Daughter Called Out Her Family For Making Her The Maid Of The House - Heartbreaking Viral Video

[@jjb3237]

This is why people living in abusive families don’t share their ordeal...people deny their experience. Just because something never happened to you doesn’t mean it didn’t happen to someone else. Smh people be so annoying and apathetic.

[@rizikimichelle5885]

People are telling her just clean smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ it’s like telling a depressed person just be happy

[@jenniferterry4665]

And that’s the thing, a severely depressed person does not feel like cleaning!

[@anneagena8236]

They wouldn’t understand until they are in the situation.

[@IGot7RevtinyArmyStayOnceBlink]

@@anneagena8236that part!

[@thinkingoutloud3358]

But also damn can I live my life outside if cleaning all day everyday because that sounds like what this situation requires

[@Shay-rx4xu]

Right f that let them clean up themselves it's not her job

[@digimonalvatrax2738]

The fact that the dog even chooses to stay there(in her room)😂😂

[@amandaeye11]

That poor kid. I’m so angry for her 💔💔💔🤬🤬🤬

[@BondofOblivion]

I was thinking the same thing 😂 and I bet you any amount of money that she is the sole person who takes care of that dog.

[@Shay-rx4xu]

Cause she's the only one who actually care about him probably

[@jsparkles908]

Right 😂. People who live like this always have animals . Like how dare you lol

[@tessy28]

The dog don't want to be around that nasty mess.

[@awikedera7789]

As a first born daughter to a Ghanaian mother who then also emigrated? Yeah this is a very very honest ugly truth that no one really wants to talk about. YOUR CHILD IS NOT A MAID CARETAKER...LET THEM BE KIDS! Because the way you treat your kids now is most likely how they're going to treat you when you need them. If they even want anything to do with you.

[@lynx70123]

As a firstborn daughter to an FBA mom, this was also my childhood.

[@Aishathefula]

First born African daughters deal with so much it’s honestly sad

[@Shay-rx4xu]

Yup I'm the youngest but my older sister raised us when my mom left I was 5 my dad died b4 I was born plus look how that mom who was west Indian also kicked out her 16 yr old daughter for not cooking for her 23yr old son this y I say parents are selfish and I will rather die a virgin than let anyone make me not child free

[@Shay-rx4xu]

She raised 4 of us n herself she was 17

[@TheCakeIsALie-1]

My parents: "You're going to take care of us like we took care of you, right?" If I did that, I'd deserve to be charged with elder abuse. So no.

[@kemeticwellness]

I grew up exactly like this and it is extremely exhausting. No one understands that you will clean until you drop dead with family like this. You can spend the whole day cleaning and they will trash the place within an hour, and leave you to do clean up again. They are making her out to be the problem so they don’t have to face themselves. It’s calling scapegoating. If you didn’t live it you just don’t know.

[@saliormoon5534]

Yep

[@Shay-rx4xu]

This why I love living alone if I knew her I would show her how to get paid 3800 to 7300 a month for school so she will be motivated to do it honestly just said

[@audfosutv2500]

FOR REAL SIS.

[@Jjisishs]

I'm male and currently in university and live far from home . Everything that girl in the video spoke about is true specifically with a Ghanian father this is the same

[@AndyyWithAY]

She wasn't even a maid, she was a damn slave. They intentionally made that the most disgusting mess possible. It takes next to no effort to just put trash in the trash can I don't think any of it is a skit. I've heard about African, Indian, and Asian oldest daughters being treated this horrible way

[@kayshawnsimmons5585]

That Kitchen was disgusting 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@misslola007]

Her family are hoarders. I hope she can find a way out. She spoke so highly of her parents for providing basic necessities. This will definitely keep you depressed. I hope she can escape this.

[@danyelleorr-mcneil4711]

Definitely will keep you depressed. I grew up in a house like this. And got cussed out when I did clean!

[@Shay-rx4xu]

Cause they remind her of that so she got it stuck in her head when they are gaslighting her for them doing the bare minimum

[@YadaWhat]

I unfortunately know this life all too well. And when you refuse to be their slave you’re labeled selfish, lazy, evil and ungrateful.

[@alexia8431]

Meanwhile they rarely show any real appreciation. They say motherhood is a thankless job. Being the oldest daughter or daughter in a family like this period is right up there as well.

