Morality, tinder, being "risqué," youtube fame, w 🍷 and @bestdressed

[@maggithepink]

So instead of censoring her language she cut out the sponsored part :D What a boss move

[@antarchi80]

Honestly that’s so iconic

[@heyimmimi]

frfr

[@poojabhandaari]

Sponsoring for what?

[@dovalayn]

@@poojabhandaari she didn’t say

[@nuyataylor4885]

No, it isn’t. She fumbled.

[@kerrywhyte7975]

When you’re here after watching Ashley’s vid

[@yishi.4466]

ikr same ;-;

[@maichoco8313]

Yeah

[@sedwingkorte9357]

bc you saw the clip from ashley’s video and it matched the thumbnail of this one that i recognized in my recommended

[@saalness9173]

when you watched Ashley's vid and then a month later get recommended Damon's vid of Milan but couldn't recognise him, watch a lot of his videos and follow him, find this video and get surprised that he knows Ashley, remember that he was in her video and realise your memory doesn't work

[@katherinedeng6881]

Me too!

[@skincarewithaustin]

In reference to the, “what do I wear on the first date” question: I once was told by a Sephora employee (total stranger, weird circumstances I won’t get into) that you always look like your everyday self on the first date because.. that’s who you are! That’s who they’ll be with if they decide to pursue you, so it needs to be accurate. The 2nd date you dress cute as possible because they’ve hopefully got that puppy crush, warm feeling from the first date and you want to maximize on it. And then the THIRD date, you bust out that mad sex appeal and drive it home. 😂😂👌🏻

[@lovedemusica]

but what if I'm so indecisive that I still haven't figured out my everyday self/style

[@ina733]

DAMN THATS A SOLID ADVICE THANKS AUSTIN imma do dat

[@m_here1]

I've done this and it works

[@lauren2103]

Hahaha third date woooh 😂😂

[@vrandatandon3790]

damn that's so on point!

[@MelissaAnonz]

Unpopular opinion: your life doesn’t end after marriage, you can still go for a rave in paris😌😂

[@Julia-cl1bf]

there are so many middle aged people at raves, at least here in europe, and they are the funniest to dance with.

[@wntrbrrytea]

@Sophie Songbird this!! i love that someone finally said it. a relationship shouldn't "complete" you, because you are already whole to begin with. instead it should enhance you and make you grow.

[@hallielucille1209]

Yes but its not the same

[@carolinashoemaker5938]

I think the sentiment wasn't so much "your life ends up after marriage you can't go to a rave" but more marrying young and maybe not having much life experience by yourself before making such a big commitment

[@sklanguage589]

Lol. Or you could be happy staying home with your family.

[@kamillanoble867]

this collab is literally all ive ever wanted in my life,,,

[@evedansdaughter]

Kamilla Noble i knoooow

[@evedansdaughter]

I can doe now. Lol

[@alfienice3636]

OMG IKR

[@MyaScott]

100% This is exactly what I needed going into 2020!!

[@ellalucy8575]

SAME

[@samanthamariebejo6648]

IM SEEING THE REAL ASHLEY. I FEEL LIKE SHES JUST TALKING TO HERSELF. I LOVE HOW COMFORTABLE SHE IS

[@holsthecolourful1091]

When did u ever not see the real Ashley lmao she’s literally always herself in her videos

[@ivanav4936]

@@holsthecolourful1091 they meant bc she's filming video with another person there's possibility of her feeling uncomfortable. But she stayed genuine bc she enjoys Damon's company and can be herself freely (just like we know her from her own videos) :)))

[@yoshiki1506]

She is always talking to herself heartfully, thats why I m so into her aura.

[@yishi.4466]

She's always been real!!!!

[@planetpurple4736]

I would love to see you do a red wine talk with a non-KZbinr someone with a 9-5 i feel like a lot of these conversations would go differently around money and productivity I think it’d be interesting

[@3333alex]

PREACH! what i've been thinking the entire time.

[@halluciongen3000]

Yes!

[@BloodHuntress99]

YES

[@just.p3achy]

I would LOVE this

[@kpcm9425]

I think any of his other videos can be like that, with his "normal" friends haha

[@eynaalaan117]

i feel like relationships are more like play dough because they aren't static like a card number. like you get a lump of clay and as you develop a relationship you're molding the clay into something cool. or you make something that you don't love and you get new clay and start again. but your happiness with the sculpture you made depends on if you work with the clay. (and sometimes its not about your effort, you might have had shitty dollar store clay and it just doesn't become the master piece you intended but ya know)

[@Margiela001]

that's like the best analogy i've ever heard, it's so simple

[@anyrarahman5481]

Look at us. Everyone sharing their opinions in thoughtful and civilised ways.

