Narcissists use public humiliation to control you

[@Lightmotivationofficial]

REMEMBER THEY DO NOT HAVE ANY EMPATHY AT ALL

[@carparthero]

ironically narcissists detest public humiliation because they don't want people know the truth about them. if you are not in danger of physical violence, give then a taste of their own medicine. as you gain confidence and understanding of what toxic behaviour entails, red flags are no longer just red flags. they're dealbreakers.💯

[@FroggyFrog9000]

right on. i have unmasked 2 narcissists. it was glorious victory.

[@cherrybacon3319]

My Ex once screamed and shouted at me in front of people for no apparent reason. If they are willing to do that in front of others then they are capable of much worse behind closed doors.

[@jacquelineclark6475]

My ex narrcist uset to do the same embarrassing me lol he said he was a man of God!!!!I told him the Bible said not to be friends with a angry man.He heard not!

[@MansuThorne]

I walked away from my ex I please her obideint always and it never was appreciated

[@pamelamccarthy1412]

After 2 plus decades of public humiliation, I learned to not give a shit what anyone thinks. Not giving a shit is very freeing.

[@issheready]

4 arrests 2 years probation, lost one job. Tried another IDAF only god CAN judge me. Darn narcs

[@R.S-1986]

The irony is that if you react, they will say "not infront of everyone".

[@AA-ct7cb]

Exactly!

[@ST-rj8iu]

or make it seem like you are the aggressor.

[@lesteralford5189]

I know this pain. Be the one who got away!

[@cynthiaroper3127]

Yep. That’s me. Divorced mine after 44+ years. I don’t care what anyone says about me. I’m free!

[@KleeKaiBreeders]

It’s emotional abuse and emotional abuse is painful and awful and should not be tolerated ever. Get away from toxic emotional abuse just as fast as you would if someone punched you in the face. Much love to all you good souls dealing w toxic anything❤

[@ComedianWillRodriguez]

Me and the narcissist I was dealing with talked about marriage in the future. I took her to a club and some of some associates I know and I didn’t know that well. One of them he asked are you guys married and she walked away from me across from me next to the man that asks and said “no ugh” like she was disgusted by the idea, which was a surprise to me, but I’ve dealt with narcissist before and knew exactly what she was doing. Humiliation and getting new supply is their game. I’m good I broke up with her and I’m not going back. Buh bye UGH!

[@izawaniek2568]

True. We should never tolerate public humiliation. All narcisists want is power and control in everything they do. Once we recognise somebody is a narcisist we should build strong boundaries and distance ourselves.

[@Kelly-oe8kr]

My mother loved to do this, but she always took it to the next level. Often she would walk up to a man and start a discussion about my genitals and how I was progressing through puberty... I was a 14 year old girl. When she was called on her despicable behaviour it was met with absolute contempt and ridicule at how I was a prude and needed to stop making a big fuss over it. The woman was a sociopath and the devil incarnate. Never tolerate anyone humiliating you in front of others and especially don't treat children this way.

[@wildrose12.47]

My Narc never took me anywhere in public. We started out hiking and going to nature places. Then he would agree to go to this or that event, but invariably at the last minute he’d have an excuse. I think he was getting older and more anti-social. He would have occasions to go out with “friends” but never did I meet one, in almost a year. I soon realized these were women that he texted, exes or wanna-be’s. He told me I was the only one who came over to his house. He met his friends other places. I think he was just keeping old supplies on the string. He discarded me once, stayed friends, then I fell for the Holiday Hoover. It was brutal. He was increasingly demonic, screamed for hours and broke up with me on Christmas Day, then threw me out of his house. I had done nothing but bring food & presents, all which he kept. He said later that he was tired and impatient having someone in his house. I had no Christmas meal and he wrapped a couple obviously re-gifted presents for me. I was nothing but sweet, even that day, just waiting out his rage. The whole invitation was his idea! But when I came with a few gifts he said I was smothering him. It was insane and got quite scary. Now he is blocked and I am shattered. Don’t know when I will feel like a person again. Every day is a struggle, but I am committed to remembering the monster, not the charming side. No contact is the only way to stop the abuse.

[@AA-ct7cb]

He deserves a pie in the face.

[@kikijewell2967]

I have two friends who each left their husband within days of their marriage - the narcissist revealed himself at the wedding. Love bomb stage over, abuse commenced immediately. Glad they each got away.