[@dakotastorms1255]

So freaking true

[@gojosgirl6487]

Yep and yep! And you never do it right, you always "half do it" on purpose because you didn't want to do it in the first place, screwed if you do and screwed if you don't. Yet I noticed they don't care about the crappy job you do when THEY don't want to do it and still force you

[@saliormoon5534]

Yep so true

[@Shay-rx4xu]

This why I don't believe parents truly love their kids they just bring them here to have someone help them be more degenerate and lazy and bring them into there misery

[@yourlittlesecret7575]

There’s nothing more annoying than when you wash the dishes and you turn around to find the sink full again. And then YOU get yelled at like you’re the one who did it 🙄

[@savvivixen8490]

Never Again. NEVER AGAIN.

[@ambercastle3667]

EVER again!!!

[@kiradagod3308]

This is why I tell my children to go around and look for dirty dishes before washing.

[@idreadFell365]

Yeah, I hate it when I’m washing dishes and my mother suddenly adds more for me to clean…though I haven’t faced this issue in quite a while. Too busy working within 6 days a week.💀

[@tammygarrett8427]

That happened to me when I was young. I would clean the kitchen and my brothers would cook and not clean and my mother would be mad at me for not cleaning.

[@JR-lw3ms]

Baby girl, you are not supposed to feel indebted to your parents for housing, clothing, and feeding you! That is the bare minimum of what your parents are SUPPOSED to do until you are 18!

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

I came here to say exactly this!!

[@YadaWhat]

Absolutely 💯

[@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke]

In my country until you get married or until you get a job , 18 is so young

[@sallyhemings2295]

@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4keexactly! Why have children to push them out at 18!

[@BrookeKnits]

I hope she is able to meet her goal of moving out asap. She deserves peace. And she doesn't have to be perfect. I hope she gives herself grace.

[@Laoriginal718]

She doesn’t seem very solution based. I wouldn’t recommend anyone go into the military. But she doesn’t wanna seek higher education. She doesn’t seem very solution based and she thinks piercing people is gonna get her an apartment. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@radicalreactions1633]

@@Laoriginal718 Stop repeating yourself, you sound dense af. You're the one that needs higher education.

[@Courtneydash345]

@@Laoriginal718 that's what you think . you don't know her and her plans ...

[@BVEE-j3q]

Thats what my family did to me. I was the scape goat and told atleast i have a family. This is horrible, poor girl. My family lived liked this and i couldn't finish school too because of how mentally draining and disturbing it is to live in chaos and neglect like this. Thank you ladies for making a space for women to speak about these things without reprocussions.

[@Havingfunontheinternet]

❤❤❤ - I feel the same! We talked about this in therapy today, and then I saw this video. ❤ helps having a safe place to resonate and heal with.

[@kimmaried.7313]

Everyone should be allowed to tell their truth without being attacked for it. Always be strong and say what you need to say when you need to say it. You do not owe anyone anything so don’t pay attention to negative people. Misery loves company so don’t fall for none of that crap. Just keep being who you are and be proud of how well you have done so far. Accomplishments big or small are still Accomplishments And for the love of God , never remain silent. Know someone out here is praying for y’all. I heard ya’s and I understand. 💫

[@Laoriginal718]

Smh. I’d run away too. That house is disgusting. 🤢

[@diamcole]

That is absolutely foul. You have to go out of your way to be disgusting. Ugh, I’m so glad she got out of there.

[@iamconfusion1791]

I hate when people use the "But they clothed and housed and fed you!" argument. Her parents made the choice to bring her into this world and are at a minimum legally obligated to provide food, housing, clothing, and have her enrolled in public school. Her parents also made the choice to deliberately be messy and disgusting to hoarder levels. I get it - we all have messes and can be lazy here and there. They have half a rotting watermelon, ants and mice, dirty dishes piled up, and a bathroom that's rotting, and expect her to be Cinderella and just clean it up all the time? I genuinely feel bad for her, she seems like a smart and strong young woman, I'm hoping all the best for her and that she remains resilient and determined. Her parents don't deserve praise, and always remember you never know what's going on behind closed doors.

[@gojosgirl6487]

I too remember all the "praise" my mother and grandmother got, if they only knew

[@Shay-rx4xu]

Yup most these ppl who seek outside validation r normally empty on the inside or do 4 strangers but not ur own just sick n disgenuine honestly

[@tayriobravo6204]

I hope she moves in silence , because these are the kind of parents who will sabotage any chances for success to keep her there at the bottom with them. I would have called cps on them myself as their child to get out!!

[@Havingfunontheinternet]

I'm learning the hard way, they never change. No more chances. Move in silence.