[@ravenelle1684]

Yes, i think it’s so « dehumanizing » (i don’t feel like it’s the right word but i can’t find a better one) to just give a grade to love? I feel like a relationship is too complex to just slap a number on it. It is indeed a mixture of art and work, it is much more nuanced. Some art pieces are « better » than others but in the end, they are all valuable.

[@TheeSkyTurnsGreen]

I love that!!!!!

[@MeganOrourkepotatoedragonme]

This analogy is so lovely

[@LifeinLithuania]

I think the card metaphor is something I really struggled with before. It's good to think that way to make sure you don't settle and stay in a shitty relationship but it can also be unhealthy and have you always thinking about 'oh could I do better?'. I'm married and my husband is fucking awesome, but could we both find better people out there? For sure, no doubt. But I'm not with him cuz he's the best person in the whole world and I don't care that he's not. I'm with him because we've been through shit together and we're stronger from it and I like spending time with him more than anyone else. I was really scared when I was younger like 'omg what if I meet someone better?!?' but now I'm like yeah fuck that, I like my husband and I like our history. there's a limitless amount of people I 'couldve' been with so why dwell on these theoretical people when I have someone I like? This is a ramble but I hope someone gets it lmao

[@kenranna]

TRUE

[@jisha7461]

I agree omg

[@Tima-oz5te]

I'm happy for u :) hope I get there

[@britling9101]

Love this comment, cuz I was having a low key panic attack, thanks man

[@jmariacountmein]

@@britling9101 Same. I was scanning the entire comment section for people who didn't agree with what they were saying about relationships. Fortunately there's a lot of people who don't agree with their narrow-minded statements

[@damondominique]

RED WINE TALKS HAS A NEW HOME! 🍷🍷🍷

[@miarosa8579]

the next red wine talks should be with Charline or Shay 😆❤

[@iyana8234]

I just wat hed your last 1 this morning before work and now I get to watch this one right after work. The timing couldnt be more perfect Damon. Thanks

[@unpeudevin3837]

Please can you dou french subs🙏 French was the reason i found you

[@eringabrielle4950]

you should make a podcast called Wine Talks

[@bisouselle]

And we love it!

[@tanyagradyuk5471]

This felt like sitting in on a late night deep talk with friends lmao

[@AleandAlex]

girl who married her first relationship here

[@jmariacountmein]

Yes. Thank you for saying this.

[@NissaWILL]

AWE I LOVE THIS!!!

[@mariagarrard4013]

yes!! :) when you know, you know

[@momotozaki]

Same here, tbh. I can't imagine myself with anyone but my significant other (my first and only love). We've both tried and we couldn't do it. I think it's very weird but in a good way. It's almost scary too haha but it's the best feeling in the world. I can't wait to marry them.

[@AleandAlex]

@@momotozaki I find it odd how its almost frowned upon to pursue your first love. when we were just dating I was bombarded with questions like "what about seeing what's out there/aren't you scared?" and so on .. and the answer was simple and a hard no. why go looking for something I already got? I feel lucky I found it once, some people don't even get that and I'm assuming those are the ones that keep looking and jumping from partner to partner.

[@ggabigoncal]

this video could be 2 hours long and I would watch it without even noticing

[@elizabethnagasha]

That's exactly what l was thinking 😂

[@azharak6846]

This relationships convo reminded me of a podcast called "modern love" and the episode is "we'll meet again in 5 years", basically it's about a woman who thought she met her ideal partner, but she met him way too early and wanted to discover other options, so they decided to break up and meet again in 5 years and it's the cutest story ever. Love you both

[@amoasiwaibrahim3762]

just discovered the podcast thanks to you! Thank you! xx

[@shelsiadacosta2335]

I love that podcast! and litt just heard that story omw to class!

[@pagethreemodel]

That sounds so depressing.

[@user-zi8ih3rj2p]

I just watched the series with this and loved it! Amazon studios produced it.

[@VeggiesbyEos]

Which episode, I can't find it

[@totallynoclue]

That card metaphor makes it sound like people just look for what fits rather than looking for someone they want to be with. Like meeting a 7 and hoping to find a 10 next time or settling, rather than meeting a 7, realizing you like the 7 and 7 likes you back so you decide to grow together and be 10s.

[@jmariacountmein]

Y E S !!!!!!!! I sooo agree

[@TheBotanicalBlonde]

what happens if you flip through 10 cards and then realize card number 3 was the best and you ruined it by being curious about the rest.

