Dating is SIMPLE; you only need to do 2 THINGS to get girls

[@Denmosocial]

Stop overcomplicating dating so that you can start living your life

[@johnpinard3212]

Just have fun on a date. Jeez, stop with the pressure and the expectations. Just have fun. Get to know someone. Enjoy their company. Have a coffee, go for a walk, see a movie, get an ice cream, go out for a meal, go canoeing, rent a pontoon boat, rent a jet ski, go to the zoo, go to an aquarium, go to a museum, see a musical, go to a game, go to a church social. Not hard. Have fun.

[@wesleytarr6302]

You are correct, it is not hard. But no one told me this is how the game of life is played. Not even my own intuition. I didn't understand friendship nor relationships. All I wanted to do growing up was go home and play video games. Now I am 31 living life where early to mid twenty year olds would normally be. This pressure can give direction to the directionless. Like to me a decade ago.

[@jtf-joshtfitnessandlifesty3470]

But don’t get too drunk and lose control trust me I learned the hard way.

[@johnpinard3212]

@@jtf-joshtfitnessandlifesty3470 yeah, not a good thing. I had to give up the elixir

[@knivgaffelskje]

Yeah, you are right. Generally. But life has a tendency to complicate things. For some people more than others. Things like childhood trauma, being on the spectrum and being wired differently is among these things that will complicate stuff. It is not always possible to just "be happy and have fun, wihii!". For some people life is a fight, and to say stuff like "just let go, life is a dance, it is all grace anyway, your life is your own manifestation" etc., is pretty little new age concepts which are completely out of touch with reality, truisms that are being repeated ad nausea from people who have had lives that are unproblematic enough that they are not able to understand people who are in a much more challenging space. Not to blame you for that, I just felt like pointing it out. And I also think it is generally good advice and on point.

[@destructo3915]

I tried doing that. I'm 32 and every girl so far has said no since I was like, 13.

[@russelllroni]

Thanks man. I used to be around women all the time and never had an issue with having options. Since I changed my life and removed 90% of the losers I once called my friends, things have been.....different. I have more money than ever and less social group exposure than ever. Almost none tbh.

[@Infarlock]

Did 2 cold approaches this week, one went kinda crap 2nd went pretty well, we talked for almost 10 mins on different topics, we switched socials but she never followed back so I couldn't even send a message :D RIP But hey, I used to have 0 cold approaches per year and now I have like 2-5 per month, so it's better than 0 for sure

[@liquidsleepgames3661]

Screw social thats a step back go for the number

[@nolongerjuicyboiz4413]

yeah go for numbers, it's better and the people who would only give you their socials but not their number probably weren't interested enough anyways so nothing lost

[@dsingh1183]

Go for number. It clearly sets the intention. Also, great job on the approaches. 0/2 can turn into 1/4 can turn into 2/6 . . . Create your own opportunity.

[@Denmosocial]

atta boy

[@Infarlock]

@@liquidsleepgames3661 true, should have done it

[@theking8347]

The issue is that it's hard to find SINGLE women. I can talk to them just fine. The issue is finding ones that aren't already in relationships.

[@ParticleLarry]

Or they tell they're in a " relationship".

[@awakenthechosen]

It's probably easier to talk to them when you know you don't have a chance. Intimacy issues abound

[@flyandshy00]

Why you go for the prettiest ones? Go for average ones, they're all single because you and others don't want them.

[@theking8347]

@@flyandshy00 Who said I was going for the prettiest ones? The average ones are all taken too.

[@mrslightflex691]

alot of the dudes that be in these youtube comments really rather just fail and cope then to try and fix their situations , so many excuses its kinda sad

[@Denmosocial]

yeah man thats what motivates me to keep making these videos

[@WGPhil-uw5cs]

Are they really failing if they get rejected? Men are tired of getting rejected because they are not white, 6 feet or millionaries.

[@Muircure]

@@Denmosocial Love

[@fuzzypanda1684]

Yeah, but there are those rare few who spent years working to address their problems by getting into shape, building their confidence, developing their charisma, and practicing their social skills...only to still get nothing but rejection and disinterest. I know because I'm one of them.

