David Talks With a Therapist About Being Cheated on and Discusses the Signs of a Toxic Relationship

[@stephanylizardi6455]

I fucking love DAVID. The way he expresses himself in a comedic, intellectual, and emotional way is so inspiring . Each way he expresses himself is so genuine that’s why I love it !! There is nothing unauthentic about him. I think that’s why I’m so impressed by him, and why I want to see more of him. I know this man doesn’t need anyone’s validation so what comes out of him is straight up David So and I’m sooo here for it. LOVE YOU LONG TIME DAVID !! Haha

[@ericamoua7426]

You say you’d leave if they cheat but truthfully building a relationship again is hard and takes time.. who wants to go through it again.

[@roryroopa]

This whole podcast convinced me to restart therapy. Thanks for being so vulnerable, David. Thanks, therapist Liz. Literally bawling my eyes out after listening to this.

[@coupleshealingcenter]

David’s kind-hearted vulnerability really reached many people here. ❤

[@drummerJunJun]

I need to restart therapy too haha.

[@iloveyellow7214]

This made me cry while washing the dishes. They were talking about therapy and david was sharing about anger issues and then it dawned on me that some physical manifestations of my body reacting reacting to it is because Im suppressing it and not facing it head on Thank you David

[@iceis4209]

Having a therapist, someone to talk to and just dump everything probably feels really nice. I wish I had something like that because it’s hard to analyze yourself sometimes. You need someone to tell you n reassure you about shit

[@DavidSoComedy]

Follow Liz on instagram and reach out if you think she could help you in anyway :) Follow Liz Wee on Insta: @CouplesHealingCenter

[@lol19ization]

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[@EpiCceen]

This podcast resonates with me so much. I just broke up with my ex last week. We were together for seven years and I would give benefit of the doubt all the time. He would change a little bit and then say he would do better so I would have hope. But then true change never happened. He also kept subtly telling me he wanted to sleep with other women. And I kept gaslighting myself into thinking that it was okay that he said those things to me. I justified his actions for him even though I was suffering. Thank you sooo much for this podcast. It validates a lot of the feelings I had after my breakup.

[@coolbreeze-x5x]

Being cheated on suuucks. It's happened twice to me. I've forgiven them both, and they apologized. That being said, it's hard to go back to the person you were before, after a deep betrayal. Sometimes we get red flags and need to bale out of the relationship, but we don't lol

[@RustleXer]

Another great conversation piece you had. Solid to bring on Liz and have an open discussion about mental health. An important one to be had in this day and age.

[@Kamorok01]

bro how did you even hear the whole thing when it just came out 15 minutes ago… You fake fan 🫤

[@PhreestyleNYC]

Damn, I relate to this one a lot because I was cheated on aswell when I was with that person for 2 years, her excuse was I “worked too much” and this was me after highschool Pursuing a career so that I can make a living for the both of us. It’s hard for me to remember the exact feeling it felt when I got the news, I just have memory that it’s was a form of pain that felt like the worst torture my mind can think of that would reach to my stomach and back to my throat. Because of this I had trauma that I didn’t know I had which made me pretty emotionless mainly because I had such a bullet proof guard I didn’t want to put myself in that position of having feelings that deeply. My current relationship was the person who made me aware that I was emotionless and that she needed more affection, after that everyday I tried harder and harder to make sure I can show love and not let the past affect my current relationship. We’ve been happily together for nearly 3 years now. If it wasn’t for her having communication on how she felt I would’ve never known my flaws and I wouldn’t have fixed that. So communication is important.

[@drewmirage]

Guys i'm pretty sure David is talking about one of his past relationships of being cheated on. He dicussed it on the podcast before. Also Much Love David So !

[@SG-cv4pf]

Yeah he's talking about the girl before Mariel

[@PatDaBaker851]

Understandable, but also understandable how people might reach that conclusion based on the title.

[@jayh6135]

im fr not tryna instigate but sometimes people want answers and dont want to openly say who and what. Not saying it was mariel but i havent seen her on here in a minute

[@DemonandAngellife]

They're dumbasses if they don't realize this. It was obvious.

[@DemonandAngellife]

@@jayh6135 stop trying to start rumors. She legit was on his podcast a short couple episodes ago. Y'all always trying to make up shit and blow up someone's relationship over assumptions with not evidence to back it up.

[@windnamedhaku]

I loved this episode. I totally relate with the family thing. Must be an Asian thing. My parents are similar to David's. I understand that my parents were always in survival mode and couldn't take care of us the way we wanted. It was the best they could do/afford at the moment in their lives. I sound like I need therapy but low key if I had Liz Wee as my therapist I would fall in love. She's smart, beautiful, and listens. The way she moved her hair in this video was eye catching. But that cheating thing David spoke of, most people can relate. I could never go back to a person who cheated on me. I hate being alone but I would rather be alone forever than be with the person who betrayed me.

