Dealing With Back stabbers At Work

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Hi there everybody, thanks for joining me today. One of the most difficult situations you’re going to deal with in the workplace is backstabbing coworkers or workers who are underneath you. It’s a reality unfortunately, but it is something that you have to deal with. So I wanted to discuss some ways and some things to do that can address this in your workplace, whether it is team members that you oversee, or just coworkers in your environment. The first thing to pay attention to is your own behavior. You want to make sure that it is not a reflection, that they are mirroring the behavior that you are demonstrating. So if you’re a leader, and your team members are backstabbing each other, make sure that you’re not talking about other team members to those particular team members. That can encourage backstabbing behavior and condone it with people. Similarly in a coworker role. If you are talking behind somebody’s back, then that let’s somebody know that that’s OK behavior for you. So first and foremost, in dealing with backstabbers, is make sure that you’re not perpetuating it. And certainly if you’re in a leadership role, that they’re not mirroring behavior that you’re already demonstrating. The big thing that you want to do with backstabbers is you want to call them out on it. So you actually confront them on a specific thing that was brought up, “Hey, I know that you brought that to the attention of our boss, I’d really appreciate it if you brought it to me next time. That causes nothing but problems, I’d rather fix it myself than have you go to them.” Similarly in a coworker role, you can call that out. Give Sue a chance to address that particular issue before you just bring it to me. We want to be working together as a team.” And reference teamwork. Everybody understands that concept and the benefits of teamwork. So use that at the “why” behind your coaching efforts on that. The reason that this is so powerful, as far as calling it out, is that the reason that people backstab is because they lack the confidence to bring this up to the person in the first place. Or they’re playing some sort of political game on things. But either way, it is a very passive thing, and it lacks confidence as far as their behavior is concerned. So by calling it out, you naturally dissuade them from doing it again. Many backstabbing issues also have a kernel of truth to them. Lots of it is gossip, but the last thing you want to do is dismiss that behavior entirely, cause often times there is that kernel of truth. It may not be as bad as they’re making it out to be, but there may be something to it. So make sure it’s not, the backstabbing isn’t a reflection of your behavior. Make sure you call the person out on it, but make sure you also do an analysis of the situation to make sure there isn’t that kernel of truth behind whatever it is that they’re saying. Thanks so much everybody, have a great day.

[@JohnDaniels]

Pretend you are in prison, keep the conversations short and do not say anything that can be used against you. The less contact you have with co workers the less issues you will have.

[@21350ctw]

Bro good advice

[@Nectarine333]

Facts! I like this way of thinking

[@infinitum8558]

Except they'll complain that you're not "social" or "friendly", so you'll be screwed anyway

[@JohnDaniels]

@@infinitum8558 That is true, if you are not in the click you'll be the first to go 😁😭

[@jawary8474]

Unfortunately we work with people who have a ‘cell block’ mindset. Rise above that. Life is more than that. They are pathetic and are limited and adapting that because of sheer desperation.

[@Douken]

I wished people just focus on their own work.

[@a.k.4085]

AMEN!!!

[@Intel615]

@@a.k.4085 I literally said this out loud right before I clicked on your comment. 😂

[@StealthGamerWolf]

Facts. Why can't they just bloody move on?

[@GiGiChosen]

Right and stop 🛑 starting drama.

[@ladycee2573]

Simple 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@dlxinfinite6623]

It's the reality of work these days. No offense to anyone, I've found that it starts....in most cases, with the females. Or coddled, effeminate men.

[@sbcruiser2]

Agree 100%

[@jaycebee6857]

DLX Infinite goddamn rats. I despise these people.

[@Amivgr1]

I have been through this shit several times and so have my friends and colleagues and it has been a WOMAN/GIRL every fucking time. Instead of going to me or my friends they have gone to the boss. So low

[@lemaypixelart6138]

weird id add to that list the 35 year old virgins that still lives in dad's basement as well.

