For realz!! 😳😳😳😳 At least 3 of these apply to me...the eldest daughter, picking the emotionally unavailable, picking the needy ones 🥴 whew chile! 👀 Let me tell my therapist she right 🤦🏽♀
@PrettyPolyInPink5 ай бұрын
I like a fine man…that’s bad?? But, they’re so pretttttttttyyyyyy!!
@CeliniacForLife4 ай бұрын
And toxic.
@chimereballard960923 күн бұрын
@@CeliniacForLifejust because someone is very attractive does not mean they’re toxic
@fatimah2306 күн бұрын
@@CeliniacForLife anyone can be toxic. Ugly/average guys might have an inferiority complex and that’s no fun either. We should all just vet men for their characters to the best of our abilities.
@CeliniacForLife4 ай бұрын
I'm an amalgamation of most of this list which means I'm a walking contradiction. My God 😂
@mesidyeАй бұрын
😂😂😂
@whyherrodere3784Ай бұрын
😭🙌🙌
@fatimah2306 күн бұрын
You’re not alone sis 😂❤
@keishamariedouglas5 ай бұрын
Ohh I feel so attacked because I do like younger emotionally unavailable guys! And I am currently working on figuring out what 8-year-old Keisha likes because back then she was too busy being in control and babysitting my little brother to actually enjoy her life.
@Poodle_Gun5 ай бұрын
I actually end up getting those types attracted to me, for some reason. Even in highschool. The younger brother's friends and random younger guys. But I'm not interested in a guy who's not more mature than me (at least mentally), and guys always like what doesn't like them back. 😅
@malaik917 күн бұрын
You got this kiki
@robotnitchka25 күн бұрын
This man is a genius
@MesRevesEnRose2 күн бұрын
A few years ago, I dated a string of emotionally unavailable guys and I read online somewhere that it was a symptom of being emotionally unavailable myself. When I read that, I knew it was true immediately and it changed my entire dating approach. When I started dating my husband I was at first put off by how available he was but by then I knew it was a trauma response so I ignore those self-sabotaging thoughts. So glad I did 😊💗 So I think what you're preaching is 100% true. You have to take time to examine your 'type' because sometimes you realise you've been playing yourself 😂
@MizzNee7965 ай бұрын
😱mind blown....I'M emotionally unavailable??? Sounds about right. Emotions are my kryptonite. In reality i am a big ole cream puff...i just act hard. SMH
@MissC33326 күн бұрын
I am emotionally unavailable and for months I complained about someone else being such. Not until I heard you and realizing we are attracted to who and what we represent.
@shaylagoogle30975 ай бұрын
Hello fairy god dating coach, lots of men are acting a fool thinking that that the 1st date should be a date at their place. A big hell no for me. More woman need to stop entertain these types of bad behavior. Enjoyed this video.
@TerrariumGoddess2 ай бұрын
You are so right! I have recently gone back to my favorite hobbies as a little girl and it feels so good! It was a great way to refocus my attention on something positive. ❤
@sararamonajohansson5 ай бұрын
Anwaaaaar why did you have to come after me like that hahaha! You're sooo on point!
@auntynature20832 ай бұрын
🥴🥴🥴🥴 this video is TOO loud. Turn down the volume plz. 😅
@dawnbedingfield11595 ай бұрын
Used to attract needy guys now I have commitment issues. 😞 I honestly just needed someone to say it out loud for me. 😭
@jtruth129Ай бұрын
I attract wealthy older men, omg! 😂 So my zaddy is me seeking the love of my daddy🤣
@sacrededen909514 күн бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@shanicec.546511 күн бұрын
Same. 🤦🏾♀️ Help Lord.
@kellijasper5912Ай бұрын
Bad boys and older men. I worked on myself when it came to older me but still couldn’t leave the bad boys alone. Fortunately for me found a bad boy who is a good man.
@benirpierre267118 күн бұрын
Bad boys who are healed is so sexy!!
@rue88473 ай бұрын
I like charming responsible guy... who reciprocate the energy 🎉❤ wish me luck
@TarotAF111144 ай бұрын
I wish he talked about attracting players and narcissists. Bc I attracted them for the longest.
