Dealing with Abusive Husband & Toxic Relation I Nouman Ali Khan I Toxic Relationship

[@kinndah2519]

The verbal abuse begins before physical abuse. I stayed thru the verbal abuse and kept my mouth shut knowing it's a matter of time before the physical abuse started. Once he laid his hands on me violently...I left and never looked back. Best decision I ever made.

[@SohaibTariq-j4t]

That’s the best decision you took

[@sunset33533]

Bad relationships become a part of you the longer you stay in them. I like that meditation book called 30 Days to Overcome A Toxic Relationship by Harper Daniels for breaking free mentally.

[@melissaimoudrg_70]

My ex husband laid his hand on me a couple of times and a couple of times is too many! Unacceptable!!! I pray for those that can’t or don’t know how to leave! 🙏

[@aquariusa2421]

I know how it feels. Even raising hands and not beating you up is very insulting. Verbally abusing, taunting is also very hurting. I have been through for many years and always felt helpless and living in this pain. Divorce in my family is like Haram. They always blame the girl. Also, husband is talking negative behind back to family members and some close friends. It's toxic life but can't raise questions.

[@NazmusLabs]

@@aquariusa2421 it’s OK. put your trust in Allah (S.W.T.); even if the whole world is against you, you’ll still be fine

[@kinndah2519]

​@aquariusa2421 Who cares what they think?! LEAVE. I left and life became so much better! I didn't care who was against me, it's my life. Eventually everyone accepted it. Just move on. You'll be happy you did. Have faith in Allah and be strong and positive.

[@aquariusa2421]

@kinndah2519 I wish it was that easy, my dear. I really wish. I thought about it though but I couldn't. It became part of me. I do advise others before ending up like me.

[@aquariusa2421]

@@NazmusLabs true. Thanks.

[@Verisimilitude_]

Please talk more about this. Especially in the case of “grandiose narcissists”. These are the ones who refuse counselling or going to the sheikh or anything. There needs to be more online regarding this from an Islamic lens.

[@Verisimilitude_]

I am in this situation subhanallah. I am a revert. Have been married almost 5 years. May Allah open the doors for my son and I to escape ya rabb and give us strength to face the difficult situation we are in. May Allah protect and help all those in abusive situations and may Allah truly be just with those who oppress others and stop them, if not in this life, in the next. Ameen ya rabb.

[@SohaibTariq-j4t]

Just divorce him staying in that relationship will have negative effects on your child as well

[@idalindeblad7254]

It’s so easy to say divorce when you’re a convert you’re extra vulnerable because you don’t have any family whatsoever to rely on, in most cases. Best is to talk to the Sheykh and let him intervene because theese men don’t simply stop because you’re telling them. Other thing is that a converts family probably will feel happy about a divorce to see their daughter or son failed and in their eyes that Islam wasn’t good. It’s such a difficult situation but I really advise you to speak to a humble and trustworthy Sheykh that also your husband respect.

[@Sf-m4j]

I am married for just 2months from the 2nd day I am getting emotional abuse should I stay or leave I am confused he is not only abusive but extremely controlling and a narsiccistic I don't have any immediate male member in my family I am confused please pray for me may Allah guide me on the ryt path

[@Muslima824]

If you don't have kids, divorce him.

[@Verisimilitude_]

Subhanallah. I am so sorry to hear this. I was in this situation during engagement even and also right after marriage. I have waited almost 5 years and it’s only gotten much worse. In my experience I wish I left sooner. It would have been better for me… May Allah guide you to making the right decision. Sorry to hear you are going through this. Pray lots of istikhara that Allah will also make your decision clear to you. All the best.

[@Sf-m4j]

Thank you I am moving ahead for divorce but this is very uncertain I feel I am fooled i am being played this feeling is just worst

[@Mah-wq9qg]

@@Sf-m4jI can talk to you ? I’m in the same situation

[@Mah-wq9qg]

@@Muslima824I have one kid, I’m in the same situation what should I do? 😢

[@amumother1456]

Yh but his family is narcissistic too and their loyalty lies with the narcissist obviously he turns it all on me

[@haroonrash11]

how to deal with a husband who doubts 🙄