[@billg5710]

Everytime

[@gingerlynn704]

Currently dealing with this at work 😒 Co workers just causing unnecessary drama. I keep to myself and just get my work done. Seriously feels like I'm back in high school

[@billyb71]

I feel the same every coworker is ganging up on me and talking shit behind my back daily and they criticize every tiny thing i do because they don't like me. I hate toxicity in the workplace i wish they could just mind their business and find something better to talk about. i just get my work done and leave i don't talk to anyone unless i absolutely have to. I have never done anything wrong to them they just target me because i'm the only one who isn't close with them because im shy and you know people like that can't survive if they don't have someone to talk shit about. I'm just there to work I wish they would just leave me alone. they're probably gunna get me fired one day. but without me there they will have to resort to talking shit about eachother. I would love to see that

[@007NowOnline]

Same here. I get my work done faster than anyone and yet get called out for having an earbud in. It's just frakking trivial!! Some people just live for god damn drama!! 🙄

[@kristiyanivanov7414]

True. You mess up once or twice and you're done for the rest of the time in that company. I feel like it's all vs one. Just want to do my job and the work stuff. You said it best, it's the same as high school. Immature people, given voices and platforms, as the new one you're bound to get screwed. None of that company family Bs, none. It's only business...

[@mrfrankie6347]

Most stressful issue is office gossip and troublesome.

[@zackthebongripper7274]

If it's bad, there is no remedy, you are likely working with narcissists. The only option is to leave asap.

[@rosebudd5724]

Zack TheBongRipper I agree that they are likely narcissists or just plain nasty people. But why should you leave your job when you are doing it well and treat people with respect, because of such people?

[@McFraneth]

@@rosebudd5724 If the boss is not supporting you you have zero leverage so the battle was lost from the beginning.

[@thiery572]

@@McFraneth Right.

[@MetalJames1282]

If you leave, they win. Hang in there, don't let people walk all over you.

[@PurplePinkRed]

@@MetalJames1282 They win either way. Better to save your sanity.

[@aggffdgubfff]

I’ve had a coworker straight up say to me they are afraid of confrontation and approaching people. They are supposed to be in charge of other people. Have had multiple instances where they talk shit behind my back because they’re too pussy to talk to me straight up. It’s absolutely infuriating.

[@ownSystem]

Exactly. This person in question knew what they did was wrong. So called annomious complaint. Lol. Than you get the crapstorm.

[@benfrankog6111]

Leading people isn't easy. A lot of managers/bosses are either too weak or too micro managing/hostile. You need to know when to intervene and when to back off. When to respectfully criticize, when to give praise, and when to lay down the law.

[@LoveMusic-dv4sl]

I felt backstabbed at work recently. The situation was during review time with the "big boss" it was addressed that I was constantly making mistakes doing a particular task. I have no issue with someone telling me what I'm doing wrong or what I did wrong, but it was never addressed to me. So when the big boss told me about it I felt totally blindsided. Communication is the key. Don't go behind someone's back and tell someone else what they're doing wrong; tell the person. The manager that did this also did it to his secretary as well. The following day the both of us were very annoyed that there was no discussion with either one of us except to go behind our back and give a negative report about job performance. Not very professional at all.

[@SweetGirl-xd1oc]

Of course the backstabber wouldnt tell you to your face the whole point is to get you in trouble...they enjoy that shit and then when u ask them to give u examples of what u did wrong and why didnt u come to me if u had such a problem or whatever they dont have an answer and they make excuses

[@LoveMusic-dv4sl]

@@SweetGirl-xd1oc I agree with you. People that act like that must be sad individuals that enjoy making problems for others to get attention and stir the pot. Otherwise they would of approached the situation more maturely with saying it to you. Like I said it also happened to the secretary so that tells you alot about the individual, half truths, narcissistic, etc.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

this s h i t is why the american workforce is now falling apart. let it. :) all the execs are like "hey, why doesn't anyone want to come back to work after the scamdemic? i can't get them back, wah wah." welp, guess company big wigs will have to actually pony up some decent dough... or do the damn work them selves. cause we're out here starting our own businesses with no plans to go back to the lord of the flies format.

[@privatename3447]

I can't understand the mind of a back stabber

[@jawary8474]

You deserve better. Go chase the better.

[@kaebella2259]

I prefer to focus on my work and let the backstabbing do its own talking. This way the action is left on the table, not my reaction.

[@rosebudd5724]

kaebella z that does sound good but it’s not always that easy.

[@SweetGirl-xd1oc]

Yeah after my snake two faced coworker tries to shit talk everyone and get people in problems then she tries to act like everything is ok and act like your friend...i wish i could tell her to just leave me the fuck alone....