@Golden-Lady5 ай бұрын
I love the good guys! But I also want to do whatever I found fun between ages 8-12...been side-eyeing the skateboards for a while...😅
Yes sis check check check on all that, we here 🤚🏾 Lets start that support group for us 😂
@akfarrell30505 күн бұрын
I'm rarley attracted to someone... and a lot of people see me, but they don't approach :/
@antoinettejenkins76645 ай бұрын
Yeah i got the less attractive guys...i had major abandonment issues in childhood and was self conscious...now im looking at myself like girl what were you thinking 🤔
@sherineofficial785122 күн бұрын
This video told me I have commitment issues 🤭🤭😂😂😂wow.
@adelaide6744 күн бұрын
Not Ms. Responsibility every goddamn day 😂
@suzannaflores11645 ай бұрын
Ouch! Ouch! Ouch! I feel the glued-together pages of my emotional playbook being read!!! Thanks
@stephanierenee72145 ай бұрын
Ouch I am a combination of a couple of those things. But I needed to hear that and thank you. I am so glad that I found your page and your podcast you have been so helpful with the Nuggets that you are giving us and thank you so much
@Kayla_Strong29 күн бұрын
I feel attacked 🤣
@TamalaLucas5 ай бұрын
I need to book a call. I have had them all and I don't know what my type is. I married needy won't do that again.
@middlesys918025 күн бұрын
70% of me likes a good man. Good wholesome and God fearing. The other 30% is a mixed bag.
@riri91342 ай бұрын
Wow I never knew being attracted to guys who are emotionally unavailable is because I am🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 I recently started expressing myself more in my relationships but to see this head is a tuff reality
@dawnisaac31325 ай бұрын
This is accurate 😮😢❤
@Poodle_Gun5 ай бұрын
I do like the "soft dom" guy that acts like a parent. I also like witty banter. I met my match with that. We both had mother issues and it got a bit out of hand. Same with critical humor, and same thing with my mom being super critical. I do need to watch my boundary with that, however, criticism doesn't get to me as much. Shame is not a huge deal for me. I'm one of those types of issues girls.
@Poodle_Gun5 ай бұрын
2:10 Yeah, I've just embraced my brat side and going back to being creative and being out in nature. But I still have a type!
@Poodle_Gun5 ай бұрын
3:00 OMG, though, I do! I attract needy people. I've had to teach myself to despise them. It's a very low-rizz dynamic for me too.
@woodnymph306320 күн бұрын
Lol. What about all of these? Good news is I never do the same thing twice.
@MzSoulllАй бұрын
Oooh you read me up and down but you’re so right on all this.
@BGZ20225 ай бұрын
Thank u so much 😭 how to heal from attractive unavailable badguys 💔 and I want them to need me 😖
@ml0724 күн бұрын
I’ve never been so attacked! 😂 Much love though, I know I’m a mess trust me… but I’m working on bits and putting myself back together
@jeanettewaverly25904 күн бұрын
Good advice for all of us gals, not just POC.
@ToyaF8215 күн бұрын
Me sitting here with my dominant husband 🙊
@gemstar74478 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for these tips 🙏🏽
@thelightworker0121 күн бұрын
I like a needy man.. got to work on that 😂
@Varenyam8615 күн бұрын
Why am I (nearly) all of those 😂😅 dangggg. Haha!
@anshaguila83935 ай бұрын
I flippen love you Thank you so much for this video
@akfarrell30505 күн бұрын
I have an outstanding eye for emotionally unavailabilty... i consider myself 10/10 ... i am surely healing, but man it's been years of working on myself.. i'm tired
@linorarodgers3995Ай бұрын
Yes, i was always the caring responsible sister. So you are spot on. 😮
@LilyRose-theOne5 ай бұрын
This is so true.
@MizzNee7965 ай бұрын
i had a type...and that type is still physically attractive to me, but and however...after this last one...i am sooooooooooooo ready for a change. and i am ready for my "playing hard to get" era!
