Deadbeat Dad? | FULL EPISODE | Dr. Phil

[@jilljohnson251]

Those girls don't have a very good father, but they have a darned good big brother. Their brother is a mature, insightful, responsible young man. He seems very willing to step up as a male figure in their lives. I'm sure they are all grown up, but God Bless these kids❤

[@red_mcapples]

When he leaned over and kissed his sister on the head, I teared up.

[@riethacrafford7730]

Useless father..... BEYOND USELESS

[@TangiCook-co7vf]

All 3 chn look like him very attractive chn

[@brianchandler1966]

This is classic parental alienation syndrome on Mom's part.

[@biancaenera2500]

So you learn nothing at all from this video.

[@lily.d13]

Wonderful brother. Need to acknowledge that. Props to him for stepping up.

[@dancingfirefly7761]

I agree. He has stepped up as the man of the house and protector of his family, despite his young age. The way he comforted his sister and gently kissed her head spoke volumes about this young man.

[@dedragalyon6879]

He is a wonderful young man who will make a fantastic husband to some lucky young lady.

[@kjl6039]

He says his kids are so dramatic. No, they are hurt! They are hurt because their father is selfish. He cares more about himself than his children. He is the definition of a deadbeat father.

[@mojorising27]

Classic minimisation by a narcissist.

[@EileenThompson-cq8nd]

He is as dramatic!! Listen to his tone and volume of his voice!

[@dedragalyon6879]

@@mojorising27 Yes, he is narcissistic.

[@Mary-1000]

No he's not actually. I know I have one. This guy is just a late bloomer and a bit irresponsible and immature. Not a bad person.

[@melaniekathleen4098]

@@Mary-1000 NO, he's the epitome of a narcissist. Yes, he's a horrible person and nothing but a sperm donor. Stop defending this POS.

[@jerrystauffer2351]

He's a very self righteous person. He ignores his children and brags of his charity work. Charity begins at home.

[@samthecat4865]

He doesn’t know where his home is.

[@NobodyLikesMillhouse99]

He's a narcissist master manipulator. He's virtue signaling like crazy and projecting into everyone else.

[@annecraig4651]

I thought he worked so much that he had no time to see the kids but he has time for lots of charity work as he is such a good person! Really dude!

[@Mary-1000]

He said he wanted to include them in the charity work but they didn't want any part of it.

[@Glitterslug]

the charity work comments were so cringe

[@a.b.2850]

He is SOOOO IRRITATING. Those kids are really traumatized for wanting a relationship with him that bad.

[@fire12731]

Agree

[@TheKim369]

Sadly, nearly all kids want their parents to love them, that's how abusers are sometimes able to get away with treating their kids like trash, or worse.

[@אילייןלוי]

"The sins of the fathers'... Kids always cop-out!😡idiot parents!

[@jennifersuzannebk5149]

Riddle me this bat man why does he only have visitations rights if he isn't a drug addict alcoholic or abusive. It's almost like the woman played the system probably with a female judge to deprive him of parental rights. So she could inflict parental alienation. The proof is in the package. This was the ex wife's plan from the very beginning. Also for those calling him a dead beat. How is he a dead beat an a father to kids? Dead beats don't wanns be fathers an run away. He didnt run he made a calculated decision to leave an allow his wife to parent the kids. If he was their to play into her hand she would use the kids as leverage causing the kids more emotional distress. You people have to understand psychology to make these calls or actually try thinking.

[@jennifersuzannebk5149]

He obviously was resentful for the verdict as well. He has a right to walk away if he isn't court order to co-parent. She choose this not him.

[@memphisperson]

I was wishing Dr. Phil would get real and tell those kids “you’ve been dealt a raw hand. Your father may never come through for you. You’re growing up and you may just have to learn to live with having an absent deadbeat father. Just take it from me, this was never your fault. “

[@specialkay4329]

Just tell them he doesnt care enough for you guys to visit, talk, spend time. And he is too broke to support his children. How bout that?

[@candancecarmean770]

I am gonna get alot of hate but I totally believe that the mother is manipulating the relationship between this man and his children. I can tell that he has a relationship with God. They have not right to hold it against him because he remarried. He has a right to feel love and support also. The way most states have child support set up is truly bias and in the mother's favor (she usually has physical custody). This is. coming from a woman that never received child support from my ex-husband even though he was court ordered too. However the man that raised my four kids paid 500 a. month child support on his daughter that lived with us. My stepdaughter would call me and I would go get her all the time. She asked. me. if. she could live with us and her mother let her. Then she told my step daughter that if we stopped.paying child support she would no longer have visits with her because she wouldn't be able to take her shopping or put to eat. So we.paid.for.5 years.sje.lived.with us..I just set there.and.watched that man's kids talk down to him and roll their eyes at his wife. They should be.a more respectful.

[@sunnyday4055]

I can’t believe your blaming the mother the present parents in all this 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@TheKim369]

@@candancecarmean770 Ok, you're obviously jaded or something. You're putting your own situation on these people. A lot has changed in how courts manage custody and child support. Did you know that custody is determined by a court in only 4% of cases? And the reason men don't have custody more often is because they don't want it? Google is free and you don't have to trust the first thing you read, try deep diving to be sure.

