Dating Black | Episode 1 | BET UK

[@TeeyanaAromi]

Love that the conversation wasn’t super negative. Because we are all tired. Looking forward to seeing more

[@Laura-sg6ss]

@@tr9750 looll 💀henjoyment

[@terenceambang]

Ur amazing

[@tropicalstormxox9444]

Thank you for putting actual black women and not MIXED women who don’t have the same experiences 😒it’s refreshing to see 😄

[@rosewaters.9853]

👏👏👏

[@siii3850]

Right👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@kirn3afek]

There is a troll in this comment time line. Don't answer to this person, keep it classy ladies. We match only positive energy this year🥰🥰🥰

[@tropicalstormxox9444]

@@kirn3afek forreal mixed women need to stop infiltrating our platforms 😂 yall gots to get yo own

[@tropicalstormxox9444]

@@theeladyj I can understand why it’s like that in the US cuz you can have generations of light skinned people that don’t know where their light skin came from, then you can have the mixed people as in one parent is black the other is white, but because of slavery the lines are blurred. The UK be trying to copy this ish sometimes and I’m glad people are catching on. Mixed people should talk about mixed issues in their mixed communities periodt

[@KushQueen9]

I personally believe I need to love myself and KNOW myself, truly understand what my likes and dislikes are, connect with myself spiritually and emotionally and also explore hobbies and interests and truly enjoy my own company. Otherwise you end up relying on someone else too much to bring you happiness and you lose yourself. Nobody needs to be perfect and have it together, but a lot of people lack depth and substance and this can only be built alone.

[@11shellene]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@nmart1n]

Absolutely agree

[@sana-kb1lh]

yesss 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

That's true, lack of self-love and the lack of having interests, hobbies, breeds co-dependency issues, which will cause issues in the romantic relationship.

[@ChainBreakerswithDrTrista]

I OVER LOVE this!!!

[@lp9074]

The UK dating scene is awful at the minute. I know so many beautiful girls in situationships. It’s that or nothing as they’re tired of being alone.

[@kwameopoku3576]

Honestly so mny men with useless women

[@user-bu9ne7ef3q]

London girls make it hard

[@Laura-sg6ss]

@@user-bu9ne7ef3q elaborate

[@TheDestineyy]

@@user-bu9ne7ef3q I hate when people say this. Not all girls in London are the same

[@Obatala_Vibez]

@@TheDestineyy am not from Ldn but it’s just a excuse

[@lesoko2496]

I'm currently 19 and loved hearing from these women. Felt like listening to a sister in a way. Cant wait for the next episode

[@PHlophe]

uLesoko, you are too young to be listening to this. it could be a road block. enjoy yourself .

[@mimiro4307]

Watch cyn g

[@janice1846]

@@PHlophe There is no harm in listening in. I don't want to be blind sighted about the world of dating once I am already in my mid 20s. As a 20 year old who isn't seriously dating, I found this video to be comforting like a group of big sis and cousins giving advice and sharing stories.

[@shonuffizhere5670]

Pay close attention!!! They all got weave and going crazy.

[@blessingaliu123]

@@shonuffizhere5670 Weave has nothing to do with it, don't be obtuse...

[@alexandras2559]

What a grown conversation, when she said that social media narratives are not her reality, I felt that because I really can't relate. Glad I'm not alone. Super mature relatable conversations

[@mlove8158]

Why would you tell young girls to ignore red flags? Pls don’t listen to her. They only get worst overtime

[@nmart1n]

Exactly. If someone shows you who they truly are, believe them.

[@prettyprincess7009]

She said WITH CAUTION

[@NoName-sp5dp]

@@prettyprincess7009 yellow flags are caution. red flag means leave

[@dorothytamuno7053]

I would agree if i actually said “ignore red flags” please watch it again. I said “chance him with CAUTION”. Totally different statement xx

[@yourleftacrylicpinkynail7270]

@@dorothytamuno7053 You literally said "Close your eyes to a red flag". Knowing that people make mistakes is different from ignoring red flags. Yellow flags are simple mistakes that happen, red flags are more like patterns that continuously happen, well at least that's how I define them.