[@damondominique]

Exactly.

[@jmariacountmein]

That's why it's a bad analogy. If you're in a relationship but worry about what could be, that relationship isn't the one.

[@jmz1736]

@@jmariacountmein it's not about how it should be, it's about how it feels.

[@jjickrsa]

👏 PLEASE 👏 DO 👏 A 👏 RED 👏 WINE 👏 TALKS 👏 PODCAST 👏

[@syra-a2313]

YYYAAASSS

[@xx-pq3we]

What's a podcast

[@aaronmoiche330]

Actually yes but kinda no, because I feel I’d want to see their faces and reactions not just hear their voices, I’d be missing stuff

[@julianax5934]

Yes 👏

[@annikanielsen740]

@@aaronmoiche330 you can watch most podcasts as videos too :)

[@jvstinxavier]

two icons coming together to share their wisdom over red wine,, magical ✨

[@shreeeni]

Who’s here after Ashley’s video?

[@damondominique]

Me 🤚🏼

[@shreeeni]

Damon Dominique I’ve been watching your videos nonstop 😭😭😭

[@sebastianinchaustegui2615]

​@@damondominique i literally just discovered your channel because of ashley's video and why did it take me so long? your energy is infectious and you're so real. i love your videos. you're awesome, keep it up!!

[@janecampbell5264]

I feel like the card metaphor is a symbol of the tinder generation lol... ppl are always looking for the next best thing. idk I feel like once you’re in love you don’t give a shit about the other cards. Don’t overthink it :) you’ll know when you know. And if you get it wrong, then you can go back to the deck and see the next card 😂

[@jmariacountmein]

This is so true

[@moistorphan]

Exactly. Other people simply don't exist when I'm with someone I love :)

[@yuritzaruvalcaba9625]

I agree with the “tinder generation.”

[@ragarast]

I agree with this! It's so silly to say, but when you know you KNOW.

[@ethereal_astronaut]

YES! I agree. For too long I worried because others told me I couldn't bc in love bc I hadn't had others. But I knew I was. You can't be happy with someone for a long time & feel actually safe, happy, content, if they're not the one for you. I know that I couldn't click with someone else like this. It's just a good pairing, even if I haven't dated a lot. :)

[@ElenaTaber]

Ok waiting for the day I go to a rave with y'all

[@josihenry306]

yess!!❤️❤️

[@tiffanyferg]

these chats are my fav!

[@yanqinli9940]

Ahhhh Tiffany I love your channel too!!

[@jmz1736]

Damon saying "but I dont need more money" is my goal mindset.

[@lynnly2406]

If I were him I would take the not needed money and donate it to a charity or organization I love or just give back to others.. because I do agree that at a certain part of life more money won’t help and it’ll only be like luxury extras but I would take the unwanted money to use it for others bc who knows what others will do with that money

[@solsthrash2603]

@@lynnly2406 I mean sure, but a lot of people do more work at first etc and when they are more finacially stable and content they can turn down work bc they value their time more then the amount of money they could have earned in that moment, I agree that people should donate and give back to communities if possible but nobody is entitled to your time, I regularly give to causes etc. but when I have work experience you better believe I will do my best to have more time with friends and family and also for myself

[@lynnly2406]

@@solsthrash2603 that’s fair. People should care for themselves first

[@pastichio_]

The card metaphor is more how people who I think aren't ready to settle down see dating. At least now that I'm in a place where I want to settle down and meet that person who I can build a life with, I don't think "what if I could meet someone better suited for me?" I'm just thinking about the person in front of me and whether or not we can make it work. Instead it's more like "I know I want to be with this person. I don't want to keep looking through the rest of the deck. But are their character flaws something that I can deal with for the rest of my life? Are our differences something we can work through together?" I think if you still want to "look through the rest of the deck" then you're not ready to focus on the card in front of you. There's no way to build a lifelong relationship if you're not 100% in on the person you're with.

[@lynnly2406]

Agreed

[@roseysoftspoken555]

I'm 22 and almost 4 years into my first ever relationship, so I think about the card analogy sometimes. Where I stand with it at the moment is that I don't care about the other cards as long as I am satisfied with my own. Besides, unlike cards, people don't necessary come to you as a 7 or a 10. If you nurture your relationship, the number can grow higher.