[@Sweeteey]

​@@candancecarmean770 That's your story. Not these kids story. Your delusional

[@אילייןלוי]

ALL kids deserve parents.. Not ALL parents deserve kids!😡

[@da---536]

nailed it

[@AprilScott-ke9fn]

Absolutely 😢😢

[@nicoleweiler1105]

SO true.

[@sharlawilliamson9609]

He never acknowledges their feelings at all.

[@Unncle_Ruckus]

Because their feelings are based on lies he isn't feeding into

[@fipfpqueen9726]

@@Unncle_Ruckusidiot

[@fipfpqueen9726]

@@Unncle_Ruckusyou sound like a great father yourself! 😂

[@besaqneber]

​@@Unncle_RuckusI think you are him😂

[@bellaann4942]

He blamed a recession, his ex, and all of his kids for everything. He is a deadbeat liar.

[@TheKim369]

@@andie3209 Mine left when I was 6, called me out of the blue when I was 24, hadn't seen or talked to him in between. About a misplaced check for $25, I assured him I wouldn't spend it if I came upon it, and said I had plans and had to go. (Called me "Darling", told him I wasn't, nicely, professionally).

[@jennifersuzannebk5149]

He has a family

[@jennifersuzannebk5149]

He just gave up on playing the first wife's game.

[@jennifersuzannebk5149]

Obvious an clear example of parental alienation. Theirs no reason he only has visitors rights. He isn't abusive he isn't a drug addict an he isn't a alcoholic. Chances are his case was judged by a female judge who are often sexist an give women all the power in divorces. That or the judge was high on crack or something. Honestly think about what he has truly done wrong by not playing into his ex wife's hand. He wouldn't have been able to father those kids under her guidelines regardless. This just stops the turmoil for the children who would have been constantly caught in their fights. He had no choice but to leave it you look at it from a child care perspective.

[@Ash-83]

​​@@jennifersuzannebk5149 you are so far off base here. I lived with a man thar was just like this sorry excuse of a father. When we divorced, our divorce was presided over by a male judge and ge awarded me sole custody and only gave my ex-husband visitation, at my discretion. Why? Because he was abusive, he would throw things at me and the kids, he would demean us, he would play mind games, so on an so forth. Abuse is not just physical and I have news for you, this pathetic waste of testosterone is abusive. Judges don't just hand out sole custody with visitation for no reason, and the judges aren't all women and they aren't drugged up either. The fact that his new wife is only getting his version and doesn't know the entire dynamic and thinks she should be respected just because she's an adult shows that she truly knows nothing. My ex-husband told his current boo Thang that ge left me, he didn't, I kicked him out and u filed for divorce because I was done being abused and he was cheating on me with a 20 year old that he knocked up with triplets. My daughter told her the truth and then she found out he was a liar and a manipulating narcissist, just like this abusive, narcissistic liar is. If you think it's OK for a parent to verbally abuse their children I have pity on EVERYONE in your world. This isn't parental alienation, this is a narcissist getting mad and trying to blame everyone else for his own self made issues.

[@aliciaw3347]

Teenagers are difficult enough to deal with while they're figuring out themselves; sprinkle on it a nasty divorce, adjusting to new step parents and step siblings, inappropriate conversations about finances, and the stress of having to "choose sides" from toxic parents. These kids look stressed TF out!🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@keeper6458]

Absolutely agree! Well said

[@MamaTach925]

They know waaaaaay too much

[@cindymccomb4531]

Agreed, the mom isn’t even trying

[@maryl5567]

I agree!!

[@swimfast724]

The mom isn't trying? What do you mean? She's the only one who does anything for them. She has full custody and 2 jobs to support them. ​@@cindymccomb4531

[@maxinecameron8228]

That is not a father!! That is another child. And a selfcentered immature thing !!! All about his feelings. Poor kids! No comfort in this meeting.

[@lanalou77]

He is such a big baby! Definitely not a man

[@nikkid4890]

I really am confused by how Dr Phil seems to disregard how the father said he was there because the children wanted this. He never said he was there because HE wants to restore the relationship and guide his family into a better future.

[@roflpill]

He's there to save face

[@karahupp4589]

Sometimes if you get the body there, the rest works itself out. Dr Phil probably hoped they could make some progress.

[@crosscountrylife4253]

I heard that too… he don’t want it or care.,

[@eathomelive]

@@crosscountrylife4253 Neither does Rolanda.

[@erin6083]

Listening to this guy for two minutes and you know he’s the problem. His children deserve so much better. I hope they find the healing they need one day- let God be your Father, kids. I’m sorry this man is who you got.

[@JeffPhilosopher]

He should be more humble. His kids believe he is rejecting them. Even if he believes that is a false narrative being enforced by his ex-wife, he should be seeking a way to show his love for the children in such a way that his ex-wife cannot “block” him. However, I don’t think their frustration and pain is actually because of their mother. I would be interested to know how things turned out, but doubt there has been much, if any, improvement.

[@JeffPhilosopher]

Also, I want to say I agree with Erin’s reply above.

