Dealing With Guilt and Regret

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[@huizache8468]

God forgave me much, I have a whole new relationship of greatfulness.

[@stillhopeful7061]

What a wonderful lecture for moving on in life after a bad choice we have made. Thank you Rabii for letting me me access your life time knowledge and wisdom ... As a Muslim person I thank you very much for everything you are doing for the betterment of humanity Rabii 🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏

[@alexeichenauer]

What a wonderful Rabbi. My whole life was consumed by blaming myself.

[@alexeichenauer]

@Joseph Martonwhat?

[@alexeichenauer]

@Joseph Marton???

[@MarciaB12]

I get it

[@erolgermannemmanuel5637]

Thank you Rabbi Friedmann for putting things back in order in our heads & may God bless you !!

[@k.lessing8620]

I cannot put my gratitude into words about the healing wisdom that you impart throughout your Shiurim. thank you very much

[@glasser2819]

my programmer's mind says: that's true! He is a blessing for smart people, helping us build wise logic. 👍

[@CarniBarbie]

I have been mired in self loathing over something I did for the last 10 years. I have listened to hundreds of talks on regret and self forgiveness and this is by far the best!!! Everything you said resonated so deeply! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. 💕

[@user-ov4sl7wf7r]

I really love listening to Rabbi, I have many bad thoughts and hurt feelings but I will not act on feelings, I don’t listen to bad thoughts , I Love GOD. I have a reason for being here and it’s a good reason.

[@manuelborges8996]

Thankyou for your insights and healing words. We hear that God is always with us through thick and thin. I sometimes think that God tests us repeatedly until we fail and when we do …. God evaluates us as unworthy for failing or we are placed in impossible situations that have only one outcome …. Fail. Sometimes I feel God just doesn´t like me.

[@janetsimpson1205]

I appreciate deeply what Rabbi Friedman shares with us. Wisdom is such a valuable and loveable gift. Thankyou Rabbi, you’re a blessing from Hashem in my life. Blessed be the holy name of Hashem forever.

[@mimi-lg8lo]

I concur! Bless Rabbi Freidman!

[@zemachhamashiach6982]

Excellent teaching Rabbi. May you be blessed

[@juligrlee556]

I wanna have a perfect body; I want a perfect soul; I wanna be loved; I wanna be missed when I'm not there.

[@kimlec3592]

G-d bless you, Rabbi Friedman. from someone who needed to hear this very much.

[@Leshawnmathews]

All we have is a choice. The success or failure of anything is in God's hand.

[@MeetMeOnTheMoon]

Spectacular. Eye opening. Thank you very much.

[@Lorna8264]

Rabbi is a healer

[@scarlettfreedom3629]

Please pray for me, for my heart weeks with sorrow, I am dealing with physical illness (Pancolitis) depression, painkillers and sugar addiction, heart ache, lonliness and I grief tremendously. 🙏❤️🙏 Need a miracle Chaya Scarlett

[@margarethassan1668]

Dear Scarlett I am going much the same . Thank God for Rabbi Friedman . Stay strong ❤️ Hopefully I will go to crown heights & meet him in person. Maybe may meet each other ❤️ keep listen to Rabbi Friedman He’s the only person that is healing my mind. Years of depression etc etc . lot of ignorant choices. So painful. Listening every day & night. I have ordered the book of Tanya. Should be here any day now can’t wait. God bless ❤️

[@heleneffendy6022]

Please stay strong. Hashem loves u and He wants you to be happy. Be positive and positive things will follow. HASHEM is in control of your life

[@johnlynch575]

Scarlett k; cheer up. You are well LOVED. Although PERSONALLY I don't know you, I can relate. I stopped limiting HiM, and I stopped blaming myself, took it unto MYSELF TO TRUST HiM, and I let HiM takeover. Yah there is still SUFFERING, but now I have JOY, now colors pop, everyday I see my own little problems AND character defects dwindling. Everyday I look for opportunities to BE an AUTHENTIC presence for OTHERS. I get EXCITED. I get to cry, weeping profusely, and count it as PRAYERS. No longer concerned ABOUT faith, now is the time for preparing...NOW IS about knowing...SOMETHING HUGE is coming...get EXCITED, and know if you feel 'BAD', are sorry for your wrongdoing; you ARE ALREADY forgiven . So beat your chest a little, like the RABBI says, shed a tear( I DO.) Then sing your song OF praise.(I DO.) very soon now( within years, not decades) all confusion shall be as a dream. SHALOM .