[@Muircure]

@@fuzzypanda1684 yes

[@NathanDavis508]

Maybe I’m oversimplifying it, but women and dating in general is easier if you try to make the effort to be interested in them as a person. Most dudes know the first time they look at a woman if they would smash or not, it’s really easy. After that, focus on what they have inside. What do they want? What do they need? Who do they have? How does she act around you? Pay attention to what she’s doing and what she says because that will make you way less likely to be in your own head. Instead of thunking “I wonder if she likes what I wore”, I’d ask myself, “I wonder what made her decide to wear that?”. Take an interest in her. Women want to feel special, like they are the only one in your mind. They also love genuine confidence. Make a joke, take her hand, ask her for a thumb war man, idk. Something to break the touch barrier.

[@Enoch210]

"Internal + external = success, that is it!!!" "Denmo", 2024

[@SirNewton-it4jq]

This man is casually dropping barrels of wisdom with relative ease. Am looking forward to learn more from you. Keep up the good work.

[@Denmosocial]

thanks mate, glad it helped you

[@Sh0ckmaster]

The bit about where you live is accurate. I live in a small community, and the dating apps/nights out yielded piss-poor results. I went to London and to Helsinki and had way more luck with the apps and with nights out. I'm moving to Helsinki next year because there's just more going on there for me.

[@PaulYuNow]

Jack you are hilarious man, you make me smile :) not to mention the helpful practical tips

[@Denmosocial]

cheers mate

[@miners2805]

Yes he is right dating is quite easy if you dont think much

[@simon_thebucket]

Thx bro needed that today

[@MrJuan_Vzla]

I like your vids because they present another perspective that, in my opinion, isn't discussed often. I've noticed that women like proactive men and isn't a coincidence that these men are socializers, they always make the first move and have a problem-solving mindset instead of making excuses.

[@JRGProjects]

Right, not everyone looks like the "Wesley" from the Princess Bride.....

[@nobodysperfect06]

Here is a quote that changed my mindset and perspective. The quote is "either get bitter or get better". Do you think that quote applies to men only? The reason why I like to think that quote applies to men only is because women simply by default are good with men for simply just being born or simply just existing because for all time they're the ones that get approached and pursued or hit on or get advances made on them or have men making passes at them, always have men hitting them up, sliding into their DMs, swiping on them, and when you are in that position, it means that you always have offers, options, so because of that it means you are simply by default attractive to the other sex

[@101proof3]

thanks bro, I needed that today🍻cheers buddy

[@Dave-bz4pb]

This guy reminds me of Bill Paxton so much but he's spot on here.

[@Smerdix]

I am 17 years old and I have never approached a girl, not for a long time I am interested in girls (before I didn’t think about it) and I am really fucking scared. In the last few months I’ve made mistakes about mistakes and some of them have led me to develop social anxiety and zero self-esteem. It’s a little better now but I realized that my social skills are really poor because I have very few social interactions during the week. I have to change, to get something I never got, I have to do something I never did. I’m gonna fucking do it. What I miss is confidence, once I get confident it’s done but the hard part is just getting there

[@zolexx2471]

See them,wall towards them and open your mouth

[@PatrickHD]

none of this video works for me. i don’t want to go drink or date girls from bars i don’t want to go to concerts. those things are so boring. i just want one girl that is good and that i can trust. i don’t want to sleep with 3000 girls.

[@worldblazin4209]

Amazing video. So External and Internal Characteristics. Very inciteful. Viewed the video following intently from 0:00 to 14:57. The whole vido was good, but those first minutes really flowed perfect I think. Oh and Great Job Thumbnail Artist!! Keep it Up!! ❤❤🎉🎉

[@nickreaper6624]

Don't you ever feel like you're saying the same thing over and over again

[@Denmosocial]

100%

[@Alex-on8yu]

Perfect, I have to solve my ugliness and lack of money, it sounds easy!

[@anony88]

I'm about 30min from nashville. My opportunities are infinite and I really dont have an excuse. I just need to get out more. I work 12hr back to back night shifts on weekends but downtown nashville is popping 6 days a week. I'm off work 4 days a week. I will say drinks downtown are like $16-17/hr and the parking fee is like $20, so doing it multiple times a week can obviously get expensive.. Theres cheaper bars but they're also a little dead on weekdays, but i can try anyways 🤣 None of my co workers have social circles. I tried to join the only social circle but they didnt like white people (as one person outright stated and others didnt care), so there's that. There's always other places like the mall (till someone complains and i get kicked out 🤣) and the grocery store (where my local store is 85% married women). I dont ever go to coffee shops because drinks are like $9 and hanging out in them is kinda time wasting/boring. I just need to find places to go.