[@biblemademedoit]

Exactly! I had made it out of my parents home and was in college. My Mom made sure I did not return, tried to force me to hand over more than half their rent and I said no and got kicked out.

[@txspacemom765]

I was the youngest of 3, older sister and brother, and this was me, from aged 6 or 7 until I graduated at 17 and left home. My whole experience has been denied by my family, and now, I am without a family and missed ALL the events and important things. It's abuse and it's continued abuse when you speak out. I kept my room as neat and clean as one possibly can. I had a cat and a rabbit that were cleaner and kinder than my family ever was. I hope you can find a way out my friend. You deserve more and a wonderful CLEAN and healthy life!

[@ivanabutler6213]

A lot of people who are calling videos like these skits are revealing just how privileged they were growing up to live in a stable, nontoxic household.

[@saliormoon5534]

No way this video a skit I felt everything she said and went through 😢

[@Havingfunontheinternet]

Thank you. I've been told I'm lying or exaggerating when I spoke out before. That hurts more. But understanding they don't understand nor ever will, is a little refreshing.

[@L-Victoria]

It's so sad that this is my life also. When you have to spend so much time cleaning you can't focus on more important things. I was beaten when I didn't want to clean. I pray for us all..

[@tylert271]

I hate that she has to go through that. I hope she can get her own place soon. It took me 10 years 😭

[@anneagena8236]

Exactly she’s the scapegoat they treat her like sh$$t. Like she don’t matter then when she cut them. People will try to guilt trip her why don’t you talk to your family??? Why this why that. It’s being exposed everywhere in every in culture. These demons are being exposed. Good for her and she needs to stay where she’s at. Their actions told her how they felt about her. Never talk to them again. !!!! One thing about narcs they are disgusting and don’t clean up behind themselves:

[@Sarah-gq5jl]

Truly understand.... my parents same way....I didn't come out my room... happy as hell to move out

[@user-dq9rr9mv3f]

I was the slave in my family..I remember waking up at 7 am in the morning on Sat to scrub the walls.. My aunt used to make me take out and wash every dish, every spoon, every pot out of the cabinets on Sundays… We had 3 bathrooms, i was to clean them Tues, Wed, & Thursday.. We had carpet, instead of allowing me to use the vacuum cleaner, I had to sweep it… Oh If I cleaned the kitchen at night & someone left something in the sink, she would wake me up with a bucket of water, because somehow it was my fault.. Now as an adult, I’m So traumatized, I have the hardest time actually cleaning…But I’m working on it!

[@FireSilver25]

That’s so awful! 😢

[@Shay-rx4xu]

So sorry hun but just pay that 9.99 a month for them to clean up for you n call it a day or if you want to get it done for free they will record the whole process n use it for there company so I don't recommend that one

[@YadaWhat]

I’m so sorry ❤️

[@user-dq9rr9mv3f]

@@Shay-rx4xu this option never dawned on me.. thank you!!!

[@deasyastarr]

@@Shay-rx4xuis it a company that cleans for $9.99 a month because if so…… I need them! My parents weren’t nasty like that but I was the female sibling raised in misogyny of “the girl learns how to clean for when she gets a husband and the man can be nasty and a woman will still want him” so I’d get in trouble for my brother if I didn’t make sure he cleaned up or I was made to clean by myself and then help him clean his room. If there is a company that only costs that much to clean my apartment please tell me!

[@kated3165]

This is no skit... who in the world would PURPOSELY depict their house being this way just for the purpose of a video!!?? Imagine the HORROR of anyone they know seeing this video who would not be in on the skit... and god knows how fast local gossip spreads!z Also want to point out that the people telling her "just go back to school then!!" are likely the same people who would tell her "why the hell did you get yourself in all that school debt you knew you could'nt easily pay off then!?", if she went back to school and complained about being trapped in crushing debts while not being able to find openings for the job she trained for...

[@saliormoon5534]

Right

[@SincerelyKee]

She’s jokingly saying she’ll be the cleanest and OCD mf when she leaves, but baby, I am here to tell you that she will be. I grew up in clutter/filth/slight hoarding and once I got out, I never went back. I understand her beginning to not really clean because what in the heck man?! She is not a maid and they ought to be ashamed of themselves. Disgusting! I am super clean from my home, my car, my office and my hygiene all thanks to growing up in the complete opposite.