@TruthandReason101Ай бұрын
Ok so hear me out... What if I'm 35 and prefer older men (preferably 10-15 years older) because I have an old soul, they have resources and I want to be married and have children, a lot of them know what they want and communicate better, and I have nothing in common with men my age. Am I disturbed? 😂 Lbvs
@shanicec.546511 күн бұрын
I'm the oldest daughter/oldest sibling who likes older dominant men. In my healing era.
@MzLena2You22 күн бұрын
I do like the clean cut good guy… but I like him to be long distance lol. Not too far but not under an hour’s drive 😵💫. I prefer somewhere between Philly and NC. But that’s also because the attitudes in the Northeast are horrible.
@marquinarawlings24 күн бұрын
Oh, WOW!! Quite a few of those are my type, LOL!!! I’m already doing inner work, so I guess I know what to work on next. (I’ll have to re-watch this a few times to stay focused.) 😅
@SandungaLunaАй бұрын
Thank you so much for this I’m a good girl and yes I hold back too much of what I really want to say
@ravenfarrell452229 күн бұрын
Ohhh so helpful Thank you hun!
@VS-pr6jg23 күн бұрын
Wow! You're so smart. 😮
@AmberPatron00715 күн бұрын
What if I have realized my daddy issues, done intense therapy and emotional healing, and still find dating older to my taste. Now, the age gap has lessened, and I'm not going for emotionally unavailable ones any longer. AND, I'm open to dating my age. Possibly a tiny bit younger. I'm also the eldest who grew up as an only child.
@dennisahlarson15845 сағат бұрын
Needy older men. I have so much nurturing love to give and need that back, just as much. My match type is a gentle soul who loves generously. Like me.
@jocelynmitchell7766Ай бұрын
This is so on point.
@Necole-x2d5 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤
@-beTHEchange-123-15 күн бұрын
Facts!
@labaguebezai4973Ай бұрын
🎯🎯🎯🎯
@kyshasmith77983 ай бұрын
Gosh, this man is tewww good.
@sharnicemccord640Ай бұрын
As with most of your videos, this was Uber helpful & insightful. Thank you again!
@ppprpcppprpc269021 күн бұрын
Damn. Damn. Damn!🎉😮😂
@ElmoBiotech5 ай бұрын
Wow, this whole thing was gems of wisdom, insight, and care. Thank you! I’m off to apply…
@nikkiatkins3324 күн бұрын
Imma whole combo lol
@rains52 күн бұрын
Im into good guys (somewhat emotionally repressed) but i myself have alot of trauma.
@Andrea-pg2zi18 күн бұрын
Old ✔️ unattractive ✔️ Bad boy ✔️ Needy ✔️ though this is now getting on my nerves. 🤦🏾♀️😭 Lord, I need healing.
@AngelCoyoteMusic5 ай бұрын
This is so insightful. Thank you!
@adventuregirlinawonderworl35515 ай бұрын
I knew I was messed up when I went for all these I said I need to take some time to work on me. Took 34 years to realize this 😮
@kemikobradley6345 ай бұрын
So accurate
@nikkiw2402Ай бұрын
First, let me start by saying thank you. Your videos are truly helpful and a blessing. I guess I’m a hot mess because I can relate to more than one of these but you’ve given me food for thought I know where to start. ❤
@LondonDreamSoulАй бұрын
Makes sense
@TriciaD-g9zАй бұрын
Golden! ✨👑✨
@ginagreeneofficial7 күн бұрын
Your type is your trauma and your healing. 😮💨Heavy.
@fungshui485024 күн бұрын
So im looking for a younger, needy, dominant guy y'all 😂😂😂
@Joint.n.HollowАй бұрын
I date good looking dominate emotionally unavailable bad boys I’m screwed 😂😂💔
@KAG113012 күн бұрын
Great advice Anwar, thank you. Honest question: don’t you want to be attracted to the person you like? Are you saying maybe don’t go for the “super duper” attractive guys, just “attractive”? Like someone said you want your man to be fine…right? Pls help. Thank you. ❤
@arimay9555Ай бұрын
I was into good, attractive guys. But then Shera became so popular and I felt like something was wrong with me so I forced myself to like older men. Now I have commitment issues...