[@preciousalways6847]

All the women in this video are so beautiful

[@newid10]

I have to disagree with the idea of ignore a red flag. Nah I’d rather be alone than risk it

[@smilergal89]

Okay! You can ignore an amber flag but red, best to discuss, get clarity and proceed on that basis

[@mariamakoroma7097]

The moment you ignore the red flags you are doomed. All the things we accept will be the things we regret.

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

@@mariamakoroma7097 Very true. Ignoring redflags always leads to regret.

[@emmarose9466]

For best practice I'll replace the word red flag with "imperfection" or "orange flag" haha. Dangerous advice! Glad she added to move cautiously. I'll tell u my mom has complained abt some of my dad habits even before she had me, she said. After 30 years still complains abt the same things, is she happy though? Million dollars question haha. It's a ride yall more like a roller coaster type, just gotta enjoy the process & work your way up

[@palisaxoliswa5688]

she specified that move with caution . not every one is perfect thats reality

[@ketsoapril8334]

I feel like this was so positive, rather than the things we see on social media where men and women push this narrative of you should be perfect to be in a relationship, and your partner should do whatever you want and tick all the boxes which does not relate to reality, this video was so informative

[@terenceambang]

Ur amazing

[@jimandhenry]

Can we just talk about how clear these women are in what they each want, how they respect what their mates want and appreciate how beautiful they are? Sorry but they’re all gorgeous! X

[@fameshyne7932]

Beautiful women I must say. However, you do not seek COMPANIONSHIP coz you’re lonely. It’ll end up toxic. When that relationship fails or whenever you partner ain’t around, you’ll feel empty. Which is not ideal

[@lolita960]

The fact that every single one of these ladies are different but absolutely gorgeous and carry themselves with class. They also speak clearly and even though I don’t know their background they all sound educated and smart. I love this for black women, as a black girl this is everything I’ve ever want to see online cause the representation is immaculate❤️

[@donnabodel4113]

White women Europeans🙋👍

[@lolita960]

@@donnabodel4113 These women are black :)

[@danielmeloda429]

@@lolita960 white women are naturally like this, black women are masculine and not that feminine

[@lolita960]

@@danielmeloda429 you just said white women are naturally like this (referring to my reference to the black women in the video). Read that again.

[@MsDarkie93]

@@lolita960 They’re clearly attention seeking. Ignore x

[@namakausitwala1336]

I loved what Uche said about the person you want is outside your type. A few months ago my friend said the exact same thing to me. And it truly is true. Sometimes we fear being with someone who isn’t our type because we are afraid of what society will say and we end up staying with a person who is our “type” and yet we are so miserable. EXPLORE! ❤️

[@terenceambang]

Ur amazing

[@goldenchristine4431]

The lady with the hat on n green lipstick has such a warm calming aura around her. She would be a great mother

[@elvirajameson3753]

I've given up. I'm celibate & avoid eye contact with men. They only ever want to use me for (as my mother says) "night time dating". When my last real relationship ended I asked him "why couldn't you just see me and leave me alone"...yeahhh that opened my eyes drastically.

[@missmaverick3477]

I understand x I’m from south east London and I’m overwhelmed when I see them.. I can’t even look at them because I think they are all narcissistic or cruel or liars.

[@aufhflskih6830]

you're celibate, that alone will keep you single forever. imagine of men were like "i'm not gonna spend any money on a woman until i'm married" women simply wouldn't date him, same thing here. celibacy is just going to keep you single.

[@grace3485]

@AviatorsXII when she did it didn’t make any difference. I prefer to be single than endure a narcissist or bigot .you're not making any sense

[@WhenSaraiSpeaksUListen]

I am SO amazed at how us black people in the US and UK are BOTH dealing with the same type of dating mess. MAN! I'm really blown away lol.

[@facelesscalvin1667]

In the US? Our dating scene isn’t as bad as in the UK.

[@Zen-cx5tc]

I think it’s worldwide. I’m from the Caribbean Trinidad & Tobago to be exact, and it’s a mess here as well.

[@WhenSaraiSpeaksUListen]

@@Zen-cx5tc wow this is insane.

