DATING FILIPINA SINGLE MOMS / Is Dating A Single Mother A Trap?

#IsDatingASingleMotherATrap ‪@TheFilipinaPea‬
Dating Filipina single moms can leave you wondering - is dating a single mother a trap? Dating a single mother in the Philippines is tricky, and trouble with single Filipina mothers is all too common. The pros cons of dating a single mother makes a long list indeed, but dating women with kids in the Philippines may seem unavoidable! What to avoid in dating a single mother? Why date a single mom? Watch this video, and you'll be aware of all the potential pitfalls, as well as the rewards!
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[@TheFilipinaPea]

👉My videos and the effort I put into them are 100% free for everyone to enjoy, and all I ask is that you leave a thumbs-up on any videos that you like and subscribe to my channel - I have never, and will never, ask you for anything else. For those of you that still wish to support my channel further, however, I’ve posted my links below. Thanks! 👉 Support through PayPal: www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=GC9T7PMLZ3BDW&source=url 👉 Patreon: www.patreon.com/thefilipinapea

[@sdavis-59]

Another truthful video Pea on a very difficult topic, I am very close to my Filipinas 2 older children, it's very sad she wants our 2 young children to grow up without me, luckily the older siblings are helping the little ones (mine) understand that I'm not the terrible person she wants them to think I am...😥 Well done Pea!

[@sdavis-59]

Opppps

[@eternal_napalm6442]

I am a handsome, tall and successful American man with blue eyes and good family values. If you ever decide you want to start a family and make strong healthy babies with a white American man, let's meet up. I'm Derek and YOU are a very unique woman

[@SteamAllchill]

@@eternal_napalm6442 she dosent want u

[@RokiBossable]

I wanna know are you married???

[@nashvilleoutlaw]

My experience with western single mothers is you start off in 3rd place. Never give you the alone time with her to bond or really get to know them, kid is always joined at the hip. You're just starting from somebody else's saved game. If anything you get more attached to the kid and she'll try to hold that over your head to keep you around once you realize it'll never work. That's not even bringing up the ex's drama.

[@Shaolin91z]

From that experience....what has changed about you now?

[@moweems5802]

I'd definitely be worried about that ex drama unless he's dead.

[@andrewwatkins1561]

Pea, you’re becoming famous in the Red Pill KZbin arena :-) I love the way you care for Western men by telling the naked truth! You have integrity 🙏

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Wow, thanks Andrew - I didn’t know that! 👍😊

[@clydekimsey7503]

@@TheFilipinaPea I second that😉😇

[@mikemcquinn6738]

AGREED!!!

[@yoyojoe9240]

I guess She is telling All men.

[@KinteDynasty]

@@TheFilipinaPea Your association and level of acceptance, admiration, and, dare I say it, Love and admiration you received from MTR and his primarily Black Male audience has earned you the status of a SAINT, a GODDESS among us.

[@rutgersmarine2065]

Ms Pea your assessment is spot on. A few years ago I dated a Filipina who had three young kids and it was as disaster. I visited she and her kids twice in the Philippines. She treated me like an ATM machine (and she got mad when I closed my checkbook). I found out the hard way that she was just looking for a sugar daddy. Even if she didn't have any children I am sure she would have treated me the same way. I'm currently with a Filipina who does not have any children and the relationship is awesome.

[@goutfromfriedokra7099]

this is one GOOFY woman

[@jurgschupbach3059]

Good Luck

[@johannvandermerwe4826]

Wowwwwww

[@nellatl]

That's single moms everywhere

[@kenstanphill]

I’ve been surporting a Filipino kid for the last 17 years even thought me and the mother broke up years ago. I sent him to pvt schools and he just graduated with honors from high school. He starts college this year. He knows and I know I changed his life . The little amount of money was well spent.

[@Shaolin91z]

Should have let the father do his job.....

[@edwardmoore2739]

Better to do this than take it to the grave with you. Good job, hopefully he pays it forward

[@Shaolin91z]

@John Grigg most likely he didn't care to try and do..... Like I said in another post....a pH woman will sleep with a pH man even if he's broke...but a broke foreigner will not be tolerated.

[@88douggie42]

That was an honorable thing to do.

[@k9companion231]

Empathy is one thing but guilt is another. Raising another mans seed is not normal unless you marry the mom.

[@jasonmaria9977]

Kamusta Pea, An excellent informative video as always. I have been married to a Filipina for 10 years. I realized that for me dating a woman with children would be a huge mistake and I am very happy that I never fell in love with a woman who already had children. To be honest, you pointed out even more reasons than I knew of and realized, I was totally shocked!! Even after 10 years of marriage to a Filipina and living in the Philippines 3 years before meeting my wife, I realize that you are so good and very more informative about women in the Philippines than anyone I have ever met. Heck, I never knew that taking someone's child to the mall is illegal, OMG!!! Can't even imagine the problems that alone causes every year!!! Pea, you deserve the success you have and I truly wish you the best and hope your channel grows further along with your success. It would be an honor to meet you the next time my wife and I are in the Philippines. God Bless and be safe, Jason & Maria

[@slainteron4027]

Wife was a single Mom. Great mom. Wonderful step daughter. She is in final year at silliman for physical therapy. Wife did an amazing job raising her and providing

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

I'm just chatting online and am finding great Filipinas who have been great wives and mothers. I stick to no kids, grown kids or widows. I'm finding accomplished women, dentists, doctors and landowners with homes as nice as my home in the US. Single already married moms are not the only option.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

What age was her child when you two got together? Did it affect your living situation?

