Dealing with Shame & Guilt || How To Forgive Yourself

[@fatdogasmr2189]

You really made my day. Love you and your kind supporting words!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@drmichelledaf]

FatDog ASMR I love you too. You are most welcome. Thank you for your kind words

[@tonyfox1316]

i guess I am kinda off topic but does anyone know a good website to stream new series online ?

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@HeavyLiesFromAbove]

ive made terrible choices and decisions that have hurt others but i am continuously working on healing myself so that i never repeat toxic behavior!

[@drmichelledaf]

We all have. We are humans. You are blessed because you've realize your shortcoming and have turned away from them. You are forgiven by your Creator and that's all that matters. Blessings and love

[@viestamper]

Me too. I’ve said and done a lot to hurt some of my closest friends and the shame and the guilt is so strong.

[@adamcoloretti3050]

@@viestamper Just tells me you're a good person for realising and wanting to be better. All the best :).

[@UniversityofSports]

I am so thankful that there are people who understand because I hurt a lot of people and whenever I think about it I can't sleep I just get in a stressed mood

[@kayla_max]

Me to I’m glad to know I’m not the only one

[@keilah4039]

It must have been during a sermon that I once heard, "What is worse than the sin is the shame we carry because of it." You look lovely, Mich.

[@drmichelledaf]

Yes, that is facts...makes it scar.. thank you so much love!

[@sangichan]

Omg I needed to hear this 😔❤️🙏🏽

[@keilah4039]

@@sangichan Give yourself grace, dear; life is hard. ❤

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@rosethornil]

Despite good intentions, I made a financial mistake and I have tormented myself for several months now. Your comment was a real blessing for me. I will try to apologize to myself starting today. Thank you for your beautiful comment. It helped me.

[@samuelscherban501]

I’ve held so much shame and guilt over quarantine over past actions and overanalyzing my interactions. Thank you for this video 🙏

[@leratomanake9981]

I'm going through the same shame and now it's even affecting my life relationship and my surroundings 1st 😔😔

[@taharanorton679]

Same! It's really tough some days..

[@ayonnazglam9050]

Same 😫

[@amb945]

I am going through the same thing! It’s so difficult being alone with myself during quarantine and having things come up that then plague me. This video is just what I needed to hear

[@nomg563]

Same here.

[@Nazeus]

i feel like i dont deserve to be happy anymore because of what i did

[@bxnnyclay3302]

I feel you🤧 I forgot my moms birthday and hate myself for it.

[@shylosymone3714]

Forgive yourselves... You both deserve inner peace, joy, happiness and abundance of good positive things!! TRUST I feel you both BUT we are not bad people. Forgiveness takes time...its worth the work!! Always be FANATBULOUS YOU!! Shine!! 🌞💜

[@andreasam5189]

Same lately I’ve been down on myself

[@andreasam5189]

@OLIVIA SCHENCK u wanna talk about it?

[@andreasam5189]

@OLIVIA SCHENCK it’s ok trust me I’ve said some really Fr things in the past ... but if you’re not ready that’s totally fine too!

[@vanilla9583]

I have been a toxic girlfriend to my ex- boyfriend and I have turned away from it in a year now. I have changed, but the shame and guilt is so strong. I regret hurting him so much. He has forgiven my past actions, but I have not forgiven myself. I hope to get better soon. ❤️

[@missyyystacy]

I've experienced the same thing today. It took me too long to realize how much I really loved him and how much I hurt him. Mostly I didn't know that I have deeply hurt myself in the process. And now the chance of getting back together is gone. He moved on. I have apologized and he forgave me but still I can't forgive myself yet. I pray to heal and learn form this. In Jesus name, I believe I will overcome it little by little. 🙏🏾

[@nessysound]

Same two weeks ago, hope I will forgive myself one day… 😔

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@Claudia-yc8xk]

@@missyyystacy I completely understand how you feel, im going through the same. I feel absolutely guilty for all ive done. It haunts me.

[@zyen1206]

We are all the same and it hurts a lot😭😭

[@neelykirksey4415]

I’ve been struggling so bad with mental shame and guilt. This video did so much for me. You are amazing and thank you.

[@drmichelledaf]

I am so thankful to hear that my dear. You are most welcome!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@tana1659]

thank u sooo freaking much. 9:59 " Forgiving yourself does not mean you think it was ok " I really need this because every time I tried and wanted to be a better person, guilt and shame attack my brain, possess my mind and body so I struggled A lot and broke down so too many times. There were always these thoughts telling me I don't deserve to know happiness ever again and honestly it led to " so why should I be alive? if unhappiness and punishment are going to be the only words I know. " For all the people I've hurt along my journey, I truly am sorry and know better now, I wish I could take all the pain I've caused you back, and I'm hoping I'll have a chance to apologize and make it up to you in person one day if we meet again. What I can do now is... - finding a way to heal myself in order to become a better version of me. - living my life carefully and trying my best not to hurt anyone. - be patient cause it takes time. and for those who are still struggling about your past, I just want you to know you are not alone although most of the times you might feel like that or worse.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.