[@mattg5978]

Find a different job. If you have zero social circles you are going to have to find a job where you fit in with people that are social. Also working night shifts will destroy you

[@kku6857]

Yes save money and quit night shifts

[@GGLiEx]

steps for a better dating life havinng come from being dryer than the saharan desert. Step 1: sorry but maximize YOUR looks if you dont looknyour best you are self sabotageing big time. maximize your phenotype and nichemaxx. if a chick likes you at baseline this will greatly increase your attractiveness to that chick. if a chick does not it does not. Step 2: get rid of unattractive behaviour/ outwork your self doubt and get your confidence up through proving yourself capablen over an over again. Step 3: put yourself out there and be very sensible to Indocators of Interest (again you need to be attractive first) then act on those. Desire cannot be negotiated so try to catch the fish that actually like that bait on the hook ;) it will be an easy catch and they will love it. It should be easy gents... when its complicated then it isnt at all :)

[@emm5468]

Well shit, guess I’m fucked from the getgo. I never learned to socialize in school cause I was homeschooled. Guess I should get on that grind

[@ParticleLarry]

Money and more money

[@tquasa07]

Dude has a deep voice and intelligence, but you'd be screwed if you had neither, props

[@Its_actually_so_over]

I just need to find my inner light so I can evolve from a sub 5 to become a slayer

[@giveitatry951]

Yeah without a social circle at age 32 and very little hobbies i have not considered dating a possibility for me so i never tried. Work, help relatives, garedening and YT/Gaming thats what i do. I dont know how to get friends.

[@flyandshy00]

There's easier task - find an average looking woman and she will accept you as you are if you're consistent, respectful, do not have any prn addictions etc.

[@mrslightflex691]

so settle? when all u have to do is put in a little more work to reap better results???

[@AR7271]

​@@mrslightflex691it's not settling. Beautiful women are nice to look at but they typically have higher body counts and therefore more mental baggage.

[@giovanni679]

Trust me, it's not only beautiful women that have high body count ​@@AR7271

[@malachisanford2314]

​@@mrslightflex691 if you think being with an average looking woman is settling, youre a loser lol

[@flyandshy00]

@@mrslightflex691 you're still single, you have ZERO results lol.

[@CykaBlyatttttT]

I live in a country that has quite significantly more men than women which makes it really tempting to move to another country

[@prathameshchaudhari]

It's not at all like you can't talk to girls in India. You have to be in a big city like you said. People are essentially same doesn't matter if it's Canada or India. I'm sure you can get girls in Saudi or something even. 13:54

[@joseafalvel]

does anyone knows a youtube channel with advice for autistic man ? I know a lot of things Denmo says make a lot of sense and it sounds easy but autism adds two more layers to the challenge, for example to break up routines and hanging out with friends it's something people like me don't tend to do and this kind of though love doesn't work on me, I'm dealing with depression and the "just go out idiot" advice would work if I wouldn't be in that position, it's something I already tried many times

[@thewingedpotato6463]

Probably best to avoid this channel then... Dude can only solve the most superficial of surface level problems and just blames anyone who fails for not being able to follow his advice.

[@herczoghgergo5438]

Man you're an actual genius

[@Cpt_Quack]

Love you man, good info/recap as always. Get your ass healthy again you young stallion, rest up.

[@raphaelalavi9385]

5:58 *me who was homeschooled my whole life* Well I’m fucked.

[@ShyamRatanjee]

Only listen to daddy Denmo , stop this alpha male stuff !

[@billusher2265]

This is already well known, it’s called inner game and outer game

[@Xyleryx]

I'm a recovering idiot

[@MICHAEL_I97]

this guy funny.. I subscribed.

[@mohamedisfine9264]

Thanks bro

[@absolute_4748]

24:51 got me dying

[@stephentaylor5169]

Idk man I have low self esteem so it’s over for me 😂

[@AdityaSingh-ot8vu]

13:22- 13:27- shit man denmo you roasted me this part of video is like you are speaking to me because I am also from India and can't talk and approach girls 😢.

