Things to NEVER do While Dating in Sweden?

I asked people on the streets of Gothenburg what not to do while dating in Sweden, from paying, to faux pas. Here is what the Swedes had to say.
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[@morgancarlsson5230]

In my experience, swedes don’t tend to do the casual dating the way they do in the US. We don’t really date for the sake of it, but rather because we want to get to know that particular person. I also feel like the whole pressure of being in a relationship is a lot less here than in other places, hence when we meet someone it is usually because we like them as a person, and not just because we want a boyfriend or girlfriend.

[@marvin2678]

huh as a german ive heard otherwise hahaha

[@kst2154]

I don't understand the difference

[@jktstroll__]

Sounds great. As an Asia girl we have very different culture and I think I need to go there 😂

[@loganmott2015]

American here. I don’t speak for everyone, but I date with a purpose. I’m old enough to have all my friendships solidified. I don’t have time for more other than big get togethers. When I date, it’s because I want to be with that specific person, I don’t date for friendships.

[@kevins6732]

Couldn’t be more incorrect. Every non Swedish person I’ve met here in Sweden says that they don’t understand what the hell the other gender wants when dating. I probably have the same sentiment. It feels like a lot of Swedish girls date just to have a topic of conversation with their friends

[@Lucyinthskyy]

Seems like the guys like the way things are for the most part but it seems like the women are open to more “traditional” things like the man asking out and paying for dinner or paying for a drink. Interesting 🤔

[@kylesavage4525]

Not for more traditional things in general. Just paying for dinner/coffee etc

[@Frivals]

​@@kylesavage4525they want only the benefits. Females are females in any country

[@tangfors]

Swedish man who has dated quite a lot here. It's no wonder that it's like that in dating, because even if most things were in the man's favor before not everything was, I think many men look forward to, for example that girls take the first step as often as men, or ask men out to the same extent as men do. For many men I think they see it will be one of their gains with more equalit, unfortunately we are not there yet.

[@cbeary2000]

Wait a second, are u saying that even in the most equality based society in the world, where women have more rights than any other country, that they are still not happy? Nooooooo! LOL

[@polonezkombi]

Just more lazy

[@TonyChronicles]

Love the Scandinavian dating videos, this is so interesting.

[@philip_3.000]

absolutely

[@keade5273]

Sooo the women would like to be asked out ... but no one does it?

[@Frivals]

That's why I like Scandinavia men mentality

[@Lucyinthskyy]

Yeah seems like the men are the ones benefiting there 🤔

[@kaiesen2671]

@@Frivals Impact of feminism

[@Frivals]

@@kaiesen2671 no, that's just common sense. Why being a slave for females?

[@polonezkombi]

​@@Frivalsme too

[@pablolopez9017]

I live in Sweden and swedes are generally well intentioned , I am sure they would invite but when you go out with your friends and drinks cost minimum 15 euros it puts the mood down and forces to split a bit Problem is that the high cost of living for leisure kind of ruins the party mood, and if you invite people éventually will give it back to you so it is about to show that we can have a more convivial approach and then Swedes are hooked 🤗

[@markbigelow2608]

15 euros for one drink? Thats crazy!

[@alanjackson2712]

In 1998, I had to change planes at Stockholm Airport. Two small beers for my colleague and myself were more than $16 . God only knows what it would be now !!

[@pettersupreme]

Then imagine a full night out and the concept of splitting the bill ain't that weird anymore :)

[@Michael-it6gb]

Well intentioned is more of a self-evaluation on their part. When it comes to the jobs market, they're mostly frauds and liars, the company people that is. Whether when you are applying for a job or have signed a contract, they will try to find as many loopholes as possible, and they make outrageous claims of a shortage of workers while firing hundreds of workers. Volvo is a fine example of engaging in such scams, and getting away with it legally. Ruining peoples lives.

[@nelsonthekinger]

Great format easy to watch!

[@ParissaKhoury]

Enjoying the Swedish content. Keep it coming !!!