[@peachmojito]

Hey! I'm also 22 and in the 5th year of my first ever relationship. I always thought about this and worried a lot if I'm wasting my youth with this one person. This made so much sense and made me see things differently. We have come a long way and I have changed a lot as a person from 17 to 22 years old and he has stayed by my side this whole time (cared for me while I was mentally unstable and struggling with every aspect of life). I'm so happy I learned this and learned to appreciate what I have and not take it for granted :)

[@ignaciacaceres6408]

I’m a simple girl, i see ashley, i click.

[@SebastianPereiraisabaddie]

ignacia caceres this made me cackle hahaha I love it

[@Jayshreeusedtomakevidoes]

❤❤❤🥺

[@fastestcatintheworld]

I’ve been with my first “real” boyfriend for 9 years and we’re getting married next year! I’ve never doubted that he is the one for me. We’re best friends and I still get butterflies after all this time. It can happen :)

[@WordsByTheGigahertz]

"We can go get breakfast in the morning" is an key phrase in my love language

[@noemiepaul4434]

"THEY ARE AND I M TRYING TO BE A PART OF IT!" love it

[@damondominique]

YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN??????

[@noemiepaul4434]

@@damondominique totaly

[@VictoriaMeira7]

a whole mood honestly

[@sonja7335]

That card metaphor seems off to me. Real life is not like Tinder. Be happy if you get lucky, the timing is right and you get to connect with another human being. Don‘t worry about better options, nobody is perfect.

[@mikesmic]

ugh loved this

[@MacabreLondon]

Here he is! The king, the icon, it’s Christmas let’s go home!

[@zielonaverte]

Ashley is so smart, like genuinely such an intelligent person

[@ralucalawley1916]

about the thing on what to wear on dates I also enjoy being a little extra with my outfits (whether in a too formal way or too informal way) and I’ve realised that my crush’s reaction to my outfits pretty much says if he is also interested in me or not. For example, one night I dress quite classy while he has a casual look and the next night he comes looking like a fancy snack (basically, he acknowledged my look and was trying to recreate it in order to impress me). My point is that yes, we do dress to impress.

[@kyrahholley]

I didn’t want this talk to be over, can’t wait for the next one!

[@appleidover]

In terms of relationships: someone once said to me you got to evaluate every relationship on its own, for example in the card metaphor, when you find a card you like and that matches you, you just make that work for you, no matter what number they might be objectively. Personally, I don’t believe in the “one”, that there is just one person out there in the world for every person. I think there are multiple people you could possibly be compatible with, but part of a relationship is making it work with one of the people you are compatible with (and when I say make it work I don’t mean staying in a relationship that is toxic or wrong for you, but working through the little things bc no one is perfect and to stay together people need to understand one another and have their value and priorities aligned)

[@jmariacountmein]

Yessss I agree!

[@camillecampan4351]

i'm French and trust me when i say that all guys in France are "thirsty" or at least a bit flirty haha maybe it's just that it's in our culture to see parties as a way to meet new people, and rarely in a friendly way that's how you can easily meet guys without any dating apps in France, at least I've noticed that you don't necessarily need them to go on dates also, I don't know about america, but in France, it's kinda frequent to have people come at you with no excuse just to come talk for a bit because you seem nice or to ask for a number

[@adelaideeverett9134]

I love that idea

[@camillecampan4351]

@Quynh-Anh Nguyen well i guess it just depends on the people you date and the kind of relationships you get yourself into if you date someone and you decide to commit to a romantic relationship, it might be necessary to discuss exclusiveness and figure out what would work best for all the people involved i think it also depends on the social groups that you are in: some people are very open to these subjects and are able to acknowledge all the possibilities of a relationship, but some people see couples as a very basic relationship which includes exclusiveness, monogamy etc

[@camillecampan4351]

and don't get me wrong, they are all fine as long as every person involved agrees with the "terms" and feels as good as possible in this relationship

[@camillecampan4351]

and i don't think i can speak for every French people that exists haha

[@curfewsatmidnight4861]

Im actually so shook at this collab this is all i’ve ever wanted i can die peacefully

[@isabelah3023]

A cross over we would never have thought of, but now can’t imagine a world without

[@radbotanical]

I loved this video! But, just to touch on the young marriage statement. I married young (I was 21 and my husband was 25). But I moved to Finland to be with him and then we traveled to 11 countries in one year and actually did go to a rave in Paris on a yacht! So getting married young does not mean all your dreams will go away. You can do cool shit still, but now youre doing cool shit with a built in bestie :-) although I do agree that some people get married young and then stop living the life they dreamed.

[@alerp0712]

100% agree with you. Getting married doesn't mean you're done with adventure or trips. The deck of cards metaphor seems to me like a kind of grass is always greener mentality as well.