[@shafuimcoming5151]

@@Zen-cx5tc you dating there? It's interesting to know how people date while living wild exotic life.

[@flowfreely]

The disruption happened to all of us so it of course impacts us all across the Diaspora. We know this

[@tytypartridge3135]

The married girl with the ginger hair and greenish top… was giving dodgy advice. Never get into a relationship just because you’re lonely and never close your eyes to red flags.

[@gailainsley6939]

I've noticed the women who are usually taken are women who will put up with anything just to say that they have someone. I myself, am getting married soon but I've started noticing that most of the single girls seem more...'put together' you would think they will be the ones snatched up.

[@donuts108]

She’s the only married one though. No disrespect to the other woman but I’d rather take advice from someone where I want to be rather than someone who is single for whatever reason. And I think what she was saying about getting into a relationship cause you’re lonely isn’t a bad thing cause it’s a innate feeling to want companionship.

[@gailainsley6939]

@@donuts108 If she hasn't got the type of man that the lady in question wants then does it matter? I've noticed it's very easy to get married, especially if you have no real requirements. For women with requirements and 'standards' it's a lot more difficult and they have to be ready to sacrifice not having marriage and a family or need to consider 'settling'. Literally lol. These days average women are more likely to be married than really beautiful women so I'm not sure why people talk as if men pick the cream of the crop women or that the woman is somehow special. Its not that. At all! and I'm realising it more and more everytime I'm in these spaces.

[@DirtyEdon]

@@gailainsley6939 that's why you die single with a cat 😺😺

[@gailainsley6939]

@@DirtyEdon loool you guys and this cat thing. What did those animals ever do to you? Why do you think it's an insult when it's really not? Do you guys not understand how stressful you can be? 😂😴

[@cyrilofori3463]

Love this show and the general honesty! Also feel sad about the disconnect between black men and women in the UK. The problem with a lot of black men generally is they do not go into relationships with a plan to commit to a woman no matter how beautiful or smart she maybe, so as things become more serious too quickly FOR THEM this is when things go left. On the flip side a lot of women categorize black men they are interested in without really getting to know them properly for their flaws and strengths. I feel this is where the disconnection often stems from leading to a lot of flaky or imaged based relationships.

[@Nicminiezrobisz]

BM have options. They can date non BW who are more attractive. I feel sorry for BW

[@Callherchi]

@@Nicminiezrobisz bm don’t have options because non bw prefer their own men who are more attractive and are productive. I feel sorry for bm sometimes

[@Nicminiezrobisz]

@@Callherchi BM date interracially 3x more often than BW

[@Callherchi]

@@Nicminiezrobisz because they want to not because non bw are flocking towards them🤣 bw can do the same but many are too race loyal

[@Nicminiezrobisz]

@@Callherchi BW don’t do it because they love BM and other races don’t want them

[@NokubongaMashinya]

Why was this therapeutic? ❤️ I cannot wait for Ep 2

[@valeriedavis4104]

She really said “close your eyes to a red flag” - um my therapist would like a word 😭 💀

[@LoveiDora]

With ⚠️ she said

[@aperson7210]

I actually had to pause for a second after that one 🤣 but what she probably meant was something like a guy being a little bit messy with his stuff or smth like that and not a guy showing abusive behavior from the get go (or after)

[@dorothytamuno7053]

@@aperson7210 exactly what i meant! Xx

[@dorothytamuno7053]

Hey Valerie! I didnt say close your eyes to a red flag. I said give him a chance - with ‘caution’. I say this from experience, i am married to someone that wasn’t my type. He didn’t tick all the boxes. But i ignored the fact he wasnt, for example, 6 foot 1, and i got with him based on him being an amazing person. Not being 6”1 isnt a red flag 😂 its just my preference. I ignored those ‘on the surface’ things and married my husband, now were in our 4th year of marriage and i don’t care about his height. Just one example ive given! There are so many things i could list. All im saying is sometimes you could drop your ‘wants’ and chance him 😂❤️ i hope that clarifies everything x

[@KushQueen9]

@@dorothytamuno7053 totally makes sense! A lot of women miss out on wonderful men by not giving a chance.