[@LordBattleSmurf]

The mother is at least half the problem

[@erin6083]

@@LordBattleSmurf I agree she’s a big part of it I was referring to the dynamic between him and the kids. I don’t know that if go as far as to say half though - he’s a piece of work with every excuse in the book. I’d say she’s at least a third though. She said she hated him to his face in front of her kids- you don’t do that. She clearly has a lot of bitterness and resentment which I get but the only way to deal with someone like that is radical forgiveness for the sake of your children.

[@Sl33pysk1nz]

This man reminds me so much of my biological father. Always shifting blame on someone else,never making an effort,supporting another family than his own. Absolutely disgraceful…this hurts me to my very core…I understand the stance of these children…

[@kathconserv]

Stepmom “don’t talk to me like that young lady”. Respect is earned madam and you need to mind your own business.

[@smoly37]

I thought the stephmom was very gentle and polite and came across as really wanting the best for her husband and his children. The more I listened, the more I began to resent the respectless yelling, crying, talking loud at the same time of the children and their mom joined in cheerfully. I don't know who's lying or who is telling the truth. But I find mom very agressive and I would not be at all surprised to hear that she DID block the phone, closed down Facebook and made it even more difficult then the situation already was.

[@HeleneBitschClemmensen]

NO! You never talk to another person like that. And see how the mother doesn’t want to fix anything. She wants the father to be the bad guy.

[@kristinholcomb5817]

​​@@smoly37yeah, I found the actions of kids in the mom terribly despicable. I don't think they really want to fix anything I think they just want to prove him in the bad guy so bad they don't care.

[@kathconserv]

@@smoly37 good point. We don’t know the whole story.

[@kathconserv]

@@HeleneBitschClemmensen that’s a good point as well.

[@KrDizzy14]

Surprised this dude found someone else to marry him. No steady job, always broke, has multiple kids from a previous marriage he doesn't even see/talk to or support financially.....I wouldn't touch him with a 10 ft pole, let alone choose him to be the father of my future children.

[@Claire-gv7pi]

There’s always some desperate woman out there

[@nb-user25]

@@Claire-gv7piand men

[@QBMoroccanT]

They are both trash.

[@lanalou77]

Such a loser. Vasectomy comes to mind

[@manilkasheran2934]

Well there are women out there with low self esteem to match any deadbeat man!

[@eddie3489]

The brother taking up for his sister shows a great young man!!

[@rleonekc07]

pay child support. Zero excuses. No discussion needed.

[@susanneedilcher789]

Seems this is what happens 99% of the time. ….already have one family, but, HEY….look at her…she’s at least ten years younger than the one at home with the kids. …and so it goes. Then ten years after wife number two….and MORE kids. Now can’t support SEVEN kids… where does it end?….who knows? I’ve seen this happen to ppl a lot. More than I care to count. And so it goes…..

[@Snoops510]

I cannot believe this man-child. His children certainly don't take after him. He pretty much told them that they are drama queens...with a big laugh. They're heartbroken and he laughs. They deserve a better father. A father that NEEDS to see his children. Very sad.

[@Bodaduchee]

Momma needs to quit being a drama queen and interferring with their relationship. She should be able to relay medical messages to the father

[@MamaTach925]

That ripped out their heart and will continue to do so

[@swimfast724]

​@Bodaduchee not true, at all. The mom has nothing to do with this. It's all about how this man did NOTHING for them

[@seanthomas7441]

Why is the new wife even there and actually speaking...shes proud of herself big time...

[@Myr25636]

She will be until he dumps her too.

[@moondancer6488]

​@@Myr25636 And he will.

[@freddielind5282]

She all proud of that door prize! 😆

[@jennifersuzannebk5149]

Wth is wrong with yall

[@jennifersuzannebk5149]

Rolanda is a good person tf

[@SunflowerBeeHappy]

Poor excuse for a father. He shouldn't have remarried and had more kids if he couldn't support the ones he already had.

[@LAStars-sratS]

I think they are step children, not his.

[@ASK-ce6ps]

​@@LAStars-sratSit's his blood 😂

[@paaron603]

More like poor excuse for mother who has alienated them from him

[@MsMathChique]

@@paaron603 He can go to court and petition to get that fixed.

[@MsMathChique]

@@LAStars-sratS They are his kids.

[@hunnybSue]

That father is so manipulative. It's irritating how he plays the victim.

[@JohannaBarnard-sl4jb]

Ya, and he says " let's close the hatchet and move on from here "... to me that means he's not willing to see or deal with his own fault in this whole mess...

[@auzy2u845]

The mom is nowhere near innocent

[@janicester]

The mom is manipulative. She needs to own her part in all of this.

[@jamijenkins3507]

"Why are you so mad at your children?" "Because they're on her side!" Dude, they are on their own side. They see and hear everything, and can make up their own decisions about you. I'm honestly amazed that they still want a relationship with you considering how you treat them. That should honestly be a red flag for his new wife.

[@dianeodell2909]

Emotional incest. Both adults are wrong. Kids should be with aunts and uncles; somewhere mature.

[@chestertonlewis2867]

Precisely!

[@Ken-s6v]

The new wife needs to step back and give them room to be with their father. But I have a feeling that the new wife is enforcing his bad behavior towards his kids.

