Daniel Sloss - A Love Letter To Single People

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From Modern Wisdom Podcast Episode #050 | Daniel Sloss | Jigsaw Explained
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[@jessicagarver8218]

Jigsaw changed my life. After 33 years living for everyone else I’m finally living for myself.

[@jacobtacosta]

Isn't it the most liberating feeling ever???

[@barneyy6942]

I'm so happy for you!

[@timr.8812]

I definitely need to see the whole set then

[@huihsienleng2808]

Where do I watch the full set?

[@crizzm3lm863]

@@huihsienleng2808 netflix

[@mackenzieowen7681]

Amazingly enough my boyfriend broke up with me after watching this special. So thank you Daniel Sloss I’m not bitter

[@ChrisWillx]

You’ve been saved from years of pain!

[@UAPCaptain]

That's better than him being in a fake relationship with you, you're better off without him, mate.

[@majdahajlani3112]

If a comedy show was enough for him to leave you, believe me, you are better off being single ❤

[@leetv2223]

Your better off love.

[@anewdirectionwearegoing5784]

So you're saying you're single now, right?

[@KiffeKun]

My wife and I loved Jigsaw and Dark, and Daniel Sloss is an absolute legend! We've watched them about 5 times. Tied the knot last July, and are happy to report that we're still happily married.

[@misssunshine1990]

I watched Jigsaw with my husband. We laughed our fool heads off. Both of us have 8 year marriages and bitter divorces behind us. And we know that what Daniel said is true - there is nothing you could say that would tear REAL love apart. But we both recognized if we'd watched Jigsaw in our first marriages, it might have been the last straw, the necessary discomfort to end it (sooner than they did end anyway). I recommend a watch to every friend that confides their relationship issues to me. And I never say "I'm sorry" to anyone who experiences a break-up. Because I'm NOT sorry. Real connection, healthy love, is worth waiting for. You should never settle for anything else that being absolutely evenly yoked. And you should relish your singlehood and that time of freedom to be selfish until the real love comes. There is no rush. And there is no obligation. You're a real, whole amazing person who is valid without needing a partner. Jigsaw was a beautiful piece of work. It was my favorite until we saw X in person.

[@mamis843]

Beautiful comment 😊❤

[@sophesearching]

Thank you 😍

[@-Songbird]

Creeping on towards 30 and still not having had even one relationship, I really needed this. I’m not on a timer, I’m not in a test or being graded, why am I being so hard on myself?

[@FalconFlyer75]

28 Male myself, same story, I don't really want to be in a relationship honestly I find the thought suffocating, but I hate the stigma that comes with it

[@Kappy25]

I’m only 15 and I’m worried, it’s cuz society has engrained the thought of romance as a necessity for happiness in my brain. Otherwise I’d be so much happier, enjoying my childhood, but instead I’m just worried all day.

[@helenamoniqueclarke8135]

Being an only child can teach you to play creatively and well with yourself. The worst thing about unhappy relationships ,imo, is that they inevitably raise unhappy children, and then you have an entire family that knows nothing but misery...And imagine how many generations that can go on for. Find someone with a comparable life vision and state of spiritual development when seeking a partner.

[@shwetanavani480]

I think the main point should be on making sure you don't ever settle. Its important to ask ourselves questions and be honest. Am I with him because I love him or because I'm afraid of being alone and lonely? Why do I take shit treatment from this person who says they love me? Am I really happy in my life with where this relationship is going? Is sacrificing my mental health being with this person worth it? I mean really our priorities are fucked up. Im going on two divorces at this point and I wish I had thought to ask these questions before I got married or even when I was married. I wish I had watched this show a long time ago. Because if you are spending your time with the wrong person you are wasting your precious life. And that is something far far important than some relationship.

[@conors4430]

As a 30-year-old man who is always been single. I love that I stumbled onto this guy. Not only is he a brilliant dark humid comedian but he explains so well the pressure on all of us that does nothing but make you fearful. And then none of us make the best decisions when we are afraid. Especially when you have to hear the constant shit from some people in relationships who act like life events are a checklist to be completed between the ages of this and this or you’re lagging behind regardless of the fact you’re surrounded by cunts

[@svetakirko8427]

"act like life events are a checklist to be completed" so true.