[@jayh6135]

I don't care what anyone says, there's no excuse or silver lining when it comes to cheating. If you're that unhappy then break up and then go about your business with no problems. If you're staying in a bad relationship where you're unhappy, that's just as much of a disservice as going and betraying your partner behind their back. Being on both sides of the coin when it comes to the subject, it's a terrible and immature thing to do.

[@FoNgThOnG]

It's good to see Liz back on the show!

[@SeeHang]

so only a few minutes in and i’m already bent over deep with emotions over here. already going down memory lane with life choices and being unfilial when i also come to realize that the great word war 2 had generational echoes of trauma in addition to the vietnam war too being hmong. i’m reminded that my parents didn’t want to come to america, they didn’t have a future and fled genocide. my fathers old age he wanted to die on a farm. my mother for the last 20 years has been muted with the horrors of being disabled from 2 strokes. i don’t think life is fair but you take what wins you can because no one is counting them for you but you. let’s hope i don’t have a follow up cuz i’m only 3:20 in 😂😂😂

[@gnizzlenoele]

I am fairly new to your podcast and really enjoy your jokes, banter, friendship, content etc with Tim on dudes behind the foods. I decided to browse your own personal/podcast channel and am becoming a quick fan. (Not the first time Tim has put me onto cool people with enjoyable content i.e. I am a huge fan of @thatchickangel now because of Tim). Anyhow, i grew up in Cerritos, CA where there is/ was a huge Asian, especially Korean, population, so i am pretty familiar with the culture and you definitely remind me of some of my Korean friends growing up. I appreciate the way you express your pov, whether I agree all the time or not, I respect your honesty when sharing your own experiences, past and present. This episode was a very vulnerable side of you I haven't witnessed yet (again, I'm new to your content), but I enjoyed and appreciated seeing this serious side of you behind all the jokes (which I enjoy equally as much), and it definitely has me wanting to binge a bunch of your episodes now. Just wanted to show love. Can't wait to see more!

[@KarateSHOES00]

Thank you David for reminding her to speak closer into the mic!

[@earthcolours_]

Brah I'm only a 1/3 way through this episode and it's helped me greatly. Thanks for sharing

[@chinesebeefcake]

That moment when you're going through this exact thing, and David releases this episode covering this topic.

[@VangKevinCatfish]

One of my favorite DavidSo podcasts

[@HK47_115]

I would take such a long breaks in between from the shows? I need to start binge watching David's podcast again. Always feel better after it. I don't know how you do wit David, but your podcast feels like therapy sometimes.

[@d.636]

swear every time I’m going thru some shit. David’s podcast topics always are centered around whatever it is I’m going thru almost like he knows even tho I know he doesn’t. just a strange phenomenon I’ve noticed since the start of GB

[@stevenvu8395]

What an interesting Podcast Idea of actually bringing on a Therapist and talking through some feelings

[@Cocozfinest]

What a great Idea for a podcast. Love this discussion!

[@jayywong1231]

Thank you David, such a timely video for me.

[@sorc5772]

Liz episodes have to be one of my favorites.

[@michm6780]

I love these videos ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Thanks David! Mental health and soul fulfillment

[@troiscaniche4937]

People also date the potential of a person and not seeing them for who they are now. That isn't always bad, but if the other person doesn't recognize or want to change and grow.... The one never actually in a relationship with that imagined potential.

[@DutchesLove1926]

This was awesome ✨ so appreciate it

[@YangBang231]

Thank you for this podcast David. ❤

[@06MPST]

I can’t help but get distracted by the fact the water bottles are just the top half of an average sized bottle😂

[@jry611]

Great episode David!

[@MALVURN]

a video that I needed, thank you.

[@TvisZ]

Therapy sessions with Liz on Genius Brain~

[@sloppyswitch878]

Yooo, this episode hit a raw wound I didn’t know I had , I need therapy.

[@kimmiebungahh5171]

'settling' has a bad rep. But honestly, if he's loyal, got your back and loves you through thick and thin, everything else is a bonus. Aba and Preach have great content about these topics! Pls have them on this podcast!

[@douayang8976]

Well, guys can't be simps either. I found out that women want a man who can also be a strong leader. They want to feel protected. If she senses any form of weakness from the guy, she'll cheat on him.

[@BBoyDrkNova]

David ! What’s the other podcast that Liz was on ?! I can’t see it ?! More like I don’t know which one it is ! >.

[@coupleshealingcenter]

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[@cookpadre9264]

so much korean and very few translations :( Great pod tho as always!

