DBT Skills Radical Acceptance

[@rayhenderson3546]

Great video, thanks very much. I am struggling with a few things I must accept and your words are helping.

[@CobraAquinas]

I was going to toss this concept out as another nonsensical practice, until this video; thanks for being practical and clear in your words.

[@MechaJutaro]

It's not nonsensical so much as it as a buzzword, like so much else in DBT. It can mean anything, or nothing, and whether or not one is truly practicing it is debatable

[@CobraAquinas]

@@MechaJutaro I got a good chuckle out of this, the only reason being, is that I literally cannot figure any of that at out and honestly, I'm not interested in trying lol.

[@MechaJutaro]

@@CobraAquinas You can't figure it out, just as no one can figure out what the hell Radical Acceptance is

[@CobraAquinas]

@@MechaJutaro LMFAO

[@Sereneis]

The best explanation of RA in utube.

[@adolfosilva3883]

This is the best summary of radical acceptance on KZbin IMO.

[@Newhouse846]

I was once fired from a job I hated and was afraid to leave. It was the best thing that could have happened to me. I learned from that experience that when in pain I try to look at it as a lesson. It works

[@teeahtate]

Thanks for sharing.

[@alphadog3384]

Well described this can be tricky, good skill to gain knowledge with experience.

[@lindahebb4832]

Thank you for posting

[@death2theworld]

Thank you so much for this

[@blisteredblues1255]

Acceptance is not approval. Thank you for saying that.

[@silryn]

Very good thank you

[@luciamixon4156]

Long suffering 2010. I must Radical Acceptance. I can't embrace it but need acceptance. It's not okay great point.

[@christawalters7466]

So I need to accept that I had no mother and a negligent drug addled father. I can grieve my childhood and forgive my father for choosing drugs over interactions. Now I’m 50 and have struggled with letting go of him, I’ve been stuck in a loop. So radical acceptance tells me that he’s not going to change, I must change to get out of the loop. The only way to change and keep my core Christian beliefs of honoring my parents ( worthy or not) is to walk away and leave all expectations of any future relationship with him behind?

[@billmoran6957]

Accepting that he is not capable of having a relationship might be helpful. My father chose alcohol. I never let go I just stopped being angry with him I learned to forgive him, and then I made the best of the relationship he was capable of having. As a Christian, I honored him as my father by recognizing his humanity, including all the ugly.

[@Sereneis]

You don't listen well. You can accept ur horrible past w/o liking it or u can fight ur reality (what u are doing). But if u fight facts that u don't like (unpleasant reality that can't be changed) u will continue living in misery. There are only 2 choices accepting radically or rejecting ur reality. Watch the video again. I am 70, accepting that my reality is hell due to my family and bipol a r disorder. This video changed my life.

[@robryandjdrops]

Jesus calls it forgiveness. So yeah. Move on, for yourself. For your health. For you. Holy spirit gets credit.

[@katyuha555]

You.nedd to Accept tjat it happened, it was Terri le but Therese nothing you vän do. It was done .it legat trauma...and we need to Accept it

[@je3293]

The way radical acceptance is defined here, everyone already does it without thinking, it's not a skill. If it's just saying, 'This sucks, but it's happening...' everyone already does that. I mean, if I'm getting stabbed, I'm not thinking, 'Gee, I wish I wasn't getting stabbed right now, it sort of sucks, but I accept that I'm being stabbed right now, so whatever.' No, you're thinking, 'I'm being fucking stabbed, make this stop immediately.' If you just radically accept you're being stabbed, well... I guess you'll die thinking you had radical acceptance figured out a few moments later.

[@MechaJutaro]

This(what is meant by "acceptance")is a serious flaw in all of the mindfulness, heavy therapies, all of which were created by self-described flower children of the 60s and 70s, who took Buddhist concepts out of their religious contexts and have tried to fit them into a secular mold. Whether or not one is practicing "true" acceptance is in the eye of the beholder

[@luciamixon4156]

Depends on the individual person temperament and what horror has transpired. Not second nature to all to accept quickly.

[@RickJaworski]

Your statement that all lives are worth living was assumed and not proved. Moreover, you cannot prove it. You are a liar.