DBT Skills: Wise Mind, Emotional Mind & Reasonable Mind

[@mannybohorquez6668]

Love the way this intervention is broken down.

[@LuvaRN-h7b]

Working on learning these skills with my therapist. So glad I found your videos. I tend to operate from emotion mind working on operating out of wise mind. Thank you for your videos.😊

[@elizabethobeirne5498]

I just finished a 3 week intensive DBT course. This video is a fantastic refresher and reinforcer to Wise Mind. I'm going to come back to it whenever I need to engage in Wise Mind and become that stone again. Thank you.

[@rebeccathompson3093]

I was trying to make a decision and it quickly resolved. I have my decision.

[@Jeremy-fd2pw]

Calm, awareness, gut feeling, intimacy, intimacy

[@bobhanover4841]

Thank You for the video, My therapist sent this to me. I did a DBT zoom group this year and I'm finding that you really need to continue studying this stuff and understanding the theory of it all.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks for sharing!

[@DNCT]

Yup! It’s like learning to drive a car. You can’t do it all in one class or lesson. It’s lots of memorizing and real life practice. And like driving, you might suck in the beginning but after a while, it’s all muscle memory and you can just know what to do without thinking about it as long.

[@darla4042]

Me toooooo! 😁

[@nikkijubilant]

Of course. The point is to grow a healthy mindset.

[@kathleenmajka7056]

Thanks!

[@ambertaylor6558]

I going to disagree with "theres no trick or guaranteed way to 'invoke' wise mind all you can do is open up to it and listen". I believe hope is important and just "trying to hear wise mind" again and again is possibly the worst advice we could give for highly emotional people with racing thoughts all day. No one has the tenacity to master meditation by constant failure. That part of the video really hit me hard and i felt so much sadness and loss of hope after all that excellent content! There are easy to follow techniques which work within about 20seconds that i train people with ADHD to use all the time. I've been mediating for abou 25 years and specialise in teaching people with busy, anxious minds how to reach that state where you can hear "wise mind" with simple steps that bring hope and excitement because they work. Heres one: if you have a busy mind, if you have ADHD or anxiety these are especially useful: 1. imagine your attention is like a bored puppy. It wants to play. It wants to find something fun to do, but because we keep trying to tell it to "be quiet" it gets bored and starts tearing up cushions. 2. so instead. lets play with our puppy mind and give it treats when it does well. 3. Okay puppy mind.. i want you to focus on my thumb on my right hand! great! well done! 4. Okay puppy mind, are you ready for a challenge? Now i want you to focus with ALLL your might on my index finger on my right hand! thats it.. what temperature is it? what does the air feel like on it? what does the fabric of my clothes feel like as it touches it? by this point someone with ADHD even can realise their thoughts have stopped racing and they're starting to learn how to access that depth of meditation where we can hear from the wise mind... and thats about 10 seconds in. There are dozens of easy to follow practises like these which can help people with busy minds learn how to drop into meditation immediately within about 4 weeks of daily practise. It's not hard and its important that when we teach mindfullness we don't abandon those people for whom mindfullness is "too hard" to teach simply because we choose not to learn how those sorts of people can reach those states. People get disheartened when they hear all this great stuff in DBT and then dont get taught how the rubber hits the road and how they can actually practically embrace it.

[@nikkijubilant]

I agree with you. It's why I like meditation

[@smallgalaxy7509]

Thank you

[@LaurenLaguna]

Wow, amazing video! Wise mind can be such a hard concept for folks. So glad I found your channel. Your videos are going to be so helpful to share with clients. I just became a member of your channel today. Thank you so much!

[@SelfHelpToons]

That's so nice to hear. Thanks so much!

[@ericgarcia7502]

Good stuff! Very well explained. Peace and Love from Kentucky.....Stay with it.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks!

[@sarahwashere05]

I ship wise mind and emotional mind 🗣🗣🔥‼️‼️

[@ramsayeveringham8562]

Thankyou. The way you share the material is super accessible. Lots of gratitude to your facilitative spirit:))

[@SelfHelpToons]

Glad it was helpful!

[@dp1663-v5k]

Loving your videos. Thank you so much for them.

[@irmanetheunstoppable5885]

Thank you so much, sometimes I am about to pick up the phone and tell someone what I think about them which would only hurts myself ( I guess). Now, I will be able to differenciate is it my emotional, my rational, or my wise mine speaking to me...

[@antoinettefriloux6658]

I love love these videos. I feel I understand you hear videos and you teaching these concepts and the techniques where I really understand it better. Thank you I love this and it makes so much more sense.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks, that's so nice to hear.

[@antoinettefriloux6658]

Yes very you are talented and I am learning because of you thank you so much

[@susandavidson8078]

So helpful and clear. Your explanation is easy to memorize so I can apply these principals to real life conflict sitations.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks, that's great to hear.

[@kyliemckorkell4892]

Amazing what the mind is capable of...

[@catherinesinclair7727]

Thank you. Really helpful. I feel peaceful now.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks for letting me know!