[@bradcha5413]

i love Liz, shes great

[@jh0720]

24:58 This has always bugged me too!!! I just don’t understand 😂😂

[@rjaxxxas]

14:20:00

[@joshbkimmusic]

Guys… IT WASN’T MARIEL!! Please actually listen to the podcast. You’re missing out on some really great talks. Thanks for another podcast David!

[@TamaChien]

It's always weird to hear the same story of David's from another perspective. Who would've thought

[@testing123.]

Dang this episode made me start looking for a therapist 😅

[@beverlybeng]

I’m loving this

[@TORULEZ10]

Does anyone remember the other episodes with Liz? This was so interesting, I'm tryna find it!

[@coupleshealingcenter]

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[@timothylee3260]

my name tim lee must doesn’t have would’ve made many different choices and he was not the best choice following all this years ago exit trip plan was explained must’ve been an option past expiration dates travel time was not due until after that date i think it was an option too long before experience spoke true truth about this situation and it was the only option i could think to get a refund for it because it wasn’t my way past trial expenses even though the money i made was due form i have been paying my transfer expense

[@timothylee3260]

impossible doesn’t make sense it’s existing mysteries and the fact they are all right explains parts true to their origin and how it was built and built and then the story goes back to what it had originated experience seems to have been lost on us and we have no way of finding it and we don’t even remember it yet and it’s already a new one but it’s not even exciting don’t think it is new it’s just the beginning of the new chapter in our lives and we just have been living and we don’t know what’s coming out of it exactly past that it has a very new beginning but it just seems so much longer it’s november 1th 2023 esoteric place exists and it’s just the way things start going and it’s a new one it’s truly expanding

[@Dantemojares]

For those of you that have been cheated on, what were some ways from preventing bringing that baggage to a new relationship?

[@brianl8250]

What if they are actually a diagnosed hyper sensitive person?

[@testing123.]

52:48 🤣 thats like me n my mom

[@leftovers923]

What if a therapist needs therapy? Do they talk to themselves free of charge?

[@coupleshealingcenter]

I myself go to therapy still every week still :) it’s a self-exploration/self-care for me. I learned to not wait till a crisis moment to work on myself 😉

[@06MPST]

I assume this is a joke and doesn’t require an answer but fun fact a lot of therapist have their own therapists. Got this answer from a therapist.

[@aldyhong958]

Holdup David got cheated on? Tf? First time being back to this channel after like 2 years. Last thing I remember was him proposing a WHILE back.

[@TheYeetBlaster]

it was from a previous relationship

[@bradcha5413]

hes brought it up a few times in past podcast

[@ethansou]

Mariel didn't cheat. They were past relationships.

[@aldyhong958]

@@TheYeetBlaster Gotcha. I was about to be baffled and say MARIEL RLY BRUH.

[@KasheYan15]

lol david u keep asking ur guests to talk closer but i can hear them fine every time 😅

[@MartyD]

so much stigma regarding mental health with asian americans 😢

[@emmanuelgarcia7027]

Daveeeed

[@troiscaniche4937]

❤️

[@V4Now]

I don't know a man that cares or wants a woman making 6 figures, women are very weird about wanting to be soooooo much.😑

[@testing123.]

Not sure what you mean about the 2nd statement of women wanting so much, can you clarify ?

[@HK47_115]