[@Boobootheefool]

I feel so bad for this young lady. Even when she knows in her gut that her disposition is warranted, she continues to state her love for her parents, who have clearly given her the bare minimum. As a parent myself, I do not deserve credit for putting a roof over my child's head, and food in her stomach because that's the least I can do for the child I birthed, and who didn't ask, nor have a choice to be in this world. We should be providing our kids with more than just shelter and food. Our kids deserve to be nurtured physically and mentally. Our kids deserve a comfortable home, and to be able to trust that we will put their best interests before our own. Our kids do not deserve to be manipulated, neglected, abused, or made to suffer from our laziness and unwillingness to be better parents.

[@Sketchmedrawyou]

I lived like this growing up and it's hard being married with kids because although I'm married it triggers the things I been through growing up especially when he says this is your job and you asked for this the (kids).

[@QHuda_A]

Your husband was there, to create these children, so where does he have the audacity to say, 'you asked for it.' He better make the money to pay for help instead of treating his wife/you like a maid and a breeder.

[@BrookeKnits]

Hey, those statements aren't kind ways to relate to your wife and the mother of your children. And your husband knows that and isn't considering your feelings. You deserve care and love that doesn't trigger and further past trauma.

[@CelesteMinerva]

I feel so bad for this young lady. I'm glad she has a plan and I hope it works for her. What people forget is that school isn't for everyone and when you are in her mindspace the military is the last place you should go. The whole goal is to break you down so you have to be mentally strong or it'll be rough. And can we normalize telling people feeding and housing and clothing your children is the barest minimum and you don't get a cookie for doing that?

[@KnowMyName190]

The realest comment EVER!!!! 🫡

[@peachescamino6687]

I was not the house maid, I was the house SLAVE, as the oldest of FIVE. I DID join the military and LOVED it. The rules, the uniform, the CLEANLINESS! Being able to SLEEP safely(another entire issue). Not being run ragged and they cannot strike you. Other people cried in basic training...and I was standing there, thinking to myself...this is HEAVEN. It was so bad, my physically and verbally a**sive mother tried to force me to quit high school at 16yrs old, to stay at home as free sitter for my siblings. Think on that, trapping me with cooking, cleaning, and FREE child care, and all the responsibilities that YOU as a parent are supposed to be taking care of. If she had a bad day, I felt it. If things were not perfect, I felt it. If she fing felt like it, I FELT IT. If I had to do it all over again, I would join the military again in a heartbeat!!!

[@kayelle5239]

10:54 Some people aren’t aware that memory issues can happen in situations like hers. I feel for her. These parents then wonder why they get cut off. I hope she finds the peace she’s seeking.

[@Kaiannag]

Children that grow up like that, tend to be minimalist when then get a space of their own.

[@ebonyeyez404]

😭 how I am

[@LadyCharity]

Hate to say this is how they treat the oldest daughter. I'm a twin but the only daughter so an unspoken rule is I had to clean up after my bro which is bs but it happens. I will never forget my cousin yelled at me for not cleaning up a mess her grown-man husband made. Yep, I also stayed in my room unless I had to go out, use the bathroom or eat.

[@gojosgirl6487]

I am also the oldest daughter and a twin, apparently because I'm "the oldest" so I should be an indentured servant while they sit and put they feet up and relax. There was nothing more frustrating than coming back from scholl at nearly six thirty to clean a mess they conveniently left for you so you would have something to clean

[@tylert271]

I was known as "dish girl" for years and yes a family member literally called me that. Its sucks being a daughter a lot of the time.

[@arewahaircaretv8718]

This is why I kneel down and pray everyday to God for giving me some of the most amazing people as parents I will be forever grateful. 🙏🏾❤️ I pray for the healing and happiness of those going through this in their lives

[@abcbandb]

People don't understand that she's living with compulsive hoarders--one person cannot manage the pathology of 4 other dysfunctional family members. It's resulting in an anxiety disorder and mental health issue. Stay strong Girl until you can save enough to move out 💪.

[@Shay-rx4xu]

Or just they don't know how to let go of anything cause they think one day they will need it

[@abcbandb]

@@Shay-rx4xu By the time "not letting go" attracts rats and roaches, you have a hoarding issue.

[@shellyhard6044]

Im extremely O.C.D. from things growing up! I have to tell people sometimes don't take it personally I have to do certain things to shut my brain thought process up!😢

[@liinliin7128]

I’m African American and both my mother and father’s side have treated me like I was their slave… I’m now a slave of the system due to domestic abuse from my aunt… I ran away from an abusive situation JUST to get back to it without even knowing it… 😕 The father always tried to bribe me to do chores. Kept me away from school. And tried to put under boarding school. 😅 I raised in both a Christian and Muslim households… I have severe religious trauma

[@Chitownbabe417]

My family did this to me too. I was adopted. I ended up running away when I was 17.