[@grantk23]

What’s the best way to manage having a rotation of a few girls? I feel so guilty doing it, but whenever I focus on one girl I get the shit end of the stick

[@gustavoalexandresouzamello715]

Out of curiosity, what would be like to get the shit end of the stick?

[@Nuayadventures2323]

Love

[@joojoojeejee6058]

Non of this is really rocket science and if a man can't figure out these basic principles, then perhaps he is not even worthy of women...

[@Denmosocial]

that is the majority of young men though brother

[@SunShine_sublime]

Wow, I didn't know men are this invested to get girls. I just hope they have pure intentions. Good luck on your quests.👏

[@Pejo_TO]

Let Jesus Christ in your life.☦️

[@lucidgarzi389]

Jesus is good wish my time was ready for my missing rib

[@k27ism]

Amen.

[@thewingedpotato6463]

I've got the hammer and nails ready to go... where is he?

[@kenpe1455]

Also you talked abour scaling at the end. How do you do that?

[@Accentx]

I can't leave, my country is locked

[@Denmosocial]

where you live bro

[@Dr.Harvey]

Ну, вообще говоря, пока еще нет по-настоящему, но время истекает.

[@Accentx]

@@Denmosocial Ukraine

[@rafibrown2112]

But the hottest girls are from your country 😂

[@BlackPillHurts]

1) look good 2) look good

[@austinkesler4493]

I can’t tell who’s more stoned

[@Mrbergmann]

Yeah, im disabled, no one's interested in that

[@zeethree]

Most of the young women I've tried to talk to have horrible social skills. They bury their heads in their phones and act like I broke protocol by trying to talk to them. Bad internal + bad external = cooked I try to socialize with guys and they always tell me they have no money to do anything. I'm definitely in the camp of needing to move, but the nearest city to me is NYC. I have no idea where to move to. My ability to learn high paying skills is impaired. I have failed college multiple times, failed online learning. I have very poor social awareness. I am the skip to the head of the line guy and not even know that there was a line. I'm pretty sure I'm mildly autistic. So just to recap. Where I live is insanely expensive. There are few social events. I am bad at making male friends. I have poor social awareness. I have trouble learning high paying skills. Basically all I do is work, sleep, exercise, and watch KZbin. I can't justify moving because I know internally I am messed up. Blaming everything on location alone would just be an expensive cope. I spent my years in college alone in my dorm room.

[@RyanSings15]

@@zeethree I’m sorry about that brother; I know you’ll find the right one. It’s unfortunate how people turn to their phones right away when they feel discomfort. It’s a coping mechanism for a lot of younger people these days; instead of experiencing the discomfort, understanding it’s a part of life and that’s additionally quite disrespectful for them to bury their heads into their phones while your talking to them. They should appreciate the fact that you approached them as a lot of guys would rather spend several hours a day swiping left and right on them through dating apps. People aren’t afraid to be upfront disrespectful in this day and age

[@zeethree]

​​@@RyanSings15To be clear I'm not saying they're rude. It's just I have to interrupt their relationship with their phone. I find this most common with girls 18-25. Some of them just seem overcome with anxiety and nervousness when someone they don't know wants to talk. I am above average attractiveness so maybe that causes them to be awkward around me. I don't know but it just makes me cringe when I always have to be the one carrying the conversation.

[@RyanSings15]

@@zeethree I understand completely; I’m just saying the fact that they have their phones out and are looking at them while your talking to them is just rude because you don’t feel heard, you feel like your wasting your time; and they aren’t paying attention to what your saying. I personally don’t like when I talk to someone and they are on their phones; it’s disrespectful of them; even a friend say they come over your house and they are on their phone the whole time; it’s like why did I ask them to even come over; it feels like a waste of time

[@RyanSings15]

@@zeethree I of course understand the anxiousness and nervousness; but unfortunately what comforts people say our generation and provides temporary relief are the phones. But you can’t just turn to your phone every time you feel discomfort. The phones don’t allow our minds to wander; for us to think and sit in our own thoughts and to appreciate the present moment. The phones have become the new drug we use when walking around in public, running errands, it distracts us from anxieties of day to day life

[@RyanSings15]

@@zeethree and it sucks when it feels like you have to carry the conversation. It feels one sided, doesn’t feel natural and your trying to find a common ground with them and it can be difficult. As the anxiety and nervousness they deal with impacts their socializing skills especially say with someone like you:)

[@Hotshotscott]

Is it acceptable to hangout around college areas in your 30s?