[@TheKim369]

@@Ken-s6v I had a co worker who "lured" a man away from his 2 kids and pregnant wife. He had a little prestige, and she seemed to think that it reflected some kind of something special on her part. They go on to have two kids and when she's pregnant with the third, guess what? If they'll cheat with you they'll cheat on you and who wants a cheater?

[@jennypham3998]

​@@Ken-s6vhe s not going to be married for long. Too many problems

[@kellydean9373]

He plays the blame game and its everyone elses fault but his.

[@StealthMode3924]

If your children don’t want a relationship with their stepparent, then they don’t have to.

[@GirlsNDragons]

True. But your kids don’t have the right to disrespect your ex’s spouse. That girl in the pink was a straight up brat to his wife. It’s gross and reflects on her mother who raised her poorly.

[@StealthMode3924]

@@GirlsNDragons I agree. However, I think the wife should have corrected him when he’d said she was his “number one priority.” Your children ALWAYS come first, not your spouse. Dr Phil was right about the love you have for your spouse and children being different, but you should never put your spouse before your children.

[@Ninnjette-]

​@@StealthMode3924No, your relationship with your spouse is just as important. Your kids will move away, they move on with their lives. Who are you stuck with, after your kids have their own lives? If the kids are going to visit, they need to respect their stepmother.

[@mistyoskacharli]

exactly

[@patriciaalt9737]

You are one just like him or sounds like. That brat daughter wants her father to pay attention She's a bratt as you say bcause of him not Mom e​@GirlsNDragons

[@debo398]

As their father, it is Todd's responsibility to make himself available for his children. But, he is so resentful of the children's mother and the financial success that sge and her husband have achieved. Todd keeps saying that he loves his kids, but he does not put feet to the words. He gas a history of not being there financially or physically for his kids.

[@TiaNichole17]

OMG I WAS SCREAMING THIS! It’s YOUR responsibility as father to foster a relationship, your kids shouldn’t be hunting you down to talk. And his wife is fine because her kids are taken care of.

[@skrallanmo2594]

@@TiaNichole17 I am not impressed with her behaviour either , but I can understand her....

[@pdig2963]

Children should not be dragged through adult problems, like child support😢

[@freddielind5282]

These are not toddlers! These are young adults!

[@lilalicata616]

@@freddielind5282they still shouldn’t be dragged into the parent’s fights. That mother is turning the kids against the father.

[@motherofthree4126]

37:25 Never once has he taken any responsibility for his actions or behaviour, just a ton of excuses. I’m actually really disappointed that Dr Phil never called him out on it. He only corrected the kids whenever they asked him to take accountability. Very disappointing.

[@MaryCaroline-qt2fz]

I agree. And, at the end, Dr Phil told the kids that they were not perfect kids either. They all looked so heartbroken.

[@motherofthree4126]

I’m really not impressed with Dr Phil on this episode. He did not need to tell them that either. They seem to be pretty good kids. I don’t think they needed to hear that.

[@rrrjjj5572]

Never does this man say that he wants to know his children. He just wants them to see and agree with "his side" of the story.

[@bekahdoug5572]

To be fair, their mother wants them to be on HER side as well. If one of these kids chose him and not her, I guarantee she'd treat them like a pariah. There's always two sides to a story.

[@victoriamacpriest7130]

Never once said he was sorry to the kids. Just "I'll try if you respond. " ... I doubt he will change. And that stepmother needs an attitude adjustment 🙄

[@LAStars-sratS]

@@bekahdoug5572projection.

[@PrincessKarrah]

Because his a narcissist I don’t know how he thinks such a prize that she can’t let go of him she married to someone else she over him she wants him to do his moral and legal duty and help support the kids he create

[@eleventhecccreator]

actually he did at at about minute 33

[@Rick-N-Something]

I'm divorced and couldn't imagine doing anything like this to my daughter, what a horrible father

[@keeper6458]

I wish my father thought the same like you. Im 46 now and I was broken for so long

[@kathconserv]

@@keeper6458we are the same age. My father left when I was 7 and my sisters were 5 and 9.

[@lisagubbins6772]

Has anyone else noticed how the 2nd wife looks a lot like the 1st wife 🧐🤔

[@dolanddrumpf6344]

My ex is currently with someone who has the same first name as me 😂

[@Rosanesh12538]

Looked for this comement!!😂

[@dianagilles7204]

I was thinking the same thing!! They could be sisters!

[@sarasillyful]

Thought they were the same 😂

[@mikekenask6975]

Dude has a type for sure

[@levans3447]

That mother has contributed GREATLY to her children's pain . Both parents need to get a grip.

[@JadeRuri-ko1cj]

Father is selfish person

[@susanb1511]

They are so much better off without him. It took me years to let go of the fantasy that the woman I referred to as mom could fulfill that roll.

[@keeper6458]

Same...but with my father

[@CNae03]

Same with my mother as well

[@pdig2963]

Are they really fighting in front of the kids like that 😡

[@roflpill]

I imagine it's why they divorced

[@LoveTeeC3]

I can't believe those two humans stopped fighting long enough to make a child not once, but three times. Wow.