[@tyreeceuk]

She said it right ‘everyone acts like they know what they’re doing’ if we all take accountability in money, love and health things will fall into place. Im 40 and I’ve never had a problem with dating or being single because I learn from both….but I’m not perfect, still learning. That never stops ❤️

[@SheCaresBeauty]

Loved the diversity of thought! Excited to hear the men’s POV next episode 🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@bridgetlilly-02]

My Advice for our UK sisters is please extend your Pool… consider Any Men from any Race.. Love is Love🙏🏽

[@kimgedits]

Black women need to open their options black men are colorists

[@maggief1851]

Definitely

[@tikdoe7563]

@888 There is no connection, it's all disfunction.

[@vicky4912]

@888 if there were cultural connections between us many bw and BM wouldn’t be single. Please stop!

[@mimiro4307]

@@vicky4912 exactly

[@lynettebitwayiki5314]

Honestly loved this conversation and everyone’s different perspectives! Can’t wait for the male POV 👏🏾

[@j.baldwin3012]

I swear that British accent on black women is the best. It's nothing on non-black women, but it just seems to add so much flavor to black women.

[@kweenlue1709]

Love this show. I'm 18. I want to be a Film maker & Director. We don't get these kinds of shows anymore especially in SOUTH AFRICA where I'm from. I'm glad I could find inspiration bc these are the kinds of shows I want to produce.❤️

[@Oyama_]

I want to do something like this too

[@palisaxoliswa5688]

i totally agree with you on that im also from South africa . please do follow your dream to be a film maker .

[@yenzilezizipho4502]

Sis start something. We will support oe. Southy ❤

[@ambre4144]

I support u in your dreams! Hope you follow them!!

[@theomosienyane2715]

@kweenlue1709 do you write? I'm also a South African film maker.

[@90sBabyShow]

👀👀👀👀

[@gladysobaze5238]

Love this, black women being real, having honest conversations with being open, and owning their opinion!

[@nkosiphilempofu3798]

The disconnect between black man and black woman in the Uk is unreal

[@wiseguy240Winston]

America as well, now we got SYSBM & Black women who divest lol.

[@lalalaal.]

How do you mean disconnect? Or what do you mean by the word?

[@laurawilliams4087]

Oh wow I'm black american and this is a big problem in the America, but I'm shocked to hear the same thing happening in the UK.

[@wiseguy240Winston]

@@laurawilliams4087 it's worldwide cause of colonialism

[@hypergamyblackqueen201]

Black men do not appreciate black women and this is fact. Im dating someone outside of my race and its the best decision I’ve ever made. Black women need to start expanding their options

[@Immaculateve]

That thumbnail is jaw dropping

[@sharonnwachukwu7817]

All these women are so beautifulllllll

[@temitopeoluwadunsin2019]

Black women...NEVER CLOSE YOUR EYES TO A RED FLAG!!!!!!!!!

[@WordOnTheCurb]

Love it!

[@chantelleduncan1]

Loved this conversation. There was no biased opinions. The environment and conversation was very mature and true . 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 However, regarding the loneliness, its a very conflicting word. because while I do acknowledge what the two women said. I personally believe being lonely when you're by yourself means for me you're in bad company. I think loving your own company is a powerful tool because when you do get in a relationship you go in as a powerful individual who'll not be emotionally triggered by trivial things because you know yourself that well.

[@anorbert38]

Gorgeous ladles! 🤎 Loved this!

[@ceoofhenjoyment]

Such a healthy and mature conversation! I love this for us black women👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾✨

[@Nicminiezrobisz]

I feel sorry for BW. How is it to be the least attractive?

[@thelmakingly5995]

The wig falling off😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🙌🏼I’ve been there😩😂 How beautiful are you Queens!!!!!?Stunning😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍👑♥️

[@mslettiemathibe71]

These are the conversations I've always wanted to have...so beautiful❤😫🙌 enjoyed

[@876LND]

I disagree with the red flag one, I used to do that and TRUST me, you'll always regret it.

[@maggief1851]

I'm going to brag but I have found my Barack.I struggled with dating in 2021 when I finally gave up and started shopping for a dog to adopt thenI met him.