[@slainteron4027]

@@TheFilipinaPea She was 12. I have two children of my own from a previous marriage (non filipina but asian) Due to logistics we have only been able to be all together once. Both my kids are on their own now graduated and have jobs. She is the final and we will have empty nest. But as you said, due to the things being cheaper especially in Dumaguete and with the wife having a good job, there really was no impact. I am one of the lucky ones in that aspect.

[@claudenewton8932]

@@MrWaterbugdesign Of all the expat remarks, yours makes the most sense.

[@Xilikon]

Same for me, I got a single mom but it's not a bad one as the video outlined. Mine is a widow with a bright and sweet13yo daughter and having 1 teenager boy myself, it's not a problem for me supporting.

[@glenshuttleworth3224]

Everything Pea just said is %100 spot on.I experienced dating a single mom of four, and let me tell ya single moms require a lot of financial support.

[@Shaolin91z]

Lol 😂 it took you dating one to find that out. Glad u found out though.

[@johnblackmouth]

Four???? 😂

[@tattie278]

John Grigg, I may be missing something, but why have you put yourself in this situation 🤦.

[@Shaolin91z]

@@tattie278 most guys that do this sort of thing have a problem with relationships in general...so they do things like he's doing. He gets attention....but he also gets walked on.

[@elmexicle577]

@John Grigg Do your self a favor and Cut them loose, Let them see how much you help them out.

[@SwordHMX]

I absolutely LOVE the little girl I adopted when I married her mother. I had a heart becoming a father to the fatherless, and I have not regretted my decision for one second!

[@branfieldward4308]

You are a wonderful person and the Lord will bless you for it

[@levytorregrosaoliver6716]

Congratulations

[@solutionsforabrightfuture3579]

no risk no reward.

[@andrewt.2850]

This was an eye opener, Pea! Good episode.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks much, Andrew - opening eyes is my specialty 😂

[@davidthelander1299]

@@TheFilipinaPea Especially that final scene, when you pretend to take off your bikini top! My 70 year old eyes were wide open :)

[@lloydwhite3198]

Shocking !

[@fitraveler44]

And take note there are some Pinays who did an abortion just to say they are single and has no children.

[@aseasonedveteran5915]

My late wife had two children from two different fathers when we met. We brought them to Hawaii and today they are doing great. They gave us 5 grandsons to add to our own five grandchildren. My beautiful late wife gave me a wonderful 41 years of marriage and a loving family. I would defiantly do it all over again.

[@Shaolin91z]

But why did you have to pay such a high price....when other two got it for damn near nothing. They didn't have to marry her. You accepted her with someone else's kids.....

[@drj3604]

@@Shaolin91z yeah, but he's saying he's glad he did. Granted he may be an exception, but nevertheless it worked for him.

[@user-mh3kp7we7i]

Rare today.

[@zayneunderwood1488]

Yes exceedingly rare....

[@Shaolin91z]

@@drj3604 I know what he's saying....but I just was asking the obvious question

[@jasond9401]

I'm petrified of being accused of something I didn't do to a child over there or anywhere really. If someone wanted to extort money or just get revenge it's their word against yours and your word is useless in a foreign country. I say stay away and let someone else handle it. Also make sure you are never ever left alone with a kid. And that goes for your home country too. Too many women over there to take risks. Such a shame that society has come to this because children crave real men in their lives, but I'm not going to be around them if there is a risk of me getting thrown in prison.

[@ultramax6442]

yeah i agree,this stupid law is very descriminatory

[@BP7BlackPearl]

Some of you crack me up. Your fears rule you. Use fucking common sense. I have lived their and visited over 15 times. I have had not such fears of anything you indicatre. I've been alone with kids, women, single women, single women with kids, etc, etc. READ THE ENVIORMENT.

[@nomennescio7457]

In the video that followed this video a lawyer explains that being alone with the children of your gf isn't a problem.

[@aroldoladislau6044]

@@BP7BlackPearl KKK YOU CAN GUESS THE FUTURE,ACUSATOON COMES REPENT!!!

[@dennisdragomir7572]

@@nomennescio7457 worst case you get extorted and jail...

[@rstel]

I’m dating a single Filipina mom with 2 young children. My parents were Filipinos who emigrated and met in the US. They married and had me and two younger brothers. They divorced when I was quite young. My mother met then married an American who adopted me and my brothers. So I can relate to my girlfriend’s children and treat them as my own.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

A fascinating story, Richard 👍😊

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

OK. I know this won't register but I'll give it a try...you are creating a fantasy world for yourself. I get it, she is a great woman. But you treating her and her husband's (assuming still married) kids as your own doesn't make it true. It's a fantasy. If you want to rationalize away the many Philippine laws you would be breaking as no big deal then I hope your luck holds up. There are millions of women to choose from. Breaking laws really isn't required. You're not hearing what Pea is trying to explain to you.

