Dealing W/ Negative Emotions (How Non-Duality Suppresses Your Feels)

This video is a guide to work with emotions through various Contemplative CrossFit tools. How To deal with anger, fear, guilt, shame and jealousy. The source of all dissatisfaction. How reactions and triggers arise. What and where exactly are emotions? The importance of compassion, and understanding karma, causes and effects. Spiritual bypassing and how non-duality can suppress your feels. Shadow work, and the neuroscience of ‘letting go’. Very juicy stuff brah
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0:00 Release from suffering vs being the richest and the most aesthetic person in the world
1:24 The 2 Darts Of Experience
4:24 Selfing As A Form Of Avoidance
5:09 The Source Of All Dissatisfaction
6:25 Working With Fear, Anger, Guilt and Shame
7:07 What Are Emotions
10:42 Tools To Deconstruct Thoughts And Emotions
12:40 The Divergent Theme of Guilt, Anger, and Blame
13: 30 Unconditional Love, Traumas, And Acceptance
14:38 Karma, And The Paradox Of Time
15:32 Spiritual ByPassing And The Dark Side Of Non-Duality
18:11 On Shadow Work and Therapy
20:41 How To Never Get Triggered By Other People
22:40 The Neural Mechanism Behind 'Be Aware' and ‘Letting Go’
24:04 Habits, Addictions & The Wheel Of Samsara
25:14 Why Emotions Are Not “In The Body”
29:04 Beyond Nirvana And Samsara
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Last section about emotion and 'container' is inspired by
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[@DPSAX95]

This woman has a crazy voice, like ultimate AI voice. No tension in it whatsoever, like handling every word like a fragile little baby.

[@frankyang]

lmao 7:08

[@Davisvalentinfeustel]

Ai voice? Disrespect.

[@huandrew3874]

Half of my negative emotion comes from not wanting to let go of the positive ones

[@frankyang]

wow deep

[@untalentedwebdev]

100%

[@kughdommed4582]

aren't all of them neutral ? you just label them as "positive" because of concepts and beliefs? which is another form of desire that we have to let go and see reality as it is. I don't know

[@geovaniraffaelli4508]

@@kughdommed4582 automatic habitual tendencies towards clinging/aversion makes sensations pleasant or unpleasant, this is unavoidable, but the more you let go in the moment the more the vedana tends towards neutral, and then disappears

[@BilfordBumpkins]

@@kughdommed4582yeah, I hear what you’re saying. But this is where the bypass comes in. It is occurring and it isn’t. On some giant zoom out perspective, yeah - all just vibration. But this is also a detachment technique that can be used as cloak to avoid one’s own funk. It’s incredibly effective for a while. But eventually you’ll see there’s a fear driving this inability to address things on the “causal” plane - whatever you wanna call it. In short, you’re forced to either cycle between states of bliss with endless tiggers that don’t ever leave, or look at it objectively and begin the deconstruction process and live life.

[@geoffy8245]

Understanding this video along with my own personal experience basically cured my anxiety/depression within a day. Or should I say my anxiety towards feeling anxiety and depression towards feeling depressed. Once I allowed and opened up to feel the sensations fully, the resistance was gone and with that, negative emotions started to feel “good”, like a bitter coffee. It’s just another flavor of human experience. All my previous resistance and aversion towards negative emotions brought on hellish experiences. With this new found awareness I’m enjoying life instantly even in the midst of anxiety. And I’m sure it will only get better as the negative emotions dissipate. This wouldn’t have made sense to me whatsoever a week ago. But now I know. Thanks Frank, for being creative and so well spoken.

[@Hyumanity]

Thank you for sharing. I resonate and love your description of bitter coffee ❤

[@KM-zw9qb]

how do you feel now?