[@lets_ENJOY_LIVING]

I hate that I act before i think. I have a hard time letting go of my mistakes. I wish there was a way to forgive myself easier because the guilt is very draining mentally. I hope this videos helps me get that together. Thank you for this

[@andreasam5189]

Same I’ve been very down

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@zyko9399]

this is me aswell I don't think how it affects me or others

[@lets_ENJOY_LIVING]

@@ryu7408 good to hear I'm not alone on that. It is definitely mental torture I get all what you're saying bro. How do you think you'd handle apologizing to someone who won't accept it or forgive you and they just ignore it? Do you think youd get over that? I'm having the issue and confused as hell.

[@plamenag8856]

stay strong brother!

[@jaeden2806]

I over analyse every single thing I've said or done. I feel ashamed and guilty 247, none stop. OCD only preys on it all and makes it 10x worse than it needs to be. I feel totally trapped, completely. I really wish we could turn back time. I know people say you learn from mistakes but all I'm learning is that I'm a horrible person and don't deserve to actually enjoy life and be here.

[@Forit26]

It happened, accept it and moved on. We can't make new beginnings, but we CAN make new endings

[@jclyntoledo]

Please work on accepting it and forgiving yourself and now going forward just take the lesson. Remember you aren't who you used to be and at the time you did the best you could even if it meant bad coping mechanisms and staying in bad situations. Self sabotaging, pushing ppl away and picking the wrong ppl are all apart of bad coping mechanisms and familiar circumstances that once made sense. Perhaps you should look up inner child work/exercises.

[@denno7998]

Same for me I hate life and I feel like I want to die. The guilt and shame I’m feeling is horrible and I hate myself for my past mistakes

[@Bluebird776]

Same ı'm not ready to forgive myself . I'm drowning in it.

[@RyuShinto]

For many years, I carried deep feelings of guilt with me. Which have shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized to a person, for something. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself, for many years. Until I realized that the one I really needed to apologize to was myself. I tortured myself the most. So I apologize to myself for what I did to myself. And the intention to apologize is everything. So I find my innocence, which I had once lost; again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my guilt. And thus I do no harm to others. Because I am at peace with myself and thereby with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you carry feelings of guilt with you. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts suffering and apologizing takes away suffering. "Anyway" and "Yes" are the words that enable me to apologize to myself. Because I get impulses to get back into the hamster wheel of apologizing or torturing myself for certain things. But I say, "Yes, I'm apologizing to myself anyway." And I apologize to others when it's my free choice. And I use these two methods to do that. By either apologizing to people personally or apologizing to people within myself, if I don't want to make it personal. Because the honest intention is enough.

[@jorgelara659]

If it wasn’t for this video I wouldn’t have found Jesus in my life. Thank you for this amazing message. Guilt and shame has been holding me back with everything in life to the point I wanted to end my existence. This truly gave me another opportunity to change. To not only change, but to forgive myself from my past and to heal my damage wounds and repent to God of all the sins I’ve committed. This was a life changing experience and I am truly blessed because of this. Thank you 🥺❤️

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@fitforfreelance]

self-forgiveness is crucial to self-compassion and reaching your goals!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@fitforfreelance]

@@ryu7408 thanks for sharing that. Have you heard of ho'oponopono? You basically repeat "I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you." Over and over again. It's powerful and empowering as it seems to change context and understanding in a session

[@ryu7408]

@@fitforfreelance you are welcome. That sounds like a great mantra or affirmation.

[@jupiterskiss3473]

Words are powerful. Don't use the word "I'm sorry" because you are not a sorry person. Say, "I apologize," it's the wording.

[@fitforfreelance]

@@jupiterskiss3473 I think the important part is to be humble enough to apologize without it meaning you're less valuable as a person

[@lolaapelt8616]

I think sometimes guilt and shame can really become a way of life for some people, especially women. I love how you emphasize that seeking out and having a strong relationship with the Lord will help to free us of these destructive mindsets. It's so true. Condemnation comes directly from the enemy and keeps us trapped. Conviction comes from the Holy Spirit, and helps us to understand our wrong doings and turn away from them. It's so beautiful that we are told that our loving Father forgives And forgets our sins when we cling to Him 🌺

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@radhikagandhi8483]

wow this helped me so much. resonated so hard with me. i was a toxic horrible person i used people all the time for my own gain, but now I will do nothing but use myself to HELP others unconditionally. Its hard to let go of that guilt and shame, but I will let go of it and do only good. thank you so much.

[@drmichelledaf]

I am happy it helped love. You do have to let it go and move forward to live your life. Much love to you

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@jobinabien-aime1858]

I have been beating myself up and condemning myself so much and this video reminded me that my life doesn’t end when I mess up and that I am not my mistakes. That there is healing on the other side of forgiving myself. That life can and will get better, in spite of my shortcomings. Thank you so much for this very powerful video. ❤️

[@Sir._Mack]

I loved her so much. I didn’t realize I was hurting her. She asked for space I didn’t give it to her. I asked her for way too much and Burnt her out and now here she is still helping me with my feelings after she broke up with me. She’s all I want in life and I want to die because of how guilty I feel every second of every day.

[@20vannesa]

I feel similar to how you are feeling! I still love my ex 🥺 I hurt every day thinking of the good memories we had 😭 it’s been 4 months of the breakup (I also feel like dying) but God doesn’t want me to be with him (at least not now) maybe God is trying to work in you and I know it hurts because he wants you to grow and learn from this 🙏🏼 maybe if it’s meant to be he will bring me back to my ex and also for you he’ll bring you guys together but in the meantime God wants to heal us ❤

[@stxr-oa]

So relatable. I'm in a similar situation.