[@grantcrowie2030]

GOD bless you

[@samchoi3304]

Be strong love

[@shanr0k]

Thank you Rabbi. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

[@RaineCarosin]

Oh, Rabbi, You speak such sense xxx Thank You xxx

[@anewthoughteveryday4592]

Thank you Rabbi Manis Friedman

[@samchoi3304]

Heals my heart… i will cherish him and my life

[@TMBARD]

Shalom Aleichem!! Does Rabbi Manis, or rather Rhabboní Manis, realize how positively great the impact he has on those who listen? He is frothing with overflowing wisdom that more people NEED to hear!

[@abderrazekchaouachi6409]

Je remercie Rabbi Friedman pour la somme de sagesse qu'il partage avec nous les êtres égarés par tant de problèmes quotidiens. J'ai presque son age (70 ans) et je dois confesser que pendant toute mon existence (enfant, étudiant, ingénieur, enseignant et inspecteur), j'ai eu du mal à pardonner les mauvais comportements à mon encontre, surtout lorsqu'ils sont gratuits et sans raisons. Ma réaction était toujours couper les liens avec la personne que j'ai jugé fautive, même s'il exprime ses regrets. Cette vidéo m'exhorte à changer de comportement et, rien que pour cela, je vous dois des remerciements.

[@smonline631]

well if someone hurt you it doexn't mesn you have to stay friend s with such a person..

[@lizgichora6472]

Thank you for this teaching (conscience).

[@margaretneanover3385]

I enjoy seeing the direct attention that is calming ...

[@TheSweetmorenita]

I’ve felt so guilty about hurting my youngest daughter. She doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and that’s consuming me. I love her and miss her greatly. I understand she’s trying to heal on her own and it’s been difficult to come to grips with it. I want to believe God is not angry at me, but it’s so difficult. I grew being disapproved most of my life, I started getting therapy, and working on my own trauma, I have good days and not so-good days. I wish she could give me another chance and how I wish she could forgive me.

[@MarciaB12]

I hope it's better. Children define their parents by their mistakes. You can do a million things right, but they remember you by the one bad thing. I have never forgiven myself either. I have apologized and explained. But...

[@MarciaB12]

I finally get it

[@TheSweetmorenita]

@@MarciaB12 Hi Marcia 🤍 Yes, things are way better now. She came back home, is going to school and just got her driver’s license :) I’m in a better place, and have tried mending our relationship, but there’s still work to do on both sides. I don’t carry that much guilt anymore and I’ve learned to let go and move on. You’re right, they only remember our flaws when they’re hurt, only time will teach them, we all make mistakes and we all reap what we sow. Please, forgive yourself, guilt is a killer and adds no value to your life. Your life is precious and you need to enjoy it. You deserve it I wish you have a wonderful weekend.

[@elissalipman6600]

such a good way to see things

[@VICTOR-ul1lo]

Thank you rabbi for your teachings.

[@swenett1308]

That is powerful and brings great healing. Many will be blessed. Thank you.

[@paulmurray5781]

Thanks you

[@elizabethbooth5446]

Thank you

[@gilaschannel1855]

Great to hear this shiur, thank you so much Rabbi Friedman. Very helpful indeed. Shabbat Shalom!

[@Thesailormoonbeam]

Thank you so much

[@janatnalwoga]

Am changing and its for ever gonna be good

[@heleneffendy6022]

Thank you Rabbi. U are such a blessing to all of us. Love from Jakarta, Indonesia

[@andreasgigmai7707]

Rabbi, Thank you for this teaching!