[@frankyang]

Timestamp 0:00 Release from suffering vs being the richest and the most aesthetic person in the world 1:24 The 2 Darts Of Experience 4:24 Selfing As A Form Of Avoidance 5:09 The Source Of All Dissatisfaction 6:25 Working With Fear, Anger, Guilt and Shame 7:07 What Are Emotions 10:42 Tools To Deconstruct Thoughts And Emotions 12:40 The Divergent Theme of Guilt, Anger, and Blame 13: 30 Unconditional Love, Traumas, And Acceptance 14:38 Karma, And The Paradox Of Time 15:32 Spiritual ByPassing And The Dark Side Of Non-Duality 18:11 On Shadow Work and Therapy 20:41 How To Never Get Triggered By Other People 22:40 The Neural Mechanism Behind ‘Be Aware’ and ‘Letting Go’ 24:04 Habits, Addictions & The Wheel Of Samsara 25:14 Why Emotions Are Not “In The Body” 29:04 Beyond Nirvana And Samsara juicy stuff brah

[@smurf88]

To me the ultimate test of one’s enlightenment is to work a 9-5 job. It is hard to tell if someone is enlightened or if they just have no external pressure from horrible people.

[@yikes.3239]

when i was on break from work i was on such a spiritual high before the pressures came creeping back in and i crumbled a little bit. it was a test!

[@Ryan-Dempsey]

It's called slavery and it's deeply ingrained in the collective psyche of humans

[@Ryan-Dempsey]

If you're surrounded by horrible people, then you can change your situation.

[@Duck72432]

Nah easy to bypass , I’d say the real test is either to 100% commit to a challenging goal . Or commit to a deep loving honest relationship

[@chinchilla_462]

Maybe the people you call horrible actually remind you of something or trigger something in your own experience, it might be of value to you to look there when that happens. Judgement of others usually comes hand in hand with self judgement. I work a busy job and it doesn't interfere with my quote on quote spiritual path at all. No actually I think there are even more opportunities to see conditioning come up than you'd maybe have in a monastery. How deep the innocence goes in even conventionally speaking horrible behavior is astonishing.

[@kagebuddhavii7008]

Wow! Your partner is a great addition to this Transmission Frank. I feel the masculine and feminine energetic resonance when you both speak! It's a very potent combination and I hope you include her in future videos ❤🙏🏽❤

[@NothingasAnne]

Frank, this is the Best video you have ever made. A gift for humanity. Gratitude and Love. ❤️

[@einswein9344]

Frank posting a video exactly when i was ready to receive it❤

[@ReallifeAang]

Bro I love you man I am glad to see you so far on this journey 🙏🏼

[@rajsoni8351]

Very juich stuff brah. I have struggled with these negative emotions for decades and only have short period of not sufferring with the second 🎯 dart or arrow.

[@Davidmcdonald1]

Thanks for talking about this Frank! Love it!!!

[@FreddyFairhair]

Cool descriptions! Looking forward to rock the pod on Sunday 🤘

[@theUnmanifest]

amazing, very thorough, clear and direct. this is almost exactly how i now relate to "this" and how my mind frames direct experience and all forms that appear. Congratulations for creating this video, the classical music is a nice backdrop too!

[@geoffy8245]

This came at the perfect time Frank. I just prayed for true emotional strength after years of suppression and experiencing loss. The explanation on samsara and breaking the cycle is so on point. Your instructional videos are always so helpful and detailed. Much love

[@frankyang]

thank you glad it helped

[@ryanpalma5947]

Godspeed strength of awakening and liberation insight to you my friend

[@CyberRings-NEET]

your work / videos are some of the greatest discoveries i've ever made in my entire life. thank you for this frank. thank you youtube thank you internet thank you everybody thank you me

[@australianmillennials56]

Thank you Frank, you always speak what I need to hear. ❤

[@richardcontreras3131]

This is major synthesis. Powerful 🌈

[@Cellofeggio]

You just appeared in my feed and I am thankful to the algorithm for that. Great content 🙏❤️

[@YuStunna]

It’s been a while since I seen you in my feed. You’ve grown so much! Beautiful footage bro

[@384tamir]

This definitely shattered my sense of solidified self and my non-self is thankful. 🙏

[@Hyumanity]

I keep returning to this video. It's realllly good

[@the_sleepy_engineer]

Frank this work is brilliant and so helpful for those on the path, so many truths in realizations I had had, fleeting but long forgotten, bringing me back to the truth

[@frankyang]

Thank you bro

[@Klazi]

beautiful creation bro i didnt expect this when I clicked

[@wristwrestling]

Easily the best channel on youtube. and yes I know this is labeling ;)

[@Where.spirit.meet.matter]

Thank you so much brother you way of articulating this so helpful! I am on my way home from my first 10 day Vipassana which I got inspired from you to do. And man seeing impermanence so clearly down to most minute levels has taken experience of reality to something I have only tried on psychedelics.. ✨

[@scunnie]

Thanks for sharing your words/insights Frank. This hits home. Truly grateful 🙏💥❤️

[@badirk1241]

Thank you

[@chinchilla_462]

20:41 , you were talking about the don't know mind there and I love it. Adyshanti once suggested a meditation that to every thought that arises I just reply "I don't know" and sitting with the sensations that arise. This way of engaging the relative felt hugely valuable to me and I still practice that way sometimes. The middle way, no certainty.