[@Brownsthewaytogo]

I betrayed my family by lying to them and got so scared that I lied even more and hurt so many people I’m having such a hard time forgiving myself especially when I see the affect I had on them, thank you for this video 🙏🏽

[@manal4852]

Me too

[@drmichelledaf]

I understand. I have done this too. You must forgive yourself because you are forgiven. You have to move on. This is why Jesus died. He knew you would do these things and didn't want you to feel the way you feel now. So don't hold on to those feelings. It is the enemy trying to keep you in the same place.Much love to you!

[@SHINY_STAR73]

Same but I hope everyone will be blessed and loved. 💞

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@guyanesegal280]

It's hard to forgive trust God give God the ugliest cry down and dirty cry surrender all because without forgiveness you can't see the way. I know this from experience.

[@drmichelledaf]

Yessssss!!!!!!!!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.c

[@guyanesegal280]

@@ryu7408 I had to go God in prayer to help me realized their orgiveness was also for myself so I can better myself so I allow God to help me see my way through

[@ryu7408]

@@guyanesegal280 God forgave me as soon as I apologized to myself

[@ryu7408]

@@guyanesegal280 I wish you well

[@Sage_Chatwin]

A lot has happened in my past that i thought that I forgot about. But it came rushing in all at once and it made me cry. I see that me not forgiving myself has put me in the hole to many times. Now I know where to start on my forgiveness, and what I need to overcome on my journey. Thank you.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@queen-ki9wj]

I was in a toxic relationship but I think I was the toxic one ☹️

[@lopyj5982]

I understand what you're feeling :( the best thing we can do is try to change, to be better everyday. We can't change the past but we can try to accept it and do better

[@emilopucci8962]

I felt this one I had something good and I didn’t realize

[@crone514]

You're not alone and I want you to know that the interpersonal issues you experienced and/or caused do not define you as a bad person. As painful as it is the fact that you have reflected on your own actions and are possibly confronting a painful truth rather than turning away from reality as many people would choose to do, to shelter their own emotions and ego, shows that you are already in the process of healing and changing. Best wishes.

[@emilopucci8962]

Update: 1 month later .. it wasn’t as good as I thought . They were just better at hiding what it was they were doing . I’m glad I’m done with that

[@patriciawarigia717]

I fell in love with a man who i later found out was married but still continued with the relationship believing his lies that he n his wife have issues. So I decided to be blind and to enjoy the time we spent together until it started becoming toxic..so I broke things off. Trying to move on from that relationship and at the same time trying to forgive myself.

[@ShaysWay]

I have so much shame and guilt not for how I’ve treated others but for how I allowed others to treat me. I’m so uncomfortable thinking about the shit I allowed 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@drmichelledaf]

I am sorry to hear that but know that the shame and guilt will go away once you repent to the Lord and accept Jesus in your heart.

[@parinpatel9675]

This is so true, I was too kind and too naive and I let people step over my boundaries. I didn't stand up for myself enough. And I obviously cannot blame others for stepping over my boundaries if I allow them to and don't give them clear instructions. As I result I ended up being hurt and socially withdrawing. I ended up cutting ties with the people who became unhealthy and toxic for me and I have forgiven them but I seem to struggle with forgiving myself a lot. Because I did some inner reflection and realized I was the one who allowed all the mistreatment to happen. It's hard to accept but I am learning to remind myself that If I had known better, I would've done better. And know that I know better, I am not going to repeat those mistakes. I realized by no means I am perfect and hence I deserve to give myself room to make mistakes and learn from them. I tell myself that I had pure intentions and it all happened because i was simply naive and I needed to learn a lesson. And hence I deserve forgiveness. May God help us all to forgive ourselves and make room for mistakes, make room for growth and more importantly make room for self love and love for God🙏❤

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@InPursuitofProgressPod]

I feel the same way

[@Shanaevaz]

thank you your such a sweet person this helped me to forgive don't speak about what happen and speak on what you going to do to better yourself. you can't change the past just focus on making a better you.

[@drmichelledaf]

aisha haidara thank you so much honey. I'm so thankful that this was helpful to you. Much love to you ♥️💕

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@Leahmariaaaa]

I grew up in a home with a nasty father who had playboy magazines laying everywhere. It made one of my other family members take advantage of me. I have always placed the blame on myself for not stopping them. I now forgive myself for just being a little girl and realizing that yes I could’ve screamed and cried to get them off of me but I didn’t and that’s okay. I will raise my children to be better and to never subject them to such things.

[@GhostPlatypus]

I’m happy you feel better

[@fridakraft]

i made many mistakes this year. i’ve done some stupid things that involve other guys while with my boyfriend. i love him so much and he forgave me for it. my forgiveness matters more to me and i feel like i’m on the right path to forgiving myself❤️

[@Nour-mx3uu]

I did the same thing, the key is to forgive yourself and actually make the effort to change. I’m still working on forgiving myself

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@baileyjones5127]

I accidentally clicked on this but i needed it more than you know 😭

[@drmichelledaf]

Bailey Jones there are no accidents love. I'm so happy you did ♥️🦋

[@sweetpotatoee]

This is so true... Forgiveness makes space for healing!!!! Much love everyone .....