@@testing123. I think he means like what David was talking about. Wanted to be everything and do everything when they probably don't understand how unrealistic it is. Like wanted to be the full-time career woman and a full-time mother as well. You can't really do that because they're going to conflict with each other. Kids are going to take away time from the career. And the career is going to take away time from the family. And this would be the same thing if the genders were reversed. They want to have their cake and eat it too. There's no way you're going to be able to be a full-time parent if you're also full time at work 9 to 12 hours straight whatever that job maybe. Even if it's a stay-at-home desktop you are going to be more at that desk than playing around with your kids. Of course you can have both, but she can't have a hundred percent of both a hundred percent of the time. She'll need a proper work-life balance because she could never give her full to both things at once. Unless you can commence in mitosis and split herself into two. Some of these women don't realize they're basically saying they want to be two places at once. Just because they see some men doing it when in reality that's not exactly what they are doing. It just looks like it when in reality they're probably taking a break off of work to be with your family. Then when they're at work they give it their all. And of course this actually ties in a little bit to the first thing she said because a lot of women think that that's necessary in order for her to be a good woman to the children or even her husband or both. A lot of these women don't realize they're putting too much and unrealistic expectations on themselves for themselves. It's great for them to have a go, you got to stay within the realm of reality. No man or woman can do-it-all full-time. It's unrealistic. Also some women think that they need to make six figures in order to find a decent wealthy man or at the very least financially stable. I noticed, fast women who would make a decent mother. Which is hilarious because that's how women go about looking for a guy. A guy doesn't date women like that. They're trying to date men like how many do for women. Admittedly care about that because we're constantly told since we come out of the womb that when we grow up were supposed to be the providers and their protectors. Especially if you have siblings that's the thing you're going to constantly be told. You're always going to be there to provide and protect for your siblings. That's your family and your a boy in the boy should always protect and provide for the family. How your talk to do that may depend on how you're raised. Cuz I was taught just making sure your family is taken care of and safe and healthy is more than enough. No need to be Superman. But regardless this is generally the same thing all guys are taught going up and it sticks with us as we grow older. Then come the time we're interested in dating that's going to be total us as something that's typically seen as an attractive trait to women. Whether it be by their parents, friends, other family members, etc etc. That's what we're taught. So that's why it's going to matter to a man. But for a woman you don't need to do that because you're not dating a woman. You're trying to date a man. So someone they're trying to be standards that men were taught to be for women because that's what women are interested in. But men are not interested in the same thing. So they're not accomplishing anything by trying to make six figures other than giving herself a good career which is not a bad thing. But it should be for her and not a man. I'm going back to the first thing my guy set up above, guys don't care about that. Because we're the ones taught to be the providers. We don't care about that growing up and when we get into dating we don't care about that it'll woman. We only care about that because it's told that were expected to be that's from a woman. At least depending on the type of woman cuz of course not every woman wants the same thing. And usually guys are not going to give a damn about that or don't want that in a woman at all. And if it's okay to be in a relationship with a woman that makes more or is told that it makes you less of a man and some people are taught to us by their parents, which is fucked up. And when I say parents I mean both of them. Not just a dad, but the mother also reinforces this bullshit. And that's why sometimes you got guys who have a problem with this. A manifest as an insecurity. Other guys just don't care because that's not what they typically look for or wanting a woman so it makes no sense for that to be a standard a woman strives for in order to get a man. That's only things women look for. Not men. That's not to say that the ones that don't care what welcome it. Like David don't welcome the fact that maybe they could be at home or at least half less financial stress cuz their partner will contribute a good portion of the income. But at least with dating it doesn't matter to a guy and it's never ever ever ever going to be something we ever look for or focus on. So for women to even think that it's necessary in order to get a good partner is ridiculous and they're doing too much for themselves. I know that's a lot to consume, but I swear it was all connected and I wanted to show how it was all connected. The short version, well we already got it above. If a woman wants to be a career women in a family woman at the same time and that's great. But they shouldn't torture themselves with these unrealistic standards that guys don't even give a damn about in the first place. Now maybe they're not doing it for a man but to prove something to themselves. What do they have to prove? That they are a hard worker? I've been depending on where they are at life as far as financial stability and financial problems is good enough to say that they work hard to earn what they have. They should do less proving something to themselves and just enjoy the fruits of their labor. And some of them want to blame society society doesn't always know what's right for the individual. And that's no excuse for the decisions that you made for yourself cuz nobody has control over you but you. If you decide to listen to society's bulshit unrealistic standards and that's your own fault. And he'll, they have them for everybody. Not just the women.

[@HK47_115]

@@testing123. *tldr* because I don't care to hear back from you complaining you don't want to read a novel which, if you don't want to don't read it. I don't need you to announce it. Women are simply trying to be the standard that was originally meant for men to begin with. In order to either get a man of good value, true something to themselves, or prove something to society when in reality they don't have shit to prove. Guys don't care about that because that's not a trailer value were taught to look for in women. We're taught that that's what women look for in Us. However is an unrealistic standards that men have stopped trying to fit or prove in the first place and now women are just doing it to themselves now. And a lot of men are trying to tell them that this is not the wrong they want to go down because they or their parents or family or friend has already been down this road and they regret it. But some don't care to hear it until they actually go through it and they wonder why they're not happy. They want too much and they're doing too much to themselves. Putting too much weight on their shoulders. Especially when most of them are already in a good place and just really need to relax and just enjoy the fruits of their labor. And just live life.

[@testing123.]

@@HK47_115 oh you coulda replied "see timestamp 1:39:00 they cover that here" because i read and write comments in vid as i watch. but um.. yeah.

[@testing123.]

Also.. having a single mom for awhile i really admired her gumption to be there for us. She was our breadwinner not thinking about money or status, but that she could raise her 3 kids comfortably. I think girls growing up with that life think about their strong moms and want to be like them, to which i say to them, you will be strong like her one day. Life or succes wont have to look like how your mom did it. you dont have to be her, but if you remember to work for the right things in life like she did, you will have success too.

[@kylax916]

Didn't even watch it yet but I 👍

[@stormi.rose007]

Que!!!😮

[@RxsSmith]

Whaaaaaaaat

[@smoothoperator7855]

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[@psp785]

(Before watching I'm gonna comment) tsk tsk Damn Mariel smh 😳

[@jh0720]

It’s not Mariel lol real OGs know

[@alishapavelzik]

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