[@dannigro8794]

Probably not the first time they fought in front of them

[@mariapanagiotidis708]

At the end of the day, these poor children just wanted to hear, "I'm sorry " from their father. Something he didn't even say once. It's such a shame as a parent to keep continuing to make excuses, along with being in constant defense mode instead of just truly apologizing and then asking to move forward. I hope everything goes well for the family.

[@flowerlace]

This is terrible! These children shouldn't be in the middle of hearing these adults arguing! Omg how painful this must be!

[@Ace-ke7fq]

they're almost adult age..

[@rachelcampbell9733]

​@@Ace-ke7fqthey are damaged from the mom putting her pain on them.

[@Leisa-pq3ye]

But, it's all good ratings for the con that is Dr Phil!

[@lilalicata616]

@@Ace-ke7fqthey still don’t belong in the middle of the parent’s issues!

[@rachel4339]

That sweet boy, he’s got the skills to be such a great man one day, I hope he escapes these family dynamics…

[@theresasheak3365]

there is a time in life that you need to let go of unhealthy relationships. It just isn't worth the fight. It is healthier to let it go. do not fight to be in some ones life that does not make the same effort.

[@bospin]

That's quite true, but as a child it's very difficult to just let go : children forgive their parents a lot, sometimes even the harshest abuse. That's why they hardly give up trying to connect to immature parent.

[@TheKim369]

@@bospin It's not easy to "grow up" when you're still a kid. It takes some adults a whole life to just let go.

[@lauragriffin6512]

The kids should have been on stage without the mother.

[@dolanddrumpf6344]

Well they're the ones who wrote in, plus they are pretty much adults.

[@lauragriffin6512]

@@dolanddrumpf6344 Exactly

[@victordomino8847]

Totally agree.

[@lilalicata616]

Agree

[@Pcsadams]

The father knew he had financial obligations to his children yet he remarried. Apparently he doesn't have a steady job. Those kids are old enough now to understand finances and why their mom can't afford certain things. It's his responsibility to work and pay his obligations. On the other hand, he should exercise his parental visitation without excuses. Step mom should step back on her opinions with the children.

[@shariwitt1977]

This episode has made me extremely disappointed in Dr. Phil. Way off base.

[@caroljohnson9230]

YOU DO REALIZE THAT 40 MILLION PEOPLE IN 2020 ALONE, LOST THEIR JOBS, LOST THEIR HOMES THAT THEY HAD WORKED FOR FOR YEARS, IN TURN THEY LOST EVERYTHING. PEOPLE NEED TO REALIZE THAT THERE IS HER SIDE, HIS SIDE AND THEN THERES THE TRUTH.. I MAYBE INCORRECT, BUT I BELIEVE THAT THIS MOTHER OF THE 3 KIDS CLEARLY HAS A CHIP ON HER SHOULDER AND I BELIEVE HER 3 CHILDREN HAVE THEIR MOTHERS CHIP RIGHT OFF THEIR MOTHERS BLOCK..

[@rover5788]

@@caroljohnson9230 Agreed 100% !

[@nancystead6770]

@@caroljohnson9230, the recession has not been going on for 9 years and mother took him to court several times over those 9 years.

[@Spirit__Warrior]

@@caroljohnson9230Well lucky the Mother and 2 kids have jobs right??? He can get a godamn job if he wanted.

[@sharondykes4338]

his new wife needs to know her place. she should support and be sympathetic to him but not interfere in his relationship with, or even speak to, his first wife and their children. he needs to stop making excuses, step up and fulfill his emotional and financial responsibilities.

[@lindaedwards9504]

Should the husband of his ex wife the children's mother not speak to the children or him ??? What was said about not speaking to the x wife or children is crazy ! If people have respect for each other there is no issue they don't have to be best friends or even like each other but to say the new wife should have nothing to say is off the planet that is the father's other family there so everyone has to make it work .

[@bingobongo339]

@@lindaedwards9504I def could be wrong but I feel as though OP meant in this situation the new wife shouldn’t be interjecting herself into the conversations between the family about his relationship with his ex-wife and children, not that she should never even speak to the children or their mother.

[@PrincessKarrah]

Exactly and the father needs to realize that you can’t make your kids like your partner you can’t tell them if you want a relationship with me you have to accept and her and if you want to spend time with her when they made it clear they don’t like her and don’t want to be around her not only inappropriate it also not gonna work it’s gonna drive them further away from him,

[@ofirarg]

​@@lindaedwards9504 a step parent can have a relationship with his step kids but he can't intervene in family issues such as this one. It can only do harm

[@VTH599]

I hear what the father is saying and I hope that he stopped using every excuse not to see his children, but unfortunately I don´t think anything changed.

[@paulakarwowski]

The father is so full of himself.

[@hilberryable]

He is unreliable and I fear he might let them down in the future.

[@INFJ-Advocate]

Can Ii ask a civil question, if they know that, and they're saying that in front of millions, why do they want a relationship with him?

[@roflpill]

​@@INFJ-Advocate because they're children. Children are very adaptable and forgiving and tend to long for parental love. Both of my parents were very distant emotionally, and each was abusive in different ways. I've mended my relationship with my father (in my thirties) and I still long for my mother's love, but she has none for me. It's a very difficult thing for children to accept. It's worse than the death of a family member, it's outright rejection from them. It's a different kind of wound that doesn't heal, and affects personal relationships for life. It's natural to want to resolve that. Eventually their anger and self respect will help them separate from him, but it'll always hurt.