[@Onohvincent-ei9ek]

Hollo am chatting you here from south cyprus am single looking for a serious relationship

[@Dan_Cara05]

moving to Sweden for a couple months this was super useful and fun video🙌🏽

[@PixelShade]

One thing that has to be added is that dating doesn't necessarily need to be a thing here.... Sure, of course, people are dating, we have dating apps, even hookup culture etc. But most people I know just met their partners through school, work, friends or at a party. That initial spark tends to happen naturally and organically in settings like those. An important aspect for a lot of Swedes (I think) is to feel a meaningful and emotional connection with another person. Dating, at least to me feels much more like an imported "American concept" that turns love into a commodity where there is a big focus on consuming goods and services and where it is implied that men should "show off" to swoon girls. I think most Swedes just like a more natural settings. The biggest cultural difference I can come to think of is that there isn't a large divide between genders. A friend of mine threw a big birthday get-together just a week ago, and we were basically just a big group of mixed adults ranging from 25-45 year olds, everyone was interacting with one another in a very mixed setting, gender, age or sexual orientation didn't really matter, and people mingled around quite organically. Something that objectively felt quite unique compared to what I have witnessed when traveling abroad (where people tend to group up in guy groups and girl groups)

[@dr.random8920]

These are great! Can you do Ireland and Scotland next?

[@tobiojo6469]

Interesting and informative video

[@Sammi_Kristiansen]

Thank you Marina. This video is very helpful. I like all your videos in Nordic countries!

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Thank you! More to come 😁

[@cvsop7338]

very nice vid, can you kindly make one for Swiss dating culture as well please? cheers ❤

[@lalithamariaperez2937]

I really enjoyed it very much!!!!!

[@tobiojo6469]

Awesome video

[@hannahrozenberg3411]

Hi Marina! I love your channel and wanted to ask, are you planning on making anymore you know you are dating videos? They are the best, and I would love to see a video about dating a New Zealand man and woman. Have an incredible day and can’t wait to see more videos!

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Yes for sure. They will still happen :)

[@zeriul09]

the redhead seemed lovely, was uni friends with some swedes, lovely bunch of people

[@espadasensei]

Through all the videos that you post you are the most beautiful person and energy. 🍀

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Thank you ☺️

[@Jemike5]

Favorite city and excellent format. Appreciate the creativity.

[@hirsch4155]

That title of the book is genius ! Made me chuckle too. Gothenburg seems to have a very different vibe to Oslo btw, bit more open somehow. Jazzier , lol sorry for the word choice

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Thanks! Actually it came from one of the interviews I did in Copenhagen years ago

[@Frivals]

I like too❤

[@Eldest98642]

I like your shirt. Though if I remember correctly, it was a Dane who said it in one of your episodes, no?

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Yes! And I did one for Denmark and Sweden (as they are both happily miserable 😅)

[@resorband]

1:00 this accounts for your opinions too. You are not allowed to have your own opinions in sweden and if you stand by values that are slightly different from them they will slowly gravitate away from you. So, my recommendation is keep any opinions you have to yourself until like 3 months into the relationship/friendship and you might get a positive response

[@cedricnicholson7446]

This is what I'm hearing. Swedish women want some traditional traits from men without being traditional women themselves. The men are more feminine and don't question certain aspects of roles. My question would be if they were asleep and they heard a thump in the middle of night that sounded like someone was in their house, then who's going to go check on it? The woman or the man? Who's carrying the heavier items in the house?

[@peterkerj7357]

"who's going to go check on it" Both?

[@anastasia-fr1gn]

@@peterkerj7357 I can see that if it’s just a couple but if there’s children, who stays with them? In a dangerous situation, I’m used to seeing women staying with their children while the father goes to assess the danger. That way, the mother is the last barrier of protection if needed. That’s the teamwork of the sexes that I’m used to. Otherwise Titanic wouldn’t have been women and children first.

[@peterkerj7357]

@@anastasia-fr1gn Then the "without being traditional women themselves" wouldn't apply.

[@Ilikefrogs..]

Barf. These redpill weirdos are just infecting every corner of the internet it seems. Stick to reddit please.

[@tangfors]

I say it depends both would probably check the burglar, both would probably carry stuff the strongest are caring a bit more.

[@ilhuicatlamatini]

Oof, no thank you to the “quizzes” date, I can’t believe anyone thinks testing or quizzing of any kind is fun 🤣. I did enjoy Henrik’s “go with the flow” approach, however!