[@potatollamabatata3537]

The fact that the first thing he said about his future love is that her laugh will make him feel warm inside was just the sweetest thing, my God. And oh yea, definitely. I've seen too many people in shitty relationships because out of fear or being alone or because they liked the thought more than they actually liked the person. And all of those shows who are OBSESSED with relationships and it's just like... the character can go in so many different ways without that. I agree with him 100%. Not against relationships, and they can be amazing, but definitely against fake relationships and the idea that you're not complete or worth it without someone. That last line about it's not your job to fix me and not my job to fix you is just FANTASTIC *chef's kiss*

[@00MzAngel00]

Being engaged now, I loved Jigsaw. Because Jigsaw was me before I met my fiancé. I would change myself and deal with jealousy from the partner I was with at the time. But it wasn’t until I started being happy with myself and happy being single, did I naturally meet the love of my life. No force, no resistance, just natural love. ❤️

[@ALBUMOF2008]

When couples try to set you up because they can’t understand why you’re happy single... don’t be like those couples...

[@yuliakiseleva1900]

Excellent conversation. Very relatable.

[@Coreyj06]

And then 9 months later he is engaged!!! Yaaay for him!!!!

[@jayknight139]

The reason love interest is in the media so strongly is because it's a reflection of the desires of its audience.

[@ChrisWillx]

Is everyone’s primary desire in life to be in a relationship?

[@TitoLounge11]

@@ChrisWillx Yea pretty much. At least biologically I mean

[@ratan4692]

True words, brother :)

[@champflowahbomb7630]

I mean it's understandable. I think no matter how independent we are,I don't think we WANT to have to be single. Sorry but I seriously think that's the truth. We want to sound like we don't need it but deep down we do. In fact I work hard to be independent so that I can be healthy enough to be in a relationship. Just being honest...I don't want to be fake about it.

[@DianeHampson]

@@TitoLounge11 Procreating is biological but monogamy isn't.

[@lazynewruc3006]

Totally agree with what he said regarding friendships and partners. If you have any issues with how close I am to any of my friends then you have to go I’m sorry. It shows insecurities and a lack of trust 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@lglp3]

I had a really close guy friend once, but his girlfriend of three months was not comfortable with our friendship. I wish he was more like Daniel Sloss

[@minminlala9262]

If he chose her, he does have the responsibility to stay away from other female. You guys can be friends but definitely wont be as close as before

[@altersaside]

@@minminlala9262 out of curiosity, what if someone is bisexual? Can they just have no friends?

[@andikasic4793]

@@altersaside Exactly. The whole concept is bullshit. Just because we marry people, we don’t own them. They are still free to form relationships with other human beings and might really benefit from friendships with people of other genders. Not all man-female relationships are sexual, assuming anything else seems kind of dysfunctional and toxic. (married 10+ years with male and female friends on both sides who are a part and incorporated into our family now)

[@altersaside]

@@andikasic4793 yes! The idea is ridiculous to me. Not all relationships are geared towards sex. I've been married for 5 and we both have friends of different genders. And I am bi, so this idea has always seemed off the mark to me.

[@andikasic4793]

@@altersaside I hate to say it, but it’s a really American idea of marriage and relationships, probably originating in the consumption of too many weird romantic movies where it’s suggested that one person satisfies ALL of your needs? Anyway, I’m glad and thankful for my male friends and their perspectives and the same goes for my husband’s female friends. They’re cool ladies and I love them.

[@reptalianruffy1207]

His show helps me recover from break up

[@jessicajnsm]

I mean, one reason Daniel doesn't have to worry about a timeline is because he's a man. Every woman who desires to have biological children has an unavoidable timeline to do so and ideally she'd have and raise them with a partner she'd at the very least want in her life forever, even if not married per se... Just thought I'd throw a different perspective out there in terms of why people may think the way they do about relationships and timelines.

[@FalconFlyer75]

even guys can get screwed over by that, reality is most women who wants kids tend to settle down in the late 20s/mid - early 30s, for the exact reason u stated this means that if a Man really wants kids (as some do) we have to find a woman in this demographic most women in their 30s aren't exactly interested in pursuing a 50 year old, once a guy passes 40 his odds aren't great (unless he's rich due to the perceived stability) what good is retaining the ability to impregnate someone if u have nobody to impregnate?

[@saucecastillo460]

@6:00 "you can absolutely take a running fuck to yourself" I love this & CAN'T WAIT to tell somebody to do that

[@ktm9292]

Loved jigsaw, but I feel like people are missing that the way he described his ex's behaviour was textbook abuse.