[@stackfire9601]

@@MrWaterbugdesign Not everyone lives a dictatorship life, some men have the balls to love a lonely little heart that certainly deserves it. But then again some just don't give a $hit that's more like your angle.😜😉🤔

[@rstel]

@@MrWaterbugdesign I don’t live in a fantasy world. I live in real life. My girlfriend isn’t married, it’s not hard to verify. I’m an example of what Pea was referring to. My mother was a single Filipina with three kids. Although we were in the US, she dated an American, married him and he adopted us. I have no blood relation to my adoptive father, yet he acknowledges me to this day as his son. Nothing wrong about that. As far as breaking any laws, you can get the Republic Act 7610 and read the provision. Taking care of my girlfriend’s children falls within that Act so I’m not breaking any laws. The US has similar laws, was my father breaking any laws taking care of me and my brothers who at the time prior to our adoption wasn’t his? I have real life experience with the subject of this video. It isn’t a “fantasy”.

[@f1hotrod527]

Adding an echo effect to your voice. Taking it to another level Pea. You really are one of the most talented people on KZbin.

[@stephenmitchell7915]

I have been married to a former single Filipina mother for 10 years now. It has been a great experience. However, I have experienced EVERYTHING you described at one time or another. Starting with a 9 year old trying to get his stubby little nose under our bedroom door crying to sleep with mom. That dog don't hunt here! He also seemed to think he was in charge, perhaps based on his being the oldest Filipino male child in the household. One threat that seemed to work for a while was offering to send him back to Kuya and give Filipino discipline a chance to work. That was my first hint he really liked it in the USA.

[@jeffcope3674]

What is a former Filipina mom

[@algibs9095]

Respect for laying down the law early on. Men that are true leaders in the home are in shortage at the moment.

[@QuinnPrice]

After marrying a single mother, I found out how deceptive she had been. But it got worse. Time, money and attention to my kids or anything other than her children were seen as threats. The deception, control, and vindictiveness only got worse with time. And that's your solution; time. Slow down your rush to marriage and watch her over time. She won't be able to hide her need for control, how she views you as nothing but a source. Time. Eyes wide open.

[@rangingaway92]

Agreed. Women's favorite strategy is love bombing, pretending to be broke or weak... Guys, check your ego when interacting with girls. If it's too good to be true, it usually is. Women have no control over their emotions and TIME is NOT on their side.

[@Ric.A.Photography]

A good video as always Pea. My beautiful fiancée was completely honest with me about her two children and her ex who is useless. She told me this right at the start of us chatting as she didn’t want any secrets. I’m happy to accept her children as my own. Her honesty is such a great trait. I’ve met many western women who were far from honest.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Finding a Filipina who doesn’t keep secrets is GOLDEN! ❤️👍

[@78swats]

How do you solve the legal issues that Pea mentioned? You can not be with the kids when their mom is not around. Isn't it a huge risk?

[@Ric.A.Photography]

@@TheFilipinaPea My Filipina is definitely a keeper

[@rereviews8745]

i am from the philippines and sadly, this is going to be a problem. a lot of people know the formula of "be honest about a little secret now, so you can hide the big secret later."

[@Shaolin91z]

The big secret... lol 😂...a secret like she's only separated...but still married....or still sleeping with her husband occasionally.

[@119jle]

I’m a single dad. And I’m a great catch. Love happiness and a future doesn’t end once you become a parent.

[@0bob0cya]

A great catch in your dreams.

[@maricar8747]

True

[@119jle]

@@0bob0cya I’m tall dark handsome and a multi millionaire you figure it out and you’re a great catch because?

[@claudiuvladcoschi8698]

I have and LDR for 1 year now with a single mom and let me tell you I never felt better in my life than now even if is long distance . October I'll fly to her ...I know there will be some of you who say that ldr is bs and more but how I see her is simply amazing.

[@muchasgraciastravelandtour8243]

I am hoping sir,u meet ur gurlfrend,,godbless,,

[@passport_revolution.]

I wish you a life time of happiness.

[@driftingnate]

I feel like you have saved me from making many dangerous or bad decisions in my future endeavors in the Philippines. Thank you Pea

[@PassportBrosBusinessClass]

I would NEVER. I will never give any one the power to use the “you aren’t my father” line on me.

[@spacecoasttactical]

Make sure you stick to that. I had it said to me by a 27 year old that never knew his biological father and had brought up as my own since he was 11. Like a knife to the heart and ended the relationship with his mother as she refused to back me up.

[@erniebell1858]

Why not? Just say, "You are right. However, remember who pays for everything and if you don't like it; the door is waiting for you."

[@PassportBrosBusinessClass]

@@erniebell1858 Try throwing one of these bastards out without his mother backing them up. She wouldn't be a good mother if she didn't leave right behind them. Now you're back to square one. Best NOT TO INDULGE IN SINGLE MOMS AT ALL. Send a message to young women: MARRY BEFORE YOU CARRY.

[@MrBenHaynes]

@@spacecoasttactical I am so sorry. I don't know what to say, other than you kept your dignity. I hope you've found love (or at least happiness) again.

[@Abelius]

Well, regardless of the "single mom, good or bad?" discussion, the more the children are further from age 3, the more potential for that kind of response being used. At age 11... well, that's a total deal-breaker for me.

[@bighoss9705]

Thanks for the "happy ending" Pea. The Fast Times at Ridgemont & Caddy Shack cut aways were hilarious!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks! And I’ve got some new ones on the way 😂😉

[@nghtwtchmn129]

@@TheFilipinaPeaHow about recreating Ursula Andress's entrance in Dr. No from 1962?

[@stevefoster5172]

@@TheFilipinaPea the only thing that is missing is the dancing gopher! LOL

[@hg2.]