[@willileo2373]

Marina, we need to know the top beauty features that women prefer in each country? Can you make a video with as more countries as you can involve

[@francescomarcucci2593]

You don't need a video for that. It's height.

[@PoisonelleMisty4311]

Before you pack your bags and start singing ABBA songs, here are the things you need to know before moving to Sweden, my friend. First of all, the weather is as unpredictable as a Swedish fish playing hide-and-seek in a fjord. One minute it's sunny and beautiful, next minute you're hit with a blizzard straight out of Frozen. Secondly, forget about personal space - Swedes take their "lagom" attitude seriously and won't invade your bubble. But beware, they might confuse politeness for introversion, so don't be surprised if your icebreaker joke doesn't land like an Ikea furniture manual translation. Oh, and did I mention the majestic beauty of nature? From picturesque lakes to stunning forest landscapes, Sweden will give your Instagram feed a serious case of envy. Lastly, brace yourself for an invasion of surströmming - fermented fish that can clear a room faster than you can say "IKEA meatballs." Embrace the quirks though because once you get past them, living in Sweden will make you feel like part of their cozy little family.

[@houseofhida9246]

Why I felt so depressed watching this?

[@monero892]

Are you Swedish?

[@johngonzalez4298]

Happy Thursday Marina! If you're ever back in Miami in the future food and drinks are on me 😁

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

I need the heat in this cold European summer 😅

[@johngonzalez4298]

@@DatingBeyondBorders You're welcome to fly out to Miami and we can go to the beach and enjoy the water to cool off from the hot weather 🏖 😁

[@mrbesserwisser7447]

Drinks are quite expensive in Sweden, so that may be why we usually dont offer ladies a drink as our first move. 15 euros or more for a standard Gin & Tonic

[@virginia3937]

Swedish people remind me of myself: cold and miserable. I suppose that's why I'm so drawn to them 😂

[@morganariano2577]

Does that apply to Charming gentleman myself? Even if I want to pay, is that okay still?

[@luciamacakova7516]

interesting point from that married lady who have never been on date. So sad she did not say more details. I assume, that she just started meeting one nice boy that and there and finaly they ended up married to each other. Maybe people are ovethinking this stuff. It is just human interaction as anything else.

[@Bracarensis]

They were probably classmates or neighbours.

[@marvin2678]

dating only one person sint bad

[@Ca11mero]

My theory here is that a lot of women consume a lot of social media from countries like the US and then get inspiration/expectations from it. It's not until the past few years the term "dating" has been a thing, that's why one of the women in the video got a bit confused.

[@Lafemmefutile]

Courtship exists everywhere and it usually tends to be led by men asking out or making proposals. American dating is more the culture of entertaining multiple candidates and weeding them out.

[@marvin2678]

confused ? you mean egoisticasl

[@newwaveinfantry8362]

I'm sorry, what? How exactly do you meet your partners? I'm surprized that a population would exist continuously and have children without the concept of dating, unless it's a culture of arranged marriages, which isn't the case here.

[@Ca11mero]

It's more a matter of what you call "dating" I would say. When people think of "dating", it's more or less the way it's done in the US (and other countries). From what I know, most of the Nordic countries have worked this way: You meet people through various activities like parties, work, school, hobbies and so on. You find someone you like and you start to hang out outside of that activity. After a while there is this strange period of "are we together or what?". If both have the same thoughts about it, then it's also "public", but most people would already know by then anyway. So there haven't been much of inviting someone over for dinner, buying drinks, going to restaurants, taking someone to an event etc. And as you might have guessed by now, alcohol has been a important part of "opening up" people to each other. Quite a few friends I have met their partners though getting in bed together at midsummer. @@newwaveinfantry8362

[@SkyIaam]

But like… the majority of people don’t really date in my experience? Like the woman in the video who had never been to a date. Usually you hook at a party and then you’re inseparable ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@AifosViruset]

I feel the most common way to get a boyfriend/girlfriend in sweden is still through your social circles. It might be a friend of a friend or someone that goes to the same activity on the weekend or someone from school. Other then that dating apps are not super uncommon. Just picking someone up at a bar or in town seems super weird, we don't really engage with strangers. Any stranger that approaches you will give of an instant odd impression (if it wasn't for something tiny like "excuse me, your backpack is open" or "do you know the way to...?")

