Dating Advice About Light Skinned and Biracial Men

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[@akim210]

On point! My dad is light skinned & he has ALL the trauma of a Black man, but has a god complex too! No lies were told!

[@PhoenixDragonResurrected]

I agree. Ive never really been into the light or biracial men, maybe bc im not normally theyre type, but its also bc theyre not my type when they expect to be treated better or for me to be "submissive" or deal with any of the privilege they are used to. I notice they will expect me to expect less as a dark skin bbw woman, when im actuallg used to men takin care of me and me being their preference

[@lovebug6388]

Listen! These internets are going to have these dudes broke & alone pushing these stereotypes. I want to get down because of health reasons. I've had several guys, especially one Jamaican, reiterate MEN want real women. They understand life happens & if they really like they'll stick with you through every season. And be loving on you the whole time😂😂😂😂

[@Roni-Ron]

I've met them crazy in all colors

[@svirgo1224]

😂😂😂 for real

[@nameunknown1519]

Fr because with dark ones you have to worry about the internalized self hate which is dangerous af too 😩

[@Vale10952]

Including the guy in the video.

[@MindfulMoments1444]

SAME!! Crazy definitely comes in call colors. Every person has their own set of issues and wounds to deal with, its very rare to meet well adjusted, normal people with no issues.

[@chayo4537]

Yall always say this when its time to talk about you. Yall have no self awareness

[@potent4evalove]

I definitely had this experience with a Moroccan that looked like a high-yellow African American. He was entitled, thought he was the prize, and very Narcissistic. This was the first encounter I ever had and experiences of Emotional, Verbal, Mental and Psychological abuse.

[@sensimania]

That's common with Arab guys.

[@canesugar911]

Learn to put people like that in their place.

[@PrissyLadyVenom]

Yikes! An Arab man. That’s a whole nother level of narcissism

[@EmpressAshe]

​@@canesugar911 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@PeaceNStorms]

NOT A LIE TOLD!

[@jones2277]

they want to be the princess in the relationship

[@PrissyLadyVenom]

😂

[@forlighttv]

Let me guess Jones, you're a dark skin black man?

[@laporshacampbell7076]

THIS is spot on! I have been traumatized by light skin biracial men. Married one and had a baby by another. NEVER again will I date a light skin man. Three years later and I’m still in therapy recovering. 🙅🏾‍♀️

[@nappyfries]

Same!

[@KeKe19865]

Have a child with one and it’s been pure hell.

[@Amariiiiie]

You just described my child’s father and it makes a lot of sense. And yeah, he is very aware of the privilege of his lighter skin color. He is Jamaican, so he comes from a racially classist culture. They are obsessed with skin color and the upper hierarchy of the country tend to be fair skinned. 😒

[@unalome-]

💯

[@tayvelajacquite7866]

Those light skinned Jamaican men are truly unruly.

[@deebee9459]

Light skin men can also have a dark skin mom that puts them on a pedestal too!

[@madammisha]

More often than not, they do!!

[@swedmerson90]

My momma always told me to be careful dating them light Brights ESPECIALLY if they momma was white, stay away from them all together 😂

[@sheekmu4616]

Light brights........that's a interesting description.😂😂😂😂

[@madammisha]

Same way with ones who got black mamas, TRUST ME. Black woman created mixed sons because they are “prettier” Case in point: Etterlene DeBarge 🙄

[@KJ81574]

This dude's advice is like astrology. Take generic attributes that apply to being careful about any and everyone, apply it to a group and watch people give it validity by relating it to themselves. You can make this exact video about men of any shade and yield the same results in the comments.

[@lovelyreen9936]

I can and can’t agree. I am in a family with lots of light-skinned men, and it so greatly depends on the person. I guess it helped for my brothers that my mom is dark-skinned (dad is extremely fair but still black and is old-school Civil Rights Southern so not passing in the slightest) so they were raised just as black people, fully aware of their privilege within the world, but conscientious and kind. Not all of the cousins are so kind, though. We’re Creole, and some of us were raised to be God’s gift, but some were raised to be actual good people. At least in my experience, light-skinned men isn’t a monolithic group, it really depends on the individual.

[@wandametcalf3031]

I have to agree with you with having a dark skinned mother. My family is the same way. I believe that that makes a variable difference.

[@lydiawhite538]

Oh I definitely agree with both of you. I think you both are saying things inline with the original video too. Obviously, upbringing has a lot to do with it. I'm with y'all on having a black/darker completed mother though. I think that alone comes with a different upbringing...yielding more well rounded human beings.