[@X0AleeX0]

Kinda hard to do when the immature, no life attention seeking little rat sits less than 6 feet away from you..her thought process is..you didn’t reply to my text message that I sent you at 9pm about my cat on Saturday night so I’m not going to contribute or work with you, even though it’s multimillion dollar company, but why be professional if little princess feelings were not the center of attention. The flying monkeys that sit in the same office don’t help much either..smh..🤦‍♀️ just had to vent sorry people.

[@kaebella2259]

@@X0AleeX0 This may sound weird, but... Write her name on a piece of paper and stick it in the freezer. She'll cool off from you onto someone else. You can Google this for more info.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

yeah, doesn't work. everyone with a brain tries it. if you don't participate or engage, they *will* set you up. you need do nothing at all and it will happen. left the w2 workforce and life is sweeeeeeet in comparison. i wish the same for all other wage slaves.

[@kaloskwwcc]

Fear of confrontation is the main cause of passive-aggressive behavior(eg. back-sabbing). Confrontation means to address the problem directly. It will become challenging when gaslighting and emotion manipulation involves. People with no mental strength will have difficulty admitting the truth and have all sorts of behavior to run away from the problem.

[@indridcold8433]

I am very fortunate. I have worked third shift, completely alone, since 2000. My nearest coworker is in the guard shack at the entry to the complex.

[@miss80329203]

I like that kind of job. No one interfering with my money flow ;-)

[@indridcold8433]

@@miss80329203 I have been doing it since 2000. I get paid far more than most college graduates without having the crippling bill. I think it is because I am the only third shift mechanic. The doctors tell me it is not good to be alone so long. But what do they know? I make more money than do and I am extremely healthy. There is no rule that humans must be social, have friends, have a mate, and must be around other humans all the time. Being social does not pay me anything. I will be at my job for as long as possible. I am doing just fine alone.

[@miss80329203]

@@indridcold8433 Seems like on third shift of any job it tends 2 be less staff working. Lots of people can't work those grave yard hours. I don't see anything either working along. At the end of the day it's all about completing the job. Lots of security guards work along too. I find that I stay on jobs much longer if my coworkers are working a great distance from me. Less drama ☺️

[@indridcold8433]

@@miss80329203I am approaching 21 years of working alone. I only see the security guard that lets me into the huge complex at night. That is for about a minute every night. The security guards do not last long on third shift. I guess some people can not take being alone too much. It is a lifestyle for me. I work alone, love alone, do everything alone. Afterall, everyone is asleep when I am awake. I also love in a very rural environment so there are not many people around anyway. I believe if I did my exact job during daylight hours I would probably get paid half as much. With only seven years left on my home mortgage and absolutely no bills except utilities, I have the night to thank for it. Not many are financially free as I am. Working alone in the night has made me prosper.

[@miss80329203]

@@indridcold8433Wow, that's very great. I can tell u are blessed. It's a great blessing to have a secure job and also have good health. When the health go everything seems to go down hill.

[@karnerblue7658]

Why I can’t STAND working with other women!

[@stacywebb5436]

Some men act like this too lol

[@vishnujallim3760]

@@stacywebb5436 majority r women...

[@KushTx82]

@@stacywebb5436 true

[@jordanferguson2254]

My workplace is male dominated and backstabbing and conflict seems to be a pastime. It's not just a female issue. People in general are very narcissistic. It's hard to come by people with a solid character.

[@mariewilliams194]

People are more self focused these days and like to act better than people to feel better about themselves. People need to remember it's not all about them. People are too concerned with themselves and will do what suits them and live by their own terms. People who are humble treat everyone the same and don't act better than people.

[@piffchasinstackz8843]

people are just fake like fiction

[@jamesnevitt3400]

Piff chasinstackz That's why I drive a truck over the road. Hell most people use the internet as an outlet because their employers don't care what they think about them. So they use the internet as an outlet to say mean things.

[@fml5910]

Amen well said.

[@teamworks969]

went to this job and an employee's face was so scary, i left.

[@gawain6645]

"Hey, give sue a chance to address that particular issue before you just bring it to me" And the person will go to the following mode: "hum... I shouldn't have told him that, I shouldn't trust him. I've gotta do something before he spreads that I'm backstabbing people" And he goes and starts looking for other allies and starts backstabbing you too.

[@monkeyton5]

It makes me mad when this coworker talks bad about me behind my back or makes a sly comment to my face and runs off. But I know the right thing to do is not give in to anger and definately do not be like that person. Forgiveness and love is the way to go but i'm finding it hard to calm my emotions.