[@davidemm829]

I've seen this before with a male, got out of store and said to him " you feel that crappy about yourself to act like that around strangers" if a female i was interested in did that...that would be the dead end of that, even back handed contemptuous comments, I'm done

[@gingerisevil02]

My narcissistic father did this all the time, it was disgusting. He would mostly do it in front of other guys…

[@hany-k95]

My father ruined my mothers life completely and tore the whole family apart, it never recovered. Narcissists should be locked up.

[@CVICURN1]

Mine started yelling at me in public, which I would stand up for myself. But it still kept getting worse and worse. Def a deal breaker

[@Lightmotivationofficial]

They publicly humiliate you to control and use that against you into your own doom

[@bradmcewen]

Seems like the brute in question may have learned from where he was raised. No excuse whatsoever. Hard to believe this was the first exhibition of the behavior. No shame or embarrassment saying she made a mistake and RUN. Save years of grief. Cause that piece of shit sure isn't changing.

[@issheready]

I denied marriage proposal from her😂

[@halimohellos8943]

My ex humiliated and threatened me in front of his family out of blue and unexpected!! So true!!

[@debb789]

I got screamed at in a restaurant and given an evil eye to not defend myself, but I stood up for myself. There are boundaries I don't want crossed!

[@aliceroberts1980]

My husband would do this in front of my in-laws. His parents and I told him once if you ever do that again, I’ll take my daughter and we will leave and then you can explain to them why I left.

[@mariannekoroleva6495]

I never understood why it was so extremely important for my narcissistic "mother" to look in front of others like the "hero" who is deceiving the crazy one and hopefully all others who are "crazy". I am sure one day she will have managed it all...Thank You!!:))!!

[@ZenKaizen7]

People should standup when inappropriate jokes are made to others! Be a live wire, so no one will step on you !

[@IndigoCherokee]

This happened to me this morning with my husband at the dollar tree. He goes in public thinking he's going to Garner sympathy by saying some of the most rude and incredibly ridiculous shyt. Well today he thought he was going to smear me to the dollar tree worker but surprise to him. She in front of everyone else said your rude and if I was her I would make your ass walk home. Today is raining cats and dogs. I was so elated like the first time someone stand up for me knowing he is the sick one being crazy and his face was priceless. I called her back to express my gratitude it really made me feel good and made me feel seen. Cause he talks a lot and over anyone and every one . He has to be seen and heard. Me I'm a monk style woman.

[@ToniaNicole]

I love how she explained this in detail so on point she’s very smart

[@lindaasulin7200]

I literally just said to him ur embarrassing urself out loud!and if it was over the phone I just hung up in his face

[@AA-ct7cb]

That’s a good one, I’ll remember that.

[@ellylovely205]

What a sad story. Wondering if she ended everything with him right there right away. This was a disgrace. Ever disrespectful. He crossed the line. Personally, don't see myself laughing. What was so funny about it?! I'm sorry for what she went through. What a disaster!! Didn't he knew it'll also ruin her make up...etc. Inconsideration and disrespect is one of the Abusive TOXIC Narcissists traits. Shame on him. He brought the shame on himself mostly, not ONLY on his spouse. No doubt, he'll do worse later on in their life. Perhaps, lying to her, cheating on her, back and forth. Abusive Toxic Narcissists cannot be trusted whatsoever. Mentally unstable people. Thanks Danielle for sharing this with everybody. Hopefully, it's a lesson to all. All the best everyone! Sending healing thoughts! Prayers! 🤲👏💯🎯✔️🥰♥️

[@almondmilksoda]

Especially sucks when it's your parents or family members committing the emotional abuse.

[@adriennebraxton-oq9iu]

it affects you for entirety of life and ruins any possibilities for future normal relations*ips and if you allow it will continue for REST of your life so, MUST cut OUT of your life!! some REAL SICK mfs in life!!! related OR not!!!

[@ellensunden2778]

I had just had eye surgery and was mostly blind when my narc father offered to take me to the grocery store to get some things I needed. We had taken maybe 15 steps into the store when he stopped, turned to me and said "Yeah, you'll be fine." and promptly left me (almost completely blind from eye surgery) to fend for myself in a store full of strangers. Luckily, a few store associates saw what happened and helped guide me through the store so that I could get the things I needed. My dad never once came back for me or looked for me. I had given his description to the employees and they finally found him. He was checking out and on his way out the door to the truck...with his blind daughter still inside the store. I was so broken and humiliated from that that I never trusted him again. And I never will.

