Does narcissists know that they are the problem?

[@erikavaleries]

Now narcissists call anyone who doesn't obey their demands - narcissists!! It's a mindf***

[@johncorson6599]

I once heard a sibling narcissist literally tell me they went to this event and he said he could ‘feel’ some women admiring him … never in my life have I ever heard someone say something like that

[@johnmaurer2035]

It’s never their fault.

[@theyrekrnations8990]

Somewhere behind their walls of defense they must realize a pattern of discontent going on with themselves. But consciously they will never admit anything is wrong. When I am wronged and an individual will not come clean with me and apologize sincerely, that's it. Good bye. Because I know from experience that they will behave for a little bit, and then go right back to the disrespect behavior. It's just a matter of time.

[@MrTwinkieeater]

What you're saying bleeds into psycopathy. Watch everything by Prof. Sam Vaknin. FYI- he coined the phrase "no contact". No BS.

[@theyrekrnations8990]

@@MrTwinkieeater I've seen a couple by Sam but there are dozens to listen to. Yes No Contact! It actually says more about our own self respect. If they are insolent give them the axe. Way better off with out them.

[@spectershore4482]

"The disrespect behavior". As a man, it's impossible to digest it for a lifetime...

[@kennethlapointesongwriter3330]

No. That would require self-criticism and changing. Won't happen.

[@carparthero]

in my past experience, after my 2nd mental sh*t-kicking where i was understanding of toxic narcissist behavior, i made it a personal commitment to call out people who were exhibiting toxic behavior. have a tight cut-off game and be situationally aware of narcissist characteristics. this will drastically improve your odds of spotting bad people early, so you can sidestep their garbage.

[@ssing7113]

I don’t disagree. But what’s better is to go get therapy so these situations never occur. If you were “healed” these situations wouldn’t even exist for you to write about Childhood trauma / codependency. It’s what we all have of anyone watching these videos.

[@carparthero]

@ssing7113 being able to reflect and learn from history enables a person to have a better future. since after the 2nd incident, i can tell you that there hasn't been any new traumatic experiences to write about. there have been encounters with narcissistic individuals, however with learned lessons from past experiences and great educational videos such as danielle's, i haven't had any new problems to bellyache about. hope that cleared up any misunderstanding you may have had about my past situations.

[@kisigma1011]

Lmao facts about sidestep

[@carparthero]

@@kisigma1011 you know it 😉

[@morganchristmas6299]

In my case they hide and charm you at first then when you're hooked it's a wrap....

[@stefangebhard7074]

Good source of information. 👍👍 When the narcissist knows they’re the problem, the last thing they want is a solution to overcome it. Its because the solution involves two things that a narcissist hates: 1. Taking accountability 2. Relinquishing control The majority of narcissists will always defer from becoming the solution by remaining the problem. The fastest ride is always the shortest, because it’s the immediate moment that counts to the narcissist-even if it’s ultimately in their worst interest. The illusion of having the best interest to the narcissist is more suitable to that moment, because it provides the least amount of pain and responsibility. It just becomes everybody else’s headache, instead.

[@LOVEtoPLAYdrums]

Can't say enough how spot on you are!... Went to therapy... $15,000 later... both doctor narc parents didn't do a thing... no homework... I put in all the effort... Then they still turn around and call me crazy. I did all of my therapy homework! They did nothing! Not 1 thing the therapist asked for them to do! Finally is just a big GOODBYE FOREVER! Play dumb games by your self. I tried... Play stupid games... Win stupid prizes. Like winning estrangement...

[@CCGarland]

I'm in the same situation. Had a very uncomfortable interaction with my family at Christmas. I just cut them all off.

[@MrTwinkieeater]

Had a covert borderline run over top of me. Had me questioning my own opinions. I can't eat spicy things. I ordered something not spicy and they brought a spicy dish- it was an obvious mistake. She suggested I just eat it to which I said I can't. She actually cowered next to my side when I nicely told the waiter what was up. They apologized and brought me what I asked for. She projected my opinion onto the individual behind the thing or instance instead of what was actually occurring or existing. It was weird man. Explaining why it's okay for me to have an opinion to an "adult" is just nuts.

[@James-bc2oh]

Exactly what was happening to me I can't eat spicy food and she would try and order it,she even had my son cooking dinner for us and he would put a lot of spicy peppers through the dinner just to spoil my day and dinner all because my covert narcissist partner said I don't like spicy food, these things aren't human they try and spoil everything and every occasion,👍

[@robin2319]

I understand the food thing , he wanted me to eat raw meat , I hate it and said I have too , crazy narc

[@MrTwinkieeater]