[@wyattsexton7083]

Sometimes there's more to it than the story you're hearing from the gossip or backstabbing. Usually there's an agenda by the backstabber and boss. That stuff usually comes out later sometime.

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

yep. talk about losers. like, holy s h i t. lol

[@jawary8474]

Bout time we wised up.

[@linziRyan1965]

Yep!! I have been at this new place less than a month… just under a month. I was feeling really welcomed and stuff and then all of a sudden BAM! Big boss has a talk with me about her “feedback” from the “team”… uh I asked them constantly for feedback they gave me none. Then when I bring up at a meeting that they could have just come to me they all go “WOAH YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE DEFENSIVE!” Like what? Lol… oh okay y’all don’t like me and want to push me out. I’m telling you, companies with NO MALE STAFF is a red flag. Twice this has happened…

[@Johntheheadache]

@@linziRyan1965 So it's all women ? That seems odd.

[@jonesnat87]

I had a girl at work ask me what days I was off this week , and said " don't say it like this , as it annoys this guy James when you say it " ..... I just responded oh right .... and just told her when I am off and I said positively see you when your next in and I walked off. They keep doing or saying things and I know they talk behind my back but all I am doing is focussing on my work and keeping positive ( and I keep my distance )

[@billyjean7169]

Best things is ignore them and focus on your work. They want a reaction out of you so they can report you to hr

[@misterjones30044]

My co-worker is the classic back stabber. She smiles in my face but has reported me to my Supervisor, my manager and the General manager over simple shit. I’m really stressed and even confronted her once and she bold face lied. She’s good at her job and not that I’m a slouch but it’s been this way from day one. Life is too short. She is also young enough to be my daughter if that means anything. She gives 🐍 a new meaning. 🏳️‍🌈

[@fredrika8011]

I work with tattletails and snowflakes. I cant say anything or have a opinion. If I do coworkers run to the team managers. I knew of someone who called the managers, henchmen with good reason. I am buying some time I really feel I need a change next year. Thx for you video.

[@TiffanySmith-zo9eo]

what to do when boss is a backstabber? constantly talking bad about others, puts others down, oh and does yo white women only. she also will stat "you" did xyz wrong then over talks you when you tell her you did what she said to do. constant in her harassment. she will go on for weeks with put downs.

[@gawain6645]

Tiffany Smith cheverra is right. As the boss has leverage over you, this is a fight you won't win, there is not much you can do, sorry. I think it is better for you to look for another job. If since day one you feel the same thing is happening again, try to change internally to another sector immediately.

[@laisoliveira6191]

Oh what If you confront that person. And this person does it again.

[@ByAnyMeans000]

Lais Oliveira beat their ass

[@McFraneth]

Correspond by e-mail. You have to have it all written down. So, after a conversation, confirm what you said my e-mail. Then you have evidence.

[@JohnDaniels]

Best to call them out in front of everyone.

[@erikagaleana9340]

@@ByAnyMeans000 lol

[@andriaknobel5241]

One girl at my job loves to talk behind my back, I’m not sure why, I’ve never been rude to her or talked badly about her but I’m about to confront her, as politely as I can but just because she needs to be called out.

[@jessicaowens836]

There are 3 people at my workplace, my boss and his boss, my boss keeps doing things and running to his boss and saying that I’m doing it. He is saying that his boss is talking bad about me and tell him that I am talking about him. It’s exhausting! I’m about to lose my mind! I never thought that 2 men could be so catty!

[@kmydesire12]

When is the Boss doing it is called speaking your mind but when someone else does the same thing is called gossiping that makes no sense whatsoever

[@fml5910]

Right on and the boss has to look in the mirror and ask themselves who are they to judge the people who do their work, and make them look goods they get all the credit, bonuses etc....

[@linettelow]

Thank you for sharing this, Cameron. Had a supervisor do this today in a group meeting and I called it out. Good to evaluate our personal work approaches too, and I've learned it's wise to not confide with individuals who seek only to blame rather than take positive actions to ameliorate the situation. Life's lessons are blessings in disguise, they make us stronger, more alert and wiser.

[@bored8715]

Is it wrong to call it out in email. Or does that make you look bad. Is it a paper trail that makes you look bad even though your doing the rite thing.