[@keeper6458]

​@roflpill Absolutely.. I experienced the same thing with my father. I'm 46 and finally accepted 3 years ago 28:25 that he can only love to his fullest which was not much.

[@millenials_best]

This is what happens when you try to force a narcissist to human

[@HRPFayetteville]

The kids shouldn't even be involved in any of this.

[@gigi9301]

Yes, the young lady/daughter is actually an adult

[@Fruitdrink2000]

The mother must vent to them. That’s plain to see. He is right about their being drama queens though, they really are tbh

[@kathconserv]

You’re right.

[@isismama81]

He's a deadbeat narcissist. It's everyone else's fault but his. And why does he think his ex wife has to do anything for him?? They are no longer married! His new plug should be his secretary!

[@lynnwilliams8295]

I’m super confused by all of them. I’m hearing “I blocked your number but why don’t you call me” I refuse to see you but I’m mad you don’t come to see me” He is trying to explain himself and the ex immediately starts screaming over him. On the flip side he should be paying whatever support he’s supposed to and maybe needs to get a more steady job that pays consistently. Sounds like he wants to be his own boss but sometimes it’s hard to make enough money that way. It’s a whole mess

[@dnfinch]

The ex immediately started screaming over him, because she was afraid, some of the things she's done to sabotage his relationship with the kids , would come out. So she starts yelling, to derail him!

[@swimfast724]

​@dnfinch both of you clearly don't understand what's going on or how it feels, so don't be so quick to judge

[@kgizzles]

He is a straight up Severe Narcisst

[@inkdemon64mclemore57]

Wow, until you've actually dealt with a POS like this, maybe you shouldn't comment because you haven't the slightest clue. Unless you're a narcissist like this supposed father.

[@inkdemon64mclemore57]

​@@dnfinch Your ignorance is showing.

[@melissacosler4811]

I feel so sorry for the kids 😭😞. His daughter is right because he doesn't seem to care about his kids. And his son is heading to the military and the father doesn't even care. In my opinion this guy and his new wife seem to think that they have done nothing wrong and they are completely narcissistic. Wife #2 needs to stay out of it and shut her mouth.

[@bailatwerski2951]

He's not a bad guy, he's a horrible father!!!! He's selfish and had no right to start another family if you couldn't support the first three children that he had!!! You work your butt off even at Burger King if you need to flip burgers and give the money to your children for their support you are responsible 50% of their support and their mother is the other 50%

[@LAStars-sratS]

I believe he has only been with new wife for 2yrs.

[@stephaniepiazzese2602]

Well that is the new wife’s problem now. Her loss. Her problem. We live. We are discarded. We learn. 😢

[@StealthMode3924]

@@LAStars-sratS and I think they’d said he prioritizes his new wife’s children from her previous marriage over his own.

[@janasali821]

He’s a bad guy!! He puts on an act on front of people so he looks good

[@LAStars-sratS]

@@janasali821 he’s a bad actor too.

[@Happydays14385]

The mother is partially to blame. These kids know way too much about the adult issues. Child support? I bet this mother blocked him from the kids because he got behind on child support and called him a deadbeat for it.

[@birollacombat123]

I totally agree.

[@josephinemiller4780]

Agree! She should not be allowed to block him for any reason whatsoever

[@boobie595]

I guess buy hey he has excuses for everything I'd be done with him too and I'd tell them everything he us a loser and the birth mother the one that does everything should be able to do he is a narc don't let them be manipulated

[@Cherquez0661now]

I'm sorry but he's a tool

[@karenkaten9243]

Its 100% the mothers fault

[@erin6083]

The stepmother is not helping anything. Blessed are the peacemakers, Yolanda! Challenging a crying teenaged girl to a physical fight within seconds? Great step-parenting, lady!

[@patiencestellmach5262]

It was the daughter that challenged the stepmother to a fight. Yolanda was repeating to Dr. Phil what the daughter just said to her.

[@erin6083]

@@patiencestellmach5262 No she responded to an immature child LIKE a child. It doesn’t matter what the child, she’s supposed to be an adult.

[@fire12731]

@@erin6083exactly

[@memberofthelambily1340]

@@erin6083some people can’t wrap their heads around this concept unfortunately. And I think the dads just a complete narcissist

[@erin6083]

@@memberofthelambily1340 Exactly! You don’t go tit for tat with kids! Besides I don’t even concede that the girl even said that for one thing, I’d have to rewatch it- I doubt it because she behaved in a very respectful way for a teen girl in such pain, in my opinion. But even if she had, that was obviously not the right response. No mature adult would respond in kind to a hysterical kid! She’s clearly a huge part of the problem- it’s clear why those two are together, isn’t it? I feel terrible for those kids. I’m not a huge fan of their mother’s inability to keep calm either but I completely understand how angry and bitter his treatment of her children must have made her after all these years. Unfortunately her kids would be healthier if she handled her resentment better. Telling him she hated him right in front of those kids was not constructive. Those beautiful children deserved better than every adult up there. They have been utterly failed.