[@poptartrs]

This is better than any MCU crossover we could ever get

[@dianapotra2583]

Two romantics who also happen to make cool ass videos? Ooh, this is bound to be good!

[@nathanieldrew]

I really enjoyed this!

[@leebond6580]

Sorry for expanding on every point that they make, but there's also a study on this! 11:43 Statistically, after a household reaches an income of 75,000 a year (this is for a family of four), then the amount of happiness they get from having that much money is almost the exact same as what they would have with any type of higher income.

[@lotusssypringa]

This seems outdated or certainly NOT in New York

[@LayneFable]

I wan't to get to the level where I can turn down brand deals hahah

[@diamondsharry]

I also miss raving across Europe. I lived in Berlin for a while, and I miss having the opportunity to rave to some techno whenever I need to let out steam.

[@azirec1678]

I was thinking about moving to Germany for college. Where are good places to rave? Is the rave community very closed to outsiders? You have to be invited to raves in my country, and it's usually a lot of ass kissing to some rude guy.

[@diamondsharry]

Azire C most of Berlin’s clubs have a rave atmosphere (techno, no photos, DIY aesthetic) and can be found on the Resident Advisor (RA) website/app. They’re “exclusive” in the sense that the bouncers look for people who dress like they’re into the scene and know the artists and DJs playing that night, but admission can be kinda random. Someone who looks super obnoxiously American might hit a stroke of luck, and it may just not be a regular’s night. Usually you can bop around to a few places to find somewhere to get in. I’ve found more “underground” raves through Facebook pages and events or by word of mouth from people I met at the clubs.

[@diamondsharry]

Azire C outside of Berlin, I usually checked which events on RA were most popular and attended those, unless I met someone with a better suggestion.

[@diamondsharry]

Azire C since living in Berlin I’ve become super interested in club culture and raves bc historically they have been as much political as they have been entertaining

[@fairyprincessunikitty2032]

The best Techno is the Techno of Frankfurt am Main.

[@barelygettinbyy]

I swear I've become so addicted to these. You go baby.

[@littlew0men]

i've never been in love or in a relationship and now i'm already overthinking about it because of that metaphor and the thing about your first partner lol

[@LeireFB]

I feel like you just know it when you get the right card. But then you worry about if you're THE card for your partner!

[@moistorphan]

Ashley is overthinking because she didn't find "the one" yet. When you find them, all overthinking goes out the door and you know you've got the best

[@danackroydsbutt]

Love yall but Americans have such a fairytale perspective on continental Europe hee-hee. Also tend to disagree about the relationship/deck of cards metaphor: I believe there's a shit ton of potential 'true love's out there in the world, but true love is also a matter of commitment, dedication, attention, shared experiences. It's something that has to be built up together. I agree that settling too young may come at the expense of other experiences, but I don't think settling too young can come at the expense of finding your 'true love'. With the deck of cards mentality it would only be harder to find 'true love' because you will never commit 100%. Like someone else said in the comments: why criticize the mentality of optimizing productivity when you view love as something that can be 'optimized' as well?

[@jmariacountmein]

Agreeeed

[@ll3740]

YES! I think people nowadays are afraid to settle and be comfortable. I mean, why? Like if you are happy and you are content, what is wrong with settling and being comfortable. I do think that there are other people out there for you, but at the end of the day love is about growing together through all the shitty days and the good days.

[@janniellejimenez6994]

I love this

[@caramelbar4938]

damn, on point

[@workofivory]

Haha loved this. But the dating part- happiness doesn’t come from having lots of options aka “a deck of cards”. If you constantly have choices (which is the issue for our generation) you’re always going to wonder if you could have gotten someone better. Tbh, if you find a guy/girl that is nice and loving, make the commitment. That’s why grandma and grandpa were together for 55 yrs. I’m not saying couples that were together for 55 years were the happiest but I think everyone deserves a life partner who will always be there for you and vice versa. Anyway, you’d also have to have a long term mindset for this type of relationship. It’s ok to also not be ready for it, but eventually it should be the goal. Much love!!

[@tretren1468]

This shit getting me woke. I’m about to graduate Uni while working and I’m proud I’m graduating in 4 years with an impacted major but I have anxiety and burnout. It shouldn’t be productivity first and self care/happiness last.