[@skvalparn]

Answer to the ”no one ever buys me a beer/drink” thing they talk about and preferences. 1. Swedish girls in most situations when you been here long enough always shut men down in different ways and are very cold, so asking girls out turns into a big negative situation(not worth it) as in other countries. 2. Tinder desensitise an already very private social structure. 3. Nothing said as good qualities in this video by the people interviewed is generally seen as something positive in Swedish society. What nr 3. Is though is something that breaks the norm making it more exotic and if swedish girls likes anything it is something exotic.. for a short while at least :) //Swede

[@adrianstere]

True 100%

[@Hedna]

I am Mexican living in Gothenburg, nobody as me out, smile at me, chat with me 😅 I have 2 years here, still very confused with men here.

[@MustbeTheBassest]

​@@Hednahey, not sure if you need or want my advice, but it seems pretty simple. Men there aren't going to act that way. If you like a guy, you're going to have to initiate a little.

[@KunimunduR]

As a Swede this series of videos talking about Swedish social culture has verily helped me gain a very good perspective on the whole dating situation here (I'm 24) as I've been trying to figure it out, decode it in a way. See, I'm not your typical Swede, I'm a traditionalist in many regards, old school, and you guessed it, makes it a lot harder to date here with all the casual hookups. But now that I've gained better understanding, not only of dating in general, but this aspect of Swedish culture in particular, I feel like I should be able to find me a good match (out here in the snow). What really got me was the redhead girl encouraging us guys to not be so Swedish (coconutty) and actually be more direct and more brave. I've always been a person who stick out (a long haired creative with a mystic mind) and always been very masculine by nature, so I feel like this won't be a problem for me now that I got the confirmation that it is actually the better way to go. I've naturally already been taking this approach doing cold approaches and generally been more social with strangers, which's fun, I really like it most of the time, and I can honestly say that I've gotten some really great interactions, smiles I'll never forget. However, finding a good woman to match my old school standard might prove to be difficult since this culture is so secular and progressive. But who knows, maybe some women out here are tired of meowing around and just want to settle down and have a family, I believe so. Though I might just travel to the eastern countries where traditionalism is already ingrained in the culture, just to better my odds.

[@user-tz4ik2sr8c]

100%

[@Commentator488]

Eastern Europe isn’t traditional as much as you think There is nothing wrong with your women, and you aren’t better than anyone else because you are traditional. Just be straight forward about what you want and you will find it

[@Alfiezeka123]

You gotta go the religious route then mate. Only the religious girls are still truly conservative. It seems the propaganda of girls whoring themselves is everywhere.

[@escomz]

For some reason, i read your statement in a Swedish accent

[@dasaavawarsuploads1143]

I can tell you Scandinavian women are better than Slavic ones. In Eastern Europe those girls are expecting you to afford everything.

[@arizakarlekr9897]

Good thing to know before i jump into a serious relationship with a swedes.As an indian though im an independent woman im still into men being more traditional & i dont mind a man with good intentions approaching me but for me to approach a man? well i'd have to be crazy inlove with that man to do so.

[@osagiee.guobadia-secondytc4624]

I say, people in Sweden are giving some good opinions about not dating in their country. This is a good example of how different countries can learn how to date. : )

[@juanferrero2009]

Hello good day, this is a great video. I think Scandinavian cultue is a very very special thing. I just wanted to mention that I was a little shocked when after the talk of the woman in minute 6:30 she then said that swedish women would actually like that men be more galant... It seemed counterintuitive to me as she mentioned things like "swedish females are pretty independant, it´s not our greatest achievement or goal in life to get married", "dating a swedish woman you have to be confident and let her do her own thing." This all gives the impression that they would not approve much of the galant behaviour she describes as "american". What is funny is at the end SHE AND HER FRIEND both say the would "enjoy it if swedish men did that more (reffering to the galant things listed before). Anyway I just thought it would be funny to mention this, hope somebody reads it and answers. Bye bye message in a bottle hehehe

[@melissa-ut5fk]

They got the benefits of feminism but now they complain about the downsides. Their men are not gentlemen and don't treat them with more care then they would for another man. I find it quite rude, definitely not happening in my country:)

[@sebsebski2829]

@@melissa-ut5fk You just want free shit from men

[@marvin2678]

@@melissa-ut5fk funny how that goes right... they only want equality when it beneftis them

[@marvin2678]

very msart observation

[@atreju305]

@@melissa-ut5fk The "benefits" of feminism being ... equality. Finally.