[@CoachHeyward]

Oo good one…will try

[@andrewjaye2981]

Thanks Frank...A brilliant free fall from the realm of relative conceptualization into the infinite singularity of just being. 🙏👍❤

[@eliranmusic2647]

Frank i have to say your comtent is dope and so helpful You are an amazing being All love 🖤

[@Raynaputi]

Frank, I'm experiencing every single word. Just in the last week. On the conventional level, I was telling myself that I'm full of shit. I'm not doing enough. On the ultimate level, I was telling myself it's OK. Never realizing what I was doing. Why is it so hard to remember?

[@yikes.3239]

this is exactly the split i’ve been going through, though my conventional level manifests in more of an unsettled feeling rather than in cognitive thought

[@oolala53]

Because it’s not about having to tell yourself anything. It’s about experiencing in such a way that it changes your orientation. For example, when someone feels very loved, they don’t see so many situations as a threat. They don’t have to remind themselves. It comes from knowing. But the knowing has to be uncovered.

[@LightandJoyDesigns]

Thank you for sharing your story of dissolving your shadows. This is very helpful ❤

[@Changsegi29]

Thank you Frank, you always teach me something new :)

[@mikehev222]

Fresh Frank straight to the dome

[@harvick4148]

Wow the footage for this vid is really beautiful

[@DoggeXL]

Love your videos dude, I’ve been meditating these past 3 years every single day using Waking Up. And I’m wondering how to move forwards? Any tips on books, teachings or practices to expand my understanding? Currently 19 at a really good point in my life, thanks!

[@Ilyasimankov]

Yay, new vid! :D

[@Jhawk_2k]

The emotions literally feel like bubbles popping sometimes. I feel the aversion to the emotion and the freeing from it simultaneously.

[@metacomet7297]

Frank! It’s been about 1 year since we met! this video is incredible bro what a banger 🎉🎉❤

[@frankyang]

Where did we meet ?!

[@cablepp]

I like when Frank Yang releases a video on a Friday evening

[@kajacegielska]

love you!

[@ryanpalma5947]

This is strong video 🥺

[@pastryman7324]

Love ya Frank!

[@lovestospooge]

Love you bro. Always have.

[@yurperfect]

Simultaneity Infinite Inclusivety Unconditional allowance Beyond experience Non resistance Noneness Infinite ball of wax Absolute enchilada Bad ass video, you guys ❤❤❤ BTW sick style, your body suits be drippin!!

[@planetearthplumbing]

Caught that lil Skrillex quote near the end ;)

[@Osberto-]

Thank you!

[@LightandJoyDesigns]

Hi Frank, I watched this video several times to really understand it. I have a "real world" question on integrating this teaching into my daily life. So I went to the doctor today for my dad today. In the apptt and after, I had ideas for the care of my dad. My brother was in the apptt too. We have different beliefs about the care for my dad. When thinking about suggesting some ideas, I held back because I imagined that my brother would have not liked my suggestions. And if he didn't like my suggestions, we probably wouldn't use those ideas. So my thought is to avoid it because it will make me feel bad because I would imagine that my brother will be judging my ideas, and by default, judging me as kooky or not smart or whatever negative judgment he would likely have about it. So I didn't say anything. But then I think that I'm doing my dad a disservice by not making the suggestions. I heard you saying that there are neither others, nor not others. And yet here I am navigating the relative world. Should I make the suggestion and just feel the feelings that come up with a potential negative interaction with my brother? Or should I just not say anything? That option also feels bad because I feel like I am just giving up. Do I just give up all relative beliefs about health? I guess I just need to feel it all, whatever choices I make. I'm certainly feeling it right now. feels bad. And I need to accept that. thanks.