[@Divergence]

I hate the backstabbers, that start conversations with you start the conversation that goes on for a few minutes. Then in your 101 with your manager that same co-worker says your the destraction.

[@watchinvidzwatchinvidz7691]

Reality...why? These people don't want to fix it they want to take advantage to benefit themselves. Either they are going to do the blame game or other bs game that these coworkers do and the boss is in on it too. They select mostly new good hard working employees to be their targets. They get to call out and call these new employees in on their days off. They are going to blame all the work not getting done on them. They are going to write them up if they're whistleblower. They will manipulate the schedule to have the new employees working closing and the next day an opening. They will change schedules midweek and not tell anyone. They will take vacations around difficult times on purpose as to miss the difficult period. So now we are understaffed on top of having a difficult time. These are just some of the bs these perps do. Sick. These companies should be held responsible for not helping good employees. They all know about it. It's just that it's not happening to them, so it doesn't matter.

[@lamzy3773]

So true!

[@mariep5058]

My issue is the one that is doing the backstabbing is the person who I thought was my friend. I believe she is trying to protect her job. Also, she is very close with the manager and upper management. So to call her out would be detrimental to my job. I want to call her out because I don't have a problem with that, but I think it would make things worse. She is someone who is afraid to get a lay off notice and is obviously doing what she can to protect herself. However, I am actually hurt by this. For example, we have a process we follow for a peer review before we submit an estimate to the estimating team. She and my manager created a 'new' process without myself and another co-worker knowing about it. We submitted our estimates for peer review and received a 5 page 'what you did wrong' report. I was like...What????? It was sent to my manager before I knew about the new peer review process and then was made to look like an idiot. How can I perform my job per the new process if I wasn't aware of it? Sounds pretty fishy to me.

[@peacelovejoynpurple]

A A 😂😂😂 literally laughing out loud

[@TiffanySmith-zo9eo]

oh and I confronted her day 1 when she talked with others stating I was stupid.

[@mulonzee8773]

00F! 😮

[@michaelbest7872]

I learned some about this video, about my situation that happened over 2 years ago, at work. As a leader at work ( in some ways ), I clouded my friendship with my leadership role, and I expected my associate to understand similar thinking, as I saw her as a competent person. So I expected her to understand that we were a team. I always thought that my supervisory role didn't matter, as we both did important roles in our department that resulted in OUR success ( from my view, I just happened to hold the supervisory title, and I can never do this alone ). Also, I treated her as a friend at work, and I never thought of her as my employee. What I'm learning is that I think she understood that we are like boss and associate, thus 2 very different feelings, as she eventually distanced herself from me. I think she misinterpreted my friendship / acknowledgment of our success, to mean something ELSE!!! Thank you for this video. It helped to open my eyes to others thoughts, and my understanding of others.

[@pietrooliva6552]

Thats a great point of view, thanks for sharing it

[@3pedalpodcast]

What an excellent explanation and depiction of the problem at hand. I feel much more clear that I've been doing the right thing by being firm and confronting them on these things.

[@DenaJeanne]

Thanks for the great advice, new subbie, new manager, appreciate the sound advice.

[@Amivgr1]

Real nice advice!! Thanks

[@ManojKumararch]

Exactly the kind of help I wanted...Iam very thankful to you...

[@HarryVarwijk]

good presentation, nice way of bringing the message. I think you have a gift for public speaking!

[@HarryVarwijk]

will try to use your advice, it's a sensitive issue to deal with co-workers in the first place. specially for introvert people.

[@ownSystem]

Honestly someone who is at your level who backstabs when they see you not working. Do u equal there attack by rating them out?

[@elizabethholbrook779]

For years I've been in therapy because I have had the fear of my bosses boss finding out something that is really really bad that I did back in 2013. 3 days ago I found out not only do they know but also my boss told them without giving me a heads up. There was no you don't have to be Afraid or scared anymore libby. We are here for you whatever you need we'll be there for you they've had years to tell me. They have had plenty of opportunities to say that the bosses know and they are ok with it. This would have saved me so much time worrying over thinking and having anxiety because of this

[@dieselboy7138]

I watched this at 2x speed and he speaks so clearly and concisely that it was surprisingly impressive. Good advice and will apply it in near future. Thanks.