[@lba6859]

Nobody wants to pay 😂

[@Cvfdsx]

As a Swede, i would like my culture (in this specific aspect) to life on death row. I'm in my 50's and have been working on myself for decades now. To come to a place, where it is ok to have emotions, sparkles of joy.

[@M.Moadeli123]

It's a good thing I moved out of Sweden at dating age cause it sounds like the men dont really befit the strong provider protector archetype but more you do you I do me.

[@oscarcepeda1920]

first date in a museum, she offers to pay, equality in a relationship.... love it

[@mightybasedzao3057]

Buying women drinks and etc isn’t a flex or showing you’re a man they literally are saying yes because it’s them receiving something FREE just for EXISTING who wouldn’t say they like that😂 Be wise

[@Bracarensis]

💯

[@FrappuccinoDrinks]

the hard truth, women will never say something that puts them at a disadvantage

[@marvin2678]

@@FrappuccinoDrinks wise words, equliyt when it benefits them

[@MichelaRossini]

Female mentality is different from male mentality. Female are attracted by strong men who can provide and protect. It's instincts.

[@FrappuccinoDrinks]

@@MichelaRossini well yeah keep providing 👍🏾

[@hoost3056]

Ooooooffff. Scandies are difficult.

[@carnifpsgod9383]

We want to get to know the person abit... befoe even approaching at all. This happen in school, work, through friends or from house parties with friends and their friends ... things like that, because trust is an important metric for us, so we want to feel that this person is trustworthy. We just dont go date here, date there, generally speaking. There is no rush at all in anyway for it either. Also going to restaurants is like .. rare i feel, we like to go home, watch movies and stuff, chill XD Im not speaking for everyone here. Ofcourse there are Swedes that prefer opposite stuff but anyway.

[@merriem24]

Are the responsibilities of children equally split? If so, I guess it’s not so bad

[@PixelShade]

Yes. or at least in most cases. Parental leave is divided between both parents. But I wouldn't say that it is a 50/50 divide during the first year since generally the parent with the most income will work a bit more than the other... However, both parents work, and household shores tend to be seen as a 50/50-split.

[@keithakid]

We date???

[@Brakballe]

IF you at first meeting first invite, ask, then the other person is a guest and OFC they no pay. Later on if become friends or more, you split. Common sense in all Scandinavia, also Finland. Period!

[@cherrybrown10]

I was born & raised in Sweden but have lived in the UK for the past 12 years. Been in Stockholm all summer this year and a lot of these is the typical Swedish experience BUT the ethnic Swedish experience is not like this 😂 in fact, the dating scene in London sucks compared to the ethnic Swedish scene in Stockholm, so maybe broaden horizons!

[@laurensadler3363]

Not a surprise when your comparing to London! Try anywhere outside of London before comparing

[@ilhuicatlamatini]

What does “ethnic Swedish” mean? Like you mean people that live more rural instead of cities?

[@AXXeYY]

​​@@ilhuicatlamatiniit means swedish ethnicity. Sweden is an nationality and a ethnicity you know.

[@marvin2678]

@@AXXeYY so what is different with it ?

[@atifrana5470]

It means there has become a trust deficit in Swedish people about dating with forigners. Obviously swed dating a swed is more comfortable regarding same culture.

[@telis87]

I like If I buy a drink to a lady an if she accept she appreciate it or she feel flattered etc. The problem is that in US for example you buy them a drink they accept it but still they don't even appreciate it. they either having the body language of " idiot he is buy me a drink" or they actually feel that is not even worth to acknowledge and appreciate it .

[@ABCDEFG12468]

Swedish... Otang Cat... For Pat?

[@JewishSheep]

In Sweden be brag much even when we don’t have it.