She knows American culture better than Americans. She must have lived in the States. :)

[@bighoss9705]

BTW....philipinas swim in their clothes. They don't wear sexy bikinis. There you go breaking the rules again. Hahaha (mahal kita)

[@vincentx845]

"call it white knighting or call it stupidity" Pea, you are too funny!

[@jtg1972]

It's called "simping".

[@GaryAa56]

The ending was hilarious! I love your honesty about subjects and how you pull any punches.

[@johngalt6708]

Very sound advice Pea! Dating a single mum is a minefield, dating someone who is still married - potentially a battlefield. I made the mistake of dating someone single in western terms, but “married” in Philippine terms. Here’s an idea for another video - ‘Single, married or Separated?” Danger lurks within for the lovelorn and naive. Trust someone who knows!

[@frankmosses9121]

Thank you for telling us the whole story, the good and the bad. No sugar or spice. That's just another reason you are so beautiful

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’ll give it to ya raw, Frank 👍😊

[@tman5634]

Saying it how it is, brilliant & with a GREAT ending. Well done Miss Pea !

[@clintfalk]

A much needed video, Miss Pea. It seems like at least 90% of Filipinas I have met online or in person while in Asia were single moms.

[@scottbarber8515]

100 percent On Point. I am married to what was a single filipina mother, for me I enjoy getting to be a daddy again, and I have learned to accept all the curves that I get thrown, but I would definitely not encourage it, as it definitely does interfere with enjoying a new life together in what should be retirement, new beginning, ect. I had dreams of marrying a beautiful lady and traveling together, exploring many places here in the Philippines as well as many other Asian countries, living life to its fullest. But instead we are full time parents, and the only time we have alone is when we go to get my Visa extension every 60 days, we stay in a hotel for a night and leave the children with their grandparents. Although I would never change the life I have now, i could definitely see where most expats would not be happy with a single mother. Great topic Pea, thank you for your truthful content.

[@petemorris777]

Very Important information my first girlfriend was a single mum and many of the issues you mentioned occurred I have to say on the plus side that kids bring so much joy and laughter into the home 😊

[@brunojm7282]

I met one in a bar in Hong Kong in 2008,I guess we both were lost at that time. We are together since ,and I embrassed her and her child ( 5 years old girl at that time). Every day I thank the heavens for bringing these angels down in my life.

[@johndoh5182]

Thanks for all you do! I know a lot of these topics are tough and it takes the right person to talk about them. You just so happen to be the right person! Thanks again you provide an invaluable service.

[@IronmanLIIII0]

I am in a 2 year (so far) long distance relationship with a Filipina widow with 4 adorable girls ranging in age from 7 to 16. She is OFW in Taiwan while her mom is in the Philippines raising her kids. Her husband passed away from cancer 7 years ago forcing her to find employment offshore where she could make more money. I am a father of 5 kids of my own and have no problem taking on her 4 girls. They already call me daddy and we do group video chats with mom regularly. Sometimes the oldest 3 girls will chat with at random and always greet me every morning and evening with a hello daddy! We have already bonded and I can't wait to meet my gf and the girls! I'll be coming to the Philippines as soon as my PRA agent obtains my EED and clears the way for my temporary visa so I can complete my SRRV in Manila around the end of 2021. I actually sought out a single mom because after my 5th child in my previous marriage, I decided to get fixed and thought it would be a deal-breaker to most single Filipinas that never had kids.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Good news! The EED has just been eliminated - it’s no longer necessary!!

[@IronmanLIIII0]

@@TheFilipinaPea I'll ask my agent and see what's next then. Thanks Pea, always a fountain of knowlege.

[@IronmanLIIII0]

@@TheFilipinaPea you are correct, the EED is eliminated for existing SRRV holders wishing to return to the Philippines from another country but it's still a requirement for those of us applying for our SRRV for the very first time. We need an EED in order to obtain a temporary tourist visa to come to Manilla and complete the SRRV application process.

[@monyetdeb3025]

Bet she is cheating on you, and her kids don't really like you. The kids show disrespect to their real father to call you daddy, very strange. Wouldmyou like your own kids calling another man, daddy. I doubt it.

[@VTown707]

Hey Pea...I agree with most of what you've said on here..Pinays are not perfect but are definitely better than most options an average man will find here in the U.S...99% of expats are average people who are trying to live their best life. An honest, caring, and family oriented Pinay is a bonus to a more affordable, healthier life in the Philippines.

[@joelroach416]

Your honesty is a lesson that the entire world would benefit from. I know you are sharing from your experience in your homeland, but there is a lot of good advice for every day life any where in this world. Thanks.

[@michaelhedgepeth6330]

I love my Filipino Daughter. Her name is Princess Rhian.she is 12 and a daddies girl. She will never hear the word step Daughter out of my mouth. Once I get her to the U.S.A. she wants to be adopted. So Rhian can have the same last name as her mom and I. That will be such a honor to are Family last name.

[@SwordHMX]

Me, too! I don't use the word "step-daughter." She gets jealous when people other than her mother want my attention.

[@clayramsey8051]

Well Pea that’s another great and informational video. The one I’m interested in has children and I always ask her how they are. I’m ready for an instant family, and I don’t mind supporting them all. Call me crazy but I love who I love and the children do come with her so I have to love them too. Salamat for this video and the information that came with it.