[@mraffiliated3761]

Hi Cameron. I work in a professional environment with “not so professional coworkers”. I’ll cut straight to the chase. Amongst numerous other things I want to focus on this one thing. Cussing at work. I’ve noticed lately that people are coming up to me and having LONG, monotonous conversations with me. At first, I saw it as a employee just trying to get to know me a little better. Fast forward 2 weeks later, I figured out that the employees are trying to get me to use foul language in order to turn me into HR. This may sound crazy and out of left field, but 100% true. What should I do?

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

where do you work that cussing matters? a daycare? slurs (very much including slurs describing women) are not acceptable, but general profanity isn't something hr typically cares about. ...f u c k i n g hr.... lol

[@cdorothy444]

Or now you go to HR first about this

[@teamworks969]

Holy mom. sick

[@TheBohemianStyle]

The backstabbing occur because they are contract and they attack permanent employees. Management love it because they want conflict to get more dirt out of each employee

[@KreysHealth]

I saw nothing to back standers I don’t even say hi

[@IlhamHaru]

I am going to work now . Thank you for your advices.

[@TheNerd551]

thanks for the tip

[@johnphilipdelagente5802]

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.

[@NarrowPath_7]

What if the backstabbers are the ones who u tell to fix things multiple times and their mistakes affect your work in a great way? and then make u look like ur the backstabber when u bring it to the boss. Which in fact you are their senior anyway

[@jorgeguzman9592]

I’m 21 working for a plumbing company’s who’s plumbers won’t teach me the trade they treat me like a bitch and it just ruins my day .

[@juliogoncalves878]

I Love your Channel.

[@devinaxtman6171]

What if they try to take all the credit, and also tell others I am the one trying to screw people over or say bad things, when they are the ones doing it. I don't think my boss trusts me anymore, but he has never come to me in any fashion to address anything.

[@mohammedtunkara180]

Thanks 😊

[@ztruth7792]

This just happened to me, I got into a position then my manager came to speak with my partner at work. The partner built up a case against me to make it seem as if I wasn't a good fit for the role and this caused me to be demoted. The partner of mine at work that did this was the same person who tried to get me to confide in them if I had any questions about the industry or project that we were working on.

[@amishas.2416]

Hi Cameron. Can you please help me with my problem? I work in the beauty sales industry which is largely female driven. Over the course of the last year, at different organizations, I have dealt with jealous coworkers who try to sabotage me and make me look bad in front of the manager. This happens again and again and the bringing this up with the manager is absolutely pointless because the manager is biased to this senior coworkers stance. I cannot call these coworkers out on it as you mentioned because they will go tell the boss first thing and I will get in more trouble. Its petty politics. As far as kernel of truth is concerned everybody makes mistakes at work but Im talking specifically abour toxic coworkers who are jealous of you and intentionally trying to sabotage you. Any advice on this?

[@watchinvidzwatchinvidz7691]

This behavior should illegal. We as a society have made these monsters by letting them get their way. Sick. It's like a child crying in the store you either give in and buy them whatever or take them to the car and they get nothing. We rewarded these people for too long by letting this awful behavior go on. Managers should know who the real narcissistic people are and they are the ones to be on the line. Because usually it are the kind natured employees getting the shaft everyday, for saying it's not right and voicing it. Just a sad world that wasn't always like this. We need to crack down on the real bullies at work everyone knows who they are they are just scared of them. Not me I stand up to the bullies. If we all did this they couldn't hide amongst us anymore. Don't be afraid... Stand up and let everyone know we won't stand there and take it. 💔

[@edwardgorman9930]

Such behavior should never be tolerated. Termination for such behavior should be included in the consequences. See how quickly people repent of their misdeeds.

[@purplelover219]

My question: should I give my supervisor (she is over both me and my backstabbing co-worker) a heads' up as to why I am distancing myself from this co-worker "team mate"? This team mate sits not 6 feet from me (we face each other) and it's not something I feel like I need to call out to the team mates' face, but I don't want her to tell our supervisor she feels like I am ignoring her all of a sudden. It's because the 6 ft across gal has talked behind my back 3 times now. I am doing my best to just be polite and professional.

[@alliesmith6612]

I was called a bully for saying, we have our big girl pants on to a colleague...to me that is not a kernel of truth of me being a bully so I disagree there is a kernel of truth when dealing with a backstabbed. He has a reputation of being a backstabber and not me.

[@kennance115]

makes a lot of sense.