[@belindamotamedi8724]

Another wonderful message. Thank you Rabbi

[@milkamilosevic9626]

This lecture is top of the tops!!!🌞🙌

[@tigress1107]

Gratitude

[@tigress1107]

Rabbi you’re so cool 😎

[@cookiemonster3147]

Thank you! 🦋🌻🐞🌼🐝🌹

[@ebbichacko]

Thanks Rabbi, amazing analysis of temptation and revealing Greatness of G-d in creating me

[@khurramnaseem2351]

Thank you so Much as I was seeking for it... Your biggest fan ( lover ) from Pakistan.

[@mariaelenarodriguez6188]

Thank you, Rabbi.

[@chabad91819]

Your words are blessed & inspired by Hashem. Your words are truth. You always help me, thank you!

[@belindamotamedi8724]

Another wonderful message. Thank you Rabbi.

[@margarethassan1668]

Thankyou Rabbi Friedman ❤️

[@jeffreyrwilliams9345]

thank you

[@danacris8806]

My favourite Rabbi!

[@godblessisrael.1457]

Thank you for your wise thought robbi! It's really reviveing my soul.

[@kevinkingston6488]

Great shuir Rabbi friedman , if we didnt have struggle with yetzer tov and yetzer hara , without a struggle we wouldnt know the difference of good or other , so tanya meets that struggle and expects a struggle , except for very few whom we dont know in our arena Thanks , B/h , be well

[@cdrrider]

I wish i had found you mr rabbi so many years earlier! It must be the normal for lost people such as myself to feel an obligation to convert or to become Jewish? Idk y but i feel that

[@Winterbee14]

💯% Excellent

[@earlbruner9321]

Good session

[@douglasclem1062]

Profound words of great wisdom !

[@johnlynch575]

20:55 PERFECT.

[@zemachhamashiach6982]

Even lashon Hara is extremely prevalent in most of the troubles of the world. More people are physically and emotionally hurt by words than any other form. To known that one's own physical body can be damaged by words is a giant wake up call for the old saying think before you speak

[@egyur]

שבת שלום לכלכם ולכולם

[@rockelsa91]

But I will never feel guilt because I am not : I love your videos a lot

[@esk8jaimes]

13:58 A good person quote.

[@elcalich33sehead]

How do I deal with a sin that permanently altered my body?

[@user-fc5wq3sb4f]

How does one strengthen good judgment?

[@emily-io1tk]

one is not a back person because they made a bad chose.....each choice does always hurt others or was i meant to hurt

[@smmlf676]

❤❤

[@joshuacohen1039]

How can I forgive myself ?

[@MarciaB12]

😢❤

[@laf7907]

May i ask, how do i know that God forgive me?

[@katedawson6654]

What if its not really forgivable?

[@margaretneanover3385]

There's much to say about whether it's how the entire world has learned up til now. As the main population it is other views that are the popular explained problem.we will see

[@MrsPriscilla645]

What happens when you are the one giving the forgiveness and the other does not change even though they recognize and admit the sin, but says they are unable to change and has fear of losing what they charish?

[@violinplayer3518]

Sometimes we just have to run away

[@emmanelson2406]

If someone does something and ask for forgiveness and then they do it again and again all your life how do you forgive that. ?

[@alexeichenauer]

What if your sin becomes a part of you like opiate addiction and you try so many times to get healthy but after 6 rehab stints you still cant overcome it? And you regret it and pray to the Lord everyday that he may help you overcome... What should one do in this situation?

[@zemachhamashiach6982]

Shalom little soul. As humans living in a physical world we are overcome with many obstacles. Addictions can be extremely difficult to manage. First let me say how brave you are to first admit you have a problem and secondly you have seeked forgiveness. You should also forgive yourself as well. My suggestions would be to focus all your energy in Torah when you feel like you need a fix. Become closer to H" G-d and establish an immovable Yesod/ Foundation in yourself and your relationship with the Creator. Understand that the whole purpose of a soul is to have the ability to do mitzvot in the body amd join all physical creation with the spiritual worlds above. Know that You are loved and your precious and with every challenge that you conquer blessings will be present . blessings my friend

[@andreamarkou1638]

Rabbi what you say and teach us is very wise and good sense.But some people are unpredictable when angry and don't stop to think that they may sin against God! But like you explain that if you have a conscious of the sin you committed and you ask God for forgiveness repend and never repeat your sin God will forgive . THANK YOU.

