Daniel Goleman: Why arent we all Good Samaritans?

www.ted.com Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, asks why we aren't more compassionate more of the time.
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[@gregorymarques6762]

Compaixão e empatia são essenciais para que possamos nos tornar pessoas melhores!

[@ritakuester9343]

"A verdadeira compaixão não significa apenas sentir a dor de outra pessoa, mas estar motivado a eliminá-la.". A frase do próprio Daniel Goleman resume essa palestra maravilhosa e inspiradora.

[@VeiledGlory]

As a person with Asperger's Syndrome, I have had to learn to converse with others "from scratch." One of the things I learned was that others were more happy to be with me if I asked them questions and focused on their answers. All the while listening, I think of more questions to ask and so on. Basic, I know, but this is essentially what this gentleman is saying.

[@mariarocha7321]

Que vídeo incrível! Um vídeo que resume bem que estamos mais preocupados com nós mesmo e não vemos o todo a nossa volta. Ter compaixão e empatia para o próximo é muito importante.

[@milleneferreira806]

Mensagem incrível, empatia é exatamente isso, Daniel Resume da melhor maneira possível, "A verdadeira compaixão não significa apenas sentir a dor de outra pessoa, mas estar motivado a eliminá-la." Conteúdo com alto poder reflexível.

[@5MinutePsychology]

Now it’s 12 after this event and it is still fascinating! I’ve been working with my clients on their EQ for years with great results. Emotional Intelligence is worth developing. And unlike with IQ we can change a lot.

[@leandronovaes4176]

Mensagem inspiradora que fala sobre compaixão e empatia. Saber compreender a dor que o outro sente nos direciona a sermos pessoas e líderes ainda melhores.

[@jackthestripperr]

Daniel Goleman, you inspire me

[@hamzahassan6726]

One of the best TED Talks

[@naianaribeiro8988]

Excelente Vídeo! Por muitas vezes sabemos o que o outro esta sentindo, passando, podemos até passar próximo conviver com a pessoa. Porém, estamos tão preocupados com o nosso próprio dia a dia, que não pararmos para realmente sentir se colocar no lugar do outro para ajudar sair daquele momento difícil. Sensacional a frase "A verdadeira compaixão não significa apenas sentir a dor de outra pessoa, mas estar motivado a eliminá-la." Este é o verdade significado da empatia!

[@isisrodrigues6566]

Que sensacional esse video, empatia e compaixão são fundamentais para sermos seres humanos melhores. A habilidade de nos conectarmos e compreendermos os sofrimento alheios nos permite ajudar o próximo a mudar e amenizar a sua dor.

[@amandaantunes5440]

Excelente!!! A empatia é primordial dentro de uma organização e deve ser praticada diariamente. Pensar no outro, ajudar o outro é nossa missão para um mundo melhor e para o próprio crescimento como pessoa e como profissional.

[@GabrielDias-is6do]

Compaixão é se colocar no lugar do próximo. Precisamos entender que qualquer colaborador tem sentimento e também tentar entender qual era a intenção positiva por trás de cada ação, isso é ter compaixão e ser um líder empático!

[@wahnano]

Dude you're deep. Respect!

[@marisolcarvajal6680]

Es una invitación a la Reflexión... inspirador.

[@iarasilvestre1232]

Que mensagem maravilhosa, a compaixão nada mais é que a habilidade que temos de compreender o sofrimento do outro e corresponder ao desejo de aliviar e diminuir esse sofrimento. ... É mais uma motivação que nos dá energia para ajudar as outras pessoas, de maneira que elas mesmas consigam aliviar seu próprio sofrimento com a nossa ajuda. Muitas vezes não precisamos procurar muito longe, as vezes quem mais precisa é quem está perto.

[@aldairsedlmaier5798]

Excelente conteúdo, uma vez ouvi esse pensamento de uma pessoa e a princípio me pareceu algo sem sentido, mas quando parei para refletir me marcou muito, porque de fato fez sentido, muitas vezes fazemos "ações de caridade" de forma egocêntrica, para nos sentirmos bem, e não por empatia e para de fato ajudar quem precisa. Compaixão, é como o próprio significado da palavra diz, partilhar da dor de alguém para assim ajuda-lá de forma a amenizar aquele sentimento.

[@tux937534]

Thanks!!

[@annetavares7423]

Maravilhosa mensagem, temos de compreender o sofrimento do outro e a Compaixão é o sentimento que nos ajudamos e ajudamos aos outros a amenizar a dor. É esta motivação que nos dá forças e energia para não olharmos na direção errada. Devemos prestar mais atenção aos que estão ao nosso redor. e desligar uma parte de nós para não sermos indiferentes a outras pessoas e seus sofrimentos...