[@teamworks969]

unbelievable that people were not raised right and this sort of behavior are the side effects.

[@cilanatroisbetterthanparsley]

Why is this in my recommended? Is my environment trying to tell me something or what?

[@barbibutton9619]

TY

[@JohnHenderson271]

KZbin reccomend tryna throw hands

[@privatename3447]

I have a xo worker that acts like a friend but I noticed he will throw in little questions to see what im doing as t work. Then the net the day the boss will ask me to help that set co worker. I now do my job and the co workers. I never had a say in anything. I found out the guy takes meds for anxiety. I really just want to keep to myself and not talk at work.

[@tinxe6821]

I have a guy who i feel like is holding evidence against others in case he gets fired. Its not clear and nobody else has noticed so i have gathered my own defences and evidence juuust in case the day comes. Attention to detail :D

[@fml5910]

People like that are scum If they weren't lazy, evil pieces of shit they wouldn't have to go to that low level.

[@teishagonzalez1545]

I’ll have few them people I got send home from my job today for no reason I was be lie on and threaten but when I defend myself I’m the one in troubles

[@kireek3773]

Happend to me 2 years ago,I left a few months later. What they didn’t know is that while I was keeping quiet and working away I was always listening to what others were saying and wrote it all down in a notebook.

[@calinosalas403]

At my job there's to much back stabbing and there's teachers pets co workers 🐕🐶 I just ingnore them staff members as long I'm getting paid for the hours I put in. And I don't kiss ass to no one like some workers here

[@lnewolfsetapart5226]

seems to be the normal in the trucking world it's all about revenue

[@guidofeliz8384]

Hi Cameron. What you are about to read is not in my head nor is it a movie. It's a new reality for me at the job. There's something strange going on at the site in reference to me as an employee. Beyond the shadow of doubt, I know that someone has been going around defaming my good name and character in the building. As you know, this act is against the law. This is called defamation of character. Am I right? Why do I say this? Many of the people who have been friendly to me for more than two years have suddenly stopped communicating, especially when I am posted in the lobby. This new attitude towards me started about 5 weeks ago. I firmly believe that many of the employees from various departments are trying to make me feel unwanted hoping that I would leave the site. I spoke to several of my coworkers about what is happening to me. They told me to simply ignore the silent treatment, do my job and go home. Of course, this is easier said than done. There is a group effort to make me feel unwanted and uncomfortable. If I did something wrong or offended anyone, I would like to know exactly what I did that would compel a group of employees who have been saying hello to me for more than two years to suddenly stop all communications. By the way, this is only happening to me and not my coworkers. The silent treatment is only directed to me when posted in the lobby. I don't know who started the rumor, why the rumor was started and what exactly was spread about me. The rumor has ruined my good name and character not only in the lobby but on different floors and into several departments. If one or two employees decided that they no longer wanted to talk to me, I would not bother to post my story here. However, the number of people who continue to give me the silent treatment grows on a daily basis. Everyday, without exaggeration, a new employee is added to the DON'T TALK TO ME list, if you know what I mean. It is hard to work and be ignored. I make a decent salary and so walking away from the job is not a good idea. Questions: 1. What is the best way to handle the silent treatment at the job? 2. What would you do in my situation? 3. What is the main reason for giving an employee the silent treatment? Thank you.

[@CaesarInVa]

Hi Cameron, I'd like to ask your advice. I'm a contractor working on a federal government contract. The government worker who is supposed to be showing me how to do my job isn't. My manager has told her 3 times to show me a particular process in person and on all three occasions my coworker has said that I can just read the SOP. Last week, I sent her yet another email asking her to please demonstrate the process to me as the self-learning methodology wasn't working. She replied, (and cc'd my office manager and the district's chief administrator!) that she was able to follow the SOP without any problems, therefore, as a former IT specialist, I should be able to do so as well. Firstly, is she stupid or what? Why would she intentionally draw attention to the fact that she is in flagrant disregard of our manager's legitimate directions?!?! Secondly, hers was hardly an unbiased, objective test insofar as she's been performing this process monthly for several years. So I emailed my manager and chief administrator respectfully asking for their guidance as how to proceed. I also asked if they could direct me to someone else in the office who was familiar with the procedure. It's been a week and neither of them has said a word to me. I called my contracting company Friday and am going over to the head office tomorrow to speak with my project manager. My concern is, if this is the level of cooperation and support that I can anticipate receiving in future from the person who is supposed to be demonstrating a relatively "simple" process, what's going to happen when more complicated processes are involved? So what I am contemplating saying tomorrow to my project manager is that I am a highly experienced, well-educated (5 degrees) results-driven, contributing professional with too much to offer to to be wasting my time in a dysfunctional office environment with ineffective, conflict averse management and a toxic co-worker who seems intent on defying managerial authority and undermining office productivity (as well as my professional reputation). If we can't resolve this issue amicably and quickly, then I want a transfer to another contract vehicle. If there isn't an alternative (I work for a small company with only a few contracts), then I'll take my services someplace where my abilities are appreciated....I do have options. What do you think? Also, what avenues of recourse have I as a federal contractor? Is there an office or someone, like the Inspector General for example, to whom I can complain?