[@Exalted_Example]

Single moms are the same everywhere. Talking to one recently near Taytay ... i ask her to close her eyes and imagine the perfect man for her. Tears come to her eyes and she tells me she was thinking of her childs' father. They will always have that bond. 10 years of your marriage can pass, he can text her once, and her bags will be packed before you get home from work. Protect yourself men.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Fortunately, you can just sidestep the problem by looking elsewhere 👍

[@rolandnemrutdagi350]

Single moms are different in different countries. Just go to Thailand or even Cambodia for example. Only problem there is that quite often they don't care about their own children if their father was bad.

[@y-eyedopen3595]

Single moms are just that, single moms... situations and their experiences will dictate their actions...

[@zayneunderwood1488]

Father's absolutely beyond a shadow of a doubt love their children... it's the woman that they couldn't handle if the man leaves he doesn't leave the children he leaves the woman. 🙏

[@peackpr9]

Doesn't have to be a single mom to be in a relationship for years and all of a sudden leaves because the ex she really wanted calls her.

[@jejunamja]

Another well informed video, know what your getting into . What I have found the key to relationships is intimacy does not go ahead of commitment but the level of intimacy you have with someone follows the commitment that you’ve made to each other.

[@pcrealty]

Thank you Pea, I appreciate your wisdom. As you stated there are many moralistic dilemmas in dating a Fllipina single with or without kids, married women, etc... however, I am in the USA and my experiences with them are very loving, caring and generous relationships which means I have to be a big spender or provider. They can be gold diggers. The moment the generosity stops, the wonderful relationship weakens. Life and love will be a dream world, but generally ends in disaster when the man stops the big spending. As long as you fulfill her life with her expectations, the love never ends. The moment the love and giving changes, so will the commitments. I had several heart breaking Fillipina relationships. I had to go back to Asian-Chinese since I am Chinese. As most Chinese are frugal, and money hoarders, the mix with big spenders can be difficult. I do miss the beauty and charm of Fillipinas. Thank you for the reflections. Perhaps, there should be a Vlog on the mentality of the Fillipina women and their gold digging demands and how to survive living with them.

[@donaldsvnnh3161]

Very enlightening and definitely worth my time, Thanks Pea. ( Your Hair is Mesmerizing)

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks so much, Donald 👍👍👍

[@007adlibitum]

Thank you so much, for breaking this romantic illusion for all of us lonely Western men looking for a Filipina partner. In deep loneliness you often think that you could anything to be with someone, and this is dangerous.

[@kranzonguam]

Another great video, Pea! Thank you for the fair and balanced look at realities that many men's hearts blind them to! Take good care!! Don't let the "sisterhood" get you!

[@telluriansmith8353]

Oh, Pea, I think you are saving many people a LOT of issues. Awesome! Also, that has to be the most decorative earring I've ever seen. You are Awesome!

[@DavidPaulNewtonScott]

I raised two Philippino girls who adore me. They are grown up and my philippina wife left me. I would do it all again I love kids. My one rule is if the biological father is gone I am your dad now. The way to think about it is God has given you these kids so be grateful.

[@maybongocan9308]

Ahh..you have a good heart

[@DavidPaulNewtonScott]

The dad is gone then I am the dad fine. Bringing kids to the UK was a killer the next time we stay in the Philippines. Take the yaya to the mall. I used to carry my girls around on my shoulders. Kids need fathers my two girls thrived on it on is a civil engineer in the UK and the other is graduating with her law degree in the uk this year. Responsibility gives life meaning lift a load.

[@frankport1000]

I’m dating a single mother and I’m one of the lucky guys her son is wonderful his biological father has visited him only once and so far it’s been great. Again thank you for the great information.very cute outfits

[@jackdale9249]

why date a single mom ? bad choice ! you will never be #1

[@Shaolin91z]

Lol 😂. You don't know if he's only visited once....he could be staying the night once a week for some "family time".

[@charlesandanaylnw4892]

Great video- Pea - Always right on Target!

[@bxmilessimms6216]

Loved the topic Pea. My girlfriend left me alone with her daughter when I was out there. Glad nothing happened. Didn’t know it was a crime. Waiting to go back when the ban is lifted. The little girl is like a daughter to me. And your so right about guys hitting and running. Thought that was just out here. They made my insan pay child support here. Pea, keep up the good work. 🙏🏾

[@ldrcoupleinlove910]

Mymy has a college age daughter who I interact with pretty regularly. She is a good kid and very smart. Mymy made sure I was aware of Marde strait away. She has a lot to be proud of.

[@asams8467]

your ending always make me laugh, great video Pea. So much to think about, some of your points I never even considered. Thanks for keeping us informed on the Filipino perspective.

[@danielpeppiatt3748]

One thing about picking a mother as a partner is that her baby is part of her body and no matter what you do for her or how many years you do it for her she'll love that baby more than you.. If you do absolutely everything to make her happy and the baby ends up being a burglar and a drug addict you are in second place. If she has 9 children , you are in 10th place.

[@aliefphil1119]

You are a "Real One" for this great video young lady! I salute you! Great and IMPORTANT info.