[@marinaweibel]

I freaking love Daniel

[@sugarice72]

I love this interviewer!

[@TheArizonawolf]

Oh my god, this is wonderful!

[@ChrisWillx]

Daniel is the real deal!

[@FOCUSBREATHERISE]

"Different paths in love life for different people", sums it all =) "Living your life happily and then finding that person who makes you feel so good that it ruins that perfection", is the nicest challenge! ^^'

[@kilija737]

"why does there (in all movies etc) always have to be a love interest?" thank you for saying that

[@thestormlscoming]

I love listening to him speak and all his specials but I do always question the idea as a whole. I don’t think anyone can fit that well together because humanity is stupid and we’re all so different and have different needs and desires. But we aren’t meant to be alone either. And we can’t survive alone. Being single when you have a strong support system (friends, family, etc) is completely different than being single and not having anyone at all. So in those cases, being in a relationship with someone who may not be the best fit but is at least around and offers plenty of good things is still really helpful when the unfortunate reality of life is that people need people. I think it’s also easier to say all of this when you’re young and healthy, but as you age and need help doing things and just get tired or sick, having someone else around to help you becomes more important. I think it’s more of a matter of deciding whether you prefer to be single and rely on your other support network or if you prefer to have someone else closer in your life

[@TheCapsulateIon]

actually no. It just doesn't work that way. Like someone mentioned above, unhappy marriages raise unhappy kids. We honestly don't need any more of that. If two people don't know how to make a marriage work how can they be fucking parents? Our societies are functioning backwards. People marry, have kids, only to realise they weren't ready for either. So NOPE. Strongly disagree with you. Being single is never at any point a life-long commitment but marriage and especially parenthood is.

[@thestormlscoming]

@@TheCapsulateIon well I never even mentioned kids, or even marriage for that matter, so if you take that out of the equation, what are you disagreeing with? No I don’t think these types of people should have kids (I think most people should not have kids if they cannot provide the proper environment and support for them). And I think most people should not get married. While these concepts are related, they are still entirely separate discussions. So I agree with you and still maintain my original point. But to each their own

[@svetakirko8427]

@@thestormlscoming i loved the show and idea behind it, but u right too. The idea of a perfect partner is still very romanticized. Your relationships can be a phrase for something, or if u regularly develop as a person u can just change and want another things in your life. The main thing is to be true to yourself, never give up other connections u like and actively creating them if u can, and remember that u deserve the best cuz we live once. And just give romantic relationships like a 25-30 % attention, not all 90 and worry for it to be perfect.

[@RealConnorBaker]

Loved this special

[@kaelahrenee5838]

I love all of Daniel's comedy shows and jigsaw felt like a funny but personal attack on me. I have Borderline Personality Disorder and it's an extremely common thing in those of us who have it to feel like we need to be in a relationship or else we are unloved and worthless. Jigsaw can't cure my severe mental disorders obviously but it did help me with that mentality a bit. I'd love to hear if Daniel could apply what he said in jigsaw to emotionally and/or physically abusive relationships, like people who stay because they feel like they can't leave due to manipulation or fear of being hurt either verbally or physically and I wonder what he would say about it. I would honestly pay to hear his input on this XD

[@shybairnsgetnowt]

Jigsaw is great.

[@rosiearts7199]

I think I’m too secure in being single😂 I’m 19 and I’ve never had a boyfriend and honestly, I’m like really ok with that. Yeah it’d be nice to have someone, but I’m an introvert that likes to be alone. I’m very aware and comfortable with my jigsaw puzzle, and I really have no interest in moving my puzzle around to make room for someone else. Which is just... not conducive to forming relationships😂 I relate to his Jigsaw standup too much it’s not even funny. And I don’t want to. Ppl r always like, it’s good to be single sometimes, you can get to know yourself. I know myself too much. 😂

[@DarkWandererAU]

Also an introvert, and I've been single for 5 years. When the New Year hit I thought to myself "I think I'd like to be open to meeting someone this year". But then I realized that 5 years being single brings consequences, and dating has only gotten more complicated, and there are a lot of superficial & entitled people out there. My ability to flirt has been dulled something fierce, so I'll need to sharpen that back up again for sure

[@gtgrandom]

I was single until I was 22. So glad I learned to love myself and find happiness in solitude. It definitely made my first relationship harder in other ways, and there's a lot of room for growth in that area, but it doesn't feel like my whole life hinges on a relationship working out or not, and it's way less pressure.