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@yuh.1990]

I've been a toxic person and my mental health is really messed up. I lie to people just to feed my ego, I've done it a lot of times and it has made me really guilty, yesterday a friend saw right through me and knew what I was doing. Guilt, shame, and thoughts haunt me afterwards so I am finding a way to get over it.

[@doctornobody611]

Ive said and done terible and insensitive things. I feel so much shame every day. I wish i could apoligize to everyone ive ever known. I hate myself. And i want to be a creator but i cant with these things hanging over my head. I understand things like blm and kindness now, and i hate who i used to be....

[@godislove7410]

Oh you used to be racist?? Like a white supremacist?

[@LillyAmbrose]

That’s who you used to be. You are not that person anymore. It’s a good thing you acknowledged that what you did was bad, so now you need to learn from it and move forward. Mistakes are bound to be made. Yes, some are bigger than others, but that’s part of life. You are not a bad person and you deserve forgiveness.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@divasamai2251]

Move on and forget about it! Forgetting is powerful!

[@marissarodriguez8737]

You can forget and move on but it will be in the back of your brain but if you keep focusing on it then it does bring up the memory and the pain. The best thing to do is pray about it and give it to god and forgive your self and this person even if they never apologized

[@divasamai2251]

@@marissarodriguez8737 Trust me the other person or persons have moved on and forgot about it. So should you. Being cut throat is a wonderful defense mechanism. You are dealing with people who don't give a damn. Stop caring.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@imsorry3217]

I deliberately hurt someone that I admired and loved. I wanted to meet him and I did! But I did something that was selfish and childish and I never want to do it again, however, I can't forgive myself. I need deliverance from this demonic spirit that has had a stronghold on me. And I let myself hurt him. Moreover, the issue is not normal and it's been hard for me to tell God because I'm insecure and ashamed of myself deeply now. 😔💔 I'm currently going through the motions and God is dealing with me, I honestly feel like I should be killed now. I'm single and I don't want to be with anyone but him. My heart is forever broken.

[@ShaunHolden]

Sorry to hear you are going through this. Have you managed to solve this problem and finally forgive yourself?

[@MahoganyBelle]

I pray God’s purpose for your life is being fulfilled. Please let us know how you are doing.

[@MyeshaB]

Thank you for adding the part about stepping away from but also not glorifying it.. a true conviction for me .

[@drmichelledaf]

Myesha You are most welcome love. Now you can be more mindful ♥️🦋

[@elias-eg4rl]

thank you, so much. this video genuinely calmed me down and helped. i’ve been struggling a lot with guilt from insensitive things i said years ago, and it’s been making me nearly bring me to harming myself, but this video helped, and i hope it helps long term. again, thank you so much. ❤️

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@user-yx5ev3hg8e]

hey, how are u now? im dealing w the same thing rn. do u wanna talk?

[@nxtalia_mxdrigal1171]

@@user-yx5ev3hg8e Hey! I'm dealing with some guilt, not for the same reason, but I just hope you're doing well.

[@TheIdeabaker]

Everyone has a future... such wisdom, and something so many will benefit from learning or remembering. Thank you for this, Sister. 💕

[@drmichelledaf]

Idea Baker thank you for your affirming words love. You are more than welcome 💕✨

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@lauraapotter7911]

Thank you so much for this, I made a terrible mistake this weekend and was having a hard time forgiving myself. It only evolved myself but could have been tragic. I'm greatfull to be alive and working on forgiving myself. This was healing to my soul

[@meganslater5421]

Michelle - thank you. I came out of a neglectful relationship and looked for love in all the wrong places. I didn't respect myself and ppl took advantage of it. I feel such shame over it... this happened 2 years ago. This video is helping my mind and anxiety a little. I may watch this a few more times till it sinks in. Thank you.

[@joy1372]

I've been struggling with similar things 😔 still working on it

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@jetpok]

I m grateful to this quarntine cause it gave me time to deal with all of my unresolved feelings and move on

[@drmichelledaf]

I am grateful for that for you as well. We all needed this pause. Much love to you

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@sabrinagilmore]

Thank you. Thank you very much. I thank you with all my heart, my soul is grateful to you… I needed to hear that. I’d been blaming myself for about 5 years for one horrible mistake that I’ve done. I wanted to be innocent and easy, simple again. But because of you I realized, that my does not define me. I’ve learned my lesson. I changed completely. I CAN be innocent and easy and simple. I know that I will never do the same thing again. Never in my life. And I am trying my best. Thank you with all my love from the very heart ❤️

[@angiea.9853]

You are Beautiful in and out 💜💜💜 As a single mom, recovering from a toxic childhood and other relationships, your messages help remind me of who I really am. I made mistakes but HE forgives. Thanks for the your honest and kind messages.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.c

[@TwoGendersOnly]

This really helped me. Im a Delivery Driver and last week was all the black friday deal deliveries. Well, one day the system apparently malfunctioned and I ended up with a huge amount of packages that werent on my list. We are supposed to manually scan them in and deliver them, but instead, I left them at houses I had on my list. We are already worked hard and the company doesnt care enough to make sure important things like that work as intended. I was very angry, but i feel guilty because I work hard and Im a good and honest person. Im always friendly with people and I am grateful for having what I have in life. I truly feel guilty. Even though those people will receive replacements before christmas, I shouldnt act out of anger because it isnt their fault. I will try to keep a level head moving forward.