She did this more than once. Being a foodie and listening to my body and how it responds (when it comes to taste, not everywhere of course. Otherwise I wouldn't have been with a narc. Admitting my weaknesses.) I commented on the asparagus another time. It was a mention of texture not taste and I was not angry about it. She stated, "Somebody worked real hard to make that." In the same physical position and same meek voice. In no way did I elude to the experience, competence or character of the chef. This happened at a winery we went to. I stated I did not prefer the wine. I never said either dish nor glass were no good at all. I've extensively tasted wine and developed my palate to be able to enjoy those experiences and have an opinion on something that I take part it. Just like any person with a hobby, like, or love. On the surface we just didn't match wits. Deeper than that was what I know about her life that she shared. Her cumulative telling behavoir, presently witnessing dissociative behavoir, admitting it but not naming it, and a slew of other classical cluster b and a disorders was this woman had mental illness in her family/dna coupled with what I learned was abuse from her description of the event. She never stood a chance in her own life because the nature and nurture she experienced was dark and I'll fated for individual growth. Professionally she was very accomplished. Schizoid. Multiple personalities. Borderline. Covert and overt narcissism. Anti social behavoir. I saw her catatonic. Wildest look into the dark side I've ever seen. Jekyll and Hyde type stuff. Her whole family was one organism. They're all extensions and enmeshed. Parents have been a child themselves. They were damaged young too by either nature or nurture. It's like they didn't grow up emotionally. She actually said, "I don't like to talk about my feelings." In a whiny tone. They don't relate as adults.

[@Dialogos1989]

“There is no happily ever after with me” “I don’t deserve you. I’m a mess and you’re just beautiful” “You’re just another person in my life that I have to explain every single fking thing!” She knew she was a mess. But accepted there was nothing she could do about it. Her love for me was a fleeting emotion. Once she realized that I am not this superhero ready to step in and save her from her chaos, she bailed. It sucks, because she was literally everything I ever wanted in a partner. (At least it seemed so at the time)

[@QueenBee-fg1iz]

So true! He always talked bad about his exes, and he’s probably doing the same about me. He admitted that he had his demons, but he will never do anything to take care of them. 😊

[@ctgal9698]

Some narcs may also have flying monkeys in their circle that enable them as to why they feel righteous behavior

[@user-cz8gi2om3n]

They know, they just don't care, and believe they are justified, because they believe other people around them exist to serve them. They don't think there's anything wrong with using people for their own benefit, unless it affects their image.

[@PassionateFlower]

I used to feel "special" when the narcissist would tell me how "crazy" his exes were, as if I was somehow a welcome reprieve from their "crazy psycho obsessive exes" and empathize with him until I started to realize he was baiting all of them and now me to act in ways that met his script for either "crazy clingy weirdo psycho girl" or "unampathetic cold hearted manipulative selfish bitch" with no in between.

[@JackNance22]

Interesting to learn narcissists don't see big pictures, that explains many of my personal experiences with them. Thank you for the informative content, Danielle, much appreciated.

[@ssing7113]

Also for anyone watching. You can have all the info on cluster B. It will never change anything though. The only change comes from therapy ( childhood trauma / codependency) Why are you focusing on the Narc rather then yourself… got ya there didn’t I. No self love. No self worth. Needing approval. Attention seeking through time / energy / effort / finances ain’t going to get you the love you want. Therapy is..

[@ssing7113]

I akin this to our awareness how we behaved as teenagers. We were kinda aware but it was more instinct and automatic. Looking back we can see how we weren’t really thinking even though we were “conscious”. The awareness we have now, we wouldn’t do 80% of the things we did. And a cluster B is like never been able to see that hindsight maturity we have ..

[@Itsblueeeeee]

Friendships too

[@alibern4199]

Yes, yes and yes.🏆 It's like a script for these people. Who knew.😳 Thank you so much.🙏 Putting into words the things that happen, helps to see so much more clearly. 💞😊

[@bradmcewen]

I have no doubt the narc needs misery. If not yours, their own will do. Lizzy Hale's I Miss The Misery. comes to mind.

[@TIMP-g2k]

Your insights are spot on as always. 🎯

[@doranvee5944]

Always wondered if she realized she had a mean steak? Fnally I concluded that she was completely unaware how nasty she often was to others.

[@tnmantn8938]

Probably not for the majority of the time…I think occasionally they slip into the reality pit…don’t like what they see, and climb out quickly…

[@chrisfromcanada2818]

Jesus Christ, I'm seeing how stupid my ex narcissist Girlfriend really is, lol.....not nice to say but, hey. She caused so much pain to me that i'm healing now. Glad i can find some humour in all that Toxicity that was our relationship.

[@patriciawalker9461]

"Just Passing Thru" "Your clips are on point and very very Informative!" Thanks for Sharing....🏹

[@solice8844]

They know that they are the problem but they just don’t care because they want what they want and taking it from others is what they’ve practiced their entire lives.

[@damianlopez7630]

Thank You Danielle. Great insight

[@flyingsaucer1268]

I think I saw a tiny tiny small laugh, the very last second of this video........cute Dani

[@GenerallySmiling]

Yep. That was my guy.

[@damianlopez7630]

Yes. They know they are the problem. They love the power trip. Unless you can make them pay through the nose.