@arimay9555Ай бұрын
My mom was youngest child but always went for younger
@lii27728 күн бұрын
I'm the youngest child but always go for younger guys lol
@firstnamelastname-ve9gjАй бұрын
This is so good
@misladi8825 күн бұрын
What about attraction to losers??
@Varenyam8615 күн бұрын
Losers are needy
@fatimah2306 күн бұрын
Yeah you probably want to feel needed. You want to be the one to fix him or save him
@scorpiondynasty28 күн бұрын
Babe, I think I’ve attracted/dated all these types throughout my life. Currently engaged to a younger, bad boy, emotionally unavailable, physically unavailable (distance) man who is father of my child.
@jones22775 ай бұрын
What if you’re attracted to givers and people pleasers and overly polite men?
@dopestamp4 ай бұрын
I love you. Thank you so much.
@laleezy772 ай бұрын
Wow i love this! Thank you!
@nue_nue_2716 күн бұрын
Haha this was an interesting take. So maybe I'm emorionally unavailable? Interesting. My mom taught me well. Not to fall for sweet nothings that guys say, but unfortunately i have still gotten hurt in a trauma bond. 😞 I'm just glad the worst is over. And now I'm attracted to someone i thought was my age because he has qualities i like in a man. But I'm not my best self atm.
@MidtwnMedia5 ай бұрын
Whew 😮💨
@MeiMariieАй бұрын
That’s crazy. Cause my type is Crazy Psycho Obsessed Stalker. I want a guy to act like i am the final level of the most challenging & addicting game he’s ever played. Makes sense though, my Father(sperm donor) was a psycho, and they say that women often go looking for men who are like their father, so there you go.
@LunazulBaraka7 күн бұрын
I was going.... what is a tupe!??
@DloinАй бұрын
Oh, type... Not your toupee 😂
@TravelingInstyleWithBrookeАй бұрын
I have to practice my boundaries
@ms.ednapost5 ай бұрын
🤔What does it mean if you go for the NON Blk guys🤷🏽♀️😉
@prolific5685 ай бұрын
Keep doing what your doing lol
@cheriagata64085 ай бұрын
It means you’re miles ahead of the curve
@MsCeCe-lt1zgКүн бұрын
Im getting there 😮
@littlemisshowei5 ай бұрын
I've done lots of self healing, so I'm now only attracted to good men. But I like me a good man with a dominant side 😂😅. Lots of kinks I grew out of, but a certain level of dominance is something that I can't help but still be attracted to. And I wonder, is that really so wrong?
@rue88473 ай бұрын
Not dominant you want in reality very masculine men . Me too whenever I'm around one my feminity exudes more ... so pleasing 🎉
@DelicateUnoАй бұрын
You’re so witty. What about the girl who is so fascinated with gay men. lol😅 Just kidding. You’re an excellent coach! ❤
@lounic02169 күн бұрын
The repression is real.😢
@deecampbell107Ай бұрын
❤
@thediariesofchi5 ай бұрын
I’ve had exes tell me that I was like mean, disrespectful and act like I didn’t care or i acted like I didn’t want them fr but I feel the opposite if I’ve ever had to get nasty with them it’s bc I was giving so much of my heart and they were playing with it so, I feel like they were just trying to manipulate me to make me feel like I wasn’t doing that enough but I do everything I can to love. I know it does take me a minute to fully express everything but how do you not know I like/ am obsessed with you?
@Peachie9012 күн бұрын
👀
@brendaalford9416 күн бұрын
I like no one. Every time a man comes at me it’s a no for me. I need to book with you. How?
@csbjuice4 ай бұрын
🤗
@howtohuman9922 күн бұрын
What if it's all of the above?🙃
@pc646125 күн бұрын
They all get on my nerves. I ain’t got no type. Definitely inactive.
@desireerogers712316 күн бұрын
😆😊
@Freeyourself2066 күн бұрын
These are generalizations and do not apply to everyone. There will always be individual differences. Please do not take this as empirical evidence. This is anecdotal at best.