[@saliormoon5534]

This is sad how some of us where brought up to be maids to our families while they just sit and not help out this always happens in abusive homes 😢

[@Havingfunontheinternet]

I talked about this therapy today! I had this on my mom side in her home. And my dad side. I feel for her and everyone else who resonates. It causes deep pain that must come out one day! ❤ prayers on your healing journey- from a white girl from chicago!

[@twistedmindssweettea]

Just a small piece of rotten fruit can attract thousands of flies of various types depending on where you live. I keep my home spotless and fruits go bad just a single day past and it's fruit flies and gnats everywhere. Panic sets in and old cleaning commences. I couldn't imagine the amount of bugs and smell in that place

[@paulineelumeze9433]

Tomorrow some unfortunate girl will marry her brother if she has one and now be stuck cleaning after a grown man who hasn't learned to clean after himself.

[@kele5456]

I hope all womens around the world will see this video and stay away from her brother then to save their peace!

[@michaelhrivnak9463]

She deserves a go- fund - me. Start one, and I'll gladly donate.

[@c.athompson9280]

She needs a trade one that pays well. And a little therapy cuz the home situation most likely messed up her mind. Oh geez. She's in a rock and a hard place. God show her favour.

[@Shay-rx4xu]

Or just needs to ask around cause she can get paid to go to school if I knew her I would have showed her how to get 3800-7300 a month to go to school she can choose something for 4months to 4 yrs and getting housing and food well the cafeteria r 275 Walmart stop n shop grocery weekly gift cards,/ check depending on where you shop if they don't have gift cards then they give you a check for aldis so she can save up the school money not live at home or do live at home n do online while she saves n if she doesn't get a job after 90 days of finishing school she won't even have to worry about financial aid if she used it r paying anything for tuition she just needs ambitious bw like her n she will be fine

[@c.athompson9280]

@@Shay-rx4xu Wow that's a wealth of information. Hope someone knows her account handle so this information can reach her. She needs it.

[@tayarianna]

She said she does piercings so maybe she can become an apprentice and get into a shop

[@puffball4484]

This was my life as a kid. My father was absolutely filthy. I kept my room and the downstairs clean. Never went upstairs. Honestly looking back I don't know how I deal with it. When I cleaned, it would be destroyed within a couple days. It is a horrible way to grow up. Kids deserve a clean environment!!!

[@catharsismemory]

There ain't no way in hell. Mom and dad gotta have hoarding issues.

[@autumnwinter5]

Ever since I was 11, I was expected to be the slave of the family and do all of the cooking, cleaning, and laundry, as well as be the free babysitter of the family; to the point where at the age of 13, my biological mother made me switch places with her , as well as me being the one to sacrifice my meal if a grown adult would ever come over to visit during supper, which led to my biological father jumping on board and treating me as if I were his second wife against my will at age 14. Then would make it seem like it was all MY fault that my grades in school plummeted due to me having to do HER job in the house, not to mention the fact that I wasn’t even allowed to have a social life, meanwhile my siblings could have a social life until their heart’s content. And her expecting me to be the family slave continued until I decided to move to the other side of the country.

[@face-in-the-crowd]

Look after yourself. Growth happens during the struggle ✨

[@saliormoon5534]

Hope you moved out

[@radicalreactions1633]

@@saliormoon5534 Clearly you didn't read what she said.

[@gojosgirl6487]

Yeah they live like animals, how can they even stand to live there? Imagine the SMELL, they must not EVER have people over. I remember people creating work for me to clean, my mother did that. Was there all day and left all the breakfast dishes there to greet me when I got back from school while she just watched TV. I also remember playing second parent to four younger siblings and being called a "bad big sister" when I didn't want to. They can't print enough money for me to relive those days. Now I'm on my own and its "I ain't heard from you in a while, why don't you ever call or come by?"

[@lamorenalista9188]

That is a hoarder situation, which is a severe symptom of mental illness. Hope this young woman & her family gets help.