[@jonathanthorpe1653]

My partner had just come out of abusive relationship many years prior to meeting me. She was offered a baby by a homeless lady. My partner agreed to take the child as long as the family agreed to sign all relevant paperwork to allow my partner to fully adopt the child. When I met my partner her adopted daughter was 10 years old. She is now 17 and I have joint custody of her. I have paid for her schooling and give her the things she needs for daily life. As far as I am concerned she is mine and my partners true daughter. She knows of her true families identity and I have the address of them should she ever want to meet them. But as present she is not wanting to even consider it. People often ask me if I had been in the same position as my partner would I have don’t the same thing. My answer is always 100% yes. I love my partner and my daughter so much. To anyone dating a Filipino with a child. If you are careful, stick to the laws and commit to your partner and her child it can be amazing for all parties.

[@aliceangeles9255]

I had my late American partner who loves my only son so much more than his father. I was asking him if his okay living with me because I'm still married his answered was "yes as long as we live together and my ex doesn't bother us and we lived happy and contented unfortunately he passed but the important was he died happy.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m very sorry for your loss - he sounded like an amazing man ❤️

[@paulbucklebuckle4921]

Blessings.

[@78swats]

Sorry about your partner passing away. But what about the legal issues him staying with you and the kids?

[@matthewhamlett9277]

I'm happy for you your so lucky sorry for your loss

[@aliceangeles9255]

@@78swats we don't have any issue at all I have only son. My ex husband doesn't have right to bother us because he was the one who cheated me with his cousin and they have a child. He can't sue me at all.

[@lorenzoakalolo2001]

Awesome show, sweet pea. You do a great service to people in telling it like it is! :) God bless you.

[@othmansultan1529]

thanks for opening my eyes. I was thinking of dating and marrying a single mom but not any more. Thanks a million

[@surfwaves8636]

When I first arrived in country, I met and dated a woman who was a single mom. It did not matter to me that she had a young daughter. We lived together for about two years. My girlfriend was a responsible and caring daughter. I tried to be a good step father to her daughter, but no matter what I did, we never had any connection. This was my first time dating a lady who had a child. It was a good overall learning experience for me, but in the end things did not work out. Lastly, I too felt like others have stated about being treated like a walking ATM. I moved on after several other relations and have a nice wife a two children.

[@effemesseyeveethefourth2841]

I am happy that you have learned from your experiences. I, unfortunately am in a situation like your former.

[@tomoconnor9502]

Sweet pea, thanks for telling it like it is, I needed to know what you are talking about, dealing with filipina culture.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks Tom - that’s my job 👍😊

[@davidjames3126]

Thanks Pea for info. I now have a different perspective of dating a single Filipino mom..complicated is understatement.

[@1NavyLT]

Well played, Pea!!!!! Great video. You are very intelligent and your videos are amazing. Keep up the good work.

[@pepper8892]

From my experience, its not worth it, raised 3 from a young age just to have them become Americanize and turn on me. I was told, you aren't our blood and you don't matter. I hope anyone else that will experience this, will have better luck. :)

[@119jle]

I’ve had wonderful step kids. You had a bad marriage I can tell

[@eddiestover3747]

Sad to hear!! Maybe thy will wise up

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m so sorry, and I hope they regret their attitudes when they grow up (but I bet they won’t)

[@gabrielmeth4844]

That's not 'Americanized', that's nationalist. At the end, you are a white dude, you aren't blood, you aren't real family. You paid the price for thinking the grass was greener.

[@PassportBrosBusinessClass]

I would NEVER. I will never give any one the power to use the “you aren’t my father” line on me.

[@briane173]

11:03 I did, I did, and I did, thank you. And it's not lost on me how lucky I was. It could've gone south in a hurry at any point. But to my wife's credit, she was up front with me about her daughter the day we met. She was 5 y/o at the time. And she laid out all the details about who the father was and that he skipped out and hadn't heard from him in years. His loss. I fell in love with my stepdaughter almost as quickly as I fell in love with my wife. Nothing in this world is "happy ever after;" but we were happier than either of us probably expected -- for 42 years. My stepdaughter is quite successful and as far as I'm concerned she is my daughter. And I still have her even though my wife was called home to The Lord. She lives through my daughter and that gives me comfort.

[@CindysBisvlog]

Wow ,my daugther also is 5 when he first met my daughter and he treated my daughter like his own and talking about adoption but we will ask my daughter if she want it 😇😇 my daughter is very good daughter and respectful he calls him daddy too ,i hope my daughter and husband will have close relationship same as yours

[@DonMegaWatt]

Your cultural insights are impressive. You also organize your points succinctly and provide a lot examples and content.

[@TWCH]

I'm not really interested in dating advice or information. But I watched this whole video simply staring at your ear jewelry. Always good to see/hear you Pea.

[@davidjackson7715]

Wow Pea that's a very strong video , I agree with you, . I met my jawa 6 years ago she had an 11 year old son , we're still together and although we've had our problems the son has grown to be a wonderful person an now going to university . No regrets

[@user-wy7eb7up6i]

Every one is different you can meet a filipina who is single but a gold digger you can meet a single mum filipina but she is a faithful and wonderful woman. Depends upon the situation

[@rudymaldonado7430]

Wow, don't sound good to get in a relationship in the Philippines! 3rd person on the Totem pole isn't good! Whatever!

[@frankflores7038]

I actually want to date a single mom. I find it fair since I already have a daughter and grandson of my own and no longer want any more children. I was a single dad for many years and am more than willing to help a filipina with her children.

[@shirleygracetom6494]

Oh,really are you real ⁉️

[@Shaolin91z]

Shouldn't be hard to find a 36 year old with kids. Good luck

[@barrykarey1469]

You shouldn't have any problem Frank finding a single mummy that will love your assistance.