[@catherinesinclair7727]

​​​@@SelfHelpToons just came back to this video. 2 years further on my healing journey I noticed even more. So helpful. Thank you

[@muskduh]

thanks for the video presentation

[@suealessi2606]

Excellent video. Educational and interesting.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks, glad you enjoyed it!

[@queenyjones4620]

I like all the videos they really help me to understand my dbt workbook.❤

[@eldalazaj7240]

Thank you. Your videos help a lot in daily life even for those who have not BPD but challenge some of the traits

[@SelfHelpToons]

Glad to hear it. I think DBT is a great way to manage emotions and distress regardless of whether or not someone has BPD.

[@AlexRTash]

Absolutely loved this video. Very informative!

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks, glad you liked it!

[@AlexRTash]

@@SelfHelpToons I struggle with anxiety attacks and think someone is going to hurt me while it’s happening, due to past experiences, even though I’m not in that environment anymore. It helped me a lot to see the three minds and realize I was in emotional mind, not wise mind. Would love to see more videos about how emotions/your brain can lie to you in situations! Love your videos!

[@mariasanders-audelo3320]

Thank you, one day I’ll like to do what you do to help my Hispanic community. I love your videos and they help me so much, I have the 2nd edition workbook and I go to a DBT peer support group on Zoom.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks so much for your comment and I'm glad you find the videos helpful.

[@selfhelp6749]

Fantastic !

[@SelfHelpToons]

Glad you like it!

[@Star-dj1kw]

❤ excellent

[@pingboucher4767]

Thank you 📡🪶💓

[@jocelynstewart1186]

thank you

[@Veteran365]

Thank you

[@usmanyounis4505]

if i am not wrong we can say that our heart connect with emotional mind. mean to say our heart and emotional mind are two name of one thing❤

[@BlueVelvetBear]

Great video thanks, I wish you didn't allow ads, but I get it.

[@jozuajoubert2749]

Thank you.

[@tashisangmo4065]

Wow very good

[@mamapenguin101]

I am loving your videos! However, I'm unable to find your handouts in the pinned comments. Where do I look for them?

[@SelfHelpToons]

I don't have any worksheets for this video. Videos that do have worksheets should have a link in the description and comments

[@stomachhurts2044]

Cool concept

[@amysergeant5409]

Very good video!

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks!

[@Louise-yj3uv]

Hello This is an excellent video. I love how clear it’s explained! I did have a question. can you get in to wise mind or practice getting in to wise mind without using breath work? Thank you! Louise

[@SelfHelpToons]

Sure. I guess most of the examples I used are breathing in ... breathing out ... but that's just a way to help focus your mind. You can just try them without the breath part. The Stone Flakes on a Lake exercise doesn't use breathing, and there's also a Spiral Staircase exercise here bit.ly/3MucLPD

[@speedypete3725]

HOW DOES THIS WORK WHEN YOUR MIND IS RACING WITH THOUGHTS?

[@wonderingworld119]

First you need to learn how to calm your mind. With practice you can get good at blanking out the past and the future and stay in the moment. It is the first thing you must master in learning DBT. The problem with DBT is it takes a lot of work, so other paths like CBT are sometimes used as it requires less time to pick up. But for those suffering from life threatening mental problems, or people who have destroyed everything they loved and really need hope, it is a great answer. It does not fix the past, it does fix the present and with that you can have a better future.

[@CesarSandoval024]

Dont fix the thoughts because they dissapear as soon as one ends. Focus on reparing the self in the moment.

[@balgutaini3046]

Wow amazing

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks!

[@Daniiii543]

Do you think that we can have all of these types of personalities at the same time and take a right control of them?

[@sauravgupta4103]

i have poorly developed sense of self at age 20 .have recently consultesd a psychiatrist , she said I dont have BPD . Now am going through CBT and some coping mechanism of DBT . Will it help me to regain my sense of self . Please reply.

[@SelfHelpToons]

Hi Saurav, thanks for your question. Without having a chance to consult with you in person, it would be unethical for me to offer an assessment or opinion about your specific situation. In general, DBT can help people gain a sense of self through the mindfulness skills and in particular wise mind, and a mindfulness meditation practice can also help. If you're still working with the psychiatrist then I would defer to their judgement. If not, I think finding a professional who can help guide you through the a process like this would be very valuable.

[@sauravgupta4103]

@@SelfHelpToons can you say if I practice wise mind, mindfulness and some coping mechanism of DBT, how long ( years , months ) will it take to regain my sense of self ?

[@SelfHelpToons]

@@sauravgupta4103 I'm sorry, even if I knew more about you and your situation and we had a therapeutic relationship, I wouldn't know how to put a timeline on something like this. It's not a binary issue where you either have a sense of self or don't .Practicing mindfulness meditation and developing wise mind can help people develop a sense of self, but it doesn't happen all at once. It unfolds over a period of time, and how quickly and to what extent is going to vary from person to person and depend on a number of factors. Some people might notice some changes relatively quickly; for others it can be a longer process. I know it's not always possible, but finding a professional who can help you work through this would be very valuable.