[@ArielMcCleary]

Isn't this host Chris from season 1 of Love Island UK?

[@ChrisWillx]

Yes, is him.

[@lorrainetiu]

Hi! I want to break up with my boyfriend cause I feel like our relationship is superficial, like how Daniel Sloss describes. I definitely can relate to being in a relationship where you force yourself to love the person that you are with. I’m scared to break up with him because I feel like if I do, I’ll be the bad person. I don’t want to spend an eternity with the wrong person.

[@mandiemayer2562]

Dude the only bad thing you could do is pretend to love someone, because then neither of you are getting what you deserve. You know what you need to do! xxx

[@lorrainetiu]

Mandie Mayer Hi! I broke up with him. 🙁

[@frankinsaneandmyrrh1202]

@@lorrainetiu if you feel a sense of relief, you know you did the right thing! :)

[@DarkWandererAU]

@@lorrainetiu 5 months later, how are you getting on?

[@Sethernet]

So how’s your life now?

[@trindog5843]

I'm a perpetually single 14 year old so this helped me a lot to realise not everyone needs a partner

[@BallroomPrincess13]

That God Damn woman will be very God Damn lucky lol! Love this guy. So refreshing.

[@caiovondannecker5771]

Where can I find the jigsaw video? I can't find him

[@alonatbituin8355]

Caio Von Dannecker it's in Netflix

[@MissOJAY]

@@alonatbituin8355 thank you

[@anushkaa28]

@@alonatbituin8355 thank you.

[@jredbean9552]

Can I watch his show in USA?

[@MicahRion]

It’s on Netflix, search his name it’s under “Daniel Sloss: Live Shows”

[@jredbean9552]

@@MicahRion thank you ( ꈍᴗꈍ)ﾉ✿

[@islandgyal3730]

👍🏽

[@satisfyhelter-skelter4666]

Infp....?

[@caitlinfrancis9948]

Surely Daniel sloss reads this comment, tracks me down and marries me 😪

[@D00Rb3LL]

This guy has curly hair just like me

[@ASH7388]

I thought Dan was casually doing an IV during an interview

[@krunkle5136]

Imo divorce is horribly destabilizing for people living in poverty. There shouldn't be a personal reason to have a family, but instead a contribution to the community. It's a sacrifice. Kids need a stable environment to build a strong sense of trust and reliability in others. By all means it's fine to experiment from the gate, but when kids get into the picture the weight must be carried.

[@geek7227]

He contradicted himself. He don't believe in one soulmate and yet wait for that "one woman" that he will thank God for.

[@TheOnceandFutureJake]

That doesn't mean he thinks they're soulmates. That just means he knows he'll eventually meet a woman that he'll fall completely for; there's a difference.

[@milkenobi]

When people present being single or being with a partner as the two options it’s a false dichotomy. Consider polyamory, be in love with several people, be loved by several people. No one person can meet all of your needs and you shouldn’t wait around for someone to come along who meets all of your needs.

[@albertodeulofeu5277]

There is definitely something wrong w divorce By the way guys I felt the same way before I turned 30. Lost the girl after 6 years. Looking back I regret it. Don’t wait too long. Time won’t wait for you.

[@nemesis11181]

One big problem that jigsaw overlooks: While there are 3.5 billion options out there and you shouldn’t settle for the one that is not perfect- you also have to take into account the possibility of you actually finding that perfect one. As per Jigsaw's theory, you have access to all of the 3.5 billion options out there. You simply don't. Unless you are a jet setting billionaire with nothing with time in your hands and you are a polyglot with all the cultures and languages the world offers. You are not. The theory is basically a fantasy. It is like holding out for winning the lottery by not committing to any job that you hold right now. In theory it sounds beautiful but in many ways jigsaw seems to reinforce the idea of perfect love even more than the media does by imparting the lesson- “you shouldn’t settle for anything less than perfect.” It is stunning how this is not discussed. There is no such thing as 'The Formula' that will work for everyone. Jigsaw is just another formula. A beautiful formula but a formula nonetheless. I’m surprised how many people don’t see this. And before someone blows up on me- my marriage ended in early 2021 well before I even knew who Daniel Sloss was. And now I can’t get enough of him. Of all the shows I have watched of him, jigsaw was actually a let down. It wasn’t profound just because of the reasons I stated before. Probability and Statistics are good subjects to know.