[@Shay-rx4xu]

Nope It's either not wanting to let go or no accountability or tired or lazy or all the above

[@JukuduB]

I lived with my mothers sister for part of high school and a brief time afterwards. She is a cerebral narcissist so my time with her was hell! She treated me like a maid/slave! She would create dishes for me to wash and would constantly barge in my cousins old room (where I slept) to shout about what I didn't do. My older cousin would even throw dishes in the sink while I was washing! I had tons of other chores too. I moved out at 19, just a few months before I turned 20. I never went back!

[@sunmoonrising81]

My mom died when i was 15...my aunt and her family turned me into a full time live in maid and my younger brother had to keep outside the yard clean or we cant go to school. Mind you both her and her kids always made a mess even deny us food.v today her whole house is a dump and lost all its value. The whole family expect me to stay silent about it and let by gones be by gones because my aunt has found jesus and baptized etc etc...

[@alicetoyou448]

Just found your channel, and I love your personality and energy. You come across as a very honest and warm person!

[@kimmaried.7313]

My heart breaks for this girl . It’s a damned shame she has had to go through so much and be used like a maid. I wish her everything good in life ❣️

[@sistahspeaks9816]

AS PARENTS ITS OUR OBLIGATION TO TAKE CARE OF OUR CHILDREN NEEDS MENTAL AND PHYSICAL SO YES THEY HAVE TO DO IT.

[@NanaScorpianaB]

I’ve lived through a version of this… I moved out at 22 and never looked back

[@jams1070]

7:55 shaming her for not cleaning after grown adults is crazy, THEY need to clean up after themselves. She is doing the right thing

[@brihappi693]

I agree. She can only do so much. No one tells a family of four in a tiny apartment that they need to get rid of their actual stuff. They simply need more space. Maybe the clutter only looks like clutter bc it’s in the same house as some nasty ass mfs and all their debris & critter friends

[@lookintothelightcarolanne4699]

The young lady halfway thru the video…I want to tell her to keep on keeping on!! She’s got a spirit I like. There’s nothing she can’t do, within the realm of her possibilities, that is. Whatever she does, she’ll do well.

[@thuypotatos_for_life6343]

Tonight my 2child is a daughter tonight made simple veggie an ham cheese toast my youngest is a son he brung it to me an his sister who’s 3rd oldest I didn’t force it but it’s the thankful for all I do for them it’s rare I truly appreciate thankful greatful

[@chinaking918]

She said her folks are caring to the world, they’re not they’re just keeping appearances. It’s easier to look good vs being good. That’s all apart of their deniability case (for a lack of a better word). Ppl will say “They couldn’t be like that, they do xyz no way they’re like that” Because of the act they put on. They literally create a character they turn on once they walk out the door. Sis all those things they provided was SUPPOSED to be provided. You don’t owe them a damn thing for being born. That was a decision they made. I hate parents that make their children feel like they owe them something just for being born. I tOoK cArE oF yOu duh you was supposed to take care of the person YOU brought into this world.

[@GrievingSister]

This why I tell my kids they don’t understand how good They got it!!It will get back the same way !They won’t get the mice out

[@ItsJusBre]

I want to go home and clean now.

[@jsparkles908]

Shower shoes for your own shower is crazy 😮

[@dorinehelene]

How? Why? I have shower shoes also and it’s a common thing in many culture

[@jsparkles908]

@@dorinehelene The main purpose of wearing shower shoes is to prevent yourself from catching fungal infections and diseases while using public showers . Why would you fear caching things like that in your own home if your shower is clean?

[@TomikaKelly]

Even if the house were clean, she shares a shower with a lot of different people so shower shoes are needed. I can't share a shower with more than 1 person, a spouse. Anything over 1 other person, and daily shower cleanings are required.

[@obey-yah]

Good she doesn't go the county. They would take the kids away and force them to clean

[@ambercastle3667]

I feel her and she’s gonna be straight when she gets out. I also had similar struggles and now I’m on the other side and things are amazing on the other side.