[@sauravgupta4103]

@@SelfHelpToons okay sir , if you would like to make a video on wise mind regaining sense of self , it would be very helpful . Thanks.

[@SelfHelpToons]

I'm not sure I'll get around to making a video on this topic because it's not really an area where I have a lot of experience, but I'd recommend reading the free chapter, "Find Your True Self: Wise Mind," that you can get from this page: www.newharbinger.com/free-excerpt-bpd-wisemind by filling out your name and email address

[@khadijachowhan5560]

wonderful !

[@SelfHelpToons]

Many thanks!

[@ShruthiLakshminarayana]

Thank you ❣️

[@missyheivy]

Negative emotions= negative thoughts= negative words and actions= negative consequences.

[@tinajoplin9535]

Hello just wondering I was tought taught taught that putting our guts in our stumicks makes for sickness

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks for your question. I'm not sure how to respond because I don't know the context in which you were taught that, but in this context "gut" is just a metaphor for using intuition instead of reasoned thinking. This is a common metaphor, and is related to the Chinese "dantian" (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dantian ), the Japanese "hara" (ihreiki.com/blog/the_deeper_meaning_of_hara/?v=3e8d115eb4b3 ) and the Vedic "Manipura" (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manipura ). It's located somewhere just below the navel and between the stomach and spine, so not actually in the stomach.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Tina, To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, at office, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes. Senior Counsellor.

[@DWSP101]

Looking for a licensed therapist to help me learn how to teach DBT and how to do the therapy for someone who suffers from BPD I am a bit of a savant in some ways just because I'm a little bit different on the spectrum so this type of stuff is picked up like second nature and I need someone to teach me the techniques the methods of communication skills and dialogue in any type of information that would be useful to learn how to properly use DBT to treat a person with BPD. Yes I have struggled with a person close to me and I had literally consumed knowledge on narcissism psychosis neurosis psychopathy sociopathy borderline personality antisocial and cluster b personalities trauma bonding philosophy with stoicism objectism nihilism first principle thinking and even the study of the opposite sex mind and differences and the way that they think. relationship communication skills understanding past traumas of individuals and psychological subjects that can cause triggers emotional outburst everything I have literally been learning this stuff for three and a half years now self taught. not good with my own communicationl skills but by learning and understanding all of this I have literally gained an immense amount of knowledge to a level I would consider a savant but I know very little about treatment methods when it comes to BPD only recently learned about DBT and I'm looking to absorb that knowledge so that I can better assist a person who I care about with BPD is there anyone that can teach me how to be a therapist in that area of specialties note I am a self-taught individual. Note I'm no different than anyone else I have my own problems but because of my absolute capability of focusing on a subject or matter that interests me which means a person close to me I can hyper focus. I'm a bit autistic. Is there anyway you can point me in the right direction to literally learn the treatment methods and how DBT is used and how to use it in the correct method I literally need to learn this to heal someone or help someone heal.

[@SelfHelpToons]

You can find a list of certified DBT therapists at dbt-lbc.org/ . If you're looking for books, Marsha Linehan's Cognitive behavioral therapy of borderline personality disorder and Skills training manual for treating borderline personality disorder. There is also a list of training resources at positivepsychology.com/dbt-online-training/

[@saltpepper7525]

❤

[@lindzamoe85]

I can’t imagine myself as a thing. And I don’t think I can meditate like this. I feel stupid.

[@SelfHelpToons]

I also can't imagine myself as a stone and would never try something like that myself, but some people find that analogy helpful. I just follow my breathing and try to keep my attention focused on my abdomen

[@Dr.JudeAEMasonMD]

Wise Mind is none other than the Holy Spirit.

[@lorrettaward6145]

Yes! Christ Mind! Our true Self with capital S!

[@ob2be1]

Yes!

[@DNCT]

Stop ✋ trying to push your fairy tale bs on here. Christianity is a plague & it doesn’t treat mental health . DBT is for BPD. Where in the bible does it address that? Nowhere! Your faith harms people or deludes them

[@hg3895]

Amen. God has helped make me new. I never thought I could be this way.

[@thebookthief121]

Yupp. It feels like a myth to me too.

[@earthlover8606]

Gut feelings are not helpful when you have anxiety!

[@SelfHelpToons]

If you're having a "gut feeling" that comes from anxiety, that's an example of Emotion Mind, so not a gut feeling in the sense we're using here. In this context, gut feelings arise out of Wise Mind, which is not controlled by emotions like anxiety.

[@earthlover8606]

@@SelfHelpToons thanks so much!! I am so pleased that you responded to my comment. Your videos are amazing

[@deborahgreen7252]

Is this a robot speaking? No offense if the narrator is human, as I hope you are.

[@ruddydd4085]

It all come down to Buddha teaching.

[@OohSnaapYouTube]

Thanks!

[@SelfHelpToons]

I appreciate the support!

[@AlinaMoran-l6i]

Thank you

[@JohnnyLIGHTSnFire]

Thanks!

[@SelfHelpToons]

Thanks so much for the support!