[@EinfachNurTyp]

To wanna be better than others (with spiritual state, gurustate, enlightenment etc.) is spiritual bypassing.

[@BboyDrwn]

Does anyone know the name of the breathing meditation track at 16:44 is? Absolute 🔥!!

It's Breathe Buffet the 13 minutes 3 round version on KZbin

[@ginycide]

Love you❤ Thank you

[@xingyuzhou2569]

谢谢！

[@no_thing_378]

Bypassing is temporary in any case. Eventually everyone must go through. I knew a monk, he practiced core 'who am i' practice for 30 years with lots of hardcore no-sleep no-eat periods, etc. He said that the meditation stops/you get stuck and linger in 'limbo' until the issue is resolved that makes the 'stuck'. It is natural. You must deal with everything that arises - no choice here. While dealing with emotions and beliefs - the practice still happens, i.e. you are interested in 'who deals', 'who gets emotions', 'who is stuck', etc. These are not exclusive.

[@klug6649]

do you ever look at yourself in the mirror while practicing do nothing meditation? it's as if "i" "see" all my physical and emotional levels dissolve. the ego, mind, body, and physical illusions come forefront, background, and middle, until there aren't any levels (whilst being at every level)

[@ImLehwz]

I've tried to give the path my all as a last result to relief me from my suffering but failed. I would say I'm now in a way worse space, hyper conscious of the rapid cycles of my mind. I wish I could go back to my humanity. Luckily it's coming back a bit in waves but I'm kinda fucked up. Be careful with this stuff I would say. Building a healthy ego I think is a better way to go, at least at first before diving into this stuff when you're suffering a lot

[@minhvo9962]

NIce one :)

[@alexhansen6648]

Hey Frank question... When you say there's no ground of being or ultimate reality is that because there truly is no ground of being? Or is it just the fact that we have no way of knowing if there is an ultimate ground of being? Like is there some sort of substrate or substance that everything is made out of and we just don't know it? Or is the absolute reality just subjective and relative

[@LightandJoyDesigns]

Spiritual bypass onto the warm blanket of awareness to avoid emotions. I feel this tendency. I’m seeing now I need to feel all my feelings and inquire. Will this make them dissolve? It feels like I have a mountain of beliefs and conditionings. lol I guess I just have to accept that too. Lol

[@LightandJoyDesigns]

If s nations can’t know other sensations how do thoughts take credit to other sensations? Do thoughts have a special property than other sensations?

[@thomasscheuringmusic]

Is there a version without the noise in the background, has this been some interview that can be listened to elsewhere?

[@panaredman]

Frank what camera do you use to get those funky inside the matrix shots lol and how do you mount it ?

[@mrbakewelltart5130]

I had a beautiful moment while watching this 😢😊. Does anyone know the peaceful music Fronk has at the back ground on the first few minutes + the shadow work part ❤ Thank you brothers

[@maxduewel54]

thanks Frank

[@Nicole-pf3nk]

But what if I don’t know why these negative emotions come up?

[@Lizarus.un-sane]

My emotion isn’t in my head it’s in my body and anger not just doesn’t happen it doesn’t even make sense it ever did? It’s all just different ratios and intensity of heart expansion and waves of goosebumps all positive or what would be called positive but idk that I could categorize any of them as representing the ones understood by most ppl.. compassion is the only thing that can border what might be called sadness otherwise.. Any thought is no issue if not attached to an emotion And Any emotion is just no problem if not attached to a thought Both just process naturally like breathing if decoupled

[@Lizarus.un-sane]

Both yet neither simultaneously And the sum is greater than the parts I AM what isn’t IS.

[@elliotjonsson5667]

❤️❤️❤️

[@milkchad9827]

Ty

[@KARIS1961]

You beautiful being…❤

[@CoachHeyward]

I’d like a 5-min video from Frank that says which kind of practices to do each day and how long on each (30 mins? 2 hours?)

[@naveenM.]

Frank, how do you find Nirmanakaya Dakinis?

[@nicholasxu5472]

Can’t be more back

[@xfurywind]

aware

[@makp.2586]

The same thing can be complex or simple at the same time.

[@mvondoom]

some of this footage makes me wonder if you're in the DC area - I wanna hang out!