[@andreaaas]

This is so very true. I used to have a friend whose parents emigrated over here, they had three children, my friend being the oldest then the brother who was a couple years younger, then the youngest sister a few years younger than the brother. They moved a lot and every house they moved to I would always travel to see her. No matter what, the house always had a certain smell and there was always clothes and clutter EVERYWHERE. I wasn't the typa friend to judge, in fact I'd help her. She was responsible to feed everyone and clean up after everybody. Her brother sometimes helped her but ultimately she took on the role of the parents. The parents worked and when when they weren't working they were sleeping. If she didn't do the chores the parents went OFF. She cooked, she cleaned, she did the household laundry. She would take the sister and brother to school and wherever she went they went. And wherever they went, I went. I really was a loyal friend to her and her family. I'd help her clean, help her cook, stay over despite barely even getting a bed or a blanket to sleep on. Eventually, I realised my friend was taking advantage of my kindness. She only wanted to hang out with me if everyone else was busy, so I was like the last thought. She often stood me up for guys and even putting me in unsafe situations so she could meet up with them. One time she even called me out of my bed to catch a bus to take care of her younger sister (give her a bath, make her breakfast, take a delivery) while her parents worked and she dipped for early morning seggs. That was very early on in the😮 friendship. I should've known then what was up. I gave this girl my loyalty cause I could see that deep down she was hurting. Most likely because of the way her parents treated her compared to her siblings and the situations she unfortunately got caught up in. I had to let the friendship go which was hard for me because I considered her my best friend. We stopped talking for 6 years until she reached out to me. I was pregnant with my first child and she had a child. We stayed in touch for a while but her old habits caught up with her and I realised that when we finally met up again after 6 years, all she did the whole time was message other people on her phone while I was the one keeping the conversation going. At that point I was over it. I blocked her. Hope she's good, hope she's fixed her relationship with her family. Hope now that her siblings are grown her life has changed for the better. At this point in my life I'm a lone wolf, I don't have time for friend or company. There's a lot of damaged people out there who seek to use you instead of seeking help. This goes for friendships, relationships and family.

[@dakotahearst908]

These types of issues exist in MANY different ways not just physically or concerning cleaning. My heart goes out to the young lady in the video❤GOD GOT YOU LOVELY❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@dakotahearst908]

I swear I said this before I got to the end😂😂😂I relate so hard with you Destiny ❤❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU BEAUTIFUL❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@devadiosa]

My "family" does this and wonder why if given the choice I would never deal with them again

[@Tokyo_Drift-k3u]

I went through this. I moved out too. I came back to visit the house was dirty. I refuse to clean a house I do not live. Foreign parent treat their daughter like free maids.

[@cecekash1778]

CPS .. the end

[@MJ-oc9fp]

I know this feeling all to well. I am the only clean person in my family.

[@mella4176]

Smart lady hang in there if it gets worst she may want get up out of there fast. Stand your ground.

[@BriannaWeldon]

There’s no benefit in taking the hard way out here. Taking the easy way out of a disadvantaged situation is still a hard experience.

[@thishappycrafter272]

Feels like a hoarding situation

[@kayjonesott]

Love the video quality. Thank you for the video and sharing perspectives.

[@DeannaJacksonDJsDelectables]

There are no words... That is so gross...

[@tb9811]

I feel so sorry for her. Thats real. Listen to her. Its not about her cleaning. Shenis tired of it. The more she cleans, the more they feel entitled to her work. Its a horrible cycle. They may need help. Laziness is a sin to this degree. No one should live like this

[@christineallen450]

🤢🤮You shouldn’t have to clean 🧼 behind no 1 unless it’s a Very sick family member

[@Lovely_Diva]

Im the oldest child and first daughter. Growing up my parents had 4 kids and treated me like the maid and nanny. I started babysitting my two toddler siblings at the age of 9 and they had me cleaning up the whole house by 13. When I got my first job at 17 my mom was attempting to take my money but I stood up for myself and she couldnt do that. Ive gone no contact with them for years, And I will never take care of them when they get very old. My 3 siblings can handle that!!

[@rosiecheeks.k]

This looks more than just mess her parents are hoarders! I love her bedroom pole! I peeped that! Living like that for her is depressing!

[@jbell7105]

She seems really calm about this shit. Idk if it’s a defense mechanism or what. ??? Idk why she has dogs or a turtle tank.

[@maincharactermisty]

I feel in the last couple weeks I’ve been seeing more and more people that had realities similar to mine. People saying it’s a skit shows how slow they gotta be bc you know how many consecutive days of dirt and grime you gotta go before bugs come? food left out, rat ran through morning grains, rat poo, fruit flies everywhere? im glad my house was always clean bc my parents ocd however i had the expense of cleaning most as the 1st born and only girl. every day im glad i was kicked out, i aint goin back and i hope others in similar situations do the same and find ways out and stay out in better places.

[@eveharris30]

I was the cook and cleaner of the house. My moms cooking was crap though.

[@marissa._]

What I don't understand is: why is it that every time a video like this pops up, everyone calls it a "skit"??? Like, what factual based evidence do you have to back that claim/assumption that its "a skit"??? 🤔 This happens more often than you think!