[@KrisT0f.]

0 view ? let me fix that

[@Denmosocial]

my man

[@codymattison8189]

The continual vulgarity is unnecessary and repulsive, outside of that you sometimes give decent advice... more than anything I really hope that you repent and turn to Jesus before it's too late. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his own soul?

[@AngelGarcia-oy3yj]

This. Bro is a professional adulterer.

[@codymattison8189]

@@AngelGarcia-oy3yj I'm sure he is, that's why he needs to repent or else he's headed for hell like so many others... God doesn't want that for anyone though and neither do I.

[@cmsull3316]

Modern day women

[@sickick72]

Tbf, can definitely tell the thumbnail designer is 15

[@Denmosocial]

lmaoo

[@holasoyalejandro9822]

13:25 the Indian Guy watching this like 💀

[@twixxtro]

liberal college campus no thanks

[@danadams825]

I feel like you are 'negging' your audience pretty extreme here, not all guys looking for advice are the archetype you are portraying, lighten up?

[@WGPhil-uw5cs]

A white upper middle/upper class guy saying dating is simple. Lol

[@JoeBidensdememtiapills]

This lad is delusional...just become famous to get women ffs

[@AR7271]

😂

[@chrismoderate3495]

Thanks for inventing sex doctor Denmo!!!!

[@Simon-vc1wk]

You need to speak womanese

[@rave1704]

Its not possible for all men to be famous.. if everyone is famous then noone is famous

[@Xxx-hk6mk]

Everything is mens fault is right haha

[@egemenulker]

I got it I should Leave my country...(one of the most hardest thing)

[@chrisstorm3804]

Lol, just become an athlete bro

[@Rhehddhjf63373]

Yeah, your height and your looks

[@R0d_1984]

Nah, that f'er need to stay.

[@posner2]

Have a successful dating life - be good looking, that’s it.

[@mrslightflex691]

sounds like ur coping brother

[@AR7271]

If that were the case, my short bald middle aged self would be single. You just have to seek your own level.

[@kaizerapa1814]

Not true, good looking guys strugle a lot.

[@giovanni679]

The creator of the video is pretty average looking, and he still pulls. You just need one girl to like you back and you'll be fine

[@izziman5028]

Actually , Girls don’t go after good looks. They go after confidence and money.

[@Алексей-т2х8й]

+

[@UgnGra]

Empty content.

[@DelasVC]

Yeah.. And just like we know it from _all_ of you guys actually - you _WAY_ oversimplify things.. You _DON'T_ just meet people and connect with them, that's not how it works and you know it. But you would never say it because that would hurt your business..

[@RyanSings15]

You have to muster up the courage; having the confidence, working on your social skills and being in a good mental state. I agree with your point that it’s easier said then done. There’s so many factors and things that have to go into it to make it happen; it’s not like you can just go up and do it; you have to do a lot of internal improvement mentally and feel good about yourself. It’s about doing things one step at a time:)

[@gustavoalexandresouzamello715]

Yes, it is actually that simple. He has proven it multiple times through his approach videos. And has shown and said also that it does not work some of the times. You are confusing "doesn't work like that sometimes" with "never works like that".

[@RyanSings15]

@@gustavoalexandresouzamello715 you have to keep in mind for other people. Not everyone is like him; you have to be aware people can naturally be an introvert and it could be more difficult for them to be able to socialize and connect with people. There’s different factors that can contribute to a person being able to approach someone or not; you just don’t know; you can’t make assumptions and take everything as a grain of salt. You don’t understand the persons life or their circumstances; it comes differently for everyone. Most things in life are easier said then actually done

[@RyanSings15]

@@gustavoalexandresouzamello715 so how many people have you approached and spoken to in the last couple of days?

[@RyanSings15]

@@gustavoalexandresouzamello715and he has mastered it through doing it multiple times. It’s not like the first time he did it he was successful; it’s a skill like anything else; like going to the gym. It doesn’t come naturally for everyone; girls can recognize if things are off with you; through your body language. You have to be in the right state of mind and try and try and try before you start getting results. Your going to fail the first couple times of course