[@stephencooper5040]

6:01 being a mother and a housewife does not make you less of an adult

[@OhMaDayzz]

Keep in mind that in Sweden they don't even prepare food for their children's friends when they come over to play. Swedish families will eat lunch with their child while expecting their guest to sit in another room with no food. That's the cultural context in which Swedish men don't pay on dates. It's more because they don't have a culture of hospitality and are socially stunted, not because of gender equality.

[@AXXeYY]

Wrong!! its about giving the family time to sit down together and have dinner and talk. If the kid eats at the friend they cant get that time as a family to eat together.

[@Mulmgott]

@@AXXeYY That is literally insane to me. Learning about your children's friends also teaches you as a parent something about your child and the environment they are growing up in. I do not understand this mentality at all.

[@AXXeYY]

above all, this applies to a weekday evening where the child has homework to be done and so on. it does not always apply just so you know.

[@Chahlie]

What on earth? When my kids were young we literally always had their friends here, breakfast lunch and dinner, and then they often stayed days or weeks. Anybody coming by anywhere near mealtime is asked to stay. But as a Canadian of Scots background, I guess hospitality is born into us :)

[@kaiesen2671]

Naa that is absolutely not right

[@torukmato9765]

Is a great country and nice people God blessed them❤

[@havisham8]

I am married to a Swede (not a Swede myself). While we were dating, I was paying and he was also paying. Swedish men, if you are after the calculation of 15-20 kronas, you may as well lose the chance of a potentially good relationship/marriage. Sharing is caring. Those who eat alone, die alone.

[@alejandrabustamante889]

Mm they dont sound romantic at all 😅😅😅

[@meDi850]

Im born and raised in Sweden and I can assure you that swedes in general are not romantic at all. They think romance is corny.

[@Sisterlisk]

@@meDi850 That's sad.

[@meDi850]

@@Sisterlisk I know. I need to move to another country!

[@ilhuicatlamatini]

I need the romance too lol!

[@Fanniiiy]

We see practical things as romantic. Doing small favors for your partner without them having to ask for help, remembering things they mention needing to buy and buying it for them etc.

[@monero892]

Easy to say for Americans when it doesn’t cost 15 euros a drink

[@LucasFernandez-fk8se]

America is expensive now too it’s like $12 for a drink 🤦‍♂️

[@pear19l]

-- "What's your secret to a happy marriage?" -- (Frowns and looks into the farthest distance possible.)

[@BillionaireMusk]

American women wouldn’t like Sweden as American men are still required to pay for everything in dating and marriage. American women are independent but the men must be traditional in f you want a woman .

[@sebsebski2829]

Disgusting double standard.

[@marvin2678]

hate that double standard hahah

[@nicossbots]

if you want to feel like the man in a relationship even though you're a woman then feel free to date north european men

[@Ilikefrogs..]

I'm totally fine with that.

[@sebsebski2829]

@@Ilikefrogs.. Oh, so that's your twist? You just want to feel like a man? Maybe you're trans?

[@LucasFernandez-fk8se]

Why are you disparaging both northern European men and Northern European women. God forbid you have ACTUAL GENDER EQUALITY 🤦‍♂️

[@MaxIsBackInTown]

This just like the states damn near. Also, it’s funny how the Swedish women would like men to pay more or open then door but then also true equailty 😂

[@maxemerson7268]

Swedish men are known to be good looking and well dressed but what you’re not told is that they are the most conflict-fearing, and feminine men in the world so if that’s what you’re looking for ladies then go for it but be aware that their gentlemanly attire and features don’t make them gentlemanly in their personality. This coming from a Swede btw.

[@SRBOMBONICA86]

Absolutely,I never saw more feminine men ,honestly ,it genuinely even scared me

[@Lafemmefutile]

Oh wow - conflict fearing means they will ghost you instead of dealing with an issue or will just pretend when they hate something. That’s not brave at all.

[@redleeks6253]

Danish are equally or better looking and don't give so many "fab fag" vibes.

[@alexs5744]

Once upon the Swedes were one of the feared nations in Europe right up there with Prussia, France and even the Russians were scared of the Swedes. Nowadays they’re weak and effeminate like the Brits, Germans and Spanish.

[@rsm5627]

Very sad. These people were vikings once upon a time.