[@name.7463]

I think what’s most important is finding a person to be your SO that you have great communication with, have some fights to find out how to talk about tough things, have similar idealisms and future goals that fit together. And most importantly to actually put in the work cause love is easy, relationships can be hard and you have to make a conscious decision to stay with that person and possibly make sacrifices. You can’t expect someone to be perfect and you can’t expect your relationship to be easy all the time

[@kippxbooks]

for 12:28, i read this tweet that said "rest is not a waste of time" and that rest IS productivity in way (because you literally need it) and it's made me feel a tiny bit better about not ALWAYS working on something as a creative, i'm always feeling like what i'm doing needs to be monetized like oh no i can't just create this art, i have to SELL this art but that's not the case

[@user-kc5kx4rn6z]

i want you guys to talk about: -Confidence. -How to succeed in life. -How to make awsome friends. -Traveling around the world for cheap (cuz im broke lmao). -Body image. -Meeting the love of ur life. -College? Thank You.

[@mibtt]

I support this comment.

[@kittyvu5045]

I'll literally watch about anything with Ashley in it

[@victoirebd7648]

Nobody: French people : ASHLEY YOUR NOT SUPPOSED TO PUT ALL YOUR FINGERS ON THE GLASS ! YOUR GONNA WARM UP THE WINE !!

[@WillOnAWhim]

truly vibing to these wine talks

[@melissavillegas6043]

Here after Ashley's video. Love this friendshippp.

[@rosskilla216]

I dont think i agree with the card statement, i think its much simpler: do you see yourself living the life YOU want to live with that person by your side. When you think about it like this you find the answer very quickly. I donk think you need multiple partners to know, you can know what you want or what you look for for yourself, and if the person fits, there is chemistry and friendship, and support, and fun, then thats the one, you wouldnt have the need to ask is there better.

[@castle_greene]

“If u had tinder would u still be together for 55 years?” killed me

[@shreyachaudhry8895]

Just came here after the Paris vlog and loved your guys’ thoughts on how being a full time KZbinr can cost your creativity. I agree with Ashley that it almost seems ideal to keep a steady job and KZbin a hobby just so you don’t feel forced to censor yourself to pay your bills

[@WhenInDoubt_Pink]

I actually wondered why Ashley didn’t try to hang out with you while she was in Paris… I’m so excited to see that it actually happened😂

[@aureateblues]

I have so much to say about this video, I really just want to be in the room having this conversation. When you're young, dating can definitely seem like a deck of cards all laid out and ready to be explored. The thing is, none of the elements in this metaphor are static, including yourself. Dating changes you, teaches you things about yourself and about other people and the world around you. It introduces you to new ideas and ways of living, either becoming part of you or part of your roadmap of things to avoid. You can find yourself in relationships that are good but that you're not ready for, or haven't had the experience to appreciate. You can also find yourself in bad relationships that you don't even realize aren't the best for you. You can be in a relationship that you ultimately decided wasn't working, and look back three years down the road on it with a completely different perspective. That's why I agree that it's important to explore yourself for long enough to get some kind of grasp of who you are and what you want from life--I think that's what people feel when they find themselves asking, "but what else is out there?". It's not that the person you're with isn't great, it's just that you have more exploring to do and it's not time for you to settle down yet. When that time comes is different for everyone, and some people find that they never want to, or that it doesn't take much at all. It's even more complicated than that, I could write a whole-ass book about this honestly because who people are changes constantly throughout their lives, and it's what makes long term relationships and marriages so challenging. When it clicks, though, and I can tell you from experience that it can and does click, whether or not there's potentially someone "better" for you out there doesn't matter, because you'll know you're home. Yeah, there are moments where you doubt it or maybe you try to fight it, especially when you're mad or hurt, but that shit is like gravity, it just pulls you in. I'm a little older than you guys, turning 32 next month, and I've been with my best friend for 10 years, married for 5. There are plenty of people out there who might be easier to deal with, or who might do more for me or have more in common with me, but there is nobody on this planet who would be an adequate replacement. Some people just become part of you, and the thought of losing them becomes like losing your own arm or leg, and that's love. It's painful and beautiful and once you really feel it, you know.

[@jessjms1181]

How cuteee, you really engage when you talk to people, I really respect that.

[@mads4021]

Does anyone else think that Ashley's "throw-her-head-back" laugh is adorable?

[@chrissteffi]

‘If someone thinks that their first boyfriend or girlfriend is the one. It’s probably because you’ve never been with any one else before.’ So True!

[@sola_a]

Idk some people are lucky and do meet "the one" on the first try

[@lemurluver12]

I'm back with my first boyfriend after a year and a half dating other people, and he is the one for me, for sure

[@whiteaesthetic4680]

Sola yeah my friend’s parents were exactly that. They met at 15, started dating at 17 and got married at 19. They’re still together today doing great. Neither of them had relationships before. It can happen like that for example but I wouldn’t say it’s that common.