[@lolaBee9]

I've noticed a similar thing with biracials that have a black mother compared to ones with non black ones. They're usually less troubled and don't have a god complex

[@chayo4537]

No you're not monolithic. The irony of that statement😂 But there is a strange comment from a lighty talking about dark skinned people automatically have self hatred. Everybody talks about black people and dark skin as if we're monolithic. So when youre spoken about the same way with a narrative. You cant handle it

[@MindfulMoments1444]

This is true for some but not for all. I've dated a biracial man and it was the best experience I've ever had dating. He was a gentleman, kind, a provider but I attribute that to his upbringing. His dad passed away young and he ended up becoming the protector/provider for his mother and sisters. He loved, cherished and respected his white mother but also loved and appreciated his Blackness, he didn't hate any aspect of himself. I attribute this to him being actively involved and around the Black Church with STRONG Black male influences and Strong Black Traditional families in his life throughout via his friends and the environment he was in. He was a diamond and I the only person I would have ever considered dating again.

[@earthangel8399]

It's true... being in both worlds creates identity issues for alot of them.... and if women treat them like they're the prize it often goes to their head

[@nappyfries]

My son’s dad is biracial, has green eyes, well built & overall really good looking & that’s one way he got me hooked when I was a lot younger. He is everything you mentioned except the enmeshment part. His mom walked out on him as a baby so that brought its own issues.

[@valeriebarlow5773]

This is not a dating experience, but it was a friend who I would go to bat for whenever he asked - then I found out that he was repeatedly making jokes at my expense behind my back. That hurt so much.

[@ToothpasteKisses6345]

I’m so sorry that you went through that 😢 I’ve gone through this very thing, except we were dating.😢 Eventually it would get back around to me of the “jokes” he made at my expense. I was never vulnerable with him again even when he was playing nice and trying to get back together. He was a biracial guy with green eyes and that situation put me off friendships/relationships for a while

[@valeriebarlow5773]

@@ToothpasteKisses6345 Thank you for your support 🙏. I am glad you are healing or have recovered from this, and you are stronger. Continue to rise up! There are no limits!

[@EmpressAshe]

​@@valeriebarlow5773Girl You're Words Helping me 😌🙌🏼 Rise Upp We Got Thiss Most Importantly Love Yourself 💜🧡🤎🖤

[@stefaniegoodwin5812]

YES 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 im biracial and watching this is funny because the way my mother treated my brother was so different vs how she treated me. But i also dated a biracial guy when i was younger and realized the same exact thing. Our issue to be honest was we didnt know where the hell to fit in. I had this issue is a child. I was not black enough to hang with the black kids but was not white enough for the white kids. So i was in limbo to be honest. It was the same with my ex he had to prove he was black enough but ended up with the wrong crowd and ended up going to jail because he thought they would have his back.. but they didn't. His mother was always putting him on some pedestal, but he was super troubled. My brother ended up going into the military and def has the God complex. We used to be so close but i would always call him out but his wife is (cuban/rican) has to feed his ego even tho she says she doesnt, but she does.. because whenever i come thru its tension now because he is just used to people just listening to everything he says and its crazy. But to watch it and here from someone elses pov its nice to know I'm not crazy. But i was also the scapegoat in my family and the crazy part is my parents are still together but i feel that my parents are trauma bonded and thats not a good environment to grow in either.

[@ertfgghhhh]

almost all people find it hard to fit in with people in general

[@chaichica754]

This never once crossed my mind, but it all checks out!

[@JessicaHicks]

Thanks for this video. You’re very insightful.

[@therealkoolaidandkale]

They think that they’re the prize. Nope.

[@Agent20789]

They are😂

[@jasmineprince]

Daang…first of all his voice is so relaxing lol…secondly what he’s saying is so true…thirdly he has me as a new subscriber.

[@rideswithtasha2358]

I can say I’ve experienced this with a military man and that relationship was so traumatic never again and I was dating a police offer 🤦🏾‍♀️ I can’t speak on the complexions but I can confirm on the professions

[@thesmartsinger4912]

Colorism exists in our community from everyone. Stereotypes come from some form of truth. Toxic men exist in all groups.

[@blissrose3588]

I am yellow skinned. There was this light-skinned and green-eyed man at work who got in my face for something I did at work. I feel that he thought that he could do this and get away with it. I brushed him off like who does he think he is? A year later, I saw him as a bus driver for the city. It was like, he was trying to claim his higher position. I was like, who cares.

[@niceymix1]

When i just say my mind is 🤯 thank you. I was married to a bi-racial pretty boy who was definitely a narcissist.

[@happyholidays8230]

Agreed!

