[@yahainHotPink]

Thank you for the video

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

You did the right thing so proud of you 🥰🤠😅😄😂🤭👍🤩😍😃😀

[@ramza5421]

what the hell are some people say ops wrong and fathers right

[@daniellewolf3697]

Poor Op And His Mother

[@tracyrieonhall7434]

His father was a cheater and an abuser! He deserved to go to prison for what he did also you mother is a fool for putting up with his bs and disowning you for fighting for what's right. Now since he's locked up your mother will have to get off her butt and get a job to support your sister and herself

[@ramerizevaughn4100]

Original story before the updates: Whoever wrote comment 2 might be just as trash of a person that the father is.

[@ramerizevaughn4100]

Final update: commenter 2 is trash also. So sorry for any family or friends that have to deal with a person like that.

[@prin0428]

Who in the hell are the commenters in the original posts? What a truckload of absolute garbage. Thise commenters saying OP was the priblem and deserved to be kicked out are 100% abusers. You cannot convice me otherwise! "Its the mans job to keep his family in line" The 1950's called and want their misogyny back. OP absolutely did the right thing and I am happy his gpa and uncle were there to help him. The father bringing his mistress home and kicking OP's mom out of her room so he can sleep with his mistress in the marital bed? Have at it trash and abused or not (i wholly understand the abuse cycle as I have been the receiving end of horrible abuse) the mother did not protect her children when that trash put his hands on her son and then kicked him to the curb when he trued protecting his mom and himself. How awful! Good luck OP! YOU did nothing wrong.

[@janmarie3976]

You did good don't let anybody tell you otherwise you did good

[@valgill5036]

Wow! Some of the comments defending the dad!! Who the hell tries to move his mistress into the family home?

[@elizabethlewis6455]

All the blame lies squarely on ops egg donors shoulders.If ops sister is a minor CPS should have been called .With all that happened, including letting the sperm donor back in the house along with the AP.Are grounds to remove your sister from the house.Also hope you got therapy to help you further recover from the trauma of being subjected to the abusive sperm donor.Good luck