[@Kai-by8rr]

I love that you're wearing your natural hair. You're gorgeous and thank you for the message.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you so much honey. I appreciate you watching!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.c

[@lillierose5304]

I behaved in a really silly way years ago in a brief dating situation. And I had forgotten about it for a while, but recently the crippling feelings of embarressment and regret have crept back up again because I moved back to the area and have had annoying reminders popping up (running into his ex wife and daughter, etc). I was in a bad place mentally at the time and I just can't even believe my actions.. so so embarressed. And he would've told all his coworkers etc. so him and lots of people think I'm a nutcase. I have to try not to care what people think.

[@narmeenkhan5618]

Thank you so much for this video Dr. Michelle. I love how you put emphasis on asking for help from God. I'm 20 years old beginning my feminine journey. Though I'm feminine from the outside, I still need to do a lot inner work. And I'm so happy that I've found your channel because you're the only KZbinr that I know in feminine community who talks about building a relationship with God.

[@emilopucci8962]

I need to forgive myself for being a victim.i was bullied , put down often had low self esteem and people were mean to me growing up. I was hurt and eventually started to hurt other people with those same nasty characteristics

[@fatimaowusu6544]

Who would thumb down such a motivating message? Thank you so much my Ghanaian sister for this message! Love love love it!

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you sista!!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@pokenitro2113]

I know everyone that's reading this is going through a tough time, but you need to just look at the positives. Life is much better when you choose to be in the present.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

[@Cinnamongirlala]

i’m a 15 year old girl. although nothing i’ve done in the past was evil or extremely inappropriate there is still that guilty conscience that we all have. i don’t feel like everyone deserves to forgive themselves but for minor things like most of us, we do.

[@Yuppp328]

Thank you for making a video on this topic and holding space. Since the start of quarantine, I’ve been constantly revisiting my past actions, ruminating and obsessing over mistakes I made - both beating myself up for how terrible I believe I am for making them, and constantly reliving those moments to see what I could do different. It’s caused me to be stuck in a rut, make myself believe I am not worthy of things, that I’m a sociopath, or that I’m inherently a bad person. It’s made me consider self-harm and I’ve distanced myself from those I care about the most. But I’ve came to realize (and your video highlights this) that the first part of growth is acknowledging those mistakes, owning them, and making a pledge to not commit them again. It can be hard to know those actions are apart of my past. Yet what is even more difficult to me, is knowing how my past actions may have caused distress or hurt to others. That’s something that won’t ever leave me, even after I’ve apologized (though maybe it’s for good reason). In addition, often times I viewed my mistakes in a vacuum; blaming myself for everything and anything that situation had to deal with. When in actuality, some of my actions were the result of the environment and society I grew up in, and some were completely out of my control. Of course, this doesn’t deny/or give a pass to my actions, but it is a way to explain why I made specific choices at a specific time. Again thank you so much for making this video. It’s really helped me. Ultimately, I agree with you tenfold; in order to hold ourselves accountable, to cleanse our past actions, to continue to love others wholeheartedly and spread love, we need to first begin by forgiving ourselves. Much love ❤️

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.

[@ildikocseh278]

I am crying so hard now, i did somthing terrible to another person, ruining his vacation. I am writing an apology letter, but i feel like this bad feeling will never leave. However 100% I want to be better and not harm beloved once and myself.

[@ynwa2o256]

I needed to hear this, thank you so much, I will return to this video in the future at times when I feel guilty and shameful for my regrets.

[@aaliyahs9594]

This is something I really needed to hear thank you for this beautiful ❤️ yes positive affirmations are important I have begun doing them more often .

[@drmichelledaf]

I am thankful that you found this video. Yes, they are so powerful!!!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@mar-kz6hx]

ive made really stupid decisions that have hurt people i cared so much about, I can say i’m another person now, but it’s just so hard to forgive myself when, now, i feel like i have to be perfect because otherwise i am not good at all. i try to care for other people, to release their pain, to support them and make them feel better when I can. but i can’t help messing up on the stupid things, and i don’t know if that makes me a horrible person for not trying harder or if is just okay... i feel so bad.

[@izzyt1836]

in february i was in a toxic mindset and one day something didn’t go the way i wanted and had an emotional outbreak causing me to cry and make others feel uncomfortable and i can not stop feeling guilty. i have learnt from it and have returned to my positive mindset and am starting to love myself for the first time ever but it still comes back to me a lot of the time and i always feel very guilty about it. this video was very helpful to me, thank you very much💞

[@andreasam5189]

Hopefully I can go back to my positive self ...😕

[@izzyt1836]

Andrea Sam you will! 💕

[@gabe2deusiee294]

I really want to thank u for helping me I'm 14 and I am not that religious but when u said "u need to accept that u did something u didn't know was wrong and u keep blaming yourself" I felt that and should help me put my pass behind thank u ma'am so much 😌

[@dottiepinto1974]

Thank you for this video, I live with guilt, shame, and I have a hard time to move forward. I have done poor decisions in my life that at the time I didn’t think it was going to hurt anyone and I hurt my ex, and my children on the way, and one of my daughters have this resentment towards me and then won’t forgive me and I have a hard time forgiving myself for the poor choices I made at the time. Lord, I need you to help me to leave the pass and to move forward and forgive myself and for my children or anyone and my ex that no longer here to forgive me. Lord, please help me to move forward. I feel like I’m stuck and I can’t go anywhere Lord Jesus and help me to forgive myself and be free of guilt so I can live a few years at peace. Thank you for this video.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️💙💚

[@ShaunHolden]

Have you managed to work through this now?