[@gustavooliveira2689]

Muito forte, temos sempre que focar no melhor dentro de nós!

[@cget]

Nice to see you speak for all ministers.

[@iljimae4509]

I love this guy

[@danimiclaus7597]

Thank you for inspired me to write the book THE SPIRITUAL INTELLIGENCE.

[@blackrobe2007]

Brilliant!

[@laianevieira3002]

Mensagem linda! Temos que sempre ter empatia pelo o próximo e compaixão.Se notamos a outra pessoa, nós automaticamente temos empatia, nós automaticamente sentimos o que ela sente. E se a pessoa tem alguma necessidade ou está em sofrimento, estamos automaticamente preparados para ajudar.

[@carolineiwata7836]

Realmente, as vezes estamos tão focados nos nossos próprios objetivos e preso a rotina, que não olhamos para o próximo. Compreender o sentimento do outro, de um colaborador, você pode fazer a diferença na vida de alguém e ser um exemplo: "A verdadeira compaixão não significa apenas sentir a dor de outra pessoa, mas estar motivado a eliminá-la".

[@annguyenuc2284]

Thanks

[@claudees]

Nice thoughts. The problem starts when Mr. "I" plays the lead role instead of "We". More and more I's lead to eye problems. Thanks for the lovely video.

[@BlackMetalSwan]

I agree with you. I worked in downtown Atlanta when I was 18 - 20 and would try to get to know the homeless people there, sometimes eating and smoking with them. I had 2 knives pulled on me by homeless people and one homeless guy tried to attack me during those 2 years, some of them were just crazy and dangerous.

Por favor coloquen la traduccion de los videos del Dr Goleman

[@nathalymaia6248]

Precisamos exercitar mais nossa compaixão e empatia pelo próximo, somente assim conseguiremos ter uma sociedade mais unida. As pessoas precisam ser cuidadas e é nosso papel mostrar aos nossos filhos, sobrinhos e netos o caminho correto para que de pouquinho a gente possa viver em um mundo melhor.

[@cathycook2909]

Interesting!

[@chamindriblair2551]

I watched this talk with great interest. I agree with everything Dr. Daniel Goleman said. However I am disappointed that Dr. Goleman never once mentioned extending the compassion to non-human sentient beings who suffer tremendously at the hands of humans. For example, Dr. Goleman spoke about making compassionate choices when shopping and he gave an example of buying a T-shirt and it's effect on the ecology. I agree with what Dr. Goleman said and I would apply the exact same logic when purchasing animal products, particularly meat, egg and dairy. I encourage Dr. Goleman to expand his compassion to the non-human sentient beings and bring such examples into his future talks.

[@Pottan23]

very interesting. Psychology owns.

[@1schwererziehbar1]

that's a very good comment. i noticed that too. in one video i just showed that the speaker had calculated something wrong (just a mathematical equasion, can happen to anybody) and i got 6 thumbs down very soon. what's wrong with people?

[@lievemerel2408]

is he said that one of our own little action can invite the other's actions too, whethere is good or bad?

[@notimelikethepresent4739]

Heh thanks, Maybe tell me which video yours was so I can return the favor.

[@SIMKINETICS]

@Mahoivlich As a secularist, I must protest! Some ministers help altruitsically. Generally, generalizations are not valid.

[@OMG_BeCkY]

What he's describing in that last story is known as the "bystander effect" ...Google it. It's quite interesting.

[@MrGolmorad]

@DontTouchMyTea and that my friend is called putting yourself ahead of others

[@wendyjomendy]

People need to start directing these talks to the ones in power the ones at the top making life extremely hard to just survive let alone help another individual. I place this problem squarely in the lap of those who control wealth and power. They have no rules they break every rule they give us then here comes this bull about taking it up the ass with a smile. Not all of us are in positions to help anyone and that doesn't make it our fault either or that we are bad.I'm really tired of deceit

[@yennimilenaparradomarque6381]

Lo podrían pasarlo en español

[@alonsocontreras5687]

Ed kemper?

[@nargesnayer6118]

چرا ترجمه ندارد 🤔🤕

[@VikramFF37]

hey

[@Adventure1844]

Sometimes it seems as if technological progress is advancing faster than our ability to remain humane.

[@HamidahIshak]

salaam.dear brothers and sisyers in Islam and in faiths.these lectures by brother daniel goleman is so captivating..his speeches come out from his heart..very inspiring.sincere and with empathy.his speeches are clear,very motivating.youtube:why arent we all good samaritans?hamdhqadrAMAN.