[@dollhouseq1530]

Why we whispering? Lol Dammit was thinking maybe I should date biracial or white hispanic men but now idk 😐

[@roma5809]

Date whomever just be CAUTIOUS. I 100% understand his warning about LS/biracial men but I were respectfully approached by one I’d give it a shot to see where things go. If he turns out like the typical male then I’d ghost

[@briannab38]

Im still recovering from the biracial narcissist, verbal abuse. Nose high in the air untill they want some 😽 😂.

[@onetakesun694]

This had me cracking up!!!😂

[@kamieyonce]

LS and BR men are at the bottom of the totem pole in the Black community it seems

[@hmmm2564]

False

[@kamieyonce]

@@hmmm2564 not for me but dont act like u dont hear BW dismiss them often…they get called soft and sassy for breathing

[@Agent20789]

That's a fact and it's always been like that 😂 lsm get rejected because it's cool FBA women do that and they move on. Then FBA women get with dsm and get aids or become single moms then they get mad at lightskin brothers for not wanting to be the clean up guys for dsm so they call them sassy 😂

[@jennywakeman3267]

I remember there was some old tiktok video of a ww talking about how ww will love their BR sons, but hate their daughters bcuz their sons give them access to the patriarchy (as if wm don't already do that?) and ww "have never had any power" so this is their way of receiving it.🙄 Anyways, I can kinda see how that shows through their offspring, like with Drake, Doja Cat, and Jeremy Meeks.

[@zizi5721]

Ww are the new patriarchy😂 wtf lol. Capitalism places them higher than those biracial sons of theirs. So that really confuses me😂

[@Kaye_Venice]

God complex: BINGO!!! There was one I dated 10 years ago and it’s because of him I know what narcissism, narcissistic supply, narcissistic injury, & etc is. While some of them genuinely appreciate BSW, some of them use BSW as means to feel superior within theirselves. ….0 interest in them.

[@JoeLDNCAD]

Why do never talk about the negatives of dating a white man, and the negative types of white men out there? You're are always focused on dowing black and part-black men, but never doing the same to the white men? Its weird.

[@kalandrasnow9555]

I absolutely love that you give knowledge that is correct and compassionate. Wish I knew you in my 20's. ❤

[@theupgraded6558]

Anwar is dangerous!!! Watch out ladies!

[@KKTanaa]

Oh my, my son is biracial and he is the sweetest thing. It’s not good to say this at all.

[@SAINTMAURICE-tl7kb]

Hea-then4ever 😂

[@khartoniapratt2792]

Cythnia G said this years ago

[@KT-gm1no]

They are my favorite, I’m ready to assume the risk 😂 🎉❤

[@MizzNee796]

i can't hear this...but it don't matter because I love the chocolate! oops, that was my laptop....let me listen because the red bones be tryna holla...lol!

[@DeLightSmile123]

💯 ... About time somebody came out and kept it real told the truth

[@PNKHR3TS]

Has been my experience

[@lovelybeauty850]

Truth!!

[@Earthangel11179]

It's not about skin tones. It's about having an inflated ego and mental trauma.

[@kellymills8779]

Oooo....you said a word. Makes you think. 🤔

[@tayvelajacquite7866]

Wow!!! So true!!! Alternative facts.

[@EmpressAshe]

When you said they have the Entitlement of a whyte man But the Trauma of a Blk man Oohhh it reminded me of someone Then you went on to say That creates Narcissism Yesss omgg

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

100% 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@ButterflyBree]

Not just dating biracial and light complexion males. I have a lighter skinned Male family member and he's overly confident and delusional, in my opinion. He thinks Drake is the GOAT of rappers which is insane. He also exhibits colorist behavior, even though my family doesn't promote or participate in colorist behaviors. 😒😒🙄🙄

[@Agent20789]

Wtf I'm black as he'll and I think drake is the greatest it's not up for debate not only the greatest rapper but the greatest artist period 😅 he is not colorist je probably just prefers his own kind that's how its supposed to be

[@AutumnSwatches]

Not my light skinned husband! He’s awesome.

[@jayelee7112]

pseudo-psychology

[@zizi5721]

You're probably lightskinned

[@Shalom388]

10000 percent accurate

[@britniemonet_3693]

yes my dad is a caramel skinned blue eyed blonde haired black man im literally one of 15+ kids there’s a new baby every other year

[@tbld2827]

Dang girl you so beautiful

[@britniemonet_3693]

@@tbld2827 thank you so much :) happy Saturday

[@hellome8899]

Why is he whispering? They really do. I have dated the primarily. I prefer a blk mom. They are a lot to deal with.