[@JoshuaBibleCollege]

If you ar in the USA find an AMEN CLINIC and have them do a SPECT scan on you Brain.

[@saidrogerrm8896]

YOU WILL SUFFERING AS I DO DAILY IN THIS LUST WORLD

[@affair111]

then you need a deliverance and breaking a generational cure, or the healing of your soul By God if addiction is related to the trauma

[@alicejones3668]

A ask forgiveness from B, does B have to trust A? A ask forgiveness multiple times over a decade on different sins against B. So, B stopped the friendship and forgiven A. Does forgiveness and trust have to always be together as in a Christian ideology. Trust is given but not in continued sin against B, only forgiveness given. How would B discern A's constant asking forgiveness if B didn't discern and use wisdom to continue or not continue friendship? A not Jewish but B is. But they are related by marriage.

[@holasoysasha]

What is 'Yate Suhara' (sp.)? He keeps referring to it. TIA! 16:04

[@LAGoff]

Yetser hara is the evil inclination. Literally, the bad formation

[@holasoysasha]

@@LAGoff Thanks a lot!

[@rockelsa91]

Mr rabbi Friedman I like and respect ur videos . Have a question Is there a real virus ?

[@margarethassan1668]

Yes

[@margaretneanover3385]

What other message was simultaneous about the instance? About 20 yrs misery..? Some things add to the plight at a child's age. It's not acting all of evil..its not seeing safety for others. She should know what she heard to respond.

[@mariusmihai918]

Rabbi Very interesting talk. One comment only: One kills somebody who he doesnt know and then runs away. Then he will decide I dont do it again. Is this all? Can he feel forgiven after this? I think no. First he must suffer with a devastating feeling of guilt for what he did and then when he cannot endure anymore he will open the heart to God and repent and decide of not doing anymore what he did. He may feel better now. But this is not the end as the effect of his action is still there: a man died and his familly is devastated for so long. Who and how is this paid?

[@vilrugan]

G-d is there for the things that are not within our control.

[@ZTZ330011]

What is this word tsedzadek mean?

[@johnlynch575]

Does only THE Yaytsa hara speak?

[@taylivv]

We need to re-build our Jewish and Gentile schools teach everyone based on Tanya today! This is so fundamental, human and G-dly information so why is it that even ‘religious’ schools fail to teach these basics and unfortunately leave us and our children with wrong information. Let’s learn Tanya! Thank you

[@wolfpup7891]