[@Manuello92]

I like your haircut! especially the wavy side.

[@DatingBeyondBorders]

Thanks!

[@youtubearsivi9223]

this is such a hypocracy, I can then say it is nice for women to cook sometimes, to clean and be housewife, its nice, sometimes you know

[@Frivals]

Everytime

[@meDi850]

But women in general do all of those things already (cook/clean), plus they work.

[@youtubearsivi9223]

@@meDi850 do they cook for their partners in Sweden, clean for them? Talking about the new feminist generation.

[@meDi850]

@@youtubearsivi9223 Yes they do. Its common for both women and men to do it.

[@paolovalentini8017]

​@@youtubearsivi9223of course they do!! They are helpful women

[@edbabine]

To me, it seems like a very equal country like Sweden and Scandinavia in general strips away men's hunter nature. We know in general women won't approach men. These women need to increase their approaching rate and be okay with being turned down by men to actually make it someone what equal. While the Scandinavian guys are reputed to be tall and pretty everything that the USA women always talk about. For a foreign woman going there, the question would be are you ready to make the approach?do you actually believe in equality and practice what you preach?. Those guys seem the really embody equality without some afterthought. They don't seem to have that ''you wanted equality this is what you get attitude'' like in the USA etc.. Well, im sure most Swedish women will prefer dating Swedish guys in the end. From this interview, I can see why a foreign man from the USA.uk, and Spain. Australia and Canada could get there and get some positive results because their own men seem passive and dont approach.

[@james-ob9rz]

Never compliment Never hold the door Never pay everything Equality is Big

[@Ufu4847]

Don’t be broke and don’t be poor!

[@mightybasedzao3057]

Wait a minute don’t have to pay on the first date and get these gorgeous model looking girls…. I need a passport

[@LucasFernandez-fk8se]

You have to pay your half obviously

[@mightybasedzao3057]

@@LucasFernandez-fk8se yeah I know that’s nothing

[@farmersjt]

Dating in Sweden? Just don't.

[@ayanaondar7381]

Seems like Swedish ladies have contradicting views. In one hand they want to be treated like real ladies - the men to be more galant. On the other hand they show their independence so much; that the guys would be afraid to offer their help or care. 🧐

[@alokgangully8563]

Mam this is my request to you make a video on Bangladeshi women

[@JackTheStrippa]

Imagine fighting for Feminism so hard and then complaining that Traditionalism is dead.... YOU KILLED IT!

[@user-zj7te3fg2r]

5:47 I need mature woman

[@kirunts]

If somebody says the opposite party SHOULD do something, or somebody SHOULD pay and anything like that... They should stop watching netflix and start treating their god syndrome. Go out and talk to people as an equal.

[@franciscoantonio5306]

Seems like the men leaned all the way into the feminist shit and it ended up backfiring against the women lol People are hilarious 😂

[@marvin2678]

yep but the problem is women dont accept i double tsandard hahah

[@juliennepujol5586]

It didn't backfire at all 😂 men no longer own us and that's a huge win... but if they WANT us they need to prove themselves. Women will never chase penis that's just basic biology.

[@LucasFernandez-fk8se]

It’s happening in north America too tbh. You can see the tik toks. Both the cringy redpill tik toks and the cringy “why don’t men ask me out anymore” tik toks. North America is becoming like Sweden in dating except the people aren’t as hot here due to obesity

[@Frivals]

Don't ever pay for a female. They must work and pay💪

[@MissSylvia67]

😂😂😂

[@marvin2678]

@@MissSylvia67 what ? feminism ?

[@MissSylvia67]

@@marvin2678 Who said anything about feminism

[@marvin2678]

@@MissSylvia67 are you slow ?

[@MissSylvia67]

@@marvin2678 You're the one who seems to be slow

[@Cobras_Nation]

It’s a failed society.

[@Ilikefrogs..]

...with the happiest people in the world living there? Okay 😂

[@adrianstere]

@@Ilikefrogs..happiest?! More like depressed and lonely 😂 “the Swedish theory of love” country 😂

[@duygua1286]

What sort of men are these, you cannot put your hand into your pocket for only a drink?? You cheap skates😂😂

[@AndrewTheVikings]

Don't worry about it sweetie, I will not be a swede, I will be the MAN.