[@suzanneadamson1306]

I'd annul the marriage if I was her!

[@keithbarbaro7590]

if there are assets, she should stay married then leave him broke. Courts are set up to screw men over. In this case he deserves it.

[@MikinessAnalog]

True friends that know you well will see such action for what it really is. An obvious attempt to smear your public image. Remember to NEVER place any value on the opinions of those revealing themselves to be haters. It can be very entertaining watching how they react when you do not.

[@nokotose7127]

Yes, the narc I knew did this in front of a lot of family ALL of the time.

[@emies2845]

Almost cried watching this. Current partner does this. . . often. She'll mock me in front of her friends or mutual friends she'll say something and like pat me on the arm and make a face. It feels awful.

[@degenerate82]

Never knew that about the Kabbalah, interesting information here.

[@nadiajr1500]

OMG, I feel sad for the lady in the photo! 😢 If he can humiliate her on their wedding day, imagine what he can do in private as well as in public during regular moments. I hope she had left him for good.

[@delreesejones1632]

A smart man wouldn’t do that…

[@tarlankasra]

Yes they would as eg, mine did far far worse than this fyi he disappeared on the big day & ruined everything & he’s a sadistic evil cerebral narcissist if ever there was one ime. That said it takes a “man” with no conscience as in zero emotional intelligence to allow himself to behave like that ime 🤦‍♀️

[@geraldhendrickson5627]

My ex would publicly humiliate me, when I stood up for myself she'd say something like I was wearing her panties, and call me a bitch and put me in a situation where I had to do what she said, before I could leave the store so everyone could see me listen. Then laugh at me called me names as i left

[@troythompson6743]

My ex narc wear he mask of in public went she ready very one think it common all her family say she take after her mom her mom die years ago it's like common thing it come like her mom was a narcissist as well way she tell me how her mom was the trait handed down to her and her sisters all them act almost the same way

[@lifeisreal5878]

Good videos. Could a video please be done on a few techniques to deal with the public humiliation. The normal come back as you said is it's just a joke? Or you are too sensitive. Many thanks.

[@Marie-nf2cs]

Yeah this happened to me ..... Ever since I have left the narcissist I have not been able to find a job ..... But when I was with him I had jobs flowing in ... Why ?

[@Malibusurfsup]

OMG please do a longer video on this

[@mosescola4174]

Thank you so much sister. It all makes sense now. I have to be careful who i hang out with.

[@DF-fp4cg]

God I look back on my social situations and had this with so many fake friends and acquaintances. Wish I knew than what I know now.

[@AA-ct7cb]

My sibling would always say what a yuppie over achiever she is, i could have called her out, the truth being she barely made even minimum wage, and I hadn’t seen her “achieve” anything since high school, over 10 years ago. But I didn’t want to embarrass her. She tries to make people feel small by her liar achievements, but if you say anything she’d become vindictive or start crying. What do you do? Thanks.

[@O.J.S.]

Lady PLEASE ANNUL THAT MARRIAGE IMMEDIATELY! No one deserves that!

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Narcisistic monsters do humiliate others on a regular basis . I agree that public humiliation is akin to death, as it socially is like one. When someone does dare to do it, it’s a deal breaker. The relationship is over.

[@g-dcomplex1609]

My last ex found out what it was like to date a guy with few friends who were impossible to triangulate with, let alone try to make feel bad over anything other guys fell for, she left on her own accord,

[@lesteralford5189]

The body count. It's real

[@marieestelle709]

Thanks

[@troythompson6743]

I say people in the Bahamas DNT even no what narcissist is they are so blind narcissist right in front of there face and they can't tell

[@Anita_She]

How to deal with public humiliation?

[@Jpea123]

That cake thing was evil.