[@sinjinmonsoon9055]

Spot on

[@MonicaGunderson]

I ended a friendship and went no contact with someone after they told me they would no longer respect my boundaries, and how they don't even have to do this for their own dad (this person is over age 45). The very next day, I get a text from an enabler, "They aren't mad at you, and don't have any problems with you. They are so sweet and kind. Remember how sweet they are?" My reply, "Do they still have a problem about my personal boundaries?" Enabler, "............. Well, your boundaries are kind of mean. They have no problems with you, they just don't like your boundaries. Don't you think your boundaries are mean? I think they are controlling, and being used against this person to make them look bad". Me, "If I'm hearing this correctly, they want me to drop my boundaries, because they don't like them...... Yet they don't have a problem with me....." Enabler, "Yeah, of you could just drop your boundaries....." Me, "Nope. If they don't like my boundaries, and want me to get rid of my boundaries..... Then they still have a problem with me. Don't call me if your only reason to contact me is to shame me into getting back into that toxic triangulation or WTF that was. I think it's best we split ways and take a break. When you are away from this toxic person, call me. Until then, leave me out of it". Went no contact. 10+ months and counting!!!!

[@alecstuart5266]

Very true.

[@flyingsaucer1268]

word of the day: beefed

[@nicholecornes1915]

Im not waiting around to find out

[@fredcruegger9734]

you are not crazy. he was garbage

[@rayyar3380]

yaa admire lol😅 end point. wish whn we all were young , never wasted a single minute on ths dumbies💐💅

[@Ivearted]

👍

[@שורשחקתום]

I never know what another know - I only know what he acknowledge he know, - or - if someone have a wisdom - what logicaly as it were he acknowledge. I exactly so kow, that there are people who talking as though they no - although they don't know. Because of that i used to say them: "אלה לא השטויות היחידות שאתה יכול להגיד ולעשות. יש עוד הרבה שטויות אפשריות שאתה יכול". Because of that there is different between 'interpellation mark' - or 'interpellation' - it for data, for information. 'question' - is for thought of person - it may be some times perhaps 'very much times' - it's may be rellevant - but it's not data, not information. Like that, 'answer' is not 'response' - 'answer' - is data, information. 'response' -is thought of person. But - 'answer' - is only what someone *acknowledge*. Only if the response - his real thought -will can to be as defination as 'answer' - then it 'real information' - it 'true data'.

[@שורשחקתום]

In יהדות written 'אין למדים הלכה מפי משנה, ולא מפי שמועה, ולא מפי מעשה, עד שיאמר לו: 'הלכה למעשה. According to how רמב"ם explained, before that רבי יהודה הנשיא write or orginaze the 'משנה', they will do all one and one - according what he learn - and he know by himself and him learn - when it 'משנה, שמועה, מעשה' and when it 'הלכה למעשה'. In what חז"ל write - they say before רבי יהודה הנשיא there was 600 'סדרים' of משניות. Also - they say - that אברהם אבינו have 400 פרקים במסכת עבודה זרה. In 'סדר' במשניות שלנו - there is around 100 פרקים. - if that, 600 סדרים - it 60,000 פרקים. In all סדר there is around - 10 or 20 מסכתות. - )מסכת for subject). If that, 400 פרקים for מסכת, is ordinary, not especially? But they have 60,000 פרקים - all one and one - were know to himself - which פרקים it for 'משנה' which for 'שמועה' and which for 'מעשה' - - and also which for 'הלכה למעשה' *and also' which for whom learn the same subject but by another rebai. רבי יהודה הנשיא, write or orginize, 600 for summery learn of all that. אברהם אבינו, have 400 פרקים in subject of עבודה זרה - and it was to him the summery like the summery of רבי יהודה הנשיא for all subject. As like as - רבי יהודה הנשיא himself learn perhaps 400 פרקים of him learn and subject he choose - except from the 600 פרקים of 6 סדרים of summery. As like as before רבי יהודה הנשיא, when learn 60,000 - all one rebai, has probably 400 פרקים in espacialy subject, except from generally פרקים and generally subject.

[@robin2319]

The narcissist is never wrong , he admitted to that ,the crazy person npd . I was belittled to the point of hating my fiancé and leaving him , no contac

[@davidemm829]

Yes, however you must become them, and then you are their problem . Also tap into ppl they think you like and criticize them..then if you bite at that and defend them, they laugh, and you sit there up set, looking out the window at a beautiful life that's going right by you...like them assigning you to negative roles before they even know you at all,. ( Lil test ) if you defend yourself ,, they smile ( cause they think they have reduced you to "" sucker " role) and you may think that smile is cause they believe your defense and now adire you...I'm serious..it's true...and in their brain ( cha ching, the abuse currency rises) I just made that up recently, any like that term,. " Abuse currency " 😃 sorry d I'm actually not crazy...

[@davidemm829]

Female cov narc will flirt with male or female counselor..

[@ryuhayabusa5222]

they r never wrong ha if I had al my friends or husbands I have one leave me n kids run off young I would be asking God to shw me n let the HS do its work in me yet I do not think they care just blame u no contact is all that works they do not want to change so they will not good vid