[@beingmary-ann9104]

Kudos to you!. I thought I was the only one who referred to "the one" as my "Barack" 🤣❤️.

[@gobigorgohome4647]

Okayy but can we just appreciate how BEAUTIFUL all these women are!!!

[@Selenas627]

right!! i had to rewatch because I was captivated by their natural beauty and didn't pay attention at first.

[@estheree9171]

especially the woman in green!

[@babymandy]

I just wanna say black women are beautiful 💯💕 We are out of this world!

[@Lillie839]

I absolutley fell in love with this show the women aren't just beautiful but also mature and intelligent, this show radiates goddess energy. I appreciate the transparency of the ladies and wish them success in all their endeavours

[@fante_oh3ma]

Finally actual dark skin women!!! Talking…THANK YOU🗣🗣 “I like that word committed” we all do!

[@naga7461]

Y’all are Weirdos fr blk women don’t only come in one shade y’all want to be the center of everything lol

[@Lempetu]

Absolutely LOVED the show. I'm Watching all this gorgeous black women and supporting them from Spain. This was refreshing, natural, and special. I'm speechless!

[@SpaztasticSheep]

The girl in the cap has a the sweetest most relaxing voice itw

[@esthernwosu7406]

Can’t wait for more episode to drop. This content is top tier loved seeing the different perspectives and opinions

[@distorbia20]

City girl vibes ruined relationships and social media. No one wants to commit, cater to one another and be private about your relationship. Not everything has to be shared online. The issue is men and women compete and none of them understand their role.

[@starstef764]

Hemah is beautiful beyond belief

[@Flygirlkimmy_]

Love love love this!!! Just one thing I didn’t necessarily agree with…. You shouldn’t fully love yourself before getting into a relationship with someone ?! I would disagree. I think that’s one of the reasons why they’re so many failed relationships. We are getting into relationships wanting our spouse/partner to fill us up when in reality that’s not their jobs. We should strive to be the best versions of ourselves (while single) and anything our partner provides going forward will just be an addition.

[@dorothytamuno7053]

Great episode! It was the wig story that made me scrim 😂

[@NM-ng6ng]

It’s time that BW aren’t obsessed with Black love, love love and chose yourself instead of race.

[@tikdoe7563]

I assumed that's what the video was going to be about so I didn't even play it, just here for the comments.

[@candyyyyyyyyy2222]

@@tikdoe7563 same ! 😅

[@NM-ng6ng]

Yes! We are tired of seeing the same thing, BW crying over “their men”.

[@PieceMeals]

I agree personally, but this video is obviously for black women who are only dating within their race. I do hope young black women will realise when the black love thing isn't going to happen for them before it's too late to have a romantic life.

[@jacpppp]

@@PieceMeals most wont realise and instead will end up baby mama’ed by a Tyrone smh

[@batsiebatesfaldet9693]

HIGH QUALITY FILMING & VIDEO. BLACK Excellence 🗣

[@Nicminiezrobisz]

👮🏻‍♂️ blue lives matter

[@lefthook82]

You guys have done well to get 8 episodes out of this.

[@ifeoyedele5374]

Loved how refreshing this was! I found it so relatable, was engaged throughout

[@apolloreed4972]

What a great series. Nice viewing a positive reaction to dating by men and women as opposed to seeing women being bashed and asked to get a dog for companionship.

[@BadGirlMimi94]

The beautiful girl that said "chance him" sounds like she has a lot she could teach young women. You're dripping with knowledge and I hope you share it

[@newedtv]

Dating in London is wack, 7 years single.. just one disconnect. Big love to this video and the beautiful singles.. "I'm Here!" 🔥🙏🏾🔥

[@Jadesuknic]

Of course I’m going to say it as an American, I love love love your accent Ladies💗💗 I loved watching every bit of this:) looks like universally we have the same experiences!