[@saliormoon5534]

Right this happens in real life 😢

[@Shay-rx4xu]

Cause they are shitty too like the parents so they rather gaslight her so they own family don't realize they not shit either n put them on blast also so they saying it's fake so when they eventually get put on blast u think they're scenario fake too so they can keep living in denial

[@felinechanel]

@@saliormoon5534fr I’m living proof so it ain’t a skit

[@mine4532]

There is a deeper problem here…. the entire family needs therapy

[@madelineimani4752]

Meanwhile I have to fuss at mine to get her chore list done. This is so sad and wrong. Children aren’t responsible for your squalor. 😔

[@FireSilver25]

What a nightmare! I hope she gets away soon. 😢

[@ifyouonlyknew34]

Thank you for you intro, Destiny. It's something I hope to continue to preach in my own content creating journey coming up. You're my inspiration, ma'am. Thank you for showing the world what is going on, because it needs to be seen, no matter the platform. I stand by it.

[@DestinyUteh]

Thank you so much 🫶❤️🫶🫶

[@QueenAnaya-x7b]

That is super nasty 🤮 they need psychological help.

[@michaelhrivnak9463]

Only a foolish mother favors one child over another. Forcing one child, usually the oldest daughter, to take care of their duties, even making their youngest child the older child's responsibility is not only unfair, it's cruel. ,

[@txspacemom765]

Oh and from someone with an older perspective now, this is their way of roadblocking you to your success. They know you can do it, but that would mean to them, that YOU are doing better than them, even if you don't think that way. Fly sister fly!

[@GrievingSister]

Strangers gets the respect

[@jenkinsmontgomery6459]

People be sleeping on community colleges. You get that associates and come out making just as much as someone with a 4 year degree. These jobs are wanting you to have a 4 year degree for no other reason than to have a bachelor's degree that's not really needed. You just writing a bunch of papers.

[@Nikk76]

Hoarding is a sign of some form of mental issue/illness. In as much as they want to do better, they may not be able to. They may need professional help besides that of cleaning.

[@cocoapretty2251]

She is stressed and not truly functioning... peace and blessings to her.

[@honeybee4361]

This Young Woman needs therapy and her own place where she can have peace of mind ❗️❗️

[@chattycatty3336]

My aunt and uncle live like this. When i was a kid they had me playing babysitter, doing the dishes, and cleaning my cousins room that she would ALWAYS mess up. They had mountain dew boxes stacked in a corner, nearly touching the ceiling. In the hall by the bathroom was a literal mountain of clothes, taller than i was. Theyed leave pots with moldy food on the stove for weeks, and their porch had a single pathway in and out of the door. Rn they live in a different house, one my grandma owns, and they trash it to. But i dont go over there anymore cause theyre the same way the were. The county was literally sending complaints because of how much garabage they had outside, and they didnt even try to clean it. My grandpa had to go clean it up with a truck trailer. (It was messy again within 3 weeks.) Also theyre extremely lazy. I remember once when i was a kid they yelled for me and my cousin, we were on the other end of the house and they yelled like it was URGENT so we ran in there. My aunt looks at me and goes "can you turn on the air conditioner?"......... It was literally 2 feet away.... She just didnt want to stand up. Edit: Omg the thing she said about "if i clean up, theyll go in there JUST to dirty it" is SO fucking true!!! My other uncle does that shit. If i do doshes and clean the kitchen, he goes in there, looks around, and eats JUST because he can. Doesnt matter how late i wait to clean or how soon it is after dinner, he sees clean dishes, he wants to dirty them.

[@louisewilliams9417]

I hear this is very common in the black community. That the girls are treated like the maids. Despite the mess, they have a decent home because they all have en suit room. I understand my mother always expected me to clean the kitchen, if it wasn't done the sink would be full of plates. She was raised to be the maid of her family.

[@ashlid5653]

god bless her

[@IssiaDehaney-zy3bh]

The mother look like she was in the healthcare field so she could be fired if she’s charged or anything So the mother could say you know what I need to put her out because she’s jeopardizing my freedom and my job

[@StillAlive-t8e]

“It is said that demons love a dirty messy house & cleanliness in next to Godliness” That poor babygirl has to get outta there asap ! She can not function in that type of environment it will literally clutter your brain & train of thoughts. Praying for her🥺🙏🏽💕

[@geminicattheinsomniac8408]

Facts,