What if it wasn't about the Creator commanding and more specifically about providing Moses with Commitments to freedom. You shall know that you have taken the path to God, and you shall know that you have found God, for there will be these signs, these indications, these changes in you: 1. You shall love God with all your heart, all your mind, all your soul. And there shall be no other God set before Me. No longer will you worship human love, or success, money, or power, nor any symbol thereof. You will set aside these things as a child sets aside toys. Not because they are unworthy, but because you have outgrown them. And, you shall know you have taken the path to God because: 2. You shall not use the name of God in vain. Nor will you call upon Me for frivolous things. You will understand the power of words, and of thoughts, and you would not think of invoking the name of God in an unGodly manner. You shall not use My name in vain because you cannot. For My name-the Great “I Am”-is never used in vain (that is, without result), nor can it ever be. And when you have found God, you shall know this. And, I shall give you these other signs as well: 3. You shall remember to keep a day for Me, and you shall call it holy. This, so that you do not long stay in your illusion, but cause yourself to remember who and what you are. And then shall you soon call every day the Sabbath, and every moment holy. 4. You shall honor your mother and your father-and you will know you are the Son of God when you honor your Father/Mother God in all that you say or do or think. And even as you so honor the Mother/Father God, and your father and mother on Earth (for they have given you life), so, too, will you honor everyone. 5. You know you have found God when you observe that you will not murder (that is, willfully kill, without cause). For while you will understand that you cannot end another’s life in any event (all life is eternal), you will not choose to terminate any particular incarnation, nor change any life energy from one form to another, without the most sacred justification. Your new reverence for life will cause you to honor all life forms-including plants, trees and animals-and to impact them only when it is for the highest good. And these other signs will I send you also, that you may know you are on the path: 6. You will not defile the purity of love with dishonesty or deceit, for this is adulterous. I promise you, when you have found God, you shall not commit this adultery. 7. You will not take a thing that is not your own, nor cheat, nor connive, nor harm another to have any thing, for this would be to steal. I promise you, when you have found God, you shall not steal. Nor shall you… 8. Say a thing that is not true, and thus bear false witness. Nor shall you… 9. Covet your neighbor’s spouse, for why would you want your neighbor’s spouse when you know all others are your spouse? 10. Covet your neighbor’s goods, for why would you want your neighbor’s goods when you know that all goods can be yours, and all your goods belong to the world? You will know that you have found the path to God when you see these signs. For I promise that no one who truly seeks God shall any longer do these things. It would be impossible to continue such behaviors. These are your freedoms, not your restrictions. These are my commitments, not my commandments. For God does not order about what God has created-God merely tells God’s children: this is how you will know that you are coming home. Moses asked in earnest-“How may I know? Give me a sign.” Moses asked the same question that you ask now. The same question all people everywhere have asked since time began. My answer is likewise eternal. But it has never been, and never will be, a commandment. For who shall I command? And who shall I punish should My commandments not be kept? There is only Me.

[@johnlynch575]

19:34 same as you..a piece of H M. Just which piece. Right RABBI?🌑

[@margaretneanover3385]

Why do you think a self hurt comes from those not only hurt or somewhat danger ed but maybe influence by a different choice. I don't play forsake one to appease another. Cleansing by a partial death caused this the first time.. God might pick and choose a battle wisely other wise we never learn. How about seeing the first strike as non earth gamed real talk? That's what need come forth..after which everyone has had some influence that does not guard against unsafe idea. I drove my father's tractor as a child...i had no regrets due my attention to detail. It wouldn't start so to surprise him I saw how to and did. No imagination. I was maybe 3. It was simple. After it started ..and ran I saw I didn't know the brake...lol..thabk God I saw them pop a clutch or I would have tumbled down a hill. Yes true..ans funny..but I scared my mom with it. My father was surprised. I learned I needed more info..but girls were as apt for mechanics too. Just sharing as I know worse could be done..am.moral or moral having a base guide on which can lead to worse or who's steering the way to force cleansing? It's odd making sense

[@deejannemeiurffnicht1791]

(ha ha, the subtitles/captions can't undstand Rabbi is saying ''chiva'' and 'not true them'! ha ha

[@maitegonsuelo1730]

He is saying “ tchuva.

[@rickwyant]

No disrespect intended but how is it you make claims of knowing what God thinks?

[@violinplayer3518]

Because he is old and observant ( opposite of dreamer). He searched his soul and observed other people souls and find common ground. Education ( ancestors collective observations) helps too. It is like asking woman who is oldest of 10 children and mother of five children who works in school " why do you think you know anything about children".

[@CameliaTex]

Knowing Him is a promise: Jeremiah 29:13: You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Also, the first commandment is to know Him.

[@johnlynch575]

18:41 do you know how to get YOUR yaytsa hara to zip it. When You say your 1st morning SHEMA: DECLARE "I CHAIN LUCIFER TO MY LEFT SIDE." At first it's a pain, but as you do your mitzvahs( for ME ,acts of love.) Eventually the 'yaytsa hara' , calms down. Invite it to listen as you PRAY. Be adamant ABOUT ONCE YOU decide to do THE Mitzvah, to do it. Then ask the Y. H ." How'd you like it? BE NICE . Kill it with kindness. When you realize your stumbling, your error, thank THE Yaytsa hara for pointing it out. Recognize he is strengthening you.