[@marvin2678]

ofc she likes getting a free drink, why doesnt she buy one for a man huh ?

[@Alfiezeka123]

These people are so cringy. And lost.

[@lissandrafreljord7913]

The ginger girl got no accent when speaking English. She legit could pass for American or Canadian.

[@princessdaya5781]

hmm at first i disagreed bc i do hear a small accent but now that i think about it if she told me she was from minnesota or something id buy it

[@redleeks6253]

These bros are gay. No need to advertise them for women.

[@sebsebski2829]

When you pay for her 100th meal, she will start asking for rent. Big yikes

[@tashmarie20]

It looks like things are lacking in the women's lives. At the end of the day, we just want to be treated special even when you see us as equal. .....Those who have paid for men food and date....stop that. If it is for birthday or celebration okay. Don't do this as a norm it usually doesn't end well. A man will pay if they really care about you.

[@joongkikim7610]

Broke bros

[@kiaral822]

This is awful lol what a nightmare

[@botlfpx]

Very nice muslim country.

[@zu_23]

What

[@botlfpx]

@@zu_23 Allah Great!

[@jonstern7511]

Isn't feminism and liberation wonderful. Now both members of a couple need to work to afford to live and pay their bills when previously only one did!

[@tomsl7111]

Nice one man!!

[@flyby3079]

It is. You sound like a mysogynist. 🙄

[@melissa-ut5fk]

Interesting how it only suits the men :) Sadly, scandivanian women brought this to themselves!

[@redleeks6253]

So women never worked right? Or did they work and never got paid for it? Because let's see: Surrogate pregnancy is paid House cleanind and maintainence is paid Child raising is paid (baby sitters, kindergartens, childcare services). Cooking is paid Washing and ironing clothes is paid. These were all jobs women were doing withour getting paid for it. And i tell you more. My grandmother was from a rural area of Portugal. And she also had to work in the fields (agriculture), feed the animals, and do a lot of physical labor. Everytime she got to work in fruit picking or agriculture related jobs the money was given to the husband Because that was the law. Women were basically cattle, working for shelter and food.

[@Ilikefrogs..]

The government and capitalism is to blame for that, not feminism😂 If every woman decided to eschew feminism right now and went home to be a housewife and babymaker, the average house would still cost 1.3 million, you would just be paying all those bills yourself!

[@melissa-ut5fk]

If she offers to pay where is the equality? Scandinavians are cute but I'm happy dating my arab men xD no question for the bill and I'm treated like a precious woman ^^ Interestingly the richest countries are the least generous when it comes to paying .. America, scandinavia.. Go to African country see if a man lets his woman pay, that's an insult to his dignity!

[@roudy879]

I'm middle eastern too but on the liberal side . I am familiar with what you're mentioning but in exchange you're also expected to fit in your traditional gender role as well, which Scandinavian women don't want and for the right reasons. Overall equality works best even if it does not fit in a romance novel.

[@marvin2678]

@@roudy879 yes but the problem is scandivian women still want the princess treatment

[@marvin2678]

where are you from ?

[@roudy879]

@@marvin2678 are you asking me where I"m from ? And I haven't been to Scandinavia but the ones I've met while traveling didn't give me such an impression at all.

[@Fanniiiy]

@@marvin2678 No not at all, we want our partner to treat us with love and respect just like we treat them the same. The thought of a man treating you like a delicate princess is laughable to most Swedish women.

[@atifrana5470]

Swedish men are simple in nature and more focused on their careers rather dating or stuff. That's why Swedish women approach to Swedish men more.

[@liweieva]

bushit

[@xdemgeo3581]

Oskar is so cute

[@MELONenSURPRISE]

If you are a Sweedish girl ... especially from Gottenberg i'm inviting you for a holiday in Croatia...for free

[@bojanstoicevic5374]

Learn from Zlatan😂

[@thepineappleburster4439]

Every single woman you interviewed was single and it shows lmao. Scandinavian countries (maybe less so Norway) are a stark difference with the rest of Europe. They are also the socialists of Scandinavia and in my experience always try to be different for the sake of it. Nice video either way

[@marvin2678]

not very different to germany sadly