[@tutsecret499]

Make a journal. Sabotaging training, being discriminated, mobbing, etc.Then make send a complaint to HR in writing. If not resolved. Sue them, then they will stop abusing you. The only language HR understands is a lawsuit.

[@surgicaltoolboxrnhealthbea3292]

CaesarInVa first get a Eeoc filled out by an employment lawyer. She’s singling you out for failure.

[@thornspitfire3977]

What you consider backstabbing might be trying to get the opinions of others to see if they agree on the manager's bad performance for example. Going against your manager when they are bad at their job is not easy alone, because there's a power difference. Therefore it's reasonable to want to see if people agree with your assesment or not instead of going to your manager right away. But I agree, instead of putting your opinion out there, one can just ask people what they think. However most of the time people won't want to show their cards unless you first show yours.

[@lorsange1107]

Why was it in my recommend videos??😗🤔😱

[@JagoShogun]

that awkward smile in the intro

[@larreciashealey2407]

My job coach is like this

[@awesome1ru]

Some somali guy tried to sabotage my work so he could get hired ahead of me, why I'm i so nice & naive

[@keithleeuwen877]

People are Full of Bollocks !

[@coachevy2851]

It happened to me.😒😢😥

[@user-ug2qr1zx3k]

I myself became a backstabber because if I don't, they'd back stabbed me.

[@kiturselassie813]

This just happened to me

[@daysmae2145]

I’m working with a person that fabricated horrible things about me I no longer feel comfortable working with this person I honestly fear for my safety after I read the report this person wrote about me I feel like I’m working with a Psychopath

[@cdorothy444]

Sorry I have a deadline or I got to go Avoid conversations alone and only chat in groups. Give extra short answers and gray rock

[@kdrop4890]

Its sad we are a Union and yet all we do is stab & gossip about each other each and every day. The job it self is fine but the people we work with make it toxic. Even some of the Union reps rat out other coworkers

[@Monkeyfingerbald]

I thought this was going to be a joke

[@sclapsclap177]

keep getting stabbed by same guy

[@datnohi8612]

Lol

[@hanhuynh7798]

😀

[@crystalbristol7]

Their a woman name Karen Evan's that works for fedex simply chain that Recently throw a sledgehammer at a coworker for tell her the bosses want us to do this job. How is it okay for her to be able to throw a Sledgehammer at a co worker. And get away with it true story. She did not get fired for hurting someone he need to go back to work and dont worry about it make a video on why she got away with hurting someone and not get fired

[@karnerblue7658]

Because, bad behavior is rewarded. If you pay attention, you’ll start to see this around you more often.

[@mostiff]

That was not helpful at all.

[@arnoldberk7686]

Back biters back stabbed are only trying to “ increase their stock in the co”

[@therealwewin]

This guy speaks like he is the one doing the backstabbing.

[@okimahitt7413]

Wuss bosses let it happen

[@sairampavan5199]

Basically you are blaming the victim 👍

[@aboodlifetv778]

Wow you're handsome

[@howie119]

Congratulations on coming out.

[@aboodlifetv778]

@@howie119 first of all to call a man handsome doesn't always mean you're gay or something else if you're a male So you have no right to mock me I'm a human being I like to see beautiful women's and handsome men When I see beautiful woman or handsome man I'll definitely say that it's not a big deal to make them feel happy ...... Seriously shame on you people in your life must be bored enough of you!!

[@alihamud322]

Please never do that smile that you did in the beginning of the video. It is cringy.

[@Laura-pk2fd]

Or your boss