[@Rantitoutloud]

"The person you are looking for is on the other side of your type." Profound. These women are so brilliant and wise

[@creativechristiancontent]

Beautiful ladies and darkest woman’s skin is glowing 🌞

[@SummerMaphumulo]

Really enjoyed this 🥰🔥

[@tdline9621]

All of you are "Baddies", beautiful, intelligent, mature women who know what they want and are honest about how they feel .I love this 👸🏿💐👸🏾💐👸🏽💐👸🏾💐

[@lois119]

Really enjoyed watching this!

[@thriftysimplicity]

I really enjoyed this! Glad it came up in my recommendations!

[@MaggieMagnoli]

Loved the energy of this conversation. Looking forward to seeing more.

[@wbltees611]

This is a great watch & filmed perfectly !!

[@ariannaada232]

Y'all girls are stunning 😍

[@oo5240]

Quality convo, diverse experiences 😍

[@iyinoluwao3393]

I don't think you should ignore red flags. You just need to recognise whther it's a red flag or a dealbreaker. Those two aren't always the same.

[@benola5977]

This is great. But the disconnect is mainly for one reason: the personality we want, is often in the physical we don’t want (or vice versa) And that goes for men and women, but I think especially men Edit: 10:27 ....

[@DiDi-jl5jn]

Love the melanin in this video

[@ayo.mp4]

we love to see the content 🥳

[@acct4600]

i love how when men speak honestly & truthfully, our comments "magically" disappear... funny, that.

[@pump1180]

Y’all are so pretty

[@samararoberts7596]

red hair girl is soooo on point. Especially her hairrr😍😍😍💯 and the lady in the green is so beautiful!

[@palisaxoliswa5688]

love this .love these beautiful smart women. so much ive learnt from these beautiful ladies. so much common things i share with these women . cant wait for new episodes

[@throughmylens4736]

Absolutely enjoyed this. 😩😹

[@leagileolifantgg]

I Have A Deep Love For All Black Women...All Shades, All Ages. Ladies, You Are Beautiful! Remember That ✨

[@Mojo-yin-oluwa]

only 33 seconds in and I already know I'm gonna love this.

[@giftofgodstarnorth6363]

The best thing ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Black women are just beautiful 🌹❤️

[@ShamaraMurray]

Uche: “if you only every pick from the people that come to you 🤷🏾‍♀️… if you go after what you want the worst thing that can happen is they have a girlfriend or you’re not their type” + “The person you’re looking for is in the other side of your type”

[@itsjust.zainodiaz2913]

fell in love with this during the first few seconds. so much intention was put into this production and you can tell. all these ladies are so beautiful as well, genuinely enjoying this -- cant wait to binge watch the first 4 episodes !

[@sapphiraj2084]

"The Wunmi Show!" comment was hilarious 😂

[@tamogubai2812]

Lack of collaboration is the issue. This whole extreme push of wanting all the gains but none of the accountability is not attractive for anyone in a relationship or wanting to start one regardless of gender. 6 figures guys max 10% if even of the population. Percentage of them that are black probably 1 to 2%.

[@laurawilliams4087]

I'm black american and first I wanted to say that these women are gorgeous! But I didnt know there was a disconnect between black men and women in the UK I thought that was just an issue in the black american community.

[@rendallsofia1194]

It’s a world wide thing.

[@MsQueendp]

Relationships are about risk... proceed when you see flags but be careful to explore them... don’t rely on your assumptions

[@tropicalstormxox9444]

But you have to protect yourself

[@8Remnant6]

Loving this. If you are ever looking for a Black male therapist to support get at me.

[@rebekahsekidika]

Love the honesty from everyone !

[@donotatme8072]

Soooo here for it like yaaaaas

[@nwabisabeba1678]

Love this episode

[@mariamouattara1845]

I love this series 😍 …. I want more

[@AnastaziaBasil]

I loveeeeeee this show...season 2 please

[@504HOE]

These are some beautiful ladies 😍love the ambiance

[@leandre7317]

Not a red flag... if it's yellow proceed with caution. Red, walk away.

[@Supernatural__]

I really enjoyed this video - thanks for sharing all your inputs and voices

[@Immaculateve]

Love this girls ❤️

[@keamooooooooo]

"How do I explain his hairline" 💀💀💀

[@zionsrants]

🤣

[@gracemat9474]

girl with pixie cut is so cute