[@MindfulWill]

mirin

[@CoachHeyward]

Hey Frank may I have an energy transmission please 🙏 and thank you 🙌

[@IljaKramer]

🙏

[@anthonybr22]

Wow.

[@milesp123xd7]

Love u poopy 😘

[@cameronrodriguez8795]

🤚

[@oogabooga685]

This guy is like "don't listen to what I am saying because I am not even talking about anything"

[@Davisvalentinfeustel]

What are your thoughts on immortality?

[@topquark35]

Not one day. One moment of awakening is better than one million lifetimes of samsaric existence.

[@Ash-ng7ss]

Hey bro ❤

[@frankyang]

Hi ❤

[@rgvn5]

hello Frank!

[@whitenozze]

What's beyond the center of the forest?

there is just the forest. everywhere in the forest is the center of the forest.

[@whitenozze]

@ alright, u have the crust of the pizzas ill have the center, since there's no difference loool

@@whitenozze whatever floats your boats boss man

[@mekelopte7071]

Have you gained any special powers by attaining enlightenment? Like remote viewing or abilities that could be called paranomral

[@manuelkanakaris64]

When r u coming to Europe frank?!

[@Varn.]

Whoever started talking at 7:08 please start recording yourself reciting Meister Eckhart teachings

[@mateuszc70]

So if you have no negative reaction to pain, you could do slow self immolation and not react to it, not suffer at all during it? I mean that's a very radical claim

[@yarnf]

thich quang duc

[@frankyang]

I never said you don’t feel pain. Pain is inevitable and suffering is optional. The Buddha had back problems in the later part of his life and needed to take time off from teaching but he prob didn’t whine like a lil bisshhI’m talking about mostly emotional pain in here. As for physical pain I haven’t gotten srs injured for a while but pain tolerance def increased dramatically when I lift weights hehhaaa

[@mateuszc70]

@@frankyang I don't mean not feeling pain but feeling the sensations, not reacting to it and not suffering as you said. Increased pain tolerance is not the same as the end of suffering. Someone who no longer suffers would be able to self-immolate and just sit there - feeling sensations but not reacting to them

@@mateuszc70 and why would they self-immolate? what would cause that kind of action for such individual? Would they do just for fun or to show off? Or would they do in an act of service? And there are performers who can do extreme feat of endurance like David Goggins or David Blaine, are they awakened if this is the measurement?

[@angelozai4352]

Wait - I thought you said you couldn’t do shadow work without non-duality. Are you saying now that nonduality is suppression? Kinda confusing dude!

[@chompsterlol]

How do you let go of addictions then

[@frankyang]

You observe, upon sensory contact (1st dart) how your mind reacts to it (2nd dart) and then release the craving (a tension or contraction in the head of body) that arises from this reaction and then just relax. Watch how your attention is jumping and contracting from object to object both internally and externally and just let go of it before cascading into habitual tendencies. I go over this in detail in the do nothing meditation video m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/bHLZeXuflpuloLs&pp=ygUgRG8gbm90aGluZyBtZWRpdGF0aW9uIGZyYW5rIHlhbmc%3D

[@RobertoA_GrandFather]

he doesn't - hence why he is still glued to making these videos. He is ADDICTED to validation and attention as a goofy 12 year old girl.

@@RobertoA_GrandFather how do you know that?

[@MyNameIsHenni]

Watching this on mushrooms haha

[@7dnein944]

Why doesn't consciousness exist in the brain?

[@doogsiabrey]

However you-me-anyone describes “IT”; it’s (much) weirder than that AND simultaneously totally familiar. Now that’s… weird.

[@MyNameIsHenni]

Absolute mind fuck

[@supersizegud]

Omg

[@wordscapes5690]

Yes, this is all very true, but saying such things and BEING such are two very, very different things. Surely you must mention the 5 precepts as the very basics of morality before you can come anywhere NEAR an experience of anatta. You cannot start with meditation and then move on to moral behavior. You need to implement the 5 precepts before you even BEGIN meditation or approaching the eightfold path. If your mind is a gooey, gummy mess of impulses, lusts, needs, wants, and desires, how can you possibly approach Dhamma? The distractions will drag you back to the starting point every time.

[@SurrogateActivities]

Elaborate? Huh? Context?

[@supercal333]

What would torture do to your state? The way you're talking is like you wouldnt suffer even if made to ensure intense pain.