[@andreas_adventures]

You don’t have to date other people to know they aren’t for you. Maybe they don’t want to waste time with people that aren’t “the one”. I married my first boyfriend at 30 but I know he is the one for me because we are so similar and get along so well.

[@ivannayanez1443]

i met my first boyfriend at 12, started dating at 15, and broke up with him at 20. sometimes you might think they're 'the one', but as you two grow up you might also grow apart. you don't have to force yourself to stay with someone just because of them being your first boyfriend/girlfriend

[@josepha133]

Ummm - WHAT? The collaboration I never knew I needed!

[@outaugust]

Imo the card deck analogy is really messed up. I'm not sure if anyone else agrees but the reason people have a hard time feeling satisfied in a relationship is because they're always thinking about the other possibilities out there instead of being happy with their partners.

[@jmariacountmein]

I agreeeeeee!

[@tamm.y]

Agreed!

[@finalgirljess_]

1000%!!!!

[@daisyfruity3040]

Yeah.. but it’s true..

[@outaugust]

@@daisyfruity3040 i know people can't be rated using numbers, and that people can get better with time so, it's really not true and I hope you rise above this ideology

[@anastasiavkorol]

Please do more videos together. ALSO. When Ashley said "people don't realize that they can feel their first love's feelings, AGAIN, with someone else, on a deeper level." just fucking changed me. but like how you know tho?

[@NikkoNantone]

First video on this channel is with ASHLEY FROM BESTDRESSED i couldn't ask for more

[@frannycoughlin8149]

i was like is that ashley surely that’s not ashley and then i was like THATS ASHLEY!

[@NissaWILL]

See Damon, now you and Ashley got me contemplating my relationship bc he is my first boyfriend been together for almost four years. And I feel as though we are really good together & I wouldn't mind marrying him. But, I do understand where you guys are coming from about exploring other options. See this why I appreciate this type of content. It's good to hear what other people think about when it comes to love. Anywho, I still loved the video of course. much love xoxo

[@crazy4HungerGames]

I love when Ashley puts up chatty videos because she's honest with us, this collab was great.

[@abi_rose]

ashley's voice sounds so cute in this c:

[@RaheemD]

Ngl, I saw the thumbnails for these videos and idek if I'd enjoy it (they're too dark boo they deserve better!). But after watching one I was like "I need to watch another" next thing yanno I'm hooked!

[@kaispantsincallmebaby965]

the things you said about europe just made me lol.

[@grel4401]

Why?

[@shreyachaudhry8895]

Already commented but alsooo about the deck of cards analogy...I had one serious boyfriend before I met my husband and after meeting him I didn’t really feel this need to look at other “cards”. A successful relationship isn’t necessarily about picking the hottest/nicest/most perfect person but about finding someone whose flaws you can accept and who you can grow with

[@nicholaslowick3381]

I broke my earphones because of my excitementnt

[@AwesomeEliz]

please just keep talking about relationships and dating as a 20 something so i can cry

[@jaskade]

Nicole Cbrer this

[@pikachuiswatchingyou]

The money does not equal happiness comment was such a good reminder

[@spicenugget]

The topics you talk about in this video are so important for young viewers or ANY viewers to think about and it comes across so real! The hustle and productivity culture of North America is insane and I’m so happy y’all talked about this 🙏🏻

[@Hulie]

i’ve literally been waiting for this since she posted about visiting you in paris thank. GOD.

[@minnie4291]

Sameeeee

[@VictoriaMeira7]

wait where did she post about that?

[@nicholaslowick3381]

I was watching a video and I was like I’ll watch it after it, then I saw with best dressed and I had a heart attack.

[@mimi__png4324]

I swear to god Damon, these wine talks need to become a podcast, they've become the soundtrack to my studying and my commute dudee x

[@leebond6580]

OMG at 5:58 the thing they're talking about is called the spotlight effect, and it's totally normal. It's basically how you always think everybody is looking at you even when their not. Humans originally evolved in this behavior because always expecting an attack from a predator is a mindset that we needed to survive. But nowadays we don't really need it that much unless your thinking in terms of social predators. So if you are always self conscious, it's not because you've put yourself up on a pedestal, it's because you're mind thinks that your in a life or death situation and trying to keep you out of danger.

[@eauneaux]

I nearly screamed when I received the notification. My two favourite youtubers in a video together... I’m I dreaming?