[@champagne4bfast]

what people don't understand about a man like this is that if the kids open themselves up to him, he will hurt them over and over. the pain comes in stupid nonsense said over the phone, excuses, bitterness, giving more attention to other people's children, lies, not showing up... i felt like i had a hole from the absence of my father until age 48 when a therapist suggested how much worse it would have been if someone like him actually was in my life. some men are just trash and this man is childish and most likely garbage.

[@beautifulbeginning6952]

This man is just likey father.Guess what I created a wall between us.I don't talk to.him again.I tried having a relationship with him but he always ends up hurting me.

[@taramay8174]

That mother is just as bad

[@feemon1931]

Agreed

[@sunnyday4055]

@TheHare-rv3hj Men will jump through hoops to run away from accountability

[@CNae03]

Absolutely

[@kirstenjohnston7100]

I agree!! It reeks of parental alienation.

[@josephinemiller4780]

@TheHare-rv3hjI agree!

[@manuelag2128]

I would never Take a man WHO does Not Take Care of His children 😮😮

[@10B10R]

I can't stand people who have excuses for everything. Especially for not being able to keep a job and be there for their children. Absolutely absurd.

[@HelenaBohm]

Wow...he talks and talks and doesn't say a thing!

[@bekahdoug5572]

WHYYY ARE THESE KIDS OUT HERE WHILE THESE PARENTS ARE DEALING WITH THIS???!!!!!!! IT'S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS!!!

[@rebeccaashleyvanwyk9029]

I was asking the same question

[@specialkay4329]

They need to see their real Father. This is what they need to let him go.

[@specialkay4329]

WHY IS THE NEW WIFE THERE?

[@specialkay4329]

WHY HASNT HE SEEN HIS OWN CHILDREN IN A YEAR.

[@rachelcampbell9733]

So it is unfair to force kids to "see" who their father is.

[@diannebyrne9262]

The ex wife is so annoying!!

[@ziggywalsh5562]

The children has learned from their parents, that if you’re going to «win», you have to talk the fastest and shout the loudest.

[@EileenThompson-cq8nd]

I thought the same thing. Very very annoying family. Volume control

[@DotNetRussell]

That mom absolutely is part of the problem.

[@kathconserv]

He isn’t showing up at all either.

[@boobie595]

Disagree I think she is sick of him and he should sign his rights over or play in traffic

[@MaryaneCry]

YES mum is the problem

[@Fayrwa06]

Mom is a big master manipulator- she is big trouble

[@saucyfaces]

Meanwhile, he's clowning his own kids and laughing about it...but yeah, she's the problem. 😂🤦🏽‍♀

[@preythefox]

The mother is pulling more strings than people think.

[@karenthegoodkind]

The mom (first wife) comes across as a blabber mouth and shows bitterness, which has clearly spilled over to the children.

[@Girlgonewise]

💯

[@beckygraham5041]

Absolutely !!

[@karenthegoodkind]

@beckygraham5041 Yes, indeed!

[@shainesunny]

Any loving caring parent will be bitter watching their children be mistreated for years. Maybe YOU would be ok seeing you babies cry, feel unworthy and hurt….Karen

[@hazelhadley-britt6396]

​@shainesunny nah. She alienated him originally, and he walked away. Dr Phil does not seem to know things as well as he says.

[@vdeniceeckert3494]

Charity work......but makes 12000 a year lol

[@Ace-ke7fq]

not even enough for rent for the year

[@theresaterry164]

I hope he gets audited because of his bs

[@crosscountrylife4253]

Exactly

[@redraven1410]

He doesn't care about his kids. as a Contactor he must be lousy even mediocre laborers make 50-70 K a year. The dude is a Class A Narcissist.

[@linpalumbo2099]

you are so right. And past behaviour for narcissists absolutely predicts future behaviour. They never change, but always talk a good game, and project sincerity ( which is false)

[@beverlyarnold7022]

Absolutely a narcissist

[@beverlyarnold7022]

He keeps saying he would do anything but does nothing!

[@dancingfirefly7761]

I would add to this that he's also a sociopath.

[@julieford148]

My ex hasn’t seen his kids for years he isn’t interested. He divorced me with no agreements in place kids money etc. he divorced me on grounds of no marital contact for two years. He is a disgrace. His behaviour should be a huge red flag for his new wife who cheated on her first husband with my husband. I could never be with a man who treat his kids like that !!

[@manilkasheran2934]

"I'm here because you guys want to fix this" 32:24 This guy's never gonna change!

[@PavlinaSarafoglou]

This situation has not been created solely by the father, the mother has been nasty without a doubt and has used the children as a weapon to get to him

[@keeper6458]

What a blessing to have such healthy beautiful children

[@Dixie8642]

Calling the kids’ reasonable emotional response to this egocentric absentee father “dramatic” is disgusting.

[@amberadkins9005]

Growing up it would be years before I saw my mother. I was raised by a single father. You grow up and realize people make time for who they want!

[@1927su]

I knew a woman who bad mouthed her kid’s father so much , it completely made the kid hate the father. Everytime he tried to reach out , the mother undermined him . That poor kid missed out on what a nice person he was & now he’s dead.

[@lorrainebeightler8265]

Well my daughter step mother used bad mouth me all the time. So it works both ways. In the end my daughter learned all the lies this woman said about and now can stand the step mother.