[@Jay-i9g5c]

I’m in the medical field and my trainer humiliates me almost every single day. He puts me on blast and uses my mistakes as ammunition. Behind my back he will talk smack about me, but infront of my face he acts cool. Then he will talk smack about others to me. Then he goes to those same people to talk smack about me. Last week he said something in front of so many people and I asked myself why he would even do that. Then he gets upset when I don’t know how to do something, but will prevent me from doing things. Complete a$$. No one does anything because he’s very “likable” in regards to his communication skills. He lightly flirts with the girls even when he has a wife. One new coworker wrote her number on my pocket notebook thinking it was his. And he asked me for my notebook so he could save it on his phone …

[@NoFsGiven666]

I had this in my life. The same narcisst is on my latest video having narcisst rage and on film and i've uploaded. Bet she is loving it. Revenge is sweet.

[@courtneygillespie1187]

It's alright.....I never really cared about those people anyway.

[@cyberchen4]

So fricken A$$ True! Now what I do…. is Say’ What was that you said”? Excuse me…. Till they answer properly!! I keep asking till they answer properly! Or until I say…. Do NOT talk to me that way…. Then walk way!!! 🎤 Mic Drops!!!!

[@cyberchen4]

Then…. who’s Embarrassed! Asses!

[@JacobCarlson-uq1my]

I'm not sure if I've been publicly humiliated, because I don't know many people or get out much, but I do feel like in general society does seem to carry a lot of darkness. Obviously I screwed up my youth and didn't get educated and financially secure like I should have, so I can see why I'm finding it hard now to navigate this life. Love & friendship does seem like it unfortunately is tied to many different factors, like social, financial, intellectual status? I would imagine though, or hope that narcissistic individuals would probably predominantly be known by many as having issues and if they attempt to harm others by humiliating them, that it would be obvious to the important ones what the truth is?

[@olafweyer859]

My narc sibling uses the TRUTH to embarrass me. "He started smoking only at 30." (subtext: he is that dumb). "He is one of those people who defy all rules of healthy living and still are healthy." Another time they made me subject to their narcissistic rage because I didn't want to join on a walk. I'm an introvert and love being alone at home. This is my preference I don't see why I should need to justify my preferences. My silbling always had pets to command and control. They aren't cruel to them. Still you can train, teach, berate and control a pet. I very much feel like I am supposed to be such a pet and that she treats others like pets too, lol.

[@terrencemilton5088]

Know your enemies

[@kingklank6732]

My ex wife to a T !

[@t.w.8174]

Yeah, my mom tries to call me out in front of others often. She wants me to buy a house and stop renting, so she brings up how dumb it is that I rent and insults my current neighborhood in front of friends and family. The last time she did this, I asked her (in front of everyone) when she’s going to buy a new house like the rest of her friends. She turned red and shut the f* up 😉

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

Ultimately the narcissists will embarrass themselves and think those hearing think something is wrong with us. But reasonable rational people will see what jerks they are. Sadly, those people will avoid hm and in avoiding him you will miss out on their company too. God said that hate toward someone is the same as murder, and public humiliation is hate.

[@heatherbowman9450]

641 likes!💖💛❣❤

[@FroggyFrog9000]

caked

[@Seraphim7]

Hmm….. I’ve noticed Disciplinary classrooms utilize this. . . A College Professor was Horrible and did this All the Time at the University…. Just Rude. Also, Bikram Yoga does this, too. Militant Style. I had to quit coz of my Faith. But, it did teach me Discipline…..at the Time….

[@chickenbiscuit4525]

Relationships are just a filler. Why it's always or often enough only on their time. A life of strange. Kind of arty in a practical sense. Keen with the eye.

[@lidserg-b7663]

Lost me at Kabbalah

[@dodibenabba525]

That wedding scenario was a disgrace, she should have slapped him walked out and filed for divorce. The Kabbalah is pagan, the words of men. Stick to the Torah and the Besorah. Blessings 👆 🙌

[@HellerVali]

Wow❤ure so beautiful😊

[@saharIR8023]

We Persians 🇮🇷 are all narcissists because we are the best race in the world !

[@honestjoe7940]

Are you talking about the Chinese Communist Party? Or Rugby Bid Warwickshire in the United Kingdom?

[@urbanchaostocountrypeace5133]

I'm with a scumbag narcissist & he just did this in front of my good friend. Telling her personal information to embarrass me. This is this most mortifying thing someone can do. He keeps pushing my buttons because there's a full restraining order on him and every single day, he tests the limits of how far he can stress me out until I call police and have him removed. If I say that, he says they'll take my kids from me and that's how he keeps control