[@MiriamSPia]

He is mistaken. High IQ is actually correlated with high levels of emotional sensitivity in most cases. The upside is compassion. The downside is that when that type of person experiences negative emotions they tend to be as much more intense as all the fun emotions. More likely the killer was just pathologically angry towards his victims.

[@fuquplz9983]

A random person online is saying that a guy with a Phd and who went to Harvard is wrong… i think you’re wrong man 😑

[@DRAKONdev]

Все будут знать Всë - и видео висит на этой фразе

[@SIMKINETICS]

@Mahoivlich As a secularist, I must protest! Some ministers help altruistically. Generally, generalizations are not valid.

[@andregdj]

I am very sorry...and now scarred for life...

[@analogWeapon]

i'm not sure i get your point. could you expound?

[@fuquplz9983]

How about now. How’s your life changed. Did you get some enlightenment from the years? Or did you forget about your youtube account. It would be amazing to see you reply!

[@ThyReturner]

I was hoping that he'll say, "That I went to this narcissist joy for feeling good about myself to instead realizing I should focus on who I am helping and realized that I just didn't give a fuck and kind of wanted my money back."

[@SIMKINETICS]

@Mahoivlich Notice that I posted twice? Only one of the posts is valid.

[@kev3d]

True, however do you think that perhaps people just like to talk about themselves? In other words, you would be an equally pleasant person to be with regardless of disease or disorder (except for perhaps very strong B.O.) so long as you listen and ask questions?

[@notimelikethepresent4739]

Lol, this is news to this psychologist? Maslow's hierarchy of needs incorporates this, we first think or ourselves, safety, security, etc and then after all of that is taken care of we move to more philosophical concepts, such as helping others. Some do go against this, but for the vast majority this is the way the mind works.

[@AhmedSheikh]

2018

[@Trakester3]

He's referencing IQ and EQ, or you could think of it as Intellectual Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence.

[@notimelikethepresent4739]

"It has NEVER been proved to work" Geez, do you seriously know anything about Maslow or did you simply google him and come to your own asinine conclusions? As for people going against the pyramid structure, he also explains through his work why this occurs also, that value systems can take precedent in the mind and thusly change the structure somewhat. Your point however is moot as we are not discussing survival nor glory but the simple action of helping another.

[@jessy_eng5]

In my book, empathy applies to eating habit too, the same way society increases their consumerism level they do with food and do it the worst way as possible. The animals are tortured, slaughtered and finally killed, so why we keep doing this even realizing that is wrong and we don’t need it to survive? Empathy?!!!!

[@alexc2265]

The use of the word Machiavellian here misconstrues Machiavelli's ideas. They're far more reasonable and focused on the truly pragmatic than the ideology of a sociopath.

[@niluferbulutguler6006]

vvvvvv

[@bobrianfo104]

Alexander Colon the word Machiavellian is referred to as a person capable of doing anything to reach its goal, suppressing any kind of empathy he/she is feeling. A sociopath on the other hand is a person uncapable of feeling empathy. The use he made of that word is proper for the context as he was making a list of socially unstable people.

[@robertafontes9189]

Up

[@notimelikethepresent4739]

The talk given DIRECTLY supports Maslow's HoN, so arguing with me on my remarks is quite ridiculous. I love TED talks, but it is humorous to see how many thumbs down someone can get if a comment is issued that is in any way negative. Get a grip people, just because they are in TED doesn't mean they are the best or brightest, merely that they have an interesting take on something.

[@fitzbaby2003]

how can you expect anyone to agree. phylosophy is a private thing and cant be proven.

[@elc2k385]

Mr. Golemans jacket is way too large for him.

[@toltottkaposzta20]

Right consumer decisions should be helped by the government. I mean government should boycott goods coming from shady background! That's a reason why governments exist, or at least it should be

[@fuquplz9983]

He went to Harvard. As usual

[@JPQtube1]

I give you a thumbs down for being negative! lol Actually thought your comment was quite good, just having a laugh.

[@DSBrekus]

Disturbing more like :P

[@heathersmith2294]

I won't my money I went to store Buy something they rude back too I give thier money buy them.

[@heathersmith2294]

hello they say we kind loving help other they tell shut-up and be quiet Don't listening talking Busy too busy help out. They say legs do it self.

[@duffnotfudd]

boring

[@Aaron-hq4bu]

This man could put comatose vegetables to sleep. Warbling on old airs and scrolling through Twitter feeds while ghosts of coastal steamboats chug past Narrangasett.

[@Trakester3]

For a guy that's done such important research and inspiring writings, this was very uninspiring.