[@AshleyT716]

❤❤❤ Thank you sooo much for the beautiful word today.

[@SarahsTimee]

Liked before watching because I need this message 💕💕

[@drmichelledaf]

Blessings to you!

[@herasuarez865]

I've been searching for lots of videos like this on how to forgive myself from the guilt. This video helped me lessen that guilt. I keep going back in here to watch this video again and again to remind myself to forgive myself because the guilt keeps arising, and my thoughts are messed up. I really hope that I can break free from this guilt cycle I am experiencing. Thank you so much for your video!

[@heiltecn9ne]

I have done my loved ones wrong in my past and it haunts me daily. I feel awful everyday and don't forgive myself, addiction led me down a terrible road for many years and I just hope one day I can feel good about myself and feel like I am doing others right.

[@buttaflyantics8618]

Having to sit still during covid has made me look into me self and admit my faults and weaknesses and this shadow work is so hard. I can’t believe how much I didn’t truly love myself enough to walk away from situations and people who never loved me or felt I was worthy. I’m forgiving myself so I can heal. I want to be a better woman and mother.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@JustMitchyNo.9]

I'm not religious in any sense of the word, I'm very stuck in my head and yet this video made me feel better about my guilt.

[@Abby-nv6rr]

I’m watching this during quarantine and I have been having reoccurring thoughts and this helped me so much. God bless you❤️

[@drmichelledaf]

I am so thankful to know you were led to this video. I'm happy to hear that it has helped you. God bless you too.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@KathRob1994]

This video helped me more than any other video on guilt. You addressed so many important points and I do feel better. Your compassionate voice is comforting as well. Thank you!

[@mewa3263]

I said some awful stuff to a friend of mine a couple weeks back. I wanted to apologize but she's been avoiding me and blocked me on everything, I just snapped at her and I've learned that wasn't ok but it seemed like the right choice then. I'm truly sorry to her, and I've come to terms with what I did was wrong. Thank you for helping me get through some of the guilt ❤

[@Sweet_Southern_Pecan]

Thank you for this video. I told so many lies years ago, it's terrible. Ironically I have now been on the other end of the spectrum, always being truthful, for well over a decade but still feel shame. I pray God can heal me.

[@orbitingsentientsatellite4361]

6:01 see thats what i thought, but no my conscience tells me “what you did was horrible they have to forgive you if you even want to live with what youve done”

[@drmichelledaf]

Well now you know the truth. They do not have to forgive you. Thanks for watching love!

[@pearlinestewart1178]

I am glad I was able to find this video, I am struggling with guilt, the person has forgiven me, but I am struggling with forgiving myself. It's affecting me so much, because I keep thinking am a evil person for what I did. It's eating away at me, am in therapy but I am still struggling 🙏🏿

[@kuroinekoworld]

Am an atheist person, and your vibes are awesome. I wish people at the Church were I grew up were more like you! I came to this video after sh, and at the of it I felt much more relaxed, so thank you a lot.

[@drmichelledaf]

I am so happy to hear that my love. I know you are atheist now but I hope you feel the love and warmth of Jesus because he knows you personally. Not sure if you're dealing with issues with your friends or with illness but the Lord loves you dearly. I'm happy the video helped. No more sh babe 🤍

[@kuroinekoworld]

@@drmichelledaf

[@Muzza1991]

For years I’ve had so much anger , pain and Burt towards what people have done to me in the past. But then it’s also the fact of me reflecting on my mistakes but it’s given me anxiety and panic attacks for years now

[@empeericism]

Same ✨✨needing others validation so much that I allowed things to happen. Then when I reached my breaking points, I didn’t handle it well and my actions came from a place of hurt. I feel guilty for the good people I didn’t give time to chasing people who didn’t love me correctly and for letting the fact that I’d been hurt allow me to stoop to a level. Now I know not to let anything affect my character, if I say I’m a certain way no amount of hurt should change it . It’s still a process ✨

[@jasperoo.]

this saved me, truly. thank you for bringing this into light in my life.

[@drmichelledaf]

I am elated to hear that. You are more than welcome love 🦋✨

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@ppg1669]

Trying to forgive myself for being horrible to my ex, she didn’t deserve any of that. I love her, but understand why she needed to move on and never come back. Maybe down the road, 6+ months, I’ll send an apology. For now I have to live with myself and my mistakes, and give her space. I don’t want to hurt her more.