[@j123.6]

I'm a single mom. But single mom. Is better than the young single lady, I already prove what I saying now because a lot of number of foreign was been here on my place and they already scammed a young lady, not a single mom. Single lady is very demanding, compare to a single mom. And single young lady mostly after the money of the older foreign man. I have my cousin already married a foreign man in New Jersey and she already proved it, how not good the young single lady, they only using the older man, be a sugar daddy and they used them to get a visa to going US, then after months, they get a divorce and they find a young foreign man. That's the result, they only using the old foreign man. Being a single mom. I never ask money and I'm not a demanding, and asking anything to the man, and single mom. Is loyal, respectful, thoughtful and God fearing, like me, and does not mean, that a single mom. On dating site is find a man to raise her children, no not. This vedio is lie, because we all know that almost of the young lady is doing bad to the old foreign man, because a lot of number of a foreign man I was been help them because they already lost all they're money to a young lady Filipina.

[@donh5794]

This is good-to-know information Pea! It will help fine tune my investigative skills.

[@cedrickicknosway124]

Love the content and you detail it so well. Keep up the amazing work.

[@michaelely9467]

Your most informative vid yet. Getting involved seriously with a single mother there sounds like too much trouble. If kids are going to keep me awake and interrupt time with mummy, they better be my own 😆

[@monyetdeb3025]

Yes,mdomt be a simp. I made that mistake in my early twenties... guess what happened - Most the single moms in the Philippines are broken, and chose to be single moms.

[@johnclark7973]

Thank you for the sound advice. Before I thought I'd be okay with meeting a Filipina that had children, and becoming a family. But now I realize that's a hard way to go and that is not for me. Not with having just as many opportunities of getting with a single Filipina that has no kids. I don't want the baggage and drama that comes with kids that aren't mine. Thank you for letting me see the light and clearing this up for me.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks John - that’s what I’m here for 👍😊

[@johnclark7973]

@@TheFilipinaPea Yes you.are, Miss Pea. And you do an A+ Outstanding job every single time!! You are a treasure.

[@parvazebashir382]

Another great video! You really are doing a great service to those of us thinking about making a move to the Philippines. Thank you!

[@nobodys-fool]

Interesting video ms pea. Thanks for the info.

[@OneJuanWon]

This is definitely a "your mileage may vary" situation. It isn't fair to lump all single mothers into the category "more red flags than a Chinese parade" since I'm sure some are transparent about themselves while others are not. A guy must be very mindful and aware of the big picture if he's considering getting involved with a single mom. If she has been open about everything and he has vetted her thoroughly over the course of 6-12 months, then it will likely work out just fine for both. Unfortunately, there are many men who fail to see (or worse, disregard) the warning signs and fall into a trap they will later regret. Maintain an abundance mindset, exercise your options, and don't be so quick to 'wife up' someone who possess an ulterior motive.

[@jgk2342]

Right on Pea. Gents, don't be too eager. I have these rules when meeting a Filipina online or offline. No kids. No I love you's. No labels. No drama. Set expectations early and you will be just fine. There are thousands of single Filipinas out there. Choose well and good luck!

[@solarrobot]

Pea, another outstanding episode! Super kudos to you for discussing this sensitive issue!

[@getbusydrizzy5296]

Your honesty has been WELL APPRECIATED

[@erikgeorge3770]

🤗❤️🤗🥰 Happy Tuesday little one ... looking good ❤️ was that a tribute to “Khan”?

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You too, Erik, make it a great day 👍😊

[@anthonymoody2897]

Thanks Pea for a great eye opening video. I was lucky to find a wife that had no children, I don’t know how things would have turned out if she had. We have our own children now which are grown up and gone now. Living in Dipolog part time I’ve picked up my wife’s nieces and nephews from school many times and never had a problem. Believe it or not the school says I’m the only one they trust to pick up the kids besides their mother or father.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

You’re a very responsible man! Kudos 👍❤️

[@anthonymoody2897]

@@TheFilipinaPea thanks pea, just trying to do the right thing…plus I really enjoy it!

[@kend6693]

You are so wise and informative, not to mention Gorgeous! Love all your information.

[@bobbygindenver7208]

Enlightening for sure, in the past I have heard bits and pieces of what you have mentioned but you put the puzzle together and created a clear-cut picture, as always thank you for your hard work information and sharing take care always Bobby.

[@jimpalmer1969]

In the PI, there are a lot of kids, but remember the kids go to bed first and that will leave plenty of time for mom and the new dad. Take care of grandma and she will take care of the kids and you. Don't ask me how I know, but there is always a way :)

[@Shaolin91z]

One way is not to choose a lady with kids🤖

[@zeusteriyakijiizasutairyok5695]

The only time to have a relationship with a single mother is... 1. When the child's father is not in their lives. 2. If you're ready to accept her kids in your life. 3. Accept that her kids come first. 4. No matter what the outcome is, accept the fact that the mom will always take her kid's side over yours. 5. When you know the real reason why she was separated from her kid's father.

[@stevedice5963]

Excellent Phoebe Kate's and caddyshack reference! You have skill in creating these videos

[@robertshaw2602]

Well worth my time as always with you Pea. I have watched many on this subject and the biggest problem is not money but not being trusted to be a father to this or these children solo in public or at home for that matter. That’s the biggest shock for me so will keep clear of such a relationship. BTW your ending made me reach for my heart pills again lol. Intelligent and beautiful if I’m allowed to say. best wishes from Melbourne this morning.