[@jennifersuzannebk5149]

​@@lorrainebeightler8265it dosent go both ways women victimize men more.

[@jennifersuzannebk5149]

​@@lorrainebeightler8265furthermore men have higher suicide rates. They really don't need the bs.

[@lorrainebeightler8265]

@@jennifersuzannebk5149 my point is both genders do it also. So no one gets a pass.

[@Girlgonewise]

This woman here has alienated these kids from their father. They will wake up one day.

[@SupaCandMe]

you know, both these parents should love their kids more than what they hate each other. It is as simple as that...

[@lindariedyk]

He is full of it Those children should be his first priority No excuses I feel so sorry for those children he should be ashamed

[@PrincessKarrah]

Tod is a narcissist it’s ridiculous he thinks he such a prize that the ex wife can’t let go of him she married someone else she not interested in him and she not being unreasonable at all she asking him to do his moral and legal obligation and help support the kids he helped create. Tod should be grateful his kids even want to speak with him I wouldn’t. The kids are not they are justifiably fed up with his excuses for not being there for them and hearing him blame the mom.

[@Morgan_Layfay]

So thankful my parents disgusting, bitter divorce happened in the early 90s when social media didn't exist lol

[@keeper6458]

Same!

[@christiekitchens]

I hate it when families air their dirty laundry in public. It is very sad that it has come to this.

[@karahupp4589]

I doubt that. If you really hated it you would have scrolled on by. You seem quite invested.

[@ronronniemeyers]

The Stepmom needs to shut her mouth

[@eathomelive]

Why is she even there?

[@marceejohnson4113]

It's cracking me up that the ex n his new wife want everybody to feel bad because he's crying at his own mess

[@jivonniasmith9770]

The gaslighting he is doing and blame game I see why they are tired of him and frustrated

[@christinewhitrick5669]

I think the fact that the kids openly say they don’t want his new wife in his life is a problem. That’s their mother talking.

[@LauraleyB]

He came because he Wanted to be on TV he came because somebody else foot the bill for him. This is the only reasons he came.

[@1vtmom966]

Dude's a legend! (in his own mind)!

[@dannigro8794]

Unpopular opinion, but you made a good point about child support. should’ve gotten some kind of joint custody or worked out something better and it really sucks when the parents are too bitter and it ruins the kids.

[@dylankrank]

With such hatred against his children, he doesn't deserve them. The new wife is pouring poison on the situation. Why is she being allowed to even be there. That is so wrong.

[@kobusvanstaden3747]

There's something not quite right with that mother

[@HeatherSanderson-vv9do]

The wife should come first in the family, WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED TO THEIR MOTHER! When you get remarried, the children need to come first until they are 18.

[@sybilsadie620]

I wish I had a dr Phil to speak to my ex. The last time he saw his girls was 2001. He did not want to pay child support had the same accuses but his income was 4 times more than mine. I took his children to his parents for holidays and he still refuse to see them there😢😢😢 I pretend to give them gifts on his behalf when the were 6 to 14 years but then they catched on that he did not love them 😢 The Bible talk about a fathers love so there must be something terribly wrong when a man do not have love for his children

[@waynewahl9815]

His trying to lay pitty on him self and giving them the guilt trip feel

[@andrealabrooy7792]

Its unfair that everyone is just judging the father. I can clearly see that his ex wife is playing the victim card here. Naturally, he could be wrong in many respects but she too is equally spiteful and instigating the children against their father. Surely she could make sure to keep her kids OUT of their ongoing dispute and that the children have a better understanding and relationship with their father. I too have been through a divorce and have always spoken well of my ex to our son no matter whatever the situation. People have to LEARN to STOP using their children as pawns to get even with their partners.

[@TheLady615]

The support of the big brother on the last episode towards his sister is very touching. He’s gonna be an excellent husband and father should he choose to be.

[@jeanettebrown4039]

He yells what he wants, rather than tells.

[@Chings001]

And then says his children are drama queens/king

[@reapersgirl6407]

My daughter is going through a similar situation and has gone 100% no contact with her father. That is his future.

[@davidmcdonald5498]

Mom has definitely been in their ear growing up, painting a bad picture of their father. She knows he's broke and can barely afford anything. Why would she not put those kids in her car, take them to dad's house, and drop them off on a weekend. She doesn't have to do it all the time, but maybe once a month she could help a poor man spend time with his kids.

[@vegaeliz139]

The MOTHER is the PROBLEM!

[@JanieBgrand]

Mom has definitely played a part in this as well.

[@TheKim369]

Let's bury the hatchet and forget the past is sometimes a way to say, "you kids be the bigger people and forgive me without me ever having to apologize and accept responsibility for my own actions". He doesn't want to resolve, he wants a pass. He's a weasel.

[@skyp9359]

Agreed.

[@kitkat9648]

My father behaved similar, my brothers stopped speaking to him for 25 years , on his deathbed he begged for my forgiveness, they didn't come. When I gave it to him he replied HOW , HOW can you forgive all the horrible things I did. He was a sad sad angry man.

[@nanealdiamond28]

This is the cause and affect of a bad divorce

[@cherylween4973]

* effect