[@risunakeryn840]

I recently did something horrible to my brother and the entire family in general. To be honest I've been having sleepless nights of blaming myself and recalling every, seeing him down because of me makes everything worse

[@drmichelledaf]

I am sorry. Repent and ask for Jesus to come into your heart and He will save you from this and set you free

[@amaanahmed9370]

I was in a relationship for 13 years with a girl. She was always very loyal and made constant efforts to love me. Never let me down...I too loved her a lot but with time I started to take her for granted. Didnt value her love and I did and made her do things, the way I wanted..she did everything for me as she loved me that much. I was doing all these being unaware that I am wrong..I thought everything is ok...but I was hurting her is some or other way...She just craved my love and attention and I was busy in my own world. Although I always treated her like a gentleman and cared for her. She has been continuously telling me to talk to my parents for marriage, and make it a halal rishta. I wanted to marry her too but I kept stalling things . She fought for me with everyone in the family. I had a casual nature and failed to understand the gravity of the situation. She warned me many times it's high time now otherwise she will get engaged. I did talked to my family but due to some issue I gave up too soon but thought we will work it out again..She was fed up of me by this moment and decided to get engaged with a stranger. But she found a good family and the guy is nice to him too .She is happy and can't take a step back..now i am left alone as she has moved on and I am in depression as I lost a true gem..Didn't value her when there was time..didnt value the relationship. Although it was never intentional. Now I am in pain and missing her..learnt the biggest lesson of my life. just wish to go back in time and fix everything. Nobody will love me the way she did..a selfless love. I feel such a loser. Is it my fault or is it destiny.?

[@mariach9433]

I have done shameful things in the past and i am devestated i have let men taking advantage of my body when i was younger it's kiling me inside thank you for this amazing video ,

[@drmichelledaf]

I am happy to know that you are the road to recovering from this shame and knowing that you are forgiven. Most of us women have similar regrets you are not alone. Much love to you

[@mariach9433]

@@drmichelledaf thank you god for making Angels❣️👼 like you , am healing and growing a lot , am learning as well , again thanks for this calming video i have watched five Times in the last couple of days

[@drmichelledaf]

@@mariach9433 That is so sweet, you are most welcome. God knew you would feel this way and that is why Jesus took care of us by dying so we don't have to stuck with this feeling. It is the enemy that keeps it circling in your mind so do not give him that power. I will be touching more on this topic in the future. Many blessings to you!

[@mariach9433]

Thank you so much and god bless your beautiful soul and familly ❤️❤️

[@drmichelledaf]

@@mariach9433 Thank you my love, May God Bless you as well.

[@SHINY_STAR73]

I made a lot of mistakes and faults in the past...But I still try my best to become a better person than I was before. Also thank you for this amazing video, I really appreciated it!💕😄

[@drmichelledaf]

That is wonderful, I am thankful that it was helpful to you.Thank you for watching!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@barriatanga9880]

Ok Michelle, we need an updated skincare routine from inside out. All the detoxes, skincare products, what you eat, all of it girl! YOU ARE GLOWING 😍

[@cierrawalters8946]

I was thinking the same thing! I think it’s her hair, it shows more of her face. Skin is on win!!!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.c

[@imtheloml3953]

@@ryu7408 I read this, I’m in this stage I have no idea what to do. At the age of 10 I lost my self worth and sent nud3$ I feel like killing myself, I’m crying non stop I have no escape. I have no one to talk to, what do I do

[@ryu7408]

@@imtheloml3953 maybe you want to get in touch through some kind of messenger. Maybe I can be of help if you need help.

[@imtheloml3953]

@@ryu7408 that would be so good, what messaging apps do you have

[@iankings6405]

I married young, had four beautiful children and let them down through my bad behaviour, since remarried, had two more children, 45 years married and things are good, but privately I can’t let go of the hurt I caused in the past, it haunts my dreams, I am now 85.

[@ShaunHolden]

You can do this, if you are prepared to put the work in absolutely... Let me know if you have still not yet managed to fix this?

[@ipandaemilia6838]

I just googled about this now. I feel I need to listen to this...crying now. I know this will help since I am alone right now. No mother, father, as they both dead to tell them all what has happened. Lord is the only comforter right now. Wish me good. Pray for me, guys.

[@CiCiAsmr_]

This is that real black girl magic!💖 I came across this video and it really helped me so thank you.

[@drmichelledaf]

Thank you so much sweetheart! I am so happy it helped you

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.c

[@Deisye0]

As soon as I heard you voice, I subscribed. I can feel your authenticity. ❤️

[@drmichelledaf]

That is sweet, thank you!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.

[@kaykay7271]

What if it’s been years and every few months or so...your mistakes creep back in your thoughts? The enemy won’t let me be. But to God be the Glory 🙌🏾

[@drmichelledaf]

Yes, that is the enemy trying to get you to go in circles. If you have gone to God and turned away from everything you are forgiven and He is moved on. Much love to you

[@kaykay7271]

@@drmichelledaf thank you for responding ❤

[@andreasam5189]

@@drmichelledaf I feel so bad now I feel horrible like some ppl think I’m horrible 😕😕 uhhh I suck

[@sallymaemcdonald]

Oh my gosh, you look so beautiful with natural hair. I typically see you with straight silky hair but you look so nice with natural hair. Please where your hair more often!!