[@WALTERBROADDUS]

Wow.....🙄 That was a deep reality check. Never tried a single mom. Or gave it the deep thought you have. I have had thought about being a Dad. You just opened my eyes on the pitfalls. 😒🤱

[@TheFilipinaPea]

It’s definitely something to consider, yes 👍

[@shanelewis5535]

Pea there's an old counseling method "If you can talk someone out of marriage, they probably shouldn't be" Good job, looking good,

[@ripemelon393]

Both of the endings was priceless Pea! Keep up the good work.

[@jimhills1920]

Thanks for telling the truth. It’s good to have all the info before committing your heart. 👏🏾👍🏾

[@Ed19601]

Important factor is how old the child(ren) is (are) and gender important too. Older boys are likely not to listen to a stepdad: 'you are not my father'.

[@stedye]

Very true was married to a Colombiana and her son who came into my life when he was 11, caused our divorce about 6 years later because he did not want to listen to me , and constantly complained to his mom.

[@glenproctor1999]

It does sound harsh but you always keep it real. I like to think, if I found a loving relationship, it doesn't matter what the other person's status is. You make sure we think about the realities though! Thank you lovely Pea! (so damn hot in that swimsuit! thank you for that too!) 😊❤️

[@TheFilipinaPea]

I’m glad you agree it was harsh but real - thanks 👍😊

[@TheMadSqu]

Great episode!!! The necklace is awesome btw!

[@stevenazaroff4243]

Real talk, love the skits too!

[@lcmichaels7215]

this was a hard video to watch. Children is the one thing missing in my life. My love and I are hoping to adopt, but from what I have been told from other expats, this probably won't happen either. The couple of times I dated a single mother here in the States, it ended up being a total disaster. The mothers were not looking for love, a husband, or a good father for their children. They were looking for an ATM. Was told point blank by them I would have NO say in the upbringing. Both times, I ended the relationship that night. I even tried adopting here in the States. Spend over $20,000 fighting for the chance to adopt a child. After the third year of trying, my lawyer actually released me as a client telling me she heard from the judges in family court say "there is no way in HELL we will let a single man adopt a child." I still don't know why God decided I wasn't supposed to have children in my life, but I have to trust His judgment.

[@fosthedoll]

Wow that’s so unfortunate. I grew up in foster care and always wish that I could adopt. You have a better chance at fostering kids first then adopting. I had 2 foster dads that were married at one point.

[@mebevlog5549]

I believe that you have a good heart. God has purpose for you. You can be a foster parent to kids who needs help with their studies. if you want you can sponsor my kids, maybe you could. I'm a single mother of 2 lovely children.

[@Shaolin91z]

Medical problems? Why can't you have one of your own? Best wishes

[@miketurpin4959]

The older children of hers are in high school and I'm already attached to all three of the kids since we've been together 4 years. I have no issues with buying the electronic products the kids need since my girlfriend isn't working much because of the lock down in the Philippines.

[@steveford2626]

Hi Mike, totally agree, my Fiancee has 3 kids, youngest is 15, these ladies are overlooked for a younger model often, for me these are the best chance for a long lasting natural relationship for life, not just arm candy for the older generations whom many have grandchildren of the same age

[@macariusfreestyle8521]

Same, my Filipina fiance has 3 kids eldest being 15, youngest is 5 years. The ex with freaking idiot, acheater. Hiding from her whole family. I buy her and her kids the things they need and upgrades. She such a sweet heart and her little one calls me all the time lmao. I love kids, and they deserve a father so kids isn't a disturbance to me. I taught catechism for children and have my associates for k-6 teaching education, I see children as blessings.

[@78swats]

@@steveford2626 How do you solve the legal issues that Pea mentioned? You can not be with the kids when their mom is not around. Isn't it a huge risk?

[@steveford2626]

We have a LDR, her kids are older, why men need to have younger women who want kids, accept a ready made family with older children, I just put her daughter in a private Uni, she wanted to be a lawyer, now she study tourism, she is happy that she can do what she wants not feel pressured into a job she did not want to do but felt obliged.

[@Shaolin91z]

I don't want to finish someone else's job. I want to invest in my own legacy.

[@kevinenger8623]

I applaud you for your being completely upfront with this conversation. As a man hoping to retire in the Philippines, you made it very clear, to at least me,,, as much as i love children,, I will take your advice… Your outro ROCKED!!!!!

[@alaskalograft]

Taas bahok Pea. Guapa og bright kaayo. Lolo Neil 😊 wish you much happiness and success. Great channel. Palahog forgive my spelling pero gusto ko storya Bisaya. 😂

[@hermitbob7304]

I'm 58, I'm not really interested to raise another child. But if she has one, it would be better than a girl who wanted me to give her a 'blue eyed' baby.

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Yes, there is that advantage 👍😊

[@montebrown9528]

East or West, a guy really can't win dating and marrying a single mom. Thanks Pea, I hope you helped a bunch of guys from a life of misery.

[@briansweeney5930]

The fast times and caddyshack routine is hilarious Pea!!!

[@invictus1973]

I had to subscribe after your ending. Loved it!!!

[@TheFilipinaPea]

Thanks for giving me a chance, Invictus! I like to inject a little humor when I can, and I’ve always tried to give you a happy ending 😂