[@sana-rx3nm]

everybody needs a Damon

[@Failmu]

On the topic of reading on public transport. As a European (I can't speak for everyone obvisously), I feel like I've gotten more done if I do my reading while on the metro, instead of taking time off when I get home to read. It's more about being productive and fitting in that me-time when it works, rather than anything else

[@Melina-vs7pl]

Comment from Europe: you guys are crazily neo-liberal, even when it comes to loove! Optimisation is not alway the key... Still love you're videos

[@kokoerdmann4416]

I thought that to! Chasing after the best isn't gonna make you Happy, even even when it is the best 'vibe'

[@Anna-zo7dj]

What does neo-liberal mean? I’m not sure about it but I feel like I get what you are talking about. What they said especially about love sounded so weird. I cannot tell if it’s bad or not but one thing’s sure I never heard people talk about love this way but that might be because I’m also europian

[@Melina-vs7pl]

@@Anna-zo7dj i meant to use it in a more vernacular way than the economical definition. Basically what i wanted to say is is how suprised i was that they look at their life from the perspective of capitalism so much. Like talking about dating as if it was a neo-liberalist market (instead of a welfare state if we stick with these terms) where its only about competing with others and figuring out ones value. I felt like that was really cliché american haha

[@Anna-zo7dj]

@@Melina-vs7pl ohh thank you for explaining that! I completely agree with you. As you said they look at things from a capitalistic perspective and that's something I've been seeing recently on youtube a lot

[@elizabeth4689]

Yes this way if weighing people's values on a scale seems so disingenuous to me. As if feelings can be measured so simply.

[@123paramorefan]

THIS IS THE BEST COLLAB AHHH IM SO HAPPY

[@IndieJenny]

On the cards talk I think that we have to look at our relationship and think if there are any problems right now that could be major in the future. Like wanting to have kids or not and things that truly matter to you, like where you'd like to live etc... If you have the same mind of the major things and you feel at home with that person then you're most likely in a very loving relationship. Sure you can love multiple people throughout your life but if you believe in monogamy you have to pick at some point. Even in polyamorous relationships I found that most of the times they have a main partner and they have casual relationships with other people. So still they have to pick that someone. And about having to date many people to feel like they're the one doesn't really work because, like you said, if you have the mentality of always wanting to know if there's someone more compatible you'll never be truly happy. You can't never be 100% compatible with someone and as long as you agree in the important things that matter for both of you then you can work out stupid problems, like the way you clean the house and about shoes in the house. You always have to change to be in a relationship. It may sound bad but if you want to build friendships and not pick fights with your family you have to pick the things that you want to fight about. For me it would be a complete no-no if they were racist and homophobic and sexist. Those things for me are worth fighting about so I'd never be with someone like that, but the way you put the toilet paper or whatever is always something you both can work on and find an agreement. I'd love to be in your wine talks. Come to Manchester, UK and I'll gladly pour you some.

[@jmariacountmein]

Thank you for saying this. I think the way they said it is just wrong and sad, and I'm glad not everybody thinks that way.

[@sophielewis6592]

This is my comfort video I watch it all the time when I can’t sleep. Thank you for this.

[@TT-hq2cf]

I mostly agree with what Ashley said about love, about how people think the first love is the best they can get, but you don't NEED to find a deeper love. No matter how many people and who you date/marry, there'll 99.9999% definitely be somebody else out there who is more "compatible", but relationships don't rely SOLELY on compatibility.

[@livbland6827]

MY TWO FAVES HAVE COME TOGETHER AND I AM NOT OKAY, HOW DOES THE UNIVERSE EVEN ALIGN ITSELF THIS WELL I AM SHOOK

[@LayneFable]

love this video of you two!! so glad it was recommended!

[@MerciCitron]

I'm french and I didn't know raves were still a thing lol

[@lina9246]

Merci Citron I live in Paris and I’ve never been to one

[@darioalbertoama9544]

Grindr stories, rave stories, another love stories

[@damondominique]

Oop, oop, and O0o0o0o0o0o0o0OP

[@fabq8340]

If you guys were to start a podcast, I would listen to it religiously.

[@raghad679]

I have so many issues with her way of thinking that I don't even know where to begin. Gonna say one thing: contentment is key. Seriously be thankful with what you get.

[@blizzy365]

omg the "hitting your milestones" thing really got me... even though I'm doing great and everything I can to achieve everything I want, I feel jealous if other people achieve something better... that's so stupid and it really opened my eyes ...

[@Anonyoutuber27]

We need a 3 year update 😂❤

[@joy.limon_]

omg yeeess