[@wastelanddrifter7685]

I have to confess that I felt so lonely and desiring to connect with someone that I ended up lowering my standards greatly and had a one night stand with a girl 😔 Most men would say that's normal but I felt so ashamed afterwards. I felt like I hadn't respected my body, my health, the sacred atmosphere of my home and I felt like I had corrupted a part of my soul. I try to follow the art of inner harmony and peace but I felt like I failed in my mission so hard. I prayed for forgiveness though and inner strength to do better. But the shame I felt after this sexual encounter was overwhelming and I hated myself for it.

[@weathamorris4251]

Dealing with a toxic relationship that I should of let go long time ago.

[@drmichelledaf]

Connect with your Creator love

[@artwithmamafairybreadd]

“The outcome of that decision is part of your life now, that is really tough”… And it’s these exact words Dr Michelle, that stop me in my tracks and I can’t move on… I hurt people so much, and they have no passed away, and I can’t find it now, and I know how I hurt them…. I feel pain all the time knowing I did this to them and they didnt deserve it….I get that things are not the same for me now becuase of it…and I have accepted that I cant be truly happy , but I didn’t realise I’d be this unhappy…I didn’t realise I’d feel absolutely no joy at all in anything ….but I do know it’s because I truly hurt a loved one with my words and inaction….

[@Denisebemmett]

Thank you for these words. I had an outburst attack at my job. I feel so freaking bad. I apologized right away. However, I am ashamed of how I acted. I am not making excuses, I was on overload and when my coworker asked me something I exploded. I plead that God forgive me and contain me. God bless you. By the way your hair looks great.

[@marzk6038]

THANKU SO MUCH !! I’ve been feeling guilt over something for 1 while year. I cry out of stress

[@patriciawarigia717]

I fell in love with a man who i later found out was married but still continued with the relationship believing his lies that he n his wife have issues. So I decided to be blind and to enjoy the time we spent together until it started becoming toxic..so I broke things off. Trying to move on from that relationship and at the same time trying to forgive myself.

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@Jay-dk8lm]

I feel really guilty about vaping and I’m only 15 I only did it twice but my brother and dad make it their personal mission to make me feel bad about it and I know it’s bad but this was a year ago and I forgave myself but, my brother likes to say “I’m so far from THAT stuff” and I just feel worthless as if my value as a person is gone Thank you for listening to my story

[@nxtalia_mxdrigal1171]

Sometimes I wish I could just go back to the days I was younger, when the world was a much simpler place. Honestly, I always say to everyone else "The past is the past, you have to let go of it. We're humans, we're meant to make stupid mistakes and decisions, we're never going to be perfect. As long as you know what you did was wrong and feel bad, you're a good person, so forgive and love yourself." however, I could never accept my own advice. I always feel better when I'm surrounded by family or when I'm doing something fun and exciting that distracts me, I'm still learning to accept the mistakes I've made in the past and move forward.

[@karen.island3697]

Somehow “thank you” doesn’t quite express my gratitude. Absolutely wonderful message.🙏❤️👏

[@drmichelledaf]

Aww! I am so happy this was helpful to you. So much love to you!

[@karen.island3697]

Dr. Michelle 🌹🥰

[@POOKCHOCOLATE]

Wow thank you for this. This video just confirmed that I am indeed on the right path when it comes to forgiving myself for past decisions. But definitely can improve on the positive affirmations tho! 💜 I really needed to hear this 😭

[@SnoopyX87]

I’ve done some disgusting things and everywhere I go The thought of what I did keeps on coming back and I just need to find a way onto how to make a stop.

[@ShaunHolden]

You need to change the way you think and feel about this past mistake. So that you can finally forgive yourself.

[@jessicarousch63]

I needed to watch this...I literally do that repeat things of my past mistakes. Mainly all of them are toward my husband but boyfriend at the time. I have been dealing with this for 3 years now :( thank you for advice!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@Bisforbernice]

Thank you for this video. This was something I struggled with heavily about 2 years ago. I find myself getting back into that rut every once in a while, but I’ve deff come a LONG way on the self forgiveness front.

[@drmichelledaf]

I'm so happy that you are coming out of the rut sis! God's got you!

[@ryu7408]

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

[@JennaJaySongs]

I absolutely feel like God landed me on this video. It’s no coincidence. He was speaking through you. Thank you so much for your comforting words ❤

[@DogMommy.]

I did some horrible things in the past. I hope one day I can get through it but I know it's going to be a long ride 😭😭 I did some unforgiven stuff just I feel hopeless.

[@ShaunHolden]

Have you managed to now work through this or does this still haunt you?

[@ABB14-11]

I want to like this video a hundred times. It helped me accept that what I did was wrong but that I can let go and be different. Other sources just try minimize what you've done and simply excuse you for going against your values. They want you to skip the natural guilt that comes with doing something wrong. That's not right. Now I know you have to go through the process and it's okay. You can go through it with dignity and grace. Thank you so much.

[@cindychurch335]

Michelle, I did something horrible to my ex husband 10 years ago. He is so bitter that he has erased me from his memory and doesn’t even acknowledge me. So I’m unable to talk to him and tell him how truly sorry I am. There is so much past trauma that is associated with this it’s too much to explain, but God is healing me slowly. Blessings to you

[@ShaunHolden]

He does not need to hear how sorry you are in order to forgive yourself. Good luck with the process ❤